Hearted Youtube comments on Psychology with Dr. Ana (@AnaPsychology) channel.

  1. Telling a child that they owe their parent for childhood care is based on the belief that children don't have the right to that care, that parents were doing them a favour by raising them. Nope, nope, nope.
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  2. Flirting is communicating your attraction with plausible deniability
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  3. Don't have a boyfriend: problem solved. 😌
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  4. The way short content has almost universally led people to assume everything is an excerpt of something more substantial... the fake podcasts are insane. They just look to the side and pretend they are making eye contact with someone who isn't there... while they say things like "Women are the cause of 92% of all divorce. That's why I sell supplements."
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  5. According to the internet an intellectual is basically anyone who can own their opposition the hardest in a “debate”
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  6. All couples don’t necessarily fight, but there are naturally going to be disagreements. The way you handle these disagreements are crucial to the health of the relationship.
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  7. Ahhh yes, as opposed to ADHDDBT where you just start with an 8 and then apologize repeatedly whether or not they took it well...then try that five or six more times during a conversation.
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  8. I totally understand if someone falls in love with someone else. You can't control your feelings. BUT, you should always be honest and break up with your significant other instead of keeping the illusion, lying and being in another relationship at the same time. I have never been cheated on, all I want is for men to tell me straight away when they don't want to stay with me anymore. It hurts, but at least I don't waste my time with a cheater and I can move on. Also: please, consider open/poly relationships if monogamy isn't meant for you. Stop deceiving people, be honest with yourself and the others. People: please stop "accepting" such behaviours. You don't have to forgive a cheater, you don't have to settle because you're afraid of being alone. Accept solitude, embrace it, and you will never settle with someone unworthy of your love and trust.
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  9. Still haven’t had an argument with my boyfriend after about a year and a half. So much trust, good communication, understanding, and honesty! I didn’t know a relationship like that could exist until I met him😍
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  10. lmao my girlfriend used this tip on me!! I AM SMITTEN LIKE YOUR KITTEN
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  11. It’s easy to get up in the feelings rather than look at reason. For me, I only start a relationship with someone if they actively add to my life and make it better. Not just to have company or someone to snuggle with. Though those are nice. I look at it as picking a team member in helping to build the best life possible.
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  12. Yes, let’s talk more about the green flags in relationships! I think all too often, the focus is on the red.
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  13. I wish I could marry male version of me
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  14. She said “unless you wanna experience the heartache for growth” I feel EXPOSED
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  15. I’ll never forget when my professor in college embarrassed /“called me out” for being quiet in front of the entire class. It made me not want to come back to class. Funny though because he would always talk about how important diversity is, but I guess that doesn’t apply to introverts…
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  16. I do think it's possible. My husband and I are together for 12 years this month and know each other even longer. We never had a fight, we do have misunderstandings sometimes, but it never lead to arguing or anger. We communicate A LOT about our thoughts and feelings though. He's always been my best friend and we often act so lovey-dovey and flirty, that our kids think it's embarrassing 😅 We already knew our darkest sides and saw each other at our lowest points before we started dating. I fell in love with all of this.
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  17. This was definitely needed. I have been dating a woman who gives much less than me. Once I started giving less she started showing up more then I started matching her energy only for her to fall back again so now I’m back to her giving less and I’m doing the same. I’m hoping eventually I’ll just completely move on from her because I really don’t like the feelings that I can’t give freely. I’d rather go somewhere where my natural energy is reciprocated more.
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  18. Just want to clarify that bunnies are committal animals that typically will bond with life partner :)
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  19. “We choose partners who we believe are on our level.” That hit different 😯
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  20. I have an expert witness in my family who appears in court cases to give expert evidence. One of the rules is if you honestly are not qualified to answer something you are required to say "that's outside of my expertise". For instance someone might have 40 years as a mechanic. But they are not a computer programmer so if asked "do you think that car X has well written code for its computer parts" the mechanic might say "not being a programmer that's outside of my expertise.". That's common and it's not held against the expert to do that. It isn't any gotcha moment that a lawyer steers for al all.
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  21. I cheated for one simple reason. I was afraid of failing my exam....... I was in grade 3. (T_T)
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  22. This quarantine has me looking at the really ugly parts of me, but I need to.
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  23. My ideal partner would 1. have a similar ethical philosophy/moral code to my own, 2. have near-universal humor seeing as I laugh at almost anything, 3. have similar love languages to my own, 4. be committed to improving themselves everyday and grow as a person, and lastly, just to make it a smooth top 5 list, 5. my ideal partner would know their own self-worth/personal value
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  24. This is how everyone talks in reality shows like love is blind and the ultimatum. It’s possible to use therapy language without sounding pretentious. Ana, you don’t have to worry because you do not give off “therapy speak”. You’re articulate in an extremely compassionate way.
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  25. I definitely am in the "respect is treating people with human decency" camp and not the "respect means treating someone like an authority figure" camp
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  26. That " Doctoral Candidate" hits different
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  27. I have an unpopular opinion: I think that motherhood is tricky because whenever it's going to be good or bad partially depends on people around you, your partner, family, friends and how much they will be involved. And I feel plenty of mothers have terrible time because we simply leave then in isolation dealing with hardships that they wasn't supposed to deal with alone in a majority of human history, and then people are surprised why moms are so pessimistic.
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  28. 7:48 "Couples that have broken up multiple times rarely ever make it in the long run." So now we know what the fate is for Ross and Rachel's relationship....
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  29. Thanks for this Ana! I always have a hard time connecting to people and be vulnerable with them. My relationships to other people are always between levels 3-4 and 5-6 even to my friends of seven years. Its really hard for me to cultivate meaningful relationships. The very few people I was able to be vulnerable with have become my partners or romatic interest which ended up failing. And I realized that I just wanted to have a friend I can be vulnerable with, like a real friend, but being a highly introverted and independent person it's challenging for me to be that open to someone and establish a deep connection with them. Sometimes its easier for me to confide my problems and feelings to strangers :(
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  30. Most people get together of circumstances And mistake it for being in love . That’s why it’s good to work on yourself have self love have self worth and not settle based on your circumstances or based off he /she loves me and I don’t wanna be alone I don’t think I’ll find anyone that will love me like she/he would etc.
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  31. An old friend told me once, when you caught him/her cheating ONCE (in any form), more likely they were already doing it before your eyes know it. Been there.
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  32. I learned the hard way that sexual compatibility was for more important than I expected. If you have a partner with proclivities you're not willing/ comfortable indulging, they might seek it out elsewhere.
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  33. I think the answer to "Why do you assume the parent did something?" is also in part because every parent messed something up. Parenting is incredibly difficult and you will screw up. That's okay. Having a healthy relationship with your adult children involves admitted your mistakes and being accountable. I find it really telling that they act like they couldn't have done something wrong, because even the best parents will absolutely have done things wrong.
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  34. my main issue with the term daddy issues is how it blames women (daughters) for something that is the man's (father) insufficiency as an irresponsible parent
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  35. I remember watching your videos on couples about 1 year ago and applying all of your advices. I’ve been with the same guy now, 2.5 years strong and we have a full trip planned in Europe together in 8 months. Thank you so much for your videos, it really really helps :)
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  36. From my own experience, I believe that narcissists and sometimes people who just have low esteem, are more likely to cheat as a result of their constant hunt for validation. My ex did exactly what you said, when he wanted out of the relationship he cheated on me because he knew I wouldn't forgive that, even though before that happened, he would threaten me with suicide or use violence against me when I wanted out. The weird thing is, I feel like I could forgive cheating in my current relationship. Humans are weird like that Edit: good luck with your exams!!!❤️
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  37. I found this so unsurprising I was surprised
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  38. The "runs tongue across teeth" mannerism is just one of those things that can only ever exist in a mafia boyfriend fanfic
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  39. "This is not the girl I know." AND HOW. My mother never said this, but my parents' resistance to getting to know me as an adult was what led to estrangement for 15 years. You have absolutely named everything my mother was willing to do and why I love her, which rekindled our relationship. She listened and acknowledged. That simple.
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  40. “If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then quit. No use being a damn fool about it.” - WC Fields
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  41. Something you said really struck me as true but somewhat incomplete: "Abuse is loving yourself so much, that you don't care about what the other person feels." This can go into the opposite direction too. Some people can become so self-hating and even self-destructive, that they lose sight of how their partner or loved ones might feel. They get consumed by their self-hatred.
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  42. valid means your feelings are there and need to be sorted through. I don't take it to mean 'my feelings are true and the story im telling myself about them is fact'
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  43. Just noticed the switch from “partner” to FIANCÉ!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! ❤️
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  44. Wonderful, Ana. I'm a keynote speaker on human connection, and I'm often asked by audience members, "What do I do when someone tells me about their job/hobby/major and I have no interest in it?" I always respond, you don't have to be interested in it. You just need to be interested why they're interested in it. My favorite framing is to give yourself a new title: Collector of Stories. You job isn't to care about the stories you hear or even find them interesting, just to collect them. And you'll be shocked when we allow people space to share their stories with us, how often we actually DO find them interesting. Long time viewer, first time commenter :) Deeply appreciate your work, and I've shared your channel with my wife who is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in kids.
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  45. After watching this and looking at my own relationship objectively, I realize that I have been self sabotaging, I'm the one that came into our relationship already w trust issues, and our relationship is actually really strong. It's making me cry bc I think for me it's really hard to see past the emotion but when I look at only the facts, omg it's like I've made up arguments all on my own. I'm the root cause or something. Lol how frustrating that must be for my counselor 😂 but this video was eye opening.
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  46. Married 18 years. It's possible! Great tips/ideas to help couples stay there as much as possible.
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  47. This is related to pseudo-intellectuals but also the people who, even if they are educated on one specific topic, they act like they're educated and qualified talk about every topic in general on a factual basis even if it's in a totally unrelated field
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  48. Every time I watch videos like this I feel like I’m an alien cosplaying as a human
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  49. I'm surprised she puts out all this quality information and analysis for free!
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  50. step one: don't date a cheater
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  51. My father believed in parental alienation. He was a diagnosed narcissist who was very abusive to us. I knew at an extremely young age, 5-6, that I hoped my mom would divorce my dad so I wouldn't have to see him anymore. He cited all those parental alienation arguments on Facebook but the truth is, I never loved my father. He was abusive and toxic and my life was absolutely better without him in it. No one convinced me to never see him or talk to him. That was MY decision.
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  52. so the lesson is to try hard but reflect on how much progress you're making. If the progress is too slow, then maybe it's time to switch
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  53. "Invest in others as much as they invest in you" 💯
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  54. My prediction is that priorities shift; people stop making the quality of their relationship a priority and that leads to a decrease in emotional/physical connection with their partner
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  55. I think good comparison is therapy is like going to cooking lessons. You're there to learn how to cook better, it's not the teachers job to make you a meal, and how well you cook outside of lessons depends how much you practice outside of class, you also can't blame the teacher for your bad cooking if you won't use the right equipment, or the right ingredients. The problem is a lot of people think going to therapy is like going to a restaurant and you can just order good mental health.
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  56. When i hear "daddy issues" i just cringe. In this day and age i've been exposed to a lot of men and guys who fetishes women with "daddy issues" because they like the idea of a "broken girl" with mental health issues or unhealthy coping mecanisms. It makes me physically ill.
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  57. My boyfriend of four and a half years cheated on me three years ago, then left me for the other person. Mostly moved on, but it still hurts when I think about it every now and again.
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  58. I am single, but I'm gonna watch this anyway because it's Ana.
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  59. School, work and internships forced me to act extraverted…because they kept making a problem of me being introverted so I have to play extraverted to survive in academia which sucks. Just because you’re studying for a social major like nursing or teaching doesn’t mean you have to be extraverted. It’s unfair and since ppl think I’m extraverted I hear so many ppl bad mouth quiet ppl and it makes my blood boil
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  60. I agree when you said not all couples need to fight... I guess if you can overcome the argument it's good for the relationship but if you are both good at communicating and respecting each other there's no need to argue in the first place.
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  61. The black cat is the real expert here. I trust them to know how to steal my heart.
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  62. Haven’t watched the video yet but I saw the thumbnail and am standing like a flamingo outside of my house and no mates have approached me yet. Fingers crossed tho!!
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  63. The traffic light system is also often used by some people to express consent during sex. Yellow is basically, ”hey, I like most of what is going on, but this one or two things that you are doing are getting me out of it. Could you please stop doing those things.” Red is straight up, it’s over dude.
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  64. Holy crap Doc, that just made me realize why my friend feels so negatively about homeless people! I think she's afraid that if she admits that homelessness isn't 100% a result of laziness then she's admitting there are external, uncontrollable factors. Then she'd be admitting it could happen to her. And that matches up with her aversion to uncertainty & instability
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  65. watching this while my bf is sleep next to me and his age ends in 9 👁👄👁
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  66. I had to have a long meeting with myself and realize how immature I really am. Not as mature as I thought i was last week or most of my adult life... this video is supporting my internal dialogue this month! You are supporting me with your thoughtful intentions, thank you.
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  67. The Brad Mondo of psychology.
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  68. Omg one time I saw a tiktok talking about how instead of constantly villainizing the world around you, you could seek to understand where people were coming from and what fueled them to do the things they did in that moment (eg. They had a bad day) and the comments were like this is “GASLIGHTING” the person on the receiving end like bro no it’s NOT in most cases it’s just being MATURE 😭
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  69. I feel emotionally scarred just watching these TikTok’s. Holy crap.
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  70. In general, it's a good rule in life to avoid people who weaponize therapyspeak and can't take responsibility for anything
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  71. someone might have already commented this, but gentle parenting IS authoritative parenting. The reason for the alternative name is some people get confused between the words authoritative and authoritarian.
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  72. In addition to The Emotional Incest Syndrome, another book I read that helped me understand my familys dysfunction was Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
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  73. Such a pleasure seeing a professional kind young woman serving psychology, so empowering. And I love ur content
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  74. "Only one of us has a doctorate, and it's not you." -- Burn, baby, burn! As a trained philosopher and political scientist, I have seen this guy's rhetorical tactics so many times. Attacking the speaker versus actually bringing substantive counterarguments is meant to make you feel insecure and question your own perception of reality. It's a bad faith approach. In my 20s and early 30s, I used to mind this stuff a lot more. Then I realized I didn't have to opt into the game.
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  75. What's wild to me is that this is yet another example of adults wanting to put the child last in cases where the child's wants and needs should be the priority (like divorce). The feelings of the "alienated" parent don't matter as long as the child is healthy and happy. Claiming that you're being alienated is, to me, a sign that you don't truly care about your child's needs, you just want control. A parent that truly is in a situation where their ex is turning their kid against them isn't going to use these terms.
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  76. As a person who knew about what flirting is only a year ago, when I turned 27 (to my shame) and still struggles to find a girlfriend, I find this video extremely useful. For sure, it'll take a lot of practice, but at least now I see in which direction I should move. Thank you so much!:)
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  77. The problem I have with "daddy and mommy issues" is that it makes a full mockery of parental abuse over a child.
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  78. To be honest, I'm only here to press "like" as a way of supporting you because this topic is too triggering for me to have the strength to watch. Hopefully it helps others! I'll be back when I have more courage 😂
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  79. teachers should do better to make lessons more inclusive for introverts and not only reward extroverted behaviour
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  80. Dear Ana, I greatly enjoyed this webcast, for the following reasons: Engaging – The content kept me interested. Savage – The bold, unapologetic tone made it feel raw and exciting. Intelligent – The webcast offered insightful commentary and well-thought-out discussions that sparked deeper thought. Keep producing amazing work!
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  81. You’re married? Omg I had no idea! Congratulations 🥳 ❤
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  82. Realizing the other parent’s complicity is EVEN more heartbreaking!
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  83. About the birthday cake video, "mordida", which is what the older woman was yelling, translates to "bite" in spanish and it's a mexican tradition in which we push people into the cake (I have no idea why lol) and it's quite common for people to opt out precisely because some people go batshit. For instance, if you took a long time to get ready for your special day, maybe you tried extra hard on your make up, you'd likely avoid the tradicional pushed-into-a-f*cking-cake mordida, and maybe go for a careful bite into a slice of cake, so you'd tell people around you that NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO PUSH YOU. What the older woman did seems too aggressive, so I agree that it does seem driven by animosity, but it might be overlooked since she can say "It's a tradition!!"
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  84. The ides of disliking your shadow-self in others as much as you do in yourself brings to mind a guy I studied with, that I deeply disliked.. I felt like he pretended to be confident. I'm pretty sure that I was/am deeply afraid of having to pretend confidence, or being someone that pretends confidence. I'm working on it by accepting that side of myself, and allowing myself to express insecurity without shame of myself, and that compassion helps getting over it. Just an aspect of the mantra that all emotions are valid, in that sense.
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  85. They are kind and conscientious to the fact that their partner desires to be heard and made to feel like they're present and, in effect, exists; that they're seen and appreciated for being seen with all their shadow and light
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  86. Watching in 2x speed to assess my relationship in record time
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  87. You should have a podcast. You’re work is amazing !!
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  88. The gaslighting of being abused while being told that this is what love is sets up a child for a lifetime of destructive relationships. For me personally, I lost trust in the concept of “love” completely, and people telling me they care about me is a trigger. I’m glad I recognize it though and am actively seeking healing
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  89. I love how you get straight to the point and keep it straight forward/ short
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  90. "Everything that i have learnt about the movie and book its been inspired by has been against my will." Lmao😂
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  91. Thank you so much for addressing this issue. Sometimes I feel really frustrated that people are still rushing to pick up their torches when they sense a chance to hate on a woman. It’s horrible.
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  92. I’m curious why Ryan Gosling didn’t get so much smoke 🤔
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  93. Am I the only one who just heard you're pregnant? Congratulations!
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  94. I'm currently going through a divorce and it is ambicable but you are basically hitting it on the head. Our marriage was dying on the vine and neither of us realized the extent of that death but it wasn't being nurtured anymore. It was being taken for granted so there was no intimacy, growth, appreication, or passion. It was like our marriage was stuck in suspended animation and those things were just not actually being acknowledged and truly worked on. I finally began to notice things a few months before I asked for a separation and eventual divorce and noticing these things and the extent of my unhappiness was the key I needed to finally unlock that door of complacency. I don't hate him and he doesn't hate me but it was me realizing I deserved better and more and he was not emotionally able to give that to me. We had become roommates in additon to me being his caretaker and I never want to be put in that positon again.
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  95. I believe hookup culture has heavy adverse effects on both sexes the way it is currently practiced. People should have the moral freedom to hookup without prejudice if they want to. However it should also not be encouraged as a way into womanhood or manhood, as it proves nothing in reality. A very insightful video, thank you :)
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  96. One of the worst things to come out of this short form content era is pseudo intellectuals making outlandish claims that are seemingly accepted based on 'there was a study' or 'in my time as an (insert anything) coach'. We need genuine researchers and scientists with opinions based on robust studies spreading information, not these tiktok scientists! It's good to see your video repoing the cause for the former haha
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  97. Next date I’ll hire some big guys to kidnap us 🥰🥰
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  98. I just started watching your videos and I'm hooked. They're so interesting and you have a very calming, healing aura.
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  99. The best part about this channel is the transition from "Doctorate Candidate", to "Doctorate Student" and now "Doctorate Intern". Great work, Ana!
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  100. Why on earth is considered regressive casting an actress who actually looks like Barbie as Barbie? 🤣
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  101. She’s literally my favorite psychologist. Always says difficult and disquiet things in a very easy way.
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  102. Dr Ana, when you’re being a kickass mom you’ll realize that it’s not rocket surgery to treat children with respect. Or to apologize when you make mistakes. I like to ask my son about his feelings and take them seriously, which has lead to real change. Kids are stuck with their parents and good parents remain aware of and take care within that dynamic. That, to me, is how to define good parents.
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  103. I have a little friend group of four of us, and we've been friends since middle school. Now that we're adults, we have a pretty big income range and I'm the poor one. We make it work by gasp COMMUNICATING. My friends never shame or pity me for my financial position and they're mindful to suggest affordable activities when we get together. If they want to do something more spendy, I'll just tell them if I can afford it or not - sometimes they offer to spot me, or sometimes I just stay home. And of course if they do spot me, I say thank you!!
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  104. As a Native American I am so happy and proud that you mentioned all of missing Native Woman. Its not really talked about and it really means a lot.
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  105. Ah finally someone understands the struggle..
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  106. Meg the Stallion wasn't allegedly shot. She was shot by Tory Lanez. Just to be clear.
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  107. I'd like to see a video on "mummy issues" using Norman Bates from Psycho as the case study.
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  108. Off-topic but you're really really pretty.
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  109. Even with my friends, and people I date(first dates and cheating topics come up). In the back of their mind, they’re expecting to get cheated on and “I will work it out” NO BABY YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE THE LIFE. It Hurts me so much listening to these people who just accept it. Doesn’t help the fact that half our society praises and encourages cheating... Sick of this.
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  110. I really don’t understand how you’re not wildly popular yet. Every time I watch your videos I forget you aren’t a big YouTuber. Give it time and I guarantee you will blow up 💫 I love your videos btw
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  111. This is pure gold. I also agree into fights are unacceptable but also I know that some people are afraid of arguing as well, and i think that's a red flag because I think arguing is essential to overcome disagreements in any relationship. They may not see a difference
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  112. Having authentic takes has always been a strong suit of yours. I like that you blend in your lived experiences into the video's.
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  113. Sometimes it becomes apparent that someone doesn't respect you and you just need to walk away.
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  114. People exaggerate everything. Being the girl that improves little things over time is totally ok. You don't have to live in a mansion and be rich to adapt it to your lifestyle.
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  115. When being alone is no longer frightening, Loss is no longer a threat.
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  116. "Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.” -C.S. Lewis
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  117. I cackled when you suggested to feed a child every 2-3 months lmao (I know you meant hours)
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  118. If someone seems too good to be true, 10/10 they are trying to fines you. Do not show your vulnerabilities early on. Most times, abusers will deliberately pick their victims as they are easy targets( broken homes, single moms, people going through vulnerable stages in their lives). Always keep a level of suspicion and do not believe anyone blindly. Do not tell them what you are looking for in a partner early on. If you give someone enough rope, they will eventually hang themselves. Stay safe. Is a cold world
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  119. I think videos on practical ways how to improve self esteem would be good. Definitely agree that learning something new like a language is a great way to boost self esteem but also keep the mind fresh, or body fresh, or body and mind fresh depending on what you do
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  120. Geometry with Dr. Ana 😁
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  121. I'm not sure if I'm late to the party. But I would like to congratulate you on becoming a doctor
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  122. Thank you for this!!! He literally just broke up w me but that’s bc I worked so hard to ruin the relationship just to confirm my insecurities. :(
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  123. The cat: 🤸‍♀️🧗‍♀️🪜⛷️🐈‍⬛️
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  124. To an introvert person like myself, this is actually a good reminder why after a certain level of maturity I just intentionally never wanted to become popular. Thank you!
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  125. I'm not even a third of the way through this video and I'm crying. I'm 57 years old and just learning the things that you are speaking of so eloquently. Cannot tell you how much it warms my heart that the younger generations are learning now what I'm learning now. You don't want to be learning these things at my age and just discovering why the marriages didn't work because you were putting up with toxic people. It's just so wonderful that you guys are learning this now. Don't let up. Keep going! So much joy and appreciation watching this. 🥹🙏💪💞
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  126. hold up, lemme send this to my ex... oh wait that’s a sign of immaturity on my part lol
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  127. "Your distress matters and your suffering counts, even if it doesn't meet clinically elevated threshold." Thank you.
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  128. As philosophy majors, we learn in intro to logic that a valid argument may not be sound. Validity is whether the argument follows from the premises and soundness includes this but also entails that the premises are factually correct. So all feeling may be valid, but not all feelings are sound
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  129. i think it hurts me more to read(in the comment section) that people who were cheated on choose to stay with the POS than to actually have had experienced the cheating myself. Like I can’t understand why stay? They don’t respect, they don’t cherish you, they don’t love you. Cheaters are a sewer clump of issues, YOU deserve so much better, you deserve a better YOU who then deserves someone Decent!. There are wonderful people out there who won’t cheat on you, in fact, will make others vey jealous OF YOU. Idk, I just feel so emotional today that Reading these comments is making me very depressed. Cheating is rampant in my family, my grandma being old school stayed w her husband, and My mom who herself cheated Is Oblivious of HER dad being a cheater.
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  130. I remember watching that video back then (I was in a relationship) and not thinking anything of it and just taking notes but now I realize that I was guilty to some point of all the "traits" it's funny how sometimes you don't realize your own flaws Anyway love your videos and thank you for educating me ❤️
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  131. Thank you for talking about how a certain level of attractiveness gives advantages but when it gets past a certain point it can lead to envy/the opposite of an advantage - I'd love to see a whole video on this because no one ever really acknowledges it but it's a very real thing lol
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  132. you don’t realize how many lives you’re changing rn 😩
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  133. "It is a mistake to look at someone who is self assertive and say, "It's easy for her, she has good self-esteem." One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it is not easy to do so. There are always times when self-assertiveness requires courage, no matter how high your self-esteem". Nathaniel Branden
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  134. That casual pregnancy announcement tho. Congrats! 🎉🎉
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  135. It's pretty victim blaming to say if can't handle the trolls don,t be a content creator...like if women can't handle harassment they should not go outside, that's the same train of thought of putting the responsibility of harassment on the victim instead of putting the harasser accountable
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  136. Dr. Ana?!?!? AH!!! Im so proud of you!! I’ve been watching you since 2021 when i decided to pursue a major in psychology. You inspire me to keep going. Congratulations!🥳🎉
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  137. "Dr. Ana" congratulations!
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  138. Something I've consciously worked in the previous years to overcome from my own inner biases. Making true friendships with women who are far mote successful than me has helped a lot.
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  139. Look out for financial abuse early on, too! My first date with an abuser was such a red flag, looking back on it. He showed up straight from the gym, so hadn't showered or changed or anything, and then acted like he forgot his card so I ended up paying for the meal. He CONSTANTLY "needed" money from me for the duration of our 4 month "relationship." Also, during our first date conversation, he was already negging. Ex: "guys must really be intimidated by you because you have a master's degree. You must have a hard time dating." It was true, but that's such a weird thing to say. Sane, clear-thinking, healthy people would just engage with me about what I studied or try to find common ground over college sports teams or something like that. Not sit there and 1) neg me while simultaneously 2) trying to make themselves seem different and special like "ohhh look at me, I'm not like the other people you've dated because I'm not intimidated by your level of education."
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  140. Definitely, you start to feel smaller, you make yourself smaller, share less, lie about what your plans are to avoid any backlash. Not allowed to say how you feel, not allowed to set boundaries!
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  141. This is disheartening, but women and girls deserve to know the truth. Thank you for speaking about this
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  142. When I meet people who come across as stubborn or defensive, I allow myself to explain things three times. This gives either of us a chance to cooperate. However, once those three attempts are used up, I am done. I'm going to do it or speak up the ugly truth anyway, whether you accept it or not.😊
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  143. As a current psychology student it’s so enfuriating to see people with no credentials charge so much for services they’re not even qualified to give…
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  144. I really appreciate when someone can balance sass and a bit of edge without being overly condescending and maintaining a healthy dose of humility. Enjoying the slightly more aggressive/callout tone here. Nice!
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  145. That person în the article hit the nail on the head with "it's the way it's written, as if it can be excused or just part of a normal relationship", "girls who endure disturbing behavior from their partners". I read a couple of her books as a teenager and was confused as to how to feel about the relationships' portrayal. Now, looking back, I know better, but being exposed to that whilst still maturing and learning about relationships, it definitely shaped what I viewed as normal behaviors in relationships.
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  146. One thing that I notice is that when you grow up with family who exhibit this behavior, you can internalize and pick up bad habits as well. I’m using this just as much to unlearn my own crossing of boundaries and notice it when others do it as well. Thanks!
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  147. I am so tired of people labeling other people with narcissism over the smallest things. This is why i strongly dislike when social media learns a word or a phrase lol because people then over use it and misuse it and completely diluted the trrue meaning of the word.
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  148. Next part: How to keep your new friends! 😃
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  149. Queen of labeling different sections of the video!!!!
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  150. My subjective opinion is that NOONE is bad, and that EVERYONE makes mistakes. Sometimes we make small mistakes, sometimes we make big ones. Sometimes we do it subconsciously, sometimes we do it consciously. Sometimes we're in a dark place and questioning who we are, what are morals are, and what the meaning of life is, and it leads us to experiment in behaviors that don't define who we really are.
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  151. I love bantering with people but only people I really trust.
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  152. I definitely play devil's advocate too much in these conversations 😅I'm trying to work on that. But that makes me wonder, how can you still encourage your partner's personal growth if you never call them out when they're wrong? Like for instance if they're stressed about something that's actually their fault but they won't admit it, how can you go about validating their feelings but also try to help them see how they could have avoided the situation or dealt with it better to help them in the future?
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  153. I like that this advice is a lot more specific than "Listen to others." As a neurodivergent that struggles with social cues and customs, I don't feel that generic advice is too helpful. But when you explain it like such, take an interest in other people's interests..it's a lot more specific and helpful
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  154. I'm not spared from homework even during the holidays noo. Nonetheless, it's so interesting to see different levels of intimacy mapped out in such detail
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  155. The "passive constructive" one feels very parental. Like your mom just trying to be nice but being preoccupied. This situation can be hurtful to me when I specifically choose a person to vent to and it bounces right off of them.
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  156. I’ve been doing this for years now and it’s so liberating! No need to burn yourself out trying to hang around people who don’t care enough to put in the effort
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  157. oof I felt super attacked but I needed to hear some objective opinions so thank you so much for making this video!! It's sometimes hard to acknowledge that you have qualities that are considered red or yellow flags, but acknowledging them is the first step to becoming a better person for yourself and your loved ones!
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  158. My issue with this discourse and any online conversation about celebrities bodies and surgery is that they pick someone apart, they get work done because they are constantly being photographed and picked apart, they get criticized for having work done, and everybody feeding into this obsession have a sense of selfrighteousness about doing so. They act like they're doing good and if you don't agree you're either delusional or being a part of they problem. Nobody taking accountability for how they make celebrities insecure or how they're making others obsessed by constantly talking about it. Maybe it's an issue as seeing celebrities as non human and seeing a girl who happens to sing get filler or lose weight as something she's specifically doing to trick you or advertise to you instead of just seeing a person existing. Idk if I'm making sense lol Can't wait to watch the rest of the video and hear your take!
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  159. Confidence is the key. If you don't believe in yourself, then nobody will.
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  160. This is why they say, watching a horror movie on thr 1st date is thr best date idea heheehehe
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  161. As a black woman I feel double affected by being labeled as aggressive unfairly
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  162. i always aspire to be like you
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  163. OMG yes!! So true. We, people, tend to think that the abusers are unaware or do it unconsciously but the reality is, as you well say, that they don't act like that in public or near police for example. The abusers DO CHOOSE when and who to abuse! I think it's more complex than that due to a degree of disconnect/dissociation in the process but overall that's a very good point
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  164. My boyfriend and I don’t really fight! It really is possible and we are very happy together. It helps that both of us can talk about things without getting offended for the most part! We have also NEVER disrespected one another in a disagreement.
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  165. Millennials and Gen Z have experienced their surroundings changing at exponential speeds almost their entire lives. Something as simple as FaceTime was a totally cartoonish futuristic idea when I was a kid, now there are self driving cars and neural links. Technological advances had previously been happening at a slower rate for a good amount of time. Also, so many of us have witnessed older relatives’ neuroticism be plainly exposed when given access to social media, this stuff is crazy making. I have so much to say about all of this, but one last thing I will add is that I was doing an intensive outpatient program, and at 26 I was the youngest person there almost the entire time, I was actually really surprised by the age range.
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  166. People have been thinking I’m 16 for the past decade now...
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  167. Me being married but still wanting to hear your thoughts on this subject. 😂
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  168. Hello Ana . I dont want to sound so demanding , but can you also make a video about nihilsm and defeatist mindset and how to overcome this way of thinking?
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  169. That is interesting. I personally appreciate trigger warnings about some gruesome topics. It is useful for me in certain situations. For example, if I am listening to a podcast while getting ready for work and a trigger warning about a gruesome topic comes up, I change to a different episode. I would rather start my day in a lighthearted mood.
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  170. Something I regularly do with people that talk to me.and seem stuck in a mental cycle of trying to logic their shame out of the picture, is tell them about the things I am ashamed of. I have been abusive before, toxic and manipulative and I could not start working on these things before I also adressed the fear of being all these things. When I open up to people about the ways I have been a shitty person, they have an easier time opening up about the ways in which they have sucked...so then we at least for a moment suck together, before we hahe to face the fact that we eventually still have to keep going in life, so...we discuss what we will do about these things and how we can suck less. This has led to a handful of the most authentic friendships I have, where we contact eachother because we give eachother the space to reflect in our darkest and most disgusting personality traits and eventually choose to be better because we actually all deep down don't want to be this way either.
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  171. Thank god someone is speaking about this, I had to keep pretending it was a relationship in advice seeking forums just to be taken seriously
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  172. My approach to dating apps has always been to say "I love to meet people and don't like texting. So, if we match, I'll just ask you out :)" The good thing about this filters it down to people who are also outgoing and spontaneous. I'm still single af. And my last relationship i found outside the apps. But I've gotten interesting dates out of it for sure. :D
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  173. I love it whenever people ramble on about their interests. I have a friend who is really interested in chemistry, and I love it whenever she gets so passionate about it. I may not really understand much chemistry but I love seeing her so happy about something.
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  174. To all those saying “As long as people are happy I see no problem”, the whole point of this video is to demonstrate that cosmetic surgery is NOT what will make you happy. People may think it’ll make them happier and will act like it makes them happier but the thing is, they often aren’t aware of what the actual underlying issue is so that happiness is usually temporary. As Ana said, social media and mental health issues contribute to the mindset of “I will be happier once I fix this about myself” but unfortunately people are usually unaware of the toxic consumption they engage with on a daily basis as well as the true root of their low self-esteem. It takes a lot of self-awareness and inner work, which is why I always say people need to focus more on improving the inside rather than the outside. No hate to those who choose to undergo surgery, but fact of the matter is it won’t make you truly happy. And if you think it will, you are only contributing to the cycle. It’s unfortunate.
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  175. When dealing with people and relationships I always repeat the phrase “so let them” base off this notion. They’re onto a new phase of their life, someone did you wrong, they have a new partner, they did XYZ and you feel like you didn’t get justice, “so let them.” Once I understood “so let them” my life become sm more peaceful :)
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  176. This one hits close to home. From my experience here in Germany (despite the image of Germans being rather withdrawn people) introverts constantly have to justify their lifestyle and basically run the risk of being stigmatized as "boring" all the time... It's kind of exasperating at times like I would expect people (esp. adults) to be a little more indifferent or tolerant regarding personality traits as long as they aren't toxic tbh. Instead introverts are out here getting dragged for no reason... (I should add that I'm genuinely not trying to generalize people and I do not hate anyone just for being extroverted. Just sharing a similar experience to what is described in the book)
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  177. I’m a woman who dated for a decade and have now been married for over a decade. The manosphere/red pill dudes make the “cost/benefit analysis” too literal. They focus on status, appearance, and earning potential; and almost not at all on interests, personality, values, and compatibility. If you’re “high-status” right now (whoever you are) there’s no guarantee you’ll retain that status (and vice-versa); but if your relationship is based on shared interests, compatibility, values, and chemistry, then both the short- and long-term benefits of the relationship are so much higher!
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  178. I definitely think that dating apps are just awful & have ruined dating. If someone doesn’t like the person they’re with they can just hop on the dating apps & find someone “better” or “more attractive”.
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  179. Confession; I forgave one of my former partners for cheating, but no one, not even my best friend knows it even happened
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  180. Aw, you both make a really wonderful couple. Love the funny banter you both enjoy and I love how he was making you laugh Ana. Very romantic and very strong teamwork energy between you both. ❤❤❤❤ also the Bachelor X party is genius, I bet your friends had more fun at your wedding having met each other in advance at that party. You both rock! Enjoy your happily ever after. 🕊💖✨
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  181. This makes so much sense. Anxiety is, emotionally, to move away from people, kindness is the emotional state of moving towards people. Relaxation is neutrality towards people. It's comfortable boredom. Edit: Oh my god, Ana has Seen my comment! 🙀
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  182. I’m about to be 10 months apart from my partner and I’m hoping distance will truly help the heart to grow fonder with this instance 🙏🏽
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  183. I am really happy you mentioned avoiding selfishness, narcissism, sense of entitlement, low-morality first!... you can't 'cheat proof' that. It is so damaging when people spread messages like 'have sex with them often, spoil them, satisfy them'... especially for those in narcissistic relationships.
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  184. I just can't believe my mother lied to me when she said all the other kids were just jealous of how smart I am. /for real some of the ways parents teach kids to cope sets them up for failure later in life, but hey Ana can discuss this in a far more educated, nuanced, and informed manner than I can
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  185. Only one I disagree with is avoiding divorced people. I married at 18 when I was still in school and divorced him 3 years later because he was abusive ( gaslighting, stonewalling, invalidating, ganging up with friends, lying to and about me to others, and cheating ). I had a child with him. The decision to leave did not come easily and my divorce was not a fault of my own. If a man judges me negatively for that divorce i think he's kind of a piece of shit.
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  186. I really hope to see studies like this on older people. College students aren’t really fully formed imo just based on age. I’m curious what this looks like for 30+ people
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  187. This is seriously reassuring for me, since I am literally scared by fights. In my family was normal to fight, and I have grown up hating it: the screams, the insults, the belittling... I can't help to start crying every time I have a fight with someone because of all of this
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  188. Good tip that I heard from someone: feelings are always valid, but not always justified. I always thought of valid in this context similar to what you said: the person has a right to their feelings. I think the problem I see sometimes is the conflation of challenging someone on their perspective and emotional truth as invalidating.
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  189. One thing I noticed when watching a second time is how excited Walt got when he found out how much money was seized from a busted meth lab. This excitement was before the cancer diagnosis. Cancer was just the excuse that he used.
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  190. We can all agree children are the most vulnerable population, yet the terrible things we do to them we would NEVER do to other adults! If you heard your spouse sobbing in the other room, would you just let them cry it out??? I saw a parent with their kid in a stroller, and the kid started calling out to the parent but received no answer. The kid started to panic, calling out louder, crying and screaming, and the parent just kept quiet, looking annoyed. Can you imagine this doing this to a partner or friend? We don't even do this to people we hate. And let's be real, if/when the child starts ignoring the parent in the same way, you can bet they'll get heavily punished for disrespect.
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  191. I have realized now that I almost always was the desperate person, both in friendships I had/wanted and in relationships I wanted. Then when I finally let go of desperately wanting a boyfriend, I met my future bf. It's pretty painful to think about all the things I did in high school for people that didn't even want to be friends, like making a cake or some gift for their birthday, or giving them my notes, or helping them with a test... I also repeatedly had narcissistic best friends, who didn't care about my goals or my happiness either. One of them was basically trying to compete with me in everything (learning languages, sports, etc). Probably that's what was familiar, since both my dad and brother have narcissistic personalities. I really don't have many friends now and I'm starting to feel okay with it, but I'm still trying to find friends through my hobbies, but not like I did in high school. Everyone is busy so I cherish when we have some fun time together.
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  192. This seems obvious but maybe people who are very busy or have a lot going on in their lives might be less mindful of "turning away." Maybe it also has something to do with taking your partner for granted and not fully immersing yourself in the relationship
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  193. I'm hitting 25 this July, and yeah, it's definitely an experience transitioning from the younger first half of my 20s into the more serious responsible second half. Good luck to us.
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  194. You get articles like this for 'asian women' where they are described as a polite, traditional and submissive wife and how they're much better than 'western women'. Honestly its such a fetishising generalisation and its disgusting.
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  195. I’ve watched you throughout my relationship. We were together 3 and a half years and are now broken up. U do good work and give good advice keep it up
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  196. I think this becomes really hard when the people we are trying to communicate with become disrespectful, escalated etc. It's uncomfortable but learning to stand our boundaries firm with time will feel natural.
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  197. I love this conversation. If I could offer my perspective, I think a really necessary solution to all of society’s problems is a standard where we teach in depth about triggers and emotional regulation. Idk what the school systems are teaching nowadays but I don’t remember learning anything about how to deal with feeling triggered. Ultimately, there’s a lot of things we could do collectively to make more intelligent (and emotionally intelligent) adults. Thank you for these videos xoxo
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  198. There are times when you see peoples comments being super similar on similar topics you wonder "oh god am I the one human commenting amongst a bunch of fake people?" And then you have that whole existential crisis from there and yadda yadda the tin foil just found its way on to my head.
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  199. Awww I had a feeling you were going to say you got your Doctorate the moment you started off saying "I'm Dr. Ana" !!!! What an amazing feeling!!! Congratulations on your graduation; definitely adding your book to my to-buy list and really looking forward to continue supporting your channel & future research! ♡
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  200. Little nuggets of everyday wisdom delivered eloquently and unpretentiously with science, relatable examples and actionable advice. Your channel is such a therapeutic and healthy outlet to unwind to after a long day's work. Thank you for being a shining beacon for the lost and the empty.
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  201. I’m going to bring my date to a coffee shop and tell her that I ordered us coffee that is extra hot....because I love to live dangerously...
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  202. Releasing control and acting in a way that best for mental health is such a great take away. We shouldn't have to fight to keep people in our lives.
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  203. Being able to say Husband and Wife sounds soo fancy 🥰
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  204. A closed hand can't give, nor receive.
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  205. The submissive eastern woman thing couldn't be further from the truth. I live in Romania too. At least in western Romania, where I live, women tend to be the decision making, "head of the home". In most families I know of, that is the case, and that applies to middle aged and old age couples alike. Of course, this is a gender role, even though it is not explicit. As gender roles rapidly become obsolete to the younger generation, I think that this trend will disappear too. Also, middle aged and old couples in Romania tend to argue a lot. Ana talked about this in another video, and I personally hate this about Romanian society. So if such fights are common, it's obvious that Romanian women don't just stay quiet and docile and listen to their husbands. They are just as opinionated and hot headed as they are. I feel like in Romania, unlike the conservative part of America, we don't apply or impose gender roles on personalities. PS: out of all the Romanian literature I have read so far, I can only think of a single submissive woman (Ana from the novel Ion). She ends up abused by her husband and by her father and kills herself. So submissiveness is certainly not fetishised here
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  206. Feel sorry for her kid, but I'm thankful more women are expressing this isn't the only path for women. Hope she find peace.
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  207. It is unsettling how social media negatively effects people and there are a lot of studies that show this and yet most people now consider it a necessity in order to be social as a young person. This is a huge misconception IMO. I would rather build a new community in person than let my future teen children on Instagram
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  208. As a Christian, the part about "real Christians" and "nominal Christians" is really aggravating. This is a very narrow, modern Evangelical definition of Christianity which doesn't hold true to most current Roman Catholics, Eastern Orthodox and even many Protestants, let alone most of the historical Christians. I read quite a bit of religious studies and it's a growing consensus that religions don't actually work this way, as a monolith that you must accept in its purest, most orthodox and literal interpretation.
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  209. As someone who has been through these situations twice with two different men, I shuttered and was horrified when they called her the aggressor. I knew exactly what was going on because I had been in that position. Thank you for also drawing attention to his calm demeanor. Great video that can really help many.
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  210. Does it influence it? yes. Does it determine it? No. It’s just one factor that helps determines who you are.
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  211. I work with male clients and almost all of them report low self esteem as a result of using the app. The work comes in helping the client understand that it isn’t a rejection of them, just a rejection of somebody’s perceived opinion of you based on 4 to 5 pictures. They also don’t understand that women care about how intelligent a man looks, how empathic a man looks and how safe a man looks etc. We all have our own self created narratives for ourself, unfortunately dating apps usually reinforce all the negative aspects of ours
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  212. I love your videos. You’re one of the only only psych channels that sticks to the research and doesn’t pop-culturize psychology. Thanks from Germany!
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  213. An infant left crying in the wild would be tracked and taken by an animal. My buddies hunting call device has actual recorded baby animals distress calls to attract predators. There's NO way allowing a baby I cry it out is "natural" for a Mother.
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  214. I love her philosophy. Be happy it happened this way. Cheating is one of the worst things that I considered, but yet that simple "Be happy it happened this way. It means that person isn't worth standing beside for". That sort of self sufficiency is what I aim to always be. Be happy and depart. ✨
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  215. So nice to see she’s Dr.Ana now! 😊 I used to watch her videos back when she was still a student
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  216. I had no idea rOCD was a thing. I've struggled deeply with limerence since I was 5 or 6 but only just recently learned what that is. Now I'm seeing my struggle may be something more ingrained. The situation in the Ukraine for sure impacts all people. As soon as I'm financially able I will be making a donation to help the aid for Ukrainians.
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  217. As a woman scientist, who is young and works primarily with men, thank you. I needed this.
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  218. You have no idea how perfectly timed this video is for me, personally.
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  219. I tried dating apps before but always ended up deleting them. I could never "feel" people just by their photos and talking to them online. I would like to have a romantic partner but I don't feel the need to actively look for one.
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  220. Repeated exposure has worked wonders for me. Not only with becoming less socially anxious but also with (slowly but surely) overcoming people pleasing. For sooo long, I thought that legit everyone would get angry at me or yell at me (like members of my family did growing up) if I set boundaries or said that I didn’t want to do something or didn’t like something. I truly didn’t know that was possible ❤
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  221. I believe im a bad bich periodt ayy
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  222. With regard to "Czar Danya's" commentary of people leaving a relationship over a "small/petty thing": 9 times out of 10, that "small thing" comes on the heels of innumerable other events, and this "small thing" is simply the camel that broke the camel's back. A lack of self awareness and communication is what results in "small things" ending relationships. It's hilarious how these "Dating Gurus" don't know they're telling on themselves. XD
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  223. i like what u said about managing finances!! im 19 and have never been in a relationship, but when i have been on dates, many guys would flex their $$ and how much they would spend and thats a big no for me. my family is pretty middle class, but everyone in my family is incredibly great at investing and saving their $$. ofc, we still treat ourselves and enjoy luxuries here and there, but we are realistic and we dont go spending our $$ where it is not neccessary. i also learned something new today: yellow flags!! :)
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  224. this is a grey area.
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  225. I've never liked the rhetoric (especially online) that wanting a relationship is a sign that you're weak and not independent enough, so you should first work on yourself more before trying to find a partner. It's against our nature and also you'll never be perfect, so if you wait for that you'll never be "good enough" to look for a relationship.
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  226. You and your husband have the most lovely energy! Beautiful connection
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  227. “We are all winners in the sense that we all have worth, but we are not all winners in terms of achievement.” Thank you, I needed to hear this
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  228. i stan a balkan queen!
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  229. Thank you for this video. Honestly whats most disgusting to me is that people dont appear to care about whether shes healthy or not, i have saw people say she looks like the devil or that she looks really ugly or like a fishstick : ( Thats so rude i dont understand how anyone can feel comfortable calling someone that. Its disgusting and doesnt help anyone.
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  230. I so feel you about living in a place with no community. I myself live in rural Japan and have had to work SO hard to make friends and yeah, it was pretty freaking embarrassing at times! I had to gaslight myself a lot honestly. I stepped out of my comfort zone more times than I can imagine this past year and I'm finally, finally seeing the results. To everyone afraid of the embarrassment, I promise it gets better and you will see the rewards.
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  231. Thank you for this. I bawled my eyes out after watching the Diary of a CEO episode you reference. I was a young, broke, single mom who put my son in daycare so I could work. Definitely didn't feel selfish at the time, just necessary, and hearing that I did irreparable damage to my son's mental and emotional health was heartbreaking. I already carry so much guilt about all the things I wish I could've done differently. So thank you for alleviating some of that pain.
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  232. Ana: Cause if they don't, then what's the point of even watching this video? Me, not dating at all: I just watch all of your videos
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  233. It's very important to cultivate maturity and boundaries at the same time because immature people are instantly attracted to you. As they expect you to be understanding and respectful, many times they can disregard your boundaries knowingly or unknowingly. Everyone is shaped through their experiences, so without blaming someone for being immature it's important to address the issue or keep a healthy distance.
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  234. I'm 27 and I have lived in fear my whole life and I am sick of it. I am trying to overcome this now so this video came at the perfect time! Thank you Ana! ❤
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  235. It’s indeed one of the ways that our culture normalizes abuse. I’ve never had a fight with my partner. From the very beginning I told him I don’t believe that fighting is normal, it’s a hard boundary.
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  236. It took me a long time, but over the past couple years I’ve gotten much better at communicating and learning to say no more often. It’s made a huge difference in my interactions with people and making sure I don’t compromise my boundaries
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  237. I’m really tired of people spreading information they see online without any time spent seeing if this claim is factual, or if the study mentioned is viable and has the appropriate experimental groups, controls and replicates. Just because a study exists doesn’t make it fact, and science is actually about asking MORE questions rather than drawing large conclusions off a singular or a few studies. We need more people on here like you, who are willing to be skeptical and understand what research needs
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  238. "easy to manage" we're people, not Cattle
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  239. Ana remember us when you reach 1M 😭 you’re growing so fast
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  240. It's surprising that how internet is not criticizing Justin for chosing this book even tho this book is problematic and everybody knows that but Justin who is an dv advocate could not find more suitable material
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  241. Sometimes suffering and going through the motions is the only way. It's just a cloudy season, sunnier days will come soon
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  242. This is an interesting topic! Being a minority myself, I never really understood the appeal behind or explored hookup culture much at all
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  243. You don't have to be a parent in order to know how to rise a child in the same way you don't need to have cancer to know how to treat it.
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  244. This video reminds me of the “Let Them” theory Mel Robbins has shared before. Let people be the way they are, and if you aren’t in alignment with that then it’s probably in your best interest to spend your time and energy with people that can reciprocate in ways that you’d like them to.
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  245. Me watching this and taking notes WHIle being ✨single af✨ 👁👄👁
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  246. As Eastern-European, articles like this always infuriate me. They generalize women of many cultures and countries, making us look like obedient dolls who are only good for their looks and care for men. I thought that these stereotypes died out in the early 2010s, but similar articles and blog posts still pop up from time to time. And some men actually buy into that and then gaslight you if you don't act upon these stereotypes. Cultural stereotypes and fetishization need to stop really.
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  247. As a guy who enjoys fishing, we do the photos with fish so that we can assert dominance with other men who fish. "Look, this is a huge fish I just caught, you think you can do better?" is the mindset behind photos like that.
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  248. I think you’re spot-on that envy is the driving factor behind the backlash of That Girl. If I try to empathize with those who don’t like the trend, all I can see is that it a) doesn’t appeal to them or b) makes them feel lesser in some way. But in situation B, feeling lesser is still on the viewer and their insecurities. You can be perfectly happy not living That Girl’s lifestyle, so if you feel attacked by it that’s a you problem. I don’t know much about the disordered parts and outliers, though, because I’ve only seen snippets of this trend and largely ignore it. It’s cute and uninteresting, in my opinion.
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  249. It’s amazing how much of an effect sleep has on productivity & overall health.
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  250. Even the “narcisistic smirk” can be done by other people being cruel for various reasons
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  251. I think that there's nothing wrong with a content warning, like for things particularly heavy, but it shouldn't be as required as it is. And for every little thing. Like I'm in a parenting group on Facebook where I regularly see things like TW: financial privilege. And I'm here below the poverty line like...that's kinda condescending. I can handle the fact that some people have more money than me.
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  252. Dr. Ana coming out with bangers lately
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  253. My cat is outgoing like a dog, but I like to think it's because the vast majority of her interactions with humans are with cat lovers who give her strong evidence that people are safe to open up to. Cats are more human than people let on.
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  254. I consider myself a gentle parent before that became a thing. That doesn’t mean letting kids do whatever they want. My kids are 22, 19, 17 all boys and they absolutely adore me and we are super close but they have their own lives. I was very responsive, I had rules that made sense, consequences were generally natural. They don’t lie (often to their detriment), they don’t sneak, they are honest and kind. They aren’t perfect people but that has never been the goal.
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  255. the last time i was this early to a video my dad was still home :')
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  256. omg thank you for doing this. i watched that video and was filled with anger. i have three kids with adhd---and i'm a stay at home mom that practiced gentle parenting and attachment parenting. ADHD is NOT a "trauma response" it's a brain difference that people are born with.
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  257. Great clarification of the theories of emotion! My psych teacher had mentioned that an amusement park or fair would be a great place for first date, similar to the points you made in the vid. Thanks for your detailed explanations!
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  258. i really like how you deliver the information via adding your thoughts and experiences to the topic. it makes me rethink and analyze everything that has happened in my life.
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  259. I’m very critical of my emotions despite being a semi-openly emotional person, to the point where my therapist has warned me that I am excessively cruel to myself. I just feel that I have no right to feel the way I do. I have that self talk of “Shut up. Stop crying. Get over it. You have no reason to cry. You’re exaggerating/you did this to yourself/you’re too old to be feeling this” and it stems from an abandonment wound I downplay, anxious attachment, and a childhood of an immigrant family who only have me harsh “stop its” when negative emotions would rise.
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  260. It seems like conspiratorial thinking has been on the rise for a long time in America. I suspect it has something to do with the fact that the people are less able to advocate for themselves. No more unions, politicians take big money and aren’t held accountable, loneliness is up and social cohesion is down. But the ability to understand and challenge power structures in society has been so thoroughly obscured by the ruling class that everyone is just standing around thinking, “I feel so bad but I don’t know why. What could it be? Surely someone somewhere is screwing me over….” And then they start coming up with imaginary answers because they don’t have access to the real ones. Anyways, that’s why I think conspiratorial thinking is on the rise.
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  261. It's amazing how the Romanian language sounds so similar to my languages, Italian and Sicilian, mixed with Russian. Listening to this was a really fascinating experience
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  262. I love your call out with how women tend to feel that they are being or are labeled as aggressive, when in actuality, it’s more assertive. Definitely victim to this, on both ends.
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  263. I've grown up with a comparison-based self-esteem, but as you mentioned it lead to unattainable perfectionistic tendencies. Loving myself and showing myself self-compassion definitely mellows things out a lot more and ultimately makes me a happier and more forgiving being!
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  264. 3:43 is the summary of many many women’s lives and being labeled a crazy woman or trouble or a problem when they react to domestic or cultural abuse and oppression.
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  265. I'm so glad you made this video. I'm a daughter of a mom like this and have also had a partner with a boy mom in the past. Always baffled me to deal with this behavior
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  266. me eager to watch this even tho I’ve been a single pringle since birth 😃
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  267. Lmao sounds a lot like Projecting, but in a "older sister" way, and a bad sister way.
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  268. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that empowerment would ideally lead to external power within a community/organization. Sadly, most of the things women nowadays refer to as empowering have nothing to do with actual power (not that casual sex or things of that nature are inherently wrong or anything like that, they just don't actually make an individual more powerful like getting a promotion would). If 3rd wave feminism is really going to achieve what it set out to, then I think step one is actually understanding the jargon related to the movement is key. Throwing around buzzwords that are subjective/people can't even define is more harmful than good imo. Tbh as a guy I'm trying hard to understand the female perspective on issues like this, but it can be hard when words like empowering can mean literally anything.
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  269. Could you do one on workplace abuse? I had an experience with an abusive boss and I'm recognizing a lot of those behavior patterns in this video
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  270. I am an introvert working at Trader Joe’s. It’s not a bad place to work, it’s known for its customer service. There are times when people don’t let you just do your job and be polite. Everyone forces you to talk. Imagine hours filled with high-energy conversations. Imagine hours of trying to entertain 100s of people in a short period, just so you won’t get scolded by your manager. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m not typing this comment for sympathy because I chose to work here btw. Before the pandemic, you can just greet people, bag their stuff, and tell them to have a nice day after the transaction. Now people would say that we are the only interaction outside of zoom they’ve had throughout the day, and it puts a lot of pressure on us to entertain them. The whole day I can barely hear my thoughts because I am surrounded by empty none stop chatter and grocery store music. It's frustrating when you can tell the customer is feeling weird because you try to minimize the conversation with them for your sanity. Nevertheless, I am still polite. It makes the job miserable knowing people expect you to be just like the person who rang them up the last time they were there. I was trying my best to stay and learn to be more social, but I am exhausted at the end of every shift because of the social interactions. I am currently looking for different a line of work.
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  271. I think the difference between weather and climate might be a useful analogy. It can still rain in a place with a sunny climate because the climate is not what the weather does on any one day, because climate in the pattern of weather over an extended period. Happiness is not just pleasure in the moment, but the long term preponderance of pleasure over pain.
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  272. Were you procrastinating giving us this procrastination video?
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  273. This is hundred percent better than any relationship advice you see on TikTok
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  274. I’m doing my MSc in psychology currently, sometimes I forget I can use psychology to help my dating life too haha.
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  275. Brilliant topic today, Ana! I think we all fall prey to immaturity at times. Thanks for addressing this and for the actionable strategies. Beautiful channel <3
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  276. Abusive parents always project on their victims and say, "Don't blame us for your problems. We didn't do this to you. You should take responsibility for how you turned out. You always blame others and not yourself!" While never taking responsibility themselves. By saying that line, they do exactly what they accuse the child of doing. Funny thing is that these same abusive parents will make it all about themselves by making the excuse of, "Well, I did this because when I was a kid, my parents did this with me, which made me want to do this bad thing." Any time their child calls out their abusive behavior. So these parents can use their own upbringing as an excuse and blame their own parents for how they act now as ADULTS, but they accuse their kids "not taking responsibility" and "blaming all their problems on them" simply because their adult child is going no contact or calling out their abusive behavior. These parents are MASTERS of projecting on and gaslighting their children. It's common knowledge that parents have a huge effect on how their kids will function as adults, and these parents know it. I know they know it, because they will go on about how their parents caused the problems they had now, and if their own kid turns out successful, happy, and healthy, SUDDENLY they want the credit and won't use the, "Why do you assume it's because of the parent? We don't affect everything!" line. They say, "Yeah, we did that". They're just mad that they can't have their cake and eat it too (meaning being able to not make an effort for their kid or being able to take advantage of them, while also getting away with it and being applauded for being a "good parent").
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  277. I've never clicked on a video so fast
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  278. Yes yes YES. 6000 + languages in this world and you chose to speak FACTS on this one!
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  279. As a Turkish person, I'd like to thank you a lot for your support of the earthquake victims Ana, it means a lot. It was devastating in many ways and it will take time to heal. Best! ♥
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  280. Ana, I really want to thank you for making these videos (especially the parental estrangement ones) – watching them was cathartic as I grew up with a mother who matched almost every description you discussed, I spent years in therapy after moving out (I was denied therapy before by my mother) denying that my mental health issues could be due to my upbringing as it was so ingrained that I was inherently evil as a child, it was only after my sister opened up to me with the same conclusions she independently drew that I realised. Watching your earlier video I was constantly waiting for you to caveat with "what if the child is inherently evil" but the fact that you didn't definitely made me rethink my thought patterns.
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  281. i know exactly what you meant when you said "i wasn't really interested in this topic until very recently when i started to notice it in the media" and i just wanna say im so glad you're not part of that group. it's been absolutely terrifying to see how many people defend or try to justify that type of behavior these past few days
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  282. Ana’s husband could really teach a lot of these angry and self-loathing guys on the internet about self-improvement and development. I could see him giving some great dating and marriage advice.
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  283.  @AnaPsychology  he was officially charged in court and found guilty, so you're in the clear to say he did it for future reference
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  284. I was actually being the manipulator. i didn’t know i was manipulating him and thought that i was just expressing my feelings. i even thought that it was important for me to do that. however, after he had attempted to bring it up a few times and it was a bit difficult for me to see it, it also took my sister to nudge me a bit, i finally realised that i was manipulating him. it was really brave of him to keep confronting me. i felt extremely bad when i suddenly realised everything i was doing because in those times, i really felt like i was doing nothing wrong. i hope other people can realise this too!
