Comments by "TheSuperappelflap" (@TheSuperappelflap) on "Men Won't Get Married And Women Won't Have Children: America's Baby Bust Laid Bare" video.

30yo women making a tinder profile: do you want kids? "im not sure yet." relationship goal: "short term fun, open to long."
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Its not the education, that is the cause, its that they werent raised to be mothers. Going to college to get a degree is just a symptom of that underlying problem. Women that want to start a family dont need college, they need a husband.
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@TheCyberguy101 having a kid doesnt cost 80K a year. thats almost 7K per month. the way you want to raise a kid might cost 7K a month. but the kid doesnt need that. you dont have to buy single use diapers. you dont have to buy new clothes all the time. you dont have to buy new toys. you can use reusable diapers just like people did for generations, and wash them. buy second hand clothes and toys from a thrift shop. you dont have to pay for daycare, youd probably save money if your wife didnt work and stayed at home instead of paying thousands for daycare per month. once the kids are old enough to go to school and join sports clubs and stuff like that they will cost a bit more (they will get bullied if they wear second hand clothes to school, i know that first hand) but no way that costs 7K per month. your problem is that you see kids as a fashion accessory and just want to work your job and live your life and pay other people to solve all your child care problems for you so you dont have to spend time with your kids except the "quality time". my parents did that as well and it makes for a miserable childhood that i would qualify as severe neglect.
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you forgot about 6 pack and having 6 figure follower count on social media. those are also bare minimum.
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i make enough money to have a family on a single income, in western europe. about 2x median wage. the problem is that i can barely find women that want to be in a relationship, they just want casual fun. and finding a stay at home wife in my country is basically impossible. i may have gotten extremely lucky because i met a very traditional girl from the philippines and we have been on a couple dates already. i really want to lock that down because she may well be the only opportunity im gonna get at the life i want without emigrating to the other side of the planet.
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@Savvynomad225 thats because only rich people can afford tickets to sportsball games these days. the same rich people can afford to have 2,5 kid as a status symbol that are raised by their nanny.
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@divergentthg7925 i dont think i need to worry, she was complaining to me that all the women here seem masculine and have unattractive personalities, and of course i will move over there if she wants to marry me, i was already planning to get out of Europe when i was single.
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no. the answer to your question is: fascism.
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if you go to nice rich suburbs you will see strollers. in the cities you will see a lot of kids from poor families. but that doesnt change the statistic that half of breeding age women are not having kids, and the ones that do have 1 or 2 kids on average. which is not near enough for replacement rate. thats why the average birth rate per adult women is 0,8 instead of the 2,1-2,2 you need to sustain a population. also, the women that arent having kids arent walking around outside during the day, theyre working to pay the rent for their apartments. half of people under 30 are single in most western countries. in my personal social circle, im 30 years old, 0 of my friends are married and 0 have children. i know 1 couple personally thats going to get married next year. i have one female acquaintance (ex collegue) who has children. unmarried, they do have a house together with 3 kids. i also know one guy that is a friend of a friend who got himself a wife from a little village in india, they will marry next year as well. but out of my entire social circle thats it, i know 3 people that have kids OR are getting married. 0 with marriage and kids. if i look at my current and ex-collegues, the ones my age are usually single, or dating but not living together. the ones 35-40 have 2 kids and a divorce. and these are goodlooking college educated intelligent hardworking men that work out and make truckloads of money. they still get divorced. in my family, my dad, and all my uncles, except for 2, are divorced. almost all older men i know outside of my family are divorced, except for one who is from turkey and got his wife from there. and even he told me not to get married lmao. what you see outside is just halo effect, you only notice the people that are having kids and the single people are just as invisible to you as the average man is to 90% of women.
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italy may be an old country, but traditional? the old people there are traditional. the people under 40 are definitely not. italian women are some of the worst bloodsucking vampires in europe. the average italian male lives with their parents until age 35 because of the cost of living, lack of good jobs and lack of incentives for men to contribute to society. italy has a birth rate of 0.8 per woman on average and dropping, same as the USA. a lot of people are leaving the country. it is so bad that there are programs in which you can buy a house for 1 euro in many small villages. unfortunately these are mostly in the south, where there are no jobs, many boat "refugees" landing every day and the area is becoming so hot during climate change that temperatures max out at around 45 degrees C in the summer. its hot enough now that people are starting coffee plantations. its basically unlivable. so not getting laid really is the least of your problems if you live in italy.
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@ThatsSpectacular i am aware of these issues you mentioned, i have lived through them as a child. except the part for being taken away for not having single use diapers, thats ridiculous. my mother was career focused, she divorced my dad after cheating with the manager at work, tried to keep me away from him. i got really lucky my dad is a great guy and he didnt give up on me no matter how hard she tried, so i had that male role model in my life. my brother was taken out of the home eventually because he did become aggressive, at his own request actually. my parents didnt want him to leave but he basically volunteered to live in a group home for a couple years. as for societal pressure, all i can think of is what my parents and grandparents always told me: "if everyone else jumped off a bridge, would you jump after them?" critical and independent thinking is a basic life skill you need to survive, as a child and as an adult. if you dont voluntarily pick up this habit, either life will force you to, or you will fail at life and die young or unfulfilled. societal pressure is not an excuse for your own failure at life. by societies standards, with my childhood, i should be dead, in prison, homeless or unemployed and living in my moms basement. but i chose to make something of my life instead. i have a good career making more than 1.5x median wage, which in my country is enough to afford a stay at home wife and a bunch of kids. the problem is finding a woman who wants that, but i may have even succeeded at that because i met a really cute traditional Filippo girl a few weeks ago and we are now dating. if you really want to, you can be the exception to the rule. and screw societies expectations anyway. if they knew what they were doing, we wouldnt be in this mess in the first place.
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@TheCyberguy101 why are you still in California. insane cost of living, wildfires, earthquake risk, crazy woke government, rates of crime, drug use and homelessness through the roof. and in a few years it will be uninhabitable due to climate change anyway.
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Europe isnt doomed. We just need to make some radical changes. If we dont, then we are doomed. But there is hope. People are starting to realize how radical the changes will have to be. Just look at any elections that happened in EU since covid ended. And look what direction people are voting. Its a big swing to the "alt right". Socially conservative and economically liberal. Anti import. Pro traditional values.
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