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  1. damn brain rot is real... y'all embarrassing the joke is that they're forgetting what brain rot is
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  2. Realistically, yes. Some people, no matter how likable by the general public, will never find love. And that could be for an innumerable amount of reasons. Simple statistics can explain it. Logically speaking, there's someone more compatible with you than anyone else. What are the chances you meet that person? What if you meet them but aren't physically attracted to them despite the compatibility? You may also be a perfectly pleasant person, conventionally attractive, but not find anyone who shares your values or goals. It's possible to be in love with someone whose life path just doesn't align with yours. There are so many variables in life. Those variables don't necessarily define who we are as people. They don't define our potential or limitations. It's easy to fall into despair. But it's just as easy to feel alone in a relationship as it is when you're single.
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  3. this is why I've really gotten into point and click puzzle games from the 90s. they're slow-paced, relaxing, and you have to use logic to move forward. interesting how videogames are what's helping my attention span lmao
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  4. i think it's fair to say that when you're not confident, people forget you...people remember those who make an impression. if you don't say hi, initiate and lead conversations, and make others feel seen, that contributes to people forgetting you...also, you need to show that you remember them.
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  5. I do have a lot of platonic relationships (many close male friends, only one close female friend, but I that is pretty usual, I'd say). I've never found the right person to pursue romantically, but I consider myself very lucky regardless. I'm not looking for the perfect partner, just one with shared values and vision. It seems very few people view marriage and love in the same way I do. I don't believe in love at first sight. I think love is cultured over the long haul. The strongest love in my belief is forged through the hardships.
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  6. Dude this video was so relaxing. Love that there was no music in the background so I could just focus on your words. Great job with this one!
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  7. I already feel like paying attention to this for all 15 minutes without stopping to check any notifications or the progress bar did a lot for me mentally, especially since you didn't make a billion jump cuts and edits. Thank you.
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  8. 26 year old guy never in a situation ship in my life šŸ˜‚
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  9. I thought it was skibidi bop um dada? O_o
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  10. I love hearing people talk about things that excite them - they just radiate so much positivity and become their purest self even if only for a moment. If anybody ever made you feel bad for doing so, shame on them.šŸ™ŒšŸ½
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  11. Thank you for this. Itā€™s just the reminder iā€™ve needed to keep me off YouTube (most of the time lol). When i want some entertainment now, Iā€™ve been reading fiction books because i realized how bad i felt after hours of mindless content. Reading and doing puzzles are my go to now.
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  12. Another problem I see in modern relationships is that the line between what is a flaw and what is a red flag is getting blurred. Itā€™s good to have expectations in a relationship but hoping for a flawless partner that meets every one of your expectations is a recipe for failure.
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  13. dude, i feel so good rn. I study hard for uni, tommorrow im going to a cool party, ive been consistent with my workouts, life is good
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  14. I definitely relate to this. I was very invisible through all my school years and I wasn't secure enough in myself to be alone around people in school, I would at home, id build lego cities, come up with board games, play video games, reading, comics. I was excited about these things, I loved Pokemon as a kid until everyone else decided it wasn't cool. I remember at 9 years old being into these things and then suddenly everyone around my class started acting like they were teenagers or in middle school. Kids were listening to Eminem talking about sit-coms and Dave Chappelle and trying to not act like kids. I didn't understand it, but I felt isolated and like I was lagging behind socially from everyone else. I became a terrible person I didn't know who I really was or if what I was was still ok and I tried being friends with people who just made me the punching bag or joke of the group who got made fun of for being enthusiastic or passionate for anything I enjoyed. I did at times leave these groups, but I just felt really alone, and I wanted to be wanted. I went out of my way for attention, make up stuff, lie about myself. I just tried to run away from the childhood version of myself that loved stories and creativity and exploring characters. I became bitter and sad and acted weird for the sake of being weird because being labelled strange was better then being invisible. The truth is it didn't make a difference, by the end of high-school when everyone on the last week of high school were going around getting year books signed, I realized everyone since Grade 9 to 12 had formed friendships and instead of walking around alone getting their yearbooks signed, they were sitting in the halls with groups of friends made through our time and it just broke me. I should have just been myself, maybe Id have ended up alone anyways, but I have so much baggage from high-school because of how I acted and what I held in because I was afraid of being myself.
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  15. "Just because you do not take an interest in politics doesn't mean politics won't take an interest in you" - Pericles
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  16. Soul is one of my favorite Pixar movies to come out of the past 15 years purely for the message that it spreads similar to this video. A personā€™s spark does not define their meaning of life. The meaning of life is just to live and thatā€™s a beautiful thing.
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  17. Solution to doom scrolling: Read Berserk
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  18. I am so so proud of you and all that you have accomplished and the person you are I've been following you since 2022
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  19. I've been working on my passion project since 2024 (technically 2023 but same idea), a webcomic of a sci-fi story that I've been wanting to tell for a long time and plan on publishing it this fall on Webtoon
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  20. love this style of video once in a while. it really makes me focus on what you're saying. no cut-in edits, crazy visuals. just feels like an authentic face to face convo.
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  21. I may not have had romantic love, but I am blessed with other forms of love from great friends and family. I'm also blessed with a good job that let's me try and do all kinds of hobbies. That has helped me come to terms that it's quite possible that I may never get that romantic love I keep hearing about.
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  22. I don't have a masturbation addiction. I'm just trying to cure myself by doing a microplastic detox.
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  23. Rejecting hustle culture and embracing slow living is the answer for me.
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  24. I honestly don't think I'm an introvert. I just have poor social skills. I enjoy being around people. I enjoy my alone time but too much of it drives me insane. I like being around people more. I want to talk to people, I want to open up. It's just hard because it's a new skill to me
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  25. I'm not entirely sure why I was recommended this video, but I'm glad that there are more and more men offering sound advice, to what I assume is mostly a demographic of young male viewers, with respect to romantic love, platonic love, and self-love. I think for all people, though, regardless of your relationship status, it's important that we de-centralize romantic love as being the only viable path to a successful social life. The love of our friends, families, and most importantly the love we have for ourselves, can be just as fulfilling as romantic love. I've been in plenty of romantic relationships and I put my self-love, platonic love and familial love on the backburner thinking that romantic love was the end-all-be-all, and it just isn't. I don't know how else to say that, but romantic love truly is only one kind of love, and it's no better or worse than the other kinds of love that are available to you. And honestly, if you believe that finding "the one" will make you feel whole, you still have a lot of inner work to do. Only you can make yourself feel whole. Build a home within yourself. Your purpose isn't to find the one, or to find your passion; it's just to live your life.
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  26. We just making it wayy too complicated
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  27. I was that guy. I came from a different generation where you were always expected to work hard and achieve or accomplish something. People pleasing in the workplace or over give was considered a good practice your a valuable person to have. But it also sets you up to be taken advantage of.
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  28. bro woke up and chose wisdom. great stuff Cole! keep it up
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  29. I'm tired of the fake people everywhere. Lock me away with my art supplies and I'm set on staying in.
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  30. At the end of the day, gratitude overrides all pain. A person needs to learn to love the hard times. To smile and rush forward toward pain/uncomfortability. You will always come out a better version of yourself.
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  31. I do agree with a lot of this in terms of the points you make about how to be a good partner however I do want to challenge the assumption I'm gathering that before the modern age of social media that our parents were not having situationshipish relationships. yes they didn't have as many options but by no means were they more mature than we are as young people. they were still being assholes, leading people on, not calling people again instead of breaking up with them, only being half-in relationships until they met someone they were more excited about etc etc. I don't think its a generational thing as much as a young people, flighty, non-commital because we don't know what we want from our lives thing. and plus people were more willing to settle back then because they didn't have options and because marriage was more of an expectation. You could say that things have significantly improved in some ways because being single is no longer a liability, and we have freedom and rights especially as women that were only truly available to us in the late 70s! so we are only recently seeing the fruits of our labour pay off. it does mean that because women don't have as much of a need for men beyond the enigmatic feelings of love and a high that you get when you're in love, as well as women who choose to build families. Other women are actually very practical when it comes to love in my experience. As in, if a man is treating her poorly, she is more likely to leave than stay because there isn't anything of material or emotional value to gain. and because women outpace men in emotional maturity and because now we have the freedom of choice, being single often feels like a better option than many of the options available to us. That being said, I don't like being cynical about anything in life, especially not love, and I would like to think that eventually we will settle into ourselves, want something more sustainable and out grow our restless ways but for now, its better in mant ways to just enjoy the ride! I know that for me, I've been in a relationship before, it wasn't perfect but I felt real feelings and I think that regardless of all of this social media blindness, people never forget how you make them feel and that is something that cannot be reduced to a number, a body or an ego boost. i would love more positive outlooks on romance because a part of me feels like its a self-fullfiling prophecy when I see those on social media spewing so much negativity about it. great video and really solid advice!!
