Comments by "m w" (@mw-pl5rg) on "Why Men STOP Dating Single Mothers" video.

Only exception I have seen was one woman. She was a single mother after her husband my friend died in a tragic car accident. They had twin daughters. For three years she was bereaved for her deceased husband but she kept moving forward for the sake of her daughters. Her grief counselor suggested going to group counseling. She met a widower who lost his wife to breast cancer. They clicked and two years later they married they have been married twenty years now. Still going strong to. That is the only exception I have seen in fifty years.
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@tgreeny1400 I am saying the only exception I have seen is one in 50 years. In otherwords a literal needle in the haystack situation. You would have better luck winning the lottery than finding a good person like that.
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@tgreeny1400 Really my perspective it is really sad though in fifty years only one decent woman who isn't a 304. Only trauma she had was a lost loved one. Then again her priorities were family not parties and validation. Even before this current Era men didn't want already made family. That's just facts. No greater he'll for a man than not having peace and serenity in a home he's worked for.
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Most legit men.(decent hard working men) Will not take on a ready made family. Even though they are decent men they will not go for that. They want to start a family not take care of someone elses.
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@Flashback2020 Sounds good on the surface. Dig deeper results will be much different according to circumstances. Let's say a widower who lost a spouse do to chemical dependency. What was the probability of a happy union there? The only way a relationship can work is if both parties are fit mentally, spiritually, and psychologically. Also both must be committed, their bonding and cultivated trust. That my friend is a tall order. It would be nice if it worked that way though. Keep on thinking and attempting to come up with solutions though. It's much better than passing and moaning how the other side sucks.
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@Flashback2020 I like that type of thinking. Anyone can complain about problems but intelligent people attempt to find solutions. That is what is lacking in the men side of things. It isn't enough to recognize the problem there must be a solution. Appropriate boundaries for one. We as a gender have been broadly painted as oversized beasts. Reality is much different. Most of us wish only reciprocated loyalty, kindness, and respect. We won't accept less. No matter how much they attempt to shame us. I will not be ashamed of standing up for decency.
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@the_one93 Ugh read down previous exchanges to this comment.. Also realize being made bitter by past experience gives those who wronged you rent free space in your life.
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@matthewhummel1572 I feel ya on all counts. It doesn't make you a bad person either. It would be a very big jump. Going from single to husband and father figure. You would also be taking financial responsibility for children not your own as well. It would be akin to jumping into a mine field. No pressure.
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@GrandmasterHobbyist Don't forget her husband is a widower to. You holding him to the same standard? I understand the pain of rejection. Thus I am a monk. My brother there are decent humans on both sides of this quagmire. In order to overcome this we must band together or face extinction. No one wants to leave no legacy or face life without a good, honest, and loyal partner. I will begrudge no one who has found peace and solace with one another after facing horrendous loss. She still goes to his grave and tends his plot and even talks to him as if he is still there. So does her husband for his deceased spouse. I will not judge them for this. They have found a way to cope with their losses and they formed a union based on love. I respect them both hope they will be happy. At least I find someone has what I can only dream about. As it stands I will pass away with no one nor children. My passing will be of no note as it may well be the same as tears in the rain. May you find peace and happiness my fellow sojourner.
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