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  285. Thank you. This helps me realize that intensity isn’t always the best (which is usually how I go about it).
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  286. I value traditional masculinity, and the works of psychoanalysts and authors like Jung, Robert Moore, and Robert Bly all show that proper traditional masculinity is not the abusive, violent, and aggressive behavior that people fear. That's only ONE side of it, and anything that is super unbalanced, no matter if its feminine or masculine behavior, will always have some negative (or toxic) outcome. True masculinity in its entirety encompasses warmth, love, and emotional centeredness alongside strength, power, and aggression. Personally, I think anything that's said on social media is always narrow minded. This is why I think anyone who is serious about these topics ought to learn through reading books. Anyways, keep up your great work!
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  287. Had a couple people in my life like this, it’s super damaging.
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  288. For me, I use this acronym for what I believe to be an ideal partner: SHAAK S-Space and time to bond H-Honesty plus some other characteristics that come to mind like humility, gratefulness, morality, etc A-A sense of humor A-A sense of ambition/motivation (either for my goals, their goals, or both) K-Kindness I’m sure there are other things that I may be missing. Although physical traits are a way in the door for me getting interested, the traits above matter more to me in the long run
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  289. i had an uber driver who did the same. i went to the wrong DMV…. it was for truckers 😂 she said “oh i knew you weren’t at the right place because im a truck driver” and she drove me to the correct place…. i would’ve been completely stranded if she didn’t help me. i love to extend goodwill to people, not everyone has everything going right in their day and it’s so easy to pass along something better for them.
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  290. It buys health insurance, better food choices, options of better education and learning resources, the time to be with your family and rear your own children if you prefer.. safer homes, keeping cars maintained and insured, I could go on forever. It certainly buys happiness. I’ve been on both of ends of this spectrum. Happiness is a choice, but lack of stress and control over your life is AMAZiNG!
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  291. I remember learning about misattribution of arousal in my ap psych class 2 years ago, but i’ve never put too much thought about it, ive never dated anyone but now I know what to do on my first date LMAO
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  292. Could you talk about work politics? Manipulation between colleagues at the workplace? I struggle a lot at my job because there are sort of different factions at my workplace that want to undermine each other... And trying to be neutral makes me someone everyone wants to bring to their side. It makes me anxious being in the middle of everything... I agree mostly with one side but I don't want to have to choose half of my coworkers over the others, can't imagine that being any better than the current situation I'm in. Thank you in any case and congratulations on the baby!!
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  293. god, im sad to say my ex nearly covered all of those red flags. at least now i can see things from a new perspective, and really ask myself why i settled for "less"!
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  294. I was really proud when you said a couple of months ago that you're Romanian, although it had nothing to do with me. I'm just happy to see you thriving on YouTube sharing your knowledge in such a nice and kind way. A Romanian in the UK :)
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  295. Some people, especially men, are v bad at picking good photos There are websites that will allow you to upload photos and strangers in your chosen age range will vote how attractive smart trustworthy you look in that photos Some photos i thiught i looked good in scored really low. Some photos i thiught i looked meh in scored very high I used the ones voted by stangers rather than the ones I thought were good and the results were pretty good i managed to get matches and quite a lot of dates
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  296. "then they can have it" what a beautiful line! especially about relationships. a partner who cheats and gets easily swayed by other people is not worth having in the first place. he ce jealousy is not a very useful emotion, either we are wrong and overthink unnecessarily. or we are right and the only way to find out whether we are right or not is to completely let go of control! your partner should WANT to stay with you because they love you, and not because you are jealous and vigilant and don't give them a chance to cheat
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  297. "Drunken words are sober thoughts" and "a man who lacks self-control is bad news" (mine by the way) are my new moto's. Great content and delivery. Thank you.
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  298. "I hate the sun" lmfao
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  299. They called her the aggressor!!! My god!!!!
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  300. I was set on getting married and after the breakup I sought this type of advice for a few years. It just makes it worse, keeps you obsessed. Ironically it was only once I genuinely moved on and was over her that was when she tried to get back in my life 😂
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  301. I'm trying hard to get my boyfriend to communicate more openly and don't let things bottle up but I'm kinda like that too, so i get where he's coming from but it's so frustrating when i try my absolute best to foster a positive communicative environment and it doesn't work, or at least not like how i want it too. Fortunately we are compatible on the other 3 traits!
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  302. This is exactly the process I have been working on for myself the past couple years. You seem like a great person who is very articulate and probably a ton of fun to have deep, quality conversations with! Glad I found you on YT and thanks for your educated input.
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  303. Explicitly giving someone an ultimatum is a pretty quick way to lose some friends, especially if the other party isn't doing the same
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  304. such an important contribution to the conversation; i haven't seen anyone else talking about these issues in this way. thank you.
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  305. I think there's level to it. If its a misunderstanding, no im not dropping another friend because you're upset. However, if one friend did something really terrible to another friend, like slept with her boyfriend, stole money from her, spread nasty rumors, etc im not going to continue to be friends with that other friend either. If youll hurt another person you called friend in that way, you'll definitely do it to me.
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  306. I'm just gonna say it, Anna is looking like a vampire queen! 🖤❤🖤
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  307. First let's talk about that intro
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  308. Use a silk bonnet. If you have a longer hair, they sell some for long hair. It really helps maintain your curls at night. It also helps with hair breakage as well
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  309. I appreciate the "shut the fuck up" and accept reality part. Honoring the body instead of the brain's thoughts that aren't ours.
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  310. A man definitely wrote this. Lol.
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  311. I know this is meant for the context of romantic relationships, but I see a lot of this in my parents - and it's correct that you say that a lot of these behaviours are in themselves abusive. But it's obvious in the case of my parents. What I think would be a good follow-up or companion video/topic would be what is not particular red flags, such as lovebombing. I believe in that case there's wiggle-room for interpretation there which people may actually be misinterpreting, such as someone being very eager early into a relationship. Such behaviour may be unwise on their part, but I believe there's a fine line between being very eager (they may have been very lonely, been abandoned or not had many or any opportunities in romantic relationships, or they may just value you that much) and abuse, which often involves the element of manipulation. I have also seen people worrying that they may be lovebombing someone when their behaviour genuinely doesn't appear to be (I know I worry about that and also coming off as eager), but because we who know about these red flags tend to be very alert about them, we can end up robbing ourselves of opportunities to become close with anyone, and eventually end up emotionally freezing ourselves over and isolating ourselves as we push others away by leaving them with a sense of futility about getting through to you or caring about you.
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  312. Hm. I think both can be true at once. It is true that we are being encouraged by the Hollywood PR Machine to follow this story. And we’re being fed it, literally, in our Feeds. But it’s also true that the film has clear examples of IPV/DV, and the original director, Baldoni, wanted to run with that and emphasize it. But Lively seemingly dominated a bit more on set and ultimately, her cut was released. And her cut, in accordance with her mindset, minimized the still-present DV. Justin, too, is promoting the version of the film he intended to make, with its underlying purpose. Issue is, Colleen Hoover had her own ideas about it (seemingly more in line with Blake’s, despite her conscious decision to give the movie rights to Justin). Folks seem to be leaning into the DV angle perhaps because they wish for a Hollywood film to highlight the issue, rather than getting another fluffy romcom. It seems more like a drama anyway, so romcom is an odd label but…it’s how Blake is making it sound? It’s the utter lack of alignment across the cast and leadership that’s creating fragmentation in our public response. Not to mention Ryan Reynolds oddly being involved, and even writing part of the script during the writer’s strike? That’s some BS. It’s a mess, and setting aside their past actions, Blake’s superficiality in nearly all interviews is tough to take for some, possibly due to the major contrast with Justin’s approach, which seems nuanced and pensive. She doesn’t owe us depth or empathy towards the subject matter present in her film, but we seem to crave it in this case. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  313. I like to say that people have free will and are not obligated to do anything, but I will certainly see what they do with their free will as valuable data/reflections on who they are and their integrity.
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  314. omg i did donuts on the freeway on accident on my first date w this guy and it scared the shit out of the both of us but were still going strong lolll.
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  315. I'm glad you took the time to speak about what's happening. I've been staying off of social media (for my mental health) but have read articles. It's horrifying but not at all shocking. Sending prayers out for Ukrainians.
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  316. I love that you shined a light on the need to treat all missing women’s cases as serious as this one. It never ceases to amaze me how quickly the media and authorities resolve certain cases over others. RIP to Gabby
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  317. 3:50 I love that you use the viewer in this example! I hope it encourages people to reflect on themselves
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  318. Misguided fans went after Ariana Grande after Mac Miller's death as well.
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  319. About this - 8:10 - A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.
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  320. Ok but can we talk about how gorgeous you look in all red?
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  321. I hit a personal milestone on December 30th. I was exhausted on the 31st & went to bed early. And now I’m ready to get back at it. Happy New Year!
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  322. I agree that a healthy couple should not fight aggressively and with the intention to hurt the other person. In every healthy and lasting relationship I’ve witnessed, partners have some annoyances with each other but they are always discussed maturely with both partners feeling respected and heard.
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  323. As someone who is drawn to both astrology and psychology, this is a video I did not know I needed in my life 😂. Great job Ana!
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  324. I actually ended up doing this exact thing after some five or so sessions with my therapist where we figured out it wasn't my work burning me out it was my ATTITUDE toward my work, seeing it as a burden instead of an opportunity and privilege and doing more helped me stop overthinking constantly about all my work so it was three things we fixed: - my victim attitude towards work - my constant overthinking - my constant perfectionism to be "the best" at my work was a mix of these three constantly creating conflict in my head now I always tell myself "I have the opportunity to do XYZ" instead of "I have to do XYZ today..." and it changed everything for me these days I don't even feel anything during work except relaxation, it's not Work VS Fun VS Hobbies, it's just "things I do" now
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  325. all the cuts probably means giggles and I hope I have chemistry with someone like that one day :face-blue-smiling:
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  326. My family has never celebrated birthdays, so they are not a big deal to me. Holidays, on the other hand, do trigger a sense of betrayal or abandonment if friends/ family don't make the gesture to let you know they care.
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  327. To be honest, I have always been struggling with hookup culture and never really participated to it. Mostly because I have been feeling anxious about being pressured into it, while the lack of intimacy discourages me a lot. Because of the environment I grew up with, I always felt less of a man because of it. I have seen many male friends not discussing this topic at all, afraid of being deemed "not normal" or "not enough of a man" when their number of sexual partners was deemed "too low". Or also, men saying comments like: "If I don't have sex for more than 6 months, there is probably something wrong with me". Unsurprisingly, the situation is even worst for women, that are constantly slut-shamed for their number of sexual partners. Thanks to therapy and reading about toxic/fragile masculinity, I came to the conclusion that everyone should be free to live his/her own sexuality as freely as possible. It seems naive and obvious but it is absolute not the case yet in nowadays society. Feeling comfortable and intimate is 100 times for relevant than proving your masculinity through sexual experiences
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  328. Pogg we got more skits and bloopers lmao. While you’re always pretty clear with what you mean, the skits def help put what you’re talking into perspective
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  329. Saw "anxiety" in the title and clicked.
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  330. As an undergrad student that just started my first year in Ba psychology, this video has been really helpful to determine whether this is the right fit for me. Fortunately enough I think this video reinstates the idea that this is definitely something I want to pursue. Thank you for these helpful and thought provoking questions, I think regardless of what field of study anyone takes it's always important to ask yourself why you chose that particular pathway. Again thank you and keep up the wonderful work!
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  331. “There is no normal reaction to something that is inherently abnormal.” Loves it!
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  332. Don’t be afraid to fail guys, the pain of regret is way worse than the pain of failure. The worst thing you can do is nothing. If you fail, that means you tried. If you tried, that means you gave yourself a chance!
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  333. Even in the definition of internal empowerment that you gave, bodily agency wasn’t one of the components. Because, like you said, bodily agency =|= empowerment, it’s a basic human right
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  334. My upbringing played a role too, but changing schools did it for me. On top of that, I was shy and introverted. Middle school it began, but was mild. HS it got worse and was severe. I was depressed, had no friends, and was rejected by my classmates, but I wasn’t bullied thank God. I still have SA, but it’s slowing going away. I had to learn to accept that people would critique me, wouldn’t like me and that it was ok to be introverted.
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  335. I'm literally obsessed with your channel
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  336. I knew you were engaged but not that you were already married, congratulations, this video was very refreshing and you both look very happy, I wish you both the best
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  337. People throw around ODC so casually but don't even understand the severity of it, I love your videos and todays video on how you have broken down the information to digest easily for everyone to understand. Amazing work Ana! Thank you.
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  338. Great video and great insight. Friendships aren’t talked about enough. I feel like a lot of people today focus on romantic relationships only and forget how valuable our friendships are as well
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  339. I lost my grandma and currently going through a breakup so this was like a heaven sent❤️
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  340. This video comes at such a good time. Dealing with depression for such a long time has made choosing a career because I no longer know what I like and don't like. I have very interests but my interest in them is so fleeting that I'm not sure they would be viable to choose for a career. Might have to get in contact with a career counsellor. Great video!!
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  341. I think a fight can be differentiated from a disagreement when there is a level of defensiveness and close-mindedness on either side. A healthy relationship's issues should always be approached from a mindset of love, potential growth, and curiosity about the other perspective.
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  342. this was really interesting! i’ve struggled all my life with people pleasing and in the past months the one who used to be my boyfriend encouraged me to speak my mind more often. i struggled a lot telling him what i wanted or didn’t want and that gave us problems. the thing is once i started to do that, it turned out just as you said - i have no experience speaking my mind, so according to him i was “being cold” and “not considering his feelings”. i want to continue improving at self respect and speaking my mind while also considering the other person’s feelings, which was my whole intention when i tended to people please. i think finding a balance isn’t as easy as it sounds.
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  343. “Building resiliency and saving that mental health day for later” yessssss this is something I struggle with, but now that I have the proper treatment for my conditions, I’m gonna have to remember this when my body and brain try to stay in the habitual loop of giving up before I’ve even tried.
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  344. His camera glances are chefs kiss
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  345. I was initially nervous to watch this video because I subconsciously thought that treating people like children would mean treating them the way my parents treated me - not very nicely. But as usual you are spot on. I sometimes find it hard to comfort people who react in unexpected ways to situations like the ones you mentioned, and these seem like the approaches I need to do better at comforting people like that. Thanks for another great video :)
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  346. Your perspective on marriage and long-term partnership is akin to how I view marriage! I’m fairly young (21) and it can feel isolating to have these views. I’m glad to know that there are happy and healthy couples out there who hold a similar view. Congratulations on your marriage ❤
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  347. My counsellor gave me a really good tip once when I was feeling overwhelmed with schoolwork. I actually described how I felt in terms of the 3F response and that because I felt so overwhelmed with my coursework, I just froze - couldn't get anything done but just stew in my own anxiety. From our session I realized I viewed my academics as one big 'monster' that felt impossible to take down, but once I started looking at it as an army of smaller monsters instead it started to feel more manageable. Like, Instead of looking at one deadline as a whole (e.g. 2000 word essay), I treat it as a bunch of smaller components (brainstorming phase > draft phase > polishing phase etc). Tbh I still freeze up at times, but thinking this way helps me shake myself out of it. Just wanted to share cus your video reminded me of this ^.^ love to see your channel growing and getting sponsored!
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  348. Envy can leave you so resentful and petty, speaking from experience. Working to minimize envy and jealousy is my goal now. I can see how envy might be related to covert narcissism. For some moments there I was really scared if i was a narcissist. Can’t wait for the video on guilt and shame. I have to work on these too.
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  349. It's only toxic if it's harmful to your well-being or your relationships. Everyone has a different way of being. Just have to figure out the right balance.
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  350. It hasn’t become widespread- always was widespread (take it from a 55 years old)
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  351. Your grandma sounds so youthful and elegant! I like her 😌
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  352. Where I'm confused is that though I do feel quite anxious about running errands like going to the market or ordering food at a restaurant, I am still able to push through and do those things. But when it comes to casual social situations, there is honestly no way that I am able to force myself to engage in those situations. When I'm having a conversation with people, I feel extremely panicked and tense. I feel a need to remove myself from the situation as soon as possible. I can't even muster up the courage to say "Hi" to someone. So I'm really not sure. Still a great and informative video nonetheless.
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  353. Im not Eastern European or European at all but I always found it really annoying how western men often objectify women from the region.
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  354. I personally define healthy fighting in relationships as disagreements which play a significance to how the relationship functions - conflict that arises as intimacy grows and the individual behaviours and needs of the partners don't always match up. This is healthy as long as the couple both proactively engage in talking it through and trying to understand/creatively resolve these conflicts - I think some heatedness is acceptable if the issue is serious enough (might risk the loss of the relationship due to differences) as long as it never rises to the level of attacking/threatening/abandoning the other, I guess like raised voices is okay but yelling or slamming doors isn't. I'd deem unhealthy fighting as unrestrained and disrespectful arguing, so finger pointing, refusing to listen to each other, jumping to conclusions without hearing the other side, refusing to acknowledge your own role in a conflict, shouting, threatening, walking out on a fight without there being an agreement to go cool off and then return, ultimatums etc. To me, a fight is conflict. Conflict is inevitable in all couples, what's important is how you both approach that fight. Some can do it more calmly than others but I strongly value honest expression hence my tolerance of heatedness that never bubbles over into aggression or compromises the desire to understand or respect the other.
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  355. my body tells me im embarassed when i have to assert myself even if im in the right. and I have to sit with that discomfort!
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  356. Another gem, thank you. Having BPD and a fearful/disorganized attachment I don't know what makes me more uncomfortable- dating a more anxious man or more avoidant. Either the fear of losing my autonomy comes up, or my anxiety and abandonment fears kick in. I make it a point to observe other people's attachments and hold space for them to communicate their needs. I sit in discomfort at times but get through it.
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  357. 27:16 people aren’t having children because rent is $1000+ for a 2 bed 800sqft, the average grocery bill is $150 a week, gas is like $50 a week on average, and social programs are being dismantled.
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  358. Some of these comments ... did you listen to the video? Personal attacks against an actress you don't know and will never meet is weird. Everything you know about her is most likely filtered through a lens designed solely to get you to buy soap. I really don't get it.
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  359. Yes please do a sociopathy vs psychopathy video!!
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  360. I deal with students that do this all the time due to parents that are hard to please. Thanks for the info!
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  361. The most scientifically accurate treatment Y M C A
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  362. I have BPD and was diagnosed last year. I have an issue with taking things that should have a 0-10 level of reaction to 100. Filling my life with friends who genuinely care, and working on the issues I have through therapy and fulfilling hobbies has left me no time to argue with strangers on the internet. I still engage when I know someone has a bad take, but it’s not worth it to spend twenty minutes or more on it. I could be using that time to crochet my nephew a blanket or spend time with my newlywed husband. The life you live as a grass toucher is starkly different than someone chronically online and it shows
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  363. As a guy guilty of making poor decisions in past relationships these videos really help illuminate some of my own issues. Trying my best to fix them
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  364. Great video! I think emotions are like smoke detectors which can quickly alert us of things going right or wrong. However, they can sometimes give false positives, so we should take into account other factors too to properly assess a situation instead of thinking there must be a fire just because the smoke detector went off.
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  365. I read some comments (not on YouTube) from men saying that they very rarely get compliments from women and probably, from other men as well. I think it's a very good observation. This is one way women can support men: ackowledge their efforts, appreciate who they are, tell them about their qualities, encourage them, their hobbies, their activities. I make sure to compliment my dad and my husband whenever a compliment would be in order. I remember praising my dad recently for having done a complex and pretty difficult hands-on job around the house. He told me: "You're the only one in this house who said this to me". Yes, men deserve to be supported and thank you for this video. It's the first time I see a psychology-related channel making such a video. So congratulations to both of you!
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  366. this video is SO HELPFUL! i was raised by emotionally immature parents, and i used to think the way they speak was the way everyone spoke. i want to correct this, because i never want to make people feel unheard by mimicking my parents!!
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  367. 1:30 The idiom you're looking for is "letting the chips fall where they may" 😊
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  368. can you make a video about what studying psychology has been like for you? the workload, the subjects, the variety of job prospects… for people like me who are thinking about pursuing psychology academically but who aren’t completely sure if it’s for them. thanks!
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  369. You’re on a roll lately especially since the subject of this video applies to my relationship with my partner thank you!
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  370. Really good advice, I always had problems the other way around: I used to be so focused on the person I was talking with that I often ended up being the only one carrying the conversation while still not giving them any chance to get to know more about myself in the process. I'm working on my confidence to meet in the middle more often, where I am not too insecure to risk the conversation ending just because I didn't try everything all the time (because if the other person isn't interested enough in talking to me, I won't be able to change that anyway).
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  371. I've been gaslit before, unfortunately like most things, you get better at dealing with it the more you're exposed to it.
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  372. Very helpful video. The sunk cost fallacy can help you understand other horrible life decisions like staying in your current job when you're no longer enjoying it or not selling your house even if it makes sense, IMHO.
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  373. I love the way you articulate your ideas, tie in philosophy, literature and personal experience! Your videos are extremely insightful. Thanks!
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  374. this happens in the workplace often. This is a new concept for me. I would have just lumped it under manipulation. Great video
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  375. ​​​ @AnaPsychology  yes thank you for making that clarification. I meant because I like being alone I tend to feel less lonely most of the time, but when loneliness does happen im less prepared.
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  376. OH MY GOD YOU CHANGED MY LIFE the “not disclosing you like someone with little evidence” and just being patient and not doting on someone immediately and how to join a group convo are super super useful thank you also being strategic and not wasting energy 🥴
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  377. Doing stretches and yoga really helped with my body image issues. It helped me find an appreciation for what my body can do instead of judging it for how it looks. Plus now I can do the splits.
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  378. Yeah, two hours into the party is generally when people start asking me if I'm alright.
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  379. You are a snow flake! People in your age group ( or any group any more ) rarely take accountability for there mistakes. Come back and not only correcting but going into it and make it clear, I give you mad props for it. You are going to be a great asset in your field.
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  380. This movie was based on the japanese 1998 movie perfect blue from the director Satoshi Kon (RIP) which his creations have also been inspiration for requiem for a dream and inception. I highly recommend his movies (regarding psychology) as well❤️
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  381. Your grandma is really wise. I love how she always said that "be happy." She really has positive mindset and attitude!
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  382. Can you do a video on Social Anxiety? Thank you. And I love your channel.
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  383. I love how you call your grandfather 'bubu'. It's such a cute and endearing term.
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  384. I cant believe they portrayed her as the aggressor. Completely and utterly ridiculous :( My prayers and thoughts goes to her family and I truely hope they get justice
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  385. THANK GOD THANK GOD!!! Someone spoke up about this. This is something which should be normalised. The topic of friendship. We all are just so invested in relationships that the content just revolves around it. This was much needed. This is one of those topics that must be spoken of. Just how bad romantic break ups are friendship breakups are much worse for some people. Thank you!!!
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  386. I wouldn't assume you're East Asian tbh, I think people assume it because of the way your eyes are shaped, but maybe they've just never seen an East Asian person before 🤔 At first I assumed you were Eastern European or West Asian/Middle Eastern because of your dark wavy hair, so when you said you're Romanian, it made perfect sense
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  387. your secret is safe with us.
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  388. I love Bram Stoker's Dracula(1992) so much. Espescially how while Keanu Reeves is stuggling to put on a british accent Anthony Hopkins, the most British man in the movie, is doing an over the top German accent.
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  389. The fact that you realize you're addicted is good enough. Make a voluntary effort to stop picking up your phone everytime you're bored. Instead sit in that uncomfortable silence and ponder what is making you "escape" your reality. Addictions are just escaping from your real problems.
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  390. I’ve never left a comment on a YouTube video before. This is a 1 on the embarrassment hierarchy for me. So here I go 😁 I’ve been watching your videos on both of your channels for a while now. I admire you and I want to let you know that you come across as a very brave and determined person! 😊 Best of luck with all your future endeavours!
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  391. I agree about the micro expressions being pseudo science. Sometimes I noticed I can have really weird micro expressions depending on how the person is telling their sad story or happy story. If they smile I will smile back. Also, it can also depends on my mood. If I had a really bad day, I may not be or show that much happiness for a friend who is telling me about their good news. It's not because I don't want them to be happy, it's just because that day I just won't be able to feel joy as easily, that's all. I noticed that a lot of misinformation like this tends to dramatize things a lot. Even probably make people a bit paranoid. That's not very useful for relationships Great content as always Ana!
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  392. “You’re not gonna be getting that attention today” yessss Anna let them know what’s up
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  393. We live in a society where, often immediately after the traumatic assault, there is no help. So therefore, a natural build up of desperation occurs. Our brains are so bright that in almost any cirumstance, we will find a safe way out. However, communication becomes so vital...fone signals can be down, relatives may be away or non-existent. This terror can internalise to such an extent it can cause ' heartbreak syndrome', where the actual heart muscle becomes weakened or dies. I suffer from that. It is real. 🌱
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  394. I needed that video. I'm in a really difficult episode of anxiety that makes me extremely unproductive. It puts me in a torturous cycle that's difficult to break out of being afraid and dreading doing things, wasting time and then regretting because it's too late to do them and then beating myself up and then despising myself. Lists do help me but not always. When I was younger, parent used to make lists for me to do stuff during summers when I was off school and sometimes I didn't do everything that was on them. Because they were stressed and exhausted after work, they would be really upset with me and would lash out so I have bad memories and feelings tied to lists and fulfilling them. But I will get up now and do what I've been putting off. Thank you ❤️
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  395. for me an ideal partner would be someone who shares the same values that I do and we have a common understanding on how we build our relationship, 2. someone who is able to communicate effectively and most importantly someone who is willing to grow and learn themselves .
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  396. I’m someone who goes through winter depression every year. I gain 20 pounds, play video games, watch anime, and procrastinate my goals. This winter I promised myself I’d find meaning in the suffering of what you mentioned. Thanks for sharing, I’m definitely going to try to integrate my shadow self by accepting my higher self instead of fearing it. That will be a scary road that is necessary.
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  397. I always struggle with getting myself to start things, but once I do feel miles better
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  398. Also, I notice you made Nikolai so tiny we can't see him in the thumbnail. That's cold.
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  399. I’m guilty of self-sabotaging myself a lot with my thoughts and ending up unnecessarily worrying about things I don’t really need to. Have been getting better at mitigating the problem at least
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  400. Making the first move? Double calling? this is either a very common problem, or it is a damn close coincedence because that was my problem until a couple of days. Also a small tip, anyone who have the same problem, do not fantasize about the other person with intent of having love or attention from him/her because it will make you love them in ways that will probably get out of control and have you make that mistake alot..
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  401. These parents putting their kids on TikTok just doesn't sit right with me, especially when the kids are being emotional. The tiktok with the woman explaining the stick hitting the tv was perfectly fine because there were no kids in the video, so it doesn't bother me. I can't be the only one that thinks this way, right?
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  402. hey ana! i got my associates degree! transferring to university to get my ba in psychology! you’re one of my inspirations that keep me going 🩷🧠
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  403. Great video topic! I feel like supporting women is seen so 'taboo' for men, the amount of times I've seen men call other each other 'simps' for standing up for or respecting women. It's so strange to me, aren't heterosexual men meant to be the ones who like women? Yet most of the time they demean women most, I wish men would stop seeing women as sexual objects and realise we are LITERAL human beings with feelings (like them) and that there's more to us than our gender.
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  404. It's nice to hear this from more sources, finally. I sought out a therapist for other reasons than thinking I had som undiagnosed diagnosis, more for personal issues. At some point my therapist brought up that she has a feeling I might have ADHD. However, in the same breath, she mentioned I might have a depression, because the two share certain symptoms. And just to be clear, I still have no official diagnosis, by others due to the nature of my therapy, so I can't claim for certain that I do or don't have either a depression or adhd, but my therapist did make a comment sounding like adhd is quite likely, albeit a fairly mild one
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  405. As someone who practices gratitude daily and has definitely seen the difference in making healthier choices, I’ve noticed for me personally practicing gratitude makes me grateful for all the things my body does just to keep me alive and keep me healthy. I see it as me giving back to my body by feeding it healthy and nutritious meals, daily movement, skin care and other self care practices etc which then boosts my confidence
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  406. I like to tell myself “today’s a good day” then I start finding reasons why today’s a good day
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  407. Just wanted to say - that I’ve been watching your videos for years since you were in school. I have pages of notes I have taken from most of your videos. I’ve learned so much from you. You the bomb
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  408. Ana, your videos are always great but this one was really helpful to me. You are doing such a service by bringing things like this to light to free for people who wouldn't normally have access to it. I studied psychology very briefly before persuing other interests but remain in touch with the subject by watching your videos (and reading an occasional book). Videos like this are infinitely more helpful than those of the "toxic positivity" genre you often reference. You're one of the most intelligent people I've come across on here, please never stop doing what you do :)
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  409. 5:52 : Sometimes, emotions aren’t valid in the sense that they don’t fit the facts of the situation, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have the right to feel them. You can still validate the emotion without validating the reason for it.
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  410. I’ve been guilty of self-sabotage so many times over the years. I’m not sure fully how to stop myself 😅
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  411. Is it possible for you to make a video about how to avoid having a toxic parenting style after facing traumatic events in childhood (specifically from parents)? Thanks!!
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  412. I hated Skylar when watching it the first time and towards the end of the show, with everything she had been through, I had forgotten why. Upon rewatching I realized that I disliked her because of her reaction to Walt saying that he bought pot from Jesse.
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  413. 11:29 btw I‘m loving this video so deeply and just wanted to clarify that the tricky part is that abusive people often are scared of what they are. They are still human after all so the doubt and regret will ALWAYS kick in but the parent will get over it and start deflect again. I for example had to comfort my mom while she was crying after she had beat me up.
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  414. This is quite helpful because I keep thinking’s about some qualities of my boyfriend and can’t be sure whether I am being harsh on him or not. Your explanations helped me to gain a perspective. Thanks Ana 🙏🏻
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  415. you uploaded this video at the right time! after a year of recovering from my ed, I relapsed. and I've been feeling awful and paranoid about my appearance and my weight lately. thank you, Anna. I couldn't be more grateful.
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  416. I was in a really bad working environment at the start of this year. I had constant anxiety and felt underappreciated. I doubted my feelings initially. But they kept coming up one way or another. For example, my anxiety would make me avoid my coworkers, and I would find side projects outside work to feel fulfilled. When I tendered my resignation, it was one of the happiest moments of my life.
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  417. At first I was a little confused about the suggestion that you shouldn't "defend the enemy" because I know from experience that my own assesment of other people isn't always fair and labeling them as "enemies" seems a bit dramatic. But I'm glad you clarified how to listen empathically without necessarily validating the negative opinions that are entangled with the underlying negative emotions. It sounds to me like these stress-reducing conversations are primarily for tending to each other's emotions, and ideally there would be a seperate time and place for factual conversations about each other's lives. As always, great video and thank you for putting it out there!
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  418. An Italian here. Very good pronunciation! Maybe because Romanian and Italian are sister languages
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  419. Romanian is such a beautiful language
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  420. When the cat disappears, my heart cries
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  421. She said "go to the damn party!" I definitely am a person who will turn down an invitation to hang out with someone new for no good reason. Thinking of it this way is helpful, it takes some of the pressure off of feeling like you have to make it work with or feel particularly connected to the one person who invited you in order to have a good time.
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  422. This is the way to go! It was lonely at times (and still is) while working on myself, but I have the right people around me and love the people in my life
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  423. My brother was a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic and from the time I can remember was obsessed with conspiracy theories. As soon as I hear someone begin to talk about conspiracies I feel extremely uncomfortable. Thank you for this video🙏🏼
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  424. queen of consistent, quality uploads
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  425. what an interesting topic, i would have never clicked on a video like this if i wasnt already subbed to you, thank you for sharing !! genuinely had no idea this was going on and im gen z
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  426. I was going to let my shadow self emerged but Ana uploaded. lol
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  427. I like your point about respectability and I feel like it can be extended to presenting yourself in a way that attracts the type of person you want and wards off the type of person you don't want. Use it to your advantage even if it might feel a little manipulative! Like i showed my tattoos and underarm hair to filter out the people who have a problem with them because i wouldn't want to date them anyway and find out too late, and hopefully to attract people who share similar values/worldviews. I showed a lot of my hobbies and music taste, not just to find people with shared interests, but also to make it clear that i care about occupying myself with activities and i get really into music and learning about the artists. It seems this tactic worked, because i met my current partner online (dating almost 3 years now!) and we both said that we appreciated how much detail we put into our profiles because it was clear we were looking for real connection and not just something casual, and even if our hobbies and music taste didn't overlap entirely, we could tell that we both cared deeply about these things.
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  428. I'm autistic and have been through a ton of bullying since I was a kid. My family didn't even know what autism was for the longest time, so it took ages to get diagnosed. I've pretty much lived in my bedroom most of my life because I'm terrified of interacting with strangers. But man, do I crave those experiences outside these four walls... Just the thought of socializing makes my brain go into full panic mode, expecting the worst. However, seeing others struggle with similar fears of being judged has given me some hope to face it all anyway. (I'm sorry for the broken english, not my first language)
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  429. I got out of a relationship recently. I knew I was being manipulated, but was in denial. I experienced all of the points discussed in this video... I really appreciate this upload... I couldn't believe how much I was conditioned to overlook and/or tolerate. For example, when my ex was so late on a date, she made me feel bad for expressing my disappointment when she arrived, told her that her constant tardiness made me feel that our dates weren't important to her. She told me I had no right to feel that way, just because she did her best to get to the date as soon as possible. I ended up being blamed for ruining the date, and I was the only one apologizing for not being understanding. I'm just happy I'll no longer be made to feel that way again.
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  430. Cbt and dbt should be taught in schools to help the kids woth disregulated parents
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  431. This is such a relevant topic in today’s world of social media’s highlight reels.
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  432. i love that you discuss the psychological studies and literature related to the concepts you address, im just starting my psyc degree and it’s so inspiring to learn about! thank you ☺️
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  433. Awww Ana pls don’t ever delete this channel you’re amazing I love your content sm and so many people think the same. If you ever feel like that just take a break and don’t overwork yourself 🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️
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  434. Good reminder to take responsibility for everything.. I def blame my toxic parents too much. Thanks for the video
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  435. Incredible couple makes me put my relationships in perspective
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  436. Guys.... she’s officially the only youtube therapist who won’t be sponsored by BetterHelp. I think I have a new favorite YouTuber.
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  437. I'm having a hard time knowing if something is a healthy boundary or is selfish or toxic if/then statement. It would be so helpful if you make a video how to form and enforce healthy boundaries and consequences when people cross the boundary, especially when making boundaries in relationships with people who have BPD. Specific examples of boundaries would help a lot too. I find your videos so helpful and relevant. Also, this is so unrelated but I love your sense of style and personality!
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  438. I would love to read your dissertation once your done! 😩👏🏽
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  439. You always seem to make mental health videos about topics that a lot of professionals don’t talk about. This was really fascinating. I love your videos so much
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  440. My boyfriend and I have never fought so far. We had disagreements and some deeper discussions, but no fights and no arguing. We talked about how we're going to handle a potential fight and agreed that sooner or later we're probably going to get into an argument and it's unavoidable, but neither of us wants to deal with drama in our relationship so we want to resolve our conflicts peacefully. I hope we can do it!
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  441. I felt exactly the same way during my Master's program, and many of my friends did too!!! It's exactly as you said, that kind of environment isn't sustainable, and while technically 4-6 years isn't forever, it really makes me wonder how much of our higher ed system is fostering resiliency and intellectualism (no pain, no gain) vs. causing unnecessary distress
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  442. Been watching you for awhile now, and i just want to say i love how more of your authentic self has shown through lately!
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  443. Dr. Ana thanks for the vid.. I just wanna share that as a Middle Eastern.. we have an idiom in our culture saying that every person look to others by his perception of him self, and now I heard that from you.. it confirms my understanding.
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  444. Might need a whole separate video on dealing with an internet provider because I %1000 relate
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  445. MORE SKITS! That was great!
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  446. I was abused for my entire childhood, ran away many times. After I succeeded, and I got on my feet, I started dating a little... I met a wonderful woman, who made me feel special, but eventually, I was recording and taking notes on every conversation we had. I didn't know if I could trust my memory, after 3 years. Thank you for the video. It's very validating to hear that this is an issue others are experiencing.
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  447. Dang, this video reminds me of all the times recently where a particular friend shamed me for behavior that she'd turn around and do too. I'm still confused by how someone can't recognize their hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance. (She says/think of herself one way, but doesnt act accordingly.) But this video does shed some light on it. Thank you Doc!
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  448. I found what you said at 2:54 very useful: I struggle with pessimism because it just seems more realistic to me. Forcing myself to see things positively feels like I’m lying to myself or not properly addressing what went wrong. Your idea of reframing things so it’s both realistic while not degrading your self worth is something I will be trying 😊
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  449. Why should men want to prove they are heterosexual. Guess I am a one woman kind of guy. Why should I care other people know if I am hetero gay bi nonsexual or other. This is only relevant when I feel attracted to someone.
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  450. This was so informative ! as a person who suffers from OCD, I can be very controlling because I'm often anxious as well as fearful. I'm terrified of losing people so I get controlling but because of that it pushes people away. Have you done / would you make a video about letting go for people with OCD ? Lots of love !
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  451. This channel is an incredible resource. Truly appreciate your insight and gentle, real, and kind delivery ♥️
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  452. Sometimes we tend to forget that there's so much more to everything. Thus tend to blame ourselves, when theres just so much more to it. This was really interesting
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  453. Dont be afraid to make ur vids longer Ana.... Trust we will watch all of it lol. Knowledge is the new entertainment!
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  454. This video came at the most prime time. Ana thank you so much for your emotional intelligence and intellect , love your videos so much.
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  455. I've always wondered why some women find people like richard ramirez, ted bundy, or charles manson attractive considering they killed people and were manipulative
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  456. when i become a teacher, im going to recommend my students to watch ur youtube channel <3 i just learned that i was using the term "jealous" incorrectly for the past 19 years of my life. now i can use envy XD
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  457. Love your videos. I hope you'll make a video on jealousy in relationships someday - not only romantic or sexual jealousy, but worrying that your partner cares more about their friends than they care about you as their partner. And always having the fear of being left out, of not being prioritized by people you prioritize. I struggle a lot with this due to low self-esteem and trauma from bullying when I was a child. And on top of that, struggle with shame because of the jealousy I feel. I hate those feelings so much, they're so intense. And I've got terrible abandonment issues.
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  458. I’ve known a lot of people who were self-employed, and what many of them say is that it may be great in where you can choose your own schedule and work on what you love, but it also means handling everything from money to clients. You have that independence but also a lot of responsibilities. But it’s always a rewarding feeling in the end when you see your work being paid off.
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  459. Therapy won’t fix you because you aren’t broken.
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  460. That skit was fantastic lmao
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  461. Nice video Anna. I have something for you to ponder and hopefully make a video over. What are the psychological effects of living in an atomized, individualistic society instead of living in a communal, non-individualistic society? How is the nature of relationships different in both of them? What (generalizable) behaviour differences can be seen in both those societies?
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  462. I think another important part of creating distance is when you and your partner are reunited, there are so many stories to tell and it ignites great conversation
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  463. I am so grateful to my mom, which sadly I never imagined I would say as a young’un. My dad divorced her when I was 8 yo, yet she always insisted/supported him having a relationship with me (despite how clearly he wanted to get away from us and pointedly did 1 week after I graduated high school by moving across the country). My mom never villainized him and let me form my own opinion. While in a very dark night of the soul, I estranged myself from him nearly 2 years ago at ago 29. I have such a greater peace now. 😊
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  464. I feel woman are conditioned to dim themselves a lot. Also told to smile f.e. by my boss with fragile masculinity. I am flip flopping back and forth between assertive and people pleaser at work.
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  465. Congrats on levelling up to a doctoral candidate! ✨
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  466. Extraverted people tend to be popular, but I think certain types of introversion can also generate social capital. I was very taciturn in high school and I did not have many friends because most of them had graduated by the time I became a sophomore. I was shocked when one of my teachers told me that I was respected by my peers. I think when people see still water they assume depth!
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  467. As Kanye said (before losing his mind) "having money's not everything; not having it is"
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  468. "Lets really sit with that for a moment" I felt that
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  469. And what’s more important in these predictions, that I just realized is keeping your ego aside cause they might cause miscalculation in your predictions.
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  470. That was such a helpful and non attacking way to help understand defensiveness! I have been realizing I get defensive but i feel bad about it so its hard to talk about it. You presented the information in a disarming /non judgmental way that helped me reflect on what is contributing to it! Thank you!!
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  471. "are you sitting with it?" i couldn't help but laugh out loud i know this isn't your typical content but i really appreciate you exploring and expressing your more creative and comedic side, keep up the great work 💕 i also wanted to thank you for one of my favourite vids of yours, the one on sexy photos, i showed it to my partner and we both found it enlightening. i myself had never thought of liking sexy photos in many of the ways you had pointed out, so much of it had been normalised for me from a young age. it was incredibly validating, thank you.
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  472. What a beautiful thing to do, sharing your grandmother's wisdom with all of us, in her native language! Wish more of YouTube was this meaningful and intergenerational 💕
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  473. Her extremely poignant point about "I am the bear" actually almost had me in tears- and then the Gucci Mane lyric from her husband. What a fucking amazing video. Thank you for standing up for victims
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  474. I unironically need a hair tutorial on how you get your curls to fall like that
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  475. Greetings from an Eastern European woman! Proud to be one, thanks for another nice video! 🇷🇸
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  476. The mischief of murder threats 😂😂😂🙏🏽
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  477. I'll stick to love advice from your Romanian Grandmother, thank you very much.
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  478. I agree on all these points except the first one. I think it's natural to want, even need space. I think there's something to be said about a degree of freedom and independence. What's more, if you experience something separately, I think it's grand to think, "Wow, my SO would love this place/event/person/food! I'll share this with them." Having an outside source of novelty, experiencing it, then bringing it into the shared life, I think can be productive. I might also point out that, should an anxious person feel secure in a relationship, they may feel more bold and adventurous because they know, at the end of the day, they have a safe harbor to return to. But I'm a layman, so I could be wrong. I've identified myself as Fearful-Avoidant and have a lot to work on. :)
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  479. Ana is really out here giving us free education AND therapy 🥺💓
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  480. Also, I do think we ALL manipulate each other, we all are imperfect beings and even how people respond is imperfect. However, the key thing is at the end. You set the boundary, if they pass it again, you have to set that with them. That would include moving that person out of your life or priority level. We all want to have the people in our lives do what we want, but what they do is outside of our control.
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  481. I think its perfectly reasonable to want someone to pick a side - esp if you've known one person longer than the other. But I don't think it is reasonable to force someone to pick a side if 1) they dont want to 2) disagree with you 3) if picking a side makes them uncomfortable
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  482. I would love to learn the difference between psychopathy and sociopathy! ♥️
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  483. Ana, I’ve watched your content ever since the pandemic started and I appreciate it because it feels like a personal therapy session for free. You’re amazing and you’ve helped me in my life so much without even knowing❤️ thank you
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  484. I personally think it is okay and pretty accurate to diagnose fictional characters; here is why: with real people, regardless of how many hours of videos we have from them, we can never truely know what was in their mind, what was happening behind the scenes, and how much of it is result of editing. However, in movies especially for main characters, we know exactly what they are thinking and what’s going on behind the scenes, that’s usually the main point of movie for the audience to really get to know the character. If anything, I think it is even more accurate than diagnosing a client because you can never really take an accurate look into someone’s life as you can with a character. Thank you for your video, would you consider doing one about Scarlett from gone with the wind?
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  485. you deserve all the happiness in the world, I’m sorry that happened to you 💖
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  486. I've found it really difficult to communicate that most things are basically neutral, and that pointing out that something is not empowering isn't an insult and doesn't mean that it's wrong and unhealthy, it just doesn't actually give you power. If it makes you feel good it's good and you should do whatever you want but it usually has nothing to do with your human rights as a female or any aquirement or transfer of actual power. I think people don't usually use the word empowerment without implying female empowerment, you could say things like "eating a cookie empowered me to not pass out" but I've never personally seen the word used outside of feminism other than in old ass books from before feminism was a huge topic where people specified what things were empowering them to do.
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  487. Congrats on everything: post-doctorate, writing, publishing, husband (I remember when you started your channel and the two of you were long distance). Thank you for sharing your journey, and your professional insights have been helpful, too. Just out of curiosity, how did your Romanian grandma celebrate when you told her you are now Dr. Ana? 🎉
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  488. My life and my entire view has changed immensely since I've started focusing on the good in my life rather than focusing on the bad. I'm so content most of the time. I used to be a highly anxious and depressed individual. And remember people. It isn't something that happens overnight and it is simple, but not easy. That's why we say we're practicing gratitude. It's a skill that has to be developed.
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  489. I'm not Romanian, I'm Armenian, and people always confuse the two ,like "oh,Romanian you're saying?", so that's interesting 😆 Love Romania and Romanians btw ❤️
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  490. your voice and demeanor is so pleasant and soothing
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  491. Please do some videos on how people who are introvert,depressed and borderline personality disorder can form social relationship without being a pushover
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  492. Really wasn’t expecting a Gucci Mane reference but here we are.
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  493. Yes, I think one of the biggest roadblocks to the black sheep walking away for good is the belief there is actually a community out there where they actually will fit in. Every black Sheep deserves to find their community. It's out there, I guarantee 💗
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  494. I love black cats so much! Your is so freaking CUTE ~🖤~
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  495. Appreciate all your hard work, vast knowledge and detailed research Ana. You are a key reason in me studying to become a counsellor. Thank you.
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  496. When I first started actively learning about fairies, I had a theory that most or every culture had its equivalent. At the time I worked with a woman from Romania. For some reason I didn't want to directly ask IF there was a belief in fairies, so I asked what the Romanian word was for the little spirits in the woods. It took a couple of minutes for her to understand what I was asking, then she suddenly panicked. "No, no," she said. "I used to believe in them, but now I'm a Christian and I don't believe in them any more." and quickly walked away. For somebody who didn't believe, she sure seemed concerned about the topic.
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  497. They go to eastern europe with this weird sexual fantasies... girls stay safe. I'm from Romania too btw.
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  498. I never get past the talking stage, i knew I was the main cause of it but didn't quite understand why I do the things I do or how to stop
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  499. This is not one silly article. There is a lot of people, men in particular, who live by this idea. Even met few who wanted to move from a western society into an eastern europian country for this reason. I spoke to guys who loved me being eastern europian, because "we are so much better and feminine and know real (traditional) values , unlike those western feminists who cant even cook" yikes, Tragic.
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  500. I love the surprised looks when the „I love Slavic women!“ crowd gets to glimpse at my anti-capitalist feminism. subordinate, where? edit: love seeing your septum out, I got one myself and never regretted it.
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  501. Everyone always says "you have impeccable timing" but you really do. I walked home after feeling this way. Went to YouTube and BAM
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  502. I got into stoicism at around the same time i found your channel. And today you are doing a video on this. I love how you are taking something ancient and modern and finding that link. Love it
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  503. Hearing you introduce yourself as a doctor fills me with joy every time. Congratulations!
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  504. Congratulations on becoming a Dr! It’s been a while and I don’t get to watch YouTube much nowadays. I feel like I stress myself out worrying about how much I worry 😂
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  505. My goal this year is to record and relese 5 original songs
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  506. I feel so bad for Steve… the little b…. 😂😂😂😂
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  507. This explains why I never had a close relationship w my mother: not trustworthy, no authentic vulnerability, or acceptance of me. Excellent summary. TY.
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  508. Drawing has always been something I enjoyed, but until recently I was terrible at it. But I've been practicing for four years and it's actually pretty easy now. Same with singing, I used to be really bad at it but then my brother taught me how to sing and I'm now okay at singing.
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  509. In Stoicism there is this concept of negative visualisations: You think ahead of time of all the things that could go wrong - so pretty contrary to the tip you mentioned. However, negative visualisations help me to realise that even the worst case scenario cannot really harm me, if I keep respecting my boundaries and values. It gives me the opportunity to see my power even in a „bad“ situation and in my head I am already going through my theoretical response, what makes it easier to be less overwhelmed, in case the worst case scenario actually happens.
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  510. I cant express enough how much i love watching your videos and how you're always nailing your explanations and presenting your research in a brilliant way. You've got a way with words that almost seems perfect. I was having a very tough day trying to navigate feelings of resistance to a situation but watching this calmed me down enormously and put a lot of things back into perspective Thank you for making these videos Ana, i wish you all great and lovely things
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  511. It's really disgusting how there are these racist articles practically directed to women and men(especially women) of all ethnicities, with the same shallowness. Yet people don't seem to conclude that you can find the beauty and love from any man or woman in the world and that ethnicity pretty much doesn't mean anything if you look for depth in someone. But I don't think that people that wrote them don't actually look for anything besides getting the money from ads...
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  512. I just wanted to say, I love your videos! You are a lot younger than me, but you are so wise and there are several videos of yours that I think about on a weekly basis and have incorporated into my life. I’ve been in therapy for years but I still find these videos invaluable!! I love the video on matching peoples energies, and the video on the 4 types of compatibilities. You are so amazing and I’m very thankful for your channel!!
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  513. I agree with you that, ideally, we wouldn't go too far in either direction - we'd be somewhere in the middle and stick with a more realistic view. But, if I had to choose between one extreme or the other, the toxic positivity is still worse than the negativity because there's not as much harm done in less children being born as there is in children being born into families that didn't really want kids after all only to end up being abused by the very parents who were supposed to love them unconditionally.
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  514. Me, single Hmmmm iNtErEsTinG
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  515. As a witch and a psychology student, i thank you for this video and for spreading valuable information! 👏🐈‍⬛
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  516. I’ve never felt comfortable making a diagnosis, but I gotta say, after watching every Dr. Ramani videos and learning how to survive living with a narcissistic parent, my life got a whole lot better and the years of abuse and gaslighting didn’t weigh on me and continue to make me think I was crazy. She’s my savior🙌🏽
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  517. its a good video that. I would say when you are approaching conversations about this, if you do NOT accept that they are POSSIBLY right, you are starting from the same position as them. two people trying to understand each other has growth, two people trying to show how wrong the other is goes no where.
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  518. Thank you so much for this! I was cheated on and blamed myself for it, but now I know that there were many different factors that caused my past partner to cheat, and that it wasn’t my fault. I love your videos so much! Keep it up!💕💕💕
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  519. I am SO glad you're talking about this bc I have been so confused about this for a while haha. also, I wanted to make a video recommendation, can you make a video on neurodivergence and the things that are commonly associated with these neurodevelopmental disorders?
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  520. I’ve gotten a lot better over the last year or so at accepting circumstances I have no control over. Life isn’t perfect and issues will always come up, but I’d rather focus on the things I can change and impact
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  521. Another informative and well organized video. This is why I love having intelligent friends. ❤🎉❤ Thank you for the time and energy you put into this for us! You are a moon star ☪️
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  522. Congratulations Ana!!! Amazing news on all fronts!!! 🎉😊
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  523. Oh u meant snow flake and in shes rare💀 I thought u meant-
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  524. It'd be interesting to see what you have to say or what you learned about hookup culture in the gay communities. I wonder how different the experiences are 🤔
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  525. This was fascinating! I’m a practicing witch, a pagan, I love psychology and Jung and mythologies of all kinds, so you can just imagine how many boxes this ticked for me! Your theories about the siren all seem very sound to me. Also, I adore the Hylas and the Nymphs painting you used a little bit of 😍 You look stunning too! I’m very excited to see the rest of this series! 🎃
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  526. This is literally the first time I have seen her hair tied up and the bottom half of her body (in the picture) and her partner and I don't know why I am so amused by it😂 Definitely do more vlogs and candid videos like this, I LOVE how your personality showed through in this video❤️
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  527. I wasn't having a bad day in particular but was feeling quite low and this showed up! Thank you :)
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  528. The sweater works for Valentines day too! ❤
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  529. a video idea: dealing with rejection another idea: dealing with ending of friendships btw i love this video and you especially ur voice it’s so calming:)!!!🤍🤍
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  530. I love that he sees through it & it is just terrible because of how they prey on people who feel a lack in their life. Ana's husband seems like such an awesome guy, really loved it & am loving the journal :)
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  531. My male friend introduced me to your channel and I'm so glad he did. We both agree that you're an amazing person with a lot of important things to say. And more people should listen to you.
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  532. Ana, you have no idea how helpful this video has been for me. I have fearful- avoidant attachment and through my healing, I’ve watched so many videos about how you have to completely detach from people. This just made my avoidance worse. I would tell myself, “what’s the point in having relationships if I’ll never feel attached to people?” Now, I’ve realized that attachment is healthy as long as I can healthily detach if that person is no longer good for me. It’s still a confusing topic for me, but this video brought a lot of clarity. Thank you 💜
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  533. When I was younger I wanted to bleach my skin lol. Alot of people here in the Caribbean do it especislly women because you get treated better ergo our pigmentocracy is strong still. Now I'm at peace with my natural beauty but I can't fault those who still do it
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  534. Hey Ana! I've been watching your videos for a while recently, and I'm really happy that you brought up the Earthquake catastrophe in Syria and Turkey. As a Syrian living in Aleppo, a city that was heavily damaged from the recent earthquakes, it really means a lot. Thank you Ana
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  535. Here’s the thing, you make it clear that you’re drawing a difference between you and everyone else. Which is completely different from what this author is claiming to do.
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  536. I'm loving all of the relationship / love convos you're bringing to the table lately!
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  537. Ana, I love your content! I'm autistic and have a very hard time making friends, but i feel like you're my Internet older sister: always bringing up something interesting and giving good advice ❤
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  538. I hate/love how this specific video got recommend to me, just as I'm starting to develop trust issues with my partner.
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  539. “Sounds like projection to me” deaddddd☠️
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  540. This is good advice. I understand that people don't usually change. I have patterns and habits that are hard to change. Still, I seek to improve daily. Thank you very much.
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  541. I come from a latino family, Mildred reminds me a lot of my grandmother. Because I was born and raised in the US, I heard this justification for behavior a lot that it was just a cultural thing when she was often just being cruel. I'm definitely more expressive/argumentative/etc but if I notice or someone tells me I'm upsetting them I try to apologize and tone it down. Communication styles aside, when you spend enough time with someone you can tell if they're disrespecting you/ holding contempt versus just being upset.
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  542. I’m normally pretty good at finding people who genuinely like me, but I have trouble getting closer to others and being vulnerable 😅
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  543. I've never seriously considered the idea of me having OCD and I'm no fan of self diagnosing, so I think some kind of evaluation could do me some good.
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  544. The thing that's holding back the most is definitely my fear of making mistakes. I need to learn to allow myself to fail. Thanks for the great video!
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  545. Breaking down the differences of envy and jealousy was really helpful
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  546. Yes, one side is suffering a thousand fold, and the other side has at least 99% of the power, and power is responsibility. I think it's absolutely critical to acknowledge that, it's such a core truth, and the reason this has gone on so long is the ducking and hiding of that truth through racism, religious bigotry, and weaponized identity politics. I say this as a Jewish person who lost relatives in WWII. The notion that I would be given permission to inflict horrors on my fellow man because of that is absolutely absurd and everyone knows that.
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  547.  @bernadettesavage4786  Source on the claim that it's rampant? And how do you determine it, if you don't trust the children's report? (Also "if you want to have credibility" is a manipulative tactic (even if you didn't mean it that way), you're trying to make Ana feel things to do exactly what you want her to do. But her credibility doesn't depend on your approval, and you don't define what makes her credible or not - maybe credible in your eyes, sure, but not what makes her credible in general).
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  548. I did a year long DBT course with a mental health support group for youth organization in my city a few years ago. It drastically changed me as a person. Previously, I was a very pessimistic hurt person. After practicing these skills and applying them to my daily life for over a year, I can say the DBT lessons are insanely impressive and well thought out. I highly highly highly recommend.
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  549. How lovely to hear some Romanian. It's pretty similar to Italian, there are some words that they share
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  550. This would have been so good to learn when I was younger. I can see where I played my part in relationships that didn’t workout. This will be something I’ll keep in mind in the future. Thanks Anna
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  551. I’m in a similar boat currently. I’ve completed my psych degree in three years and now I’m jumping into grad school in August with no experience. It’s so hard not to compare myself to other peoples accomplishments and experiences and feel like I’m under qualified. Hearing about your own experiences makes me feel better knowing I’m not alone. I’m hopeful I’ll make it through and achieve great things like you have.
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  552. Hi Ana. I am a big fan of your videos and I watch them very consistently. I've been recently getting therapy for some of my past traumas and you've definitely influenced me to get help. Just wanted to say thank you. Also, I was wondering if you've considered starting a podcast with your content. I feel like podcast listeners would really enjoy hearing your thoughts on real life situations and how to understand them in a psychological POV. I could literally spend a couple hours hearing you talk! Keep up the great and amazing work. Stay safe!
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  553. My worst case scenario in my head was very inaccurate. I thought for sure I'd have to deal with constant crying and exhaustion where I was delirious, never being alone, etc. Instead my son passed away after 3 days in the Nicu. Man, I'd rather take my previous worst case scenario over what actually happened.
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  554. Ana, what do you think about watching videos like on the channel HealthyGamerGG where Dr.K interviews people and talks with them about their problems (which is technically not therapy) in a therapeutic way, to get our own insights?
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  555. I love what you said, this is already abuse and not okay! I wish someone told me this before i married My ex husband, i normalized his abuse so much, i thought it was normal male gender behavior
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  556. This is something I really want to learn more about, as a guy I do my best to support women, but worry about potentially doing or saying the wrong thing even if I have good intentions!! ❤️ Hope you have a great day Ana
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  557. All of this is so spot on. Never been diagnosed and I'm not one to self-disgnose normally, but I undeniably have dealt with some sort of major anxiety disorder for most of my life. Acceptance is key. Right now, one thing that tempts me to fall into the pits of anxiety is being pregnant, knowing I'm going to have a second csection, knowing there's a chance (a very minute one) that I could die from it. The way I handle this, is "Yep, I could die. Nothing to be done about it now. I'm going to enjoy the time I know I have right now instead of worrying about what could happen." It takes lots and LOTS of practice. But eventually you can almost instantly let go of anxiety.
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  558. I grew up as a single kid with no extended family. So when I see people celebrating healthy relationships with their family especially with elders it makes me so happy. I hope you all get to enjoy a life filled with contentment and health, she is so wise and so are you! 💗
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  559. "let's sit with that for a moment" "........are you sitting with it??" boy this really cracked me up - all of this lady's lines are my favourites actually hehee :''''D
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  560. Online dating apps are limited you have to really try if you want to find a partner. The advice i would give to people is If you find their profiles attractive and match, then start the convo straight away. Dont wait a few days until you are 20th down their list If your convo is okay, then ask for their # and arrange a date for the very same week. Dont let it linger On the date, within 10 minutes, you'll learn more about the person than you could texting for 10 days Don't be discouraged if you don't want to see this person again. In my experience, only 1 in 20 dates i would like the person enough to want to actually see them again. Not that there is anything wrong with them. 99% of the time, the person is absolutely normal fine nice but just not your cup of tea If you go on enough dates you'll fine your person. If you give up after 3-4 dates most likely you wont find anyone
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  561. As an albanian i've always felt as though people around the balkan region a lot in common in how we see life and maybe this is just me,but your grandma and her advice always reminds me of my own two grandmas who have now both passed and I love that Thank u for this gift Ana <3 much love to you and your family
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  562. I've binged watched so many of your videos Ana because they're so useful
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  563. The birthday cake thing seems to be a "tradition" in some Mexican cultures (sometimes they faceplant the bday person onto the cake), and some people take it way too seriously. I wasn't a fan of it when dating one of my exes from Mexican descent (although when I asked the family not to do that to me, they obliged.. my ex was never so lucky). I know you did a whole video on cultural norms and all, some points I agreed with you on, some points I didn't. I think it's not uncommon to see people hiding their rudeness behind "this is my culture", just like a lot of people hide behind "it's just a joke".
