Comments by "" (@ganndalf202) on "Japanese Guys Describe Their Ideal Girl" video.

I might be one of the few western women to say this but I really love how a lot of Japanese men don't like PDA. I struggled with dating exactly due to people wanting to get touchy fast and everywhere and I felt always uncomfortable, not to mention that touches scare me due to my trauma and abuse so having to touch someone a lot in order to keep them happy is giving me huge anxiety. So to me the fact that my Japanese crush also doesn't like PDA is something I very much love about him. I don't have to feel anxious or stressed that I have to touch him or show affection and we still can have an amazing time together.
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Also I'm really happy to hear you will do the international couples interviews. I really want to know the issues foreigners can have while dating a Japanese person because I really do care for making it work out for myself so I want to get educated by people having similiar experiences.
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@sjbsavageink Yes, a lot of people need touching and PDA to maintain relationships and although I understand that, it's have been the cause of my break ups because no matter how much I was forcing myself into it, I hated it. In my culture touching is perfectly normal so I always feel too abnormal. So to me, meeting Japanese men who don't like PDA is a blessing because I for the first time don't have to force myself to give more affection than I can. And you are right, about putting touches above all being an issue. It's so normalized that for majority of my life I had to force myself to do that just to keep others happy and that messed me up a lot.
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@chithiennguyen1371 I don't expect a shallow person like you who is probably desperate for sex and affection to undertand what love is lmao Have your own weird expectations of a relationships without pushing it on others.
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@SamuraiSx19 Yes, I noticed it from all the likes and positive comments I got that I'm not the only one. Which is nice. All of my western friends are too touchy and I always felt like an alien for being different. It's hard to notice because usually you see people complain when dating Japanese that they are cold and stuff and how unhappy they are with them but I'm unhappy with men who need a lot of intimacy because I can't give that to them. So it's nice to see there are people like me too.
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@alexandraveloso9604 Thank you. It's slowly getting better. The Japanese man I'm with is extremely helpful and supportive in ways nobody ever was before so maybe I'll heal one day.
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@MariaD.L. You people have no idea how happy you all making me with your comments. I don't feel so lonely. Each time I say anything positive about my experiences with Japanese men and I get a bunch of people judging me because I feel comfortable with less motional and touchy men. Glad to see I'm not alone.
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@robobin I did not say they are all the same. I said it happens with Japanese men way more often than with western men. My first Japanese boyfriend was also into touching a lot which made me uncomfortable. Stop telling people they are assuming while you are jumping the gun yourself. It should not have to be said that every Japanese person is the same. People who have common sense know that they too are all different
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@ElanaVital83 Bro, I'm on asexual spectrum and know myself what I like and don't my whole life. Mind your own business instead of comparing my love language and intimacy to stuff like alcohol and camping. Shows how bad your therapy is going when you can't even know the difference between these things. Pityful.
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@chey6073 my brother in christ. I'm not calling them shallow for that, I'm calling them shallow for saying my relationship is loveless and that my boyfriend is my father just because my love language is different then theirs. What they said is uncalled for. Go call out someone else for bullshit and mind your own business. That person is clearly an asshole and I am not sorry for saying that.
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@chey6073 Maybe instead of trying to get offended when someone calls a biased butthole for what they are just because your biases match with theirs or whatever you call a well covered issue, try to actually look at how judgemental people actually are. You don't like how Japanese men act, cool, don't date one. Some people do and they prefer it, plus not every Japanese is the same and realize that Japanese are human beings too and some do like different love language than others and that is ok, but insulting someone's relationship just because it's different than theirs is a shallow move. But that's just me, you people do you.
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@kerryholland4822 God, I relate so much to this. In my culture being touchy is such a norm and I suffer so much because of it.
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@samaraisnt I believe I know better than you what I like and what is comfortable to me and what not. I'm not dating the person who said that, I was talking about my personal experiences as well. A touchy man can never be respectful to my boundaries because it contradicts what I'm comfortable with. Don't take it so personally, darling. If you like being touchy, good on you. Have fun with people who like same stuff you do. Also, people who don't like PDA aren't about keeping a face, it's about what they are comfortable with and what not. Don't let your judgemental mind fool you lmao.
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