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  32. Self improvement as a label sounds to me like not really living. Find what moves you. Not doing stuff just to check boxes and thatā€™s it.
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  33. Great to hear you're writing a novel! Keep it up bro, your dedication is inspiring - can't wait to see how it turns out! šŸ˜Š
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  34. I really like these unedited, free flowing conversation videos that you built this channel for. Love both your channels. ā¤ļø
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  35. My purpose is to be a collector of Pokemon Plushies, 1:64 Diecasts, and be a cool gamer too, but I'm very passionate about photography though. Good vid though. <3
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  36. I found my answer a year ago and it's: I'm gonna stay here to see what kind of stuff goes on in the world just for the fun of it šŸ˜Ž I'm still going to see the video ofc.
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  37. I feel like I was never supposed to be an introvert. Life kinda just led me become a functional introvert by slowly chipping away at me in a way I didn't realise. When I was a kid I was super extroverted and a bundle of sunshine but now I'm the opposite. I feel like I stole the life from the person I was supposed to become. I never wanted any of this.
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  38. The timing is insane! Thanks for the advice man, really needed to hear it
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  39. from the thumbnail i assumed you were gonna talk about drawing but this video rly helped. guess iā€™ll replace my scrolling with reading my endless collection of mangas šŸ˜‚
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  40. Man I love this channel it's more of a comfort zone with the comments and lightning ans the way you talk... Impacable
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  41. Cole - I canā€™t stress how much I enjoy these unscripted conversations. Truly. Iā€™ve recently been reading Manā€™s Search for Meaning by Dr. Viktor Franklā€¦ Iā€™m only halfway but thereā€™s this great quote thatā€™s something along the lines of, ā€œWe need to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as the ones being questioned by life. Our answer must not consist of talk and meditation, but rather right action and conduct.ā€ All in all, weā€™re just people trying to do good. Do what YOU see as the best course of action that aligns with your beliefs. Meaning will work itself. God bless you allšŸ™šŸ½šŸ™šŸ½
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  42. it's honestly scary how much your videos are like calling out my exact thoughts word by word as a 20 year old, i just always feel lost because i just feel unheard and unseen a lot and i dont know how to put it into words. with your videos its like someone finally noticed me, thanks for sharing your thoughts man i appreciate it alot
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  43. 1 million pieces of plastic per gallon of bottled water
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  44. Thank you for uploading in 4K and adding subtitles. Itā€™s such a treat to watchā€”
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  45. Love the transparency. I believe God exists due to the cosmological argument. The Bible says we all know God exists intuitively because of the greatness and complexity of nature. All tribal people believe in God or gods, I believe atheists exist due to the detachment from nature and natural living.
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  46. Cole starting his novelist arc. Looking forward to your first novelā¤
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  47. I feel like such a groupie each time you put out a video, *clicks inmediately*. Quality self-improvement content, Cole!
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  48. i miss cole so much, anyways welcome back! my comfort content creator šŸ¤šŸ¤šŸ¤ love from Phil. šŸ‡µšŸ‡­šŸ˜Š
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  49. I've never seen a YouTuber so honest about his insecurities, I'm happy to see good-hearted people in the world as you.
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  50. Needed this. Really struggling with setting expectations and feeling crushed afterwards when I don't achieve it. Going through this right now with school, it's such a vicious cycle. Great video tho, the unedited vids go well with your main channel.
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  51. This is exactly what I needed. Yesterday I was talking to a few girls and in the middle of the conversation and then it just came dead silent. But after watching this video I now have a better understanding.
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  52. Another good video and can 100% relate. Thanks for always being vulnerable and honest.
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  53. ā€‹Ā @ninjacats1647Ā I agree. Defining what a toxic relationship is tends to get blurred with inconsequential petty misunderstandings these days, which is problematic. There's also a clear line between those kinds of issues from a situation where relationships end the moment both parties realized they simply weren't compatible. Also, a litmus test if one's self-improvement is heading in the right direction is when someone finds a partner that compliments them rather than completes them. The latter indicates codependency, the former self-sustenance.
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  54. I never saw your content as "self-improvement," per say, but rather content I watch for inner peace. All these gurus online prey on insecurities and sex drive so they can promote their courses. The more you watch their content, the more they leave your mental health in shambles, and in the end, you turn around and question what the hell you were even watching.
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  55. Iā€™m going to a Friendsgiving party tonight with some people I donā€™t know/am not the closest with. Iā€™ve watched you for years and always thought your content was so sobering. I clicked on this video to kind of get my mind in the right place before the party, and I think you really helped me see the potential that there is in being open to new conversations and new people. Btw, Iā€™m a Christian, and I loved the story of that woman. I hope whatever path youā€™re on, that you would consider Jesus =) Great vid, as always!
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  56. Since I was a kid, I thought I needed to follow the standard script - financial independence, marriage, kids, house, etc. I was engaged over a year ago, in an incredibly unhealthy relationship. I learned that I had a lot of work from that relationship still to accomplish on myself, both to be a better person and also learn how to vet toxic people from entering my life. After a healthy amount of time, I tried to do the casual thing and went on dates with several women but found that damaging to the soul. After my last ā€œsituationshipā€ ended, I finally found contentment in just simply enjoying friendships, digging deeper into my spiritual formation, and engaging in fulfilling hobbies. If that is what is intended for the foreseeable future, I count it as a blessing and if something does change, I am more prepared now to better love another.
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  57. Missed your fitness videos man, gotta see more, youā€™ve got a ton of value to share!
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  58. Honestly this is one of your best vids imo
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  59. This is an interesting reframing! It reminds me of the ā€œI have to..ā€ versus ā€œI get to..ā€ saying when doing things youā€™re not excited about. It just helps to see it in a more positive light! Those calls sound very insightful, Cole - thanks for sharingšŸ™šŸ½
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  60. The algorithm brought me here. I feel you, same story with me. You express yourself phenomenally, subscribed. Letā€™s keep growing.
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  61. this has actually helped me with my Japanese studies, it made something click in my head and now all of sudden I've got a better work flow for my studying thanks guys!
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  62. The problem we're facing here is that everyone is now speaking out as if they're a guru in the space and offering their own unique views which is adding more things to the ever expanding list of self improvement. As someone who's been one of the top mods in Hamza's self improvement server, I realised that so many of the young guys who were there weren't even actually improving themselves, they were more focused on just ticking some boxes that aligned with whatever the narrative of the influencer is. It's become the new coping mechanism for a lack of control and direction in life. A lot of the guys I saw there who would make a point of telling the world that they're doing "monk mode" day 4 million of no fap, take 7 cold showers a day and have learned how to eat lightbeams to optimise their health just sounds like another extremist view on the world which ironically, is the complete antithesis of what "self improvement" is about. It's a way of life, not a challenge or a course that you take for a while, it's meant to be a journey where one seeks to develop in the areas of their lives to become a better human. Also thank you Cole, I've also recently stepped into the videography space with cinematic b rolls just like you mentioned, I find that this is a course of expression that people who were tangled in that world of having to be this perfect curated person is breaking out of and looking to become more aligned with who they want to be deep down inside. I believe that's what self improvement is.
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  63. Important to remember there is a difference between being an introvert and being shy. Shyness is a fear of others that is bad for anyone. Being introverted is just part of your personality. I am introverted and hate parties and large gatherings. If I am ever in one of those situations the funnest thing for me is talking to only one or two people that I actually find interesting.
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  64. I agree! Go beyond your comfort zone to gain new perspectives and enjoy life.
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  65. Well said Cole. Let me give a recent except of mine from last night that I think illustrates the point your trying to make: Iā€™m an introvert like you, my gym Iā€™ve been a regular member at for almost two years now. I know most of the people there, and they know me. But from being an introvert, I wouldnā€™t say that Iā€™m close friends per se with anyone there. Last night, there was a social event my gym was having at a brewery. I typically would have said no, out of not really knowing would I could expect if I went there, but decided to go cause it felt like the right thing to do. When I got there, there was already a friend group who was gathered around a table, since they somewhat knew me and I somewhat knew a few of them , I came over and just sat on the outskirts of the group, not really saying much, not caring to say much,just asking a few questions now and then. Like you said Cole, nothing super important , not talking about any of the deep stuff this channel talks about. Because most people arenā€™t interested in the deep stuff, and thatā€™s ok. I left early, cause I felt like Iā€™d done my part, Iā€™d shown my face and had been kind. Iā€™m glad I did, there was nothing significant that happened, I didnā€™t really make a new friend, accomplish this or that or the other, I just went there, and showed my face and was nice, and that was enough. That is i agree what more of us should be doing if we want to improve society, the little things like that, like you say. Just being kind to others with no particular agenda other than that
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  66. šŸŸ¦wool socks to bed = pre requisite for good sleepšŸ”µā¬›
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  67. Another great video and aww congratulations šŸŽ‰. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, it was definitely not easy sunshine and rainbows but we work through things and grow together. We still get on each other's nerves sometimes, I'm not going to lie lol but we've grown so much and are still learning.
