Comments by "TheSuperappelflap" (@TheSuperappelflap) on "Former Psychotherapist Explains Why Couples Therapy Almost Never Works" video.

  1. The problem in my experience is that therapy isnt useful for men. Women can go to a therapist, have a cup of tea, complain about their life, have a nice cry, and it makes them feel better. For me, talking about problems doesnt make me feel better. It does the opposite. What helped me with my problems was having some peace and quiet, being outside in nature, physical exercise, a healthy diet, meditation, picking up some new hobbies and making new friends. This carries over to couples therapy. For men, talking about relationship problems doesnt make things any better. You want to do something to make it better. Maybe go on a fun vacation together, move to a new place, make some actual changes and try to make that work. On top of that, therapists, even the male ones, tend to take the womans side, because thats simply where their money comes from. Its very hard to convince someone to be objective when they know that one of their patients will keep coming back for years if they feel supported and the other one is not going to be a repeat customer after the breakup. Actually helping make the relationship better will make sure they have 2 customers that arent coming back. So they have a financial incentive to make sure the relationship fails. Couples therapists, in my book, are up there with divorce lawyers and politicians in the contest for worst human beings on the planet.
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  2. quite effective. i thought my family was the most dysfunctional one on this planet, and while it is pretty bad compared to average, ive talked to people who have it a lot worse and it made me very happy to have that put into perspective.
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  3. And dont forget about the "sleeping around bonus" women get for ruining their marriage and/or cheating which results in divorce because they get a nice paycheck out of it.
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  4. Im thinking of doing the same and buying a wood cottage somewhere on a lakeshore in Sweden 10km away from the closest human being. Maybe in the winter I'll move to the Spanish costa because it does get a bit depressing up north in that season.
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  5.  @orangeandslinky  do you want me to tell you? because i will. its the same thing that i watched happen to my parents at 6 years old. she got bored. she thought she could do better or that she was simply better off without you. also, the divorce money factors in. my parents had a good marriage when i was little, my dad worked his ass off and my mother took care of me. then after 6 years of marriage, when i was 5,they had my brother who i love dearly. my mom called him an accident. she also told me on several occasions she never wanted kids after the divorce but that was just her mental illness talking. anyway, my mom thought, well, i stuck it out for long enough, i got the kids i wanted with the genetics i wanted, then she accused my dad of hitting her, went to a women's shelter, and permanently destroyed my childhood and my brother's. theyre just that selfish. she thought she could get back in the game and cheated on my dad with her manager at work because he had a very slightly higher paycheck than my dad who was positively makinhg bank in the 90s. im also sure the dotcom bubble had something to do with it because she left him in 2000 or early 2001 and then made all our lives hell for the next 20 years. it took until i was 27 to get them both into the same room together without my mom starting a fight. i couldnt invite both of them to my birthday on the same day for 20 years. women just are this egotistical, shallow,self destructive and vindictive. and btw, that manager broke up with her after 6 months when his divorce was finalized and she has been single ever since. so what goes around does come around. and i am just happy to have a decent relationship with both my parents now, which is a godgiven miracle considering what happened.
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  6.  @JustNo8808  well, obviously thats self defense and it shouldn't be punished by courts. but it goes deeper than that. women in relationships will spend years, nagging, starting arguments, doing what people now call gaslighting although i never heard this term until a few years ago, they will talk trash about their men to all their girlfriends, their family, therapists, even on social media for all the world to see, and most men dont have the eloquence , the vocabulary or the determination to fight women on that kind of behaviour every step of the way with words. i just think sean connery was right. sometimes a little slap with an open hand is justified. call me an ist, i dont care. there is a natural balance where women generally have better social skills to manipulate conversations and most men are physically stronger. now this delicate balance has been upset by an out of control legal system and the result is that we now have a society with weak men and women with awful social skills. on average, if i have a conversation with a woman on a first date, she will start insulting me within five minutes because they arent capable of having a pleasant conversation because theyve never been checked on their behaviour once on their life. its wild.
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  7. and then to get the woman back as a recurring customer after the divorce.
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  8. If you need to do that might as well just throw in the towel and get the divorce papers
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  9.  @Chadsbrotherbrad  youre still on the hook for alimony if youre not married. any long term relationship is legally equivalent.
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  10. I also want to say, this is one of your best videos to date and I watched a lot of them. Cheers.
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  11. At this point im pretty sure women view every man that does not beat the living daylights out of them on a regular basis as a beta provider, so we can just retire the term now.
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  12.  @CD-vb9fi  There are very few therapists that arent like that. I have seen my fair share of them when I was younger and most of them are very bad at their job. I have heard there are some good ones out there, but I have never met one.
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  13.  @TheAlfredPlatform  I just wonder why did you marry someone who you think doesnt have the emotional skills to navigate a relationship? And how is that his fault? You knew what you were getting into. Deal with it.
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  14.  @TheAlfredPlatform  but you did just say you believe he doesny have the emotional maturity to be in a relationship. thats not something you can work on. thats a dealbreaker.
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  15. So, you just throw in a line about mdma there, but i want to say that this is a drug that can, first of all, have severe side effects for some people, including death, and second, i dont think its a good idea to do harddrugs to save your relationship. if you want to go on a trip, maybe do some light psychedelics together. a small dose of shrooms or something. mdma is dangerous stuff and if you buy it off the streets its probably laced with speed or other amphetamines. its also quite unpredictable how people respond to it. some of my friends get mellow and trippy off it, i get a lot of energy and become very emotionally unstable and cant handle heavy conversations or crowds. the hangover is also absolutely awful. im sick for 3 days after a small dose. its not worth it.
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  16.  @JustNo8808  yes that just proves my point. if women got beat up more im pretty sure they would cool the attitude a bit.
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