Comments by "SmallSpoonBrigade" (@SmallSpoonBrigade) on "Dr. Tracey Marks" channel.

There is and they aren't mutually exclusive. But, with ADHD it'll be a problem in private and in public. It will affect most areas except areas of specific interest. When interested, the partner will be able to focus for many hours, even though the partner may not be able to focus very long otherwise. Toxic partners tend to be able to keep it together when other people are around and they don't exhibit significant differences in focus or attention based on whether or not they're interested.
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Organization for folks with ADHD needs to come with lowered expectations. What organization looks like for us isn't going to match other people. In general, it's better to get rid as many of the things that you can before you start. A big thing though is that when you're organizing things, it's important to make it as easy as possible to put things back where they belong. If you've got a bunch of DVDs on a shelf, good enough is if The matrix is in the section that has the M movies. Eventually, if you find that you're not having trouble putting them back, you can consider worrying about the order, or you can number them, but that can cause trouble if you add or subtract any from the list. It's also a great idea to have a bin or something of that nature where you can just put things that you didn't get around to putting away, eventually it will fill and as long as you put the items away before the bin overflows, you're golden. Papers may have to be something that just get dividing into, retain indefinitely, retain until X and stored with everything else that needs to be retained until then. Indefinite retention ones are more of a problem, but they tend to be unusual enough that they aren't themselves an issue for most people. You shouldn't have a ton of wills lying around and there's only so many insurance policies that you need. But, really, the more of this stuff you just get rid of, or don't acquire in the first place, the easier the whole thing is.
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Yes, and for tasks that you know you'll do regularly, it's worth having an additional separate copy of the related tools. For example, having all the mail supplies together, laundry stuff and beach supplies in their own containers makes that a lot closer to the 5 to 10 minutes that is optimal, rather than the half hour, or more that it can take to track everything down.
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I work at a grocery store and all that stuff is organized by some sort of a category and placed where people are likely to impulse by it. So, you get collocations of items that are placed near each other. It's why there's usually tartar sauce by seafood and wherever the rest of the sauces are in the store. Those are the two places that people are most likely to go and also most likely to see it an be inspired to buy the rest of the related products. You can do the same by putting items required for the same task together in a box, so that you just put them back into the box while you complete the project, then put the box away where it belongs when you're done for the time.
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I've been experimenting with what I like to think of as task boxes. They're basically just a box with all the necessary things for a commonly done task. I can immediately put all that stuff into the box, and if I don't immediately put the box where it belongs, it's large enough and fast enough to deal with that it's not much of an issue. It's still an experiment, but it doesn't take me much motivation to put the things into the box that's sitting right next to me. But it does take a little bit to put the box away when I'm done. But, even if I don't put it away immediately, it's still contained and I could put away dozens of them in a short period of time if I had to.
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That's why they created a cptsd diagnosis.
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These days that was merged into the ADHD diagnosis even though it's a bit less obvious. Chances are that while you're not physically overactive, you're probably mentally overactive.
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You may or may not have ADHD, but the tips for managing life as somebody with ADHD are just generally sound principles for just about anybody. The difference though is that for people with ADHD things like this are effectively mandatory if we want to get anything done and have it together; for other people it's just nice, but not essential.
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Honestly, depending on the specifics that sounds like more of an OCD thing depending upon the specifics. For example, if I don't check my stove at least 3 times the house will burn down. It's delusional, but it's more of an OCD delusion.
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Lol, same here. I've been able to keep the temperature under 90 inside, but it's been pretty miserable. Fortunately, things are cooling a bit.
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Of recommend reading "the power of when" by Breus , he goes into depth on what you need to do to manage your circadian rhythm, ultimately, you might just take time to wake up.
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Because they're the ones that did the work of studying and recording it. You pretty much never give credit to the first person to have an idea, because without doing any of the work to record and investigate, it's just an idea. It's usually not even possible as most ideas are never recorded anyways. The whole idea is kind or racist, the main reason why it seems to be mainly a European thing is just because they invented the printing press, which greatly increased the likelihood of copies of works being available to credit. A lot of impressive stuff was done by pre-literate societies, but in many cases we don't know much about how it was done or by whom exactly.
