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  14. I definitely relate to this. I was very invisible through all my school years and I wasn't secure enough in myself to be alone around people in school, I would at home, id build lego cities, come up with board games, play video games, reading, comics. I was excited about these things, I loved Pokemon as a kid until everyone else decided it wasn't cool. I remember at 9 years old being into these things and then suddenly everyone around my class started acting like they were teenagers or in middle school. Kids were listening to Eminem talking about sit-coms and Dave Chappelle and trying to not act like kids. I didn't understand it, but I felt isolated and like I was lagging behind socially from everyone else. I became a terrible person I didn't know who I really was or if what I was was still ok and I tried being friends with people who just made me the punching bag or joke of the group who got made fun of for being enthusiastic or passionate for anything I enjoyed. I did at times leave these groups, but I just felt really alone, and I wanted to be wanted. I went out of my way for attention, make up stuff, lie about myself. I just tried to run away from the childhood version of myself that loved stories and creativity and exploring characters. I became bitter and sad and acted weird for the sake of being weird because being labelled strange was better then being invisible. The truth is it didn't make a difference, by the end of high-school when everyone on the last week of high school were going around getting year books signed, I realized everyone since Grade 9 to 12 had formed friendships and instead of walking around alone getting their yearbooks signed, they were sitting in the halls with groups of friends made through our time and it just broke me. I should have just been myself, maybe Id have ended up alone anyways, but I have so much baggage from high-school because of how I acted and what I held in because I was afraid of being myself.
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  31. I do agree with a lot of this in terms of the points you make about how to be a good partner however I do want to challenge the assumption I'm gathering that before the modern age of social media that our parents were not having situationshipish relationships. yes they didn't have as many options but by no means were they more mature than we are as young people. they were still being assholes, leading people on, not calling people again instead of breaking up with them, only being half-in relationships until they met someone they were more excited about etc etc. I don't think its a generational thing as much as a young people, flighty, non-commital because we don't know what we want from our lives thing. and plus people were more willing to settle back then because they didn't have options and because marriage was more of an expectation. You could say that things have significantly improved in some ways because being single is no longer a liability, and we have freedom and rights especially as women that were only truly available to us in the late 70s! so we are only recently seeing the fruits of our labour pay off. it does mean that because women don't have as much of a need for men beyond the enigmatic feelings of love and a high that you get when you're in love, as well as women who choose to build families. Other women are actually very practical when it comes to love in my experience. As in, if a man is treating her poorly, she is more likely to leave than stay because there isn't anything of material or emotional value to gain. and because women outpace men in emotional maturity and because now we have the freedom of choice, being single often feels like a better option than many of the options available to us. That being said, I don't like being cynical about anything in life, especially not love, and I would like to think that eventually we will settle into ourselves, want something more sustainable and out grow our restless ways but for now, its better in mant ways to just enjoy the ride! I know that for me, I've been in a relationship before, it wasn't perfect but I felt real feelings and I think that regardless of all of this social media blindness, people never forget how you make them feel and that is something that cannot be reduced to a number, a body or an ego boost. i would love more positive outlooks on romance because a part of me feels like its a self-fullfiling prophecy when I see those on social media spewing so much negativity about it. great video and really solid advice!!
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  62. The problem we're facing here is that everyone is now speaking out as if they're a guru in the space and offering their own unique views which is adding more things to the ever expanding list of self improvement. As someone who's been one of the top mods in Hamza's self improvement server, I realised that so many of the young guys who were there weren't even actually improving themselves, they were more focused on just ticking some boxes that aligned with whatever the narrative of the influencer is. It's become the new coping mechanism for a lack of control and direction in life. A lot of the guys I saw there who would make a point of telling the world that they're doing "monk mode" day 4 million of no fap, take 7 cold showers a day and have learned how to eat lightbeams to optimise their health just sounds like another extremist view on the world which ironically, is the complete antithesis of what "self improvement" is about. It's a way of life, not a challenge or a course that you take for a while, it's meant to be a journey where one seeks to develop in the areas of their lives to become a better human. Also thank you Cole, I've also recently stepped into the videography space with cinematic b rolls just like you mentioned, I find that this is a course of expression that people who were tangled in that world of having to be this perfect curated person is breaking out of and looking to become more aligned with who they want to be deep down inside. I believe that's what self improvement is.
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  65. Well said Cole. Let me give a recent except of mine from last night that I think illustrates the point your trying to make: I’m an introvert like you, my gym I’ve been a regular member at for almost two years now. I know most of the people there, and they know me. But from being an introvert, I wouldn’t say that I’m close friends per se with anyone there. Last night, there was a social event my gym was having at a brewery. I typically would have said no, out of not really knowing would I could expect if I went there, but decided to go cause it felt like the right thing to do. When I got there, there was already a friend group who was gathered around a table, since they somewhat knew me and I somewhat knew a few of them , I came over and just sat on the outskirts of the group, not really saying much, not caring to say much,just asking a few questions now and then. Like you said Cole, nothing super important , not talking about any of the deep stuff this channel talks about. Because most people aren’t interested in the deep stuff, and that’s ok. I left early, cause I felt like I’d done my part, I’d shown my face and had been kind. I’m glad I did, there was nothing significant that happened, I didn’t really make a new friend, accomplish this or that or the other, I just went there, and showed my face and was nice, and that was enough. That is i agree what more of us should be doing if we want to improve society, the little things like that, like you say. Just being kind to others with no particular agenda other than that
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  265. I will definitely be eagerly awaiting your book :) I've had some wild instances of synchronicity/manifestation that made me believe in SOMETHING, just not the big man in the sky. Here's an example. When I was homeless, living in San Fransisco, all of my stuff was stolen, besides what I had on my person. Fortunately my wallet was with me. I lost a bunch of stuff that was important to me, like my GBA SP from childhood and Pokemon Games from Silver up to Moon. A stuffed animal I'd had since I was 5. My 2 and a half octave Casio keyboard. I was so angry and went around searching for crackheads to interrogate, but it didn't matter. My stuff was gone. Most of all, I was missing my keyboard. I'm a musician, and having an instrument is more valuable to me than anything. Playing music is what I'm made for. So I said to the ether, "None of that stuff matters to me. I'll give it all up. I just want my piano." And I let it be, moving on and collecting the necessities again like clothing, a backpack, sleeping bag, etc. Well, a few days later, someone messaged me on Facebook. They had found my little Casio keyboard in an office parking lot on the other side of town along with an old ID I had kept for no reason really. They wanted to get it back to me. So, I had my keyboard back, just like I asked. And from then on, I realized that none of this stuff matters. It's all temporary. It solidified my identity as a musician. The idea that music is what I'm supposed to do. I also realized that there was something greater than just myself. The universe, The Is, that I am part of. Not separate from. Also, regarding psychedelics, I could probably write a book about how much they have helped me pinpoint the root of my issues. They aren't a cure, they are a diagnostic tool. We still have to do the legwork.
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