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  68. Listened to this in 1.25x so Coleā€™s Japanese was fluentšŸ«” haha glad to have you back, brother!!šŸ™šŸ½
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  69. That opening statement really clicked for me recently. Been struggling with procrastination all year, partly because of my perfectionism (i.e. the expectations I set for my work), compounded by bad social media hygiene. Scrolling aimlessly, watching videos just to watch videos, etc. Backed myself into a helluva corner late this year, and discovered, that when I really focus, I can do as much as 9000 words in a day. Not meaningless words either, coherent thoughts and through-lines in storytelling. No obsessing, no dread, just writing. So the goal I'm setting for myself is creating a productive routine that can enable that side of me to stay in the zone consistently without the burnout and minimizing distraction. Looking forward to setting up that new standard. Great vid as always.
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  70. You are pretending to be Cole Hastings with a channel called Coal Hastings and re-uploading his content. Are you disappointed in yourself?
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  71. I am so here for this type of content. Thank you so much your videos are helping me so much. Iā€™m a 31 year old SAHM that spent the entirety of my 20ā€™s in a cycle of perpetual self loathing due to the choices I made to cope with the abuse I was faced with as a child. Itā€™s complicated but Iā€™m doing so much better now and content like this keeps me on track.
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  72. This is so spot on. Iā€™m a little older than you (30) but going through much the same thing. Moving in with my partner years ago pushed me to be that much better, and in ways where I almost didnā€™t realise things had improved, but some bad habits stick around. Now weā€™ve our baby on the way, and that sure as shit motivates you to get your ducks in a row!
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  73. 7:09 this is so true. I really notice after myself, that desptie all the conscious repeating for myself, that I do want better for myself, or be happy, or whatever happened here, secretly I do things that not entirely sabotage me, but really make my life uneccessary bit more difficult. Its like I really wanted to suffer a bit, and seriously - I think thats the beauty. One dude on the internet said ,that we all just try to hide our insanities in one way or another, so thats ultimately makes us sane. For me tho, I just find that I want more of a good story came out of my life, rather being steady and peaceful at all times. I know that a lot of people can disagree with this viewpoint on life, but I look at it through lens of film. The thought about regular life, FOREVER, makes me feel so trapped and anxious. Anyway, I yapped to much. Ty Cole
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  74. damn the right time , just needed it , felt pretty shit cause of me bein introverted , or should i say socially anxious in school
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  75. I asked ChatGPT how microplastics are getting into peopleā€™s bodies: ā€œMicroplastics can enter the human body through various pathways. Some common routes include: 1. **Ingestion**: Microplastics are often consumed unknowingly through contaminated food and water. They can be present in seafood, bottled water, salt, and even in the air we breathe. 2. **Drinking Water**: Microplastics have been found in tap water, bottled water, and other beverages, which can be a source of ingestion. 3. **Food Chain**: Microplastics can accumulate in the bodies of marine animals, which humans then consume. This includes seafood such as fish, shellfish, and even sea salt. 4. **Airborne Particles**: Microplastics are lightweight and can become airborne, potentially being inhaled. 5. **Food Packaging**: Some microplastics may leach from packaging materials into food, especially during processing and storage. Once ingested or inhaled, microplastics can potentially enter the bloodstream and lymphatic system, and may accumulate in various organs. The long-term health impacts of microplastic exposure are still being studied, but there are concerns about potential harm, including inflammation, oxidative stress, and the possibility of toxic chemicals associated with plastics leaching into the body.ā€
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  76. Already loving this backup channel
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  77. Cole. Thank you man. Hits extremely hard and has been something Iā€™ve lamented on for about 9 years or so. I am ok as I am, just flowing with the seasons: i think i always knew that but like you said, society perpetually pulls you in a different direct. Thank you brother ā¤
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  78. It's funny that I'm watching this video while doom-scrolling.
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  79. This couldn't have come at a more perfect time. Thank you for sharing this so much, Cole.
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  80. 1 month into a newly turned long distance relationship and already struggling with the adjustment, needed this video as a bit of a reality check. Thank you.
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  81. That top 10 videos feature is nothing short of devious. At best villainous
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  82. Congrats on the engagement Cole!! Been watching for a long time thatā€™s sick
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  83. Physical books for me! If they have been good enough for people for 1,000s of years then they are good enough for me now.
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  84. 9:19 that's so true!! Instead of focusing on success, for me, I can focus on the progress that much failures will be present before the growth itself! At least I can control progression!
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  85. My takeaway from this is that it's more about becoming myself rather than improving myself. Self improvement for me hasn't helped my identity, and I suppose my quarter life crisis is because I was improving the wrong self idk.
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  86. I've been watching some of your videos from the main channel for some years now, but this channel really clicked with me. Just loving that its unscripted and it feels closer to the viewer, in my experience at least. Love from brazil.
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  87. Thank you Cole, really needed to hear that. I'll join you brother. I got really tired of faking who I am and trying to fit other people's perspective.
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  88. From someone who to this day struggles with feeling/being unreliable this was a great reminder to change the way I think about my goals. Something else I recommend is to try and picture how proud you'll feel after taking the step to whatever it is you wanna do, instead of thinking "Well I feel alright right now, so I can do that thing later". Just something to look out for whenever you notice yourself being stagnant. Either way, great video!
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  89. I truly empathize that you're one of those lesser human beings that haven't experienced the greatness yet, but Potato + red 40 goes unbelievably hard
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  90. Great video! I agree totaly, moving in to a house in a small town, i know no one there, i am gonna get a garage, a workshop, for buimding cars, having hobbies, having privacy and space, i can't wait to find myself again and evolve!šŸ’ŖšŸ» need to loose weight, excersice , stop porn and junk food, i am shaking up everything, this video hit home perfectly
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  91. "I will" pairs well with "I get to"
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  92. This is so accurate. Especially that part where you said your anxious attachment got worse the closer to the end of a relationship. That's exactly how my last girlfriend and I ended. I got super anxiously attached and was seeking more and more validation until she eventually had enough. My mom is bipolar so I'm pretty sure that's why I was like that. Now, I don't think I'm as anxiously attached since I've spent so long alone. Great video man. I like these longer videos that I can just listen to.
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  93. I believe in God, I believe Science and Religion can work together to explain things in this world and I do believe in the after life. I would rather believe that then just nothing. As long as people believe in whatever God or religion that teaches them positive things in life, we can be better people
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  94. Mad respect for cole speaking Japanese (coming from a hafu)
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  95. Congrats man, proud of you. Thanks for the tips.
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  96. As someone who is literally starting a self improvement channel this info has been valuable. I've been through some crazy life events, and I've learned a lot through pain and believe that things like depression can be an advantage to push you. Lets do this šŸ‘Š
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  97. It felt surreal watching this, it's like I was listening to another version of myself describe my life. Thank you for making this, looking forward to the novel.
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  98. Dr Joe Dispenza says be defined by a vision of the future rather than a record of the past
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  99. Itā€™s a second channel
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  100. I was literally thinking about 20 minutes ago, ā€œjeez no wonder Iā€™m having trouble with focus and memory, Iā€™m trying to learn/progress in 6+ areas at the same timeā€¦ Maybe I should reign it in and focus on 1 or 2 of those things for nowā€ and then your video popped up. This really helped articulate a lot of thoughts Iā€™ve been having lately, cheers from Australia man šŸ»
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  101. ā€‹@CoalHastings yeah thanks man. Sitting and whining won't change anything I guess.
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  102. I have a similar horror airport story from a couple years ago but definitely less horrible than what you went through. šŸ˜… Hoping it'll be the worst iteration of such a story for me though! šŸ˜„šŸ™ˆ Great video again, thanks! šŸ‘šŸ™
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  103. Cole, if you've always had sleep problems get checked out for sleep apnea just on the off chance you have it. I discovered mine in my mid 30's. I cannot understate how life changing it can be to understand it and sleep for a full night.
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  104. Sometimes I go to the library closer from home and bring my color books with me, while putting the phone away. It was a relieve and helped me to be disconnect from the problems of this world. And... felt relaxing like if my Brain was opening up with new ideas and creativity. What clears my mind the most? is when I go outside and stay away from my messy bedroom and computer at home.
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  105. Thank You So Much For This Cole
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  106. ShreddedNerd has an excellent video that goes into detail about internet politics effects on people. It's a long one but worth it.
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  107. This is what i literally needed to hear and i know everyone says this but honestly Ive just been scared to just say hello to people, even the ones that I do appreciate and ones that appreciate me back and I almost use every excuse under the sun to not talk to people and feel weird but I ve also observed in other people. Its such a simple thing to greet people and almost everyone appreciates it, yet it doesn't really happen as much anymore. From now on I'd like to be a bit more intentional and be the "weird" one it would probably mean that I'd have a sense of community and find others like me :) Thanks again for the great advice Cole!!!