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  564. “Sa zici ca el si sa faci ca tine” exactly my grandma’s advice 😋
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  565. Stress unfortunately cannot be avoided but how you respond to it matters kind of like a catch twenty two situation worry is one thing but letting it get to you just makes things worse all about self control in the end
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  566. I've struggled with accepting my shadow self and don't show much self compassion. Going to work on this!
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  567. Ana, thank you so much for this! I went through a really horrible layoff in July (needed a career change anyway) but apart from taking care of my mental health, I’ve been seriously stuck on what else I can do. This video comes at a perfect time and I’ll be checking out that book on Ikigai for sure ❤
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  568. This is really helpful, especially for me as I don’t have much relationship experience!!! Happy Monday Ana 💜
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  569. I feel really stuck when it comes to work. On the one hand, several of the people who work with me are my best friends, but on the other I hardly have time for hobbies or doing stuff I enjoy these days
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  570. I am conflicted tbh I see no problem with a very brief warning about very serious stuff like SA/extreme gore etc. The amount of times I have seen mangled up bodies or torture just playing randomly online (like on activists ect), there is no need for excessive stuff being showed out of nowhere and I also think if someone has trauma related to something like that yes it is up to them to process it in their own time but it helps not to just be plunged unexpectedly into flashbacks or whatever it's more likely to set them back for a short bit anyway (like long rape scenes in movie some are weirdly long and I do not see the benefit in someone having to sit through one unprepared for it to happen).
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  571. Being someone who has OCD, I’m looking forward to watching this
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  572. Donated. I was immediately thinking “but I only have $200 in my spending budget for this whole month…” then realized just how much money that is after you spoke so persuasively about this cause. Thank you for CARING. Seeing someone genuinely care and want to change the world is so inspiring, I’m going to write it down in my journal as a kindness I witnessed today :-)
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  573. For a second I was like 👀 but reading more I was shifted to 🥰
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  574. Whoever wrote this sounds very ignorant, the way he talks about women it’s disrespectful. I don’t understand why they would even publish this article. Great content like always!!🤍
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  575. Another video so soon? We eating good y'all!
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  576. I really liked how you looked at lesbian women and trans women and how it related to hook up culture. Those are very interesting points.
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  577. #MuteTheIncels
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  578. Off topic , but where do you shop? You have the CUTEST clothes.
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  579. As a Serbian, thank you for this video!!!
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  580. I really like the written presentations you’ve edited in your most recent videos
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  581. I know people have said this countless times but thank you so much for all the hard work that you put in. Your content, the way you tackle and talk about topics, i learn so much from all of it. Thank you for uploading stuff on YouTube. ❤
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  582. It also drives me up a wall. Especially when your health condition IS a major cause of stress. For example, my chronic pain condition is already bad on it's own, but paired with college and all the obligations of an everyday life, it is extremely hard. As you said, many of us are already taking active steps to lessen the effects of stress, yet parts of it are inevitable. Are we just supposed to abandon our education/jobs/duties in order to avoid stress? Silly advice, truly.
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  583. I love that you covered this! I’ve never even really thought about this concept since it’s been such a natural part of my thought process but it really does take a person on a roller coaster when they’re basing their self worth/esteem on various external factors.
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  584. How the fuck do you drop the videos at the right time, every time??? I literally NEEDED this video right now.😭
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  585. I just want you to know that your content is amazing! Many therapist gatekeep information from the public. (Which I understand) You are overall such a blessing to many people and we have learned so much from you!
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  586. This is such a wholesome video, I love how you two interact. Reminds me of my own grandma. I think I'll go call her now
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  587. I needed this. My self-esteem sucks pretty bad no matter what I’ve tried
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  588. As a fellow psychologist who is new in the field this video cannot be more helpful! I am primarily a jungian oriented clinician and I have had many thoughts and feelings about it how to reconcile these differing modalities in my practice. It has been quite the struggle in providing clients relief but also long term insight and more lasting change.
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  589. 8:52 interestingly indeed. why don't we teach young adults about attachment styles? if nothing else they could be more aware
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  590. Your content is sooo nourishing
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  591. I want to finally start to feel capable of acting how deeply know I can. I want to contribute to my community through art and education, the things I recently realized I enjoy the most and can have an impact. Thanks so much for every video you have shared, they've been of great help c:
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  592. I'm Hunkpapa Lakota with a little bit of Arikara and French ancestry. I definitely understand what you said about people trying to incorrectly guess about heritage. I live in Illinois and because the Native tribes who were originally living in Illinois were removed by the military in the 1830's... people here of European-American ancestry are always questioning me as if I'm an undocumented person from Central America. Nope sorry to disappoint but I was born in the U.S. I'm a citizen and my people have lived on this continent for 25,000+ years but keep worrying that I'm here to steal your job or something. The racism-tinged projection is ongoing for me and a lot of people I know including my kids.
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  593. I can't handle how adorable your cat is. Not even a little
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  594. I agree with you: just looking at the birth sign is really an oversimplification of astrology and kind of a ridiculous thing to believe in. The chart makes more sense. And also, the chart accounts for how people change over time because you have transit and progressed charts etc. Better represents a person than just saying “all Leo’s are like this.” Because a Leo with a Cancer moon is going to be very different than a Leo with a Capricorn moon and so on. When you look at it that way, I honestly think it makes more sense than most religions.
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  595. As a (retired) NHS high intensity therapist with an MSc in CBT, I must correct you regarding CBT 'pushing' patients into disclosing their trauma event.This is untrue, I used Cognitive Processing therapy,expsoure therapy, and narrative therapy, and these protocols never did this. What you stated would be therapeutically counterproductive. Yes, avoidance is a barrier to recovery. But through collaboration and utilising socratic questioning, etc, the patient gradually makes sense of their traumatic event. What you are referring to, I think, is flooding. Which is antiquated and debunked
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  596. It was great, thanks! I find amazing that you are open to dive into other types of psychology, instead of simply discarding them as stupid or useless. There is wiseness in all of us.
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  597. I was just talking about this with a close friend of mine at work the other day!! What a coincidence lol
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  598. I didn't know this trend existed, but I'm excited to go and check it out now. The idea of relaxing and watching somebodys morning routine sounds like a really nice 'slice of life' kind of entertainment that I really enjoy. I also didn't know you read your comments - your videos are chicken soup for my soul <3
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  599. Hi Dr Ana! I was the guy that met you on the gondola on Saturday! It was a surreal experience haha I heard someone that sounded like you, then I was like “no way, she’s from Arizona. Why would she be here.” And then you asked your friend what he thought Romanian sounded like and I was like “insane coincidence!” Until you all got off and one of your group said your name and I was just shocked! Anyways, thank you so much for the content! Huge fan, even if I was a bit antisocial on the day haha
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  600. My parents often say I'm too hard on myself, but for me, being productive is a way of proving to myself that I can achieve my goals. Every day, I demonstrate my capabilities to myself, which has boosted my self-esteem.
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  601. I’ve used dating apps a few times over the years, and the only thing that’s really bothered me is the times where the person comes on way too strong talking about love and marriage very early, or making plans years in advanced before we’ve met (feels like love bombing) making me uncomfortable. If there is a first date, it’s nice, but then immediately afterwards they become extremely critical and controlling. I’ve had at least 3 of these experiences out of a handful. I wish dating apps warned more about things like that. It makes me want to use apps less, as I’ve had some contact me continually after being blocked. I think I prefer meeting people organically via friends and events, but I do admit it feels harder. Really love your videos! Very interesting topics.
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  602. Same, I was like I don't even care why it happens it makes me so mad
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  603. This is so true!!! I caught my ex using tinder while he was still in relationship with me. After we broke up, I learned the five personality traits and realized that he is someone who has low conscientiousness, low agreeableness and high neuroticism. He was not very emotionally stable when we were together. Now I know what kind of personality traits I should look for for my next partner.
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  604. I'm rewatching old beloved shows as kid and teen to see not only what I missed context and story wise but also to see how much I've changed, looking at my childhood from an adult lens, and a more layered view of the time period that was the 90's.
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  605. I'm not surprised that trigger warnings are useless for mental health purposes, but I do still appreciate them for cultural taste preferences. There might be some that might motivate me to consume the content or suggest it to others, or warn against it if I know the "trigger" is something that someone hates (e.g. my mother doesn't have PTSD or any trauma about blood, but I know she doesn't like gore or violence in movies, so the trigger warning is helpful if I'm picking a movie for her).
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  606. I'm shy and I always feel super nervous/awkward when I have to be around so many people I don't know or not familiar with. I was never shy during my childhood years but it changed so much when I went to a catholic girl school. I was bullied during my girl school, I hate group work because no one wants to be the same team as me, the teacher also didn't help with the situation either. After that, I feel distrust and nervous meeting new people (especially girls). Even though it was 7 years ago, I still have nightmares about it sometimes.... ;( Thank you for making this video Ana, its really insightful <3 Please make a video with your cat next time haha
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  607. My cats also suffer from this, one of their worst symptoms is being constantly squeezed by their human mama
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  608. 8:49 I agree. the pessimistic, negative outlook on life is so tiring these days. im such an optimistic and positive person, it's draining to be on social media full of negative people. It's weird that nowadays when you even suggest to have a positive and optimistic view on life people become offended and bewildered you would ever do such a thing lol.
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  609. I have struggled with anxiety for so long. Since I was a teen. And now that Ana puts it this way, I can totally relate. I have never felt so at ease with myself as I feel now, working as a Doctor and serving other people (and trying to do so in the best of my abilities). Taking the time to smile at someone and listen to their life stories while also helping them to heal makes me feel fantastic. I may go home and feel physically tired but my heart feels rejoiced. I hope residency and such doesn’t take the joy of helping people heal from me.
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  610. Such a great take. Would love to hear more about child development and psychology from you.
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  611. Like many right now, I am going through some of the worst depression of my life and the wait lines for therapy are insane. I am struggling alone and you have no idea how much this helps me. So thank you for this. I know this information is online but it is so much easier to get from someone you trust and can see on video personally. I am exhausted as it is and this is such an effortless way to get hope. Bless you!
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  612. please consider doing "the psychology of women who love/write/visit infamous murderers serving life in prison". like Chris Watts, who murdered his pregnant wife & two young daughters, & now has several women courting him. it's difficult to fathom why anyone would want to put themselves on that path.
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  613. Currently in medschool in the US as a strong introvert. Could not agree more.
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  614. I need a part 2 of this.😍
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  615. Dating coaches are the worst
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  616. I love how calm and professional you are. As an undergrad student working toward becoming a clinical psychologist one day I really do look up to you. Keep up the awesome work!!
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  617. So eloquent and well-researched. Extremely refreshing in this day of age on youtube
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  618. as a romanian woman with severe body dysmorphia reading this article was like putting my head through a meat grinder
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  619. Ana's out there reading our minds 😂 Always knowing exactly what we need, I swear It's like a superpower.
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  620. these videos help me soooo much. to me, it is a really thorough course on how to be not only a good future partner to someone, but it also makes me re-evaluate myself and what I am doing making me aware of my own skills to become a better person overall.
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  621. I just received my copy of "a liberated mind" by Steven C Hayes, his work has been life changing for me and my panic attacks. Russ Harris is also a fantastic author in this field. ACT is such a fantastic approach to cognitive therapy. Super interested what your views are, just started watching!
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  622. Love your longform content with your husband, you guys have great chemistry.
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  623. I'm just shy 🥺 👉👈
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  624. If you connect with this perspective you might as well look into Buddhism! At 7 minutes in I’m sensing lots of parallels between ACT and the 4 Noble Truths
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  625. I've never heard anyone say to focus on one or two core values for a particular day or situation before. I thought that's a pretty cool way to think about values because you can explore and delve deeper into one instead of living by several values daily which would make it harder to explore every value. It also could become overwhelming when you have to make a decision that doesn't align with every one of your values whereas focusing on one value can streamline your decision-making process for a particular situation. I will be carrying this idea forward with me. Thanks
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  626. It's gonna sound like a broken record but this seems to be under the umbrella of communication being one of the most important aspects of relationships. When it comes to compromising for me, I try to give way most of the time just so I can have less pushback on the things I really do want. Say going on a trip, we have a list of a ton of things we all want to see and do. I say pick all the things you want but just for sure I want to do these 2 things
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  627. Overlapping traits in personality disorders makes it tricky and challenging to help! Beautiful point 🙌🏽
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  628. I'm 34 & I feel the same way 😭This is a good example of how we should never assume younger people lack wisdom!
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  629. Love this idea! My boyfriend and I do this occasionally and we'll even take turns reading parts of our books aloud to each other. It's cool to see how different our preferred reading is and get glimpses into each other's minds and interests
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  630. A simple lesson I learnt is that people who yell or are "difficult" to deal with are lacking soul power. And if we react to them similarly or if we question them, we waste our power and at the same time reduce theirs. Instead, you can walk away or choose not to react. Create a thought that they will be better soon. This way you protect yourself and help them increase their power 🙂❤️
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  631. It could be good if you teach us how to eliminate bad habits, like watching pornography, masturbation, drugs, intrusive thoughts, something like that please
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  632. Us vs them: both sides believe they are right.
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  633. IM LIVING FOR THE WIGS HAHA
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  634. There are things I already knew but you also gave me a lot to think about. I've always wondered if my dad didn't have social anxiety as well. I don't have much of a relationship with him, he's an alcoholic and my mom told me he's always been a shy person, and I definitely see that in him. Alcohol can feel magical when you have social anxiety. First time I tried it, it felt like a cure. I felt fixed. I never went through a phase of casually and appropriately drinking. I got drunk one time and immediately felt like that's what I needed in my life. The problem is you start drinking even when there isn't a "reason" to. Even when you're not going anywhere or seeing anyone. You start associating drinking with happiness, and when you have depression it leads to drinking everyday. Anyway I'm on recovery road I guess, even though years of social anxiety + heavy drinking + suicidal ideation led to social isolation, and now I find myself yearning for connection. Past relationships have disappeared, and it's even harder to make new ones. To anyone out there with social anxiety, reach out to your friends. Even if you don't have a lot of them, reach out. Don't let these relationships die out. And stay away from substances. They might feel like a quick fix but it's going to lead to even more isolation.
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  635. I much prefer the word consequence instead of punishment. Consequences are about what you will do to protect YOURSELF and keep your boundary, punishment is about controlling others. For example, if you say "please stop yelling" and they don't you can say "I cannot let you yell at me; I am leaving to stay with my sister, I will be back tomorrow if you want to talk without yelling"...it's not "if you're yelling, I'm going to put your favorite socks in the blender." Nor is it "you're yelling! I'm LEAVING!" and thus manipulate them to panic as punishment. That's toxic.
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  636. I have to remind myself of acceptance almost every day to deal with chronic illness. Especially one so unpredictable. I definitely haven't come even close to mastering it but it does make a difference. My mom on the other hand, is still in denial that I'm as sick as I am, and never believes me when I tell her I do what I can, so radical acceptance helps with that too.
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  637. Clicked straight away. Thank you Ana , you've helped me a lot. I used to unconsciously do toxic things, you've been a savior. Thank you. Lots of well wishes for you
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  638. Congratulations! I haven't watched your channel in some time. But it sounds like you graduated and you received your doctorate and you're now Dr. Ana! Congratulations! That's huge! Hopefully your channel covered some of those tuition costs lol
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  639. Yoooo congrats on becoming a doctor! You've helped so many people here so it's great seeing you achieve your goals.
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  640. oh I have an interesting story about a person I had an encounter with, who was on a dating app to emotionally cheat on a partner. So about two years ago I was newly single and went on dating apps. I came across an account where a guy did motocross so most of his pictures he was wearing helmet and the one picture he wasn't it was still kind a hard to see his face. We started chatting and then after a few days we started to text. I was really starting to like the guy and we were becoming very flirty. It was getting to the point where I wanted to meet up but I was very cautious. He had told me his full name rather early on so around a week after we started chatting I went onto Facebook and typed in his name. He immediately popped up and we had one mutual friend. Still his profile was mostly private. So I contacted this mutual friend and asked her about him, I guess they had gone to high school together. She said that last time she checked he had a girlfriend but she wasn't sure if he still had one. Obviously this threw up red flags. So there was one picture on his profile that was not private and it had a women in the picture with him. The woman was not tagged but she did write a comment where it was like something you would say to a boyfriend, and it had been only two months ago on Valentine's Day. So now I am on high alert that this guy might have a girlfriend so I clicked on her profile and I messaged her and asked her if she was still in a relationship with that guy. I sent her screenshots of our conversations to show that we had been chatting and it had been more than just friendly. About a day later she excepted my message request and read it. I could tell that she was very upset and she did confirm that she was in a current relationship with this guy. She had three kids and about a year ago she had moved in with him. She had in fact relocated nearly 3 hours away from her home for this Man, with her three kids. I honestly felt really bad for her and I felt furious that someone used me when they were in a relationship. Well she had a talk with him and he told her that he had no intentions of meeting up with me, he was just "blowing smoke up my ass". He said that he wasn't even really attracted to me that he was having a hard time expressing himself to his current girlfriend (her) and things were on rocky terms in his eyes. Basically she forgave him and told me to back off of him, like I had been the cause of him to stray from their relationship. Then oddly she wanted to be friends and she was a life coach. She wanted me to follow her life coach page. I don't know why but I did and we chatted from time to time. (also I should add when I started to follow her life coach page she took nearly a week to want to follow my IG page, which was public so I guess she figured she could look at my page whenever she wanted without having to follow me) I opened up to her and I told her about a different dating experience I was in currently. She, though I never asked for her opinion, told me how I was dating wrong and how toxic I was being. She definitely acted like she had everything figured out and that I was someone who desperately needed her help, yet I never asked for it. So maybe a couple weeks later I'll simply left a nice comment on her boyfriend's motocross picture, when he had won a race and his girlfriend flipped out on me hard-core (I believe I said something like congrats well-deserved or something like that). She said that I was making him feel uncomfortable and then she blocked me. Looking back at it I feel like she befriended me because I was her enemy and probably she was still very suspicious of her boyfriend. Maybe she was testing him and I was the bait. I don't know but all I can say is it was very surreal how I was the one who got all the blame yet I wasn't the person who caused him to cheat. I didn't understand how I was the one who called him out yet I was the one getting the hate. This situation bothered me for a very very long time and I blamed myself because I have always been a person who wanted to uplift other women. I felt like I had failed. now I definitely don't feel that way and it's more of a just amusing story and cautionary tale.
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  641. I like the idea behind Gardner's model better than the idea behind IQ/general intelligence. I do think it is a bit reductive to consider all intellectual capacities under a single umbrella general g-factor. That said, one of the important things to ask is when we're measuring intelligence if we're measuring something which is static or something which is mutable, and how the testing apparatus used might contain certain biases. It's a complex problem to attempt to tackle because how do you test something without relying upon biased cultural or societal constructions. I'm honestly not sure if you can. You'd need to focus on measuring certain very fundamental capacities which are not "trainable". Or maybe it's OK if it's trainable but you have to find a way to take into account training received.
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  642. For me, empathizing with the main character in the horror is the entire point. If I don't identify with the main character, I either get bored or extremely uncomfortable with the violence. The reason why I'm consuming the horror is to experience the events of the story in a safe manner. For example, if something bad or violent happens to a small child or a dog in a horror movie, I become so upset I cannot continue because it doesn't feel like it's happening to me but a helpless animal or kid; but if those same things happen to a character I can project onto it's fine.
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  643. fun fact! the title “ballerina” is technically reserved for female principal (top ranking) dancers. no one is really picky about it but you might notice that corps and soloist ballet dancers rarely refer to themselves as ballerinas. just an interesting language quirk
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  644. The timing is surreal ☠️☠️
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  645. Thank you so much. Recently on a community post I requested the topic of how to heal from bosses abusing you in the workplace. I think this video will offer me a lot of tangible ideas and I’m excited to get into it
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  646. I didn’t notice your septum before! It looks so good <3 I loved watching a more casual Ana, laughing and everything. Definitely looking forward to those outfit videos!
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  647. Maddie Lanaux agreed. The endless scroll of options always poses the potential of there being "the next best thing." Too many different intentions too, and people just don't come up in person anymore to strike up a conversation
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  648. Feeling envious can happen to anyone. This is such a great break down to illustrate this emotion and how to deal with it. Definitely gonna use this as a reference!
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  649. And Dr.! So proud of how far she's come
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  650. The "nice guy" issue is so true! 99% of the "nice guys" that I've heard complaining about being rejected are actually a**holes and blame all women as a category because they can't get in a relationship
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  651. I nerver learned how to handle a disagrement properly, I saw violent fights all troughout my life, my partner too. As our relationship grew we realised we didn't know how to resolve conflict, nor how to handle it. We're trying to learn how to do it in a healthy way, and this video comes at the right timing, I know this will help us, thanks !
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  652. 3 minutes in and you described word for word my current life since I got my new job, I love the work but I have so much trouble with authority figures and the fear of doing something wrong.
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  653. Ana, I'm only 6 minutes in but I can already say I see how much love you give even when you're looking at your husband. I hope the same trajectory with my relationship with my boyfriend of 7 months and hopefully many more years to come. Thanks so much for the upload and glad to see you both ♡
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  654. Me: I really have to get started rn I got so much stuff to do today. Ana: uploads video how to not procrastinate Me: ok I start after watching this 😁
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  655. Watching this as I procastinate. For real though gonna get on it after this
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  656. I like how you include different cultures and their conflict styles.
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  657. Can you make a series on the psychology behind character relationships in the tv show Euphoria?
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  658. I’m sure these are tools we could all benefit from, especially after this year. Thanks for looking out for us, Ana 💗
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  659. Definitely on the same page I feel very lucky to have such a kind and loving partner who is always open with communication so we can understand each other better 💜 love these kinds of videos. Hope everyone has a good day ☺️
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  660. She seems so sweet. I love I understood every word without translation. If only I was raised with such careful loving advice like this. Quite the opposite for me unfortunately, regardless thank you kindly for posting this 💜
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  661. I love your twist on applying the concept of the book to relevant situations and people in life!
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  662. Good luck to these men, I hope they will be able to come to Eastern Europe and find their perfect BRIDGE p.s. but leave women alone ok
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  663. Looking forward to hearing about your findings!! I’m doing a huge research project in the fall and need to mentally prepare myself for it haha
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  664. Did the inner-child revisit to childhood, to settle things with my emotionally absent parents. Rather oddly, I became aware of them as adult kids themselves, just trying to do their best. Compassion for them released me to feel better about us all.
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  665. I'm so grateful to you for this fundraiser, its an absolute chaos here in India. We're all broken from inside after this second wave, I've personally lost my 2 aunts, my neighbor, my favourite teacher and my 24 year old cousin to COVID.
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  666. The past two videos have been exactly what I've been needing! Thanks for all that you do!
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  667. I’ve been at my current job 16 months and dealt with this for a while!! One of the things that helped me most is the people who’ve been around the longest telling me I’m doing great
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  668. I had three father figures leave me in my life time (first biological, second the person that raised me, third a man I saw as a father figure in the absence of the one that raised me) and I surprisingly don’t have “daddy issues” honestly what has helped me the most is learning about psychology and how he brain processes trauma. If I got better grades in school I would be a therapist
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  669. Just in time...I just left an unhealthy relationship and needed smth like this 🤍 thank you Ana
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  670. Me and my bf are doing duolingo together and workouts at the gym. We do different languages and workouts and truly it does give us something to talk about
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  671. I need to write this down.
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  672. I finally got your novel, worksheet book and journal. I will leave a review when I read/use them, in a few months!
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  673. Ana, I thought I couldn’t love your channel more, but then you unveil this tshirt 🤣 one of my best friends has a tshirt with the “awkward Robert Pattinson” meme on it, but his skin is glittery and it says “this is the skin of a killer, bella” Iconic. 🤣
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  674. Tbh I feel so guilt for acting toxic and behaving badly I have so much work to do. I’ve only been around toxic men and had to survive somehow but I don’t got to anymore
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  675. I was talking with my algebra professor about raising my grade and she was like "remember you can raise your hand and it's good to ask questions in class, that'll help a lot." And I was basically like "yeah I know I just don't like to raise my hand and ask questions because I get nervous and anxious about asking questions in class." And she gave me a "you might get nervous but that shouldn't keep you from asking questions in class" and I wanted to be like it's not that simple and I was kind of offended. And I used to be on a blood pressure medication metoprolol and my nephrologist suggested it because she said it would help ease my stress that it probably tied to my high blood pressure. Though Ilrecently I switched to amlodipine which treats high BP but also helps with Reynauds. Also during the last years of high school I noticed that often when I would watch movies for the first time I my heart would beat faster and it felt like I was getting really nervous. And I've never been able to pinpoint why that happens. Often times it lasts for about the first half of the movie on and off and then by the end I'm fine and forgot that I was shaking so hard earlier
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  676. I would like to thank you as a Turkish person for your concern and support of the earthquake victims.
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  677. This is very useful, thank you!! I went to therapy earlier in the pandemic and didn’t feel I got as much out of it as I would’ve liked
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  678. What hit home for me is the “Esteem Needs.” It can be hard to build up that part of ourselves . Learning to be patient with myself, because we’re all a work in progress! Absolutely love this channel! Great way to start a Monday!
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  679. i appreciate the way you used this story in a way to help other women, i love your videos they make a difference in my everyday life. rest in paradise gabby p 🤍🕊
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  680. I agree with you. I find it very inspirational , I dont understand the hate
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  681.  @AnaPsychology  yeah, I know... I feel so much pity for them since they are missing out on such beautiful minds. I’m sorry you have to deal with those comments. I’ll do my part to lead men towards a better path and mentor them to grow as individuals who would never have such thoughts.
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  682. Hot take: I don't care very much about the symbolism and ceremonial value of this situation happening at a wedding verses anywhere else. The issue is bringing up intimate details about a friendship in front of hundreds of people without the other parties consent. I think there was too much focus on the former rather than the latter in the analysis presented here. But perhaps this is just my autism and "bitter single girl in her 30s" energy talking.
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  683. Can everyone at least agree that people should be allowed to study this?
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  684. my fiancée has OCD and i’ve been wanting to learn more about it for a while now. thanks for the video!! can’t wait to watch!
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  685. As a latina, I relate 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
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  686. The rays of the sun coming through the window is giving a great effect here. Also, your hair looks extra lush and great with the hat! 🖤
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  687. As a psychology student your videos are really inspiring and motivate me to keep studying to get to where you're at. THANKS ANA
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  688. I think it depends on the reason for the breakup. If the reason was any sort of abuse and your friend wants to maintain a friendship with the abuser, I'd say definitely end the friendship. If the breakup was just about incompatibility, then I don't think one should expect friends to discard their friendship with the ex. I can see how it could be emotionally challenging, though, if a person feels hurt by the ex and the breakup
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  689. Thanks for this video, distinguishing red from yellow flags is helpful when I feel that you're more likely to tolerate lots of red flags if you lump red and yellow together as just warnings.
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  690. & these feelings are totally ok to have. Thank you for giving us resources to deal with them 🙏🏽
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  691. I’m working with a hypnotherapist right now and we just have this conversation similar to this. She is trying to get me to love all parts of me including my “shadow side” instead of expecting her to get rid of it.
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  692. i have to say i glade i found this channel. you are awsome, you talk about things that are so common and yet no one wants talk about. you have a great mindset. thank you for doing the channel, plus trying to help everyone. this is my opinion of course.
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  693. Hey Doc! Just wanted to take the time to share. I remember a time where I really needed advice but I didn’t know where I could go until I stumbled across one of your videos on my page. I want to thank you! Your insight really helped me through some rough times. It especially helped because I live in Chicago and at the time it was nice to know that there are some incredible people here that are doing meaningful work! Congratulations Dr. Ana and thank you so much 🙏🏽
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  694. loved this video! this is something I've been thinking a lot about lately and I still feel like it's a touchy topic and not easy to criticise since a lot of people (girls AND guys (cuz they often get something out of it as well, usually sexual content)) seem to be riding that "female empowerment train"
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  695. As someone looking to go into the field, I found this really insightful and encouraging. Thanks Ana!
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  696. One of my classes last semester discussed this in depth. Algorithms can do a lot of damage to society
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  697. Such a great video, thank you
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  698. Hi Ana, great video. It made me think about how I despite the fact that I was bought by a feminist and I'm very anti-sexism etc that I can still be sexist and unsupportive to women. I'm going to be more aware of those things and cut them out going forward. I've no doubt I'll be rewatching this video and sharing it with others too!!!
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  699. Love the intro and dedication to the Halloween theme!
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  700. this is unrelated to the video, but please could you do a video on self-sabotage? it’s something i really struggle with (sure others do too) and your videos are so helpful and insightful! tysm!!
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  701. First thing I thought when I looked at the thumbnail was "no way...pretty privilege is real no doubt about it" and then after taking a moment to actually click and watch the video I realised how much more nuanced the topic of pretty privilege is. Eye opening and well researched video as always,thank you Ana <3
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  702. I foresee a million subscribers within a year granted you perpetuate this positivity in your videos. I’d like a video on how you ended up where you are today as far as your career and the YouTube channel. 💎
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  703. I enjoy hearing your perspectives so much. Always on point and so smart, eloquent and educated!
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  704. As someone with high functioning anxiety, I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve been told I’m “too much to handle”. Your videos make me feel less alone. Thank you.
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  705. What a great video, thanks! Could you make a video about how to integrate the shadow in healthy ways? Also, the last thing you said about the shadow being a good thing in the sense that "it's the shadow-self because that person chooses not to be like that" gave me peace. I'm not a fan of mine (well, no one is) so, I at least feel that I am making an effort not to be it.
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  706. If there is ever a remake of the Love Witch, I will only watch it if you are cast
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  707. Heck yes. There’s not a lot spookier than psychoanalytics 🍿
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  708. I really appreciated this video. I’m still really struggling with my situation where I thought I could handle it. My girlfriend and best friend of two years broke up with me very unexpectedly, she didn’t give a major reason apart from falling out of love and said that I was an amazing partner and a very good person. She said I did nothing wrong and she wanted to remain friends. I left it up to her to keep in contact but she hasn’t once yet tried to reach out to me but I have to respect her choice and I have been respecting it. It just hurts losing someone who I held so close to me emotionally. I’ve never been more lonely.
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  709. Been struggling with social anxiety for years, my entire life even... that familiar feeling of unease that quickly turns into anxiety everytime I see a group of people approaching me never seems to go away... thanks for speaking about this topic <3
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  710. Reviewing characters ♥️
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  711. I used to do this, but ended up learning the hard way to step back/break away from unhealthy friendships and relationships! I tried very hard once to keep one alive because I liked the person, but there was nothing I could do
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  712. The bond a grandchild has with their grandmother is the most powerful and beautiful thing ever, if there is love! Like we see in this video ❤️
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  713. You are our angel. I truly appreciate videos like this since help is so difficult to get and so expensive.
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  714. I love your suggestion of looking internally as opposed to trying determine who the other person is or how they feel about us. Asking yourself do I feel: mostly safe, partly safe, or hardly safe. I find I unconsciously share details with people I don't know very well because I find the stakes are generally low, thus I may or may not ever see them again. However, if I want to initiate a relationship and see this person again, I tend to be more reserved. It's uncomfortable sharing my authentic self, especially if I'm thinking of how my impression will influence the perception of others. I think I will make use of this suggestion in the future and check in with myself.
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  715. You actually made me change my mind a little bit about this topic, and I now want to investigate it further, so thank you.
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  716. One of the most real-life, useful channels I have seen on YouTube Ana, you are amazing for choosing help other with a YouTube platform.
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  717. It was nice to watch/hear this because I often second guess myself and my emotional responses as being irrational (I think I just have a fear of being manipulative and abusive). But the recommended responses to jealousy is pretty much how I instinctually handle these situations. So even though I will sometimes perceive my emotions as heightened, or bad, or possessive, it’s nice to hear that I’m actually pretty logical and determined to respond to things appropriately.
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  718. I love how you’re able to fuse your field of study & your ethnicity and various cultures with this fun Halloween themed video! Keep up the great work, Ana 🎃
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  719. Strongly agree with Ana’s point around 26:50. I think it’s okay if people want to give a playbook for eg traditional masculinity, but imposing it on others as the only legitimate way to live is weird and unhelpful
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  720. Yes, do make the videos on DBT. Loving the content as well as you. :)
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  721. I think that creating art, seeing the world, spending time with those I care about, and helping others are my goals in life. I havent had much luck pursuing those so far so thats probably why I feel a bit lost and depressed...I love writing too. I hope you publish a book one day I am sure it would be successful. You have a unique and effective way of communicating your ideas.
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  722. Not really adding to the list, but something I am curious about, which we probably won't be able to get an answer to all that easily. When it comes to sexual orientation, I couldn't help but think about how ace people were represented in this (if at all). Not necessarily through fault of the data, but how many people discover themselves being ace, and how they feel they should identify themselves before they discover their "true identity". The reason I bring this up is, due to how sexuality is often talked about, many ace people still identify themselves as being straight, bi or gay. If they still experience some form of attraction, other than sexual, they will likely identify as the corresponding sexuality, if they experience no attraction, they may identify as bi until they realize they might actually be ace. This could possibly skew the numbers somewhat. I don't how much it would change things, but it's still an interesting thought to me, because ace people belong to the LGBTQ+, but will most likely not hook up with anyone. But it is not unheard of that aces for a long time think they are straight, because they still get romantically attracted to the opposite sex. If they haven't been introduced or perhaps falsely rejected the possibility of them being ace, because they haven't experienced sexual attraction, then they won't participate in the culture. This will in theory drive the percentage down for straight people and consequently cause the LGBTQ+ percentage to be higher. Edit: Really loved the video by the way. Interesting topic!
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  723. Really useful. I think I know what you mean about valuing other people for their uniqueness.. I have noticed one thing, that I rarely get exhausted when doing photography, its more like «now its time to stop»-thing. I am doing a course in taking photos of people, and I notice that it invigorates me. The approach is essential. To observe and take photos can be a pretty introverted thing, so I feel kind of more in place. Still, when taking photos of living people, I need to connect, and I found your little video here very useful. Thanks.
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  724. “They wouldn’t compare you with others” that’s what this whole article is doing lmao
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  725. This is such an important topic. Thank you for sharing. I believe gaining a deeper understanding of why things happen can help us find a solution much quicker.
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  726. 6:02-6:33 "You can honor and savour every single moment of the cycle and recognize that there's value in it" I love this part so much. This also reminds me of the menstrual cycle, because the days when I'm tired and emotional can help me realize a lot about myself. In the past I used to ignore it and brush it off as "just pms" when I worried deeply about problems that normally didn't bother me much because I thought I was just catastrophising. But then I tried listening to my emotions in that time period, and I noticed how they tell me exactly what my current values/beliefs are and what should change in my life, they turned out to be so valuable to me :)
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  727. I really enjoyed watching both of your perspectives on these stories. I look forward to more videos with you and Amira. As for the topics of the videos, I'm starting to think the term "friendzone" is a term people use as a defense mechanism for rejection. It perpetuates this idea that one is unworthy of the other person, and that friendship with them is a doomed place to end up in. However the pursued person may not be interested in the pursuer romantically, (for countless reasons- some of which may have nothing to do with the Pursuer) but still sees potential of having them in their life platonically. I know rejection can be challenging at times but it is important to process it healthily. I think both reddit stories showcase a sense of rejection manifesting in rather covert unhealthy ways or mannerisms.
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  728. You probably get this a lot. But you’re freaking adorable. And so knowledgeable too.
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  729. I hope the surgery goes well for your cat, I know how stressful and worried you can feel right now
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  730. You’re an inspiration, Ana! Using your platform to help others where you can right now makes me hopeful despite the world we live in today. You 100% deserve all the growth you’ve seen!
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  731. V depressing. Even more depressing that stories like this don’t make headlines when the victim is black or brown… very upsetting the whole thing. I hope Gabby’s family is staying strong right now I can’t imagine what they’re going through.
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  732. Recently I started taking notes from your videos. I've been watching you for 2 years and I realized how much useful information I forget with time.
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  733. I've been watching your channel since the begging, and I had no idea you have romanian roots. I'm romanian too and hearing you speak our language feels so nice. Your romanian is great and your grandma seems wonderful 💕
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  734. This video is so informative and is helping me at the right time in my life right now. Can you make a how-to video on transitioning from a casual first few dates to something more serious? In a way that you don’t want to scare them off but also don’t want to be in their endless rotation.
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  735. I really enjoyed this video. Its really well put together and you did a great job of underlining how rituals in general, while not being rational per se, can still be useful in how we organize our thoughts and abstract our personal complexities. As an atheist with very religious parents, I feel like Im able to at least better understand the spiritual significance of my family's prayers and traditional rituals when theyve always seemed outlandish to me. Also, you pull that witch look off so well god damn.
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  736. Your cat is very stealthy. Didn't see it sneaking up in the couch. ;)
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  737. Ahh, just thinking about the skin picking scene is giving me goosebumps... and it’s been years since I’ve seen it!
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  738. Totally agree! You can validate without enabling.
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  739. Mystifying tasks is an advice everyone needs to hear. Reframing tasks in that way make it easier to accomplish and more fun! Example: You are not just becoming healthier. Your unlocking skills on your body and mind skill tree; even finding hidden ones! In that you way your gaining levels, ready to take on harder bosses and find like minded allies!
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  740. I’ve never framed anxiety this way (it’s asking a question). This is immediately so helpful, thank you!!!!!
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  741. In Finnish, a witch is ”noita”. An older book, which I have, tells, that noita has supernatural powers, and can work with spirit powers, like the Devil. It says about witches in Lappland. It also says, that tietäjä might be called noita. Tietäjä means knower - *someone-who-knows*. That is interesting, because tietäjä is a very positive being (person) in Finnish history and mythology. The book says: ”According to folklore, a person with congenital supernatural abilities, uses magical means, and presents himself as a rather powerful healer. Tietäjä was often a title of honor used for a man of knowledge, the leader of his tribe.”
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  742. Thank you for this wholesome content Ana ❤️
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  743. Thank you for this video ! I also asked my therapist if she would accept that I paid her 60 instead of 80 and she was okay with that so I think it doesn't hurt to just ask :)
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  744. I am neither a woman, nor Eastern European, yet this article had me tripping right from the start. Very informative though. Who woulda thought you could get a bridge from bestbrides?
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  745. It would be nice to have something new and different like every day stuff as you said
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  746. Good for you, Ana! You confided in us that you were anxious about doing an interview, and this is great. Thank you for sharing excellent content and shining a light on a wonderful creator. Hopefully many more to come. ✨
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  747. Fantastic video, Ana! I agree with your point on stubbornness being the worst trait for compatibility 💗 it’s about compromise from both sides!!
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  748. I love her new course! Super grateful!
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  749. Hi Dr. Ana! This topic strikes very close to me since I have some spiritual friends who are afraid to address their emotions because of messages like these. One friend even says she has a guardian that shields those negative emotions from her; to protect her. Your voice also sounds a bit off recently. I hope you're not terribly sick! Love your videos! Take care of yourself!
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  750. 4:40 is key about breakups. If you stay in a bad/toxic relationship that bond multiplies in more suffering and harder to break. It's better to pull the bandaid off, leave the bond and move on. Time controls a bond, time is of the essence. It takes wisdom and rationality. And patience afterwards which I think people don't have always seeking the now.
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  751. Been loving the concepts that you’ve been covering lately!
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  752. Saw this notification and what a timing 😅 had a conversation with a friend, within this theme, just a few hours ago. Looking forward to this one.
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  753. I seriously think you need to make this into a series. A lot of what you mentioned is exactly what I'm going through today. It would be great to have some journaling prompts based on this in my opinion.
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  754. This is so well presented and so important. I have experienced abortion trauma and could relate to most of these symptoms. Now, in the small, healing groups I facilitate, we talk about this. It really helps to know there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with you and that you can learn to cope and heal. I will be using this and forwarding it to others. Thank you so very much.
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  755. Hi Ana! This video is very interesting! I come from an enmeshed family. And I agree that different people and culture will have different views on this. In my culture, more often than not, your privacy and boundaries are not respected. When you have a diary, chances are your parents have looked at it. Children are rarely seen as individuals but puppets to be controlled by adults. You don't get a say in anything. There is definitely co-dependency within families like this because parents will want you to realize their dreams for them. Personally, I think it is very unhealthy, and family members can grow resentful of each other.
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  756. For me, the main takeaway I got from the That Girl videos I've watched is "These are habits I try to stick to as best as I can. There will be days or weeks that I can't keep up, and I won't beat myself up for it." People on the internet just like to shit on whatever becomes extremely popular because then it's "basic."
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  757. I'm so glad people are making educational videos about this. I was actually the cheater, and I never thought that what I was going to call myself. I was unhappy in the relationship but I wanted so badly to see where it was going to go. I guess not badly enough, and you just can't quiet your emotional side. The best thing to do was to be honest, even if it makes your partner unhappy, before one day you decide to drink in a party and inevitably something you wouldn't want to happen, happens. The aftermath is x1000 worse, and it's so hard to say it's "me" (even if it is), because your partner a lot of the times will feel like shit about themselves anyway.
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  758. I have the utmost respect for you. I have been feeling so heartbroken by both Israelis and Palestinians. I have been outspoken about both and it’s shaken me to the core how unsympathetic people can be towards either side. Thank you for using your platform to discuss a topic that is extremely important.
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  759. Treat yourself to a silk/satin pillowcase, too! If the bun falls or bonnet slips during sleep the pillowcase has gotcha covered! Also, sectioning and then loosely braiding the sections and then putting those sections up in a bun/s has been helpful for my curls 🙌
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  760. You guys are both very well spoken and I really enjoyed watching this video. Thank you for making me smile and congratulations on your marriage ❤
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  761. the f*ck zone lol, im gonna use that
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  762. I appreciate this perspective! I can recognize that my impulse to dogpile on this drama brings up personal negative experiences for me. Blake shouldn’t have to answer for the way people have treated me in the past.
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  763. you know that frustrating moment when you're trying to find an outfit before going out and your room ends in a huge mess with clothes everywhere? yeah that's me lol I can never decide what to wear, I wish I was more confident! side note: your makeup looks cute asf you're so pretty bruh
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  764. thanks for this, came at a perfect time. currently living in that state of agitation constantly due to the interpersonal consequences of some not great health and financial choices I made in the past few years. I have been struggling to go on as I am not accustomed to having multiple people being so deeply disappointed in me or doubting my judgment, and I started to develop a fear of acting on my own or making my own decisions after behaving so irresponsibly and basically like a petulant child for so long. this video helped a lot to remind me to keep my head on straight and remember how to behave responsibly, while still staying true to myself and the dreams I still have and don’t wish to abandon.
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  765. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your own story. ❤️
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  766. I've seen similar articles about Portuguese women. They basically say the same things about any nationality that sounds "exotic" to their target audience.
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  767. 18:20 I feel attacked for Chandler 😂😂
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  768. What about PRISON MIKE?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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  769. Douchebags: "Eastern European and Asian girls are so traditional and docile. They know their place." I, with a Serbian mother and Chinese girlfriend: "Nope."
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  770. Can you talk about this and how it is often related to sexual coercion
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  771. This video is for me a sad reminder, that I feel alone... and that I have this feeling since I remember. I have had for couple of times therapy (maybe counseling is the more correct term) and I did cry a lot while being still able to perfectly articulate what was going on inside me. I was able to display my authentic vulnerability and emotions to a person, because I knew, that she gets paid for being responsible with me... But the people around me can not deal with it and/or don't want to burden themselfes with it. And while I can understand, that it is unhealthy to be an emotional trashback - it is equally unhealthy (in my non professional opinion) to be emotionally isolated. I give my most important example to this. One day I told my Ex-Girlfriend that I feel bad for a long time and I think about going for a therapy, to learn about what is going on with me. I suspected a depression. She was offended... how dare I to suggest that I might have a depression and need help. I am nothing like those people, she knows, who have an actual depression and my pain isn't serious at all. - Now this might sounds like she was a bad person, but in her defense: She is a mathematician and she is/was totally uneducated about psychology. At least I don't believe, that her hurtful behaviour was intentional, but reading people wasn't her strenght - I was afraid to lose her... because even if this was a bad moment, at least everything else in the relationship was just fine and before her, I have expirienced intentional abuse against me. But I stoped talking about my issue because of my fear... so my action started to reflect my depression... and after a couple of months she came to me and started to cry. She has seen me as a really good person, but somehow she stoped loving me and broke up. She also said that she again wanted to thank me though... her moms life was in danger and I supported her emotionally in this time and that she won't forget it. Months later I realized... she simply lost attraction, because I had a depression and it was simply visible. And while I didn't commented on your video on how to support women negativly, I actually was triggert and offended. It was not, because you were wrong in my opinion, but because from my perspective, I did support women in my life, but this attitute didn't get reciprocated. I feel like I was a fool, for giving my support to people in general for free and I feel being used. (This is why I started only to validate people, which add something of value to my life.) But I didn't comment negativly, because I understand, where my anger comes from and that I know, that I still want to connect to people. I also understand that it is not anybodys guilt, that I have expirienced shit and my pain doesn't make the pain of a woman irrelevant. I may never understand the issues, that women face completely, but what I understand is the particular pain, when people dismisses your issues as irrelevant. By no means do I try to justify bad behaviour by men, who are attacking you on your support for women-video. An explanation is not a justification and I bet you understand, that it is equally important, that you keep your boundaries. But either I am better in understanding myself than the men, who reacted with negativity, or they have expirienced worse... or both. So as a man, I like to ask for support from people (not only women). Ignore and stop validating toxic people - pay attention to and validate people with good intention towards you. Just give me a recurring reason to stay a good person. Have yourself and teach others to have healthy boundaries. Do never accept racism, sexism or any other form of senseless discrimination. And know yourself.
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  772. Thank you for the video ana, the world needs more like you and your grandmother. "It's better to be a warrior in a garden, then a gardener in a war."
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  773. Ador genul asta de videouri in care nu ti e rusine cu originile tale plus ca bunica ta imi aminteste mult de a mea super video keep it up u make us proud :))
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  774. Romanians used to "immigrate illegally" back during the communist era (30+ years ago) because you simply couldn't leave the country, now it's easy to travel especially since we're in the EU too. He needs to update his info.
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  775.  @AnaPsychology  I realize that you were relaying information from a study and that It doesn't necessarily reflect your personal opinion. I am not offended. No worries.
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  776. All of this situation is so sad... It breaks my heart
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  777. Yes the one I have been waiting for so patiently lol. everything you told me makes so much sense. I totally felt like men on dating apps have a lot more of those self-esteem just by the way they react to rejection of either hook ups or not wanting to date. Just yesterday, someone I've never spoken to ever before, sent me a first message asking me "dom or sub". I have nothing in my profile to indicate that I want to hook up or that I am a kinky person. In fact my profile says "wants a relationship". When I told him that I wasn't trying to hook up he immediately blocked me. I wasn't even offended when I saw you block me I literally just laughed out loud. I guess I'm just a point where I realize when things like this happen lowers people can't take rejection. for a long time I felt nervous to reject a guy because sometimes their replies would be very verbally violent even when I try to be kind in my rejection. That was six years ago. Now I am still kind when I reject but I know longer have that fear because I don't internalize the reaction. I know that their reaction does not correlate with who I am but it more correlates with who they are. really loved your video thank you for sharing the links for the statistics.
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  778. As a lawyer I really struggle with this, because I see part of my job as requiring a great amount of negative foresight, i.e. thinking of all the ways something can go wrong in order to come up with a plan or legal strategy that can minimize those risks. If I were to assume that everything's going to be ok then I'd feel like I'm neglecting my job. It's sometimes hard to keep that mindset out of my personal life.
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  779. I was just telling a friend not to feel bad about having venting boundaries. You have to be at 100% before giving out mental energy out.
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  780. Important lessons for everybody who didnt grew up around healthy money mindset.
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  781. Came at a great time, thank you for your content. Helpful reminders and actionable advice. Appreciate your efforts to inform people about these kinds of things, especially now knowing it scares you in the way you described. Way to be resilient ! Ahaha Hope to pick up your journaling book soon. Cheers!
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  782. Ive been waiting for you to talk about this topic! i find it super fascinating. Unfortunately, anti-drug hysteria in the US led to a total ban on psychedelic research in the late 1960s, shutting down the research programs before they could follow up on promising early results. Its been starting to pick back up again since the 90s, and preliminary studies have shown that psilocybin is remarkably effective at treating depression and anxiety. It’s also more consistently effective for helping people quit smoking than any other treatment on the market. Im incredibly hopeful for the medical use of psychedelics and tactics like microdosing to help heal chronic mental disorders
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  783. Love your cat in the background Ana! Bless 😻
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  784. I loved this video!! It’s perfect! I sent it to my boyfriend :) we were actually talking about this a while ago! We were wondering why it felt like we went into a different honeymoon phase, and your video explains everything perfectly!💗
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  785. I'm Latina and my family was also very loud and speaking over the other, though it wasn't that toxic, they were often joking and laughing. But I have seen other parts of my more extended family speak over each other during disagreements. I also came to be very quiet because of all the noise lol I don't do well with loud noises. It's not a cultural thing to me. I don't like when people lean into stereotypes to justify being rude and domineering and otherwise toxic in other ways.
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  786. That was scary. Randomly bump into this video and the story started with my name 😆
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  787. The best forms of this content are often in disguise. They’ll be titled “get your ex back blah blah” but often focus on no contact and self improvement through awareness and new healthy habits. Ironically this is the only way to get them back but by the time you move on that’s when they try to return.
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  788. ive noticed this interacting with western men. I'm actually from the states but whenever an American guy approaches me its always about my last name and the question "are you russian ;););)"
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  789. Thank you !!! I observed that any time someone tried to get close with me at a personal level and support me- that i would get anxious. This caused me to believe that i did not feel okay and needed to work harder in life to "be okay" so that i could be able to function well and accept support and closeness from others. I liked this idea of reframing or taking a step back and seeing that it could also be my bodys way of checking in with me letting me know that i havent been okay not allowing support and this was something i needed to lean into and allow. (Still working on how to do so) but again- that change of perspective. Ty!!!
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  790. I just turned 25 and I can see where you are coming from with a lot of these tips. Some of them I think would be totally worth incorporating into my life
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  791. You’re spoiling us with those frequent uploads. 😌
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  792. I love Desperate Housewives and Carlos and Gaby are my favourite couple from the main cast. Especially in the beginning, the ideals you analysed for each of them were very prominent, their relationship was very unhealthy and neither of them was happy. But I feel like they grew and changed for the better, though they are still far from the best versions of themselves. If you ever feel like it, discussing Tom and Lynette Scavo would be very interesting as I feel almost everyone at one point or another has met lived with or dated people like them. I don't care for Lynette, but I despise Tom's character. I feel like there's no growth for him, even when life tries him and sends him signals that it's time to change, he still comes out the same on the other side.
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  793. It must be incredibly difficult to be a teenager in this social media age.
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  794. This video just gave me a much-needed boost. Thanks for posting!
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  795. Love these types pf videos. My partner and I have a stronger relationship bc of these.
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  796. I find the argument that online dating commodifies dating a bit odd. I mean, yeah, maybe, but didn't marriage used to be (and in some places, still is) a literal economic transaction in which women had only economic value and no personal value? LOL. A very interesting video, so thank you as always for the great content :) As someone who considers herself gay but has "experimented" with men ( I guess in the way straight women "experiment" with other women), I can say it is an entirely different experience online dating other women as opposed to men.
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  797. 24 year old male. Your content has been amazing & helpful each & every upload. Thank you & im sure plenty more men will be exposed to your channel. And benefit as much as I have.
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  798. How do you tell people you're a dating coach with a straight face? Better off just saying "I'm uneducated, unemployed and delusional about how reality works" IMO
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  799. Thank you so much for this - I know that I have intimacy issues from the way I grew up during my childhood, self-sabotaging tendencies as well as grass is greener syndrome combined (imagine trying to get through any relationship with those 2 combined 💀) and for some reason kept doubting my relationship even though my logical and objective side knew there was nothing wrong with the relationship. My partner and I aren’t a perfect match and we have very different love languages and interests, which is why the doubt was there but we somehow managed being in a long distance relationship for 2 years. it’s reassuring to know that the problems I’m dealing with seem big as a result of my skewed mindset, rather than the relationship actually having any issues. Objectively, it’s perfectly healthy, and I couldn’t ask for more.
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  800. I successfully used imagery back in high school to memorize a long list of random things. To this day, I can repeat that list of things backwards. It works!
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  801. Recently I've been obsessed with your channel and let me tell you, I'm about to get so emotionally intelligent 😤😤
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  802. I really appreciate all the work you're putting into Halloweek. The intro, the costumes, the research... Thank you!!!
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  803. Oh yay! I love hearing your title change along the way. One step closer to practicing Dr!
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  804. I would love for you to be my therapist, you’re so thorough 😭🖤 love the series!!
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  805. this is so cute, my LDR boyfriend and i had been reading books over facetime for months and now we’re moving in together :3 it strengthened our bond and gave us something to share about
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  806. The intro is everything ana
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  807. Thank you Ana for talking about this topic. I’m actually afraid of conflicts, and I believe that influences my decision to not say anything. If anyone has tips on setting boundaries, please share!!
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  808. I cheated once . . . I needed the grades.
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  809. a fight in my eyes is when we have an emotionally charged conversation. usually i will cry or he will get a serious tone when we fight, but there is never any getting in each others faces, yelling, slamming doors, storming out, etc.
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  810. Great video 👏🏼 You described my defense mechanisms, what we talk about in the cluster b community. I love that you speak up and out for what you believe in, in such a gracious manner. Thank you
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  811. Loved this one! Personally I’ve always tried to view my occasional episodes of depression through this lens and I’ve always found it was because of a key thing (career, partner etc) being wrong in my life
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  812. Actually, tips for coming up with a thesis for grad school and dissertation for PhD and their processes would be a great series for videos!!!
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  813. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ "The point of emotional regulation is not to win every single time... It's to have mastery over your emotional reactions and be WELL" ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I can't get over how powerful these words are! Anyone dealing with jealousy should meditate and examine these words carefully. Put these words on your refrigerator or mirror. I dealt with a lot of regret from past relationships because of my jealousy. I constantly self-sabotaged relationships. I have never been violent or abusive with words, but i would let my anxiety ruin happy moments. I remember walking around Charleston, SC with my girlfriend on Valentine's weekend. We had been having a blast. A lot of great food and laughing a lot. Just enjoying the town and being around each other. She had taken some pictures of a lot of little things as we wondered around (Charleston is a beautiful city if you haven't been). At some point, i said "why haven't you wanted to stop and take a picture of us?". I could have just asked to take a picture. It would have been a simple suggestion and she GLADLY would have done it, but in my awkward jealousy and anxiety, i blurted out something silly at an otherwise delightful and innocent moment. I was literally being jealous of old buildings. And we were having so much fun. I constantly let myself ruin happy moments with little things like that. Things that i would instantly regret. Things that were rarely even a "threat to our relationship". I just loved her and i was so worried about losing her (to no one in particular, just to my own insecurities and fears of abandonment). I wish i had your videos back then. These are powerful and simple tips that you share. I hope others listen before they destroy something they love little by little. Jealousy isn't always about "big fights". Sometimes it can just be little comments that rob the joy from situations before they happen. Later that night, we had a fancy dinner planned (literally weeks in advance) at this amazing spot. As we were waiting for our reservation outside of the restaurant she said, "we should take a picture". I still look back at that picture sometimes and i can see it in her eyes. She looks amazing. She always had the most beautiful smile and it was a genuinely happy smile, but you could see my words of jealousy in her eyes. I could see her thinking, "this was the place i was hoping to take a picture together all day long, but now it doesn't feel as special". Treasure the people you care about. Do everything it takes to maintain peace. Think the best about someone you love. The thing you do to keep from losing someone is often the thing that will lead to you losing them. Thanks again Ana! I wasn't able to hear these words when i needed them, but i do draw some comfort knowing that they will help others ❤
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  814. Hey Dr. Ana, thank you for your honesty and I admire your strength in sharing your story. I don't think I could share something like this... I would feel so vulnerable and fragile.
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  815. I relate most to linguistic, interpersonal, and intrapersonal--thank you for this reminder of the different styles
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  816. YESSSS another couple vid!!! You guys are so adorable
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  817. Oh I remember watching this movie back in 2011 and I was so annoyed by the main character. Only to realize that I was in reality annoyed with my own not yet fully integrated self and hating my own perfectionistic tendencies
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  818. I'm sorry, are you spying on me?
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  819. i needed this w/ my immature ass
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  820. so damn true! however, after a long time dealing with the horrific internet dating world, i managed to find my life partner <3 in a way, the apps helped me learn what someone who isn't serious behaves like, which in turn, helped me notice the one person who was interested!
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  821. Solidarity to this story and this last bit of this video. This is why people are so scared to come forward. That's what we worry about when we are trying to leave and break free. This story was one I didn't look at because I have an active issue in my own life. Seeing this final ending to the situation of her whereabouts is the real reason survivors hold so much fear even after the process for leaving. If anyone relates I'm so so sorry. Stay safe out there everyone.
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  822. I haven’t watch the video yet, but has anyone else here developed resiliency to some things but not others? Like I’ve lost two Grandma’s within a year span, & like…I think I’m relatively okay? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Miss them but not feeling traumatized by the loss? But if I’m stressed about being prepared for a quiz I’m studying for? 😵‍💫 I’ll be having lots of crying spells & hyperventilating. Nightmares of missing classes or failing tests.
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  823. Omg I'm so excited to see you covering this! It's one of the most effective therapies for chronic illness/chronic pain conditions which are notoriously hard to treat effectively (from a psychological standpoint). It's also feels like you have more overt agency or interaction with this type of therapy since you can deploy it outside of the clinic on your own once you're more familiar with it.
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  824. i’ve been paying more attention to my basic needs lately, it’s crazy how much the little things add up and can make or break your mood and outlook. great video ana! your content is helping me get my life back together <3
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  825. If you are not sure whether you’re in a toxic relationship or not, ask yourself these two most important questions. How has this relationship affected my self-esteem? How do I feel when I am around my partner? 💙YouTuber That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
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  826. High quality content 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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  827. I love how you explained the repressed child acting out, it kind of reminds me of Betty Draper
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  828. You come up with the best video ideas. Always helpful 😊
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  829. Clicked so fast! This has been on my mind a lot recently... Thanks Ana 😊
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  830. I loved the analogy between probability and severity :)
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  831. The music the footage 🙌🏼
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  832. 🤗I send a huge hug and love to all those that have struggled with any parental neglect or abuse. My father was absent for the most part and when he wasn’t he was abusive towards me and my mother, now I am working on ending the cycle of dating narcissistic psychopath’s. My mother wasn’t any help though she would make excuses for my father’s abuse and neglect. Ending this comment on a positive note I am healing and no longer drawing these people with these disorders into my life🙏
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  833. I love how your content ventures out a little lately! The little sketches in the inner demon video were hilarious and this format is so fun as well! It’s nice to see your personality shining through
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  834. I love that you mentioned that labels don’t matter as much because people outside of psychology always get caught up in the labels and don’t want to be thought of as depressed, anxious or ‘crazy’
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  835. One of the things I hate to hear is, “You’re a man if you have sex with a lot of women”... That makes me a horndog, not a man. When I said to myself, “nothing matters in this world”. This made me take a step back and be aware about how society wants us to be as men and women...
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  836. Hard work might not seem exciting, but the results will be amazing.
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  837. Hello! Love how timely your videos are HAHAHAHA 100/10 relatable!! psych ftw
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  838. Hi Ana. I have ordered your Season of Life journal from Amazon. It's arriving tomorrow. I can't wait to make positive changes, improve areas of my life I need to work on. Thank you for being a bright light and for your community spirit!! 🙏
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  839. Wow, this video really spoke to me. The distinction you made between "nice" and "kind" was great and got me thinking differently about past situations where I got walked all over.
