Comments by "" (@ganndalf202) on "What is the Harsh Reality in Japan ?" video.

It's funny when I hear people talk about friendships. I live in western part of the world and even though making friends is easy here and you do share personal things about yourself easily, I could never really depend on anyone when I really needed something. But with my Japanese friends, i have never met more understanding people. The thing is that making friends with Japanese that would last takes a lot of time. It's extremely slow process but in my experience, it's worth it. I could just tell my Japanese friends my pain and traumas and I never got verbal validation but I got understanding and support I never had before in my life. So we all have different experiences it seems.
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@ruturajgole1850 I disagree. I come also from a developing country and I could never rely on anyone from my country, while people from richer western counries were always acting like they are better instead of helping. Even if you watch other rich westerners like americans, a lot of them don't like living in Japan while few think it's the happiest time of their lives and even got married to a Japanese. So I think it depends on the personality. I struggle with having good friendships with westerners because even though I'm one myself I just don't like how intrusive, loud and selfish they are. While I vibe very well with my asian friends and even Japanese ones. Heck, I met my Japanese best friends the way that I literally asked them for help because my western friends were too busy being defensive instead of helping me. While Japanese, even tough i was a complete stranger, I was met with so much kindess. Granted, some Japanese literally told me they hated me but that happens rarely. So I guess it depends on the individual and on how much time and effort they are willing to spend on a person. Because making asian friends and Japanese in particular takes a lot of time and it's a slow process in my experience but to me it was worth it. I got more help and understanding from them than I ever got from my own people.
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@ruturajgole1850 And yes, we also have tight knit communities and everyone is invasive and I always hated it. I hated that everyone around always knew what's up because it was annoying and useless to me. I love my independence while I can rely on people to be there when I need it. Which is what I have with my Japanese friends.
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 @alexanderalwayslate3855 So you are basically American who thinks their country and opinion is the only one valid? Got it!
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@furo.v I don't understand the connection but ok lol
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@WhAtEveRrr Maybe try to be less condescending? Just a thought. I didn't agree on the tight knit communities being always a good thing, not about his indian culture. I'm not indian so obviously I can't say much about that. But it's an answer on my comment so i obviously will state my opinion. I got more help from Japanese than from my own tight knit community so obviously I will have different experiences. If others have different experiences, then good on them. Nobody asked me if I agree or not just like nobody asked about your opinion and here you are. We don't always get what we ask for.
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@WhAtEveRrr You are right, this conversation is indeed stupid when you think disagreeing with someone is a personal attack on them. I thought people are free to agree and disagree with other people. Lol my bad. Have fun proving my point even further. I literally just explained that I disagreed with tight knit communities aren't always good for everyone because of everyone's different experiences and yet you read it as some sort of attack. Maybe take your own advice and go read what you are saying instead. But yes, this is stupid so I won't bother with it anymore. Have fun.
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I totally agree. That's what i was saying. Not every Japanese person is the same. It depends on their upbringing and where they live and on overall personality. Of course not every Japanese is nice and open to foreigners and of course it's not easy. Even for me it took a long time till I got close with my now best friend who is Japanese. It takes a lot of effort and work from both sides but if it works out, it's worth it. I mean, the first Japanese friend I ever made told me she hated me after few months and I experienced both sides. But usually every time I asked a Japanese person for help, even when we were strangers, they always helped me. But everyone has different experiences and that's okay.
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@smollilbean Oh I didn't know that. That's interesting.
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@FSVR54 Lol how exactly me sharing my personal experiences is putting everyone into one mold? Like you all don't assume things about me just because I have different experiences than others commenting here. Maybe mind your own business instead of getting offended over things that doesn't concern you. I shared my personal experiences, if that offends anyone, that's honestly not my problem.
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@FSVR54 Hmm, pretty aggressive for someone who says they are not offended. Well, thank you for proving my point in my comment lmao If the shoe fits, wear it.
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