Youtube hearted comments of Ian Arn (@ianarn).

  1. Yes as Arthur Jones Nautilus fitness equipment entrepreneur said when talking about weight training “Does everyone need to make everyone else’s mistakes”. It kind of applies here too.
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  2. “You need to fight for me! You need to fight for the relationship! Be a real man and do as i say without any negotiation to my plan.” Or what i got “i love you but it’s over as you can’t even tell me that you love me ”. Then the phone was slammed down and shared pictures of us were deleted by her from social media before i could give my explanation. Nine months of stone walling has followed but i keep my distance now anyway just not worth the endless try harder and give more for me with the constant threat of ending “the relationship” at any moment plus the romantic triangulation that became progressively worse. I’ve heard that if you travel abroad with a narcissistic woman she can just abandon you on the trip and just hook up with some guy on the trip. Highly disordered and disturbed people.
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  3. I’d say society is generally more narcissistic than it was in the past and that women particularly who take social media very seriously are more narcissistic but not all of my girlfriends have been as cruel as when i dated a woman who had all the possessions of NPD. I also cannot be friends with the NPD woman as she is soo spiteful and extremely petty.
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  4. As a man you still have to use condoms or vasectomy to a very advanced age as I think there have historically been a number of fathers even in their nineties! You can’t look at women either and think she’s to old as one guy in my gym found out when he impregnated a 49 year old woman! Naturally she said “I’m keeping it as it’s my last chance”.
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  5. Incredible really these emotionally unstable types have as much control over their emotions as a toddler. The intellect and body has developed but the emotional maturity is that of a small child due to childhood trauma or genetic predisposition. A tantrum in an adult can be highly dangerous however as their feelings to them are literally the facts without the ability for any reality testing. I recommend the Youtube content creator “The Little Shaman” for narcissist content, she truly is enlightening.
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  6. She wanted a baby after 10 months of unstable dating I said no! She went into a tantrum rolling around on her bed like a two year old. instead of trying to talk to me! After the tantrum ended she said why? I wanted to ask her questions as to why she’d contacted another man in order to go to his flat who had previously tried to hold her hand in front of me! I got the silent treatment and walked! Brutally blocked and discarded! I felt it wasn’t safe to stay as she’d kicked me really hard while I was asleep the previous night over something I didn’t do according to her I didn’t say the right thing at a party!
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  7. My ex girlfriend came out of a dance night I’d gone to with her and walked up the street ahead of me with a man who felt confident enough to try to hold her hand. To be fair she refused his advances but didn’t point me out to him that i was her boyfriend. In the end i caught up with her and led her away by hand. She said that she’d given him no encouragement or had messaged him but a month or so later i was able to access an iPhone i gave her and saw messages agreeing to meet up and dance practice in private with him. Even when i gave her opportunity to come clean about it she didn’t and i refused her pressure to give her a baby after 9 months of dating she went mad and deleted me from all social media and was dismissive of me. So I guess my gut instinct was right and she was incapable of reciprocating love. All about what you can do for her!
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  8. I don’t usually warn men about my malignant narcissist ex girlfriend! They think they won her in a competition against other men but she displayed all the traits in this video. They can find out at their own cost! More time invested in punishing you rather than effort to reconcile with you over non issues then they don’t have the maturity for marriage and if they’re 25 and older almost 100% never will have!
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  9. Can’t say I’ve noticed it’s got any better in my late forties! Never really found my purpose either! Sports and travelling have been good though! Money and success with women have been neither here nor there! You feel better about it all really though than a totally wet behind the ears 20 year old male.
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  10. My ex called me and asked “do you love me”. I said when when you throw tantrums and stonewall me it makes it really hard….. She interrupted me and said “We’ll I love you and you cannot tell me”. Well it’s over and slammed the phone down. In the 8 months of stone walling ,Narcissistic gang stalking, smear campaign and blame shifting I think I’ve met the woman I would have met In family court.
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  11. My ex girlfriend would dish out punishments such as later ignoring me at social events or stealing the change that the waiter would give back after I’d paid and been to the toilet. She would tag those men along and they were always so dumb to her childish manipulations. I gave her enough rope to hang herself and when she offered me a reverse discard i took it and now have gone no contact. Something told me she would not make a happy marriage or cohabitation!
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  12. I went home after an argument and was threatened with relationship ending which was a common threat! Been four months of stone walling and indignation! I’m guessing that if I married this person the ‘divorce’ word would be regularly thrown around as a threat!
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  13. Unfortunately only time will reveal someone’s true character even though their persona and physical appearance seems top.
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  14. They can see you as a catch but still not really love you in a meaningful way!
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  15. If she’s high on the malignant narcissistic spectrum and has the usual black and white way or viewing their “romantic” partner that can really be a problem and i can only imagine the number of men who are shocked at the stranger they are now facing in court.