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  840. I kept thinking "Where's this meowing coming from?", I even looked through the window into the darkness until I realized it was coming from Ana's cat... 😅
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  841. 6:00 I always do this! I've also always felt awkward even asking my friends about their relationships because I worry that it's me overstepping and asking too much. Even with my best friend I barely know anything about his relationship with his partner and it's not that I'm not interested but I don't want to come across as nosy or too invasive. Also, I love how much you guys have been incorporating more skits into your videos; it helps give a tangible comparison rather than just explaining. I think the "bad" skit also helps show (though not the original point you were trying to make haha) how you might use those tactics to get OUT of a conversation you don't want to be in. Great video as always Dr. Ana & hope the move has been seamless for you guys! ♡
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  842. Your channel is legit a gift
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  843. I didn't even know an OCPD was an actual diagnosis in the personality disorders! Wow
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  844. Hi Ana, have you ever considered talking about giving people second chances? For example after breaking up with someone. Can people actually change?
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  845. Hey Dr. Ana, a lot of the advice you give and the research paper breakdowns are really valuable for me for understanding my own emotions and how to navigate through it. I really appreciate all the time and effort you give for your videos. I also hate these spam bots and as someone in software development its extremely obvious that these are just propaganda techniques to encourage groupthink. Our social conditioning makes us think "wow this has a lot of upvotes/likes this must be true" as it preconditions us to bias towards agreeing.
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  846. Ana you are so so beautiful, charming and intelligent!! I like the before and after, and this dye job changed your WHOLE vibe. You look kinda dark and witchy. It's definitely gonna go great with darker outfits (The puff sleeve top at the end is perfect!).
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  847. As someone who has mommy and daddy issues I can tell you that both really impacted my life. In fact, it wasnt until I worked heavily on my daddy issues that I noticed how much my mommy issues affected me. Thankful I am armed with CBT and DBT skills from a year and half of group paired with Individual therapy (3 plus years of individual therapy total). Your parents dont have to be physically absent to be emotionally absent. unfortunately there was a time where I was extremely emotionally absent to my children because of my mental health ( severe postpartum depression, major depression, general anxiety disorder, PTSD, and codependency issues). I brought my parental issues into my relationships and I had relationships with people who had parental issues. Horrible toxic combination. it would be easy to put blame on the other people but instead we must take responsibility for those we attract and choose to stay in relationships with. if you live in Washington state and qualify for Apple health you can get top-notch Behavioral Health through the state insurance. Kaiser Permanente has the best behavioral health programs. I have tried numerous before them. I hope that helps anyone who reads this. Just because you're poor doesn't mean you always lack access to Behavioral Health.
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  848. As a Bulgarian woman, I hate those articles. Great video!
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  849. I needed this today, especially for work! I have been feeling very unappreciated and undervalued at work and I'm feeling like resentment is developing... Not just for my employer and coworkers but also for my role within my organization. Thank you for these videos, it really helps with stepping back and getting perceptive.
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  850. As a female feminist, I have to say a video like this is covering a verry important topic for me. I didn't watch the how man can support women video- because I'm female. But this video could improve my everyday relationships, and help me making my social surrounding a more beautiful place. Thankyou Ana And don't be offended. The Internet is a jungle. If people get offended for no reason, it just means you cut an important theme.
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  851. If anyone has seen soul by pixar, I think the best way to move through life is realizing that experiencing every movement of life is the purpose, even all of these purposes for life serve meaning to ourselves and the people around us. Thank you Ana for the video it's so good
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  852. Ok, when you said about making Friends series, I clicked that bell sooo fast
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  853. An idea re household work (in addition to what Ana said, totally agree, wish I could articulate it so brilliantly). So, people, partners, when you divide household work, please make sure you don’t fall into a certain routine for years. Like man pays bills and talks to maintenance and woman buys everything. Make sure you are interchangeable in these things. It is not only practical in case someone goes on a trip or is sick in bed but also imagine something happens and not only you will have to deal with the grief of the situation, you (or your partner) would also need to learn how to fulfill this tasks. It might look romantic in movies, but in reality it is practical to be able to do everything and know everything.
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  854. I’m a teacher and people still think I’m in high school/college too so I can relate! Haha❤ love your videos Ana!!!
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  855. I am so glad I found your channel, love your content!!
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  856. Ana, I just loove your videos! Posting this regularly must be super challenging, but thank you for that! <3
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  857. I’m a dancer studying psychology but I HATE horror movies and I was not anticipating how scary black swan was 😳 but it has amazing commentary on the mental and emotional harm the industry does to dancers. ballet is a stunning art form but extremely toxic in a lot of ways
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  858. Hey! Just want to let you know I love your uploads and really appreciate all the effort you put into educating ppl about psychology. It’s one of my passions and I love the way you talk about it!
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  859. fictional characters are a great way to make examples.
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  860. Cat shows at 2:43
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  861. 💫🦋If you are reading this I hope you know that you are worthy of every single thing you desire and have the capability to receive it whenever you want. You are amazing and wonderful. A gift to the rest of us from the universe all around us.🤗🙏🤗
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  862. This is literally in my watch later list
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  863. You always hear about bunnies doing it... Huh.
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  864. today is my birthday , it being a day after the new year means i dont have to set new goals for both new years and my bday. And i was thinking of improving myself all round and your vid popped up just now , CHEERS TO EVERYONE BETTERING THEMSELVES. we will be victorious. Lets have a great new year 🎉
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  865. Beautiful channel, Ana. I love how down to Earth you are, and how compassionate you are with this topic. There is a lot of grief going around right now. Wonderful video ♥️
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  866. someone with an ed and trying to recover themselves, you explained it so well ❤️ thank you for this video
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  867. the youtube algorithm's getting too specific 😭
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  868. Your videos are always so educational and interesting. I learned a lot about psychology from your channel. Thank you for another great video!
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  869. Basically trick your man with science :))))
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  870. idk if you’re into cartomancy, but I think you’d really like the wild unknown archetypes oracle deck by kim krans even just for studying purposes… it’s really great, and this instantly made me think of the siren card in that deck 😊 very nice
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  871. I love your halloweek videos!
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  872. Nicely done, its great to see psychology applied properly to show that just because someone is a little weird or eccentric that doesnt mean that they are ‘crazy’ or have a personality disorder. Loving your videos Ana, you have a loyal subscriber here!
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  873. Ew it's like reading about a breed of dogs 😳 I'm Polish so pretty close culturally to Romanians and I've experienced these stereotypes myself living in Canada.
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  874. Some other signs I've noticed in my unhealthy social media usage: 1. I may feel good whilst on it but when coming off of it, I feel worse than before I came on. 2. I reach for it instinctively even when I had no intention to. I once genuinely said out loud to myself 'I should stop reaching for my phone' and whilst I said that, my hand reflexively picked up and opened my phone. That's how ingrained it had become.
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  875. No, I do not expect friends to "pick sides" with a friend with whom I am no longer associated. I understand the desire to have others pick a side (as it seems mentally comforting), but the ultimatum to decide violates other people's autonomy. In my perspective, (1) any conflicts between someone is completely between me and them, and no one else (unless circumstances require it so). (2) Forcing another person to pick sides puts them in an uncomfortable decision (as they might be already thinking if they should break up with a friend), therefore making the situation more strained.
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  876. i like when ana gets on savage mode XD she kills ppl w her intelligence
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  877. You appeared on my main page, Ana - I have just realized that acceptance is needed to fix your relation to the present moment. Your story is captivating and I can fully relate to it. I have always been having the feeling of not being enough in the back of my mind. I recently noticed that I proceed to extremes when it comes to eating, working out, socializing, engaging activities and thus ultimately dismiss the present moment. It seems to be a broken way to coping with unpleasant reality in the past. This seems to be stronger than me at the moment, but I believe with time I will be able to handle it. I am really grateful for your video. Keep the quality contact up. Greetings from 🇲🇹
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  878. Honestly, what a mess of an article. 😂 You don't get to just use Eastern, Slavic and European interchangibly. That's not how it works. All of those titles describe a different set of people. And then to call Austrian, Polish and Hungarian women Eastern European? Whooh boy.
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  879. Great video, Ana! Thank you for sharing it with us! :) Can it be that friendships also end because of similar reasons, like people not being emotionally engaged with each other anymore (in case they used to be)? I noticed that what made me withdraw from friendships that used to be meaningful was mostly indifference, rather than different beliefs or interests.
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  880. lmao the toxic gonna be so mad
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  881. Thank you for your insight, Dr. Ana! In an age where misinformation is so accessible, it is important to hold people/their work accountable.
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  882. The cat/dog analogy made me giggle because people in my life have described me as like a cat in the same way as the analogy illustrates.
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  883. Oh btw I'm seeing you post alot! :) I hope you're taking care of yourself and taking a break every now and then
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  884. I loved watching Euphoria, it had such a complex, grounded and realistic storyline that I was invested in it from the jump. As soon as your video came up in my notifications, I knew you'd have an intelligent, awesome take on it. I literally love your videos! Also, the way you shut down the trolls at the beginning of your video... YASSSS QUEEN! 👏👏👏👏👏 😂😂😂
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  885. You’re the best Ana! Thanks for making these videos
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  886. Honestly, Ana, my favorite stuff by you, as a man, I felt were the anti-misogyny stuff, as I highly reject toxic masculinity culture and those, in my opinion, should've gotten you 50K alone lol. They really helped me, especially since I'm ever-learning socially with my Autism. You're my favorite feminist, that I respect and take seriously, as opposed to the violent freak types that give y'all a bad name. Congratulations and keep being awesome. ❤
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  887. Thank you so much for this!! I compare myself a lot and seemingly can’t resist 😅
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  888. Dear Ana, I am romanian but was raised in Germany, listening to you talking to your grandmother in Romanian is so soothing. I think I will come back to this video many times. Your grandmother reminds me of mine! Mulțumesc pentru videoclipul
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  889. A lot of us wish we had this wisdom handed to us, but now we do... Thanks to Ana for sharing her Grandmother with us 🌻
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  890. Perfect video for me today because I applied to a job that's over an hour drive away. I don't like driving and I don't like commuting but the job is so perfect I could not pass up the opportunity to apply. I know I'll make an excellent candidate.
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  891. As someone who has been in therapy, this is hilarious. The evidence based approach one had me cackling. The wigs fit the therapist.
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  892. This came at the right time. Thank you Dr. Ana!
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  893. I'm applying this mindset in my weight loss/exercising journey. Thank you Ana!
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  894. I watch your videos for the informational and timely topics, but I stay for the kitty ❤🐈‍⬛
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  895. Voting for series "advice from my grandma".👏🤗 I loved it so much! Made me feel closer to my own grandmother. She has dementia now, I only wish we had more of these talks. Thank you for sharing this and all your work 💜✨
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  896. I hope you feel better. What an awesome video title though haha
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  897. For me it's definitely the seduction and experience. To imagine someone powerful who craves me so much, and eventually ends up developing some form of attachment is the ultimate romantic love for me. However, it's important to differentiate between reality and fiction. Something like this would only feel good in my thoughts, whereas in reality I'd probably try to run as far from the vampire as possible due to its intense, draining nature. Happy Halloween ana! ✨🧛🏻
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  898. Wow okay this video helped me immensely. So I felt randomly anxious after waking up from a nap and it was a little intense and I couldn't calm my anxiety and right when I open my phone- I see this video - perfect timing. Thank you so much for this ☺️✨
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  899. Great explanation of OCD. Never heard it explained outside of the stereotypical/televised ideation of it.
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  900. Emotional reasoning honestly has controlled every aspect of my life since I was 5 years old or younger. I can easily tell others to exam their emotions but for myself a lot of the time I still think "I feel bad therefore I am bad" etc... If my logically examining the emotion doesn't make the emotion disappear I end up believing the emotion.
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  901. We should all be feminists ✊🏽 Illuminating as always, Ana. Your videos inspire me to speak up and take charge of the relationships in my life. Thank you.
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  902. u guys are so cute <33
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  903. I used to pass out when I had to make public speeches or participate in class. Now I can talk to anyone.
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  904. I'm in college to become a teacher but right now even my family ignore or talk over me so thank you so much for this video
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  905. I am looking forward to this. I imagine this one will be about how we continue to maintain the pleasurable aspects from our childhood into adulthood that represent the deepest aspects of ourselves. Being able to incorporate them with reality helps us maintain a sane mind which otherwise would break us down
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  906. What does assertiveness look like: Confident body language. (check) Expressing your wants, needs boundaries clearly, directly and effectively not aggressively: (sometimes yes and sometimes no, always adapting an predicting possible reactions/outcomes before communicating) I've got a friend who will do 'negs' and will have behaviors trying to 'alpha' me as that was the dynamic growing up but I've changed and it's making him uncomfortable. Even threw a 'neg' he tossed at me 2 years ago and it being why I'm changing. So he changed the subject because he's thinking he'll lose his longtime friend. He's not, he's just losing a dynamic of 'power' he held above his friend. So now I'm competition in his eyes but I don't view the world like that but whatever. LOL Respectful and open to compromising. Boundaries based on values or things important to you: ( Always respectful unless disrespected and then chose to give someone a taste of what they're dishing out but amplified. LOL I'm so bad but good at it LOL. I compromise way more than I should because I don't feel good about it because I yield more than I want to because I can and do. I'm not sure what my boundaries are because they've changed so much over the decades. I'm not static and I see more grey than black and white. I know specifics when discussed in the moment but I don't seem to fall into a typical pattern/norm as I'm taking information in and discarding what doesn't fit at this time. However later on it might click into place from earlier exposure and new information. So I'd say I'm assertive enough and adapt to the situation. My relationships is where I think I could work on it because I'm such a pleaser I've put myself in situations that I wouldn't have because I'm wanting to please the one I'm with. Casual dating I'm more assertive but when it gets 'relationship/bf/gf title I'm putty in her hands so I have to choose wisely. LOL I should just be single and find 'Muse's' LOL =)
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  907. Omg Ana! I laughed so hard at the way you read it and how blatantly stupid the content of this article is! Technically I am from Central Europe because I am from Slovakia but in the Western culture everyone puts us in the same bag. If the guy who had written is from USA I am not surprised that he is generalizing so much. People from larger countries just can't seem to conceive the fact that we are in such small spots so vastly different and therefore more complex. Interestingly enough me growing up in first Czechoslovakia have never felt that I am less than a man. I started to feel that when I moved to USA and then to France and even in Belgium where I currently live. Some people believe that this feeling of being equal to a man is due to communism. I really I am not sure whether that is true or not as I didn't explore it further of to why is that. However because of my Slavic name I did suffer some stigmatisation and to a certain extent I still do. I used to be mad as hell because of lack of knowledge Western Europe and USA has about us. But now I am making more peace with it. Yet, ignorance is still prevalent and it pains me how little people really care to know. On the other hand them not knowing could be perceived as some advantage as well... Anyhow thank you for your sarcasm and subtle sense of humor. I really appreciate it. As there is some light that is being shone on Britney Spears I would appreciate if you could do video on her. She is such a sweetheart having been manipulated by people close to her all her life. I clearly see dynamics from the movie Gaslight where husband makes it look like the wife is crazy. I feel that this is what her father is doing to her and she became that. It is a miracle that she is still alive. An analysis of how she fell the victim along with Janet Jackson to the racist and misogynistic system exploited by reptilian existences such as Justin Timberlake and her father would be greatly appreciated!
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  908. Thank you so much Ana! I wish there was a LOVE button. Oftentimes men seem to think they automatically fall into the "good guy" category but don't actually have to do anything beyond claiming that status to qualify them as better than overt sexists. But if you don't stand for me, you stand against me is how I view it.
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  909. i would also add, that while you can make more money self-employed, you could also earn less, depending on how well the bussiness is going. at a company you are guaranteed a set amount each month which is easier to plan ahead with.
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  910. I’ve never been this early. Definitely a topic I’ve been thinking about. When I hear people talk about things I don’t completely agree with I just let them express it and not judge them. People are going to do what they’re going to do. All I can really control is myself and if someone sees something in me, it’s them allowing themselves to see it without forcing my views. Now I just lead by example of what I believe in.
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  911. Omg! That Denise thing is super interesting.
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  912. Fights, defined strictly, are unacceptable. Totally agree with that. They fundamentally cross the line into disrespect.
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  913. Your videos are always a blessing, I look out for signs of immaturity when dealing with people I know because it gets very draining, though I also recognize some things I do are immature and can improve on!! Happy Monday Ana ❤️
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  914. I love your take on this. Especially because I didn't find anything wrong with Blake and how she's promoting this. I think she's just doing what celebrities do when they have a movie coming up. It could also be a choice to get more people to watch the movie. I don't know her. It just doesn't feel right to villify her for something so small especially if the author herself is cosigning all this.
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  915. Ana I bought your course and I am loving it so far, only on lesson 5 :) Thank you!
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  916. i’m not gonna lie, i read the title n thought this was ab lana del rey n i was like sweetie i loved honeymoon too but were like two eras past it. as iconic as it was, it’s time to let go
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  917. I think romanticizing certain things (definitely not other things like serial killers) for this time of year is the best thing ever! You just have to have a limit to it, even for the positive aspects. As in, don't max out your credit card buying spooky decorations, or don't buy 3 bags of candy for trick or treaters and then eat the bags by October 15th. I recently bought some really cute cheap candles in small tin holders from Target and they were only $3 each. And then I bought a set of 3 old timey looking potion bottles for my bookshelf. I've only spent $25 so far and my husband and I will reuse most of our decorations from the past few years for the outside. I'm obsessed with baby pumpkins and the local pumpkin patch has them for a great price, so I'm thinking spooky savings vibe 🤣
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  918. Yayyyyy desperate housewives, tbh I’m happy with anything that has Gabrielle or Edie in it
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  919. Thank you for sharing your story
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  920. Love the channel Ana. Thanks for recording a video after dark for us! 💓
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  921. You’re one of my favorite YouTubers- hands-down! Your topics are on point and your discussions are so thorough and well thought out. 💖💖💖
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  922. I look forward to your videos every week. Thanks for the content!
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  923. “They might secretly be a lion.” 😂
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  924. I was waiting so much for this topic! Thank you Anna I love your channel!
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  925. It's like this video was made for me unconsciously. I look and sound young :<
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  926. I wish my statistics prof had explained construct validity to us using that telephone metaphor
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  927. Thank you for beating some sense into my head. I have been doing badly with girls I liked in the past so I was slowly starting to believe those gurus online, thought that surely they know something that I don't if it works for them and not for me. I'm quite lost right now, but it's a long story that I doubt anyone wants to read lol.
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  928. I’m a teen with social anxiety and like 2 seconds ago I was in an elevator with a bunch of boys my age . They were nice and we had a brief interaction and then I exited the elevator but still I think I’m having a panic attack over it . This couldn’t have come at a better time
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  929. Dr. Ana, your side profile is so cute! Thanks for the thought provoking video I’m excited to watch 🎉
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  930. I needed this video!! I’m struggling to support a friend who means well, but repeatedly crosses boundaries and needs a lot of support. Hope you have an awesome day Ana ☺️
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  931. Jewish tradition is largely affected by the yearly and monthly cycles. Every new moon we rest and bless the new month, most of our holidays fall on a full moon, and all the holidays occur in the same season of the year. Living in accordance to the cycles of the world really speaks to me😊
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  932. How is the cat so chilled with being manhandled😂😂
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  933. The way they speak gives them off they aren’t a women. When people feel the need to point out like oh, I’m a women, I’m qualified, it makes me think the inverse and you’re pointing it out overtly to cover up the lack of those qualities.
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  934. I was literally looking up the science/efficacy of these lamps and then your video popped up. Congrats on the sponsorship!
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  935. Great video Ana! I am from Serbia, and I will be starting a psychology/psychotherapy channel in the future, you got my full support! <3
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  936. Master manipulator: tries new tactic Me: I'm not interested in your radiator 😳
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  937. People in Paralympics have motoric talent. I thought I could do a major in analytics of congruens in my native language, but I ended up crying in the library instead. .. finally I let go of academics, and turned to what brought me to youtube., creating songs.. I could use what I had learned about poetry during my academic years as well as fellow music students who needed to practice as teachers. Experimenting is necessary, yes.
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  938. I hate to use the t word, but that skit was so realistic, it was kind of triggering! All of it was so familiar. Thank you. You're doing a great service with your channel.
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  939. I have OCPD tendencies and my mom most DEFINITELY does too. Apparently it's common for it to be passed down generation to generation. I didn't realize this until recently when I learned what it was and took a quiz online and I had almost all of the common traits. The thing is, it's one of those things that doesn't impact my life in a negative way anymore. I still try to control things, and find myself cleaning only because it helps me feel less stressed, and have a tight ring on finances, and struggle to get rid of useless damaged items. But I've improved dramatically in so many areas over the years. A huge part of this is my faith since I keep learning to trust in God for the things I need and to trust that He's in control even when I can't control anything. Art has taught me a way to express myself even when I don't feel safe doing so out loud or don't have the words for it. And learning about minimalism (trust me, I am NOT a minimalist) has helped too. I've realized that all the broken, useless, or items I don't use are not needed in my life. Keeping extra garbage around is rooted in a fear that I don't have enough and may not be able to get what I need in the future. Also if it's an item that's useful but will never get used, it's helpful to realize that not everything is about ME. Other people can use this stuff and I'm doing the right thing by giving it away. I'm not perfect but I've discovered helpful habits that have changed my life.
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  940. thank you for sharing this. you have been a role model to me for many years and are part of the reason I am pursuing a doctorate in clinical psychology. I struggled with eating in similar ways and your framing of eating disorders as a refusal to accept reality resonates a lot with me. knowing you dealt with and overcame an ED gives me even more hope for the future. thank you for your vulnerability 😊❤
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  941. OMG ANOTHER GREAT VIDEO, you cannot imagine how much I loved this topic cause it helped me out to understand a bit more about what is being immature ❤️ thank you so much for this one, Ana, have a great day!
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  942. The sad thing is I think a lot of the time people who are emotionally blackmailing people don’t even realize that’s what they’re doing and that it’s wrong.
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  943. Perfect timing 😭👌 definitely needed this so badly ❤️ thank you so much 🙏
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  944. This is just what I needed, it’s been a tough week lol!! Your cat is adorable 🥰
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  945. watches this as i procrastinate from doing my paper
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  946. lol I might not be there for the live but I will assuredly watch In Thailand, when they build a new building, they always build a tiny palace for the fairies it’s adorable
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  947. Girl don’t call me out like this 😩
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  948. my goal is getting my first job after graduating
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  949. What you said about hearing someone move through the world assuming everyone likes them really resonated. When my girlfirend told me for the first time she thinks she's attractive my brain short-circiuted. I didn't even realize that was possible. Thank you for the video!
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  950. The thumbnail is everything!
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  951. I haven't watched this yet but I just happen to be on day 88 of journaling everyday, and it HAS been life changing. I'm doing voice memos instead of writing, but being able to self-reflect every day, and being able to replay those self-reflections, has allowed me to take small but measurable, meaningful steps towards progress. I'd wanted to journal for ages but I could never get into it habitually. For me, switching to speaking instead of writing made it so much easier to keep up with, but I think the benefits that come from self-reflection journaling are tremendous regardless of how you do it.
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  952. You look like a vampire with that makeup!
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  953. This is halloweek, this is halloweek, everybody make a squeek! Looking forward to the videos ^^
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  954. If possible, maybe get an appointment with a therapist to help you?
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  955. As a man I have changed alot but damn is it so hard to speak out especially when im constantly questioning my own ideas and feeling insecure about it, its so difficult, I feel like im speaking against everyone, but its definitely necessary to call men out, its disgusting and sad and I have always thought it was disgusting to talk about women as just sex objects. I need to surround myself with better people. I hate being told I am a simp just bc I disagree and actually see women as people like what a ridiculous assumption.. men are just big babies craving sex lmao I just hope i can make up for what women experience on a day to day when speaking to me, i genuinely care for everyone, makes me so upset
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  956. This came at a great time. I suddenly developed a fear of driving and cannot drive to places too far from home. I have to pick up my boyfriend on the 3rd from the airport, about 40 mins away and its been haunting me. I've gone through so many scenarios. I completely related to not being able to evaluate threats or its severity and focus on the what ifs way too much. So, I'll definitely add this to my reading list as well.
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  957. Hahah. Also, the red hair looks really good on Ana! I know she tried a deeper red a whole back. The red was GREAT tho. 💖💖
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  958. Mondays hit different with an Ana video
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  959. My health improved and anxiety left me when I moved to a Nature Reservation in Elbtalaue/Germany. Am a biologist and gardener.
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  960. Great video! I feel like these are things we should educate people on more often so we can all have happy lasting relationships.
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  961. The cat...
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  962. now this is me being early-early
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  963. Great video! You did a phenomenal job addressing each critic. In my opinion, it stems from envy. We don't have to be rich to maintain a healthy lifestyle within our individual capacity and capability. The trend is inspiring to me as well, and I try to take on the things that can improve my life and leave the rest. We all don't have to be exactly the same but we all learn from each other and motivate each other.
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  964. THE INTROOO, i am screaming. youre just the greatest.
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  965. Great advice! Thanks Ana, I have always struggled with setting boundaries with other people and standing up for myself but the last few years I’ve had to force myself to be more assertive. It is always scary when I have to do it but it’s necessary or I’m sacrificing my needs and F that.
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  966. Hi Ana, great video and information. You mentioned CPTSD vs borderline early on. Certain psychologists/scholars such as Sam Vaknin view CPTSD as the root core of cluster B disorders- all responses to coping with traumatic events.
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  967. I’m leaving a like and a comment so more people might see this video come up on their feed. I’m hoping that any other guys watching will also try to recognize this as a time for listening and honest reflection, instead of a time to get defensive.
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  968. youre the reason im opening YouTube everyday
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  969. Interesting take on how to not speak about your friends's mistake... And just walking away. I get that. The only thing is it's possible that they will repeat the same mistakes, to other people. But yeah as the devil is in the details - I can't say what is right in every situation. Get well soon Ana.👍
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  970. Ana, count yourself lucky. I didn’t learn to speak much German(my ancestral language) until my early 30’s. I would have loved to speak to my grandparents in the language they were probably most comfortable in. Your grandmother sounds like a great lady. Enjoy her company, she won’t be with you forever.
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  971. Hey Anna, I'm glad that I'm early and I hope you notice this. You have helped me a lot lately, I have adhd and bpd and was in a toxic relationship and thanks for helping me out and supporting me more than my family honestly. I really love your contents and you as a person ❤️ please make more videos and never stop being awesome ❤️ LOVE YOUUUUUUUUU ❤️
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  972. i wish my inner critic sounded like Dr Ana
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  973. I’ve struggled with this issue from time to time, it is frustrating!! Thank you for this video 💜💜
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  974.  @AnaPsychology  - I wanna be myself It’s like my personality changes talking to different people and inside I’m so fake and I just wanna go away from them this is for everyone except with my siblings - I want to be nice genuinely I just act nice but I want to truly be nice to people and love them but I don’t I hate being near people they make me uncomfortable
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  975. I commented before when I first found your channel and I wanted to comment again and say nice things but I will say this instead.I find so much value in being able to watch your videos, trust that the information in it is grounded in research/clinical experience and focus on the content. Thank you so much for your work.
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  976. Aight cool so I just gotta bring my nonexistent date to the gym
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  977. Love this video! If you haven't read it already, I recommend "Women, Race, & Class" by Angela Davis as an intersectional, radical feminist piece. The title is pretty self explanatory! It explores the connections between all three subjects and how feminism should include analyses of race and class alongside them to be inclusive and liberatory.
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  978. I would love some healthy attachment videos ~~ I used to be a huuuge gearful avoidant now I still feel like crawling a bit at times byt I have to many supportive reliable, gentle with me people so grateful ❤❤ Love what u do out here, thank u for lighting a flame so we can see your path more clear .
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  979. Ana I swear every video of yours gets better and better. I loved this video, very thoughtful commentary, insightful opinions and examples and it felt like a warm hug and a chat from a friend. hope everything is ok in ur life, so much love
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  980. OMG Ana, you made such an incredible video! I haven't finished it yet but I can see the amount of thought that you put into it. I have a feeling that this one is really going to make me think for a while. Thanks!
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  981. I live for this 😂😊😹 i also love how the cat emojis are in the face section not animals!
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  982. Had no clue you were even working on a book! Congrats, this is so cool
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  983. Dr. Ana, you look so fresh and rejuvenated! Thank you so much for this video. I am currently getting my MSW and am an intern therapist. Crazy times. But I’m trying to adopt this mindset as much as possible. I hope you have an amazing honeymoon!!
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  984. Wow, I've totally been doing this lately. I've noticed that I've been very judgmental the last few months. I haven't really dug into it but I'm pretty sure the things that I'm being judgmental about are things that I'm upset about within myself. Thanks! This was helpful.
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  985. Sending appreciation from 🇵🇭 keep going!
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  986. Its so funny how these types of articles talks like they have some type of products or resort full of women that will serve your needs, omg😂😂😂like how they're so sure that all of that continent women will be committed and polite and treat you the best.. idk who would take these seriously its honestly so sad and desperate and stereotypical..
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  987. Ooo I can’t wait to watch this! Before I do I wanted to say I’ve been loving your new “A Season of Life” journal. Sometimes I call my friends and we share our answers to the nightly questions, and it’s so wholesome. I love hearing about the best parts of their days and appreciating the best parts of my days more <3
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  988. Interesting timing! I've been getting into drawing again and I've applied a lot of knowledge here in this video. I stopped drawing for a few years because I was frustrated and tired of not improving, and I was heavily judging my art. But now I'm picking it up again, and even though I've had moments of frustration, I find myself able to keep going. I did experiment; I watched different people's takes on a similar tutorial and I combined their advice to find a method that works well for me. I think a big thing that helped was that I'm more excited about trying to master the basics rather than being a perfectionist and focusing on the end result. I don't expect my art to be good at the moment; most of my drawings are probably going to look funky, and that's ok. That just means I can make it better. (And it's all the more satisfying when you finally do draw a piece that you're proud of ^^)
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  989. Im proud of you for trying to work through those problems. Many people seem to despise the idea of admitting that they have toxic traits. So keep up with the good work 😊
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  990. Omg I can’t shes too cute yr furry child ❤️❤️
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  991. I dont think I have the energy at the end of the day to read. Im usually mentally burnt. Im gonna try to commit an hr per night to it as an experiment. Thanks again for sharing Ana
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  992. That smol dose of kitty ♥️🐱
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  993. Hahahaha I feel personally attacked by the title of this video 😂
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  994. Such an interesting topic. Hate to say, I 'wish' friends would take my side, but would not put that in a formal ask....
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  995. The concept of a shadow self is intriguing, I’ve never heard of this before!
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  996. I like your hat! It suits you, it's a lovely contrast with your dark hair.
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  997. Ana, great video. I'm 61 and had some sort of anxiety since about age 20. At times I was put on meds, at times I tried various rituals, but always the anxiety would return. I have a high risk/high reward lifestyle and career. but that seems to be my happy place and not the direct cause. Long story short, over the last decade I noticed that the panic attacks and anxiety seemed to be related to my stomach's condition. I would have acute panic attacks if I had to go to the bathroom but couldn't. This created a cycle of worry each time I try and fail. Finally, I decided I had to do something. The answer wasn't another hundred tests and being poked and prodded. The answer, I thought, was to listen more closely to my body. I started looking into what was causing constipation. For example, I wasn't eating well. I wasn't getting enough fresh healthy organic type food. Instead, I was eating a lot of processed food with added sugar. I began experimenting as best I could in a cold turkey approach to changing my diet. This might work for a bit and then fail. However, I did find a common pattern that would almost always result in the anxiety passing (pun intended). Two foods that I really love that seem to provide a good amount of the missing, fiber, or vitamins, or apples and carrots. As soon as I feel any anxiety, or any stomach discomfort, I go eat an apple, or have a carrot. Almost 100% of the time, the feeling of anxiety lessons to the point it's no longer an issue. I have the typical worries, stresses problems that any one can have. But my mode is usually upbeat, optimistic and joyful. With my new medication strategy for panic attacks, I am able to turn around anxiety rather quickly when I need to. This is not instead of exercise, rituals, or some magic pill, it's another tool in my effort to maintain a happy, upbeat state all the time. It seems that doctors don't quickly associate anxiety with stomach distress. I am hoping this may help others.
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  998. hey, could you please make a video on dreams? everything about it! i personally think it's a very interesting concept and something i would like to know more about
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  999. Completely generalizing and not even close to reality.
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  1000. i feel like im stuck between being passive aggressive and assertive. i get scared of how ppl will respond bc ive had ppl negatively respond to when i was speaking up for myself or when i felt uncomfortable. also guys are intimated by how i know what i want bc they’re use to girls being submissive 🤢
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  1001. Finally chose my major, computer science, and its a very mathematical class! Analytical thinking is certainly not my forte, and math was my worst subject in highschool. I do want to learn this more rigorous academia, it just takes more effort from me. Im hoping your input will help with this new period in my life :)
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  1002. also i really like this format of video, i love when u talk about friendships, please make more videos like this if u can, thank u
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  1003. so glad I watched this, all my life, since my early twenties, I always felt more THAN ANYTHING I was with someone with the same values as me. So I was right! ok.. great! I think my current partner is not my best match. (I am widow thats why dating again)
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  1004. I was just thinking how this time of year is either a really happy or sad time depending on the circumstances. V relevant timing ⏱
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  1005. ridiculously useful content, thank you 🙏
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  1006. Ana Psychology it’s completely fine this video was also very informative because I happen to know a lot of heterosexual people.😇😂
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  1007. The play by play was super helpful for seeing all these insights in practice. Thank u Dr. Ana!❤
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  1008. It says the article is the written by a woman, I doubt that....
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  1009. So timely for me right now.. thank you for your great work as always
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  1010. I have social anxiety and it sucks! I always feel like im missing out on life because of my anxiety but this video really gave me a new perspective. I really appreciate your videos, you're my new favourite youtuber 💖💖
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  1011. I think in the case of daddy issues, it's usually coupled with the absent and narcissistic mother. Moreso if the father is absent. Cassie's mother was an alcoholic, played favorites, and saw/did nothing wrong about Cassie's promiscuity (which was obviously driven by her need for intimacy and connection). It is important to reduce father absence, but more often than not I do see many single mothers who fall into this trap of being narcissistic, neglectful, and/or overly lenient.
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  1012. What the...what-I was just wondering about this...
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  1013. I needed to hear this today. I've been feeling guilty about not getting back to a friend, but our conversations stress me out, and I can't handle it right now. I needed the reminder to put my oxygen mask on first. Thank you.
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  1014. Can you make a video on what you said about some problems cannot be solved? It makes a lot of sense that some couples will keep fighting about the same thing and it really doesn’t have a solution. Moving on from that issue sometimes really seems like all you can do sometimes.
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  1015. The boyfriend moment 🥺🥺
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  1016. I have so much ore respect for you after this video. I am Bosnian and I put so much time and effort into my eyeliner, and I appreciate your thoughts on how we change our approach towards others in regards to our appearance efforts. I look forward to more of your videos in the future!-Anna '
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  1017. My therapist once said "How narcissistic can someone be?" after reading 15-20 long emails/letters my father has sent to me and my sister (one was addressed to our family therapist way back when) over a period of more than 10 years. I didn't expect a label at all but it honestly felt very relieving. Because I want to be a therapist myself one day I confronted him with the label and we had a very interesting discussion about it. For sure it wasn't meant as a diagnosis but after 20+ years of experience in the field he has seen so many signs that he felt comfortable with using the label after reading his monologs for hours. I can relate to it, however I'm still not a fan of any label because of individual differences. Things are way too complex to simply them as it happens with "the narcissists", "the borderlines" etc.
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  1018. I’m so glad you brought up the fact that Dracula is extremely problematic and xenophobic against us and especially against Roma people. Sad that almost nobody acknowledges this except for us Romanians & Romani people. Xenophobia against Eastern Europe has always been a thing in the West :/
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  1019. This video definitely make me want to read the book 😅
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  1020. I loving these "Desperate Housewives" series videos. Have you thought of doing a video on Mary Alice Young? Mary Alice Young was the most mysterious character on the show that started the domino effect of her friends lives unraveling.
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  1021. Great topic, made me appreciate my parents even more. They never went through my drawers and they respect me as a woman and a mom, they hardly ever give advice or comments unless requested for the most part.
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  1022. I also thought that the scene with Nina running away from Beth, was to kind of show that she needs to be her own person. Because even the ones that she has admired are not perfect.
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  1023. No one that isn't qualified should diagnose anything or anyone. Self diagnosis can be dangerous and is not rightful
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  1024. I always thought Denise was an excuse phoebe came up with to avoid guests :3
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  1025. You two are so sweet - very happy for you 😊
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  1026. YESS I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS 💗💗💗
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  1027. Thank you so much for this video. My last relationship ended three months ago and I am trying to reflect on what I could have changed about my behaviour and this video made me realize that I am afraid of conflict. I didn't have good communication with my ex because whenever I would bring up an issue with her she would get defensive, which in turn would make me even more scared to bring up conflict as she would never take responsibility for anything. But you opened my eyes to the fact that I do not want people in my life who are not respectful of me sharing my boundaries and my feelings. This video even makes me think about if I should go back to therapy. The more I think about this topic the more I realize that even in my friendships I can be like a doormat. I always thought that it meant that I simply was someone who didn't hold grudges, but instead I just let people push my boundaries and then I take all the blame for being hurt. Being assertive and angry is not the same thing as being resentful. I think I need to work on this before I get into my next relationship and I need to start doing that in my friendships.
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  1028. you’re so right about cats 😂
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  1029. When I was told I was going to meet someone who would change my entire perspective for the better I was in disbelief... then I found your chanel. Ana, you have saved parts of me I thought I'd never be able to reconcile. Thank you from the bottom of my heart (I still have one)
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  1030. 10:03 for a microsecond I thought you were about to plug Factor and I was about to throw my phone across my cubicle 😂
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  1031. Now thats a look...so pretty❤🥺
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  1032. I must say that I’m very impressed with all the work and thought put into the content of this video ❤ i am almost 52 years old and it has taken me an entire lifetime of healing and hard work and a wide variety of therapy to learn this information for myself! ❤amazing 😌 i think i just might have to purchase your latest journal for sure now 😉👌
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  1033. I love this topic. I would love to see more videos on the way the internet is manipulating us.
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  1034. is the septum new? looks good on you! :)) keep up the good work Ana!
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  1035. Nice topic and advice, I will share it with my BF although he is very good at supporting women. I found interesting the anecdote from one of your classmates saying that "Men are more visual" when you say that has been debunked by science. I would love to see a video debunking some popular assumptions that are taken as scientific facts, especially those related to gender differences (I haven't seen you uploading one of those). And off-topic, cool septum!
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  1036. A fost o plăcere să te aud vorbind în română:) Bunica ta e o femeie înțeleaptă și tare plăcută, avem ce învăța de la ea!💓
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  1037. Oooo I really liked this deconstruction of interpersonal relationships :D I think if you respect someone, your relationship will be a negotiation of expectations & actions. We're social creatures & the choices our groups make have downstream & immediate impacts on our lives. People spend their whole lives training their heuristics & challenging the way they see the world may be the stressor that exceeds their capacity to cope. It's not surprising the messenger gets bit when the information conveyed throws the receiver into fight/flight/freeze. Our capacity to simulate & relate abstract categories can be a blessing & a curse, & everyone has a unique experience of this universe. There's a diversity of anatomy & socialization out there & I appreciate you sharing your perspective on living, typically what's shown through diligent inspection & discussion to be, a healthy adaptive life, Ana! Congratulations on completing your program & recovering! Excited to see what you have to share next :]
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  1038. Great analysis, thank you.
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  1039. I feel that I can be so avoidant that I ultimately become compulsive especially when it comes to food/calorie counting. Thank you for a deeper explanation of this Ana :)
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  1040. Thank you! My 5 year old daughter thinks you’re so beautiful 🤗
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  1041. LMAOOOO I VALUE MY MENTAL HEALTH I LUV THAT
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  1042. Can't wait for part 2! This was a fun video to watch.
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  1043. I'm happily in a relationship but let's hear how well the algorithm is working today. Edit 10 minutes later: Yeah, this is making me certain of my fiance and I being in a stable place. However, I've been in an unhealthy situation before and something like this could have been useful.
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  1044. This was so sweet. I really liked the part about never forcing the other to do something they don't want to. Because if the union(regardless of it being romantic/sexual/platonic or something else entirely) is indeed loving and reciprocal then force, guilt, obligation are unnecessary. This reminds me of a favorite quote of mine. "The future is necessary, once I'm done all I want is for them to live their lives how they see fit" PS I am now going to do some research on the Romanian language, some of the words occasionally sounded like Español. Perhaps it is a coincidence, or a result of the fact that I listen to all videos at double speed. Regardless I'm curious about this.
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  1045. Your video ms are SO helpful, even for this 58 year old Gen X-er. Thanks for your hard work!! 🙏🏻
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  1046. That's such a nuanced topic and I really like your coverage and discussion of these kinds of issues. I've personally been in a tough ("best") friendship breakup situation myself since last September and haven't even found myself considering asking or demanding our friend group to pick a "side". But I also think that in some constellations, things can reach a point where absolute neutraliy turns into enablement of toxic behavior in favor of the "aggressor" and to the clear detriment of the other party. It's the threshold where non-intervention starts to feel like you're letting one friend down by letting them be treated that way. I think that mostly applies when one friend really does the other one dirty, and everyone in the social circle avoiding the reality of it is likely going to push the other one away because you cannot feel respected in an environment that won't even acknowledge your reality. But yeah, in contrast to those nuanced situations, I can also see how in many situations (the majority of them) not becoming a party to the conflict is preferable... Just as there are some cases, where you really gotta step in the mud (i.e. abusive, violent or clearly harmful behavior that you should not stand idly by when you see it happen to a friend). I don't think it's healthy actually forcing people into taking those measures against their will, though, as that, to me, is a violation of their boundaries and doesn't really seem respectful at all.
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  1047. I needed this!
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  1048. This video is so interesting, I love Carl Jung but never read about his personal mystical experiences.
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  1049. It's sad how we can never escape grief.
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  1050. Lovely to see you two together ☺️
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  1051. hoping not being a liberal doesn’t = being conservative i hope not being a liberal means your politics have progressed into something more meaningful and not shallow as the liberal/neo liberal ideology
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  1052. It's good to speak up on something so scary. Bots were also a huge factor in the hate campaign against Amber Heard. I really hope for the sake of not just your safety but the safety of all Romanians that Russia doesn't try to worse to your country like it has to Ukraine. <3
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  1053. Love this! And the intro was so cool! I guess it was filmed in the Pacific northwest? Beautiful beyond words, I miss those ancient coastal forests and crisp ocean air. 🧜‍♀️🧜‍♀️🌊🌲🌲
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  1054. As an Eastern European myself, I’m looking forward to this video!! Happy Monday Ana ❤️
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  1055. love u ana!!! could you please consider making a video abt survivor guilt and coping with it?
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  1056. Wow...I never watched the movie but there are so many parallels between me and Nina. I grew up in a toxic school environment was raised by overprotective parents who value academic success above anything else, who struggled with their own mental health issues and being a sensitive child who wouldn’t let anyone know about how it affected me I now deal with anorexia, obsessive scalp picking and other compulsive behaviorist, depression and perfectionism. Thankfully I now have the help that I need and I hope that everyone with whom what Ana said resonates does as well❤️
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  1057. You hit the spot. No one took care of me.
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  1058. I mean You can run into a client at the grocery store in your granny robe hair all over your head outside getting your newspaper. I mean you're human.
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  1059. I relate alot to this. I genuinely feel like sometimes when I put myself out there and experience an uncomfortable response and reaction and I fly into rumination. I'm so happy for you and proud of you <3 truly, as a fellow anxious person, I see you. You're inspiring many people here.
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  1060. Your dissertation sounds interesting!
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  1061. Mann this was a fun video, what an important topic. I'm always looking for how I can show up in my friendships in a way that honors both my energy and theirs, so your breakdown of appropriate sacrifices and generosity was so valuable for me. And reaction videos like this are just so fun anyway. Thank you for this!
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  1062. Such great information. Thank you for backing your statements with science and also sharing the articles with us! It doesn’t get any better than this ♥️
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  1063. Love the detail with your book peeking in the background!
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  1064. Thank you Ana for another thoughtful and helpful video. This is outstanding and I'm so incredibly proud of you. I appreciate your time and energy.
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  1065. This is definitely something that keeps popping up in my life. Figuring out the point at which you becoming an enabler versus someone that is supportive and loyal and reliable.
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  1066. Hi Ana! I love the fact you update your old videos and always trying to improve. In an age of "psychology" tiktoks that last 5 seconds and toxic positivity memes, it is refreshing to see the community you created over here. It is ok to make mistakes and it is so nice that nuances are highlighted on this channel. That really shows your academic and scientific mindset. Keep up with the good work! I've been following you in a year and I'll keep doing so
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  1067. Sisterhood, Romanian culture, feminine archetypes, witchcraft, processing emotional abuse … this is all perfectly synchronistic for my life right now🖤 My romanian grandmother passed before I was born and I’ve had this deep desire to connect with her in some way my whole life- I’m named after her, Ana, and we share the same artistic passions, so all that to say- I feel very connected with her and feel like I’ll uncover bits of myself in this novel 🖤 I’m excited to see how this book will help me understand my romanian ancestry!
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  1068. can you make a video discussing ADHD/ADD in men vs. women, that would be very interesting to watch
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  1069. My mother had a narcissistic father and he always favoured my uncle, because he thought that women were inferior.
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  1070. Hi! Lovely Video! My fam is totally enmeshed and I’m the youngest, 39 now and still living under the effects of it. To say it short: I never got roots, my needs were and are still not considered, I’m anxious (very sweaty hands!) and l totally didn’t got wings later on. I’m a lifetime recovering people pleaser, co-dependent, self-parenting individual. I know also that my extreme introversion comes from that (I hide in myself if that makes sense or I kidnap myself before others do) I also had a distorted view of how the world works... I cry thinking there are homes out there where people knock and leave your diary alone. I had to hide everything. Even my passions. They would have decided, as a group, that I wasn’t allowed to have that passion... god knows why! I don’t have kids because I’m too afraid to play all this out again subconsciously... definitely a negative and contracted experience.
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  1071. Congratulations on defending your PhD project proposal!
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  1072. It’s perfectly fine that you would prefer to be with a conservative woman but it’s problematic that you consider women who have multiple sexual partners as “throwing herself everywhere”
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  1073. I visited Iceland this year and was astonished by how similar their Hidden Folk faeries are to our Aos Sídhe here in Ireland. One of the most striking aspects being that both Ireland and Iceland have diverted new major roads from the original plans, in order to avoid impacting the faeries. In Iceland, it was a rock said to be the home of some of the Hidden Folk. In Ireland, it was to avoid cutting down a hawthorn faerie tree. Because both Ireland and Iceland know that just because they're a legend doesn't mean they aren't real - and for both of us, you absolutely do not want to anger the faeries. You'll find hawthorn trees all over Ireland, often in the middle of farmers' fields, where they'll be untouched and worked around. I'm sure there's some in both countries who will just dismiss and rubbish the legends, but you'll also find plenty who, like me, will swear they're real. What I find really fascinating though is that many of the people who will swear that really don't actually believe it, not really. But they'll never admit that they don't believe, they'll still swear it's all real. Kind of like Santa, except you never grow out of it. I'm not sure if that's because there's a tiny voice saying "but if they are real, even if it's just the tiniest chance, it's not worth taking that chance, because you really don't want to anger them". Or maybe just because it's more interesting to know something isn't real but still choose to believe in it anyway - again maybe somewhat like teaching kids about Santa, because it makes things more magical.
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  1074. The introvert validation video to end all introvert validation videos! 🙌
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  1075. Feel better soon 💛💛 we appreciate you for getting a video to us even though you’re ill
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  1076. As someone who was professionally diagnosed with D.I.D., your assessment of it is remarkably on point! I would like to add that alters being "personas" or "personalities" is (at least in the cases of systems like mine) true in the same sense that you for example are a "personality" aka an individual person of your own. Though I will admit, that part can be a gray area when it comes to talking about systems in general. Still, you didn't say anything inaccurate, though this is just from my perspective and I can't speak for everyone of course. But you stated as well that neither do you so this is very clarifying! We definitely need more of this positive truthful representation and explanation in media. Thank you so much!
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  1077. I love when your kitty says hello in the videos 🥺😭 so flippin cute. happy new years, Ana!!
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  1078. I love how eloquently you address important topics! 👏
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  1079. really happy to have found your content, as someone who's been struggling to enter in a new relationship (had bad ones in the past) your videos are making me better understand a lot of things that may help me in the future. Thanks a lot!
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  1080. Im romanian too and i relate to you so much. Romanian people are really outgoing and loud and I'm not like that, I'm more introverted. Also stereotyping people like that is so gross, everyone is different and you can't generalize like that
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  1081. Thank you so much for this video, Ana, it's come at such a good time for me. I'm 17, just out of high school, and I'm dealing with all these difficult questions at once. I've been thinking about my career options for a few years now. It's not a short, one-size-fits-all answer. But it's reassuring to know that I'm on the right track. I've received a few rejection letters so far, but I remain optimistic. (Thanks again for all the videos. And I apologise for any spelling mistakes, English is not my first language)
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  1082. Ana, first and foremost- Congratulations on your educational accomplishments! I've been following you since the summer of 2020. I love this video so much and plan to live it up this year just for fun! 💋
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  1083. This was so informative and helpful! I was really needing this video rn. Even though I knew a few of these things sometimes I have to remind myself over and over because it's so easy to forget them (specially when I need it). ;-; And I'm definitely going to try the other things I haven't tried yet/didn't know about. Thanks again ❤️ ps: excited for your halloweek videos 🎃🖤
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  1084. Hi Dr Ana 👋 Thank you for this video 😊 It will help to expand my knowledge and experience when establishing and maintaining the right friends as I am in my mid 20s. One reality of friendship is we will not be able to maintain every friendship we meet and people come and go as well. Btw, looking forward to your Halloween video for the month of Oct 🎃
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  1085. This is how I feel is at the center of a lot of issues that I have experienced and witnessed within the past decade. Dehumanization is a tactic so commonly used whenever times become so desperate that it sickens me. Where is the empathy is all that I ask of people to do to build a better world. The "Us" vs "Them" mentality is way too common in many communities than most would like to think and it is an idea we need to dispel. I've recently joined motorcycling as a passion and it can sometimes have a strong divide between car drivers and motorcyclists. The same can happen for video gaming where there are casual gamers versus hardcore gamers. Even your diet can also determine the level of animosity towards one another such as vegans and non-vegans. There is also differences between neurotypical and neurodivergent people. At the heart of all those issues, we are all in the end still people who live on this little blue ball. Is it really worth holding onto all of this negativity towards one another? Life is such a struggle as it is. Therefore, we are all struggling and I just wished everyone recognized that as a part of each and every one of us.
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  1086. i really like and appreciate how you give examples for everything you talk about and don’t assume anything is common knowledge💗love your vids
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  1087. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and research with them! I’m a sociology graduate and I loved researching into this during my sex and society class. Everything you shared resonates and is just as fascinating!
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  1088. This is very helpful to me at the moment. I'm doing +60 hrs/week, night shift at a winery for my first time and it's way harder than I'd imagined. But this has been my dream since 18 and I've studied 4 years at university to be here. I think I could learn to allocate time better but I definitely try to reflect on the gratitude I have for being where I am. It helps a lot, and I intend to apply your other lessons here. Thank you for your work and all the best for you and your family these next few months!
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  1089. congratulations, you are the reason why i want to minor in psychology! 🙏🏼💕💕💕💕
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  1090. I'm so glad you are able to share this!!
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  1091. I don’t have social media but have learned I have a pretty unhealthy relationship with my iPhone. Nice intro Ana. Thanks for the video.
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  1092. I’ve had one experience with shrooms/psilocybin many years ago and, while I still had a long was to go, it completely changed the way I see myself and my self esteem. I feel like it connected me back to how I was as a kid, aware that I’m seen as weird but content in what makes me happy regardless. I’ve been struggling with that again since my childhood cat died 5 years ago. I’d love to have access to actual therapy including it and seeing what might be different.
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  1093. I'm applying for a scholarship in Romania🥰 If I get accepted, I'll think about you every day I spend there
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  1094. This video actually helped me with a new perspective, I've had really hard time getting over my ex. I've wanted him back and waited for him even tho he literally mentally drained me. But this video helped me
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  1095. I enjoyed the video, even though it felt more like you were describing certain paths more than others. My personal path is about becoming more in tune with the cyclical nature of life. I also ritualize intention setting and use tarot cards as a way to clarify my thoughts. This is my witchcraft practice but not my religion, my religion falls under the Christian umbrella.
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  1096. You and your familiar (your kitty) are very gorgeous btw !! ♥
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  1097. I guessed 12, was surprised at 5! Interesting video. I've been ghosted so many times online and I am getting a bit bothered by how long this search is taking for friends. Well, hopefully this video aids my journey once I land a buddy. Thanks for posting. I am a big fan of your content and you are definitely a model for my goal to achieve a high education and be well articulated.
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  1098. Make the bed every morning? The dogs will never stand for it, they need their beauty sleep
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  1099. It’s SO weird, you always cover specific topics right when I’m wondering about them. Thanks!
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  1100. YAY I'm super early! Love your videos Dr. Ana.
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  1101. I wasn't offended by your how to support women video at all. But I do also think it's good that you made this video. It just doesn't seem to be important to some people, and thank you for this video...
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  1102. Started journaling this week and it's been so fun so thank you for opening my mind to journaling. This video was very helpful in giving me some writing prompts also that letter idea is crazy cool which I am now going to do. Keep up the videos and happy holidays everyone!!!!!!!!
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  1103. I feel like practicing gratitude leads to wanting to make better nutritional decisions because after expressing how much we appreciate a great life, our bodies subconsciously want to make that feeling/experience continue by making healthier choices when it comes to intake. A love for what we are grateful for is triggered, therefore in response our minds/bodies want to protect it.
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  1104. I would suggest patience. Creating videos is a lot of work and time consuming. I am sure she is getting to it, it might just be a more involved, research heavy video where this one is relatively easy to produce because its more of an opinion based on knowledge she already has
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  1105. Beautifully said Ana. This is exactly what I was looking for. I’m going to write down some judgements I’ve had of others and explore why those judgements affect me so much
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  1106. I am so excited for your novel!!! I am also fascinated by witchcraft and magic and it’s place in the modern world, so I am thrilled to see your perspective/take. Also, it’s cool to hear you mention shadow work and Jungian psychology.
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  1107. A dissertation is such an undertaking. Thank you for sharing your findings with us. Your graphics for sub-sections were very helpful visually.
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  1108. I love your channel so much! Such valuable information you're putting out into the world & the fact you also do fundraisers with your platform instead of pushing products etc says a lot about why you do this! Thank you for all your work :)
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  1109. I’ve seen this occasionally in a Discord server I’m part of, and it really bothers me sometimes. Hope you’re doing well Ana ☺️
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  1110. omg I love Amira!! Her laugh is so contagious! And I love the contrast of your perspectives/attitudes together :)
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  1111. It's interesting that the types of people prone to belief in conspiracy theories are the ones experiencing the most internal turmoil and chaos, e.g. schizoid and paranoid types. It would appear that it's a sort of projecting of the inner experience onto the external world. Also I have seen friends of mine who have been betrayed in interpersonal relationships be more prone to conspiratorial thinking because their experience of others has been undermined to some degree. All that said, I tend to keep an open mind to conspiracy theories, because you frankly never know. The more conspiratorial thinking is shamed in our society, the more vigilant I feel I must be to its possibility. When looking at a conspiracy, one could ask: would these people stand to benefit from a conspiracy to a degree that is worth the risk? And does their moral character lack enough in integrity that they would pursue such a plot? I think both of those points are tough to evaluate, and some may jump to conclusions one way or the other.
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  1112. congratz on 500k!
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  1113. second! love your stuff. youre a lovely person helping remind me that maybe i'm a little better than I give myself credit for sometimes
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  1114. Ana you are intuitive beyond measure. The person that is blessed to find you as a partner, will realize immediately they have found a diamond in the rough. #HighVibrationalWomen
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  1115. 9:27 i like how you’ve been sneaking in little funny bits into your videos lately 🤠
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  1116. I’ve been loving your videos! I really enjoy learning about psychology and you explain things really well. Keep up the good work💗
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  1117. I love getting to know more about you. Love these types of videos because I’m only 18 and I want to learn things through others if I can
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  1118. The skit at the end was so cute! Love it
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  1119. this looooook oh my ^__^
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  1120. Dear Jude, I would love to see you posting about your work as therapist more, this mens- supportgroup work sounds beautiful
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  1121. Wow, I have so many thoughts. As usual Ana, your content is very challenging, thought provoking, and valuable! I’m immediately reminded of Dr. Ramani’s YouTube channel, where I recall in a video she encourages the viewer to “call a spade a spade” with narcissism, and I don’t want to misrepresent her goals here but I believe she is coming from a place of wanting to make a conversation about narcissistic abuse less taboo in our communities, so we can hold people accountable and combat the rise in narcissism that we are seeing. I completely agree with that sentiment, but I also agree with everything you are saying here about the dangers behind this. My personal approach is to point out patterns of behavior - And be open about them when I see them - with members of my community and with the individuals themselves. I think a big reason why so many people throw around the word “narcissism” nowadays is because we collectively have more access to mental health education, and overall this is a good thing. But this education needs to be a tool to help build our communities, not something to tear people down. I would really love a follow up video expanding on the ending of this one, covering your recommendations for how to confront patterns of narcissistic abuse in your community in a healthy way. For a personal example, I met a new group of friends a few months ago and got along well with everyone, until one person was “toxic by my standards” (to use lingo from your video) and attacked me verbally. What’s the healthiest way to communicate what happened to the rest of the group? Thanks again for these videos!
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  1122. I really really love the dark greetings... the deco, the music, your creativity.. good job Ana and thanks for treating us this week with these interesting topics.
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  1123. Thank you so much for leaving time stamps and references!
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  1124. Disturbing misogyny at its best ugh
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  1125. One of your best videos ever in terms of practical takeaways! Thank you so much for this, Ana! 🙌
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  1126. You are a goddess of wisdom. I wish I had you in my life as a companion earlier on. Went through a cataclysmic rift from my significant other during covid, and I haven't been the same. We were in a LDR for 7 years, and I lost myself. Been seeing therapy, and I wish you were my therapist earlier. Keep doing what you do Ana. You're awesome.
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  1127. I seems to me the way they approached these studies was kind of blind. they should've separated the people who were drawn to false conspiracy theories to those who were drawn to real ones (stuff like MKULTRA and those reported by Snowden and Assange). Im betting there are some really smart people capable of good logical reasoning that wouldn't see false patterns more than the rest of society but are still distrustful of authority and score high on narcissism.
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  1128. I love this topic and love that you addressed the role of diet on a persons mental health!
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  1129. „Laugh about your worry“ reminds me of that Harry Potter scene, where they transformed their fears into something funny 😂 great video, like always 💜
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  1130. The intro was so adorable :)
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  1131. I think we could all use a mental health reset after this year 😅
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  1132. thank you for being sensitive to the latinx community while relaying this information
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  1133. There were some interesting points here, historically and religiously, that I had never thought about, but are quite interesting! (I have little to no knowledge of psychology, so all points directly about that were of course also new). Also had me thinking: I once heard that this whole "all good" and "all bad" is not as much a thing in parts of Asia. At least not in their stories. A lot of western stories have had the tradition of the paragon of evil vs the paragon of good, where the good triumphs. In Asian stories, there's a bigger trend towards the hero being a balance of good and evil. The paragons may still exist, but they will somehow inevitably fail against the ones who can embody both. I, unfortunately, do not have a source for this, so if anyone can prove me wrong or right, you are more than welcome to. And, to answer the question at the end of your video, I do not believe in literal demons.
