Comments by "Jun Abejo" (@borrico1965) on "What Worries Japan's Men about Marriage" video.

“Marriage is the most expensive way for a man to get his laundry done”, as an old saying goes. It all boils down to how men understand LOVE.
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@uiopy1 I absolutely agree that there are women who don't love unconditionally their husband. But sad to say, it goes the same with men. But I'm sure, if men will put effort and prayer, they can find women who will reciprocate their unconditional love.
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@uiopy1 I totally understand where your response is coming from. Unrequited love is really painful. But the correct way to understand LOVE must be settled first. To LOVE is to will the good of the other person, to love is to give, more than to receive. Of course, it is easier said than done. Many real human relationships fall short from that ideal. But for a relationship to reach that ideal requires so much work from both partners. It should be a work in progress, something both partners have to work and strive for. And both partners should welcome all the help they could get from people around them and from God to make their relationship come closer to the ideal one.
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@Gabriel Anghel I totally agree with you, if the man unexpectedly became an invalid and his wife still stayed with him no matter what, that indeed is heroic love.
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@arpitkumar4525 It is an old joke among men, married and single. 😂
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@BigBruh-xu4xc I'm totally grateful for you for pointing out "gender equality". If I may also add, it is also connected to "modern feminism". Gender equality and modern feminism, I believe, have made some women to be independent in a wrong way. Glad to say, modern feminism is not the only form of feminism out there. There is also another form of feminism that recognizes the complementarity of the sexes: a man completes a woman and vice versa. The passage, Ephesians chap 5 verse 23, is trying to remind men to be the leader in a relationship particularly in marriage. Leading, not always financially but, by showing with words and example how to be a good partner, how to love truthfully, that is, choosing and willing the good of the other person. Of course, it is easier said than done. It requires effort right from the very start of choosing the right partner and all the way to marriage and living together. Of course, not all relationships are success stories. This is due to the inherent flaw in human beings, both men and women, which is the tendency to selfishness. A relationship could be better or worse in the measure the tendency to be selfish is mastered and redirected towards self-giving. In a husband-wife partnership, the husband ought to be the teacher in self-giving. If the teacher, in this case the husband, is effective, the wife will learn self-giving and will reciprocate the husband's self-giving. I hope this gives you enlightenment.
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@ModernGeekReview It is an old joke.
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Hellen Mek I totally agree with you! :-) The truthful way to love--choosing and willing the good of the other person--is a goal everyone has to strive for. All humans are knee-jerk selfish and are flawed creatures. Only the help coming from the creator God can humans successfully master their selfishness. A guy who lived years ago named Jesus Christ showed the way to true love.
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@BigBruh-xu4xc I definitely feel your circumstances. But there's a reason in the saying, "For the husband is the head of the wife ..." (cf Ephesians chap. 5 verse 23). The man must be the prophet/teacher of his wife including teaching her, by word and example, how to love truthfully.
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