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  108. Not really, for non native speakers it's actually super helpful
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  109. Let me help bro
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  110. FIRST :) thank you for acknowledging this and being honest and open (and also self aware enough) to share about it I also have been feeling the same way myself, as someone whoā€™s watched self improvement videos for YEARS almost every other day if not daily - at a certain point you have to take action and stop focusing on other peopleā€™s journeys (as inspiring as they might be) and embark on your own. Also the fact that thereā€™s just SO much content out there it can be overwhelming and like you said a lot of the times repetitive Excited to see what you post on this channel and always appreciate the authenticity!!
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  111. Just subscribed, good content and good topics
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  112. If you do finish your book, you should narrate an audiobook version, you've got a really nice voice.
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  113. Thanks for the advice, I was really anxiously dependant with my ex gf but now I have a new partner she's helping me out to change and to be independent emotionally and in addition to your advice, I'm feeling better šŸ˜Š
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  114. Iā€™ve had these thought processes so often lately. I love this and have so much respect you having this ā€œconversationā€.
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  115. This is spot on. 25 and my wife is pregnant with our first child. Time to buck up because itā€™s not going to get easier. Over the last few months Iā€™ve felt a transformation happening within me. Itā€™s still a process, but I find myself always taking that extra step. Stop with the excuses and leave everything on the table. Subbed
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  116. U are improving without a script tho ! gg
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  117. Just spent my whole day reading Steve Jobs' biography, finished it and watched this video right after. Completely agree, the brain rot of shorts and reels doesn't entice my brain at all. Books are my go to these days
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  118. While I dont personally believe this stuff as I never have felt, seen, or experienced all these coincidences you speak of. Certainly theres things science can't explain, maybe that's for now or forever. But then you get to renouned scientist like Max Planck, a nobel prize winner in Physics was a Lutheran. That things are too precise to be left to chance and randomness, hence a higher power. Again, it's not my cup of tea but definitely gets one thinking
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  119. Worked at the first job I ever had for 9 yrs. Till I was 26. Once I got a new job it was incredible how much I instantly grew more confident and mature. It was one of the main reason for my getting a new job. Great video
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  120. Keep up these unscripted videos, Cole! So proud of you! šŸ”„
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  121. I think im one of those people who is an extrovert with social anxiety and Ive labelled myself as an introvert as an excuse to hide behind and self-isolate. Its seriously affecting my mental health so I need to work on it
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  122. Simply put.... Mark Manson's.... subtle art of not giving a f..... Great postā¤
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  123. Really great topic Cole! You highlighted a lot of why I feel put off to the modern self-improvement guru content. The harsh and assertive advice always felt too formulaic, as if there is some hard set path to ā€œwin lifeā€. You never win life, you just keep enduring until itā€™s over. That endurance takes different forms of experience and heights of joy and despair for every single individual. Itā€™s all nuanced. Thatā€™s why I prefer more intimate sit down talks like this if anything from a ā€œself-improvementā€ person, which we all are in our own way. Weā€™re all on the heroā€™s journey. I much would rather read a great canon novel or mature film than a self help book or finance bro reel. Life is just peopleā€™s stories. And your own. The only consistent conceptual thread of my ever evolving philosophical framework is empathy. For myself. And everyone. Preciate this new channel itā€™s probably more my style haha. Keep it up!
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  124. I remember the first couple times you talked about psychedelics on your channel and the idea of a collective consciousness & higher power, God, etc. I was at a similar point in my life where I was diving into Eastern philosophy religion, more broad concepts of spirituality, and I thought it was super cool that you were talking about it more. I actually remember I had taken acid and I opened up YouTube and you had literally just released a video about psychedelics minutes before that. I just smiled to myself and was like, "well, I used to call this a coincidence." Now, as you say, I call them synchronicities. Life is so amazing man.
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  125. The way I see it, when you say youā€™re on ā€œSelf-improvementā€ you put this incredibly unnecessary burden on yourself to always be ā€œimprovingā€, which prevents you from enjoying the simpler aspects of life or even things that are just for fun such as video games or days out with friends, which ultimately destroys your fulfilment in life because you never give yourself a chance to just relax. I believe taking things slowly, allowing yourself to enjoy life and learn new things as you go along is the key to living a life you can be truly happy with rather than constantly needing to be ā€œbetterā€, which stops you from ever getting a proper chance to stop and smell the flowers, from enjoying the present moment. You end up chasing things like cold showers, nofap, money, women, journaling etc thinking that they will change your life when in reality, itā€™s the self discovery and reflection you get from living your life and learning from your mistakes is actually what truly helps you to improve. Take life at your own pace and figure out what works for you and who you are. Thatā€™s how you grow as a person, in my opinion.
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  126. Bro you just showed us how language learning looks like, initially its a lot of mistakes, checking translator, asking and kinda embarassing yourself but you can improve very fast if you won't give up.
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  127. Can resonate a lot. Especially the reassurance. If I think someone is ignoring my message I spiral into depression. As soon as they get back to me I spring back to normal. Sometimes I tear up because it makes me realize I'm worthy of being responded too. One thing that's helped me is going to large concerts/events where social interactions are fleeting. It's helped me realize that I don't need to always be hovering around a group to feel connected to it. The best friend groups are the ones that let you roam freely.
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  128. Thanks for sharing your experience with this Cole. I think it should really resonate with everyone. Hereā€™s a passage this reminded me of from The Brothers Karamozov: He was that sort of jealous man who, in the absence of the beloved woman, at once invents all sorts of awful fancies of what may be happening to her, and how she may be betraying him, but, when shaken, heartbroken, convinced of her faith-lessness, he runs back to her; at the first glance at her face, her gay, laughing, affectionate face, he revives at once, lays aside all suspicion and with joyful shame abuses himself for his jealousy. I think whenever our jealousy or worry from unfounded attachment gets in the way of us loving, i.e. being happy for the person doing great things to further their individuality and live their life, then we need to take a step back and reevaluate our relationship with this person as to save yourself, them, or both of you from passionate and impossible pain. Make sure youā€™re not deluding yourself through romanticism and just try your best to be grateful for the good times you were blessed to have had with this person up to this point, and treat them with grace. ā€œIt takes strength to be gentle and kindā€ -Morrissey, I Know Itā€™s Over
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  129. I joined a library that's literally right outside my apartment a few days ago, I also started going to a park near my place, sitting under a tree and reading /drawing on my iPad, then going for a solid 40 minute walk, my girlfriends been visiting her family in China for the past month, I miss her but I'm trying to better myself while she's gone and get to know myself better, I am currently reading King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, a really fascinating book, highly recommend, great vid Cole!
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  130. I seriously resonated with this video man. Stoked to one day read your book mate
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  131. Working on a statue that involves this exact sentiment. Calling it "gotta move on". Was inspired by the song afterlife by avenged sevenfold. It's a person walking through a door frame made of oak wood (symbol of courage). With a Phoenix (symbol of change) as the door. Symbolizes how it take courage to get to change.
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  132. What we say after ā€œI amā€ is one of the most powerful, or destructive, tools we have as people. Also who we are we are is literally ā€œI amā€, and thatā€™s it. Whatever we put after that is the identity we choose. Better than any identity though is no identity and just living authentically.
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  133. In my mid 30s and feeling this. Thank you Cole for addressing this.
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  134. I like this laid back style of the channel Coal šŸ˜Ž
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  135. Finding jesus is the Best Thing that can happen to anyone, i have loved to hear that story at the beginning of the video
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  136. Suffer so much that you make it your very identity. And actually getting better will result in you having nothing, ironically enough.
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  137. I do think I'm fairly receptive to conversations with people. I make eye contact, smile, and say hello / good morning to strangers fairly regularly. I also really like hearing people's stories. One thing I don't really do, though, is initiate further conversation myself (beyond the initial greeting). I just don't generally feel the need to vocalize my observations to others.
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  138. Another good way to go about it is when another incident that causes the unhealthy version of ā€œyouā€ show up again you can tell yourself that that version is not you, but rather a shitty version of you in response to the situation and that you are really a much different, separate being from said incident. But this skill must come from the pause between stimuli and reaction first.
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  139. @ Thanks man! Really appreciate what you do!
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  140. I had to face the worst depression to enjoy suffering currently
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  141. Glad to see you here in a more unstructured format! This is the "other" Eric (Aniversario) on your Discord and Skool communities. I appreciate your take on the current state of self improvement on YouTube. I have watched your videos (and those of other self improvement creators) for a few years and I'd like to say that I genuinely have made some meaningful strides in life progress since then, but of course there is always (much) more room to grow. I'd say that my consumption has actually stayed about the same since then, but there are some results to justify those many hours of watching.