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  1134. Resolutions/Goals for 2024: 1. Achieve a minimum 85% GPA and keep my place on the Dean's List 2. Obtain at least one promotion in Jiu Jitsu 3. Place in the top 3 in my local singing contest 4. Be able to maintain consistent 2-hour workout sessions per day 5. Keep strict track of my diet 6. Wean myself off YouTube and other addictive media platforms 7. Be more open to new friendships and talking to new people. Good luck to everyone else and wish me luck!
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  1135. dunno, it's pretty atmospheric
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  1136. why is your make up so perfect? You nail it down keeping it really natural looking but at the same time it's clearly visible. I love it so much. my gf does it up the same way but that little glitter was really lovely! I might have to mention this to her lol
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  1137. One of my favorite shows and characters! Yeah his character development was awesome but you are spot on with this analysis. This sounds like Michael Scott to a tee. Nice video : )
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  1138. I this year I decided to use quarterly goals as opposed to yearly goals. This video was very helpful in helping me structure how I use this new system.
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  1139. I really like the part about the referral list, haven’t thought about that before! I love how helping people also helps you out
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  1140. I really appreciate your take on this. My wife and I are talking about it and im still quite conflicted. One of my problems is “natural consequences”. In my experience natural consequences are a lot more harsh than imposed consequences by parents ( I’m referring to generalized good parents). For instance being abruptly pulled off a ladder and scolded hurts a lot less than falling off a ladder. You had said that the natural consequence of hitting someone is merely that they get upset. In my experience it gets me hit a lot more and harder. I think that’s one thing that makes gentle parenting as a whole look bad to me. Still don’t wanna throw the baby out with the bath water though!
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  1141. I was feeling a bit down about my goals, and this video really helped get me back up! I think a big component for me is changing the way I view work. Thanks Ana! 😊
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  1142. This video was incredibly motivating. When I first saw it, I was kinda scared to watch it but I finally brought myself to do it. I have to admit, it kinda stung a little bit, I was always labelled as " the gifted kid" and never had to really work until high school where everyone had and still have very high expectations for, that I feel that I can't attain because I'm just used to giving the bare minimum and unable to focus. And even when I give it all, I dont get the results because I do it in such an unhealthy way. Somehow this year, I managed to kinda get my shit together but by the end of May I started over working myself, and i was so burned out when summer vacation came that i didn't really do any of the things I wanted to do. I stopped working out, came back to my unhealthy eating habits and didn't study at all, isolated myself from friends and started falling into a vegetative state where I didn't even get out of bed and started having dark thoughts again. I decided to get back at work in August, which was sort of the case, for four days, until the explosion in Lebanon happened, in my city, the shock destroyed any progress I had made. However, this video is a strong reminder that I cannot keep doing this to myself and that I deserve more. Honestly i cannot thank you enough for this.
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  1143. Can you drop the skincare routine tho?
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  1144. Hi! Could you make a video on finding purpose/ meaning in life, about finding the will to want things, to want to be happy, to want to live? I know it's not very specific, but I feel like it would be helpful for many people out there.
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  1145. Hi Ana. I noticed you said you like Evy Poumpouras. She is awesome. Timothy Ballard is another awesome person who has rescued children and woman from human trafficking. Thank you for your great insights on relationships. Keep safe God bless.
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  1146. Grateful for your videos Ana! Happy holidays everyone!
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  1147. your kitten is so adorable, and so are you! your videos are very interesting, keep up the good work! <3
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  1148. For me, when I was out in nature, I felt like I was in no danger because I wasn't being a danger to the animals in nature. I felt a sense of safety that I didn't around other people. I am a victim of abuse as a child so that sense of safety was new for me and so rejuvenating.
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  1149. I do feel bad after trying to be assertive :/ so I really hope this will help me. Thanks for this video 💜
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  1150. HAVE GREAT DAYS 🍁 ✨️ 🍁
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  1151. We love you!! I'm from Romania too (Cluj, to be specific) and I love your channel 💖🇷🇴
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  1152. I’m interested in the passive aggressive personality disorder video. I feel like many people could be passive aggressive and want to learn more about it.
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  1153. my father killed himself when i was three and now at 17 im still grieveing :/ not sure if it'll stop, since the way and time it happened just kind of froze time for me
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  1154. Whoa, this has just helped me realized soooo much that I've been trying to understand about myself. Thanks for this video!!
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  1155. Why does it have to be so black and white? Nuance that doesn’t strictly follow the narrow views of the two party system is allowed to exist.
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  1156. Your videos are so helpful, i was literally just thinking about this🥺🥺
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  1157. As someone who suffers from seasonal depression, I really appreciate this video!! Hope you have an amazing rest of your week Ana ☺️
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  1158. I seems that many allow others to dictate their actions, follow your heart everyone! Make good friends <3
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  1159. I love these informal type of videos, it's just very refreshing to see a more candid side of you ❤️ hope you'll make more of these. Alsoo the Salem trip sounds so exciting!
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  1160. This is absolutely brilliant. I love content like this. 👌🏻👌🏻
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  1161. Dr Ana your authenticity inspires me everyday!! I know exactly what you mean about finding your effortless equilibrium. I’ve been recovered from my ED for about 4 years, and I’m a healthy weight without exerting any control over my body cues besides occasional, minor corrections. I have so much energy, I’m not obsessed with food, and like you said you really crave nutritious foods when you get out of the binge-restrict cycle ❤️❤️❤️
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  1162. Girl you are going places. I love your videos and I wish you much abundance in the new year. You deserve it!
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  1163. This topic is so attractive to me so I ordered your book knowing you're really one of a kind phycologist and your passion always shows up with an extra glimpse of fascinating topics. I'm italian so I'm also excited to read my first proper book in english, your choice of words is always so straight to the point that it will surely be a pleasure to read. I've never commented on your videos but I never miss one of them. Keep up the great work and congratulations ❤
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  1164. My ideal partner is funny and fun to be around and they are someone I feel comfortable opening up to who reassures and cheers me on without judgement. (Let's see how close I am to what the research found lol)
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  1165. Congratulations on your pregnancy! So exciting ❤ hope it's all going well so far xx
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  1166. original comment wasn't super relevant, but im currently estranged from my dad and am repairing my relationship with my mom. the videos you make on these topics are super helpful.
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  1167. for any male in the United Kingdom seeking group therapy there's a group called Andy's mans club and is all over the UK and they are 100% confidential about what is said in the facility.
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  1168. Interesting topic!! I feel like as someone who grew up in a bi-cultural family my parents engaged in both behaviors (although they lean more towards enmeshed). When I lived in Southeast Asia it didn’t appear to be maladaptive, but as I grew up and lived in the West things have changed
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  1169. Thanks for the video Ana! It made me introspect and think in the meaning I give to my life right now and the whys... Here I leave some timestamps of the video if anyone wants to rewatch: Meanings of life that involve experiencing something: 4:31 - Mindfulness 5:17 - Beauty/Aesthetics 6:36 - Novelty 7:07 - Pleasure 7:52 - Relaxation/Rest 9:48 - Love/Connection Meanings of life that involve creating something: 10:32 - Creativity/Art 11:33 - Achievement/Success Meanings of life that involve overcoming hardship: 12:24 - Achievement/Success (having a growth mindset) 13:14 - Resilience/Stoicism/Radical Acceptance Meanings of life that may be unhealthy and harmful: 14:22 - External Validation/Approval 14:48 - Hoarding wealth/Anything related to reaching an arbitrary number-based goal 15:20 - Manipulating others /Trying to gain power over them
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  1170. Loving the holiday look, Ana! 💗 Happy holidays everyone 🤗
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  1171. Thank you, Ana! I've recently discovered I have BPD and it's been difficult not to label myself all the time, and to add the diagnosis to my actions, instead of focus on the action itself and therefore on the solution. Your videos have been very helpful!
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  1172. Hi Ana, something thing I really about your channel is that it's not reactive, but genuinely brings value through insight, advice, and support. This is pretty rare in today's Youtube landscape, including among other psychological experts. Great work and keep it up!
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  1173. It's like exciting to see, and be like what is she going to wear next video
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  1174. This is the info I wish I had before the first time I started therapy! Would’ve been super helpful
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  1175. when I was younger I thought astrology was just a game to pass time that had nothing to do with reality. But when I looked at my entire birth chart there were many things that played to me and there were lots of them and they were quite detailed something that would be difficult to accomplish if it was just random. Now of course most people would say that they apply to everyone and that we are all kind of alike but in my opinion we are all relatively unique even if we do have certain similarities. and both my western and my Vedic chart did describe me pretty well. Even though they have different sun signs applying to me the total of the horoscope was quite alike but description of me were quite specific in both of them. The important thing is to look at your entire birth chart not just your sun sign. however like you said human nature is fluid and nurture has just as much to do with personality as nature. that is why astrology is just a basic guide not something that is be all of you or all that effects you.
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  1176. super useful, I’m already in therapy but your channel helps me immensely outside of it. you make such thorough content of a dense topic and this video was only 25 minutes long! impressive af in content making dude. i hope youre doing well and staying safe ❤️❤️
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  1177. I appreciate this video because a few years ago someone mentioned BPD and I started researching, spending a bunch of time and energy on finding out which personality disorder I might have, if any. I think spending that time and energy on the unique circumstances or experience is much better than trying to find a “correct” diagnosis. Thanks!
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  1178. The way you answered your cat hahaha
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  1179. Congratulations on all of you Success this far Doctor Ana!! Sorry i dont know how to spell your last name. Thank you for this channel. It helps me in many many ways. I appreciate what you are contributing.
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  1180. One of my favorite videos this far. More people need to speak up about this.
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  1181. So I should go bear hunting on the first date? Thanks, got it.
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  1182. Perfect timing and much appreciated. Especially being indifferent when there’s no need to get worked up
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  1183. My boyfriend and I met in Atlanta, and his parents and my parents live two towns apart in Germany. He's Italian, I'm eastern european and used to live in Canada. It sounds bizarre until you're in that group of university students who like to travel etc.
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  1184. I also read this. Such a great book. You can really see the work Shari has put into her mental health.
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  1185. On YouTube I have what I call my Panic playlist which are a collections of songs that I enjoy listening to when I'm in a bad state. Some are happy to lift me up, some are sad to help me cry to, but they all help me shift focus from my thoughts to the songs.
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  1186. Dr Ana I wanted to thank you, I watched your channel for years now AND IT HELPED ME SO MUCH, you really do a great job, I am so grateful
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  1187. Archetype deconstruction is my top tier content
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  1188. Thanks for speaking on this subject.
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  1189. This was really insightful! I agree with you, I think it's more helpful to take a nuanced approach to personal responsibility. Attributing outcomes at least partly to the specific circumstances and external factors rather than foundational traits creates distance between us and the situation. By creating distance we are less judgemental and better able to reflect on our behaviours, allowing us to make meaningful changes in our lives. Maintaining a nuanced perspective of ourselves and the world is fundamental to our relationship with ourselves and by extension how we relate to other people
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  1190. Loved this ❤️ Thank you for posting. Who knew a 10 minute video could have all the answers you’d really need to navigate through life.
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  1191. Honestly what has brought me dread is thinking about the widescale sickness of the Earth and thinking that everything becomes meaningless when there isn't a functional planet I can depend on or think will be healthy enough to sustain any future generations... Fulfillment for me is being able to do what I am passionate about -- contributing to the planet being in a better place for future generations... it brings me a sense of fulfillment because I feel like I'm connected to something so much larger than my own personal life.
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  1192.  @AnaPsychology they’re just being cynical lol. Y’all dont have anything to worry about I’m sure
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  1193. I’m extroverted af but my social media is literally dead. Like I’ll post a pic every 6 months or somethign
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  1194. i clicked because i read: Bad Boy image day. And it got me curious xD
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  1195. canine slander detected: mental health is only treatable via owning a dog
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  1196. Keep up the great content Ana. 👍
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  1197. My family is enmeshed, which made it hurt so much more when Spiderman killed my father.
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  1198. THIS IS MY FAVORITE TOPIC AND ITS ABOUT TIME YOU GAVE US CONTENT ABOUT IT!!! U THE BEST
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  1199. I just finished the video. I apologize it took me awhile. Great video! It is very informative and validating especially the part when people with OCD can’t just stop when people who don’t have OCD tell them to stop.
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  1200. I had read the book before watching this video and you did a great job summarizing it. What you said about holding the hand about someone you care about is so relevant.
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  1201. A little bit of both, ya know balance (:
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  1202. Yesss I’m so glad you posted this!! I’ve been interested in this for a while and I love watching you. Needed this psych breakdown 👏👏
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  1203. Well done with your dissertation. The way you explained it made it easy for lay-people to understand, and you've obviously been very thorough in your research. Pat yourself on the back!
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  1204. You look beautiful in red and I’m peeping that “baby glow”! 🤍♥️
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  1205. Did the intro music make anyone else feel like they were about to be in a Pokémon battle?
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  1206. I’m not having a bad day, but I’m saving this advice for when stressful school days come up in the near future!!! I hope you have an amazing weekend Ana 💗
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  1207. Ikr!!! by far the most helpful channel on youtube
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  1208. Thank you for sharing your knowledge - you're my favourite psychology YT creator! Could I put in a request for you to do a video on Carl Rogers and how his ideas influence us today?
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  1209. What about moving to Pennsylvania? We have southern summers and northern winters! Great vid! I really resonate w everything you said. Also just someone wanting to compromise with you really speaks a lot about love.
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  1210. I cant afford it and have no insurance and other reasons. That said I know there’s a lot of things I know I should fix but dont know how and what programs to seek out online ect. So thank you for making this video
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  1211. YAYYY, your cat is so cute!
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  1212. I am looking for someone kind, intelligent, fun, similar to me in personality (chill and not super energetic, but also not boring homebodies), but has different interests (I don't need someone to like the same things I do).. I want someone who has goals and passions in life, and wants to travel the world and not have children.
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  1213. This really cleared my mind. Thanks for your vídeo.
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  1214. My guess before watching the rest of video. couples who stay together longer seek new experiences like picking up a joint hobby or traveling to constantly create new memories. Edit: Lol I was kinda off but thank you Ana! This is something I tended to not be too mindful of when I was exhausted so going forward I’ll try to remember to turn towards :)
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  1215. omg ana this is so irrelevant i watched the video BUT I JUST NOTICED U ARE VERIFIED!!!! congrats <3 i remember watching ur video on lana del ray's post XD u were one of the first youtubers i watched at the beginning of this pandemic. 2 years holy
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  1216. the way you look at each other🥺🥺🥺 so cuteee
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  1217. Great video, but that’s not unusual for you. Do you believe sl*t-shaming is somewhat perpetuated by religious doctrines? If so how can a ‘religious’ female try to live a fulfilled life despite sl*t-shaming, but not be burdened by the ‘religious’ guilt? I hope the question makes sense wasn’t sure how to word it.
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  1218. This is so refreshing to watch 💗
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  1219. You look awesome as the love witch! And yes, it's a fantastic movie.
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  1220. What a great video! Thanks!
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  1221. I wish my grannie was willing to talk to me about her experiences like your grannie does, but she's always like "Leave it, it happened long ago, I don't even remember anymore." Romanian sounds beautiful. :) And your grannie is amazing. Thank you for sharing this video!
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  1222. I don’t have a partner and thus wouldn’t be considering leaving, but I love that you made a thoughtful video about it and reflect on it!! ❤️ I’ve heard about too many relationships ending based on a spur of the moment decision
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  1223. Se vede că idiotul ăsta nu a întâlnit niciodată o femeie din Europa de Est, cu atât mai puțin o româncă. Inceli scârboși și fetishurile lor pentru femeile asiatice și cele din Europa de est 🙄🤢 Te ador, Ana!
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  1224. very interesting. A lot of boxers and combat sports athletes have mastered how to control their shadow and let it lose when they are in a fighting match.
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  1225. Great advice! With my girlfriend, I did let her know that her priorities, goals, family come before me. And that I would be her emotional support, regardless how she feels, and not to endure from what she is feeling and wanting to say. Even if we were out somewhere, she can pull me to the side to talk to me. When she tells me she will try to get as much work done so she can see me over the weekend, I let her know to not burn her brain out or overwork herself that if she needs extra time, she can use up that extra day to finish up her work first and leave the other day for me. I’m very considerate with her. Importantly, I say that her consent comes first. She feels very happy and safe around me, especially being herself. ✨ As much I want to see her, I do want the best for her by getting what needs to be done. Because I’m being supportive for her.
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  1226. amazing topic and video as always! thanks for making content, ana. off topic but fiancé? y'all got engaged! congratulations, im so happy for you
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  1227. I would be very interested in a similar video about possible, although likely less impactful, disaadvantages men face. For the most part, because i was already aware about this phenomenon, even if i still learned a lot. In any case, i am starting to really appreciate this channel, so keep up the good work.
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  1228. You seem to be able to find only the best restaurants/bars there! Great to get a glimpse of Iceland.
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  1229. Hey Ana! Could you share some advice on how to get over perfectionism, and take action more often? I see you churning videos one after the other and I’ve been kinda stuck bcz I’ve been trying to focus more on quality. But that has caused me to not take action and feel confused. 😕
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  1230. Ana, I am so grateful for you. You put so much work and passion into your videos and help so many of us. You are a super hero!
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  1231. Ah I need this, you get me truly! I was just scheduling a gmail to my future self feeling lost and fearing how I'll react with all the friendships I ended last year. And I get notified about this.
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  1232. Your content help me alot in my life. Thank you so much.
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  1233. OMG!!! Ana!! I was searching SOO HARD for a video about how women can support men and let me tell you there is near NONE!! All that came up was women women women women So OMG! Thank you!!! You are so awesomeeeeee
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  1234. Love seeing two of my favorite people come together and blossom into such a beautiful pair. Love this window into y'alls life when not on facetime w me haha. See y'all at the wedding <3
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  1235. Questions like the those in the true believer survey are part of the reason I ended up leaving Christianity. They're startlingly common in the Churches I've frequented.
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  1236. WOW I've never been this early. Keep up the great work Ana, I love your content! Recently I've been loving learning about psychology and you're one of my favorite creators in this space. I wish you luck in your career!
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  1237. tldr: hype is attractive
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  1238. was waiting for this! love youu
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  1239. Awesome! This is a great, eye opening topic to research for people to see. You are most definitely making a difference.
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  1240. I think conscientiousness has a lot to do with mindset and unfortunately most people are not taught the right mindsets from an early age, the we are all winners is not it for sure. Great video Ana.
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  1241. You are amazing! A breath of fresh air
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  1242. Very informative. Also, I gotta say I love your outfits in all your vids. Sooo cute
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  1243. I wish you could show us pictures of her when she was younger! She sounds lovely!
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  1244. I recommend reading: A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara. I wonder what you think about the description of mental health issues and their treatment and the ultimate question whether sometimes there is no hope in treatment. Thanks for your videos. I really love your channel and always get exciteted when you post a new video.
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  1245. Soooo proud of you and your transparency. U are so awesome.❤
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  1246. Glad to see C.G. Jung showcased. He is a unique individual, humble but full of compassion and true to himself. I adore his works. As to the paranormal, I have something to share... It was at a samhain celebration by a local pagan circle. The celebration was on the correct date, calaculated by counting moons, not as is common today on the 31. I was in charge of tending the fire in the first quarter of the night and when they got ready to light it, I noticed I had forgotten the tools (poker, shovel, bucket of sand for emergencies), so I rushed into the barn. Needles to say, it was pitch black inside. So I shouted: "Can somebody come and help me with that?". Suddenly, serveral meters away, a shovel fell over for no apparent reason, it's handle exactly hitting the light switch. "Somebody" helped, I guess. Later the same night, serveral people saw footsteps in the dust and smoke leading into the fire. Since this kind of fire is supposed to help the restless dead along their journey, it makes sense, but is spooky nonetheless. It really sounds kind of silly talking about such experiences, but I feel many people have them an just dismiss them... But I am too inquisitive and I keep thinking about such things a lot. I don't know if it was just random chance or something deeper, but it I am certain it made me a more spiritual and nice person... profound experiences do that... P.S.: You have a very peculiar way of pronouncing "Pauli"
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  1247. I keep up with the psychedelic research and the growing body of evidence is very promising. Especially since its therapeutic effects last for extended periods of time and most of the compounds being examined show very low to no toxicity.
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  1248. Thank you for differentiating about the lying!! I have often found people love to pearl clutch at even the mention that they too might lie and maybe even often. But it’s because they aren’t taking into account all of the reasons that you outlined here. Great little video. Many thanks Dr!
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  1249. You're doing God's work. Keep it up.
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  1250. It's me, I'm the broken smoke detector
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  1251. i did a personal experiment to see if i had a “toxic productivity” mindset by chopping up my daily productivity with time between tasks doing nothing. i took inventory of how doing nothing made me feel when i still had work ahead of me. i realized that my daily workload is not inherently toxic, however my level of guilt during breaks revealed that i am inclined toward some level of toxic productivity so now i am able to be more mindful of it
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  1252. Thank you, I loved this one. I actually had a situation in therapy 2 weeks ago where I considered finishing my sessions instead of talking and making adjustments... in a way your video validates what I felt, and I think I made the right decision, I just had an awkward conversation with my therapist and we are working on it... thanks for your weekly videos, I love them...
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  1253. Italian here, yes pronunciation was spot on, and good job on the video as well Ana Glad you enjoyed your stay It's nice to know our culture left you something positive
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  1254. You make me feel safe ☺️ thank you Ana ❤️
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  1255. Hi ana, thanks for all the content, and maybe u can do a video on how to manage dating with a borderline. its a difficult time and i really love my couple but need help for coping
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  1256. I thought it was mean to be marking fun of someone who clearly wasn't a native English speaker until she showed a picture of the author. Yikes!
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  1257. You mentioned this at the end - that we have everything we need within us to be happy, but I also hear from many other sources that we need connection with other humans to be happy. This always throws me off and it’s something I struggle with 😅 Great video!
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  1258. Limerence is such an interesting topic - thanks for this vid!!
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  1259. VERY cute :) :) I also have a rescued black cat, and he is the same in neediness and affection <3 ECD detected in my Lajos, too :)
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  1260. I thought for a bit and... it must be very difficult for women to live frightened of being assaulted. I'm sorry, you have to go through that. Also, I've noticed the fact that men interrupt women talking. That's true, and it's generalised. Not cool I have to admit that my comment above came from a place of a little bit of resentment because I'm not going through the best phase in my life as an individual. Watching in the media constantly "how reproachable men are" sometimes piles up and I'm prone to take it a little bit personally even though I'm a really decent man. Last, I want to share that, in the rare occasions I have seen any women speaking for honourable man in the public media, literary tears come to my eyes. So I guess I am really in need of appreciation from women. I guess is a personal issue. Ok, I openend up in case it helps others and myself :D Honestly, I love psychology and I love Ana's channel. Big hugs for all! peace!
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  1261. Actually it's "Mulțumesc". The French "mersi"(that's how we write it) is one of the many borrowed words.
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  1262. I was almost "scared" to watch because I didn't want you to take the magic out of this October - but it was actually really enlightening and let me keep my spooky witchy mood ^^ I didn't see the first video you made about this and after you described it in the beginning, I'm kinda glad :D happy spooky season
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  1263. I'd imagine the belief in a conspiracy theory brings a great sense of calm to someone who needs an answer for something that doesn't HAVE an answer... I can only relate because of my past with how religion made me feel though... i wont make this into a mean atheist comment though.
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  1264. Sometimes the transgression of the friend nr. 2 might actually be really small, or just a matter of perception, and our friend nr.1 is devastated, bc they have trauma they’ve not worked on. It’s good to know the difference bc it’s so easy to portray anyone in a negative light. When I went through a pretty painful friend breakup, I did not expect my roommate to end her relationship w/ that friend, even if that hurt at first. The breakup friend even made it look like it was my fault, but a year later, same thing happened to my roommate, and I was able to be there for her. Unfortunately breakup friend had unresolved trauma, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she suffered from BPD too. Heartbreaking all around.
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  1265. Another Dr. Ana video AND some Romanian listening practice! Awesome. :) I'm half Romanian, but don't really use the language as much as I should. :/
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  1266. Just when I'm having one of those- thankyouu!
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  1267. Another great video, Ana! Thanks for the great work! :) A suggestion of topic for a future episode: Self-soothing techniques, especially for anxiety.
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  1268. such a good video, you handled so much information and analysis beautifully!
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  1269. I'd love to hear about the intersection of the Dunning-Kruger effect and imposter syndrome.
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  1270. I needed this, thank you.
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  1271. I didn't know you are romanian and that took me by surprise!!! Dragostea chiar trece prin stomac, your content is very much appreciated, Ana!
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  1272. Thanks so much Ana! This came at a good time since it’s fall here in Canada and seasonal affective disorder really affects a lot of Canadians in the colder months
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  1273. Thank you so much for talking about this topic and for spreading awareness. This case has had me lose sleep over the past few days and I'm so sorry to Gabby and her family💔 I can't imagine how someone could do this to anyone...
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  1274. I recently heard in a podcast, that the reason why we enjoy horror movies and jump scares is because it's a safe version of a really scary situation. I was fascinated! Maybe you can do some research into that as well, if you're interested 😌
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  1275. Ana, I just really admire you. I've been looking for this kind of objective, academic-based content for a really long time, and what you do is exactly what I hoped I could find. I'm learning so much from you. Plus I really admire you as a person - you're so constructive, you've dealt with the lockdown in a very constructive way, and you are very honest and to-the-point. Right now that I'm in a very insecure moment of my life, I am even jealous of you a little bit 🥺 I just thought I'd share my genuine appreciation for you and your work, I feel like we don't do this nearly enough nowadays. You go girl 😊
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  1276. The situational point of view is not meant to do what that study did with it. Its meant to remind people that humans are not their behavior and are thus capable of changing that behavior. So a narc mom is a narc because of the situations in which she grew up, not because shes intrinsically evil or incapable of doing better. Whats more both sides can be true: an abusive parent is both a product of their situation and their abusive behavior is hurtful and not okay.
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  1277. I’m so glad when I run into a video like this because it gives me something actually productive to do. 1. Art 2. Probably draw? 3. Recover , walk/ fitness, Legos sets 4. Writing, I write a lot of notes in my phone to basically remember things 5. High piece count Lego sets or Lego sets in general. My current retirement is recovering from a very serious car accident with a semi-truck driver that fell asleep while driving on the highway, drifted onto my side of the highway and hit me head-on in the early morning before sunrise, I’m a living miracle! I’m currently left with a TBI, an amputated left leg above the knee and a rebuilt right leg with a metal rod replacing my shin. Thanks for this video!
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  1278. A frequent synchronicity I experience is thinking of someone and them somehow entering my life, through a message, or being admitted back into the hospital (I'm a nurse). I think this is a common one, but can be meaningful nonetheless. Thanks for another great Halloweek Ana, your videos definitely make this time of year so spooky and wonderful! I made a hickory nut cake with nuts my grandma forged :) Happy Halloween!
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  1279. Gonna be DR. Anna soon. Just found your channel and I'm loving it!! A doctorate in psychology is something I wish I had pursued.
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  1280. Got mine today. I'm stoked to read it❤
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  1281. I love your eye makeup
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  1282. Thank you- ur vids have really helped me become a more positive person.
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  1283. I always thought myself as more of an employee kind of guy, and it pretty much went that way watching your video. I tend to work with a more extrinsic motivation, I'm pretty undisciplined and need that sort of accountability. I also like being able to slack a bit when demand's low (I'm watching this video on work BTW). There's one pro of being an employee you didn't mention, which is stability. I'm a public servant, so I'm on the far end of this spectrum, but an employee is subject to way less risk than a self-employed. I'm quite risk-averse, so this fancies me too, and asking me to leave public service would be a very, very hard sell. My graduate course was kinda like self-employment as my advisor was very easy-going, and it was awful in terms of productivity and consistency. I'm an introvert, but I start missing the workplace if I go too long working by myself. I have a 100% presential job and I think I would like a hybrid schedule, but I don't know if 100% remote would be for me. On the flip side, having a flexible schedule would be great. Not so much for travelling, but to do errands in business hours, definitely.
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  1284. Also - that septum piercing looks great on you! 😻
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  1285. You’re the gift that keeps on giving
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  1286. what is A? what is B? what is C? what IS... triangulation? a rain of ruin, that is what it is!
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  1287. I was waiting for this video! I'm in my own journey of learning to accept life as it is and don't get paralyzed by fear. Thank you for your work ❤️ Other mantras that I find helpful are: - “How is this the best thing that has happened to me?” - I learned this from the YouTuber Struthless, he specifically used it for Trauma (with a big T), but I find it helpful in smaller situations as well. - “Reality is just this” - I don't remember the name of the YouTuber who shared this. Is similar to the “it is what it is”, but I find this one makes me feel more grounded and present. It also helps me with my idealism and to accept that life is not always rainbows and flowers, and that's okay. - “If you're in the dark, light a candle” - Maybe we don't have control on the whole situation but we do have some small control that can help us feel better. Anyway, hope this can help someone!
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  1288. When women gain full equality (I do hope it's in my lifetime), it doesn't mean that men are going to have fewer rights all of a sudden. I do get where the butt hurt comes from, but it's entirely groundless
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  1289. Literally rewatched the rest of the series today and today you post the next part! How unbelievable ♥️ Love your videos Ana 🥰 Hope to meet you irl one day, thank you for all that you do for us 💕
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  1290. Your cat reminds me so much of my cat 🥰
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  1291. I’m happy you posted a video showing this side as well, thankfully I have women I’m friends with in my life that support and care about me, which is certainly a privilege! ❤️ I hope you have an awesome day Ana (didn’t mess it up this time 😂)
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  1292. So I’m similar to you I think, except I don’t keep a todo list, I just know what I have to do. I’m a workaholic. I wake up early and like to feel like i’m doing something to “level myself up” a bit. I LOVE the feeling of having something to do and whittling it down. But i’m not against taking days off just to play games or relax. I just value doing that less than other more fulfilling things, which informs my day to day habits. It’s rare that I feel overwhelmed by this habit.
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  1293. I'm looking for a therapist that specializes in R2D2 & C-3PO! 🤖🛸
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  1294. Grateful to be drawn to individuals who advocate humanity. Thank you 🙏🏼
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  1295. I dont want to force others to decide who they want to associate w, their experience w the other person is different from mine, if someone doesnt get long w me, I just completely avoid them, and let my friend know. I dont want to encourage my friends to shun someone unless they did a lot of harm to the group.
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  1296. I’m already 1:40 in and I’m ready to read your book it’s sounds so detailed and a lot of thought out into it
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  1297. love your videos <3 I'm trying to calm my anxiety and hypervigilance this year bc my heart rate & anxiety are always through the roof when I'm in a relationship and in a fight w them, or anyone else I love, or when I am in a public setting LOL
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  1298. I think folks will cling to diagnoses particularly if they grew up with a prominent person in their life denying they had any challenges or would acknowledge them but think they don’t need any help or at least a different approach in how they learn. And this had a detrimental effect on their ability to function as they grew up into adulthood, that was definitely my experience. Like…even now as an adult I’ve had family question whether I “deserve” extra time on exams in college courses. I have traumatic memories of being forced to stand & stare at an analogue clock until I could correctly say what time it was (I never did, I would just breakdown crying. But I can read analogue clocks as an adult now, from teaching myself with patience & compassion). Obviously my username suggests I highly identify with that fact I’m Autistic, but recently I’ve begun reevaluating whether I want to continue with that username here. On one hand I think there’s been benefits in my personal growth by embracing this pretty big part of myself (& it’s helped me better manage how it can impede my executive functioning & social life), but also I’ve spent enough time around other people who it’s had a more detrimental effect on.
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  1299. Thank you so much for this, Ana. Respect ✊
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  1300. Wow this video some how just clicked, I was uncertain how to move forward but now after seeing this, I have confidence in my abilities and attentive my skillset. This video is a proverbial "go out for a walk to clear my head" action.
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  1301. You’re awesome, you just motivated me to go to the gym although I’m super embarrassed cause I’m not fit
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  1302. Ana…im sooo in love with the way you look at him🤍🦢va urez casa de piatra si putere🪷
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  1303. I dont like Monica Geller, either
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  1304. Hey girlie, normally just lurk, but I’ve been loving your videos for a while now and feel like sharing some gratitude. Everything you say is so insightful. P.s your voice is so soothing 💗💞🥹
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  1305. I had many premonitions as a child. I dreamed events before they played out. Some just random things that made me question whether I had lived the identical experience beforehand. Odd to say the least. As far as paranormal, there was always a dark figure in the front window of an abandoned mobile home behind my house as a child. I felt it watching. 5 of us kids messing around with and ojui board one afternoon, the piece moved on it's own and sent us scrambling for the door as a pair of scissors fell off a book case and stuck themselves standing straight up in the linoleum floor. Frightening to this day. My grandmother passed in the house before I was born, I felt her presence. My dad died in the shop below the houses, I felt him many times. Also, I have the same thoughts and ideas as others, at the same times, as others I've felt deep interaction with, almost communicating at a distance. At time when I was alone, I've felt loved ones with me.
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  1306. i was literally thinking about this topic great timing
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  1307. You are literally hearing my thoughts omg this happened so many times where i would be thinking about a topic and you post a video
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  1308. My feed is flooded with your videos....which is not a bad thing:D Also you should do the psychology behind being a successful youtuber haha
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  1309. Hey Ana, loved the video as usual. Really eye opening and insightful. Can you please do a commentary on Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscar's from a psychological point of view. And how he could have handled his emotions better. And how we can learn to control our emotions when triggered
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  1310. Hi Ana! I'm really excited for this one. I just wanna say thank you for everything you've done and for sharing your knowledge and expertise with the world. I admire your dedication, passion but especially character and strive to become the best version of myself everyday, thanks to you.
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  1311. "but we'll come back to that in a minute" 😂😂😂
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  1312. Do you. For me it’s all about your attitude. Pressure and stress is something we often imagine our dream job being without. But you can learn to enjoy how it can bring the best out of you and can give you a rush of life. When you’re really in the flow of things, you’re not concerned about the amount of effort you have to exert. But like I said, do you. It’s healthy to have hobbies, especially creative ones that don’t need to have timetables
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  1313. Ana, superb videoclipul cu bunica!
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  1314. When you know both Romanian and English and don't have to read subtitles (can't wait to watch the video)
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  1315. If you’re reading this: your body is absolute perfection just as it is 💗
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  1316. Great vid, question 4 re: professionalism at all times is an especially good point.
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  1317. Oooo this is fun, thank you, Ana! I did not guess acknowledgement/engagement, but wow, what a powerful set of behaviors when abstracted.
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  1318. The nice guy thing should get over, I'm so tired of it...
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  1319. You had such a tremendous impact on my life. Your words of wisdom and inspiring content have guided me through difficult times. I can't thank them enough for the positive influence they've had on my journey.
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  1320. I appreciate a lot this video Sometimes I feel like there is a silent war between the sexes, and I seriously think that this kind of content help to understand how to really behave in a respectful way towards the opposite sex
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  1321. Very lovely video ❤️❤️ I just moved to Romania to finish my study and specialise in psychiatry I am studying the language now such a beautiful language and people Love your channel.. Keep making great videos❤️❤️
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  1322. I'm glad I found your channel, you explain really well and it's really interesting. I actually didn't thought of the opportunity factor, but it makes a lot of sense obviously. Hope you get more recognition, you deserve it!
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  1323. As an introvert who is interested in psychology and philosophy, you're almost the perfect combination of a channel I would love to watch 💙
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  1324. Its been so cool to see your channel transform and grow as you progress through your education and work. Thank you for always giving us your best and most generous gift of knowledge and perspective
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  1325. Hi Ana! I’ve really benefited from watching your content and was wondering if you could make a video on living with people who inhibit your personal growth? I can’t move out at the moment and would love to know what I can do to shield myself my loved ones’ (unintentional) negativity.
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  1326. You got nice cadence and safe /smooth voice with practical wise advice
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  1327. I personally used tinder like some people use Uber Eats: to find someone to go on a date or have casual sex faster. Plus, the low chance of real life connections was a bonus. It was after a year of being single, therapy and working on myself and realising that I didn't want a serious relationship. If anything, when I had lower self esteem I was more scared of tinder. Afterwards, I used it as a tool to have fun and that was it. No expectations
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  1328. If there are less kind men around, assholes have a higher chance to get a girl. So men call each other simp, to lower the standards. Now there are some more respectable reason to call somebody a simp, like if a man has no boundaries to women... but no reason is good enough for name-calling somebody, i think
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  1329. I m from Romania too and for sure you re on point about romanians bluntness! Somehow its viewed as a quality, but I think honestly its more a lack of empathy about other people feelings.
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  1330. OMG! what a CUTE MEOW-MEOW!! 😻🐈:chillwcat::cat-orange-whistling: A good way to CAT-ch up. Wonderful video, the meow-meow's are a nice touch.
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  1331. As a disabled person, this is really hard cause it takes more energy for me to even meet them halfway. Then I feel guilty for not being able to give as much even though it costs me so much more.
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  1332. I love her. She reminds me some of my grandmother. I miss her so much ;.; Tell her I appreciate her no nonsense attitude ♥
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  1333. Omg I've never met someone else with Reynauds <3
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  1334. This is cool! I dont use dating apps anymore. It feels so unnatural. They really bother me. I like your cat. ☺
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  1335. in her 5 categories why isn’t one being one completly absent a category?
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  1336. I often hear people constantly start off by saying "I am" with their diagnosis. That's very disempowering as symptoms are not who you truly are. Be mindful of these permanent constant self identifying labels.
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  1337. I've been a meditator for a long time and I find that I'm very comfortable on my own. With that said when one has lost a certain neediness- relationships seem to come fairly easily. The Dalai Lama recommends that everyone spend some time alone everyday.😉 🙏🧘‍♀️🧘‍♂️🌅
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  1338. Not a linguist expert but isn't this Romanian? It sounds like mix of Slavic and Romance language.
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  1339. I sincerely love your videos, thank you for your consistency :)
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  1340.  @AnaPsychology  It's definitely not going to fit for everyone but personally I view it the same way as someone holding up a trophy from a basketball tournament. It's also relatively likely that the fish was released or harvested for food, both of which seem fairly respectable in my eyes. You won't know unless you talk to them.
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  1341. You do a great job of understanding how outside structures/factors can impact mental health while still remembering that we have the ability to change/transform from within. Too many people discount one to champion another, even though they're not mutually exclusive
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  1342. Thankyou so much for such great content! Lots of love ❤❤❤
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  1343. 😻your cat is adorable!!!😻
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  1344. She looks like a real life Marceline from Adventure Time!!
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  1345. OMG You're into withcraft too YAASSS!
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  1346. Laughing so hard.. it's too relatable since you literally said my name.. Also the orange wig looks amazing on you
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  1347. I just watch the videos because your are cute
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  1348. Actually evolutionarily speaking women evolved to have multiple sexual partners in one 'mating session', hence the shape of the glans (head) of the penis and why human males have co.pararively larger penises for body size than other animals. Biologically speaking, women are actually more predisposed to having multiple sexual partners than men. It is societally and culturally however that women's opportunities have been diminished, and also the punishments have been much harsher for women than men. This goes towards explaining an aspect of the increase in infidelity in women as the times are changing.
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  1349. Congrats lady! You have been a bright light in the YouTube algorithm for me.
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  1350. Thank for the video! That's a very interesting video and I can't wait for the whole series! I am definitely one of those women who was (greatly) harmed by the captain hook culture, so it's really interesting to learn about this phenomena from the psychological perspective.
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  1351. This is something I genuinely needed, body image is one thing I’ve been working on!! Hope you have a great weekend Ana ❤️
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  1352. Great advice. Thank you so much. There are a couple of books that helped me tremendously fighting procrastination and building healthy habits. Atomic Habits and Eat that Frog.
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  1353. This is lovely. I was moved to tears. ❤️ Thank you, both of you.
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  1354. I got here early! LOVE your channel and the work you do, Ana! Keep it up :)
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  1355. Guilt and shame are two things I’ve been grappling with from time to time!! Can’t wait to see the video, I’m sure it’ll help me before my first counseling session next week! 💗
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  1356. This is lovely advice! I also went to a CBT practitioner late last year, but it didn't work out. Since then, I've been going to a psychodynamic therapist who has helped me go through a similar journey of acceptance. I struggle with overthinking (my brain is just non-stop), so reading about different philosophies and watching your videos inspires me to improve. And I'm so happy the journal is coming so soon too. Thank you so much (Dr) Ana 🙏🏾☺️
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  1357. awwwww i love ur kitty!! she looks like she wants attention🥺🥺🥺🥰
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  1358. I was diagnosed with bipolar 2, however I always thought I had BDP which is a label I don't mind having, I talked about it with my therapist and psychiatrist, they said I didn't have BPD, I thought they were being condescendant, however now I'm certain I'm just 100% bipolar 2 with codependency issues. There's some online pop psychology content that tends to oversimplify diagnosis, beware of diagnosing yourselves people. Also a diagnosis is not a life sentence, it can be changed.
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  1359. doctoral CANDIDATE!! congratulations!!
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  1360. Not again🙈 probably same guy
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  1361. Here is my synchronicity. I watched the first half of this video upon waking up and finished the other half now. In-between, I crafted a long letter to someone who hurt me in the past, encouraging them to change their patterns of behaviors so that they never hurt another person in the way they hurt me. I ended the letter saying I believe they are a good person who is capable of change. Even though I wasn't 100% certain about this assessment, I decided to err on the side of optimism since it can be contagious. After I sent the letter, I decided to decompress by finishing this video while eating a couple of fudgsicles. While you were talking about synchronicities, I looked down at my fudgsicle sticks. (You know how they often come with inspiring messages or funny jokes?) The first one said "build someone up with encouragement" and the second one said "stand up for what you believe in." I take this as confirmation that I did the right thing.
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  1362. I love your top!
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  1363. omg this was so interesting and fun to watch. i think it’s always cool seeing other cultures talk abt relevant topics! great video idea!
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  1364. Omg I’m so excited!!!! This was a super fun video! I’m glad you love the show too! I’ve never heard of Marianismo!
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  1365. I needed this right now 😿
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  1366. Funny… I was recently thinking of visiting my childhood homes to hopefully revisit old memories and do some healing!
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  1367. Hey Ana thankyou for this video. I am from India and also I am doing MSc. Clinical Psychology and this is a very informative video for me. And one more thing,🤫 YOU ARE SO PRETTY AND BEAUTIFUL 😊
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  1368. im from Toronto, Canada!! i think your precious video was so insightful btw. i agree 100% there is nothing controversial about women vocalizing what they need from men in order to be an ally and vice versa!! most of my closest friends are men and both parties have gained insight as to how the patriarchy negatively impacts both men and women. i also found it ironic that men (some not all) complain about how complex and passive women are and yet, when we state what we need, they resent us. it’s like a double standard and it doesn’t make sense. i think this conversation is very much needed ! as much as i love u alone Ana, I can’t wait for more future collabs (maybe u can do a video with ur bf about his opinions on certain topics, ofc if u don’t for professional reasons, i completely understand !!)
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  1369. I am really glad i subscribed to this channel. These topics are so needed.
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  1370. I would love to hear about studies with lgbtq+ participants. Great video :)
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  1371. ana looks so festive!! she can literally pull of any look <3
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  1372. I always thought he was an adolescent trapped in a really talented salesman’s body :)
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  1373. Thank you for such consistent uploads!! 😊❤️
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  1374. I dropped everything so fast lol:))
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  1375. Maybe first? Always happy to see Ana's videos, no matter when. 😊
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  1376. Thank you for this! For people who work night shifts like I do, this would probably be especially useful. Some days I don't see any sun at all and it is depressing.
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  1377. I havent watched but i can tell this is going to be a banger
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  1378. As a psychology student I found your channel really helpful ❤️
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  1379. Awww, been hoping I'd hear romanian be spoken on the channel. Haven't fully watched the video yet but I'm loving it!
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  1380. girl where is your shirt from? it's fires
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  1381. Anxiety is your mind + body telling you what you need. So true 💯
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  1382. love your videos! even when i don’t think i’ll agree with you you always give me something to chew on. thank you dr ana, congratulations
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  1383. No dating in sight on my part but I'm watching and taking notes. Living in hope 😉😄
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  1384. I've heard stoicism described as "The are of 'It is what it is.' " Ive been trying to apply stoicism to my life more and more every day.
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  1385. Great analysis Ana. I think we all have dark and light swans within us. Self acceptance and moderation is the key. I have found meditation to be a good way of realising that balance.
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  1386. Just sent this to my partner, he better watch it xD
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  1387. Foarte fain videoclipul. Mi-aș dori să fi fost mai lung, dar asta nu stă în controlul meu:) Dacă vrei cândva să împărtășești o lectură stoică cu bunica ta recomand Manualul lui Epictet în română de la editura Seneca, e o ediție mișto.
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  1388. Yes, it's the famous Pyramid of Maslow. All human needs are categorized in a five-level hierarchy: physiological, security, social, self-esteem, and self-actualization.
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  1389. Congratulations on 70k❤
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  1390. Food plays a huge part in how I feel. When I eat junk food, I feel like shit for a couple of days and it affects my critical thinking skills and emotional state , and vice versa.
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  1391. ana u absolute legend
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  1392. Happy Holloween!! Love your content and costume❤️ Can’t wait to watch this video after I wake up tomorrow morning :)))
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  1393. I would love to see this as a series!! Also a separate video on self righteousness would be interesting!
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  1394. Omg yess so happy for pragmatic mindfulness! He deserves the exposure :)
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  1395. You know, I've become familiar with these from a lot of reading over the years, and this is such a great summary of them all in one place. Thank you!
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  1396. Great video! :) I could listen to your videos all day :) They are super informative and interesting. :) I just wanted to ask if you thought about making a video about the movie Girl Interrupted? :)
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  1397. Thanks for the info Ana! <3 PS: which lipstick is that? Looks great! -.- <3
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  1398. The regret comes from missing out than the longer it goes on phobias develop but realizing not taking chances in life and showing your true potential
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  1399. Finally, a useful sponsorship! Thank you!
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  1400. Really impressed by your intelligence! I support you, Love from Egypt!
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  1401. I have high functioning Autism and I guess it sort of fits this video because I became depressed at 19 and autistic people are more prone to it, unfortunately. I was misdiagnosed as somebody with Asperger's, ADD, and some other things on the more unkind side by peers and teachers, in fact, my 7th grade treacher calling me a son of the devil, crazy and a future serial killer and that I was not "normal." Ultimately, my grandmother was responsible for giving my mother a news flash, so to speak, that I could have Autism at 14 years old and I didn't get the proper diagnosis until I was 20 years old and then, I had gained some better help and special accommodations up to this point at 28 years old. One piece of advice, from a clinically depressed Autistic, to tie in with Ana's parting words about when to get help, don't ever see help as weakness. It's one of the absolute strongest thing you can ever do. Especially as a man, where it's ridiculously frowned upon. Overcome societal ignorance and stigmas, and if you're a man, fight past the toxic masculinity peers and I promise you that you will grow in ways you can't fathom!
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  1402. Thank you so much Anna! Especially for doing this video when you have to prepare for your dissertation. Good luck on it 👍
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  1403. This is one of the most pleasant "make-up'" type videos I have seen. thx 🌷
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  1404. Fantastic video and expertise. Thank you for compiling these tips and situating this wisdom in such an effective way!
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  1405. Can’t wait to see this after work!! It’s been a sluggish Monday haha ❤️
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  1406. As someone with high functioning depression and anxiety I thank you for this video. Also my ex was high functioning alcoholic. He kept a stable job and never drank before work. As soon as he got home he had three beers... then 3 plus shots of whiskey to help him sleep. (Every day and sometimes more of weekends) He sometimes would admit he had a problem as he was sobering up but most of the the time he said he could control it. And he could for awhile but as soon as he stressed out he would sneak the little bottles in the garage and drink them out there. When four shots of liquor (all at once) doesnt even make you tipsy youd think it would be obvious someone has a high alcohol tolerance from years of alcohol consumption. Honestly I think that was why we were attracted to each other. Both high functioning mental illness looking for love and acceptance (plus we had a lot in common with personalities when it came to artistic expression and love language). Enough though I had fluctuated between high functioning to suicidal back to High functioning over the years… I have always prided myself that I was at least aware of my mental illness and willing to treat it, eventually. Funny that some of the people who have been the most judgemental, towards me, are those who most likely are high functioning depressed themselves but in denial. I know that probably goes back to projection and internal self-hate dialogue towards their high functioning depression. Just an observation I've made in my personal life… I know that doesn't mean it actually translate as a rule for all high functioning depressive persons who are in denial. Anyways another great video ☺️
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  1407. Lost track of you for a while. Congrats on finishing your doctoral studies and book!
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  1408. comment for the algorithm 📈📈📈
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  1409. What crazy timing!! I just started rewatching desperate housewives this week 😇 thanks for the in-depth vid!!!
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  1410. Hi anna, im a psyc major in undergrad right now with a minor in chinese :)) this summer im going to taiwan to study mandarin, im so excited!! Exploring new places is my favorite type of play btw ☺️
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  1411. this is amazing, really eye-opening! I realized I'm in psychodynamic therapy since half a year haha. Would love to hear more about this by you.
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  1412. "A trusted source, such as yourself" love it :) :)
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  1413. i agree with u Ana!! i think disagreements and fights r two differently completely things. but i think a disagreement can escalate to a fight and cause the relationship to plumish, or in severe cases end. ive never been in a relationship (romantic one at least) but in terms of friendships, i would identify a fight to be when it reaches the point of ppl disrespecting each other. i think the moment someone starts to take their anger out on u instead of communicating what the issue is at hand is when a fight begins. i have a close friend i disagree with on many things but we always have open conversations!! we respectfully disagree (as you quoted) and we come to terms with the fact that we won’t always share the same opinions or outlook on everything but that doesn’t mean we can’t open our minds or hear the other person out. for fights, ive had past fights w my former friends in hs and i think a lot of our fights began when one person became petty and began holding resentment against the other person in fear of how it would affect the relationship or other person. lol those friendships didn’t last long for obvious reasons but i can definitely say ive learned a lot from those fights. ever since i started university, i learned to communicate instead of repressing my anger/negative emotions so things don’t ever escalate to a fight.
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  1414. I mean, to the people who say stoicism doesn't work for actual extremely bad situations, stoicism was literally born out of a sociohistorical context where the mediterranan was undergoing some seriously significant upheavals like war and political/economic stability. epictetus developed his philosophy of accepting the experiences you find yourself in, whilst he was a literal slave. it's really not so different to today where we have a cost of living crisis, political unrest and a literal war going on between russia and ukraine. when your grandmother mentioned having to make pastries with corn instead of flour, is that so different from people today who are so affected by the cost of living that they are considering getting rid of all their netflix/spotify subscriptions and even turning off the microwave by the outlet to save a few pennies on electricity?
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  1415. Good luck with your dissertation defense and final work- absolutely love your content!
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  1416. Please make the DBT videos!
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  1417. Are you making a video about how to deal with a friend that has depression? I sometimes have a hard time relating to the way they look at the world and accidently will get frustrated at how they "choose" to notice just the bad stuff. I'm aware that it's their depression, so I try not to do that, but occasionally I fall into that trap and I don't want to be that friend that makes them feel worse for their condition. How should we deal with someone who is suicidal? I just talk to them and until we naturally change the topic and laugh about stuff again, but I never know if this is right. Of course they're doing therapy and getting their medication, I just think we have a lot of awareness about how important mental health is, but not how to behave around someone with a mental issue. I believe I'm a good friend most of the time but I'd love to have a guide for what I should avoid and what I can do.
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  1418. I’ve genuinely never heard of this...thank you for talking about it! I just got back from a long trip with my boyfriends family, and it was oddly triggering for me to see the differences between their family dynamic and the one I was brought up in. I didn’t have the language to really articulate my discomfort other than feeling bad about how nice and accommodating they were being while also feeling surly and exhausted having to navigate it. So, I’m really glad you uploaded this today now that I have some time to reflect 💕❤️ Hope you’re doing well by the way! ☺️
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  1419. Ana has another cat named fava beans elsewhere in the house. :)
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  1420. Raisugen that’s actually an interesting theory.
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  1421. This is something I’ve been looking forward to, Black Swan is such an amazing movie!! 💜
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  1422. Your toxic masculinity definitions remind me a lot about Trump.
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  1423. the channel youtube knows to always put on top of my everything and with reason
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  1424. She is so adorable! 😻 I have 4 cats; Snoopy, his wife Emma, Lady and pal Sam. 2 of them suffered before I got them. All of them I adopted, didn't buy them, so I saved them from the streets. I had all pet animals including ferrets which are smart, funny and smelly.love this video. You are so funny!
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  1425. This study was done at the University of British Columbia 🇨🇦 on the Capilano suspension bridge!! My school did a cool thing!!
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  1426. i cannot emphasise how much i love your channel and it's content <3
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  1427.  @AnaPsychology  Thank you so much for replying! That helped clarify things quite a bit, I might talk to my counselor about it.
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  1428. I love the challenge!!!! Thank you, I think that's such a valuable thing for you to do.
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  1429. Congrats Ana!🎉
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  1430. I have a picture poster that I saved on my desktop which reads "If you are hurting, you should be healing, not dating." Or, to quote a Youtube life coach: "Don't get her back, get YOU back!" Godspeed, Ana. Get yourself on the mend first... 🫖🍵
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  1431. As someone whose first language is Spanish, I want to recognize your beautiful phonetic and accent 🥹 It felt really heart-warming!  It brings me joy to see you and your channel flourishing! 🫶🏼 Congratulations on your PhD!.🥳
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  1432. This video came at the perfect time, I start my last semester of undergrad in 6 days and I hope I can stay motivated enough to get through it!! ❤️ Thank you for this
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  1433. Love your content
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  1434. i had the same thought about the three conditions being linked somehow. maybe same condition with different presentations based on intelligence or early life experiences? thank you for the videos. i am enjoying the halloween theme of the topics.
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  1435. Before Tolkien, fairies of folklore had a larger place in fantasy literature, especially the pre-Christian moral characteristics you mentioned. My favorite "fairy story" is Lud-in-the-Mist by Hope Mirrlees.
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  1436. i have to say that you have a lot of really good tools and topics. lots of people dont want to talk about it or anything* you found a very good way to openly bring it up and put to the open. great job!! glade you started your channel :)
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  1437. your grandpa handsome af!!
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  1438. How hasn't your channel blown up yet?! This is so informative!
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  1439. Amazing video filled with wisdom! I wrote down several quotes that I hope to use in my daily life. P.S. This is very minor, but for future videos like this, I think it could be helpful to give yourself and your grandma different coloured subtitles so that it's easier to distinguish who is saying what. It's not really much of an issue, but I thought it could be a good idea!
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  1440. As a spooky & fantasy fanatic, this is my favourite series in your channel. I absolutely loved your Halloweek series of 2020. I am beyond excited for the videos. Can’t wait 😍❤️
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  1441. Thank you Ana. I learn something new from every video.
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  1442. this was a great one! i'd love to see more videos on the green flags
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  1443. I loved the movie analogy, will try it when I feel my mind wander instead of enjoing the present. A quote for you: "For unless one is able to live fully in the present, the future is a hoax. There is no point whatever in making plans for a future which you will never be able to enjoy. When your plans mature, you will still be living for some other future beyond. You will never, never be able to sit back with full contentment and say, "Now, I've arrived!" Your entire education has deprived you of this capacity because it was preparing you for the future, instead of showing you how to be alive now." -Alan Watts
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  1444. We need much more people like you are. Thank you.
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  1445. Love the intro. You make a lovely vampire. GREAT subject! Thank you Ana!
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  1446. Ohhh my god the clip of Blake lively literally invalidating women having domestic trauma by saying that women who’ve gone through that are “much more than just a survivor or victim” its almost as if she’s jealous of the rightful attention that victims of domestic violence get from todays society. edit: so I commented this before watching the complete video and as I got further in I began to realize that my original comment was exactly what you began to talk about and @AnaPsychology you're right about it being wrong to vilify her and other women during the most opportune time as it is what we tend to be manipulated into doing by the media. And also, like you said this is all probably being used by the studios and media to promote capital gain by having the controversies drive ticket sales and PR I think this is what should be talked about. This is the direction we should take when having these conversations. How we are easily manipulated by media. Not vilifying women like Olivia Wilde, Rachel Ziegler, and now Blake lively as they are also under the strings being pulled by the studios and media corporations. Others and I have been way to invested into this and it doesn't help when other yt channels take the opportunity to entertain people with more drama, misinformation, and manipulation as well.
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  1447. I've been hearing about these techniques myself I liked that you put the disclaimer at the end to not think if that works that that way of going about can keep a relationship going at best it'll only work for about a few dates but good idea though and interesting experiment tho
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  1448. Hey dr Ana, can you maybe do a video responding to the claims made by Erika Komisar. I saw her the other day on the Diary of a CEO Youtube channel and she made quite some claims. It gave off some quacky vibes, though I'm sure there's some truth to what she said. I know there's some differing results in the research on the effects of daycares. Last year I remember seeing a big European study reporting positive effects. Very curious what your take is about daycares and the role of mothers, etc.
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  1449. Ai o prezenta foarte placuta mi-a placut mult sa te ascult vorbind in romana! 💖
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  1450. I don't claim to be very in tune with the main critiques that the "that girl" trend has gotten,but personally I believe it goes beyond people "hating" only because its young girls doing it or because its not a very realistic life style.I think it has to do with the problems people have with the "romanticize your life" trend and the "that girl" trend is often just a more specific way for people to romanticize their lives.The problem is that its about reducing ourselves to being a character and an aesthetic rather than a full human being.The "that girl" lifestyle itself is great for a lot of people sure,but its the way it approaches such changes to your lifestyle that,at least personally,make me look at it in a much more negative light.Either way as always I love how you construct your videos and present your ideas and are one of the people I dont just tolerate but actually want to hear what you have to say.Keep up the great work,much love 🤍
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  1451. i can relate to the objectifying experience through dating apps so much 😭
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  1452. i got goosebumps reading the last paragraph of the excerpt, sooo excited
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  1453. Acest video mi-a amintit de bunicii mei, sfaturile lor sunt valoroase 💖 Îmi plac mult videourile tale și autenticitatea ta :) Salutări din Canada!
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  1454. I love Salem, I love living in Massachusetts! Lots of history in every town and city
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  1455. The Relationship House image you have is waaay nicer than what a google search brings up. Great summary too!
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  1456. my brother passed away in December 2019, I lost my job in January 2020, and my girl broke up with me in March prior to Covid19 lockdown.. imagine the loss i have..
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  1457. Thank you for this video. I always try to do my best to support women and since I was old enough to fully understand how to do that and make the conscious effort to do so, I have gotten better at it over the years. However, as Jamelia Jamil puts it, I don't know if I've spelt her name right, I would consider myself a 'feminist in progress' as I'm clearly not perfect at it for a multitude of reasons. I often find myself questioning a lot of my actions and thought patterns, past and present, on how I treat women. I seem to find myself every so often discovering that I need to unlearn so much more problematic and sexist views/actions than I previously realised. It's just so frustrating that misogyny is so entrenched in our society that as much as I try and be an ally to women, I sometimes still end up not being one without realising it. And even now I'm questioning whether everything I just said is somewhat unhelpful to women by implying that it's so much hard work to be a better man to women even though I don't mean it to come across that way and obviously me understanding and learning about it is less of challenge than actually dealing with misogyny on a regular basis. I guess what I'm trying to say is, it really sucks that we live in a world like this and that I may have/still do contribute to it some form or another because it's still so normalised. I hope that makes sense and if I have said anything in this comment that is incorrect/problematic/sexist etc, then please correct me. Sorry for the long comment, superb video as always!
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  1458. This is amazing, I really think psychedelics are quite unique and can make a real change in therapy and helping treat mental disorders if we just used them responsibly
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  1459. Amazing and well informed video as always!
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  1460. I’ve been looking forward to seeing your video notification pop up all morning haha!! ❤️ I’m excited to learn more about the differences between enmeshed and differentiated families
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  1461. I want to support my boys who will grow into men of the world soon...♥️
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  1462.  @AnaPsychology  Awww, that's a pity 😔 He must have been a very good man
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  1463. I love this channel. I have watched all videos.
