Comments by "Ian Arn" (@ianarn) on "Jonathan Noble Esquire" channel.

I thought this video was interesting for those in the UK but anywhere from USA Canada and Europe. In the UK there is no such thing as a pre-nup so you might want to very seriously consider whether marriage or even cohabitation is for you. Although the other partner cannot automatically take your property if it is all in your name when you bought it which is significant. https://youtu.be/WtmFX1edReU?si=4T7FokF-lXxFFYty
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@thomasbehrend7562 She could be very loving intermittently and make you feel like the world’s most handsome man and by far the hottest physically that I’ve ever dated but her outbursts over really small childish things such as liking a female athletes Facebook post were hard to deal with but i always felt i could fix her. In retrospect she was just trying to get rid of me for a bit but avoid the blame while she tried out another guy but i didn’t know that till i looked through her phone when i got back with her. There were many crazy incidences of total strange men turning up while i was out with her expecting something and i realised after many occasions that she’d given them a lewd glance covertly. My bag for work was at her apartment so i was a little trapped till we got back there where i left and she smirked at me.
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For them “love” is just the infatuation stage of the relationship! Usually the first 6 months to a year for a female narcissist but it depends if she has the baby rabies phenomenon in which case she’ll be much more ruthless with fake breakups and other often unwitting men brought into the “frame” of the relationship far sooner. Can make the impending disaster easier to spot though if you watch this type of content. Real Love lasts much longer and is not accompanied by childish stone walling and silent treatment tactics, romantic triangulation with random strangers, and even on occasion violence. It is also enduring over time and not fragile to passing fancy or to things like “Well you’ve not got much planned for this year so after 6 months of dating you I’m going to behave egregiously and force you to discard me till you give me what i want ie house,baby,marriage. Then I’ll try to come back into your life after my ‘hot girl summer’ (hookups with Chad/Tyrone) having tried out possible better options”.
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@visancosmin8991 Well i only took her on 3 or 4 day trips but each time i was walking on eggshells to her temper tantrums, I would be triangulated with men in totally unsafe isolated areas so that she could belittle me. Frozen out for silent treatments for several hours. In between i would get theatrical sex where she would literally scream the hotel down. But in the end the drama and lack of peace and lying and total disrespect in front of other men just made it not worth it at all. She felt entitled to total commitment from me in a very short time and after only 3 months was saying things like “we’re going to be together forever”. Good riddance to her.
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Yes I had those sensations from my ex girlfriend over very trivial things! My family members ex wife gave silent treatments and of course the abuse and cheating got to him in the end despite him providing her with a sumptuous lifestyle! He filed for divorce in Connecticut and she materially has a fantastic life that she didn’t deserve. I don’t have that type of lifestyle but I remembered how badly eggshell stuff ended for him and vowed not to end up like him!
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@rm6857 I was in a similar situation with my ex GF but her tantrums and one breakup in the 10 months of me dating her made me have to refuse a request for baby and she went absolutely mental. Did you get tantrums or breakups to force you into going back to her with commitment?
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@rm6857 How long did you ‘properly’ get to know her for before committing and seeing the changes?
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Isn’t BPD just a form of narcissism? Even just a few of those traits and when they go ballistic when you have to say ‘no’ such as for a holiday after you already took her on one two months prior. Or an inability to apologise after devaluing you. Or a feeling of intimidation that if you get on the wrong side of her she will punish you by withholding affection and the silent treatment.
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@Eric-kn4yn It’s the government and big banks that do this! They profit from a divided workforce as well as the legislators.
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@marriagecausesdivorce7540 threw into a rage at my refusal not to give her a baby! The previous night she had kicked me soo hard in the backside that it woke me up and wouldn’t admit that she’d done that. I was deleted within 24 hours from all social media and refused more time as “that’s all you’re getting as our time is running out”. She’s 35 years old but has ignored my Birthday completely and offered nothing in reconciliation and all this with a man she supposedly wished to father her children. It’s good that we vet these women for at least 18 months to two years before moving in with them and there can be no easily unresolvable disputes during that time.
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@npkrn6764 Your right! My mother and father used to have this French kid who was about ten years older than me stay for the holidays. He showed me and my father up with his cleanliness and efficiency. He was a Chemist but married a wealthy lawyer. She treated him progressively like dirt despite him trying soo hard to do everything domestically for his daughters that she couldn’t be bothered with. When the children were 13 she divorced him for a man who earned more money less of a people pleaser and told the children now we’ll have more money. I mean obviously he won’t be as financially abused but he still received plenty of emotional abuse. Only genuine burning desire can work from both parties. Not looking at it as to what can i materially get out of this person, be it property, money or even children with the baby rabies ladies. Possibly there are men who don’t mind giving children to a woman within months of starting to properly date but generally this is rare.
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I was not aware that there was such a thing as ‘common law marriage’ in the UK. When i looked it up on Safari i couldn’t see anything. I believe it might depend how long you’ve lived together and if children were involved.
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@chilipepper9938 No definetly don’t gho to Asia to have a child! The relationship will just be transactional! You’ll know little of the woman’s culture and her family will be always after your money. That’s if your lucky enough to not be one of the many western men who end up “accidentally” falling from high rise buildings. Foreigners cannot own land in places like Thailand so your already being treated in a prejudicial way. Find a local woman to date and if during the two years they show any of the problems in character discussed on this channel then do not move in with them! Marry them! Or especially not have a child with them!
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@jonyD143 You’ll still need a stable woman who doesn’t practice stone walling and abusive measures against you or you’ll find it impossible to co parent with her should things go wrong.
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Yes I’d like longer videos but I can see the sense of the smaller ones also for people low on time and increasingly these days….attention span.
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@markymarknj thanks I’ll look for his channel too!
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A woman in her 30s said to me ohh can’t you have a baby with a woman (she meant herself after i spoke about why i broke up with my ex) in less than a years dating. I realise it’s not fair on the guy as I’ve spent years with other men in my 20s. I had to tell her I’m afraid not! She went absolutely frigid cold despite me only trying to infuse just a tiny bit of reality to expectations. I didn’t even get into the fact that I’m a human being and although she isn’t my mother I’ll still need a woman to love me.
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