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  142. Actually Getting out there, interacting in person with people, and getting involved to help improve the world. Thatā€™s what I naturally found myself drawn to more as I have stopped watching self improvement. At some point , this should be the videos goals though, right? To help you actually ā€˜ self improve ā€˜so that you donā€™t need them and donā€™t want to watch them as much anymore. So then you can actually get out there in the world and make an impact, which to some degree is what I think we all really want to be able to do
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  143. I have been feeling like i need to slow down lately, too. I was obsessed with having a "productive day" until this thought hit me, Can i keep this up forever? I don't wanna be burdened by unreal standards. It's so hard to want to change and regard change and growth as a good thing. I'm trying to live and not simply exist which is kinda what i tend to do when im trying to get everything out of 24 hours. I used to sleep 4 hours a day and i kept this up for 2 years. I'll try to be better. ā¤
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  144. These types of interviews should have Japanese subs and need to be seen by Japanese people. I've been in Japan for 8 years and most Japanese have never even thought to consider different ways of thinking, even though many of them admit they're miserable. They would benefit a lot from it I think, especially coming from a Japanese person (they can't say "well it's because you're different")
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  145. How are you some how exactly like me ( like 99%) And have had similar experiences as i have even though i live in india šŸ˜¢šŸ˜¢šŸ˜¢
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  146. Sometimes I feel like your videos are so well timed. Thank you for all the content youā€™ve been putting out all these years šŸ™ŒšŸ»āš”ļø
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  147. Excellent stuff. I too married at 27 haha, congrats dude. Mic sound good
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  148. Ā @CoalHastingsĀ  yeah thatā€™s basically what I believe, I believe the arguments for God are very strong and itā€™s hard to believe that all life happened by accident.
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  149. Very informative & interesting, thanks!
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  150. Oh, I'm confused at first then I realized this is a different channel. Subscribed to Coal!
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  151. Cole always comes in clutch with the wholesome big bro vibes ā˜„ļøšŸŒšŸ¾ā€ā™‚ļø
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  152. The timing of this video for me!! My goodness
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  153. For a moment there Cole I thought you drew that character on your non iPad šŸ¤£ I enjoy watching this video because Doom Scrolling just to get a nice hit or see whatā€™s new every freaking second is real! For me itā€™s video games (mostly PokĆ©mon for now) because I love the stories they have and gameplay. I donā€™t over do it but itā€™s mostly what I love to do when Iā€™m wanting to escape reality. I should get back to creating art because itā€™s another medium that I really enjoy and can offer so much more than Doom Scrolling. Finally, physical books are always better and libraries can offer a crap tone to check out. Thanks my man!
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  154. Hey. Thank you so much for your videos and especially the subtitles. I'm not from an English-speaking country, and I'm just learning this language. I really like your accent that is pretty clear for me and your way of giving information. Your videos helps me a lot to improve my listening and vocabulary And as a bonus, I get some thoughts to think about ā˜ŗļø
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  155. I like your content but I mostly prefer minimally edited videos, so when I saw the new channel, I was so happy. The concoction I've always wanted to see but thought wouldn't happen.
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  156. I'm glad I'm not the only one who likes the minimally edited videos. They just feel so authentic as if it's a person speaking to you directly.
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  157. Ā @none377Ā  Yes. Also gives your dopamine receptors a much needed breakšŸ˜‚
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  158. Good video Mr Cole!!!! True words said!!!
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  159. Me seeing this: ".... oof."
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  160. Great video. Thank you for sharing!
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  161. i love dry creek wranglers stuff also
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  162. Cole, also I am healing from this aswell. It's been a uphill grind but I know you got this
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  163. Hey mate I absolutely love this video and your simple style routine, I'm really trying to minimalize mine and your results have proven to me that it's the right way forward. Just a question - wouldn't adding a bit of work on the side and rear delts be really beneficial as they aren't worked in compound movements? Would like to know your thoughts. Edit: Also, I noticed you don't do any specific core work, do you think it's hit enough in the rest of your routine?
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  164. I enjoyed hearing your story. Very cool but Iā€™m sure the airport thing was annoying as hell lol
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  165. If anyone here is considering RuneScapeā€¦donā€™t.
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  166. These videos are based and colepilled
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  167. I like the tone of your voice. Pretty sure many women find it attractive
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  168. man itā€™s hard out here but trying my best to better myself and be a better partner
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  169. Thank you for existing and sharing this with us šŸ™ā¤
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  170. I request you to make a video on- "How to stop repeating the same mistakes". Thanks for adding value to my life šŸ’Œ
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  171. Didn't know you studied Japanese.
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  172. god is real
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  173. thank you for this video,this video make me feel that im not alone in my journey,that some also have the same experience as me. I am very very interested to read your novel,Good luck man
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  174. I was thinking, if you're doing this with analogies from your vid calls... Call Hastings, would have been a great tag. Great vid, there's actually a method that psychiatrists and parenting coaches use for this approach. I forgot the name, thošŸ˜…
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  175. Thank you so much for this
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  176. Please do everyday a vidio , ā¤ I really love your advicese, you are my friend who i don't have.
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  177. This side channel of yours is such a gem. Thanks for making what you do :) I am really good at speaking with others but I absolutely cannot approach people lol. Very relevant video!
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  178. Before watching the video: I'd say fear and procrastation. Edit: i see what you did there šŸ‘
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  179. Absolutely beautiful display of Devine Introspection and Expression šŸ©µ
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  180. Thank you Cole for being you! ā¤
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  181. Literally me šŸ¤“
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  182. ā¤ā¤ā¤
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  183. bro did more in 13 min video to solve my problem then my psych did in 2 years
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  184. Very important topic, great that you're sharing, Cole.
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  185. Your videos in this channel are other kind of gold ā¤ Thank you so much for make them God Bless you Love you brah šŸ’œ
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  186. There's a fascinating song called "I Think..." by Bladee that kinda touches upon everything you mention here. Also, I will join your online community, brother. Ive got to start making --- and more importantly, acting upon --- my New Year's Resolutions!
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  187. šŸ’”šŸ—£ Communication is the key
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  188. I wanna read your novel
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  189. šŸ’œ
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  190. Thought it's just anther "stop scrolling bro" video. Turns out to be a lot more than that. Cole you best believe we're getting you that house in no time.
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  191. Hey Cole, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery šŸ«¶šŸ½
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  192. Whatā€™s the saying again? Slow down to go fast?
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  193. i recently had a personal epiphany on the topic of detaching expections, and hearing you say "detached expectations" makes me feel inexplicably validated- almost as if you were telling me i did the right thing. this channel was a wonderful idea and is something refreshing and natural. love the videos cole, keep going ā¤
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  194. Hi i am from from india , your video really helped me a lot and gave me direction when i needed. recently i had gone through a class change but bounced back to my older class but the initial discomfort of change wouldve been worth it if i stayed in that class because sooner or later i came to realise it was the better class. That regret haunts me till this day and even led to depression. I went through rejection , failure after failure after that . That depressive episode took over me and my academics were several affected. But somehow i found this video and it gives me hope to live and move on. Thank you cole.
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  195. I do tend to like reading physical copies of books more but for Eink underlining, highlighting and note taking directly in a pdf is definitely more convenient. For fiction I donā€™t see the point in doing that but for nonfiction, I like to revisit parts of the book I found most interesting.
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  196. This is some positive shit right here boys and girls šŸ˜Š
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  197. Man you are a beat just like me leta gooo beast mode good stuffšŸ’ÆšŸ’ÆšŸ”„
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  198. Hey Cole, you remind me of a mindset Iā€™ve created recently and that is, everytime you have a bad day, itā€™s unfortunate, and it happens once in a while, but you can make that day more of a W if you can do things that make you move towards your goals/help others/seizing the day. Really helps me handle tough times. Also really sorry you had to go through all that terrible airport stuff šŸ˜¢
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  199. I love ur way of scripting in ur main channel ! Im happy that u opened this new channel ā¤
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  200. thhanks coal, sincerly
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  201. Thank you for being so honest about everything. It really resonated with me and my experiences in relationships.
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  202. ā¤ Lake always, you have touched my mind again... I live in the shadow of unrequited good intentions, since most of the time no matter how big my orders have been, nobody bothers to bid me goodbye when I leave the store,... at the bar, I had a play up to the bartenders šŸŽ‰ I have become mentally so like a pariah, that I have to make videos featuring me talking to myself...ā¤ Love
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  203. I've been watching your content for a while & am super happy that you've recently made this second channel to give your direct perspective and insights into topics in addition to your main channel content. "Self-Improvement" as a label is incredibly limiting. I consider you a video essayist & a pristine one at that, especially when talking about social issues and phenomena! Best of wishes to you & thanks for positively influencing my life! šŸ’™
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  204. is life's purpose just to 'feel good'? Maybe the wrong starting point to begin with is the pursuit of happiness itself. If belief in god should do anything for you, it should be to mobilize you to fight the injustice of the world, not to make you content and complacent. Yet I find it better to fight injustice and engage in struggle without the justification of some higher power, that's just me; whatever it takes to make a better world possible.