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  1464. I lost my dad to suicide in November 2019. The grief never stops. I have cried, looked for answers and felt angry. I cry almost everyday. It's going to be a long journey for me.
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  1465. The way Romanian rolls off your lips😍 I like you even more now 💗😊😘
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  1466. this is so weird, i always intertwine envy with jealousy, i almost wish i was just envious about my friends but turns out i just really don’t want to lose them
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  1467. Good luck with your viva, advice from me who did his viva years ago, just try enjoy the process! Consider the fact the examiner have taken to the time to read your work and explore with you about your findings rather than them looking for criticisms.
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  1468. I would love a video on Ross/ Monica and to dive into how parental preference when it comes to children can determine personality traits later on such as how Monica is a perfectionist when it comes to everything in her life whereas Ross keeps making bad decisions and still expects things to work out in his favor. I love your videos they are so insightful 🧡
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  1469. Everyone’s favorite archetype nowadays 😂
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  1470. thank you so much for making these videos, I've only discovered your channel recently but it helped me so much <3
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  1471. These videos are so helpful🥺 Love from Romania 🤗💗
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  1472. i like that beachball analogy for suppressing emotions and pain. it really is like trying to drown a balloon
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  1473. This was a very insightful and we'll constructed video, Ana. It is not fair that this missing persons case was broadcasted so much when there are so many other women and girls that go missing as well. This world blames victims, and it's terrifying that we have to mask our normal emotions to appear competent and not be victim blamed. It is very important for women to stand up for one another.
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  1474. The septum piercing looks good on you
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  1475. Ana: '...people come with an unfair advantage... Life's not fair' Next Clip: 'Countess Chianti Sunbathing'......lol
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  1476. HUGE congratulations, Dr. Ana!!! Extremely excited for you and happy you're back!!! #WellDone 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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  1477. Congratulations! Incredibly happy for you and think it’s so wonderful that so many people are genuinely interested in psychology 😊♥️ 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 We all look forward to continuing to watch this channel grow!
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  1478. Yes to Desperate Housewives series! 😊 Also Sex and the City would be great.
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  1479. Love your channel , content and the way you present it plus Breaking Bad is one of my favourite shows of all time so really enjoying this. Thanks again, keep them coming. Peace and love.
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  1480. Honestly its remembering what your parents did to you and why fundamentally it was wrong from an emotional and well being standpoint to react in a way to be different rather than say or act like "i cant help but be the same way." Realize what they were going for and what boundaries or lines it crosses from helpful to damaging, then change it to be nurturing or as she put it in one of her earlier videos "to convince them its for their own good" but not force the choice either and let them feel consequences if they chose not to, just not to the point its damaging in the long run
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  1481. I saw the movie yesterday night and I really liked the psychological layer of it. The idea for a video Ana!: "Integration of parts in psychotherapy "
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  1482. You are amazing and so well spoken. This idea for a serious is genius. Looking forward to more of these analysis.
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  1483. So glad I found your channel. You’ve helped a ton with my personal life and self growth. Thanks for sharing
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  1484. Loved this video so much! I actually have been making observations in myself and others on these topics and you put these thoughts into words!!!
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  1485. Yes! Please explain the difference between Psychopathy and Sociopathy!
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  1486. I am so glad to hear your final results! Congratulations for the dissertation!
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  1487. Thank you for this video, it was great! I struggle with taking things too seriously and putting the weight of everything on myself and this is a wonderful reminder to let go and enjoy myself! Especially in the summer when the days are long and hot these suggestions feel so pleasant ☺️
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  1488. I remember in one video Ana mentioned marijuana for like a brief second and moved on. I wondered in the back of my mind if she would ever do a video of psychedelics at some point. My prayers were answered ✨
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  1489. I personally believe in fairies.
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  1490. Ooh so cool, I’d love to visit Hawaii sometime!!! :)
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  1491. Ana would you consider making a video about male feminists? there seems to be alot of debate right now, about whether they are genuine, or are just trying to manipulate girls for their own benefit.
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  1492. This is a really cool video idea, can’t wait to watch later! ☺️
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  1493. She comes across as so genuine and likeable
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  1494. (haven't watched vid yet) flirting is so fun! We can share that fun with partners :)
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  1495. I might need some therapy after seeing that cat lick the other one's 🟤 😬 😂 Also, thank you for addressing the onslaught of TikTok advice
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  1496. Just to add a little bit to a small part of your video: You mentioned that the first runes weren't from the Scandinavian countries. I felt it might be somewhat interesting to add: We know of a good handfull of runic alphabets at this point. And most people associate runes with vikings. Interestingly enough, the runes people most often use/associate with the vikings most often come from the Elder Futhark alphabet, which does in fact predate the vikings, who mostly used the Younger Futhark alphabet. There are some repeats of the runes in both alphabets, but I still find it interesting.
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  1497. I appreciate all the work you put into these vids, Anna! I am putting work into being stable.
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  1498. wow you brought up so many new points for me to reflect on! especially the pathologizing part. thank you dr. ana
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  1499. i watch basically every video you make and I just gotta say, I admire you a ton! pretty asf, smart, and the fact that you share a bunch of free info for others to learn from is amazing :) I learn a lot from your videos bc I have bpd so I guess you could say I have a lot of unhelpful behaviors... lol. I can't wait to see your channel grow 🥺 btw I need a top like that it's SO CUTE
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  1500. OMG, you’re Romanian? :O I’ve been following your journey here on YouTube from when you had just a couple of thousand subscribers because I like your style and I’m a psychology student myself. But hearing that you’re Romanian is really amazing! Fellow Romanian here :) Congrats on your channel and on almost hitting 100k, that’s really inspiring!
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  1501. The enddddd sis I was caught off guard💀💀
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  1502. I hear a lot of people say that psychological vampires can talk endlessly about topics that only interest them, without caring about the other person in the conversation. Being autistic, I'm guilty of shifting conversation towards my special interests, though I try my best to talk about the interests of others too. I hope that doesn't make me a psychological vampire, cause I see a bit of myself in Colin Robinson when he's all nerdy about certain topics 😅 Unfortunately, you see the term "energy vampire" thrown around a lot both irl and social media, like the term "sociopath". Thank you for the informative video <3 loving this series!
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  1503. This was scarily timely
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  1504. I am here for this conversation!!
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  1505. Thanks ana I'm struggling with something I did nearly 10 years ago and this has been helpful in my reflection.
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  1506. Hi Ana, by the way i like your mint green top it really suits you...i'm fascinated by linguistics, how & when language formed .. Ive just noted down the forms of intelligence you talk about., thank you. Interesting that autistic young children communicate in subtle ways when they are overwhelmed by interpersonal contact. This compensationary behaviour may be artistic or musical. It is very moving to see, because their minds are trying to adjust....there is a disconnect that must be very frightening to them because adults put socialising upon them . Their intelligence is there and sparkling, yet it's locked in a box of some kind. 🧡🌿💜🌱 .
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  1507. Thanks for your consistently helpful uploads
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  1508. This is a helpful guidance. I appreciate the time and energy you put into this. Xo
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  1509. She mentioned the moon! OMG 😂 Seriously tho I dig the vibes here keep UP the good work Ana fooooor reals. Stay in alignment good people 🙃😎✌️
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  1510. Yaaaay thank you Ana!! 5 years ago I took Mushrooms and they changed my life, ever since then I have had a sense of direction and purpose. I like how you put at the end of the video, different exercises one can make, to have some of the psychedelic experiences in every day life.
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  1511. The situation in Turkey and Syria is heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹 My other half and I donated the money we would have spent on Valentines gifts and dinner few days ago and it felt so good.
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  1512. Victorian clothes and puffed sleeves are the solutions to any bad day :) !
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  1513. Love this video! I’ve been watching you for a while and your videos are comforting to watch for me,, like you’re an older sister giving me advice lol Keep it up <3
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  1514. Hi first of all great video. I’m ceremonial magician and have studied demonology extensively. I just want to point out that demons are almost never described as beings of pure evil. Mostly their powers are to educate and impart knowledge, they can also cause harm but equally heal, cause love and equally sow discord but in general their powers, according to grimoires, are centered around teaching humanity rather than harming it, if only as you say they can be integrated and accepted rather than rejected and demonized.
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  1515. I learn so much from your videos. Thanks for sharing this.
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  1516. I really feel that in order to live a fulfilling life, whatever you choose to do should involve some kind of creation, which will serve humanity in some way. i think then you can say, you have lived a significant and meaningful life. Also the last point of using suffering is one I really resonate with. At this point I don't let suffering or failures affect me, I've just learnt to use them to motivate me to create videos, to help other people.
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  1517. Having more women like you would not hurt. This is a very clear and concise guide for men.
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  1518. Thank you again Miss Ana Psychology
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  1519. I have bad anxiety and depression and have started getting better using right medication. And opening up to the world I'm a big lad who seen to be tough but it's OK not to OK especially when men are too proud
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  1520. So much yes. I think we all need to hear this right now. ♥️
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  1521. I have mostly southern and western African genes while I'm 15% northern European. That’s where I get the blonde hair from
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  1522. I can already hear the simp jokes. But Great content btw!!
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  1523. Great video. I'm definitely a Jungian. What he gave us is priceless.
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  1524. Ana I love your opinions!! I dont think that fights all have to be all extroverted actions such as screaming name calling etc. Cant fights also be something like... the cold shoulder... always doubting what they say.. not considering how your actions make the other feels? Passive aggressive type of behavior...? Maybe this is no longer a fight... but this can be the way some people have learned how to fight... especially if they grew up in a family where they were not allowed to express their negative emotions... What do you think? Imo this is very harmful
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  1525. Thank you Ana for sharing this. Going through the most difficult time. Your grandmas words helped ease some of my pain.
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  1526. Oooooh she’s a candidate nowwwww! Your hard work will pay off queen! 👑
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  1527. OMG YES. You mentioned her once and I really wished that you invite her into one of your videos. ❤️
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  1528. Hi Dr.Ana I laughed out loud when you hesitated with the pronunciation of ephemeral. As a non-native English speaker, I always mess up this kind of word, I relate!
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  1529. Your timing is so perfect lol i just got diagnosed with limerence a few days ago
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  1530. Oh my god! 😭😭😭 I love you! It happened to me recently and it was so so frustrating! I'm so happy to see this video!
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  1531. I think 3:22 is the key right there. Knowing that we are mortal and the clock ticks can boost your motivation or anxiety, but it's a helpful fact to abide life on.
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  1532. ACAB. All cats are beautiful.💓🎁 🐯 🐟
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  1533. Oh Congratulations!!!🎉👍😁😄😃😊🤩👏🙌💙 You've been a HUGE help to us!!!
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  1534. Thank you Ana for this instructive video of yours. I liked what you've said about not wanting to derive your self-esteem from others' opinions, unfortunately there are people who are driven by acknowledgement, and I'm not proud to say that I'm one of them. I've been anxious and feeling down lately thinking that I'm not doing well on my internship because of this syndrome and because of this lack of acknowledgement. The timing of your video is amazing, I'll go by the tips you've given. Thank you again, you're doing a great job, keep shining the way you are ❤
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  1535. Living our most productive and meaningful life by taking care of both the physical & spiritual self - love that 💗
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  1536. heyyy you got subtitles, love youuuu 🦋✨
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  1537. Love to see a lighthearted/fun video!! ☺️
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  1538. I would love to see a video about journaling methods! Tysm 😊 24:44
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  1539. My guess is the stress reducing convo lol. But fr I guess it’s just that they really implement the changes and talk openly about what’s going on, and swallow their pride and accept that they need to change things and that’s okay.
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  1540. Beautiful fun n loving couple!
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  1541. you look great with red hair
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  1542. Could you do a video about the psychology of the side chick ( Or the other women - friends and more .. ) Why do a women end up in such a relationship Thank you 🙏🏻
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  1543. Thank you for giving this information to the public in an easy way to understand. It really helps lots of people to change themselves for the better.
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  1544. I'm Italian and I'm definitely not relaxing, enjoying life or doing niente 🤡 But yeah your pronunciation is good
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  1545. Congrats Ana. I believe the quick success of the channel is it’s not an echo chamber and when you do cover stories and topics that may not pertain to the general populace or average viewer, it’s not done disingenuously to garner more subscribers or just plain lip service. Buna treaba.
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  1546. Ana I know this is not your niche, but could you maybe share your skin routine and diet(very interested in this) that may be contributing to your seemingly outstanding skin health!
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  1547. Congrats!!! I’m starting my first practicum TODAY, thank you for all of your videos that have been with me on the journey to get to this point. You have been an inspiration 😊
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  1548. Wooow, I had no idea that you were Romanian, bravo!!!! Way to go, my darling!!!!
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  1549. Absolutely stunning
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  1550.  @AnaPsychology  Exactly. While influencers are not explicitly telling us to do what they do, many viewers seem to interpret and internalize the content, feeling like they should copy the influencer’s lifestyle to be more productive and achieve success. That’s why it’s crucial to focus on your own productivity, and what’s most convenient for you rather than compare yourself with others.
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  1551. Finally. I video just for me
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  1552. Oh wow thanks dearie 🖤
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  1553. Very solid❤ they should have this in school
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  1554. Omg this is embarrassing for the person who wrote this article😅. Otherwise I totally agree with what you said, love you 💖💖
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  1555. After only one year going to integrative therapy I can assure you its the people that say they dont need therapy the ones that miiight need it very badly
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  1556. Congrats! I really like your channel, the way you link series such as desperate housewives with psychological terms. Greetings from Spain.
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  1557. First comment?🥺 I adore your videos!
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  1558. Hey, you got your doctorate! Thats fantastic! Congratulations!!
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  1559. Nu stiam ca esti romanca pentru un timp lung, dar ah, imi pare atat de bine! Iubesc ce faaaci!
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  1560. I wish I had discovered your channel years ago. I left an abusive relationship almost a year ago (it’ll be a year at the end of the month!), and it’s so wild looking back at all the things I thought were normal now that I’m away from that environment.
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  1561. Ana, you're such a sweet person! As someone who's very interested in psychology you really help me out quite a bit, and it's really easy to understand what you're saying. Thank you so much! 🥺💛💛
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  1562. At the beginning of the video I immediately thought narcissist for sure! This was super interesting💕
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  1563. Do an intro in Romanian then switch back
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  1564. Good luck with your dissertation!
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  1565. YES desperate housewives, please analyse more people, it is so interesting
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  1566. Thank you Dr. Ana for including your course I'm the mental health bundle! US dollars are super expensive in my currency and i can finally get access to it! 🎉
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  1567. This is sooo cuteeeee 😂😂😂😂
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  1568. I love your videos ❤
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  1569. Man, I love this channel so incredibly much. Thank you for your service to humanity. (And don't worry Ana, I do pay for therapy, I go every other week, your channel isn't making me think I don't need it, but rather making me realize it how much work I have left to do with my therapist.)
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  1570. I would be fascinated to hear some of the cultural reasons why or how these cultural archetypes have been perpetuated in society I would suspect that religion plays a role.. but that may be too controversial to mention..
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  1571. Great video and excellent channel! I just subscribed I'm really impressed so far. I'm in the later stages of a forensic psychology graduate program and I share your concerns about these videos and the proliferation of "coaches" who lack professional credentials and education. Most of this is no better than taking advice from friends or family, which is often questionable. A professional who understands relevant issues such as human development, the role of attachment to caregivers. the significance of attachment in later relationships, and how people grieve would be better suited to help if you are experiencing significant, long-term distress from a break-up. The obvious lack of research, the endorsement of manipulative behaviors, and the "pop psychology" on display in these videos is likely to do more harm than good. And, as a security professional, I would add that some of these behaviors may result in orders of protection or other unpleasant consequences. Caveat emptor!
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  1572. Ana Halloweek videos go so hard duuuude Really loved hearing your insights & I will need to check out your novel 👀
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  1573. I’ve never really dealt much with envy, but I’m still looking forward to watching the video after work!!! Hope you have a great weekend Ana ☺️
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  1574. This was cutest and such a wise video. I have a very similar thinking to her, I try to look at the positives at all times but then I think is that okay to deal with negative times? And now I know it is. :) Hope the salad turned out amazing (i am sure it did) 😂
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  1575. I love that you are so passionate about Halloween. It's one of my favourite times of the year as well even though I haven't ever been able to celebrate Halloween as I come from a country where it isn't celebrated. Happy Halloween. 👻✨
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  1576. Tell your grandma I said hi 👋 I wish I knew a few mos ago before my former partner and I broke up. It’s always not good to respond to someone in the same (unpleasant) way they’re doing to you.
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  1577. I never heard anyone talk about this before but I needed advice about this topic !!
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  1578. my therapist told me the difference between guilt and shame so thank you for this
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  1579. My grandpa passed away last year in January, it's been kinda long but I don't think I'm over it yet lol
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  1580. Love this video, and so glad I found this channel! 💛 Would you say non weight related complements about someone's body are okay or no? Like complements about their hair/makeup. Also what you said about modelling healthy eating behaviours is so important! I feel like it lets the person know that they can explore their relationship/desires around food in a shame free environment with non judgemental company! Plus it's a non pressuring and indirect invitation to eat if they feel comfortable enough with you. Thank you for making this really informative video 🌸✨
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  1581. aha I’m triggered
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  1582. 7:00 planning multiple scenarios in the head - my favorite thing to do
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  1583. That's interesting, what an excellent analysis of an important stage in our societies cultural lifecycle. Would you consider expanding this survey to the 20 themes in the future, &/or would you consider doing a video deconstructing the abstract categories you identified? You've put in the preparation & have earned this opportunity, that's all the luck you need :] I'm certain you'll do wonderfully defending your dissertation, Ana! Excited to see what you decide to do with your talents & time next.
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  1584. Been a while since i watched one of your videos, glad to see ure still uploading bangers Ana!!
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  1585. Honestly I just love your grandma she’s so down to earth
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  1586. Love your curls Ana! Do you prefer your hair straightened or curly? Could you also go into how body modification (both big and small... like straightening/dyeing/cutting hair, piercings, tattoos, plastic surgery) affects mental health? Also, happy new year to you!
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  1587. Very interesting topic, thank you!!
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  1588. This was very informative. Thank you.
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  1589. Damn this was an interesting watch
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  1590. Such a helpful video! Thank you. I‘ll print the transcript out and read it regularly.
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  1591. WoW Ana thank you so much I'm a newer subscriber within the last month or so and I really love your content thanks again!!!
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  1592. Love the fit
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  1593. Ok but how many wigs do you have? 😂
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  1594. You look great with the curly butterfly hair and the contacts. You should definitely do it more for videos.
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  1595. Thank you for confirming something I have instinctively followed from childhood. I.E. Seasons,(grow up on the beach in California with only with only two seasons beautiful but limited) now living in Flagstaff Arizona, something drew me here and it's been 31 years and I'm truly truly able to overcome any depression with a simple walk outside. Well done and greatly respect your findings.
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  1596. Of all the dysfunctions with my relationship to my father, lacking a good sense of humour and fun is luckily not one of them. I have been passed a great ability to make life fun and funny, for myself and everyone around. I didn't realise how much of a light in the darkness this was for myself and others around me. Life has always been a playground for me. As the great Billy Connelly said: "Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on."
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  1597. This was an excellent video and helped me evaluate a trip I have coming up. I was on the fence but now I’m sure I need to take it or I’ll regret not seeing my husband’s family and letting my son meet the other half of his family. It was just what I needed to hear! Thank you for your videos
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  1598. I love your videos soo much <3 It helped me with some of my life decisions & you look so pretty <33
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  1599. ¡Gracias! Saludos 🇲🇽
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  1600. Lmao Ana you are not dull at all. Honestly I think your work is groundbreaking for the YouTube psych community. Unlike some of the others here, you are young smart and relatable, far from dull. Not to mention you could probably breakdown part by part of the psychology behind why people are so insecure that they feel the need to say rude things or bring others down on social media, specifically from and account that is completely depersonalized. Anyway, peace, love and all that hippie shit ☮️❤️💫
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  1601. This is so wholesome 😭😭❤️❤️
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  1602. I'm Mexican and i love día de muertos💖
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  1603. Amazing well researched video as always
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  1604. thank you! was waiting for this video 💖
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  1605. This is exactly what I needed.
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  1606. this is incredibly helpful. how insightful and wise she is, thank you so much for sharing. Xx
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  1607. Looks like Ana found an excuse to wear all those wigs :'-D Good one, the wigs look good :-D
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  1608. Great video Ana! I think Beth Harmon would be a cool character to analyze btw!! :D Keep it up!!
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  1609. This video is for me 😂
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  1610. I was about to sleep but you uploaded💛✨ New stuff to learn, thank you for this Ana!
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  1611. It seems like I show some symptoms of OCPD. My mom is not a narcissist but she is a very critical person (along with most of my family on her side). In turn I grown up to be a very critical person. I'm very rigid and suborn with my beliefs but I've learned to be a bit more open to other's ideas and beliefs. Although, it often feels like I have an obsession with knowing everything and being right all the time. Idk.
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  1612. I wrote myself a letter for next year recently. I can’t imagine writing one for my 70 yo self. Good video, the decluttering part is one that I want to consider soon.
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  1613. hahaha loved this
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  1614. That's not what she's saying at all. She's saying that often what happens is that someone leaves the religion and then mistake this with having deconstructed their beliefs and thought patterns, when these two things are not the same. So then what happens is that they go to the opposite extreme of being non-religious but just as dogmatic as they were before. So then an actual example of someone having deconstructed is Shari remaining in her religion but having a much healthier relationship with it. And on the atheist end, the equivalent would probably be Drew from Genetically Modified Skeptic. He's a former fundamentalist, now an atheist, but he's known as the "Mr Rogers" of atheists, i.e. he's very moderate and considered in his views and attitude. The point is, whether you remain a part of the religion you were raised in or not, deconstruction means unlearning dogma. But many people leave the religion but maintain dogma. That's what Dr Ana is talking about here.
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  1615. I want to hear about Ross and his "loser mentality" 😂 and Monica's and Richard's relationship. Do you think their relationship was healthier then her and Chandlers?
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  1616. I don't mean to be weird but I would LOVE to see Ana as an animated movie character. She's so distinct, has a characteristic way of speaking, has unique visual elements and is so adorable too! I am a design student and I would so love to create an intelligent, cute, fun, witty character out of Ana
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  1617. Excited to learn 🖤
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  1618. Thank you for this video Ana! I had a friendship breakup in the last year, and it was a pretty intertwined, toxic one. I had to end it after many years of problems. I wasn’t always a great friend, and I’m glad I was able to let her know that before it ended, but I never really got closure on some of the very hurtful and manipulative things that happened to me with her. I think about it often, and doubt my feelings and stance, but ultimately we couldn’t see eye to eye. Loved your perspective! 😌
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  1619. Ty for this /: I needed it.
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  1620. Hi Ana, how are you?💕 Thank you for this video, it was very interesting. I wanted to ask if you could do a video on addiction, more specifically on how to stop smoking. I want to support/help my father get through it, since he has been struggling with this a long time, but I don’t know where to start. Thank you very much!🌹
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  1621. this is kind of unexpected... the music reminds me of this album that was always on around the time my friend passed away 18 years ago (from 2 days ago, actually). i didn't expect to fade off into images of Hawaii, and music and memories of my friend... but here we are.
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  1622. I’m so glad I discovered your channel!! I’ve been binging them for 3 days 😅 I took AP Psych last year and it was my favorite class. Although I know that I’m not going to college for Psych (I’m doing music) I still love learning as much as I can, so thank you!! ❤️
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  1623. Neat, helpful as per usual.
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  1624. First minute yay 🎉 always great to get a notification from this channel
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  1625. E DD - I’m a female (name can be misleading). Not only do I appreciate the content produced on this channel, but I’m always interested in the comments elicited by the video. I like that it isn’t an echo chamber and that men often contribute to the dialogue. We don’t all have to agree with others opinions, however, I believe it’s important that we try to remain open to the opportunity to learn. It can be difficult as we’ve all got inherent biases and we’ve all been hurt to some degree. I can sometimes lash out with negative statements against men. When I reflect back on this reactive behaviour, I often feel quite ashamed; I don’t want to generalise men this way. I’m lucky in my life that I’ve known some truly amazing men as it helps to counteract the negativity I can sometimes feel towards men. It’s unfortunate that our negative experiences can sometimes leave a more significant stain on our psyche, more so than our positive experiences.
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  1626. Wow, this is a GREAT topic. ♥️
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  1627. Really loved this video... I think an example of Monica compromising morals and ethics would be when she and chandler went to meet Erica to adopt her child. There was a mix-up and they were not the couple Erica actually chose but Monica lied and pretended to be that couple in order to officially sign the adoption papers. It was Chandler who talked Monica out of lying and pretending.....
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  1628. This was such a beautiful video to watch. Lots of love to you Ana and you’re grandma ♥️
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  1629. Cute fit 💖 great video!!
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  1630. Love this synchronicity!! I just got my post published about this same topic for the psychoeducational IG I volunteer for! Great video, as always 💛
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  1631. I'm really sorry about your cat. I'm glad he or she is alright. as far as abused becoming an abuser I think that while narcissism or psychopathy can be a part of that if someone has predisposition to that but in general its most often anger and frustration or desire for vengeance rather than narcissism or psychopathy.
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  1632. Wonderful content and perfect timing. Thank you so much, Ana! Keep up the great work. You're making a difference in this world.
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  1633. Girl i love your eyebrows!!! 😍😍😍 youre stunning! Great video btw!! I really loved it
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  1634. Interesting topic and I'm exited to hear your thoughts on it
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  1635. I majored in Latinx Studies at NYU where we had some really good professors and discussions. I actually did a project for a class where I researched Latina representation on film and TV. Every academic article I read discussed their representation in terms of the Madonna/wh*re dichotomy (or other similar terms). The Latina woman in the Anglo American POV started out as sexualized, spicy/spitfire, exotic, and always DTF the white man. When people said “Hey this is problematic” they went to the complete opposite end of the spectrum. This character is somehow virginal/unsexualized even though she’s a mother, instead of the love interest she’s the maid. So yes Gaby isn’t the Madonna or Marianismo figure, but she falls under the other end of the spectrum. The show introduces her as a beautiful, sexy former model who has a husband and a side piece. She stands up to Carlos like the spitfire stereotype. So that’s where Latina representation is limited. They have to show Latinas as complex character who are not one extreme stereotype or the other. Women don’t have to be one thing all the time and never change.
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  1636. I love your videos, please could you make one that talks on how to overcome insecurities and improve self steem?
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  1637. I love these types of youtube videos because I can actually learn new things and watch out for signs, even if I haven’t been in the situation before.
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  1638. I'll definitely try these with my future boyfriend.🥰
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  1639. So informative 💯
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  1640. yay! i'm early
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  1641. SOOOOO MUCH RESPECT FOR YOU ❤️❤️ preach it.
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  1642. I am so glad I came across your channel… every single video is so enlightening. ❤
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  1643. So glad you're doing this!! ♡ Proud of you
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  1644. Uhh, what an interesting theme! Definitly helpful for the everyday world
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  1645. excellent insightful advice - honest brilliance - very much needed by all kinds of people
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  1646. Thankyou so much for this video 🍁
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  1647. don’t worry it’s really sweet of you for taking the time to respond ❤️
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  1648. shoving your religion down other people’s throats is unnecessary. religion was created to control masses, that’s all irrelevant to me.
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  1649. Girl you played me I thought this was alr a posted video 😭😭😹 I’m super excited for this!
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  1650. You explain things really well, I get excited for every vid you post lol xx
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  1651. Thank you so much, this was very well needed. I appreciate your positivity and light in this time of year. Keep being you Ana. 💞
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  1652. Dear Ana, as always thank you for the content ! Always so sweet and honest. xx
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  1653. r/WitchesVsPatriarchy
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  1654. Thanks so much. This is important information. I’m learning a lot from you…
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  1655. Thank you so much for the video Ana. You never disappoint us as always. This was really helpful...❤❤❤
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  1656. I would kill for Countess Ciante; I would fight a mountain lion and god himself for Countess Ciante
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  1657. Hey Ana! I just found your channel a couple of days ago and I 've been enjoying your content. You are so pretty and smart. I was wondering what you think about personality tests such as enneagram and Myers–Briggs? Are they an adequate reflection of a person?
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  1658. Thank you so much for this video, Ana! Like always, super informative and helpful. Your Romanian sounds very good. Do you speak it fluently? (I'm Romanian too)
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  1659. Couldn’t agree more! Wish i could translate it to other languages and share it around. Finding your channel was finding the needle in the haystack
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  1660. Draga Ana, de cateva zile ti-am descoperit canalul si nu m-as fi gandit ca esti romanca, nici macar cand am vazut lipsa unui al doilea "n" in numele tau. Foarte interesant clipul si foarte interesant canalul tau in general. Happy Halloween! 🐱🦇🕸
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  1661.  @AnaPsychology  sure! I was born in Argentina but i've lived in Spain for almost all my life, so i can tell you about both latin-Spanish and european Spanish. We use "machismo" for "sexism", because in Spanish we make the distinction between: machismo and sexismo. Machismo is the belief that men are superior to women, and sexismo is discrimination against people because of their gender (it doesn't necessarily has to be from men against women, it can also be from women against men). I searched for articles in English about the concept of machismo and they describe it the same way as you do! but in Spanish it's used as "sexism". I would say that when we talk about the "machismo" you are refering to, we probably just say "masculinidad tóxica" (toxic masculinity), and if you call someone "machista" (which means he possesses attitudes that are driven by machismo) it literally just means that that person is misogynistic. I hope I explained it well! :)
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  1662. Video on DBT would be really helpful! I enjoy your videos so much, the way you explain difficult things makes it so easy to understand them! I like psychology and your videos inspire me, the way you validate everyone and help people to discover themselves. I hope one day I can be a great psychologist just like you are :)
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  1663. Love the relationship videos!
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  1664. Is English your first language? How are you so well spoken? You just express your thoughts and explains things so well!
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  1665. I’ve never really considering having a cosmetic procedure done, but I feel if it makes a person happy/is what they really want no harm in it
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  1666. The content is awesome as usual, but can I just say this lighting is so satisfying!?! Really nice colour balance, etc.
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  1667. Great video Ana! I was just starting to consider my resolutions yesterday when I hit the gym.I need to think of more resolutions but my main one is to focus more on myself and my health. I’m getting my physical condition up now so that I can get a workout in 4-5 times a week. I’m also gonna start looking up more varied recipes so I can cook for myself more and break my eating out and overspending habit. Two little goals, but I know they are gonna make me feel a lot better about myself as well as being habits I want to keep for life!
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  1668. I just recently discussed this with a friend of mine now that I’m back in college for a second time (grad school), can’t wait to see the video!! ☺️
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  1669. The amount of knowledge and content you pack in every video always amazes me. This is getting bookmarked. BTW you background is adorable.
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  1670. Yass, we need a video in Maslow triangle, thank you
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  1671. I’m dead you said I care about my mental health when talking about the debate 💀that was an awful debate I was annoyed the whole time
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  1672. I’m a 19 yr old psychology college student working in the field of ABA and the estimated graduation date for me to obtain my BA is almost exactly a year from now. I just wanted to say this video has helped me immensely thank you Ana!
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  1673. Hi girl, your content is amazing. I just subscribed 🌸🌸🌸
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  1674. nu stiam ca esti româncă🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰.la un moment dat,m am gandit ca s ar putea sa nu fi american jdndndndndnndnfmdmndndnx
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  1675. Such a helpful toolkit for sufferers of trauma, like myah, thank you!
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  1676. Thank you Dr. Ana 🙏
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  1677. your grandma is so sweet
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  1678. Excited to hear your recommendations!! Been lacking stuff to read lately outside of what I read for grad school 😅
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  1679. doctor, youtuber, and author? damn
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  1680. I know in the west the have mythology about ghosts, vampires, and witches but in the Middle East they have scarier ones. And supposedly there is a book too, and if you were to perform the rituals right then you can have command over them. My cousins grandpa tried it, it didn’t go so well and he never spoke of it after.
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  1681. You remind me of my old therapist . She was great!
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  1682. Absolutely great video series 🌼 never before heard this approach to monsters and psychology! Also Hello from Eastern Europe (Latvia) 🌹🌸 visited Brasov, Romania and saw that castle where Vlad never really lived. 😄 Romania is stunning, mountains and castles are incredible! The people aswell. Many hugs! Looking forward to next episodes!
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  1683. Oohhh yay, Halloween’s one of my favorite days of the year!!! 🙏
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  1684. I have a guess but I don't know how to word it properly. I watched this video once that went over an experiment and basically couples that have little interactions and actually engage each other when it comes to something as little as noticing a bird or something like that tend to last longer. Compared to just ignoring it because it's only a bird or whatever it may be? But the point being caring about the little things makes the relationship!
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  1685. I speak Portuguese and I was looking away from the subtitles and could totally get the gist of what she was saying. So interesting!
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  1686. You're from Princess world ❤️🌍
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  1687. Loved it! I used to have a black cat with a white patch on his tummy. He must have thought he was actually a dog because he followed me EVERYWHERE even when I left the house for walks in the forest near my house. He would always find a way to get involved in whatever I was doing, constantly demanding pets and play. He'd 'help' with my homework (usually trying to catch my pen as it moved across the page, throwing my highlighters around, or laying on whatever it was I was trying to write on). I wonder if it is a black cat thing? He was the most sociable little guy ever and even though it's been years since he passed I still miss his nutty little presence.
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  1688. Could you make a video about studying ? Or efficient studying methods according to you or literature ? Thought about it as you mentionned flashcards.
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  1689. Thank you so much for this video, being assertive is something I've been really inconsistent with!! <3
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  1690. Wow, just wow!!! I knew I'd Iceland's beauty but seeing it in this video really begins it home. I am guessing @AnaPsychology didn't go to see the random war plane in the middle of the frozen desert, it looks like a film set and was used in a music video. Also looks like you ate well, especially what looked like Icelandic Fish 'n' Chips!!!👍
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  1691. Loved the video and you look great with the septum piercing 💖💖
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  1692. Happy halloweek everyone, looking forward to listening to this 🎃
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  1693. Girrrl love that I subscribed cause Almost every vid is so relevant! I’m picking up on my progress for 2024 for real I’ve been wanting to tap into creative projects and it’s not just gonna pop into thin air I have to do it/start ! 😅 let’s go!
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  1694. screaming geometrically
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  1695. Ma bucur ca youtube-ul a inceput sa imi recomande iar clipurile tale❤ Trec printr-o perioada mai ciudata si clipurile tale de self help ajuta foarte mult
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  1696. This was high key triggering as a female. 😅
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  1697. Hey, off topic but you look like an angel ☺♡
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  1698. Congrats on the almost candidacy haha ☆♡ Im a firm believer that DBT should be taught in middle school
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  1699. I am a feminine guy and I had to deal with a lot of shame for being gender non-conforming. It's gotten better and I became a bit more confident, but it is still hard to be my truest self.
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  1700.  @AnaPsychology  Aw, I'm sorry. He sounded like a great person though. As someone who plays the cello, I really liked the fact that he knew about concerts and composers haha. But yeah, after I wrote the comment, I realized I had assumed that he was still alive and well, sorry about that. Btw sorry if using the term "Bubu" was sort of weird, like in a "budding into a private thing" sort of way. I was just trying to get a few laughs.
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  1701. I love the work you do here on YouTube.
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  1702. Not only are your videos educational and interesting but visually pretty as well! Btw LOVE your look in this video!
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  1703. Please do a an update video for your mental journal :)
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  1704. This came at the perfect time
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  1705. Pure gold
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  1706. Donated. I’m going to raise awareness of this fundraiser with my friends and fellow students, the more eyes on this the better 🙌🏽
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  1707. I love your content 🫶🏻
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  1708. aww you look so gorgeous! i’ve learned so much from your videos and i love being able to see you laid back and having fun:)
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  1709. Journaling is always an effective way to express suppressed emotions in a healthy way I agree with learning to have gratitude even though it isn’t easy at times depending on the situation interesting book by the way will be sure to check it out
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  1710. I like how you engage with your community. It's probably one of the causes for your channel growing so fast ♥️ (and the content as well, of course)
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  1711. Hi ana! Ive been subscribed to you for a long time now bc i love the way u really explain and study a topic thoroughly before making a video about it which is soooo proffesional😭❤️ This is the first time u made a video that was more relatable to me and helpful for my personal life. Please make more videos relating to topics like these if you could, ex enxiety, self confidence, how to make habits, productivity, highschool problems, how to be strong mentally, have a productive busy schedule, socializing, panupilation etc. I feel like these are the topics that almost everybody at least once in their life has struggled from so it will help alot of people and your channel will also grow!
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  1712. Ana I loved this! I’m glad you’re showing us more of you outside of psychology 😊 please make more of these kinds of videos!
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  1713. This is precious thank you
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  1714. Thanks for the advice! I’ve been thinking heavily about the goals I want accomplished by the end of the summer, but I forgot that summer is all about play! I will infuse play and levity to my aspirations 😈🧁🔥🧚‍♂️
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  1715. Always bringing good content with a good frequency. Love the channel, love from Brasil
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  1716. My family is so enmeshed and it bothers only me, it’s hard but I am working on it !
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  1717. It’s synchronistic that you posted this video today😊
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  1718. Wow, so fascinating. I've never heard of the experiment. That's really cool. So I'm just six people away from anyone. Funny way to start a conversation. Very helpful to identify the target. I tend to rely very much on intuition. I normally lack the barometer which tells who I like. I feel an even friendly connection to anyone. I hate deciding on people. Even though I am often alone, I feel a lot of connection to people. But I guess this is only unilateral. Thank you for your helpful information:)
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  1719. I love these Desperate Housewives videos! I watched it when it first came out even though I was too young to understand lol. But I def rewatched as an adult. Btw I would love to watch your take on the Netflix show Dating Around. Season 2 just came out. Basically it’s a more realistic portrayal of what it’s like dating in the modern world, in contrast to The Bachelor where it’s all good looking (mostly white, heavily heterosexual) people and it’s staged for drama. Dating Around is diverse in racial and sexual identities and even has an episode dedicated to elderly people, which you would NEVER see on standard reality TV.
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  1720. Thank you for making the video😊
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  1721. Good to keep in mind if I start dating soon. This is probably TMI but I already enjoy making love looking deep into each others eyes so when the brain releases oxytocin you feel closer and more bonded. For other positions make sure it's well lit and there are mirrors. It's powerful stuff and not everyone wants to 'connect' that deeply so keep that in mind...Human Sexuality Psych class is so enjoyable when you're open your mind to learn. =)
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  1722. I am a future-aspiring clinical psychology grad student so your channel is very helpful for giving me some kind of insight into the current state of what's being taught to grad students. 1. Do you have an intended area of specialization in mind? 2. To what extent, if any, do you imagine yourself using DBT in your own autonomous clinical setting? 3. Would you ever care to take a jab at making a video on Autism Spectrum Disorder? I saw your video on body language and thought to myself "great, now if Tinder could just add a 'enrolled in clinical psych grad program' filter" because although you're almost certainly neurotypical yourself, you seemed to have a solid grasp on the topic to the extent that it's essentially the stance that I as an autistic adult would prefer my therapist to have. Dunno if these will be answered but regardless, great content. Neat little way to solidify and reinforce what you learn in your coursework while simultaneously informing others. Also, love the "I'm gonna intentionally wear the most bland shirt I possibly can so that strangely judgmental person from the last video won't have a panic attack" approach. Watch her comment on how much makeup you're wearing next.
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  1723. Ooh that nose ring looks so good
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  1724. I am LOVING this journal sponsorship! Journaling has been a big goal for me in the new year. I'm so excited to order!
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  1725. OMG she is so beautiful♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️. I can't take my eyes off from her😍😍😍.
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  1726. ok when the little royalty free music hit, I had to leave a like 😤
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  1727. Thank you for making this! A video I never knew I needed!!! Love from India❤️
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  1728. I’m having a really bad day thank you Ana it’s really good to hear your voice
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  1729. just here to say I absolutely love all of your videos, they're so educational and inspiring. thank you so much, and please, never stop! x
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  1730. My mom always taught me to use i statements
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  1731. Related but unrelated, loving that winged liner! Go get them!!
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  1732. Thank you so much, this was so valuable ♥️
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  1733. Season 2 is also worth watching, we see his parents and other interesting turns
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  1734. Such a helpful video. I know you're super busy at the moment but you are totally nailing your channel content and quality right now!
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  1735. kind of. growth mindset is saying that u can improve aspects of yourself. this was saying you might never have been those things you were telling yourself in the first place. Where do these beliefs come from? Are they actually valid? they might be hindering you if you are over or under confident.
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  1736. Thank you for posting. You are very appreciated.
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  1737. What about BPD? Lack of ability to integrate and enjoy the greys.. Skin picking as a form of self harm? lack of boundaries meaningless sexual encounters Low self value arrested development and playing the role of her mother's child, instead of an individuated adult enmeshment at home, yet she seems to really not connect with anyone, almost like feeling like she doesn't belong, relate..
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  1738. I wish I'd done this with my grandma when she was still alive, someday you'll look back at these videos with awe. Your grandma sounds lovely! 🥰
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  1739. I am so glad I found your channel
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  1740. The video I've been waiting for! Gonna be very interesting
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  1741. Ana, great video! I am lucky and grateful to have a very supportive husband, who does his share of household chores and really respects my efforts. My dad also helps my mom a lot, cooking, cleaning, shopping for groceries. I remember something that happened to me in middle school and at that time it really flabbergasted me, but I think it illustrates why men find it so difficult to defend women: my deskmate was a boy. We were about 13 years old. I was not very popular in my class, to put IT mildly, but we got along quite well. We made jokes, laughed a lot etc. It was a very pleasant feeling. Almost as if we were friends. However, when this guy was with other boys in my class, just talking, interacting like boys do, whenever they started to pull my leg, say nasty things to me, he would side with them and never tried to defend me. Now I understand: he was afraid that he might undergo the same treatment as me if he said anything against them. It would have made him "uncool" to take my side publicly. I imagine the same applies to boys and young men today. Quite sad, actually. It takes a lot of maturity and courage to confrunt and call out your friends.
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  1742. I don’t know a whole lot about antisocial behavior, looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this!! I hope your week goes well Ana and happy holidays!! ❤️
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  1743. What wise words! Your grandmother sounds like an amazing woman! ❤️
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  1744. You are so beautiful 😍
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  1745. damn, as a russian, i'm sorry about romania 🫢 good thing y'all stopped him
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  1746. Your work here on YouTube is outstanding!! You barely find such informative and structured videos on YouTube! I am inspired:)
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  1747. Ambience goes crazy
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  1748. An interesting approach... thanks
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  1749. I never read novels anymore since I like to read non-fiction but this sounds enlightening as well as an engaging story! I immediately went and bought it on Kindle! Your videos alone have helped me so I hope this book reaches those who need it and I wish you well!
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  1750. Its the hat in the thumbnail for me!!! Ana said pull up!
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  1751. Thank you for a great video, short, sweet and to the point 😊❤
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  1752. More casual Ana!! 🥰
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  1753. I like your videos. I would like to know more about the relationship between Susan Mayer and her daughter. I watched only the first season. I liked how supportive is her daughter. Is their relationship healty? Or are there hidden negative sides of it?
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  1754. I am always sad to hear you mention hate comments. Your content is really good, so please try to not let it get to you ❤️ Love these kind of videos, so please keep up the good work 💜
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  1755. This video was so good! Great work, Dr. Ana
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  1756. i still grief about the death of my parents even though it was many years ago...everyday i miss and think about them, and when it is mothers day or fathers day, i just can't contain myself and get emotional..but i have to move on and accept the truth
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  1757. Hi Ana, I recalled you did a Witch video for last year Halloween 🧹 And this year Halloween 🎃 video is very entertaining & really appreciate your effort with the lovely make up and orange hair Happy Early Halloween to you and everyone 😊
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  1758. 🥲 I have like $6 to my name thank you for this Ana
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  1759. Ps really love your channel ! Thank you for giving us gems
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  1760. Your cat's face at 0:04
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  1761. doctor ana i love your videos!!!!!!!!!!
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  1762. Great video! Btw I finished reading your book and I liked it a lot especially cause It focused on "real" magic and not some sort of Harry Potter type of thing, nothing wrong with HP, but I was craving for something more realistic and your book was able to provide it.
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  1763. Guuurl, we are here for this. Immense love, 😯🙏🏼❤️
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  1764. Gotta stop everything I'm doing and watch your video😊
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  1765. 👏👏👏👏👏 I am so inspired by your intelligent, clear and concise rebuttal. This is how all women need to stand up to men. And your hubby is so cute! 🥰 Congratulations on the pregnancy! 🎉❤
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  1766. Great video! I’ve been having conversations with friends on how to build self esteem and the process looks different for everyone, so this video came at the right time. Will definitely share this video with them. side note It’s funny how you have “corny” in the title. I wonder if you could explain or get into why we consider things cringe or corny, despite them being healthy or harmless (e.g., the examples you mentioned in the beginning as “corny”)
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  1767. We're around the same age and I also have this aversion to tiktok but I'm fine with it and not going to change it. I find it toxic to my mental health, just like instagram but much more. Not to mention the technical side of it, being basically a huge data collector and it's a very bad idea to use it, from the security point of view. So like, thanks, I'm good without it destroying my life.
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  1768. put me in your indie horror movie please and thank you
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  1769. I have 3 cats, but still loooooooove to watch other cats. There's no such things as too much cats😆
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  1770. this was so cute. i really feel more optimistic about love
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  1771. I really like your point on staring outside. I make an effort of this everyday, it is the one thing that can quickly ground me and help me pick up my mood. Awesome tips Ana!
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  1772. This was super helpful to me! I really appreciate it! Keep up the good work!
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  1773. Yay Dr Ana I am happy you're fighting the fear! It's inspiring to similarly fearful ppl like me. I don't know munecat but I will check her out after this :)
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  1774. Hi Dr. Ana, want to be honest. At first I was jealous when you said you read 100 books in 2024 given everything else you’ve achieved this year. I love your videos and you clearly know what you’re doing in life. So, learning from you, I decided to get curious. Can you tell us how you managed to read 100 books? Were they all for personal enjoyment or part of your schooling too? How did you pace yourself? You mention that you’re also on social media so I’m curious how you stop yourself from endless scrolling to manage to have enough time to not only manager your personal life, a business, a YT channel, move homes, complete your degree and also read 100 books? I’d love to learn from you :)
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  1775. Hey ana! love the video. you should do a video on superiority complexes!!
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  1776. It’s almost TIIIME!
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  1777. YAAAAAS WITCH
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  1778. "Last year I went as my shadow self." 🤣 Of course you did. That made me laugh because I'm a total psych nerd...can't believe I haven't thought of this myself. Totally doing this at the next Halloween party.
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  1779. Ooh one of the first viewers
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  1780. Thank you for this! I love your videos and they inspire me to learn more about psychology!❤️
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  1781. aww pare asa de draguta relatia lor!! <3
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  1782. I’m excited to hear this!! Hope you’re having a joyful week Ana 😊
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  1783. I had such a big smile watching this whole thing❤️ I'm so glad you're growing so well - your content deserves it! and a great idea hehe :D
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  1784. So this is probably the video I share my love with your channel at. Let's hope it counterbalances some of the negative aspects. I think you generally have very healthy takes on things. It is really refreshing for a (former) incel like me to see that on social media. It is very easy to just believe the 'red pill' influencers and get resentful at women. There were a lot of videos you made that brought healthy perspective. So thank you very much for your good work and I will probably follow you for a while (in the non-stalker way). Lots of love from the Netherlands!❤
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  1785. Hi Anna, can you please point us to some testimonials for your course as it's a lot of money for me. Thanks
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  1786. Can’t wait to see the video after I finish all the meetings I have today!! I hope you have a lovely week Ana 💖
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  1787. Te urmăream de ceva timp și nu știam ca ești româncă 🧡 keep up the good work!🤗
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  1788. I liked it before press play!
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  1789. Hello I'm your new subscriber! Thank you for your videos! ♥️
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  1790. Hey Ana. I'm an undergraduate psych student and I absolutely adore your videos! Thank you so much:)
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  1791. I take issues with both words. not because of identifying with it, but I think these word playing tricks have misleading effect on young men and women. S-shaming is not really shaming truly bad behaviors. Those women who have their own value in sexual relationships often have very high standards when it comes to who they choose to be with. Toxic masculinity is actually not masculine at all. Men with "toxic masculinity" are some of the most insecure and least masculine men we know. Of course we should all understand these two words in their context, but these words really imply that there is a blur line between genuine gender characters and toxic behavior,. There should not be. Edit: As someone who speaks English as a second language, that is a reflection of my experience. they really confused me for a while. I could only imagine what the teenagers would think when they see these word. Just make it clear, those behaviors are not acceptable. Not acceptable.
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  1792. Y M C A 😭
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  1793. I think that knowing your diagnosis can be very relieving. Understanding that there is a name and known pattern of behaviors that is considered an illness that others struggle with makes me feel a lot more human/less alone. That being said, there are definitely people who attach themselves too strongly to their diagnosis. Using a diagnosis to excuse unacceptable behavior is not the best practice.
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  1794. Hi Ana. Happy new year ✨ 😊
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  1795. I remember when I started to go out into clubs, I met a lot of boys who had this toxic masculin behaviour. They were talking bad about women, slut shaming and they were premisicous. I was in my early twenties and these were the first guys I met outside of my inner cirlce (friends and family). Back then I thougth that this is how guys are. (My male Family members were not better) I'm glad, that this is not true. And I met some normal people later in live and am now with a great guy in a relationship. I think I'm very lucky.
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  1796. Thank you ♥️
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  1797. cool look btw. love the contacts with the medieval/Victorian-type shirt. Love the content too! Thanks a ton for Halloweek!
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  1798.  @AnaPsychology  Thank you so much!
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  1799. Love your stuff, as always 🫡
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  1800. Great video! :face-red-heart-shape: I needed to see this today. Your videos always give me a sense of calm and a little boost. Thank you for all you do.
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  1801. Thank you for this video ❤.
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  1802. These questions to ask yourself are super helpful! I love the “what task doesn’t feel like work to you” and “completely in flow” questions. I hope to keep working at my passion until I can turn it into a career. Thank you, Dr! Love all your videos❤
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  1803. you should do monica
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  1804. very informative! movies are always fun examples to analyze characters psychologically. do you think you could do a video about the movie heathers? i think that movie, while satirical, it tells a lot about suicide and societal issues on how its treated for certain “special” people but downplayed for those that are seen as less fortunate because no one takes them as seriously. no pressure xx
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  1805. As someone who is interested in paganism I love how you explain this. I was always fascinated by "the dark" even though death is scary to me I think that's just because it's banned in our society. I like to bring it back as a part of life through reading or exploring certain spiritual believes even though i don't necessary agree on any of them. I find that very helpful to indeed value my time on earth more and just don't exist until I die but since I never died (and dying and being revived is something not a lot of people experience) I'll maybe never fully understand this. like these pagan holiday because they not only bring us back to our roots as living beings infront of nature even though they are most certainly not 100% natural because they are still created by humans but also to have a contrast to that even more unnatural hectic modern life. They help me to live the moment or the season. Sorry that post is content wise maybe a bit chaotic but I hope it was understandable. Thanks for your videos I really like this halloween series!
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  1806. it suits you so well anaaa🥺 your makeup and the septum piercing all put it together too, so pretty
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  1807. i love how you talk and think about stuff! i wonder if you know what your mbti type is? i would like to know
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  1808. Your channel is amazing. So insightful and practical. Thank you for sharing!
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  1809. Love the retro creepy vibes from this! Nice work putting it together 😊
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  1810. I found your videos a while ago and recently started watching them a lot more. I love your content 🖤
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  1811. Great video, thank you for this. This is a very serious problem in American society today.
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  1812. I love how eloquent you are and how you explain everything so well! I graduated with a BA in psychology, and would like to further my education, I somehow found your videos and it reminded why I love psych so much.
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  1813. With the harvest pan, a way to prevent sticking is to oil or butter the pan before putting in the batter and baking! Also, the Vampire Diaries is also my guilty pleasure 😅🤣
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  1814. Congrats on 50K and a great idea to make a difference. I remember looking at your sub count about a month ago and thinking...Is she growing like crazy or did I not notice before and she always had a lot. I figured you always had a lot as there are many past vids that pop up that I still need to get to. What I like is that we have things in common with liking Psychology but are very different in other areas so it exposes me to a bigger environment than I would be otherwise. Even things that are unintentional can lead to great things and new understandings. So THANK YOU Ana for allowing us on this journey with you. Thank your partner for helping to make a quality product and teaching you the skills. You seem like a really good, caring person and I wish good things for your life. =)
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  1815. Thank you so much for bringing up this conversation!
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  1816.  @AnaPsychology  Well that sounds even more interesting and possibly entering the realm of the collective unconscious through archetypal entities of the fairy world 🙂
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  1817. A bit unrelated but you always wear the best colors. Like it makes your skin tone glow! Also great content.
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  1818. OBSESSED with your videos, so glad you were recommended. Very in depth👍🏼
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  1819. Great video! Love your channel🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 This whole topic reminds me of the concept of the "evil eye".
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  1820. Tysm for this
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  1821. Your channel is such a gem! So glad I discovered it. Please, keep it open hahahaha On a different note, that is a very interesting topic. I might have experienced impostor syndrome sometimes (e.g. perfectionism, procrastination, etc.), but, luckily, never in a heavy form. Probably, this is due to my privilged background and having family that helped me bulding a good self-esteem. So disheartening to know how many people cannot say the same. Probably, those are the people whose success is the most deserved
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  1822. I LOVED this on so many levels! Thank you, Ana for sharing this priceless video!
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  1823. I can also highly recommend the card games by The And, they have dating, friendship, family,... card decks. Me and my SO also loved playing Exit games during lockdown, there's online options and ready made boxes with cards and clues etc.
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  1824. Kitty ✨
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  1825. Love the video, my family is very much a differentiated one. I guess i should feel grateful
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  1826. Oh my god so glad to be early! I didnt personally like Black Swan as a younger person (ED brain acting up) but looking back it's a good movie
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  1827. I have your seasons workbook! I find it to be a nice addition to my planner which already has self care/reflection elements but different. In the workbook I particularly like the values and kindness/connection/beauty sections. I look forward to trying one of the other ones in the future. A challenge for me would be to balance focusing on myself with others. I have an anxious attachment style and struggle with people pleasing. But it's still validating to know this compared to when people would tell me to "just relax".
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  1828. Achievement and novelty are probably my top ones. I tend to call them by their actionable value names : challenge, courage, curiosity
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  1829. It definitely reminded me of the oregon coast!
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  1830. What a lovely and intriguing language so interesting to hear some romance words and it sounds so cool
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  1831. Congrats on being able to accomplish your dream of moving back to Europe, that’s AMAZING! 🥳
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  1832. Ima need EVERYONE to listen to this!
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  1833. Thanks so much! I found this video extremely helpful, I hope I can implement some of your tips in my online classes! :)
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  1834. Great video, gives me lots to think about in my own life. Ps. That lipstick is stunning on you, slay 💅
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  1835. Feel better! 💛🌱🍋 thank you for sharing this and congratulations on passing your test. 💫
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  1836. maybe i got you mixed up with another person? 😭 happy pride month lol
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  1837. Mor de râs!!!
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  1838. thought provoking self experiment
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  1839. Disgusting.
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  1840. Congrats on 200k!!
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  1841. Love the posters in the back! My favorite has to be the Madvilliany one :)
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  1842. not the God I know 🔥
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  1843. Great video 👍
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  1844. Would love a DBT series!
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  1845. I love this intro, the info, everything ❤
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  1846. I needed a video on this. Thanks!
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  1847. I love your Grandma <3
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  1848. First comment wooooo! Looking forward to this one Ana 🥸
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  1849. I really love your intro. Such a vibe:)
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  1850. has anyone mentioned how pretty you are?? and the spooky aesthetic fits you so well
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  1851. You want compromise? How's this: 20 years in the can...
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  1852. I feel like this video is targeting me lmaoooooo
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  1853. Just found your channel and I'm so excited to binge your videos! This has also encouraged me to brush up on my studies during this time. This is the kind of content I've been looking for!
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  1854. That was so neat..... gracias My morning is complete thanks to you guys. 🌱🏝✌
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  1855. Aawwww she's such a queen 👸😻❤️
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  1856. Lol love you Ana. I thought I was good at research, but I'm definitely learning some tips from you 😆. Great job and great video. It is appreciated to have someone who can counter misinformation and keep people informed.
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  1857. 5:54 Not a live Zoom recording! Music to my ears!
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  1858. people need to try skiing/snowboarding. It’ll make you love winter
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  1859. Thanks for this video, Ana. Right when I need it ❤
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  1860. Loved this video Ana! Thank you ❤️
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  1861. I remember your grandma from another video. Lovely woman.
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  1862. The Lesser Key of Solomon has entered the chat
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  1863.  @AnaPsychology  yeah I would say so! Instead of "caballerismo" in Spain we use "caballerosidad", and I think the english equivalent is chivalry. Like, for example, a man pulling the chair for you or opening and holding the door for you. I think that's definitely what the authors wanted to portray as a positive side of their meaning of machismo!
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  1864. I’m from America but have a Hispanic background, and my Salvadorian mother always describes machismo as Ana describes it in this video.
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  1865. Interesting channel, keep on prospering in life 🙌🏼
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  1866. Get better soon. ❤️
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  1867. Ana Psychology alright thank you! No worries. I didn’t know if you knew off hand :)
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  1868. I don't know how much time and lack of taste that one person has to dislike this video
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  1869. Sounds awesome. I love the visuals, too 💙
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  1870. Thanks I needed this clarity.
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  1871. I'm firstt, love your channel <333
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  1872. Love how consistently this channel posts quality content, keep up the great work!
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  1873. Love It Very Much ❤️❤️❤️
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  1874. Were you born in Romania or Romanian parents? Also great job on trying to raise awareness
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  1875. You are so wonderfully smart, Ana
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  1876. only 4 days to go
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  1877. This reminded me of the show The Good Place. The ending made me super existential for about a day and a half. In a good way lol. I recommend it. Great video btw! 🎃 Halloweeeeek
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  1878. Same good content, better production and video quality. I appreciate your work
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  1879. I cringed my shoulder out of place
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  1880. Circumstances can put you in a bad place but almost all circumstances are transient, including bad ones. Like the people who say they are in a bad place because of their parents. Maybe they really did have terrible parents and maybe it really did give them a bad start to life, but their power over you does not last forever. If you moved out yesterday, then sure, your life sucks because of your parents. But if you moved out ten years ago, then what have you been doing exactly for the past ten years? It's like a man who won't leave the house because it was raining yesterday. I guess what I'm getting at is that you don't decide where you are at any given moment, but you do decide where you are going over any significant amount of time.
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  1881. Actually this is what I really need right now. ❤️
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  1882. I sure wish I knew this 21 years ago. Subbed and liked.
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  1883. I'm loving these in depth analytical videos!
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  1884. This is very interesting! Thank you! But why don't you like Monica? And why do you think marrying Chandler showed she had low self-esteem?
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  1885. Mine is similar to the quicksand...I try to not resist and remember I've had bad days before and they too had passed. Sometimes booking something to look forward to also helps. Attitude of Gratitude is a great one I forget too often.
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  1886. Ce "ciudat" mi se pare sa te aud vorbind in romana 🤣
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  1887. No wayyyy. Esti romanca? Superrr.
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  1888. I hope you know how much I appreciate your consistent posting! I love seeing your videos pop up.
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  1889. You're shirt is super cute!! - Great topic! Really interesting!
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  1890. I'm settling in and getting comfortable. This is going to be goodt! Edit: halfway through it got rather emo for me. You're so lucky to still have her in your like Ana. Also Romanian is gorgeous. I didn't know.