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Generally speaking, whether you reduce, increase or stay the same with the dosages is largely a question of what the biggest risk is. Bipolar is interesting just because it does tend to recur as opposed to other disorders where you've got a more stable issue to treat.
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Yep, I need to do that. I also need to make sure that every important thing eventually migrates to the important and urgent square.
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@pattygould8240 Yes, but the tips don't work. I've tried pretty much all the standard sleep hygiene recommendations and they don't work for people with real sleep problems. They miss the fact that the circadian rhythm is rather complicated. When you eat, exercise, get light and bathe all have to be accounted for in order to have any hope. Even then, it's not necessarily enough if you're body didn't like the hours and for some people, more drastic measures may be needed.
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Laundry lends itself to multitasking, I generally run a load basically every day if need be. I'll do other things in the middle, but it's vitally important to have an alarm or similar to ensure that you're reminded to move the laundry from the washer to the drier and then sort fold and put away. Also, it's a great idea to do clothes separately as much as possible. It also helps a bunch if you limit the number of types of clothes wherever possible. Socks in particular can take a huge amount of time if you don't just buy the same sort of socks to cover you. I've got basically 2 types that I actually wear. The rest I'll likely be getting rid of, but they aren't disorganized, so I'm not worrying about it.
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Generally speaking, repressed memories aren't a real thing. The brain doesn't really work like that. Most likely, you were either traumatized at an early age when you were developmentally deciding whether the world is by and large safe and secure or dangerous and insecure. Any memories from that age tend to be extremely fragile no matter how a person's experience was. The other possible scenario is that those particular memories were misfiled in some fashion. That also happens where somebody has a traumatic event and for some reason represses the emotional component of the event by downplaying it's significance. But, speaking as an educator, once a memory is formed, it's there, when you think you've learned something and it's not there when you need it, you're either stressed and not accessing all of your brain, it wasn't transferred into long term memory or it wasn't stored where you thought it was stored. I suppose, it also could have been a series of relatively minor events that you haven't connected together. That's one of the big differences, PTSD really needs a specific event to kick it off diagnostically. EDIT: there are also some medications that mess with memory preventing memory formation. These are usually used in surgery, but there's a few out there that have other uses that may have some negative impact on memory formation.
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Definitely, it's why we can get some things done, but other things don't get done at all even when we don't mind doing them and know that we should. That is until the last minute and there's real consequences of not doing it. The more he avoids having to do things that he doesn't like doing, the better things will go. That means, eliminating, delegating or automating. Sometimes delegation means just letting the person that gets annoyed that they're being left hanging do the task, it may mean paying somebody to handle it or it might mean trading something that sucks less for it.The more things he can move to one of those, the easier the management will get. If he even just gets one or two things a month, before two long the burden will go down and things will get easier.
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That's the Schizoid Personality. It's effectively a person within a person that doesn't ever interact directly with the outside world. It's something that people doing these diagnoses should be on the lookout for as it requires a lot more work to get to the bottom of what's going on, even if you've got somebody coming in that wants a correct diagnosis.
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That's more of a question for a pharmacist, they know more than just about anybody about what you can and can't combine with various medications. Although, when it comes to supplements, there's often not as much known as you need to make an intelligent decision.
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When I was student teaching, I had a set of 4 folders for the day's paper work. Distribute, Copy, Return and Grade. It didn't take much effort to figure out what went where as it was usually pretty clear.
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Professionals are trained to see ASD symptoms in intellectually disabled white boys under a certain age. Anybody else is likely to have problems getting a proper diagnosis. I've personally been going the route of collecting every single misdiagnosis for ASD possible, and they still don't want to admit that it might just be ASD. I've been diagnosed and/or treated for Schizoaffective Disorder, Schizotypal Personality Disorder, Schizoid Personalitly Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Bipolar 1, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Somatacization Disorder, OCD, ADHD and I'm probably forgetting something in that list. I think the only ones I haven't yet been diagnosed with are Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD. At this point, I'm kind of stuck pushing for an ASD diagnosis as that list is bad enough that getting decent medical care can be an issue as so much of what I deal with medically isn't taken seriously as with all that comes a bunch of psychosomatic disorders like idiopathic tinnitus, IBS and migraines.