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  205. watched your video on gooning yesterday and found it really informative and well made, then i thought a lot about doomscrolling and checked youtube and seen this recently posted video
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  206. Don't forget the other phrase that also holds you back just as much, "I should". I'm guilty of using that to make non-commitments.
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  207. @CoalHastingsĀ  i am so proud of you and happy for you šŸ’•šŸ’œ
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  208. Would love to see more with you two, this was a great conversation
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  209. To have new friends, join Meetup, and attend events with like-minded people. šŸ˜Š
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  210. wool socks to bed = no coffee needed the next dayā¬œšŸŸØšŸŸ£
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  211. I commented in the self mastery group about the ā€œconversations with Godā€ book series Iā€™m currently listening to. I think youā€™d really like them and would find a lot of agreement and insight in the concepts that the series presents.
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  212. ruin scape lol also farm Ranarr Weeds, the profit ratio is CRACKED
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  213. Hereā€™s to finding God brother šŸ„‚. Say hello to your 535th subscriber
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  214. Yeehaw congrats on 1k šŸ„³
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  215. You look great! Thanks for the simple explanation.
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  216. You are very remarkable person! i hope more people have the same way of thinking
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  217. Wonderful insight as usual! Genuine question: In your opinion, should we not strive to be our best selves no matter our external environment/circumstances? In other words, how do we know if we truly need to remove ourselves from our current environment/circumstances in order to reach our "full potential"?
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  218. Also great video man! it looks like youā€™re really comfortable doing this sort of content, and itā€™s All really interesting!
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  219. Who is watching this at 2x speed? This video making me think šŸ¤”, if i should continue learning japenese.
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  220. Beautiful physique ā¤ļø
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  221. I do sports, reading and all this stuff, before I even knew the word self-improvement. I am just enjoing doing this stuff. I love it this way and wouldnt say, I'm on self-improvement. Really enjoy, watching your content
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  222. Congratulations Cole! (I read the latest news letter:)
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  223. I like to call it the Universe
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  224. Needed this
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  225. Hey Cole, thanks for your Videos. Your Videos already helped me during a hard breakup and I woul like so say thank you for that. I can feel that you really mean the things you are saying in your Videos and I respect that. I can see some points from this Video in myself and I think there is some work for me to do. Keep up the good work and stay safe! Greetings from Germany.
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  226. helping the alg w this comment, good luck bro
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  227. i just started college and these feelings of not belonging have resonated with me so deeply, it always seems to blur the line between my intentions and my insecurities. iā€™m so thankful i found this video, i actually really needed to hear this. i wish you luck on your journey šŸ’–
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  228. The fries aren't gonna put themselves in the bag, Charcoal Hatings
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  229. i needed to hear this right now
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  230. Thank you, your personal experience helped me to reflect on my attachement issues. Btw, I like this "unfiltered" formats
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  231. I really needed to know that right now!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts
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  232. Found some old newspapers from the 1930s that were used as a coal chute barrier within the walls. Itā€™s been enlightening to see words I was somewhat familiar with but donā€™t use as often or not at all. Since finding these pieces of history was so exciting and relevant to my historical interests, I was able to retain and use them moreā€”what a treat to discover new words and expand your vocabulary.
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  233. Plot twist: the guy had dementia
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  234. Oh no
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  235. For a second I was like did he change his name for Christmas but no this is just your second channel šŸ˜‚
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  236. I was ripped in my 20s and i did hit daily, long hills and a bridge, at least 6 miles a da and dancing at night clubs 2 nights a week.
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  237. this is so real
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  238. Very refreshing Cole , I have been following you for some time now . Some of your videos are boring and some are brilliant. Some I take nothing from others just a few comments but these comments resonate in my life . And I do use your thoughts to help me at times . So in the end Iā€™m glad you randomly came into my life . Martin a 60 year old English guy whoā€™s slightly better off by watching you vids x
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  239. Love you bro ā¤ā¤
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  240. Cole, I visited Japan last April, tried to catch the Sakura cherry blossom season in Kyoto at its peak. Itā€™s an amazing place, between visiting a Zen temple and afterwards hopping on a Shinkansen. Itā€™s where the old and new merge together perfectly. Not many other places can strike such a perfect balance in scenic beauty, despite the work culture being too oppressive
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  241. there are two words that will make you successful in life: "Git Gud"
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  242. Ngl, These are the videos I really fuck with. I honestly prefer watching unfiltered channels compared to main channels. Like you said, I don't even watch your main videos like that anymore, Unless you got something interesting. It's nice watch something and listen like you're next to me instead of watching a documentary
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  243. The egooo
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  244. Great interview and a good friend to have
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  245. thanks for the different perspective , I love the honesty. I do admit I have an addiction to self improvement., that sometimes becomes toxic , insecure I do admit I have been woke to the fact that I am a gym cell from your last video and Iā€™ve been working so much on myself that Iā€™ve killed a lot of opportunities outside of my life
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  246. just came here from the main channel and i love this type of stuff too. Raw and unfiltered rants šŸ˜‚šŸ«‚
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  247. Thank you
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  248. I really like this style of content. No edits and something you can just listen to. Also for anyone looking to turn their phone into a dumb phone I personally recommend this product called Brick. Itā€™s a physical product that you tap your phone on to turn it to a dumb phone. So you can distance yourself from the brick which I think is the easiest way to stay off your phone. I keep mine in my car so I have to walk down 3 flights of stairs if I want to access social media. Itā€™s helped me out so much and I highly recommend it.
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  249. Greetings from Greece. What is the title of your main channel, so i can write it down and remember it ? I am also addicted to internet, and trying to restart a relation with books, few pages everyday (for beginning). šŸ™‚šŸ‡¬šŸ‡·šŸ‡ŗšŸ‡ø
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  250. Sorry, i just found it: "Cole Hastings" .
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  251. Wow put me to sleep thanks
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  252. I feel this on a personal level. I've used my introversion as an excuse to isolate myself and it was probably the one of the most damaging things I did to my mental health. Thankfully I learned a lesson, that human connection is not only important but also essential for our well-being. I'm trying to turn this whole thing around and reinvent myself by taking small steps and forming good habits. Thank you for spreading the message, Cole.
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  253. This is a sort of thing I was thinking about this morning. I went to the gym last night and there was a girl who looked at me a few times and we made eye contact a few times and I didnā€™t smile or acknowledge her existence. So I thought I need to more often in situations just simply smile or say hey. Itā€™s more natural and easier for me to see someone but keep my head down and not smile. I feel like if I just simply smile even if itā€™s a soft smile and say hey it would open up doors for me thinking that even just a soft smile or hey could open doors for conversations and such.
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  254. I see "on self-improvement" akin to being marketable , entering into the "self-improvement market". Either being on the supply side by producing content, merch, motivation, validation, etc.; Or the consumer side which has its large demand (especially in young men) in today's society. Because of this, being "on"/"off" is like being in/out of this "market", but the thing is self-improvement is an ongoing thing in each of our personal lifestyle. The demand for self-improvement is always here ever since within each of us, it's just falling victim to capitalism and became marketable nowadays imho.
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  255. I needed to hear this today. Thank you
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  256. Yeah, i just released this 6 or 8 months ago, after using "introvert" excuse for 7-9 years
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  257. This channel is a pure hidden gem, cheers Cole your the best of us
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  258. Hey Cole, Eric here. In your Discord and your Skool community. I like the video format and enjoy. I havenā€™t been active as Iā€™m trying to take the silent action, minus me telling you this nowā€¦and hope to report when something has happened and not within the ā€œIā€™m going to do thisā€ Youā€™re correct, youā€™re different, and super authentic. I donā€™t enjoy the Hamza hate heā€™s received. The only problem he had is that he was so certain and then changed his mind on a lot of things. I think Iā€™ve seen the same young YouTubers you have that tell you to meditate šŸ˜‚. I appreciate you also mentioning in this video that the new ones to succeed are likely the ones that do change it up and offer something else thatā€™s different than the norm. That gives me comfort in the journey Iā€™m constantly battling within on whether to be super unique or bland and safe. Thank you
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  259. Coal Hastings
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  260. @ dude i swear i got so confused like how did youtube let this man make two channels with the same name and then i noticed your game
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  261. Hello chat
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  262. 330th sub
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  263. Cole ever thought of becoming a psychiatrist? I think you'll be a good one
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  264. Ive heard this also called holistic improvement from another youtuber, and this definitely falls in the category I want to be in self improvement wise to get my brain back on track when its lost!