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  1891. I hope your channel grow more ❤️
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  1892. Ce accent fain ai, cand vorbesti in romana😂🤗🤗❤
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  1893. Thank you very very much for the video. I credit my obsession with jung and psychology so much to you. It was a treat!! Also, we want to know your experience with synchronicity
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  1894. Loved the part about shadow self! And great video ♥
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  1895. Amazing Ana!!!!!❤❤❤
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  1896. Love this!!
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  1897. Sunt romanca din transilvania, imi plac videoclipurile tale!
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  1898. I can't wait for a video that explains how to interpret our dreams!!!
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  1899. I struggle in this a lot. This day I was productive compare to my normal days but even when I’m being productive, while doing some things, my mind keeps remembering or keeps imagining things will fall apart. It is hell. But somehow I’m trying to adapt a habit and do a bullet journal so that I will only gonna see my progress everyday cause I also had depression before so it’s hard for me to do even self care or self love
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  1900. "YMCA" lmao
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  1901. This is such a fantastic topic. I always binge watch Desperate Housewives, I have loved that show since it came out. Gabby and Carlos were my favourite. All relationships on the show were bad in their own ways, but I just loved them both together in the end. He was sexest, controlling and violent towards Gabby, she didn't feel loved, you understand why she cheated. I can't wait for the upcoming videos 💞
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  1902. Congrats with your book. thanks for idea that u can be narrator for short book scenes. i want to try it too.
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  1903. Sort of unrelated: I love your top! <3
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  1904. Thank you for covering this topic! I use ketamine infusions for treatment resistant depression and I never thought I would use any kind of psychedelic. They are so effective for me that I didn't have to do more invasive treatments like ECT 🥰
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  1905. I love your channel
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  1906. Idk why this video was recommended, but I’m glad it was! I’ve never been in a relationship but this was insightful. You got a new subscriber 👍
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  1907. What’s the deal with that new journal in the intro?👀
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  1908. Și eu sunt din București!!!
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  1909. I Love your content!
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  1910. !!! amazing 🔥❤️
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  1911. My ideal partner would be smart, funny, independent, and motivated. Someone who appreciates grabbing drinks or dancing as much as a night in watching a movie. And someone I find physically attractive obviously.
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  1912. great video! macedonians are slavic btw
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  1913. I love her advice, she seems like a strong woman <3
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  1914. My Dad was like that with lists and I have a negative reaction to doing it myself. I'm able to create mental lists and forgive myself if I don't get all I need. I'll also use loose post it notes so it doesn't look like the lists I grew up with if it's really important. Using a 'tool' to help yourself but making it your own. =) I didn't like my parents growing up but once I was on my own I saw they were trying to prepare me for being an adult. I'm rebellious by nature and I love my parents and have for a long time. They did what they thought was best with the information they had at that time. My older brother feels the same way. My older sister went the other way but uses it as motivation to achieve despite our family life. She's had an incredibly successful career and family but some of the same control issues has creeped into her family and her son is going the way she did. As a son/brother and uncle it's interesting to notice and I've tried 'fixing' the bonds but I also realize that this is THEIR journey not mine to solve. I wouldn't want someone to deprive me of my lessons/experiences but it's always good to know YOU'RE NOT ALONE and you'll find what works best FOR YOU. =)
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  1915. This is a interesting and helpful video for me 'cause my social anxiety is heavy and I'm trying to manage it 💕 Thank you so much for your time, effort and all this amazing content 🤗
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  1916. I enjoyed every second of this video, thank you so much, Ana, for all the recommendations and tips!
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  1917. Wow, I'm so thankful for Youtube's algorithm. New follower here!
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  1918. Very much appreciate for that CBT series! 😍 Kudos!
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  1919. I'd like to think that I am fundamentally more agreeable. Now that is not as desirable for a male I wouldn't think, so I appreciate you make this Ana!
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  1920. There is an emotional component to politics that is stronger than I've seen in my long life. It affects every aspect of our lives these days. You're brave to make political statements. No matter what you say, half of your viewers will be deeply offended. Thanks!
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  1921. I definitely second this! Any Angela Davis book is worth it. I also recommend bell hooks (she discusses female sexual oppression) and love/relationships, as well as Audre Lorde. Their work is very much outside the bounds of liberal feminism and they offer rich, empowering perspectives that I think can truly protect women.
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  1922. You are so beautiful, nice lecture☺️
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  1923. I was just searching for something to watch and was thinking you haven't posted today :)) Nice sync!!!
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  1924. haven’t seen it but i was looking for something like this so here we go
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  1925. I think we all have the ability to walk away from the personal conflicts of others, friends, or not.
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  1926. Thank you for the content Ana. I always get a little excited every time you upload a new video 🙂‍↕️
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  1927. Thank you so much for this video! I have been desperately wanting a happiness lamp but very skeptical of companies so I was essentially waiting for a recommendation. With all this work and school from home it really is an essential tool, esp in my home with almost no natural lighting, not to mention the winter here makes everything gray/dark. I will 100% be purchasing one of these. Congratulations on ur first sponsorship!!!
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  1928. Hi Ana, I'm a long term watcher of your channel and I adore these series with your grandma. This video really made me emotional because this is exactly how my mum thinks about things! This kind of mindset is so comforting and gentle. My mum is also very avoidant of conflict and says the same, it's always better to avoid difficult and unreasonable people and not let them get the better of you. Thinking positively to endure hardships so that you can be a pillar of strength for those who need you. :)
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  1929. amazing! i followed you at 12k and im so happy your channel is growing!!
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  1930. Thanks for the tips I’m realizing I need therapy and these are good for the meantime
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  1931. „Just Do it“ seems like a really common and simple piece of advice, but it‘s really the best one. Thanks for the video I really needed it 💜
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  1932. Always hyped for more Halloween content 🙏👻
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  1933. It s official .. i m in love with you and your content ♡♡
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  1934. Great job Dr. Ana! I wish you a happy and prosperous life.
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  1935.  @AnaPsychology  Thanks Ana ^^. Big hugs and keep up the good work.
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  1936. I love the way you explained things, in a very calm and lovely manner. Your content is also very well put together and I definitely learned something from it. My sincere compliments 😊
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  1937. Your husband quoted Omar from the Wire at the end, you picked the right one FOR SURE.
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  1938. This was so sweet! Thank you 💖
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  1939. I’m so excited for this, I’ve been loving your DBT modules and emotion regulation is something I’ve been working on!! good luck with your dissertation proposal defense ❤️
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  1940. Please do make a video on how to support men
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  1941. Great advice! I wish I could just chill and go for a swim or take a long shower without thinking of what I need to do at work the next day. Too much responsibilities and too much things to keep on top of nowadays. The modern adult unfortunately has too much on their plate at all times and hard to escape
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  1942. The meow at the beginning!!!!! :)
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  1943. M-am bucurat atât de tare când am auzit că ești româncă💕🤗
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  1944. Perfect description 😊
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  1945. You put in so much work and this is well deserved! it’s definitely going to only expand from here 💗
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  1946. Thank you so much. This helps a lot. 🤍
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  1947. It's always nice to see the interactions between you and your husband. Also for this type of video I think it was very beneficial to have him in it since we have a habit of ignoring behaviors that may be harmful or toxic, but our spouse can help us identify those and help us manage them.
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  1948. I really liked the conclusion at the end of the video, as a psychology student it's really helpful.
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  1949. Holy goddess 💓 you look beautiful!!
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  1950. thank god i have no clue how to drop it sometimes it feels like a bridge burning trait i cant lose
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  1951. omg this is so cute!!! so fun to see you in your own habitat haha
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  1952. hey Ana, I really loved your disclaimer at the beginning. Also, this video, and many of your other videos have been great, so just giving praise where it’s due. Would love to hear your thoughts and psychological perspective on how the line between general masculinity and toxic masculinity is being blurred in our society today and how to make people aware of that issue. Same thing with feminism and radical feminism. Obviously, the extremes are incredibly damaging so how do you make people aware that their teetering towards the extreme or on the extreme. Also, not sure if you have addressed but did you ever consider a PsyD vs a PhD during your application process. If you did, would love to hear on how you approached that.
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  1953.  @AnaPsychology  I get that, especially given that you make a living from YouTube. I'm still happy that you've put in the extra work. :)
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  1954. Thanks! Love the Jung angle
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  1955. Agreed! On the other side as well with anxious folks having a need for some space.
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  1956. The only way out is through.🚪
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  1957. Incredible video Ana, I have been watching your channel for some time now and I love it. Currently I'm going through a very intense and sad moment with a couple of friends and this video came in the right time. Incredible how this video made a reality check and made me grounded. Thanks for all your work <3
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  1958. Never been so early! I’m so excited to learn about this topic, thanks Dr. Yudin 🎉
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  1959. Such a helpful video. Will watch and rewatch.
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  1960. Yes! Ive become recently interested in the link between psychology and spirituality
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  1961. Your channel is one of my favourites !! I have started working on myself mentally and spiritually. Coming across your channel has given me an insight on the things I definitely need to work on. Keep it up!
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  1962. Buna ziua Ana 🇹🇩💙💛❤
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  1963. Thank you for this vid Ana! I've been thinking about my attachment style and how to wield it for a little while now so having you put these misconceptions and ideas into words seriously helps 💕
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  1964. I love your channel but whenever you do these feminist videos you absolutely nail it. Love this Ana
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  1965. This may be my favorite video that you've posted! I struggle to find the balance between people pleasing (even though I know it's not good for me) and being assertive, and you've made it clear that maybe the issue is caring about how people perceive me, aligning with my personal value to be kind matters more than strangers' perception of me, and there are savvy ways to effectively communicate during conflicts. I'm definitely saving this video to reference in the future!
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  1966. Thank You!
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  1967. Yes to this
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  1968. Actually Phoebe had a few episodes where she made random things throughout the day have certain meanings that she should persue something: signs to go meet her father, signs the street cat is her reincarnated mother etc.
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  1969. How do you always make the videos I need the most 😂❤️❤️❤️
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  1970. Loved the video, i thought about this a few times but your knowledgeable perspective about it gave it a new depth.
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  1971. Ana, your haaaaaiiiir! <3 Straight or curly, you always seem to have gorgeous locks! :D
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  1972. Thank you, very needed information
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  1973. Just wanna say I love ur videos n it's been a great help well love u too💖
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  1974. DOCTORAL CANDIDATE!!!! YAYYY
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  1975. Ana, your channel is by far one of my favorites! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on such important topics with us
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  1976. The trailer made me want to read your book ❤ I love stories around witchcraft and the theme is talking to me. I will leave a review as soon as I will able to read it 😊
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  1977. Powerful tools, thank you for reviewing them, Ana. Love that you included the intermission, this was one of the most casual videos of yours I've seen so far :]
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  1978. Awww congratulations on your marriage and new tripod 🎉
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  1979. Thanks this was informative
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  1980. Again amazing Ana!!!!❤
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  1981. Such an interesting topic! Its good to see research and public interest getting over the stigma to see how it can improve people's lives
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  1982. Happy😊 navratri🙏 (hindu new year)
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  1983. Thanks for the video and recommendations! I would like to recommend The Holotropic Mind by Stan Grof. Have a great day 🙏
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  1984. It looks so lively ✨
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  1985. I don’t think being anxiously attached makes you a good/bad person. I think the anxiously attached probably get taken advantage of more, but also sometimes anxious attachment can lead to control/manipulative behavior if unchecked. Also, yeah I definitely think it’s natural to be devastated after losing a partner. Though I have anxiety around if I’m the one left behind after my long term partner passes wending up like my paternal grandmother. The depression after she lost my grandpa was of course understandable, but the callous cruelty to even her own grandchildren for the decade after his passing…I never want to become that. I don’t want to be the grandma that gave one of my grandchildren body dysmorphia because I kept making jabs about their weight or purposefully giving all the other grandkids pancakes for breakfast & them none. Like, it was so awful, I swear she wasn’t like that before my grandpa passed. I told my partner if I go first he’s not allowed to take it out on the family we plan to build together. I swore I would haunt him if he did, & he needs to haunt me if it’s me being the ass to our family.
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  1986. I love your content. Would love to hear you talk about PMDD one day. 😊
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  1987. #5 is such a good tip!!
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  1988. I just found out your channel today. I watched a couple of your videos and I really like the way you’re explaining and how well-organised your content is. Also, Regina George is definitely an interesting character. хх ♡
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  1989. Was deep diving is to Carl Jung recently. Love your videos and this is a great take!
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  1990. Waiting for your Fairy vid with excitement.... ❤
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  1991. CBT: Cognitive behavioral therapy DBT: Dialectic behavioral therapy I had never heard of the latter. I can see there already are a few lessons about that on this channel, however.
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  1992. Love is patient Love is kind. 💜
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  1993. You inspired me to go into academia!
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  1994. Hey Ana, you make great videos! I have watched several already and would like to mention that you are highly skilled at capturing someone’s attention. Even without flashy editing or other things of that kind. Despite the fact that some topics are very sincere/not light-hearted, it is still easy and „relaxing“ to follow the trajectory of your words/thoughts. Have you thought about making a video about the psychology of religion or tradition? Would also like to hear about the psychology of change, e.g. what causes people to show change in their behavior, what influences the velocity of behavior change, what are obstacles 😃
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  1995. There's a good mindfulness guide titled “30 Days to Reduce Depression” by Harper Daniels. It should be on Amazon. Mindfulness has helped a lot.
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  1996. loving your content! obsessed
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  1997. Wait a sec how did you know I was interested in psychology books 😳 But anyways this is much appreciated
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  1998. Loved this!
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  1999. Very good video! Sadly, you are absolutely right. Love your work!💜
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  2000. Hi Ana, I love your videos! I was also wondering if maybe you could do an analysis of Kai Parker from the vampire diaries? Being one of the villains he is often disliked for his behavior but there are a lot of factors that play into how he is.
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  2001. Hello, Ana. Thank you for your video, I learn so much from them. And the bloopers were funny haha <3
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  2002. I really enjoy watching your videos, they are detailed, informative and do not have any pointless fillers Great content, keep it up
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  2003. Ana Psychology thank you… But you know what I think in many ways I have benefited from those experiences. I think that now I am a lot more confident in myself. Maybe someday I can relate to someone else, who might be going through something similar, and I can share my story to help them.
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  2004. SO well done! I rarely comment, but this was so well researched, comprehensive and insightful. Wow!!
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  2005. thank you for all you do !
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  2006. Very informational! Thank you! 😊❤️
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  2007. Romanian gang lol
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  2008. You should read Cupid's Poisoned Arrow by Marina Robinson because it factors in the crucial neurochemical element of pair bonding which so vitally affects our psychological perception. Real pioneering science
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  2009. *saves video to Watch Later
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  2010. You’re already a great therapist! I believe you’ve said you’re still in school. Very impressive and humble young woman. Thank you for sharing these advise 😇
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  2011. I’ve been LOVING the content this week!! Happy Halloween Ana 🧡👻
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  2012. I like caring for myself re-mothering myself and re-fathering myself, but in this context, asking myself what I need rn, a shower, exfoliate, skincare, grounding stretches, did I drink and eat enough.
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  2013. Dr. Ana! Your journal, Seasons of Life is amazing! Thank you so much for writing it. I’ve never been so consistent with journaling 💜
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  2014. you look like Snow White❤💖🌹
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  2015. Ana, you are a real one love the videos
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  2016. My all time favourite movie 💛♍
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  2017. Thankyou for this video Anna, I'm in a bit of a slump I'm slightly behind on my studies- REALLY NEEDED THIS.
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  2018. Salutari din România ❤ super video, m a ajutat f mult ❤
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  2019. I’m glad you shocked the clips because by name I didn’t know who he was🤣
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  2020. I thought toxic productivity was having so much on your to do list that you end up neglecting yourself for what you think productivity should be … journaling and working out sounds like a dream life in comparison wtf if going on on TikTok (as always) 😂
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  2021. Congratulations on your child! May you and the little one be healthy and happy! 💕
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  2022. Hey Ana I actually have a high functioning schizo-effective disorder. I really liked this video and you were spot on about invisible distress. I keep a lot of it inside and then all the sudden I can barely function. people don't see me hold it all in. but they will see the explosion if there are too many triggers around. I was initially diagnosed with major depression but then had a psychotic break. Later doctors noticed a lack of psychotic symptoms and more of a mood disorder again. There have been rare moments where I open up to people about my inner world and they are shocked and usually in some form of disbelief in how I view things, usually that's with an air of paranoia and self importance. I've learned to always talk myself out of certain thought patterns and explain to myself they are not real. it was. struggle for a while but now that I am med compliant I rarely have any issues. Currently the only thing that's difficult to manage is low energy (depression) and a bit of anxiety. Once again, brilliant video! I really appreciate you sheding light on this subject. I really did relate to a lot of what you said. It's a real struggle sometimes but people often think you are just normal or extra creative or something.
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  2023. Can't say those words because of YouTube policy, but at the same time they can push 'fitness' commercials preying on women's insecurities
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  2024. Your cat is the PRECIOUS-est
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  2025. I love cats, I watch cat videos almost everyday.
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  2026. I was literally thinking about this a minute ago and you posted this. Damn. Thanks for the video!
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  2027. is that your boo thang? you guys are cute together! and i loved the results, it suits you :)
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  2028. I want your cat in every video
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  2029. Self-actualization has probably been my favorite idea to ground myself in. The constant pursuit of bettering oneself to the point you feel like you’ve done exactly what you were destined to do. I think self-actualization comes later in life due to the mental map we’ve pictured life to play out by. Until then! Ana, you should def post more videos on your day to day life but that’s just my opinion haha. I know you said you wanted to change it up a bit a while back but you’re doing great.
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  2030. Thank you for your video Dr. Yudin. I have a question about the relationship between emotional intimacy and sexual desire. I've seen an author state that the increase in the former decreases the latter; is this consistent with your experience/research you're familiar with? Thank you. PS. I've left the name of the author out to not make it about them, but about what they've stated.
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  2031. i need to finish my thesis in a month. Glad that i found this. Thanks for your advice!
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  2032. Congrats on your first collab!! Also I love that you address men’s issues as well as women’s, these are very important videos for people to see :)
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  2033. What a great surprise for tonight! ♥️ OMG your cat is the cutest!
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  2034. I got your merchandise a little bit back, and went with the sweater of your cat with the caption respect my boundary 😂 I just have to say I love it so much! It's so cozy soft from the inside and I love how it's oversized a little, feels like a minie blanket 😂 perfect for winter
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  2035. Really good video! The information was both really interesting and easy to understand.
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  2036. Aw so cute! Also, great topic Ana! Kind of reminds me of the Fable of Aesop "The Bear and The Two Travelers"
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  2037. this is off topic but your skin is so clear, it looks fantastic!
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  2038. Been getting witchy vibes from u. Even before the season.
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  2039. Another great video, relevant to life and easy to apply. I won’t go into detail because it would be a lot haha but the timing of this video is miraculously perfect for me. Thank you for your free, valuable and applicable content. 🙏🏼😁
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  2040. OMG thank you!!! I definetly need to be more assertive in my life but I didn't knew how to.
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  2041. Such an important video and topic to address, thank you Ana
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  2042. Thank you for this… I really needed to hear this and will probably return to this video daily
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  2043. Hey Ana, greetings from Poland! I'm so grateful for your videos, it helps me a lot :) Hope you're safe
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  2044. Love this. I have so many Romanian friends was able to pick up the language and culture a bit over the years.
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  2045. Your grandma is so beautiful :)
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  2046. Dracula
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  2047. Love the end of the video, fantastic sentiment apart from the part about a chill wind blowing through your skin being beautiful don't think I can get on board with that. But there are many beautiful things about Winter.
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  2048. I loved this videos! I would like to see your input into 'How women can support women'.
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  2049. Thank you. Really needed this right now.
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  2050. Hello Ana, I love your videos and this format in particular, too :) I'm 20 and still figuring out many many things, but right now I understand the meaning of my life to be living for experiences, for beauty and joy so I can create beauty and joy for someone else too eventually. I'm a natural hedonist in a way and my virtues are hard work and sobriety.
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  2051. Happy 😇 Diwali ☺️🙏🤗
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  2052. Thank you Ana! Many people need to hear this. We won't always feel confident and it's okay, as long as we appreciate ourselves in the long run and be vigilant we will be great.
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  2053. Second!
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  2054. I believe the technical term for that next to last one is "Captain Cook Culture."
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  2055. Congratulations, Dr. Ana! I'm excited to order your new book! I've tried journaling on my own and it always felt aimless, so I think having a more guided journal would be perfect for me. Love your videos, love the positive vibes, keep up the amazing work!
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  2056. I rarely like or comment on a video, but thank you for this. Thank you for everything you do, and thank you for your calm demeanor and calming voice
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  2057. I love all of your videos 💗! They’re very informative and helpful! If you didn’t have a video that already touched on this topic, could you make one explaining fragile masculinity, in relationships, how to identify a partner with that and how to help?
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  2058. Doctorate candidate!! Congrats 🌻❤️ Also, excellent content as usual
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  2059. another Ana video when I needed it the most😤
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  2060. Thank you so much for addressing this! This affects more than one person that I know. ♥️
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  2061. I definitely felt this about mid November. I’m a personal trainer and gyms tend to have less people due to clients traveling, working more, or having social events. So I had less business and work for myself. I was able to navigate it by creating more goals for myself to work towards and start being involved in social events as well with friends. Kept my mind occupied rather than nothing.
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  2062. Forgot to say, I Love Your Work ❤️💕
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  2063. I've never wanted to be a woman ever due to the stress you face, but I always remain respectful not hurtful towards them. Thanks for the tips.
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  2064. ive been longing for such beautiful trips!! its lovely 💗
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  2065. Okay, now I'm thinking of him like a real person and want to be his friend so he doesn't feel so bad!
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  2066. This is my new favorite video! Very helpful! Thank you! :)
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  2067. i just went through a really bad breakup and i just found out about your videos! just wanted to say i love these videos and they've been helping me out a lot :)
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  2068. Feeling the love. Thanks for posting, Ana! 💗
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  2069. Life, death, and the farm are regular topics for traditional kids’ songs.
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  2070. Loved it haha btw red hair looks really pretty on you
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  2071. One question....did you buy the hat for the video? 😂 Great content as usual!
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  2072. So true, I wish I saw this video a few years back because I was definetly enabeling and working hard for my ex bf sake when he wasn't even intrested in working on his issues, in the end I became emotionaly exhausted and decided to leave. (P.S. congratulations on becoming a doctoral candidate!!!)
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  2073. Always looking forward to your videos 💕
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  2074. Yeah I just ignore it, whenever I face any animosity. Anyways great job Ana. I'm rooting for you. Luv ya. ❤️
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  2075. Awesome educational video, thank you!
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  2076. been really needing this bc i've been putting off my master's thesis for months now so thank you, ana!
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  2077. I struggle with GAD and low self-esteem, getting better but it’s still an uphill battle!!
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  2078. Thank you for the advice. This makes me certain about my decision now.
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  2079. This is random but your hair looks amazing in this video! Would you ever tell us how you take care of/style it?
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  2080. The decor though 👌🏽
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  2081. this was sooo helpful, thank you. Now I need to do a social media detox
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  2082. I bought 3 copies last week, one for myself, one for my mother in law, and one for a friend who's really struggling with her mental health. We're all loving it so far! It has made me appreciate my life even more. Thank you Ana!
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  2083. I would love to see a video on passive aggression
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  2084. You are very logical and I appreciate it!😊
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  2085. Congrats Ana! Really excited to read your book, the excerpt you read piqued my interest.
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  2086. Loved this so much, work break well spent!!
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  2087. Halloweek series is such a great idea and I look forward to it! So glad I know about your channel 🧡🧡
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  2088. I love friends! Also I really enjoy your videos so i‘m looking forward for this one! 😊
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  2089. I just found your channel and let me just say I cannot stop! You are so well spoken and knowledgable! I've saved so many of your videos to "watch later" because there's so much good stuff!! thank you for these!!
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  2090.  @AnaPsychology  Oh okay, thank you for comfirming. I still shared your channel with her, we really appreciate all the work you put in
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  2091. Just what I needed to hear on a Friday morning! Thanks Ana. Sending love from Australia 🤍x
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  2092. I’m from Slovakia hello 👋
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  2093. lol cute cat in the background
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  2094. Having watched this video, I will go hunt and gather food for my tribe of one so that we (I) may survive another day and conquer tomorrows challenges! (That would be grocery shopping)
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  2095. Dude you’re amazing at what you do and the way you put things out into the world. I love your voice and you just truly seem to put my thoughts into words. Thank you.
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  2096. The food thing is so true!! I have recently started eating more whole foods and ive always enjoyed finding out things about health and it really helps, it feels like it immediately relaxes me to eat them
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  2097. I am looking forward to this one
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  2098. Wonderful video, I love watching your video. Also, suggestion can you do a video on imposter syndrome?
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  2099. Ana out here breaking hearts. Lol
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  2100. Wholesome af
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  2101. Thanks Dr Ana I love your videos they've helped my significantly! I'm grateful for them. Also, I had a request - Can your book 'A Season of Life' be available in Kindle form?
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  2102. A very sweet video and Ana's grandma's is awesome!!! I lost my Nan in 2017 and while she wasn't a firecracker like Ana's Grandma I think about regularly.
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  2103. Wow those are some good tips. I wish it included the mental processes that are involved and why they are affective.
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  2104. i love your grandma and grandpas relationship🥺that’s the type of love i aspire to have someday. something calm and comes naturally. like it doesn’t feel forced. it brings u a sense of peace. their love seemed extremely pure and genuine. it reminds me a lot of my parents relationship too. i also wanted to add that i agree with her advice: don’t date online. my friends have all got into online relationships and it always ends badly especially when u have never met the person irl.
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  2105. I always wondered the difference between these two disorders, thank you
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  2106. you're literally the best :3
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  2107. Awesome video! Love the book too! Thank you so much!
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  2108. She said in another video it's her boyfriend's :)
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  2109. I would love to see a video about how to deal with family members whose views are different from yours. I feel like you did a video on this but I can't remember so a new video on this topic would be nice
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  2110. A Spooktacular intro... =) Ghosts, what do we do... ' Hit them with a skillet' LOLOLOL =) When people have 'beliefs' about something, I just try to listen and keep an open mind that there is more about this world we don't know than we do know. If their beliefs help them feel better, move on, or get to where they want to believe then I'm all for it. If it hurts or limits them, then maybe I'll offer other ideas/alternatives/perspectives that may be more helpful. However there are times when people just need to be where they are and it's not up to me to 'fix'/solve that. They need to experience it on their own for their own GROWTH. They talk about your whole life flashing before your eyes as you 'pass on' and I find it interesting that when your body dies it releases DMT. For those who've used DMT I've heard a lot about similar experiences with 'beings' and other 'things' when on their 'trip,' I haven't had the experience personally but I may have tried to (twice) but didn't have anything happen due to whatever reason. (Can't wake up the Dreamer) So I've seen enough 'strange things' in my life that I called 'ghosts' but that doesn't mean what I saw was a deceased entity. Don't know what it is other than color/movement/illusion projection etc...I usually come up with a safe belief that I'm just 'seeing things' and go on about my day. Besides why be scared of ghosts?!? I'm much scarier in a physical form...MUAHAHAHAhahahahaaaa =P
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  2111. Your cat is so adorable and you’re so gorgeous! Great content by the way 😊
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  2112. LOVE YOUR CONTENT
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  2113. Your vids are awesome! Been dealing with a b-cluster type. [My partners ex] not trying to diagnose her but knowing more about these types helps me cope and the more you know the better you can deal with them.
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  2114. i usually don't comment on videos but i really love what you are doing!! you have helped me alot so far and i can't wait to see more videos of you in the future <3
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  2115. Excited for this one!
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  2116. Great video @AnaPsychology I wasn't sure if I would get anything out of it but was pleasantly surprised that it was interesting and informative and your passion for the subject shone through!!!
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  2117. Cherish your time with her Ana! Thank you for sharing!
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  2118. I loved this so much 💕
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  2119. ana i love you, i love watching your videos filled with your soft spoken communication style
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  2120. Anything Halloween related is my fave ☺️
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  2121. Thank you for this! Right on point and right on time.💙
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  2122. I love how you add the time stamps <3 highly appreciated!
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  2123. this is soooo informative! Thank you!
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  2124. Not related to the video topic, but I love looking at people's books on their shelves... I LOVED Slewfoot by Brom and the Barnes & Noble collectable edition of A Treasury of Irish Fairy and Folk Tales. Fantastic taste.
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  2125. Wow! I think I've been doing a version of the emotion analysis for years! Really helped keep me from panicking over some bad grades.
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  2126. me too. but i love how anna highlights the ethical dilemma that if you really knew how your partners acts behind your back/ or aware of their loyalty towards you, would you still choose to be with them! i would be so angry if i was wasting time caring and thinking about someone who did not envision a future with me or acted unloyal behind my back.
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  2127. This is one of my favorite videos yet! It's very thought-provoking and inspiring. Also you are just a beautiful person. Hope you're having an amazing day! ❤️
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  2128. Needed this, great stuff !
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  2129. Your content has helped me process many many challenges. Thank you 🙏🏻
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  2130. omg i live on big island i can’t believe you came here ❤️ glad you had a great trip☺️
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  2131. Ana i love your videos! This video was really interesting to me bc I just started my internship in an ED treatment setting. So many of my patients are dancers. Some of the things my patients have described regarding the dance world and how it has impacted their relationship w their bodies/ themselves is heartbreaking.
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  2132. Definitely an a compulser😖😂 such an interesting video
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  2133. Ana is a beautiful romanian name 🇹🇩🇹🇩🇹🇩❤❤❤
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  2134. Google really knows what I'm doing with my browser wtf
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  2135. I'm a simple boy..... new anna vid, i click 😌
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  2136. Donald Trump has all these 4 signs.
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  2137. Dawg this nose piercing is the bomb!looks amazing
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  2138. I LOVED this video it was a great watch. You should think of doing a psychology breakdown of Azula from Avatar I would love to hear your take and I know many others would too. If you haven’t seen the series I would recommend it! The characters are compelling and easily relatable but are complex especially in comparison to other children’s shows. You may find great enjoyment from it, it’s my favorite tv series ever! Thanks for the video you’re inspiring!
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  2139. This was so good, thank you.
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  2140. I am so glad I found your channel ❤️
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  2141. Yay! Early bird!!
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  2142. I adore your content so much! Love that deep purple on you! Makes your skin pop 💜
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  2143. Bless the voice you speak my dear Ana !!! Thank you a million times for this video ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you for today’s session
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  2144. Ooo girl thanks for sharing <3 it’s so beautiful there 🤩
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  2145. As for enmeshed vs. differentiated, I come from a differentiated family and I went to eastern Europe, lived there a while to experience more enmeshed life, because I felt I was missing something. However what I've learnt is to not mistake the psychological health side with the interpersonal and maybe cultural side. Enmeshed the way you describe it is always bad, but can be mistaken as more loving and caring by someone who was deprived a good family life before. These will be anecdotes now. Most slavic people I talked to hated the nosiness and lack of privacy coming from their family or saw this as a negative side of their society. Women got questioned on their boyfriends, when they marry or told that they will end up old and alone if they don't marry by 20. A priest might be sent to your home because you didn't go to church and nothing is really private, often out of necessity because people share rooms. However on the other had most of them that went to western Europe came back and hated it because people were cold, noone cared for them, they were unhelpful etc. People on the train didn't help them get out their luggage, but cursed them for being slow and they felt like noone really was interested in caring for others. What happened? Well in slavic countries you have people giving you their bus ticket when they get out of the bus, strangers might pay for a pregnant woman's bus ticket if she can't walk to the vending machine, I got woken up on a train by an older woman that i never talked to that had prepared breakfast for me because I traveled alone as "a young man who can't possibly survive without help".  It is hard to say who is right or wrong, my conclusion was that I wished for a hybrid and I guess your video helps me clarify what I meant. I would wish for the helpfulness and social solidarity I experienced there, however within a differentiated family. I generalize now, but it seems like unhealthy individualism equates differentiated lifestyles with being ruthless and just caring for oneself, while unhealthy more socially orientated people equate this with a need to be enmeshed.
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  2146. Thank you Ana! Forever and always looking forward to your content 💕
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  2147. Literally every single one of your videos has helped me so incredibly much. Thank you Ana.
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  2148. 2spooky4me
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  2149. Why do I have goosebumps over, over and over again... Am I the only one? 😬
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  2150. Congrats Ana for the great content! A topic that came to my mind related to parent-child relationships that would be so cool if you could cover is the psycohology of children that have been adopted (note that I didn’t say adopted children, because I think it shouldn’t define them)
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  2151. I found the first module really helpful and look forward to watching this one after my class is out as well!! I hope you have an awesome rest of your week ❤️
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  2152. Havent watched yet, but I am so excited!
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  2153. Woohoo so happy you got a sponsorship that you genuinely support. I will definitely look into that those lamps, such a good idea to have one during this time of year
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  2154. Thank you for talking about this topic Anna! Love your channel 💓💗
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  2155. Wow, a Gucci reference from '06
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  2156. Thank you for this!!!
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  2157. Ana Psychology 😆 I understand. Nevertheless, keep up the amazing work. You are da best!! 💪
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  2158. OMG! My daughter loves Halloween. The spookier, the better. Awesome sauce! BOO
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  2159. i love your videos so much
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  2160. Camz it’s gender neutral
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  2161. Thank you so much for this video! For a linguist in the making, this is a fascinating topic
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  2162. Thank you for all your video's Ana! The sharing of your insights always brightens up my day 🙏🏻 appreciated! I like the practice of challenging yourself to reach the personal goals you intent to reach, because not all goals are as easy to reach as the others nor should they be. Goals do not have to be career oriented imo. My personal meaning of life is one where I hope I feel satisfied at the end of times because I keep giving it my best attempt to be who I want to be by converting as much of my time into "well spent" time. For me this means relaxing, loving, growing, healing, challenging, exploring and sharing as many things in life, alone as well as with friends and relatives.
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  2163. 1) English 2) Walk my dog/explore outside, read, play instruments 3) Travelling and seeing new places 4) Writing 5) Studying languages, playing music I'm all over the place. Linguistic-Investigative-Creative is what I got on my career quiz, but no jobs match this exact combination lol
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  2164. I'm going to guess compliment each other before I watch the rest of the video.
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  2165. Great video today Ana and in perfect timing. Thank you and have an awesome day!
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  2166. Please make more of them! Thank u Anaa!!! I been diagnosed with bpd 2yrs back. Love you
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  2167. Thank you, Ana! You are such an inspiration
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  2168. Same goes for identity politics
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  2169. People sometimes accused me of exaggerating or not really experiencing anxiety to the degree that I did. Sometimes I would be grateful for manic episodes or panic attacks because I felt it often proved my credibility as neurodivergent to the people around me, which was strange. While I eventually learned healthy coping mechanisms and became even more high functioning, it always has been seemingly more of a struggle for me to learn or complete tasks than others (I was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder/manic episodes, social/general anxiety with panic attacks, and adhd, though I speculate I am on the APD spectrum as well/instead). If I am able to seem neurotypical, it requires a lot of work and acting. People don't understand this for the most part, and I don't like explaining it in depth so I try to hide my neurodivergencies at this point. I find it more comfortable to pretend to not be struggling than to have people be confused, rude, or incredulous about why I don't like doing certain things while being watched or don't like social situations at certain times, etc. I create a lot of art centered around mental disorder and that is where I allow myself to be open. I feel fortunate to be high functioning and able to choose to channel my episodes into artistic expression. My uncle is not as fortunate, he is frequently in jail and homeless because of his Bipolar Disorder and Schizophrenia. He refuses to get help because he doesn't feel he needs it. Overall, being high-functioning is the perfect balance between feeling too weird to be normal and too normal to be sick.
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  2170. Please do the dbt modules ❤️
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  2171. I remember from my review if a person does not reach the acceptance phase of grief. he/she will develop a psychological disorder. correct me if I'm wrong. another great topic ana. GREAT JOB!
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  2172. how i felt watching Ana and her husband interacting during the skit where it was passive destructive and active destructive was so awkward for them lol like they were clearly out of their comfort zone in these mean roles. then when they did the active constructive skit, they were so much more comfortable, flirty even! haha because this is how they actually communicate with each other ❤
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  2173. the “and” instead of “but” is sooo good! Thanks so much Anna, love your videos! X
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  2174. Thank you Ana! What a lovely channel, you’re great at delivering this convent. Glad I stumbled across you. Keep doing what you’re doing!
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  2175. You're so cute, I wish we were friends 😢
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  2176. thank you so much
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  2177. This is the only psychology channel I don't look for summary comments so I don't have to actually watch the video.
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  2178.  @AnaPsychology  that’s what I’m saying. You’re sharing a man either way. There are more women in the grand cook up rotation. Hence polygyny. It’s not like a monogamous system which is egalitarian.
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  2179. Wonderfully said! So insightful
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  2180. Since Ana shared date idea, let me go and search for a date to share this amazing tip with
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  2181. Thank you sooo much! This was a very informative and awesome video. Can you make a video about challenging those core beliefs you mentioned in the video.
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  2182. I absolutely love this video and your channel in general! Especially, the part about men not being entitled to women bodies and men needing to share the chores and the emotional labor. It is such an important topic!
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  2183. Get well soon! Thanks for the great content :)
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  2184. We love you and apreaciate the knowledge that you share with the world in a practical way. You're such an amazing human being. Ill totally believe that your channel is going to keep growing exponentially
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  2185. I liked the video before I even watched it, because I knew I would love it! Watching your videos always makes me feel calm and centered. I do like the way you talk about psychology without sounding too "clinical" and robotic, which seems to be the way some people do discuss about these topics. 2020 was a crazy year, thank you for making it better with each video. I hope the best next year for you and your partner and also of course for the lovely fluffy friend of yours. 💙
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  2186. Ana Psychology that’s awesome! I grew up around quite a few languages. it’s almost comforting hearing you speak ❤️
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  2187. Hello! I'm also Romanian and my name is also Ana (kinda) :) and I also have a black cat XD
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  2188. QUEEN!! I love your videos and I’m always learning from you :)
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  2189. Such a great video Ana!!!! Love you 😘
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  2190. Yass queen I was just watching one of your videos ❤️ while I work
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  2191. I love that yes a lot of us can not afford therapy but I really appreciate the disclaimer, still here tho😊
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  2192. Wow! youre pregnant? congratulations! you will be a great mother :)
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  2193. I absolutely love your channel, and I tend to overlook psychology channels in general! I've been in therapy for a few months now (DBT) but I still find your content incredibly useful for introspection. I think you are really good at what you do. Thanks for sharing!
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  2194. You look so stunning! 😍
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  2195. Yuhu hit the subscribe button
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  2196. What a brilliant concept! Thank you ❤️
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  2197. Im so glad i found ur channel. I always look forward to your new videos. 🥰
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  2198. Looking forward to this!! Happy new year Ana! ❤️
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  2199. I'd like to express my gratitude to you Ana. Thank you for creating this chanel. More people need to watch your content(s).
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  2200. You're the best. I follow your advice. And I'm a psych stud too
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  2201. Yay, Ana! 👏What an accomplishment, congratulations. I enjoyed the excerpt, I thought it was deeply feminist, and I loved the closing line, "... she will use those weapons they could never take away."
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  2202. This look is good on you. It keeps my attention and makes me want to listen. Maybe you need a theme look for your channel....a brand.
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  2203. Greetings Ana ❤🇵🇭
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  2204. I believe that this will be my favorite video of 2024
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  2205. Really been enjoying the uploads lately, gonna put the bell on to stay on track with 'em. Thank you for all the insight and psychological knowledge you share, and keep it up! :)
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  2206. The earrings are sick!
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  2207. Journal orderedddd les go
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  2208. You definitely should do something for most of not all of the friends, especially Ross. Gunther and Emily would be interesting to hear your thoughts on also Imo 😊
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  2209. The intro was so well done! 😍🐱🍂🎃
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  2210. Love your videos!
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  2211. Thank you for this sweet video!
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  2212. Ana your work is amazing. I find so much good info in each and every single one of your videos. I never knew psychology could actually be this practical.
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  2213. Been here for a while now and really enjoy these introspective videos. Has really helped me get a better understanding of who I am 🙂
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  2214. Thank you for the informative video, Ana. If I hear another man tell a woman she is "lookin like a snack", I'm gonna lose my damn mind. I don't want to get into a fist fight over this but GODDAMN - PLEASE stop that shit!!!!
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  2215. Your pretty 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
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  2216. 6 or less
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  2217. I just watch every single video, even if it isn’t currently relevant to my life at this point. This is really good content! Thank You!
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  2218. You kinda look like me now. Watch out.. joking lookin beautiful and sireny <3 So in some sense, the sirens prelude to thanatos, the death wish. That destructive urge to die or kill oneself.
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  2219. Greetings from Hungary Ana!
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  2220. All praise Ana Psychology 😍
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  2221. Your subscriber count is going up so fast! And thanks for working so hard on these videos it takes lots of work to upload everyday!
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  2222. If you’re a vampire. Just bite, turn me and we can live for eternity, and I can just gaze upon you forever 😁
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  2223. I recently got my copy! The fall season has me in the mood to cozy up and get engrossed in a good novel. I can't wait to dive into this story! ☺️
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  2224. ​ @AnaPsychology yes you should. It's great for marketing too. Goodreads mods are super interactive with their updates. I'm very active on Goodreads (as a reader) cuz it's a good way to interact with fellow reader and sometimes authors too (only if you wish to ofc, still alot of new authors do this) would love to see you over there!
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  2225. Ana you look stunning here !
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  2226. This is probably one of the most important vids you’ve made. Especially since I think a lot of people are scared or try to run away from there shadow side. If you are self aware enough though I think you can be okay with the shadow self and bring it with ya to a higher light as well. Ego is an interesting thing
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  2227. Thank you for another video, dear Ana!
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  2228. Sto imparando Italiano. Sono Americano ma i miei nonni di Compangnia. Ogni motivo per megliorare è sufficente per me!
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  2229. I just found your channel. You upload regularly. You are a psychology doctorate student and you know what you are talking about. Found a gem here :-)
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  2230. I absolutely love your channel, you are an inspiration! I’m planning a PhD in clinical psychology as well. May I ask, what year are you in and how many years is the program? Thank you!
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  2231. 26:34 "influance of the jews" yep, us jews, who make up less than 1% of most populations, the single defender and advocate of children. Its a lot nicer than some comments we used to get regarding children (we came a long way from the child-eating accusations of the middle ages), but i dont think we can take full creadit on makeing CSA illegal
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  2232. Wow that really looks like it's another planet
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  2233. Great topic!
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  2234. Thank you for the reassurance! I was diagnosed with GAD a couple years ago, but really hardly think about it most days. There’s a lot more to me than that label
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  2235. Please do a passive aggressive disorder video!! Love your content 💗🙌🏽
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  2236. i love this video!!!
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  2237. This is a very cute and informative video!
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  2238. I love your perspectives; I think psychology is really interesting. I would enjoy hearing your thoughts on Jordan Peterson sometime if you wanted; I have a few people around me who are into him and while after reading one of his books I feel like his arguments are poorly supported and in bad faith, I still have trouble concisely expressing the problems with them.
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  2239. Omg your cat is so so pretty!
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  2240. Am știut că ești româncă. I saw a video the other day in which you mentionrd your eastern European roots and I felt as if you were romanian or maybe Ukrainian. Also thanks for this great video ❤️
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  2241. This is exciting!!!
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  2242. wow! that’s so crazy! it was just like yesterday, we were on 500! congrats and thank you for being you!
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  2243. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
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  2244. Love your hat, your makeup, your hair … 😘😘😘😘
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  2245. Another great video 🙂 I'm not going to get into specifics, but if I'd been given money every time even those close to me told me I was exaggerating, I'd be rich or at least very comfortable 😉 It's true that my problems pale in comparison to the issues some of my loved ones have, but that's the reason they've always been overlooked
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  2246. Ce drăguță îi bunica 🥰
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  2247. This is part of the reason I took a break from content create. Here's a great quote about this from Brené Brown: “If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you're criticizing from a place where you're not also putting yourself on the line, I'm not interested in your feedback.”
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  2248. You’re so pretty omg!! Love your videos 💕
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  2249. I love reframing. Also let the ads finish at the end because I read somewhere that you get a little something if we don't skip the ads. =) Medium is oversized?!? Skin tight on me. LOL Might get me some attention in the gym though I might have to reframe that attention. LOL For me anxiety is an adaptive function. I don't FEAR much. However my fear of heights is real and the Grand Canyon showed me what it's like when the body shuts down. Beautiful and WAYYY more impressive IRL that any pic/video. WOW... I don't like snakes but I dated a woman long go who loved them and helped reduce me not liking them. Usually other people can help me appreciate other things I'm not exposed to when you see the love/passion/enthusiasm. Music is a perfect example when you're dating people with different tastes. Being sensitive to energy (Create/cre8) (Generate/gnr8) (Energy/nrg) or an 'empath' as others have mentioned, really is what I call a BLESSING and a CURSE. Luckily I've been around a while and learned things that have helped me, but even though were 'social creatures' I find myself withdrawing because of what I feel when I'm around others at this time. Too much FEAR that is not mine to want to be around others. Know THYSELF. =)
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  2250. Looking forward to watching after work, admittedly I know very little about relationships!! 💜
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  2251. I am Romanian (from the region of Moldova) and Greek as well lmao
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  2252. you're such a Queen 👑 I'm so happy I clicked on this video today. thank you so much ana❤️
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  2253. I'll buy all 3 books of yours soon! 🦇🖤
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  2254. You will be famous when you get to Ph.D level.
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  2255. Ana, thanks for making this motion. Listening to a topic about introverts and extroverts made me connect a good amount of dots in me associated with myself, being an introvert. I appreciate it ;) Harmony, luck and and love 🖤✨ Dala
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  2256. 23:49, your cat is so cute!!
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  2257. Congratulations! I love your content. Glad you're making great strides.
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  2258. I was just watching your videos yesterday and was hoping you would soon cover this topic, so thank you so much!
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  2259. When you spoke about someone being the ‘life of the party’, I immediately thought about my dad. He has Bipolar II. Like a lot of individuals with his condition, he is very charismatic and extroverted. People love him and would tell us constantly. It became really frustrating as his symptoms worsened because he could be extremely volatile and our home was chaotic as a result. Anyone outside our family didn’t see that side of him. I think there was some level of deception on his part when he was seeing professionals, along with the anosognosia we typically see in patients with Bipolar.
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  2260. Thank u so much. I’m having a bad day today.. man, the timing ♥︎
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  2261. 🙃🙂🙂🙂🙃🙃
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  2262. I absolutely love your way of analyzing situations ❤ tis refreshing to see in an ever growing selfishly world.
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  2263. If you can do a video on tips when having panick attacks it would be great🥺
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  2264. Thank you Ana, the writing to yourself is a good idea. I tend to scribble notes in speed-writing while i'm frustrated then throw them away quickly, instead of doing what you suggest. 🧡🌿🌱
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  2265. Keep doing the good work Ana❤️🙏selfhelpchampion
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  2266. A lovely, worthwhile video. Must have taken you ages to do the subtitle but it was well worth it imo.
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  2267. Happy Halloween Ana!! 🥳🎃 very excited for seeing the video once I finish my stats hw
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  2268. One of my favourite topics. Thanks Ana.
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  2269. Thank you so much for your videos. <3 You always look pretty, guuuurl
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  2270. thanks for the great video Ana , all of us need to de-stress especially in this pandemic situation today, i just hope all is healthy and well today, just sending some good thoughts.. also what is your opinion on platonic relationships? thanks
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  2271. I know this is off-topic but no one talks about how beautiful her jumper is? 💙
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  2272. I want to find a job that I enjoy to do every day
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  2273. such a cute videoo! also, loved your grandma's advices 💗
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  2274. Thank you so much for this video. This is incredibly helpful. I had never heard of this concept of engaging in avoidant or compulsive behaviours to cope with bad body image. I'm definitely an avoider, and I avoid things every single day. I will definitely be making a list and trying out the exposure therapy!
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  2275. This is useful also for me, because sometimes I myself tend to complain a lot so I am becoming more aware of the times I've drained people
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  2276. Hi Ana, I love your videos, you have helped me (along with therapy & other resources) learn so much about day-to-day stuff, especially with boundaries and communication. If you haven't already, I would really like to hear your thoughts about climate grief, and see a video about climate grief (or even a series, that would be cool). Even a series about coping with stressors at the societal or global level that we do not have as much control over, as well as ways to stay hopeful & use those feelings to impart change in an effective way. If you already have videos on this topic, then that is great I will look for them harder, I have just seen a lot of your videos & do not believe there are any but I could be totally wrong. Also, this goes without saying, you obviously are not obligated to do this if you do not want to, it is your channel I just do not want to be rude. If anyone else knows a video she has covering some of these topics, please feel free to share them or link them or tell me the name of them! I would love to watch them. Once again, I love watching your videos they have done a lot for me. Thank you Ana
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  2277. Congratulations Ana! You deserve this and so much more 💖
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  2278. Very entertaining video and I learned a lot, what are the other cluster personalitydisorders? I would love to see more videos like this!
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  2279. I would like you to make a video of all the clusters please! I can’t afford a therapist so I’ve been watching your videos to figure out where my issues are steaming from, especially during quarantine.
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  2280. Very interesting topic!
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  2281. I love listening to u talk about everything and anything you're such a positive influence on this platform and I learn so much just by watching your videos
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  2282. I found a really amazing dating app for LGBT people called Lex. All of the profiles are text based and inspired by the format of newspaper personal ads which i think is so cool. That way no one is judging each other based on looks :)
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  2283. Ana Psychology yeah I always saw Monica and Chandler more as equals, just with Chandler viewing himself as less in their relationship, which I think Monica actually liked because it gave her the upper hand to kind of “control” him and their relationship. If anything Rachel was way out of Ross’ league 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  2284. love it
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  2285. I guess struggling to find to meaning and passion in these essential jobs and neccessarily task but thank you for making this video appreciate it
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  2286. I've been writing in your Season of Life journal workbook on a daily basis, and it has helped with my mood and outlook so much. It reminds me of what really matters to me. Very excited to complete it and start another!
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  2287. I love desperate housewives! I hope this is a series. I’m so excited!!
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  2288. Thanks!
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  2289. Looks like Gardner blames Jewish influence for us being against PDFia?
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  2290. I have never watched the office but I'm in love with your channel
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  2291. This touched my heart ❤️
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  2292. I appreciate you Ana and I have love for you. I respect all of the research you did, thats awesome! I get a lot of questions now that I am a Christian, about the roles of men and women in marriage. The portions about male and female roles were one of the most beautiful portions I have read in The Bible. I planned an entire video around the topic of male and female roles. I took out the female role portion because the video was super long! But after planning the video, I saw the studies I shared at the beginning, and I wanted to find a way to incorporate them into my video because I thought they were super cool. But the videos and article I shared aren't extremely significant to the video or in general. My video is 30 minutes long, and I took up most of the time sharing about the actual Word of God. It has changed my life forever, in the best way, and if it helps other people, that's great! I appreciate your take and I think you are very well spoken and respectful. I think you would enjoy this video (one of my favorites, and I would love your thoughts) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhllrcrYGgA&t=404s
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  2293. Great content!
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  2294. Greek-Cypriot...I know Romanians who vacation in Cyprus.
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  2295. i'm happy to hear about the pregnancy! i'm glad there are parents out there who are capable of nurturing and teaching their child, and go in expecting the challenges. i'm curious if this will lead to any feelings about how the internet talks about parenthood in general tbh (ex. the equivocation of permissive/passive and gentle parenting)
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  2296. I see your husband is a Gucci Mane enjoyer.
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  2297. Aw happy birthday to your grandma! That's beautiful that you were there to celebrate with her🎁
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  2298. "Toxic Christianity" comes to mind while watching this video.
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  2299. I chanced to stumble upon your content but fell in love so much with your videos! Really happy YT recommended your channel to me.
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  2300. i gained a lot from this video, thank you
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  2301. YAY! Happy Halloween, Ana!
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  2302. Thank you for your videos! I enjoy every one very much and I'm glad that my home page suggested your channel to me 🧡
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  2303. I’m so glad you made this video 💕
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  2304. what a great video, so interesting🌟
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  2305. I love your videos! I was hoping maybe in the future you can maybe make a video your whole process of going to grad school and attaining your phd! Its a long shot but that sounds very interesting to me! Have a good one 😄
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  2306. I love watching your videos every morning with a cup of coffee it's one of the highlight's of my day🥰I believe I fall into the Interpersonal Intelligence category it feels the most like me although I did relate to a few of the others.
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  2307. I love this channel sm, it's literally my favourite channel on youtube. I don't even skip the ads ;)
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  2308. Great video!
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  2309. I’m early for a video for once! lol Love your content, and love how you’ve combined spooky topics with psychology ♥️
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  2310. Very interesting.
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  2311. Thank you for posting this🥰
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  2312. So exciting!! I needed some recommendations!!
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  2313. NOT BRENE BROWN 💀🤣
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  2314. you look so pretty in this video 😍
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  2315. Yaaay !! It's finally here!! 😍😍
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  2316. I love the fun part at the beggining. Already made my mood better
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  2317. Thank you... 😢❤️
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  2318. I love dating apps
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  2319.  @AnaPsychology  oh god it's the first time I read about negging, that's insulting on another level
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  2320. Doctoral candidate!
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  2321. This video really helps to reflect on oneself. Exploring how you feel and why you feel a certain way is a simple but very effective method to get to know yourself better and to improve as a person :)
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  2322. Thank you Ana for your valuable insight.
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  2323. My therapy appt ended 25 min ago lol
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  2324. Thank you, Ana. ❤ Great timing for me. You look so chic!
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  2325. Notification Gang❤️💯💯 I love Ana's videos sooooo much
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  2326. What I like about Ana's work as far as I can tell, is she doesn't shy away from the important relationship between psychology and spirituality, and how crucial it really is. When you come across people who only specialize in one, there always seems to be some holes and problems that are ever present. The only way to truly heal imo is to deeply understand both ✨✨
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  2327. HAPPY SUMMER ANA 🇹🇩🇹🇩
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  2328. Excellent work Dr Ana!! I thoroughly enjoyed your video, thank you for sharing your knowledge and research. Thank you so much ❤ 🧚‍♀️❤
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  2329. Happy holidays, Ana! Thanks for the vids!
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  2330. Can you please make a video about compassion fatigue one might experience in the psychology field. Any personal tips. Also wow, your information is absolutely on point and easy for a layman to understand. Thank you
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  2331. I never been in a relationship but I don’t know why I’m watching this. 🤷‍♀️ 😭
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  2332. The YMCA killed me
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  2333. Finally someone who understands my fear of snakes 🤣
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  2334. yooo sick hair
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  2335. Hei Anna, I discovered you through your commentary about love is blind and loved it. I was wondering if you ever heard of sister wives, it’s this show on TLC about a polygamous family that is going on for 12 seasons now. It would be really interesting to hear your opinion on it, especially the relationship between the husband and the wives.
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  2336. Ana Psychology As someone that also appreciates education and professionalism , I love you’re style because you get to the point in a clear, concise way AND you don’t over complicate things with too much medical jargon. I wouldn’t want you to change a thing! ALSO I’ve meant to mention, I love you’re background settings you have too. I can tell you put time and effort into making it look nice as well :)
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  2337. Thanks!
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  2338. Yesss 😁
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  2339. I really enjoy your way of speaking about things, you actually make me feel your calmness through the screen. I’ll surely stay here for longer!
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  2340. Lots of wisdom by 25!
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  2341. Hi Ana :) I love your video content and I really enjoy learning so much and it reminds me of the reason why I am a psychology student ❤️ you make learning fun and I really appreciate that. I saw your recent poll and this is a video topic idea (you totally don’t need to do this if you don’t want to >-<) I was wondering if there is any psychology behind healthy friendships (sort of like what is a healthy boundaries to keep, the amount of info you tell a friend about your life, when do you realize a friendship is not good). I had really bad friendship experiences at my super small high school where I would often fall prey to peer pressure and I hated it :( I told myself that these people couldn’t be my real friends, I would love to know what you would like to say regarding the topic (I’m sorry if it’s too specific, you can choose a more general topic too of course, its only a video idea to consider) Thank you for reading :)
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  2342. Bought!! Thanks for doing the work for us 🙂
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  2343. Ana how did you know i literally 3 hours ago was talking about Feminist Therapy like Jean Baker Miller and Ellyn Kaschak!!!!! You must have esp....n😅🤣😜
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  2344. Perfect timing of this video. Super helpful. Thanks so much for putting it together!
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  2345. 1st view 😊
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  2346. I love your content! Thank you Ana!
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  2347. We’re Primates part of an evolution.
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  2348. love you anna your videos are great
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  2349. You are looking stunning, Ana, great advice 🤩🤩
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  2350. Congratulations!! 🥳
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  2351. Early! 😊 Happy New Year everyone~
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  2352. love your videos and I agree!
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  2353. Really looking forward to the videos! 😊
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  2354. Love this intro! It’s so cool
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  2355. She just looks exactly like my cat Bowie, except the white spot (Bowie has it on his chest) 😻 such a sweet kitty and very nice psychological evaluation 😃 Edit: just saw that she has white hair on her chest too 😄
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  2356. 🥳🥳🥳
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  2357. Hi Ana 👋 Thank you for this video. It is very informative. And congrats on your graduation! In a month's time, shall we call u, Dr Ana 🤭☺️
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  2358.  @AnaPsychology  that makes sense because my diagnosis is ADHD inattentive type
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  2359. Thank you for these wise words! All of us appreciate your advice. I really needed this words, because the last few weeks I always questioned myself if I do enough, but your words brought me back to the ground. So, thank you, again. 😁
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  2360. great vid. thank you 🔥
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  2361. You look so pretty 🤗
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  2362. Crazy beautiful ❤
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  2363. I Definitely NEED this. You're awesome. Thank you.
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  2364. I'm starting to think I should just make a new journal series named, "Lessons with Dr. Ana" where I do the same thing as I always do with your videos: making bullet points and taking notes of the tips you gave out in your videos.
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  2365. Great video Ana. Was wondering when you were gonna cover Jung more in depth. Happy Halloween month yo!
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  2366. Loved this vid! Can you do a video on open relationships?
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  2367. I'm gonna love this book
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  2368.  @AnaPsychology  .... If they vanish, know they've been stolen. 🎉 Though, tanks a ton for this one ❤️❤️
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  2369. This video is life!!!! 🖤 One year ago today, I took in a black kitten that my friend’s daughter found abandoned. He likes big jumps too 🤣 I’d never had cats, only dogs, and was really nervous about it (thinking he would constantly bite me) but I’ve never laughed so much. Thanks for making a video like this to show how comical + sweet cats are.
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  2370. Hey, you included a moment from The Office and it wasnt Michaels association from Jans lawsuit against Dunder Mifflin... it would fit greatly here
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  2371. Wonderful tips to include magic in our day-to-day life 🪄✨
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  2372. I only allow myself small timeframes to get on utube. You are absolutely right that if you need a 'kick' from comments, good or bad, daily, that's unhealthy. I check utube every day. I do feel annoyed at myself. Whenever i'm doing other stuff, like an online course, research, study, playing an instrument, getting an emergency GO-bag together etc. it helps. Thank you Ana you make sense, as usual. Take care, go slow 🌱💕🌱💜🌱
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  2373. I personally despise Summer, having to show my gross arms and legs off makes me feel anxious. Hot chocolate, candles and soft textiles all the way!
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  2374. aaaaaaaaaaaa yayyyyyyyyy
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  2375. I really love it when you changed the camera angle to include your cat in the frame haha. So cute <3
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  2376. this vid helped me
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  2377. Love the found footage intro!
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  2378. You are so intelligent!
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  2379. Thanks Ana!! I love Halloweek 🖤
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  2380. Ooh so ready for your thoughts on this one!!
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  2381. Congratulations Ana, about to hit 5 million total views!
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  2382. This is just the right video from the right person I needed right now :D
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  2383. Added to my good reads the other half I haven't already read. I trust your list haha
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  2384. Woke up having a panic attack- thanks so much for this video. Amazing timing. also wish I could buy merch but moving to boston and that city be $$$$!!!! Love u chianti <3
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  2385. Thanks!