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He probably shouldn't be. He had severe issues with schizophrenia and did a bunch of things which were far from virtuous. It's a shame that A Beautiful Mind chose to downplay those aspects to the extent that they did as it served nobody's interest to have him whitewashed to that extent.
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It's partially outdated because the disorders people seek treatment for aren't the same and partly because it's so many decades later and we know more about how the brain works. We now know that what peple think about their childhood is more important than how it was and that everyone we remember things, we subtly contaminate the memories leading to interesting results.
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I use clear boxes for most of my storage and slip an index card inside on one of the ends with the contents written on it. I can see the label through the side. But, removable tape also works well, especially if you can't or don't want to be able to see through the box.
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I thought that I had issues with seeing faces, but it turned out that because I have no mind's eye, I see the faces just fine, I just have no efficient way of storing or manipulating what I've seen and if I need to go between a picture and the face or visa versa, I have real trouble. If somebody, including myself, changes their hairstyle in some significant way, I have to relearn the face as I'll go through a short period of time where it seems strange. I've got some brain damage and I have no direct access to a minds eye, which is probably what causes this. Without access to a mind's eye, it's virtually impossible to figure out what somebody would look like if they changed permanent or semi-permanent features like getting a hair cut or losing substantial amount of weight..
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I hope you found somebody. Schizophrenia is a hardcore disorder, fortunately, therapy and medications are both much, much better than they used to be. The medications don't drug patients to anywhere near the extent they used to and in some cases, the side effects aren't even bothersome.
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To be honest TBI can result in a huge number of different presentations depending upon what precisely got damaged. IMHO, it's medical malpractice to see somebody for mental health problems without screening for brain injuries in most cases. I've had a lot of brain injuries over the years, lack of oxygen, multiple concussions, stroke, water intoxication and whatever the results were of those seizures I used to have were. Each time is different, depending upon what was affected, but you're absolutely right, anger and emotional instability definitely can result from a brain injury, although you'd be more likely to need to compare TBI against PTSD as they do crop up at the same time.
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I wish they'd stop calling ASD a spectrum disorder. It's not a spectrum disorder, a spectrum disorder would be something like the schizophrenia spectrum disorders where there are different diagnoses within it that are at least somewhat helpful when presented with a diagnosis. ASD only has the Spectrum in it because there were a clustering of diagnoses that were obliterated to give a single diagnosis, but it inexplicably, and confusingly, leaves out ADHD and Schizoid Personality Disorder which are both in all likelihood also forms of autism. It also doesn't include Social Pragmatic Communication Disorder as well, meaning that there are more non-ASD autism diagnoses than ones that are "within the spectrum." (The non-autistic Schizoids largely don't get that diagnosis these days as Schizotypal Personality Disorder and Avoidant Personality disorder got most of them to the point where the diagnosis is mostly inactive at this stage) Yes, there are a wide range of specific traits and experiences, but that's mostly because of just how sloppy the diagnostic criteria are. There is no provision at all for folks with a more internalized presentation of the disorder. Which does make some sense as brain scan technologies have come a long way and it was just assumed that the developmental process gets close enough sooner than it really does.
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My wife has decided that she needs to yell at me whenever I'm picking at my skin. The place I pick at is a cyst that will never heal. It's literally not going to heal whether or not I pick at it. She literally refuses to understand that her yelling me at me over it just makes it worse even though I've told her it's mostly a matter of anxiety. But, somehow it's all about her, I'm doing it to insult her. If she would have let well enough alone and wouldn't do things she knows serve no purpose other than to stress me out, it wouldn't be as pronounced.
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It's worth noting that for folks with ADHD, we should be making it as easy as possible to put something away, even if it makes it harder to take out. (I'd say that's more of an especially rather than an even if) Because that's going to be the issue, taking something out usually isn't an issue if you want it badly enough, but putting it back is commonly where the friction lies. Keeping books, or CDs, or similar, in alphabetical order is great for finding it, but a massive pain for putting them back and if you buy a new item that starts with A, you might be stuck moving everything else. But, if you just say, it's good enough for it to be in the As or A-C range, it'll be far more likely that it'll be put there. Even though it will take more to retrieve than if it was in strict alphabetical order, it's still far easier to retrieve than if it wasn't put away at all.