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  265. I will definitely be eagerly awaiting your book :) I've had some wild instances of synchronicity/manifestation that made me believe in SOMETHING, just not the big man in the sky. Here's an example. When I was homeless, living in San Fransisco, all of my stuff was stolen, besides what I had on my person. Fortunately my wallet was with me. I lost a bunch of stuff that was important to me, like my GBA SP from childhood and Pokemon Games from Silver up to Moon. A stuffed animal I'd had since I was 5. My 2 and a half octave Casio keyboard. I was so angry and went around searching for crackheads to interrogate, but it didn't matter. My stuff was gone. Most of all, I was missing my keyboard. I'm a musician, and having an instrument is more valuable to me than anything. Playing music is what I'm made for. So I said to the ether, "None of that stuff matters to me. I'll give it all up. I just want my piano." And I let it be, moving on and collecting the necessities again like clothing, a backpack, sleeping bag, etc. Well, a few days later, someone messaged me on Facebook. They had found my little Casio keyboard in an office parking lot on the other side of town along with an old ID I had kept for no reason really. They wanted to get it back to me. So, I had my keyboard back, just like I asked. And from then on, I realized that none of this stuff matters. It's all temporary. It solidified my identity as a musician. The idea that music is what I'm supposed to do. I also realized that there was something greater than just myself. The universe, The Is, that I am part of. Not separate from. Also, regarding psychedelics, I could probably write a book about how much they have helped me pinpoint the root of my issues. They aren't a cure, they are a diagnostic tool. We still have to do the legwork.
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  266. Great vid
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  267. Hi coal
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  268. Pretty good timing as i just got my bachelor's degree.
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  269. First. Cole posted right after Hamza lol
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  270. I'm glad that I found your channel. I appreciate you & the topics that you cover.
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  271. Thanks man. Put to words vague notions I'd only gesture at. Good luck with the novel, thats a worthwhile hike to climb
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  272. Nice you sound pretty Japanese!!
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  273. Yooo second channel? Now I have more stuff to listen to on my walks
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  274. I started philosophy essays for my YouTube. Thereā€™s things we have to do. The information is worth everything šŸ˜­
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  275. I love your videos. You talk about stuff that matters.
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  276. Ā @CoalHastingsĀ sure thing! Greetings from Costa Rica šŸ‡ØšŸ‡·
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  277. Love you brother ā¤ā¤...i know it has been a while .
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  278. Cole, I really like yyour videos especially the research you do. How do you do all the research? I want to do it as well. Can you make a step by step video on it? Or please just explain the process in the comments please.
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  279. I have a shirt with your berserk wallpaper on it. Guts is the goat
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  280. šŸ”„
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  281. This is the Coal Hastings we needed to see lol
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  282. Grey video, Cole! Moving out of my hometown has been heavy on my mind lately.. this makes me think Iā€™m on the right track with that thoughtšŸ«”
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  283. This video in it of itself is a message to me from whatever "god" rules over this domain. Good work. So on the nose it feels like a personal attack. Love it.
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  284. Great video! Looking forward to that novel! I started to get back into reading books last summer when i moved to a new city and checked out the library. Since i am a curious individual and interested in a lot of topics, going to the library meant choosing a new little topic each week, so i read books about the alps, our skin and society. Only this November though did i learn the importance of fictional books. I am doing my bachelor's thesis right now and that caused me a lot of insomnia and anxiety so i wanted to read novels i could just enjoy without thinking about it too much. Recently i finished "the book thief" by zusak and i loved it. I also started to use a booktracker "Reado". Whenever i have the time, i also started to actively write essays or just thoughts and reviews to different thoughts expressed in non-fictional books. Reflecting the authors thoughts and doing some thinking on my own beyond has given me a lot of satisfaction as well. Anyways, have a great day, thank you for sharing your experience!
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  285. yooo this ur second channel??? you're pushin broooā¤ā¤ love from italy
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  286. Good one. Thanks for sharing brother ā¤
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  287. You just gained a new sub manšŸ‘ I never knew there were other people out there who feel or have felt like how I felt. Youā€™re really good at expressing yourself and making a point to the audience. Keep it up bro!
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  288. This is very true ! Nowadays people carry self improvement like a jewel on their head. If you are into self improvement its better for you not for others so usually there is no point in telling it to others.
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  289. In my perception, the label of being ā€œon self improvementā€ feels ideologically encompassing for just becoming a better person, feeling like a pseudo religion of a sort. It gives direction and a higher power to exist for, being the greater future self, to which you can only know exists with faith. The different practices like meditation and cold showers as different forms of prayer, things like junk food and video games being sin/haram, nonfiction books being a library of different biblical texts, places like gyms as shrines and YouTube channels as churches with the creators themselves as the priests. Getting baptised will cost you the price of a video call with X YouTuber thoughā€¦ Take a look at Hamza with his cult. Jeffery vs Adonis as Devil vs God and the buzz cut being a circumcision... Also I think saying youā€™re ā€œon self improvementā€ kind of implies in a way that you feel you need to improve and therefore you feel you arenā€™t good enough of a person, all perceived and judged in a split second from hearing it in a phrase and label. I think thatā€™s why thereā€™s distain for it.
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  290. Thank you for this video :) Just like the market. The stock has to go up and down. There are only opportunities in every downfall or rise. Im a 16 year old small creator and most of my YouTube journey I've been shitting bad videos, just recently started to do a lil better (I still shit bad vids but I have some in the safe lol). I think its not something new that is happening just the normal cycle of life, Hamza became the masculine SI creator everyone needed but now he used up this and now people need something else. I've been feeling like my content is not what I want to make tbh and I know I have so much more potential but Iv've just decided to "just copy Hamza" as literally everyone is doing now lol. The season of my life is learning, not "self-improvement". It became a cult and is just doing everyone a disservice. No matter if youre a creator or a viewer we need to educate ourselves on how the world operates from the first principles because if we dont there are always people who will know those and those can manipulate the shit out of you. Thanks again and looking forward to your channel.
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  291. Be cool to see you on Modern Wisdom podcast
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  292. This channel is as goated as your main channel, really needed this, thanks man.ā¤
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  293. Sub because of title
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  294. Good one Coal, thanks for the great messagešŸ’Æā¤ļø.
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  295. hello! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ā¤ā¤
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  296. Insane back and shoulders vro
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  297. Thank you bro āœŒšŸ½
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  298. Hey bro iā€™m happy you started an unscripted channel! In regards to self improvement i can resonate with the nuanced approach to self improvement and iā€™ve actually started to detach from the internet, live my life and use my own voice in my mind to gain virtue.
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  299. Well im early
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  300. You are right, self improvement must become authentic! šŸ’Æ
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  301. 1stā¤
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  302. you REALLY helped me get off my ass and get back to studying japanese, thanks Cole
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  303. Your content is really refreshing. No edits, no cuts, no dopamine maximizing; just pure, unfiltered, thoughtful authenticity. I try to make it a practice to sit through the whole video without jumping, and to really take in the message. (Note: not a reflection of the quality of the content, more of a reflection of the way my brain has been rewired to enjoy short-form, meaningless, intense content).
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  304. great video man i appreciate it, do you have any advice for getting started on youtube? like not necessarily how to get subs etc. but just kinda how to feel like youā€™re qualified enough to make a video on something?
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  305. Loved the channel, thankful ā¤
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  306. Really enjoying these videos, Coal. Great to have on in the back.
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  307. This is some real shit, Cole! I appreciate the candidness in this video bro - it's really rare to see that from large content creators nowadays. 9:00 is so real. I keep looking at my subscriber count realizing it's not where I want to be and then have to force myself to realize that, when I wrote my goals this year, the FIRST was post once a week. Not reach a subscriber count. Thanks for sharing your perspective brother!
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  308. I would love to read your book. cant wait
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  309. Good to see you shooting (or speaking) from the hip with this channel man! Scripted videos don't tend to keep my boat afloat personally... I feel like the self improvement channels that you're referring to are using self improvement as the only inspiration for their videos rather than just living life and telling stories based on grounded experience. You can't self improve without living. I would say a lot of people need to just take action and live their lives - and naturally, they will evolve and "improve"... and then MAYBE making a "self improvement" Youtube channel could be a nice offshoot from all of this. Big hug - did you run your marathon yet?
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  310. hi
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  311. COLE, THANK YOU BROTHER šŸ˜­. I desperately needed this video.
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  312. Very interesting video. I am fairly certain that my purpose is computer science, but I no longer care to associate my entire life with it. I will do what is necessary to get good grades and reach the level of education I desire, but I will no longer be critical of how I spend my remaining time
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  313. I prefer personal development or just, ā€œworking on my habitsā€. Being ā€œon self improvementā€ kinda makes it just sound like a trend or, like cope for not accepting yourself as a person, just my take before watching the video
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  314. I've noticed that exact same trend of "people are more interested in the more gentle side of things" in my own videos
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  315. I'm so grateful this showed up in my algorithm feed! I didn't know you even had a second channel, to be honest. This has been perhaps my most worrisome period (at least in the short term) since the last election year I won't speak of. I'm so grateful to know (and see) that you are at peace brother. I love you and your insightful content tremendously
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  316. Ive been seeing someone whos been labouring this point, but your explanation makes a lot of sense as to why its important. Thankyou!
