Comments by "May L" (@MeiinUK) on "Childless Rate of Women in China Soars | Why Don’t Young People Get Married or Have Children?" video.
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@PunditKING : I did not say "no dowry", I wrote "use less dowries"... and then let the remaining amount of money, to be put away or to a middle man.. for safe keeping and then repaid as an income. Many people even in the UK or in Europe still follows Christian values as well. Even if they cannot afford a formal wedding. Then they can use a civil service, and then a small party. Rather than a more formal affair. Some people would pay one month's salary. Others would use half a month's salary. And any gifts are based on their needs, or not. As it's the case may be. Whereas... some of my friends that were also chinese, either the woman pays... or worked a few years, they date... and then the woman adds her salary into the dowries as well....(after discussion between themselves, of course).... and then the guy gives it to the inlaws. Or some of my friends, one guy who gave his salary to his parents for years. She saved it up, and used it as a dowry for him when he married. The inlaw gets this, but then they gave this back to their daughter as "baby money"... which.. at least the child for the first few years would not starve. 2-3 years the child would be fine. Both male and females are now more pragmatic? More SOLID. Realistic. Thankful. As weddings are getting more expensive... it is too extravagant in many ways too. You don't have to throw away the concept of your tradition, your identity, but at least be realistic. Pragmatic. Not stupid. But be good. Be real. Decent.
Usually, whe the money is put into a fund, this is because it is those people's money. i.e. Those people are often related to one another as well. Even though the next generation won't know this... or at all. So.. what can you do? The elders eat the young, and then the youngsters when in position of powers.. eat the elders... So...
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