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  16. I suppose avoid cohabitation as well as it seems that the court can just declare you as married if you live with a woman.
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  17. Yes happened to me! They force you to walk away as their arguments just go round in circles and their ‘feelings’ trump all logic. You have to walk away and stay no contact! In the period of break I found messages to other men on her phone enthusiastically hoping to meet with them in romantic situations. She denied this even though I saw the messages on her phone! I broke up with her for the final time after refusing her demands for a baby 10 months after meeting her.
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  18. Don’t let your bleeding heart rule you’re bleeding head!
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  19. I’ve got one at the moment who i dated for 9 months (with one month break up). I wouldn’t go along with her plans for a child in the time frame she wanted and now she harasses me at my dance group by flirting with men in front of me and sitting where i usually sit! It’s like a campaign she has looking for mud to throw at me when most of it has already been thrown. Never had a break up so malicious as this one glad i didn’t go along with her as she has shown how her “love” can turn into total spite and hatred within a matter of hours over just a slight refusal, and this has already been six weeks out and shows no signs of letting up.
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  20. I’d just bought my ex girlfriend food in a pub and while we were waiting she continued berating me for imagined grievances and picking fights out of nothing as she’d done all week! She screamed at me “are you emotionally stable” I said sure are you “she screamed back with her teeth clenched that yes! I am emotionally stable”. Needless to say I was kinda self discarded after this! When I went back the abuse just got worse. Now I don’t date her but it’s still just total abuse and provocation if I see her at social venues.
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  21. I find the idea of alimony for a lifetime is absolutely bizarre anywhere in the western world at least maybe anywhere for that matter but i recognise in some countries in the world women don’t have the ability to work at all.
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  22. Some of the Red Pill crowd want it so that it’s impossible for women to leave marriage like some Islamic countries! But in Iran for example there is a high incidence of the husband being murdered by his wife’s lover as she cannot leave the marriage and so overall i prefer the system in most western liberal democracies. Is it perfect? No! Does it need reform? Certainly yes.
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  23. I dated a beautiful pole dancer she was nearly everything I wanted in a woman but she had serious baby rabies and wanted that more than she wanted me! She frequently triangulated me with other men putting me in dangerous situations. Also launched physical attacks on me on occasions while I was asleep. First hard shoves then hard deliberate kicks. She always threatening to break up with me and was frustrated that I used condoms. I had to walk away after 10 months after she wouldn’t answer my questions on a man she’d been messaging to meet up with. I had to walk away and even though I’m given silent treatment she still follows me around at social events. Really bizarre behaviour I can only attribute to narcissism. In a way she has shown me what she would be like to divorce or co parent with(if that would even be possible).
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  24. Yes again great advice! I dated a Hungarian lady and things were good apart from her weight problems. But when her sister got pregnant accidentally(after numerous abortions with the same guy I might add). She got all baby gooey and suddenly put tonnes of pressure on me to move to Hungary despite the massive drop in salary and likely prejudice I might face there. Previously her stance had been very anti living in that country although we both enjoyed visiting as tourists. I had to say an amicable goodbye to her! Good job we never married or cohabited!😊
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  25. I suppose if she refuses a reasonable prenup then at least it will tell you where a heart truly is! For you! Or your PIN number! If she refuses then you know it’s the latter and you can free her to find someone more gullible as her time is soo precious and she’s entitled to soo much.
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  26. Another excellent video to start the New Year! I’ve been guilty of smoking that hopium pipe in the past hoping that the relationship would improve after each demand was met but they just kept coming back at me for exponentially more to where they’re almost asking you to be so self sacrificing that you’re more or less cutting you’re arm off for them to meet their unrealistic time frames and material “wants” while ignoring my own.
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  27. Rubbish tv programmes such as “Suits” create a totally unrealistic picture of the work of Lawyers. Just glamourised crap for the most part.
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  28. He must be getting a great sex life if he only goes round to her place 3-4 nights a week for 15 years and isn’t marrying her and cohabitating (which can in very many cases reduce sexual frequency) with her which is what cost the previous guy.
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  29. Yes my ex is quite pretty and sexual and men think they’re really onto something and she has such a cute public persona that men and women love but in private she is like the woman in the bed in the exorcist! Really something wrong with that Histrionic woman. The first night I was with her and kissing her she maliciously started biting my lips really hard in bouts until I totally stopped. I guess she was checking me out as to how much abuse I would take from her.
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  30. He was dishonest really but if she genuinely loved him she would have waited for him to divorce I suppose! It’s different to someone changing their mind!
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  31. It’s what they are attracted to and you can’t negotiate attraction! Which is why you shouldn’t put a lot of effort into pursuing them! Put that effort into yourself I.e improve finances, looks, gym and intellect.
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  32. Yes we don’t like mystery as this implies deceit if we think your off fucking Chad and Tyrone or alluding to this in any way! (Even if it’s probably true).
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