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I had that. What worked for me was a mixture of group therapy with a mixed group (various different diagnoses), medication, cognitive behavioral therapy and just making the decision that I was more concerned about what would happen if I was wrong about people being monsters than being right. It was pretty hardcore but over time the symptoms lessen and I've been able to function for the last nearly 20 years without medications. I can't promise similar results, but be aware that no matter what they tell you, with proper treatment and a huge amount of commitment, it is possible to recover or at least to have the symptoms subside enough to lead a good life.
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Not really, the effect is limited and requires regular repeats in order to maintain. Without that, it tends to wear out pretty quickly. It is a powerful technique, but it won't do much without cooperation.
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Yes absolutely. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy would likely address that, so would meditation. There should be a lot of therapists out there that can help with that.
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@Paula_Shelton Having a hook is definitely not going to work. I'd recommend having a key bowl or similar so that you can just toss it in there when you get home and be done with it. I've rarely had issues misplacing my keys because I tend to just leave them on the closest horizontal surface to the door. Or, back in my pocket. Better than a hook, but worse than a bowl, would be one of those magnetic bars that idiots use to hold their knives. Dangerous with knives, but quick and convenient with keys.
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Gaslighting is more likely to cause cPTSD than PTSD. If I understand correctly, gaslighting alone wouldn't qualify a person for a PTSD diagnosis as it's currently defined. But, really, the difference is probably less important than it seems as long as the symptoms are being treated appropriately and it may have to be coded as PTSD in order to get insurance coverage.
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Hi, this is good advice. I'm super-organized at work because I have a very clear idea what the short term consequences of not being organized are. So, I do whatever I need to do to immediately straighten things up, or do so as soon as possible if I'm forced to forgo it. It also doesn't hurt that there's just less to organize and I have to do it from scratch every day as all the stuff I organize is on its way out of the building shortly after I organize it.
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Have you tried doing it as soon as you get up in the morning? If you don't wake up at some point, you've got bigger problems than trying to remember to meditate.
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@JosephEHall-bl2el Possibly, the outlook for that isn't so good, but I found that the worst of my schizoaffective went away with tons of cognitive behavioral therapy. It's not like cured cured, but most of it except for the disorganized thinking has gone and stayed gone for over a decade. That being said, the outlook without medication isn't good and reductions in medication should be made slowly and cautiously with plenty of support and a qualified medical professional overseeing the process.
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@DrTraceyMarks I think that's why therapy was so successful with my schizoaffective disorder. I had good doctors, cutting edge group therapy and a ton of CBT, and today I've been free of meds for over a decade. But, it took years of work and I had to have the intestinal fortitude to just accept that most of my life experience was probably not real and to accept that there could be consequences if the psychosis wasn't really psychosis. I completely get why the diagnoses are so devastating, as it's asking a lot of anybody to accept that basically their entire existence might not be real and that this other reality is real, even though there's major flaws with that as well. I do have some difficulties with understanding my life before a certain age, but it gets complicated by the fact that I had done some legitimately amazing things where there is actual documentation to support that it happened, but some of it I'm not even sure if it happened or not despite being years before any psychotic symptoms were identified.
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I hope you did, modern treatment options have improved a great deal. Between medication and modern therapeutic techniques, there's a good chance that you'd see improvement.
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I used to have that problem years ago. I've since recovered enough that I no longer get that at all. TBH, I miss them, it's really weird because at the time it would get so loud that I couldn't hear anything else that was going on and it made it nearly impossible to socialize, but now that they've been gone for so long, I kind of miss them. For me, the only thing, other than medication, that helped that was focusing on actual music as intently as possible, it made it very difficult for the brain to make the hallucinations when the neurons were busy processing actual sound.
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It does, but unless you're doing a lot, the impact can be rather subtle.
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I personally do a few minutes right after I brush my teeth in the morning and I brush my teeth as soon as I get up.
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@sebastianmuenzberg4197 Yes, the trick there though is to remember that you can do it. The most effective meditation is often the meditation done under the hardest circumstances.
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It used to be extremely common. Most of the patients Freud had were suffering from it.
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