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  317. Thank you for the subtitles, the youtube autogenerated ones arenā€™t always accurate
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  318. I've just finished reading "Attached" and then this video pops up. Cole, are you stalking me?šŸ˜µ All jokes aside, I did all the quizzes that were there and I got me having a secure attachment style in general, but kind of a mix between anxious and secure when it comes to romantic relationships. I'm so relieved and grateful you made this video so I can have more tools to understand/heal my attachment style. Love you brother.
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  319. Lucky Iā€™m not insecure but Iā€™m glad to hear your story Cole besides your different and better than these fitness influencers
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  320. Haha i was the 1k sub
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  321. This reminds me of FTPā€™s song called ā€˜Wasteā€™. Such a good existential / hopeful song. These topics are better than the others youā€™ve talked on your other channel. This channel is going good / strong. EDIT: 7:16 I wanted to know, are you still a vegan or not? If you donā€™t mind me asking, ofc. Next topic šŸ¤žšŸ¤žšŸ¤ž: How to (allow yourself to) live (enjoy) life.
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  322. This was great, Cole! Iā€™ve been struggling lately after getting sick twice in a row and losing momentum and focus. Needed do hear this.
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  323. This was really sth I had to hear. Thank you
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  324. to growth!
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  325. Everyone is always being influenced by everything around them. You can easily imagine two separate people are subscribed to you and also another channel. On the other channel they watch a video and see a positive comment that has a lot of likes so they also like it and then decide to use that comment on the next video they watch to spread positivity but also because they have Seen evidence that It generates engagement. They happen to go to different videos of yours next and then they both comment at the same thing at the same time.
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  326. Yes sir! Personal time with cole. I would love just a vlog of what you do daily no crazy editing or anythinf
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  327. Love honest YouTubers
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  328. You always know what i need lol. Loving the videos man.
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  329. Dont know if its my "meaning" but the way i cope or make decisions is to experience beauty. Be it music, a walk in a park, or roman statues. Religion failed me when i was mid/early teens.
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  330. Ooo cool a second channel:) subbed
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  331. Viktor Frankl would approve of this video
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  332. I guess thatā€™s why I started learning Japanese. I know it wonā€™t bring anything much of value to my career but I just enjoy this language so much!
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  333. Interesting concept - I look forward to seeing what comes of your new direction. As someone who has been working on herself and self-improvement, Iā€™ve become incredibly disillusioned with the self-help approach that most have now. It does come off as fake, or to make money on suffering. Itā€™s very unsustainable for the majority of humans as it takes out a lot of the humanity in how we live. Anyways, Iā€™m here to see what you have to say. Good luck !
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  334. Thanks, I will now leave this video on loop for the rest of the day for the algorithm
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  335. I like the style of this channel, I also followed you here :D
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  336. This is the ultimate question, isn't it? we all know that there's something greater than ourselves. It's not science vs God, both are true, but one can only explain the material through the rationale of the human mind. I will say this to you brothers, don't stop searching for truth until you find it. My path led me to Christ (as completion of truth itself). I know it's a little polarizing, but do not be afraid of asking the hard questions, all great minds have done this.
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  337. Havenā€™t watched your content in a while, got recommended this video. I was like ā€œWow Cole has really changed up his style of making videos, interesting!ā€. Then in the end when you hinted that this is a different channel I realized šŸ˜‚šŸ¤¦šŸ½
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  338. Ā @CoalHastingsĀ  hey bro, I love your content. Youā€™re very well spoken, insightful, and you have a good head of your shoulders. Keep making that content!
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  339. Ā @CoalHastingsĀ did not know you until this video and this one comment just shows that you care about your content ā¤ļø
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  340. Been waiting for another video, you did it again! Thank you, Cole!
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  341. People are starting to seek deeper content for growth. I found that videos have become more popular, which emphasizes the other half of self-improvement: acceptance, letting go, shadow work, and finding deeper meaning. Additionally, I feel that people like Dan Koe, who promote self-experimentation and developing a unique journey and system for one's vision, are starting to rise.
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  342. Ā @ColeHastingsĀ  HOLY , I ACTUALLY GOT A RELY , LES GOO , THANKS
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  343. This is so bold of you, congratulations šŸŽ‰
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  344. This is the exact info I need when it comes to tests and other things similar, academically, and work-wise!
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  345. I 100% agree with this. Good video Cole.
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  346. Thank you for the advice Cole. I'm trying to break into the self-improvement space. Slightly more on the spiritual side, though I try not to be too woo-woo about it. I just want to help people by sharing the mindsets that have helped me. Your short film is what inspired me to start writing the blog I've been too scared to start for a long time and start posting on this channel.
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  347. Great Man (Just Be true to your self)ā¤
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  348. Finding this right now was insane you have no idea.
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  349. @CoalHastingsĀ  sounds like you have a good enough mindset! I hope you enjoy the process, and I'll be the first to read it when it comes out
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  350. I been watching your videos a few years now I sub to your chennal
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  351. Good video as always Mr Cole!! These are very true words said!!! Hope you are doing good!!
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  352. great stuff bro
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  353. Most valuable 22 mins Iā€™ve spent in a long time šŸ«”ā¤ļø
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  354. Wow, Cole! Itā€™s great to see you speaking so naturally and relatable being unscripted Cheers to you, man!
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  355. Whoa this video made me aware of some stuff about myself that i had no idea was happening. Thank you Coal
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  356. it's been a long time, cole šŸ¤
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  357. @CoalHastingsĀ  yeah , similar for me ; I abandoned heavy squats in favor of high rep walking lunges (with some light weight) and I'm not going back šŸ˜…
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  358. Yet another banger šŸ—£šŸ”„
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  359. Honestly I like to take things nice and slow and pride myself in good quality work over lightening fast stuff that works for a while but can really overwhelming sometimes. I definitely want to take time to think and imagine stuff
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  360. self improvement could be a lazy day, because constantly improving exhausts your mind and body, problem is those are days people view as a failure
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  361. I've been thinking about starting up again, so this is a great help, thank you
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  362. Thank you
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  363. Playing rainbow six siege will make you use a 100 percent of your brain and will give you a skill of making creative insults on your teammates
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  364. Ordered some 5 neo noir and thriller books. Thrilled. Maybe we have a light in the end of the tunnel.
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  365. That's what I've been saying!!
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  366. Ā @CoalHastingsĀ  thatā€™s a monumental task man. So exciting. I currently dream of being a writer. Trying to get started this summer. Keep us updated about your book I will definitely be tuning in!
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  367. ā¤
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  368. Awesome video. I really like this casual talk style. I think i even preferred it over the scripted videos. Please do more. It seems a lot more genuine
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  369. I like the honesty! Nowaday seeing true honesty and kindness is kinda rare.. Most influencers has the agenda of keeping the viewer hooked/dependent, instead you show the necessary tools for us, which has worked in you daily life. True kindness shows in life, in a way that actions/lessons are made so that everyone is able to become self-sufficient and be able respect our differences. "To stop hunger, don't just give the food. Instead teach to become self-sufficient." Part of growing is to allow to make mistakes. I often see "leaders" and people who micromanage everything. So no one can learn to become someone who can operate independently. Example, best leaders give tools, then watch and allow mistakes to be made. Also, being present if needed and supportive when mistakes happen. Trying to control everything is unhealthy and poor management, because we grow from our mistakes. Life isn't about profit and control, it's a life we share together and interact, allowing us to become best version of our selves. Thanks for being real and trying your best to sincerely heal as much as you can!
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  370. Best of luck on that novel, will be curious to read it eventually for sure!! šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ™šŸ™
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  371. Ooh I'm excited for this bro
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  372. ā¤ā¤
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  373. i love this! very helpful, thanks ā¤
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  374. Cole, another one of your videos that really hits home for me, and Iā€™ve noticed this and have been feeling this way for a long time too.
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  375. Broooo the new channel is awesome!!! Good job
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  376. I've been at a public facing job for a decade and I have no energy to socialize at the end of my work week. It's negatively affected how I've treated my best friend which frustrates me a lot. That being said; I have good social skills and I treat everyone well regardless of familiarity. All of the little things like smiling, holding doors and greeting have always been a part of how I engage with the world, but I spend my free time alone because I'm permanently burned out at this point
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  377. Thatā€™s so funny. I got a Supernote a while ago for similar reasons. I bought it more for my purposes as a student but I think itā€™s the best purchase Iā€™ve ever made.
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  378. Thanks I subscribed
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