Comments by "Aga" (@aga5109) on "Andrew Huberman: Relationships, Drama, Betrayal, Sex, and Love | Lex Fridman Podcast #393" video.

  1. Well said 👍. I agree.
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  2. God is very good. Speaking from my experience.
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  3. Paul Conti, MD, Psychiatrist. Dr. Huberman will release a podcast, talking with him on trauma & subconscious, in September 👍.
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  4. Very harmful defence mechanism. Agression turned inwards.There are many sources & ways in which this copying strategy develops in childhood. It needs to be understood individually & emotional states that leads to it unlocked and processed . It has to be replaced with compassion. It happens in therapy, organically, through healing process involved in therapeutic relationship. It has to be replaced if it leads to depression and self-doubt. I'm sorry for traumatic experiences, which have led to building such a defence structure.
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  5. That's true.
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  6. I feel your pain. I disconnect from evil in society, but l try to be connected to do as such good as l can, even in small ways. It makes a difference. Sometimes, a big difference. It is"the ripple effect." Try not to get too despondent. Just do geniuane good you can do. There are many good, wise, kind people in the world. I know some of them personally. They need kindness and love, in the midst of evil and suffering we as civilisation are going through.
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  7. Same here. Great guy.
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  8. ​ @Xethi83 Very true. Thank you for your comments.
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  9. True. It is the highest ideal to strive for.
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  10. Yes, in good psychotherapy, we can do it. I see so many good changes in people through therapy. It lifts my heart up. Amazing how deeply people can change. It's such a beautiful work of rewriting brain circuits.
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  11. I am convinced that what helps people in close relationships is not the knowledge, concepts, the theory they have about relationships, but the conversation. Something that emerges when partners with their beliefs, feelings start talking. Then a completely new quality is created between them. A relationship discovers new areas to explore and understand. Most people broke up because they couldn't talk to each other, couldn't help each other understand what they were thinking and feeling. When I say/express/discover something, it changes me. I am no longer the same person, and the one who hears and understands is also not the same person after meeting half-way. In a relationship, the ability to express oneself is important, but equally important is to give the opportunity to express and understand the partner. It is very difficult because we, including myself, tend to talk from our perspective and get it through to others. It is much more difficult to really understand another person's perspective. But it's great when it happens. It happens in psychotherapy, but it is one-way. But it's great to see: " Wow, l've got it right & it helps a person to move on to new insight & new feelings". We are "wired" to cope with our feelings, process emotions and emotionally stabilise in good, close, authentic relationships.
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