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  2386. MORE 😍😍😍
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  2387. LINE UP FOR A NETFLIX SHOW
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  2388. So comforting to listen and I learned so much from this thank you! :)
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  2389. Thanks!
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  2390. Happy for the upload! 💜
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  2391. how funny that i did this unconsciously at the start of the year and i felt special, now i see that it is something more common and even helpful at the end
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  2392. the love witch love elaine happy halloween 🎃
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  2393. I'm looking at moving into an entirely new field for me using tools I don't have much background in; I've been looking forward to watching this since the notification started showing up in my feed. Thanks for putting this together Ana :)
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  2394. 7th comment! Commenting while listening to the video, my computer screen doesnt work so I cant watch but I love to listen!
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  2395. i looooveeee your cat 😚😚😚
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  2396. Very educational and to the point, as always! :) Excellent video.
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  2397. Damn I gotta read some of these books
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  2398. I hope you will make haul video one day, cause I love all your tops! :D
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  2399. Her little white tummy 🥺
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  2400. This really helped thank you
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  2401. Super stoked for you! You bring a very refreshing perspective to this platform (:
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  2402. Great video
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  2403. Listening to others and efforts for betterment always have a bonhomie, the world is yours
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  2404. I love this look ❤️
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  2405. Lolol i procrastinated watching this video
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  2406. Well, and also it's fine if you didn't complete some of your goals if you realized like, maybe what you thought was a goal and/or was important, wasn't actually as important as you thought and/or maybe wasn't meant for you; things change, especially when you're making, radical growth, I guess. I don't know how to put that in a more elegant way. The other thing is the conversation about shedding to make room for growth, starting at 10:49 and more specifically from 11:49 to 12:16 reminds me of the vlogbrothers video "Nourished by Leaving," which is a John Green video. If you have time I'd recommend checking it out (I just say the title and who it's uploaded by rather than giving a link because you always gotta be careful with links)
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  2407. Thanks Ana for sharing this valuable contents.. . Reduce your anxiety & Treat yourself better from a small change in your daily life first! 🦷 Check the link in the description box to get started! ☺️
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  2408. The decorations tho 🔥
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  2409. Wonderful woman she is
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  2410. Congratulations! I can’t how fast you’ve grown (I mean I can, your consistently putting out good content), but it’s so satisfying to see other people support good content like yours too. That isn’t always the case on this platform. Can’t wait to celebrate your 100k milestone soon ❤️
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  2411. This really helped me find something to link my friends and family to because I do work with my therapist on this but I am trying to build interpersonal skills after working on emotional regulation this is super helpful.
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  2412. First
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  2413. congratulations! keep up the well researched content!
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  2414. I'm mostly an avoider. I know I need to integrate that aspect of my personality. And I feel I am coming to terms with my avoidance by "sitting with me feelings" instead of pushing them away. To my body image issue avoidance though I do need better understand it. As a male, I've often felt shame from the stereotype that males don't have body issues. I know they do and this is just a story not facts. Thank you for these tips as a good first step. When looking for a therapist for body issues, what qualifications do you suggest for an effective therapist? BTW, I like your makeup in this video! This seems like a way to express your creativity?
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  2415. So sweet ❤️ this made me smile so much
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  2416. Thank you for this video it helps me alot ill keep following you for more videos 😊😊😊
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  2417. bookmarking this - thanks!
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  2418. Yay, I’m in need of some good books to read haha!! Been slacking with that lately 😂😅
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  2419. I don't really like the label of High-Fuctioning. Especially when it comes to ASD it's not an official diagnostic term. I personally feel like it trivializes the struggles I go through. I perfer low-support because that focuses on the things I can do.
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  2420. I need this right now! Thank you! ♥️
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  2421. I've read somewhere to go skating on a first date 😹 just imagine haha iykyk
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  2422. Halloween suits your style
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  2423. Great video
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  2424. Thank you for this video - There are moments in my past that I feel guilty about and ruminate about each day. Specifically, moments in my youth where I made mistakes with people in my family. My mom is adopted, so we have some complex relationships in my extended family. I believe I have behaved poorly in the past due to the complexity of these relationships & how I've expressed my feelings about the situation. Thank you for this video - it is great to have resources & information to help me understand what is happening internally & some tools I can use to overcome these difficult feelings. Your videos help a lot. Warm Regards from Vancouver, Rebecca
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  2425. Huge congrats on publishing your novel! ❤
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  2426.  @AnaPsychology  you’re welcome! It never gets old, publishing books 📚 😍 I have a bunch published and it’s always so exciting. Such a celebration!
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  2427. Amazing recommendations! Thank you :)
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  2428. Thank you for this video! It is nice seeing genuine love and respect. It definitely gives me hope for my own future. I wish you all the best 🩷
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  2429. HAPPY NEW YEAR ANA!! have a good one you deserve it because you have helped so many of us
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  2430. No depression or anxiety. I'm just here to watch you😬❤
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  2431. Omg the thumbnail 🥺🥺🥺🥺 so cute 😭
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  2432. Even as an Aussie Halloween is always a super spooky, festive and spiritual time of year here
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  2433. You probably went to more places than I and I live here in Iceland haha It's beautiful indeed.
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  2434. Love the eye shadow !!! Catlike!
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  2435. it's like the n word I think...a black person can call another black person the n word because it's a reclaimed slur turned into a word that only they can use. also women calling other women bitches in the right context is acceptable (requiring a certain level of closeness for that to happen) but in the wrong context, the word coming out of anyone's mouth is bad imo
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  2436. Great, I hope I can get it since I live in Guatemala, but I'm gonna ask someone to bring it to me from the States. You're the GOAT!
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  2437. 👌Excellent video, Thanks!
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  2438. So sweet. Thanks for sharing your most adorable grandma with us Ana!
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  2439. Thank you for the spooky content!
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  2440. I really needed this video today. Thank you for making amazing content Ana!
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  2441. Ana's cat is named Chianti? If she gets another cat named Fava Bean I'm gonna be concerned hehehe
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  2442. Hmmm I think my cat might have the same disorder. Could some sufferers have brown, black, and white fir combined?
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  2443. Hiiiii, here I am always.. haha More power ❤🇵🇭
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  2444. I'm so glad that you made a video about her😍🖤😻
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  2445. I needed this, thank you
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  2446. Loved the video. And, happy new year Ana!
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  2447. As a sociologist that could never visit many psychology classes I love your videos to learn more. Funny how many topics are so similar, but at least where I am from psychology is held to such higher respect that it nearly is impossible to get into these studies without perfect scores and a lot of waiting, while sociology is often not even limiting the number of students starting their first year. So no chance to really get a nice insight into psychology if you study other fields. Which is kinda sad, because I saw on both sides many researches that would benefit from a little more knowledge in the others field, because in the end both disciplines analyze the same things from different angles, just psychologists tend to speculate a lot about societal topics and sociologists speculate a lot about psychological implications. Which sometimes sadly ends up in very cringy inaccurate or nearly (objectively, not for furthering an agenda) useless research because some basic assumptions that lie outside of the specific field of the research were unknown and just assumed. So thank you for giving outsiders a quick way to get insights into different topics in psychology to read up upon if further interested :)
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  2448. I mean this in the most respectful way, but I think you're beautiful internally and externally.
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  2449. Wonderful content!
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  2450.  @AnaPsychology  Thanks for your thoughtful response! 1. I myself am planning to focus on the intersection of trauma and autistic folk, particularly women as the rates for PTSD amongst that population is astronomically high and simply inexcusable. I haven't come across a large demographic with such a high rate of trauma and it's heartbreaking when you think about these socially-inept girls being around opportunistic guys--whereas the worst of my experience is just severe awkwardness. 2. As I read the DSM criteria for BPD, I think to myself "sounds like me having a string of meltdowns" and I have very often heard of stories (almost always from women) who were mislabeled as BPD because they were suffering a string of burnout/meltdown cycles that gave the impression of an unstable identity making impulsive choices when the reality is closer to a girl who was born with a congenital condition which she is left to fend for herself and spent a good chunk growing up baffled by why "people in general don't seem to like me" and "yet I suffered that traumatic event." Those two thoughts can often dangerously lead down a path of the victim believing she "deserved it." That was just a long-winded way of saying that I believe the more generalized approach to DBT could be particularly successful for autistic folk. 3. Although I appreciate you 'leaving it to the experts,' you're clearly a smart person who cares about learning a wide variety of psychology. Perhaps you could sit down with the DSM-V criteria, maybe go through it, and give your opinion as a DBT-centered practitioner as to how you interpret it in light of your DBT training. If you plan to work with sexual-abuse victims in particular, you might encounter a larger population of ASD women than perhaps your predecessors would, as there is a large movement within the autistic community to diagnosis these women and (hopefully) give them some sort of self-advocacy skillset.
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  2451. Thank you for amazing videos love it!! I learned so much from you this past few days
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  2452. Love this channel so much. Thank you for creating videos all these years, Ana! ❤
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  2453. This video is so helpful and useful ! thank you so much for this content
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  2454. So excited for this series! :D
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  2455. LEZGO another upload anyways I also have a black cat her name is Lucky hehe
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  2456. You're literally my favorite YouTuber. You're doing so good💗
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  2457. damn the concept behind cse is kinda crazy ngl
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  2458. Yaasss more Jungian pls
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  2459. Omg bless this is exactly what I needed
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  2460. So interesting and helpful. Thank you! Enjoy your weekend!xxxooo🎉🎊🎀🎁🐛🦋🐌🥀🌺🌹🌷🌼🌻❤💖💕💙💚💛🧡💜😘
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  2461. Love u guys 🌸🌸
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  2462. AK Chianti!! You guys are so cute. Congratulations on 500k!
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  2463. Thank you so much 💜
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  2464. So interesting, thank you! (:
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  2465. Congratulations on your first sponsorship!
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  2466. Today was not my best day and I’m so thankful for this video already! I’m so glad I can learn something new and helpful 🥰
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  2467. Needed to hear this. Thank you, Doctor. Can’t believe you didn’t say Bucko in your video.
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  2468. Do an office series!
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  2469. This was excellent! Thank you !
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  2470. Thank you for the advice Ana. You look nice with make up and even nicer without it.
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  2471. Just found your channel and love everything so far! Keep them coming <3
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  2472. love this comment <3
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  2473. Thank you for this video Ana.
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  2474. I just found your channel and it’s so helpful! Thank you!🌻🌻🌻
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  2475. I think I know a vampire and I dig it. Thx Ana!
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  2476. Dang your ancestors were having fun! Thanks for this I always wondered^.^
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  2477. I'm glad you've been able to reflect on it! Definitely understand how it can be uncomfortable. Due to COVID I've been living with my bf's family and feel the same as you have, and I've found it difficult as well to really put the reasons to words. I'm with you!
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  2478. With all those wonderful and spooky autumn vibes going on inside in your house a squirrel on a pentagram laying around somewhere wouldn't surprise me.
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  2479. these are great tips!
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  2480. your eyeliner looks so good!!
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  2481. your grandma is very sweet. shared with my gf :)
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  2482. Great video you have a beautiful voice you talk like lana del rey talks so pretty!
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  2483. ​ @AnaPsychology  tnx you really have an interesting topic. keep up the good work! you're awesome!
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  2484. Thank you for this channel!
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  2485. I am all of them. I will watch this video every day until I change.
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  2486. How cool!!! I'm so excited for you congrats on your first sponsorship and thanks for being choosy about it
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  2487. I loved this video! It was so sweet! 🥰♥️
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  2488. SHE BOLTS!!
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  2489. Ok, but I’m OBSESSED with the Goosebumps t-shirt 😍 also, how can we not shout out Charmed for Halloween/fall tv shows??!
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  2490. I love all your videos but I think this one might be my favorite. So true! Sharing with friends and family so that they can finally understand :)
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  2491. Omg good luck! 🙏
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  2492. Thanks for your great videos, I learn a lot Ps: totally unrelated but your hair is so pretty !
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  2493. I am sooooo proud of you and all you are doing🤗🙌
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  2494. Will definitely read! Dr. Ana, I'm not sure if you have a video like this but could you ever make a video or a blog post about "starting" adult life after 18? I am 21 and been dealing with a lot of issues since the pandemic started, physical and mental and I am gonna start "late" and I am very worried and unprepared.
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  2495. Love the video, as always!
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  2496. I need this haha Anna it seems you do psychic readings on my love life as it happens haha
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  2497. Thanks for your support for Toys for Tots
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  2498. And your blush look so pretty!
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  2499.  @AnaPsychology  thank you for clarifying that statement and putting it into context. I work in a hospital setting and the persons diagnosed with personality disorders often conflate their diagnosis with that of murderers. I will continue to advocate for fair representation. I really agree with your prognosis of Michael. Stay safe and happy :)
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  2500. Omg me and my family also send packages to my grandparents and my cousins for Christmas (sometimes Easter too)!!! However we couldn’t this year unfortunately...
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  2501. Thanks so much for your effort from Yemen 🙌
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  2502. Thank you so much for this video, I tend to fixate on my anxiety and worry a lot, and I definitely need to reframe how I think about it! ❤️
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  2503. earlyyy
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  2504. @Rita Gomes I believe she's currently in Romania
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  2505. 🇮🇸
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  2506. Good luck!
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  2507. It has been #1 on my bucket list for years!! So beautiful 😩
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  2508. Wonderful intro! 👻 Dark greetings 🍁🌌
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  2509. You da best Ana! Thank you for more helpful material. It makes a huge difference for me :)
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  2510. Oh my God, I had no idea you were Romanian! I've been watching your videos for so long and did not know we are from the same country :)))
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  2511. Technology!
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  2512. i'm obsessed with this movie / TV show analysis type of content keep it coming pls
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  2513. Thanks Ana, have a nice day 😊
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  2514. Gotta love fantano!
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  2515. Humor is the most effective therapy for reducing emotional pain!
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  2516. Needed this today. Thank you so much!
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  2517. I love your enthusiasm for Halloween 👻 Dark greetings. 🎃🎑
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  2518. Așteptam videoclipul de când l-ai anunțat! ❤️ Mulțumim!
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  2519. Thank you for this video❤
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  2520. Looking forward to the halloweek!! Can't wait. Greetings from Uruguay, love your videos, you have helped me a lot <3
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  2521. Just lovely I just shared it w two people you have such a calming voice and so highly intelligent so happy you share this knowledge thank you 🙏
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  2522. Love all your videos! I truly appreciate you Thank you for sharing your help and knowledge
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  2523. Thanks!
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  2524. I was just watching your videos this morning and wondering if you’ve ever addressed your ethnicity :D how strange. I thought you were a mix between Asian and White initially
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  2525. This was a good one!
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  2526. idk if this would be series worthy but i would love something PLL related😂
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  2527. Hi Ana, Hope you're doing well and revoverd from covid
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  2528. youre my sister from another mister
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  2529. thank u sm!!!
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  2530. This is so important
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  2531. It’s so good you addressed this.🤍 thank you.
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  2532. I was sohappy when i found out that you covered this topic. 😭❤❤❤
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  2533. It's like reading my journal
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  2534. Point three is really important.
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  2535. i think she has one under the name of “how to get over you fear of abandonment”
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  2536. Such a great topic to touch on thank you Ana😘
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  2537. Love your vids Ana
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  2538. this video needs to be broadcasted to all men
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  2539. Hmmm... My first guess is something like ask questions or active listening.
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  2540. first! wow!!
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  2541. thank you for these ideas :>
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  2542. This video got a like because Ana did the peace sign correctly!?! I don't think I have seen anyone on YouTube, TV or Streaming do this correctly for at least a couple of years and don't understand why people do it the wrong way round?!?
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  2543. Eyeliner so good today
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  2544. Woow your makeup is pretty!
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  2545. Both informative and artful :) Great video
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  2546. i am learning so much about myself
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  2547. Love these new and unique ideas
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  2548.  @AnaPsychology  I do. Even if it's in a secret way :D
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  2549. now I understand a lot of things, great video
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  2550. I shared the link to the story graph page I created for the book to add it in my tbr. It got deleted 😢 Edit - YouTube is deleting it constantly, but you can find it in storygraph. PS. Congratulations Dr. Ana! ❤
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  2551. Danny Tanner had OCPD too I think!
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  2552. Thank you Ana! Happy Holidays!
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  2553. Wow, I really needed this today. I've been feeling do good lately but last night and this morning were really rough. Thank you Ana❤️
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  2554. Why listen to 100 hours of podcast, when I can learn everything in this video. Just kidding, I appreciate everything I learned through those podcast and this video. Reinforces the things I learn
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  2555. Are you ok Ana? You said you had covid 19 ?? 💜😖 so not sure when you did this vid ?
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  2556. Love your top♡♡♡ where can i get it ?😍
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  2557. Happy Thanksgiving Ana!! ❤️ Can’t wait to see the video after I get through my reading haha
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  2558. This video reminded me that there are so many other ways I can value life and enjoy life. Lately Ive been feeling like my life will always be defined by abuse and pain because of what happened in my childhood. It’s been so hard to find the good in life, but I’m learning that it’s up to me to go searching for the good things. Only I can make the choice to look past the darkness and see the light.
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  2559. YOU HAD NO RIGHT BEING THIS FUNNY OMG
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  2560. Can't wait for the next module.
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  2561. I love DBT, and can you please explain in-depth about Schema Therapy thank you:)
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  2562. Love you Ana! Thank you so much for making our day and mental health better!
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  2563. So excited for this, I loved the witches video!!
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  2564. ooohh my do I see valfre merch 🥰 and also very interesting, insightful video!!
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  2565. Hi, Greetings from the 🇵🇭 Hope you guys are doing well 😊
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  2566. Big congratulations!🎉🎉💥✨
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  2567. Wow this really made me sit with that for a moment
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  2568. this is amazing!! It’s been such a joy seeing you start on YT and learning so much from you the whole way. It’s def about time they started calling you doctor. And I can’t wait to get my hands on this book!!
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  2569. Live to create and you will be the Happiest... Great video Ana 👍👍
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  2570. Omg I'm so excited 💕 it's funny how after adulthood I fall in love with fairies specifically ! I think it's just the fantasy vibes, regardless I'm looking forward to the video, thank you Dr.Ana !! 🧚🏻‍♀️✨️
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  2571. Thank you so much for making this video. I resonate so much with what you said regarding feeling shamed for being a mother. I am going to save this video and watch it over and over again. Here is a token of my appreciation.
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  2572. Thank you Ana for this beautiful content video ❤️☺️
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  2573. Makes a lot of sense
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  2574. Yassss!!! 😍🧚🏾‍♀️ Notif's on! ❤️
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  2575. Another great video keep it up!
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  2576. Wow anna you are gorgeous with that wig
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  2577. thanks for the video ana, great as always. Happy holidays :)
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  2578. one of your best videos very well explained.
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  2579. Lol @ Chianti jumping the desk
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  2580. I found interesting this idea of classifying machismo as something else than sexism. I'm Latina, but I'm Brazilian, so I speak Portuguese and not Spanish. The word in Portuguese is "machismo" as well. But honestly, here we translate "machismo" (Portuguese) as sexism (no big difference in meaning). I loved to learn the concept of Marianismo as well.
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  2581. I need this!!!!😌😌
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  2582. Thanks Ana, I read Marsha Leinham's book and Schema Therapy sometime ago when I was doing research about BPD. DBT is the combination of CBT and Mindfulness 🙏❤️selfhelpchampion
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  2583. i really needed this today, ana, thank you so much!! 💕
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  2584. I am Ukrainian. Welcome to the family 🤗
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  2585. Thank you for the content queen
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  2586.  @AnaPsychology  thanks for the clarification, maybe i am that someone that would rather expound someones post and give my insights, and i tend to give always lenghty comments , this is maybe due to my INFJ personality :) im too shy and would like to give support to others through comments or messages...thanks for these videos , im always learning from it
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  2587. I don’t know if you already know this if I’m being helpful or not but when I cellophane my hair with a color deep red, it bleeds in the first week whenever I shampooed my hair and also I always wear black or darker clothes on the first week because I feel that my hair color doesn’t look good on almost lighter color clothes but I’m happy I wear black because after one week I searched on some people who dyed their hair with burgundy/deep red, suffer because their favorite white and yellow hoodie is been stained by the red hair. When I dye my hair its always blonde, ginger and brown so I didn’t experience and know those things on burgundy colors. Luckily it didn’t stain my lighter color pillow case.
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  2588. Yayy! I was waiting for this video and I loved it 😍 Phoebo is one of my favourite characters on friends 😁 Phoebo may not be Schizotypal but do you think she has any other personality disorder? Also, what is the point where quirks and oddities of a person's personality cross over to a sign of a personality disorder?
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  2589. so happy for you 💓
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  2590. I'm interested in the passive aggressive video!
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  2591. My father is romanian and people tell me I have asian features sometimes too hahahah. My mum is german though so it’s a funny combination as she basically looks like a russian woman - people are never able to tell where exactly I am from (russia?france? Some asian in there maybe?)😂 Dont ask me why😂 i now colored my hair darker to match my natural color more, so it’s pale skin and dark hair & that makes it even harder to make out my ethnicity - just like it is with u BUT i knew u were Romanian from the start, u look like my sister (and even share the same name)
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  2592. Yes and yes! Thank you Ana!
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  2593. My favourite youtube video of all time
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  2594. That tripod is just having fun wobbling
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  2595. Thank you so much, Anna! Much love <3
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  2596. Very lovely, thank you to you and your grandma!
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  2597. YO the first tip happened to me when applying to colleges im 17
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  2598. susan mayer is a worm
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  2599. im early
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  2600. Thanks for the video Dr. Ana <3 always helpful
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  2601. Phoebe does have the first symptom. There's an episode where she lists random reasons why she's "receiving signs" that she should see her father like "burguer=mcdonalds=old mcdonalds had a farm="my father is a PHARMacist" haha.
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  2602. (I know I'm late finding this video, but I still want to share my answers because this has been really insightful to me). 1: English, Art, and History 2: If my grandparents were still alive and I went to their house over the summer with no internet or television, I would bake, read, explore, color, look at old photos, and listen to their stories. 3: I would go to a bookstore or museum and go to a restaurant and have a nice dinner before returning home and watching a vintage movie/show 4: This ones kind of hard. Probably reading, writing for fun, decorating my room, researching topics I'm interested in, like true crime or old Hollywood, listening to music, self-care 5: I can research all kinds of things without getting bored easily, or walking in nature---even though I rarely do it, color, and watching tv
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  2603. Thanks!
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  2604. TY Ana, will be watching this again..💕
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  2605. Ty Ana! Spending my thanksgiving alone but will try my best to be thankful, just created my journal full of examples. Your videos are always insightful and useful 💗💕
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  2606. I don't feel like I inherently have those traits, but I am actively working on improving. I find some remote jobs have a good amount of time and location freedom. I really want to be in control of what tasks I do though.
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  2607. You look so pretty in this video!
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  2608. If only there were a 'love' button
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  2609. this video came at the perfect time
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  2610. I love and appreciate your videos so much! Ive purchased your Personal Growth Journal and it helped me through a really tough break up as well as other hard moments in my life, I want and will invest in your relationship course soon when I can afford it. Thanks again for all the information you share so willing, you truly make a difference in peoples quality of life 🖤
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  2611. 👏👏👏 quality content 🥰🥰🥰
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  2612. Loved this video
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  2613. Thank you for making this video! I just used your link to purchase one. I got the smaller one you showed us. I live in Alaska and barely get much sunlight throughout the day during the Fall and Winter so this will definitely improve my days. Sweet deal btw 🙏🏼💙
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  2614. 😍😍😍
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  2615. The way I HURRIED to your video once I saw my notification! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I'm so happy for you :DDD
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  2616. Can't wait to watch this after finishing my homework! Just commenting to say hope you're having a good day :)
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  2617. Excellent video, I have to give the book a try now.
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  2618. the content of this video is really well put together, the inclusion of the cbt workbook notes and toolkit was a great idea
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  2619. Thank you for this video. Your channel helps me a lot ❤️
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  2620. Imagini din România 😻😻😻
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  2621. Fresh video from my favourite channel. I'll be brewing a coffee, even though it's 9PM, and enjoy every minute of it. ❤
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  2622. Tried it before never again
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  2623. i have really bad anxiety but it fluctuates. some days its rly bad and other days i dont even notice it. i love your take on it!! a lot of my friends say im really self aware and in tune with my emotions. i love ur presence its so calming and comforting. thank u ana for this channel <3
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  2624. Chianti, I bet her father was San Giovese. HAHAHAHA and her mother was Malvasia.
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  2625. New video yayy
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  2626. I am so excited! love this week theme <3
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  2627. Love the content ❤
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  2628. I always wonder what your routine is for maximum psychological health
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  2629. Do Euphoria next please! You have the best content on youtube! Ly!
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  2630. Interesting. After hearing you speak for 2 seconds I subscribed to your channel because I found your videos really informative and educational and wouldn’t have imagined you having imposter syndrome. Yet I have imposter syndrome too and people tell me the same thing about myself, that they just can’t imagine why. Thanks for this content and being so amazing at what you do.
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  2631. As a fellow psychology student. I appreciated this channel because the focus wasn't lost along the 5 months Keep it up!
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  2632. Your videos are really interesting and you're very articulate and intelligent. I hope you channel grows fast ☺️
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  2633. Ukrainians are also grateful to you. Слава Україні!
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  2634. This video was so helpful. Thank you for talking about this!
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  2635. thank you so much for this
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  2636. We definitely appreciate the effort women put in❤️
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  2637.  @AnaPsychology  It's interesting because people in the show act like she's out of his league, and I never saw it that way. I see two great people with equally low self esteem haha.
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  2638. Wow, I followed many of your videos for quite some time and loved them and only now I discovered you are Romanian. :-)
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  2639. Just purchased it :] IM EXCITED TO READ!!
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  2640. the synchronicity of her content in my life..blessed be
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  2641. just received your book last night and as someone who has never journaled very much before, the thought of filling in the contents if I wasn't sure what to write down felt a bit overwhelming. I think you clarified a lot of my concerns and confusions here. looking forward to the journ(aling)ey! thank you for all that you do 😀
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  2642. thank you so so so much for not only this video, but for all your content. it always helps me a lot <3
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  2643. you just got ten times cooler to me blessings on u
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  2644. Thank you Ana. This video is very helpful.
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  2645. So refreshing ❤️
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  2646. Hope you have a happy holiday season! 🎉😁🛍️🎁🎄☃️
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  2647. I have always have feared of Putin will do. And I agreed that will affect my country, the US
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  2648. I really like the quality of your videos. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. Adding examples is very helpful for understanding those concepts
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  2649. Love the content. What about the characters of the Big Bang Theory
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  2650. And that’s on watching the vampire diaries 😭
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  2651. I can’t wait to watch this later! Also I like the thumbnail :)
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  2652. Loved the video... soo funny: you always hear bunnies are doing it!
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  2653. A whole lot of people aren't going to want to hear this message. Folks will put it front and center into bios and introduce themselves that way like it's their star sign. "I have a disorder? Oh thank God. For a minute there I thought I had to cultivate a personality." You don't want to heal if you've made sure that what's wrong with you is the only interesting thing about you.
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  2654. YESSS girl you are killing it, im so happy for you
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  2655. Yay Ana I love your videos! 💗💗💗
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  2656. i really needed this, thank you 😭😭
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  2657. You know you have a good YouTuber when you gotta make sure you like the video before you even watch it so you don't forget later 😂
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  2658. Yessss great video!!!! ❤️
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  2659. I love your curls!!!
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  2660. Cred ca e videoul meu preferat de la tine. Am zambit de la inceput pana la final. 😌
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  2661. This was cool, your grandma Reminds me of my grandma. I like her.
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  2662. Awesome skits these examples really help me understand. Thanks! I will try to be more active and constructively.
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  2663. I'm so glad YouTube recommended me your videos lol.
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  2664. Thank you to Ana and her grandma for sharing a little bit of their family <3
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  2665. Great video! I love your choice of the topics. Happy holidays :)
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  2666. I tossed something in and wishing you luck with the rest.
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  2667. Thank you for this video. I can now relate more to the characters in the movie. This movie actually gave me a headache when i first watched it.
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  2668. Yea I had to watch it in two sittings it's alot. Also Natalie Portman does alot of things I do and I felt not attacked but just like oh shit I gotta work on that :/
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  2669. Your top and the blue flowers in the background make such an aesthetically pleasing combination. Love you, great video 💞
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  2670. One of the better videos ! I personally found "The power of now" by Eckhart Tolle rather useful when it comes to acceptance. It is a bit more spiritual, but it's not religious.
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  2671. You're not soft for having/expressing emotions. That's part of the human experience. I don't know your beliefs but I heard long ago 'We're spiritual beings having a human experience' and that helped me to understand that the reason why we're here is to learn/grow/change and affect/effect others (have relations with others) that helps them on their journey. =)
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  2672. this is the best haha xx
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  2673. So cute
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  2674. Thank you. This is compassionate.
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  2675. hahah greetings from bulgaria 🇧🇬😂
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  2676. Happy early Halloween!!!
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  2677. Trying to make (work)-friends right now, this is helpful!
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  2678. Very good video. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
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  2679. 4 people
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  2680. Anna I love your content on Carl Jung! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
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  2681. It would be interesting to find out how many people get more help from these videos than the therapy they have been paying for, for years...
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  2682. Wow this information is critical , thank you !!
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  2683. You have a lot of good topics, but I cant get over how beautiful you are! So you have my undivided attention.
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  2684. Welcome back! So glad to have you here as a resource and guide on YouTube :) for free!! 🙏🏼
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  2685. Hahaha that's so cute, this video made my day <3
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  2686. Thank you for making this video💜 Important topic and i like the way you communicate👍 This video just made me realize so many important but painful while also healing things. I related many times to your video. Luckily those problems are mostly behind me thanks to SSRI and self-care(and in my past also therapy)💜 If anyone there is struggling, seek help and support💜 Theres times when things will get better💜
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  2687. I got so excited when you started talking about opposite actions because I’ve been following that method ever since I started watching you and it’s helped me cope with so much 🥺❤️
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  2688. Needed this
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  2689. you have great taste in shows
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  2690. Congratulations, Ana.
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  2691. I think about the future way too much, though have gotten better at managing it in the last year 😅
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  2692. “aLl CoUplES fiGHt” yea…no.
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  2693. very good video, simple and efficient thank you Ana
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  2694. This video hit me just at the right moment. Thank you Dr.
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  2695. That is one beautiful black cat.
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  2696. Helpful. I had no idea that mental disorder is actually affecting oral health, forward to switching to an electric brush ASAP
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  2697. Ally mcbeal and John . Love this video, you're very good.
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  2698. I needed this video 🤍
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  2699. I love your videos <3 hugs from Panama my gorgeous <3
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  2700. Cute shirt!! I swear this video came right on time 👏 👏 Quarantine has had me down in the dumps!
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  2701. I looked forward to this one :)
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  2702. Y'all are as cute as a button together.
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  2703. I'm mesmerized by you as a redhead
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  2704. Ana Psychology Agreed, having that support is truly amazing :)
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  2705. Watching now.
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  2706. Alba-ca-Zapada 🤩
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  2707. Wow! This is such a wonderful thing you are doing with your platform! I support you all the way 😁
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  2708. Wow this was so interesting!
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  2709. Pls do makeup tutorial
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  2710. I feel like you might enjoy some Changeling: The Dreaming lore videos.
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  2711. Excited 🩶
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  2712. Burgandy, as in Ron Burgundy! 🤭😋 You look fabulous! 👩 💃 😉
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  2713. Love your videos! Very helpful! Thanks!
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  2714. You are challenging my views. Thank you!
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  2715. Thank you for sharing ☺️ I loved watching this!!!
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  2716. Congratulations Ana! You are such a thoughtful and authentic person. As soon as I found your channel back in the early days you were a breath of fresh air and i knew you had enormous potential to grow here on YouTube. I’m so proud of you and can’t wait to see where this journey takes you!
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  2717. this sounds soo cool! when i was younger, my sister and i were so obsessed with books about two sisters with magical powers, family curses, etc. i'll definitely find the time to read this <3
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  2718. Thanks!
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  2719. Very interesting!! Thanks for the work on this video, Ana! And happy holidays!
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  2720. Great video to do 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
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  2721. Awesome sweater Ana 👌
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  2722. Ana, are you aware of the OkCupid data that showed that women rated the bottom 80% of men as unattractive? Many data suggest the 80/20 rule in dating. Please consider this article : https://quillette.com/2019/03/12/attraction-inequality-and-the-dating-economy/ As an average man, my experience on dating app has been terrible. I swipe right on almost all profile and get very few match. When i message my match, i get few response and sometime get ghosted. Sometimes, the response are short and uninterested. Women initiate rarely with few initiatives.
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  2723. We are considered mammals
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  2724. Thank you for these informative videos. I love your channe and hope it gains more subscribers bc it's underrated. - with lots of love, Dawon. ❤🙏
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  2725. congrats Ana! 🫶🏼
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  2726. hello dr. Ana, thank you so much for providing a well-informed and comfortable space for us here on this platform🫶
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  2727. lol i wish you were my prof for my zoom classes
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  2728. Thank you for all the information you provide xoxo salutari din romania
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  2729. Too true, too true
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  2730. YMCA lmao loved this! you looked STUNNING with red hair btw 😍
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  2731. Thanks Ana, we have posted your video Tips for Angry Women at selfhelpchampion under Understanding Anger .❤️🙏selfhelpchampion
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  2732. Ur so beautiful pls make a video on u skin care am and pm routine
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  2733. This was so many levels of sweet 💞
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  2734. I know it's totally unrelated but please link your tops also you're gorgeous 😭😭❤️❤️
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  2735. i am going to follow her advice. all of it. this is all just now dawning on me in full force, at 42. she said it aloud for me to hear back. everything she said rings true to my chore. practice makes perfect…
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  2736. Congratulations! I often forget that you are a “smaller” creator; you deserve that 50k and so much more. I really appreciate the care and effort you clearly put into all of your content. Best of luck in the coming weeks, months, and years!
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  2737. Congratulations on the book release, Ana! I’m rooting for you!
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  2738. Huh never been this early, well hiiii hope ur having a great day
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  2739. Hopefully next year I can take a trip to Salem. What’s the favorite activity you did ? How was parking? Is there Uber ? (:
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  2740. this was much needed
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  2741. You been reading my diary huh miss ma'am😂😂😂
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  2742. I recently got into Logothearoy after I got diagnosed with stage 2 colin cancer and Viktor's book really helped me reconnect with my meaning for my life. For the first question, I would become a full time creative and donate most of my profits to causes I connect to. The second question is that I have a strange ikd power or something that calms brings happiness to people. So in connection to the first one, I would make art and videos that help people release traumas and appreciate life.
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  2743. congrats 🎊 🎉🎉🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️ you deserve it and you deserve more ❤️❤️
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  2744. I. AM. SO. EXCITED. Ill be in salem as well! Will say hi if I see you 💕
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  2745. dark greetings
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  2746. Thank you Dr Anna! Enlightening as always.
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  2747. Excellent video, it gives us useful information and you will see ... Thanks for sharing
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  2748. wow you're beautiful!!
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  2749. I got blind in that movie. Literally lost sight in my left eye in the most intense scene, for over 15m. Very powerful movie ^_^
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  2750. Just starting the video but your septum piercing is so cute on you! I’ve already been working to reframe my anxiety, thanks so much for helping me train my mind
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  2751. Ana. I’m in tears. 😂
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  2752. WOOOOW I really wanna thank you for this video!! It’s incredible! Thanks, Ana!!!
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  2753. Gracias querida Ana , saludos y besos ❤️❤️ Excellent and very helpful video !
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  2754. Found you right after I broke off my engagement. Your videos gave me confidence in making the right decision for myself. Every time I found myself doubting my decision I just go back to watch them. Thank you.
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  2755. Thank you so much, I feel the same way and knowing someone else is out there like u makes me happy
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  2756. i sent this video my best friend:) she has seasonal depression and depression on top of that. since all university campuses are closed rn, she cant go outside as much and we're in Canada where the winter days are extremely long and dark. she told me she's gonna go invest in a happy lamp!! her university had one and that's where she use to go for her study sessions but now she cant for obvious reasons. thanks ana <3
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  2757. This was so cute!
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  2758. So proud of myself 🥳
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  2759.  @AnaPsychology  okay, I'm not complaining though 😂😂😂
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  2760. The contribution to others in need along with personal growth work together in true happiness. We are many but linked together in this way. There seems to a collective consciousness that requires us to understand our need for each other even when we are in competition for these needs. We make one another better in both positive and negative aspects. "Order seems to arise out of chaos". History teaches me that overall thing are better through learning these hard lessons. I beieve we are better off now than we were in the distant past. We must evolve together. "United we stand, divided we fall".
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  2761. Skateboarding, want to take a penny board to japan with me on a trip and skate the streets (when they are empty)
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  2762. 6:03 signs of a bad friendship I would say.
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  2763. Was just on the big island 2 weeks ago! Glad you got to enjoy it.
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  2764. I’m moving to the East coast next year and I hear the winter months are rough so I’m definitely getting one
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  2765. W❤W! I’m so happy for you, proud of you, and appreciate the time you put into sharing with us here! Brava!
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  2766. Congrats Ana. Shoot ya better upgrade your camera quality so we can see inside ya soul.
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  2767. Love your videos ❤️.You forgot to mention Hecate and her relation to magic and witches
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  2768. But here’s the catch..because of lockdowns, how will this be applied Anna in long distance “dating”? Haha
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  2769. So cool!
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  2770. Thanks!
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  2771. Ana Psychology I would love to see what you think About the characters in season one, and then again after season two as their characters change and evolve.
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  2772. We read so many of the same books🕊 no wonder I love your channel💫
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  2773. Ana I’m so glad I found your channel! Your videos are interesting and also apply to my life so it’s a win win. You’ve inspired me once I go to grad school to make videos on the environment. I like the idea of getting a higher education and making the info accessible to all that can help or teach people
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  2774. Finally, Just the issue I’ve been needing my whole life
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  2775. Im a yoga teacher and yoga totally change my perception of my body, I now have a loving relationship with my body ;) Thank you for the tips Ana
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  2776. So exited for the next videos :) all those topics sound really interesting
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  2777. Ana can you do a hair video updates please ?? I have short hair that looks like yours and I’m trying to get more self care and become more comfortable being an intellectual person as a writer and you really improve my mind and heart connection
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  2778. Thank you! I'm excited to read A State Of Affairs....as somebody who had affairs for a period of my life, I appreciate that you mention a book with a perspective you don't always hold. Most of my affairs came as a result of unresolved psychopathological issues and holding myself in the guilt that most view as deserved for multiple years caused me to become even less of a human than I was at the time of the affairs.
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  2779. Thanks for information 👍 😀
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  2780. Really enjoyed this video! Thank you to you both for talking about this topic :-)
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  2781. Beautiful 🇹🇩🇹🇩💙❤💛
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  2782. sex in euphoria is almost always presented as a form of violence. ie nates dads sex tapes/routine is almost exactly the same way that nate attacks maddies rapist. nate learned sex as a way of dominance, and his exposure to violent sex has led him to a warped expression of emotions. instead of expressing sadness and grief over what maddy did, he uses violence to mask how he truly feels. this also manifests itself through his blackmail against jules; he is confused and does not know how to express his confusion and therefore schemes against her. loved the vid 👍🏼👍🏼
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  2783. Blast music and down a whole bottle of Jameson 🙈 jkjk
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  2784. I love your sweater and your videos :D
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  2785. You wearing that sunblock cap is so cool! I never realised that people would even consider it weird bc it kind of looks like a baseball cap
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  2786. love this - thank you from a fellow Slav <3
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  2787. I honestly appreciate this video. I think I will use this going forward in relationships.
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  2788. Bigfoot is my homie and aliens exist
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  2789. Great video
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  2790. My heart 🥺
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  2791. I love listening to your videos
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  2792. Been waiting for this!
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  2793. I love her❤️
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  2794. Algorithm ✨
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  2795. I’ve been working hard to try and improve my body image, really needed this!! 🙏🏻
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  2796. guy at 5:10 is a snack and he look like he got bars for days
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  2797. Ordered mine as soon as I saw your email today 🎉🎉🎉
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  2798. My favourite video yet! Thank you so much Anna you’re amazing ☺️❤️ I especially love the “its like training a toddler” 😂👌🏽
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  2799. Another great video Ana.!!!! ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤
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  2800. This is a very useful video. I'm sure a lot of people have problems with procrastination. I appreciate that your video was very on point and concrete, as you have said. Congratulations on your channel growth! You have grown a lot as a content creator and rightfully so. I'm excited to see that your content is appreciated. :)
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  2801. Considering that Dr Grande used this as a defence in his support of Woody Allen🤮, it would be great to hear your thoughts on the particular example used against Mia Farrow. There existed beyond what should be considered red flags against Allen, yet he still successfully convinced the courts that he was a victim of parental alienation.
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  2802. teoria mea a conspiratiei e ca ti-a venit ideea acestui clip dupa ce ai urmarit alegerile din tara 😂
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  2803. yayy Ana 🇷🇴 so happy to be one of the first to watch! Love your content
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  2804. THANK YOU SO MUCH! THIS VIDEO IS SUPER NECESSARY FOR ME!!!
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  2805. The intro. The makeup. The hair…..omgg
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  2806. Can you make a video about schizoid personality disorder and general anxiety??❤️❤️
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  2807. I love your voice it’s so calming
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  2808. I bought almost all of your books except the one about relationships, I will buy that one later on. I should receive them next week and looking forward to reading them especially the one about The Curse In Their Veins.
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  2809. I love the video it helped me think in another way about my anxiety and I will try to practice thinking this way when I'll feel anxious. Thank you so much for making this video ❤️ ❤️
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  2810. perfect timing omg thank you for this!
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  2811. Yes 👏👏👏 one of my favourite topics. Thank you Ana.
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  2812. Yessss 🧙🏽‍♀️🧚🏽‍♀️
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  2813. 🌹🌹😆
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  2814. I genuinely love your content. Can I provide constructive criticism? Could you think about choosing an alternative clicking/less abbrasive clicking noice for your bullet points? It might just be me, but I appreciate your work nonetheless!
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  2815. I absolutely love that you are uploading daily right now, every day i’m excited for your new video! In regards to the topic, I’ve always felt that Regina must be a prime example of a narcissist. It would be very interesting if you’d mention how common the different disorders are that you are talking about 🧐 hope you are having a great day!
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  2816. hehe clicking to watch ur old vids and seeing u just uploaded B)
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  2817. Yess thank you so much for this video 🙏
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  2818. I just started watching breaking bad after 10 years. Going on season 3 binge.
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  2819. you’re beautiful & smart, love your channel.
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  2820. HA , I guesed 5
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  2821. We're so wired to focus on the negative things that we take so many things for granted. Especially with COVID, so often we go about our day and forget about the little things that matter until it's gone. I used to do gratitude journaling during a tough time, writing three things per day. However, I felt that writing three things every single day didn't have as much of an impact as I'd hoped. So, what I liked to do is to continue writing three things I was grateful for every day, then I would pick three or more things I felt like I was most grateful for out of that entire week. For me, I felt like my gratitude was much more positively impactful on my worldview and overall optimism. Overall, gratitude is such a small task to practice, yet such a positively powerful thing on our wellbeing. This video really helped me consider getting back on it again. Thanks for the informative video!
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  2822. This one is right up my alley.
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  2823. 1.biology 2. Get dolled up / dressed up & visit the entire town ( especially if there's nature there ) with my grandparents , basically sightseeing 3. Shopping & sightseeing 4. All things shower / grooming and dressing 5.ANYTHING SELFCAREEEE OR SELF-IMPROVEMENT ( working out , hot girl walksss Meditation & pamperingg )
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  2824. First
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  2825. Thank u Ana! That was very motivating for me to hear ♥️♥️♥️ want to work for that success
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  2826. here for spooky story :0
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  2827. I like your videos.
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  2828. Just listening to you makes me relax. Thanks!
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  2829. Great content! My anxiety has been off the charts the last months, mindfulness, gratitude journalling and a diy version of ‚the work‘ helped, i. e. inverting my thoughts to stop myself from ruminating. also: I have a boa and had many friends hold him kinda scared for the first time and walk away feeling better about their fear, which is nice ☺️
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  2830. I was excited about this video, thank you , Ana ❤ Happy holidays, everyone!
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  2831. Belated Happy Birthday, Anna. ❤️
    2
  2832. I needed this so much, you had no idea! I always leave things for the last minute and sometimes even when I accomplish something big, I feel like I don't deserve it, and find ways of self-sabotaging to keep traped on a "victim narrative". Just realized that. Still need to find the origin of it all, I guess... sorry about my english. love your channel!
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  2833. Your videos are always very interesting, good job!:)
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  2834. I haven't even pressed play, and I already know I need this <3
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  2835. This is super interesting girl!!! Thanks for sharing with us ☺️. I’m a psychology student hoping to do my masters in counseling and have a practice focusing on people with chronic or terminal illnesses and disabilities like myself 🙂
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  2836. I just started watching your videos a few days ago on relationships because I just recently got into one, and I also love Psychology. My boyfriend had told me he's high functioning autistic, and seeing this video made me so happy! I never clicked so fast! Thank you for talking about this!
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  2837. Salsa!
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  2838. Been thinking about this around this full moon. I always avoid asking myself the question at 1:53 because the answer saddens me. I'm so far from that reality. So yeah, this vid was soothing. Thank you Ana.
    2
  2839. Thank you for making my year a little better! I hope you have a nice holiday :)
    2
  2840. your voice is so calming. love your content
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  2841. I appreciate your kind heart so much❤️ loving your channel so much
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  2842. Congratulations!!🎉🎉
    1
  2843. ♥️
    1
  2844. I can’t wait to watch, your videos always make my day!! ❤️ It makes me laugh when people constantly talk about others having daddy issues unironically
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  2845. This video was very interesting, I appreciate your insights! I hope her daughter watches your video. Thank you for your thoughts on respect. I have been trying to reconcile my belief that everyone deserves respect and kindness with a recent experience where I was struggling with how to/whether someone still deserves respect when they continually demonstrate disrespect towards me (sexism, ableism, etc)
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  2846. Hi Ana🍁 happy thanksgiving
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  2847. Great video! I was in CBT and DBT classes weekly for nearly two years and we learned all of these methods. The biggest thing my counselors stressed was that you tried each thing multiple times, starting with small emotionally stressful circumstances. I was told that the skills were like learning how to ride a bicycle (so starting with training wheels), being in therapy and practicing the skills when you're not emotionally stressed or have very small emotionally stressful circumstances. Then building up and recognize what skills you tend to favor. I think the only one that you didn't mention, which I found very useful for me (general anxiety disorder), was the dive response method. Personally for me it always brought my anxiety down 3 to 4 points whenever I use this method. The method that you mentioned about writing down the worst possible scenarios, then the likeliness for it to happen, then reframing it is my favorite one in very stressful situations. In my class there was actually a form that we got and we would just copy it from the master copy. I don't remember what the title of the form was called or what book it was from so if you happen to know let me know! For DBT we used Marsha Lineham workbooks in class. For CBT we used McKay workbooks. You can buy all of them so if anyone who wants self-guided therapy tools there plenty you can buy online. Lastly I like to watch psychology videos or videos pertaining to situations I'm having to deal with. When I had custody issues I would watch a lot of videos from experts who worked in Family Court settings or people who just had lots of experience with dealing with custody issues. It helped empower me that I had tools to use in court OR a fear I had would diminished because I check the facts. From psychology videos it helped me focus on myself and/or it helped me understand why someone would treat me as they did. Sometimes just understanding others bad behaviors can take the power away from that persons bad behavior. Im sure many people like your videos for this exact same reason ☺️
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  2848. Interesting video :)
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  2849. congratulations
    1
  2850. I just subscribed!
    1
  2851. Haha light therapy is a question on my ASWB social work clinical exam thanks for the info helpful to see it broken down.
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  2852. Currently procrastinating on my school work atm😫
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  2853. Why do i understand perfectly some words hahah. I swear some words are very similar to portuguese
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  2854. Thank you! I was worried you weren't gonna do the video. I am so grateful you still have it in mind. Hope you had a good Thanksgiving :)
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  2855. Congrats Ana ! :)
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  2856. Been a silent follower now but I just really love you and your channel. It’s so informative!! Btw, I am small youtuber. Who is down to supporting each other? 🤗
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  2857. Appreciate your take on this! Great advice.
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  2858. I was on Effexor for about a year and getting off it was a NIGHTMARE. Truly, truly awful. I’m so happy that it helps some people and I’d never want to take it away from them, but I’m glad you didn’t have to be on it long. Thank you for sharing your story here! It makes a lot of sense that EDs would be connected to ocd. I’m so glad and proud of you that this is something you overcame! ❤
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  2859.  @AnaPsychology  They are so cuddly too!! I also love spooky stuff and I'm looking forward to your next video on halloweek!!
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  2860. Ughhh I really dislike bookkeeping and doing taxes too 😅
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  2861. Hi Ana! I just purchased Goal Getter from your website and noticed that there are some fields that aren’t pulling over correctly in the email I received with confirmation, namely the “YOUR LOGO” field at the top and the mail signature field which just shows “{{mail_signature}}” as if nothing has been set up for it to be filled in just yet. Just thought you’d want to know in case you didn’t already!
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  2862. Hi Ana,  I think the main skill I'm developing right now in my life is just managing my time while planning out my future as a college student. I'm majoring in psych with an intention to get a PhD and become a professor. Dedicating at least one hour of my day to educational/career development has served me enormously well in just two months--I've landed both a lab job and a summer internship! The tips about building self-efficacy and consistency really resonated with me.
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  2863. I love these types of videos you do 😇
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  2864.  @AnaPsychology  aw thank u☺️ so happy I found ur channel
    1
  2865. Omg i love this content but please don’t touch serum droppers to your skinnnn! Good thing they have preservatives but better not to ^v^
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  2866. Esti romanca? Accentul e on point, n-as fi crezut. Bravo. Iti urez mult succes in cariera de psiholog si cu canalul de asemenea. Sper ca vei putea ajuta cat mai multe persoane cu probleme.
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  2867. Congratulations Ana! ❤ Your videos really helped me a lot. Very well deserved!
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  2868. Didnt Stephenie Meyer invent Vampires? Joking aside, Great Video. Well researched, well explained and not too long whilst approching it from mutiple angles.
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  2869. Congratulations! i've leaned and gained so much trough your videos! keep up the good work<3
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  2870. Looking forward to it! Jim was the first I thought of
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  2871. This is the kind of wholesome content we all need right now, thank you!
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  2872. Great content ! I've stumbled upon your channel by pure accident. Esti luminoasa ca o zi de primavara !
    1
  2873. Thank you ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
    1
  2874. 💜💜
    1
  2875. I’m about to start work as a therapist so this will be so funny
    1
  2876. this is helpful thank you <3
    1
  2877. so thankful for your videos ana!
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  2878.  @AnaPsychology  thankyou so much
    1
  2879. Your videos have helped me so much in both my personal and professional life. Thank YOU Ana :)
    1
  2880. Very nice video! Thank you Ana <3
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  2881. Thank you Ana. I benefit from these discussions. 💛
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  2882. is nobody gonna mention the amazing 4k qual that is available? Thanks a ton for the info, Ana!
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  2883. Wow your Chanel is great! Thanks for sharing
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  2884. Ooooomgggggg Vampire Ana. 😎 Awesome video
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  2885. 💛✨🌻
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  2886. you look beautiful ana!
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  2887. I cannot get enough of how genuine this video is and I wish to stumble upon more like this on the internet. Thank you, it was so lovely to witness :)
    1
  2888. Her impact her wisdom 💜💜
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  2889. Rarely ever watch through a video like this without skipping. You’re incredible! Thank you for posting this❤️ xo
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  2890. Hey can you make videos about different schema and different defense mechanism ?
    1
  2891. I had just been thinking about wanting to improve on this skill! Thank you for making this video
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  2892. You are amazing 💗 Honesty, I love every single thing you do on this channel and THIS made me appreciate and respect you and your work even more. I'm very grateful that I found you on YouTube back in April, I learned so much from you and just wanted to thank you for that :)
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  2893. I didnt realise what I was struggling with was bargaining. Thank you so much, this video helps me so much
    1
  2894. Currently sitting with that
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  2895. Omg! How can this be! 🤩 I've always loved your videos and your style, but now you're writing books I would actually read and are all subjects I'm obsessed with?!?!?! How could you have gotten more amazing! Congratulations 👏🏼👏🏼♥️🎉
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  2896. You're getting dangerously close to 50 thou. Early congrats! 😁
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  2897. Omg haha I got a dating ad during the middle of your video. “How can a balding 30 year old man get a hot date.” Great video btw,I was always afraid of using tinder because I thought it would destroy my self esteem after a week haha. I prefer to do it the old fashioned way and get my parents to arrange my dates :P
    1
  2898. Hi Anna 😊 Happy Halloween 🎃
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  2899. Great video Ana! I really needed this today :). I loved the quicksand metaphor.
    1
  2900. Yay ♥️🤗
    1
  2901. Bombay Cat - Like a monkey, cat, and dog all rolled into one. Learned so much today.
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  2902. Thank you so much for making this ❤️
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  2903. Thanks for sharing 😊
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  2904. I miss grandparents so much. This was wonderful. Thank you 💙
    1
  2905. All of my favorite things in a book written by one my favorite content creators! <3
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  2906. Congratulations on 50,000 subs wish you and your partner true happiness ,lovely and peaceful healthy together 😁🤗❤❤
    1
  2907. I just got both of your books and I’m happy to support you. Excited for these to arrive❤ i would also love an audiobook version of this.
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  2908. 💕💕
    1
  2909. Affirming beauty....
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  2910. Hi, great video, challenges a lot of views I had about money. Also, I wanted to let you know I was looking for your book channel, and the results were mostly unrelated channels. I had to search for 'Book & Hearth Ana' to find it.
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  2911. Congrats Ana! keep it up :)
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  2912. I haven't even watched the video yet, but I just want to say I love the thumbnail!
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  2913. Hey Ana!! Thank you so much for taking notice of my request a week back and doing this video. Its really been helpful thank you!!
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  2914. Happy Monday Ana!! 🥳 can’t wait to see this after my Zoom meeting
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  2915. Thank you!
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  2916.  @AnaPsychology  Wow, I appreciate your response very much. Much love! Sending you my best.
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  2917. CBT has & is helping me face my insecurities. It forced me to challenge some deeply held beliefs that I allowed to mount up for years. Also, I stayed until the surprise 🐱
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  2918. Thanks!
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  2919. thank you for this video! i need some motivation right now , especially that im living and working i n a new country, been here for nearly a year but im still adjusting and i feel work burnout, and that causes me to have a lack of sleep even in my woking days
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  2920. Hooray for AP psych because I actually understand this😂
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  2921. Thank you so much Ana for this topic. It means so much to me on how to handle my grief. So much love to you and I hope I get to see your channel growing. Your channel deserve more recognition! Wish you all the best Ana 💖✨
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  2922. ❤️ it's good to go back to the basics
    1
  2923. This is a video I needed today
    1
  2924. Aww, what a pretty kitty! I love your content and I'll look into your merch. Thank you for everything you do 💕
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  2925. I badly needed this video! My entire schedule went for a toss since working from home... No distinction between work and personal life 😢 I have actively began to fix it in the past 2 weeks but still struggling a bit 😶😶 This video has got my spirits up and given me lots of tips and tricks to try now 😬😬
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  2926. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤍💘
    1
  2927. i feel envious but that's my feeling and has nothing to do with you. Good job writing a novel.
    1
  2928. Your cat is so beautiful!! Love your videos! Just subscribed.
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  2929. I think this channel has grown the way it did because it's honestly so unique. I subscribed because I found the topics interesting and you express them in a well though out and well spoken way and I had never come across a content like it before. Congrats you deserve it ♥️
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  2930. Ahhh Ana congrats!!! I obviously don't know you personally, but from what you've described on here I can glean you've been working extremely hard. I wish you the best! Thank you for this video!
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  2931. thank you 😊
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  2932. So excited to read it!!
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  2933. Dr. Ana I love your channel! It’s helped me a lot recently, thank you!
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  2934. Congrats Ana! Your videos are super helpful and insightful, please don't stop making them! <3
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  2935. Congratulations, that’s so exciting! I’m adding it to my ongoing Christmas/birthday list 😊
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  2936. LOVE LOVE this type of content on an emotional level!!! Thank you!!!
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  2937. Thanks for sharing, Ana and not for the first time you have shown you are a typical Capricorn 😂. I would encourage you to take more time out from work (I learntthe hard way how it can'tbe sustained and us unhealthy), but hey, you have to want to do it!!!!
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  2938. Former golden child turned black sheep here to support the spread of this super important information.Thanks
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  2939. Hi Dr. Ana, I bought the Connection Course already a couple of months ago. Could I still receive the content in the bundle without having to purchase it again?
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  2940. I believe Ana will also make a video in romanian. Sunt foarte curios sa iti aud accentul.
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  2941. hahaha, didn't expect it, but great video!
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  2942. First!
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  2943. Buna, Ana! Great video and content ❤️
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  2944. If you get the chance I hope you do more characters!
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  2945. Felicitari!!!! 🎉
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  2946. I absolutely looved it hahahahaahahaha!!!
    1
  2947. I'll probably order one for next month
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  2948.  @AnaPsychology  Maybe something about his anger issues mixed with his obsession with marriage (is that connected to him being 'the golden child' in his family?) ... Not sure though. I'm looking forward to your next video, whatever it is. Very interesting content - just like dr.Grande. 😃
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  2949. Will read it for sure!
    1
  2950. I love your channel because I listen to you talk while I'm doing other stuff and I am still learning. Your channel is helping me become more aware of my actions and be able to fix them.
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  2951. Amazing! 🤩
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  2952. OMG love this... unique video idea
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  2953. Yes....... Ana ...... you nailed it ! 👍 👏
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  2954. Looking forward to reading this! Congratulations 💛
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  2955. I'm so happy I'm finally a little free now to watch your videos again 🍁
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  2956. For some reason you really remind the oldest daughter in Better things. I think she was played by Mikey Madison
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  2957. Definitely like this idea. Happy Thanksgiving!
    1
  2958. SO EXCITED
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  2959. I'm gonna procrastinate watching this video i am sorry Anna
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  2960. Thanks
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  2961. Love the advice and really gonna need it but sorry I need to say ur so gourges
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  2962. I’m coming to this video as a first year law student. I’ve been beating myself up for not being instantly great at legal writing. Thank you for helping me change my mindset❤
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  2963. I’m so happy I came across your page about friendships bc it led me to your book && legit everything from the symbolism of witchcraft && the shadow and Omg I’m legit so excited to read your novel!! I just shows my husband this video and he’s like wait it even goes into narcissism?! The topics and psychological themes and even the Celtic folklore is legit how we cope with our day to day stress of narcissistic friends or family!
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  2964. Great video! Akiflow is exactly what I need! I will check it out. I have been reading about the Shadow, however, your explanation helped me to understand the concept! Thank you dearly!
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  2965. You're my favorite youtube channel. Thanks for the great videos
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  2966. When I was 18 my father died of alcoholism that he struggled with my entire life. It took me a long time to feel grounded after that. At 23 I had a random cardiac arrest and almost lost my own life- I was very lucky to have been saved by a nurse who happened to walk by me on the street as I was laying unconscious and dying. Death is a very complicated and death subject, and with my experience with it and the healing journey I feel I have a more profound way of viewing the world- how finite everything is, and how we as humans tend to take everything for granted when truly we are on a biological tight rope and the end could come at any time. But that is the beauty of it all, to be in the now. What helped me with grieving was to learn about energy and quantum physics- this gives me hope that energy is eternally recycled and that all matter returns to the universe again. It makes death less scary :) I love your videos! I’m also a psychology student who wants a doctorate in psychology and I think you should keep making these videos and keep being strong and speaking your truth ❤️ You are a very lovely and intelligent soul
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  2967. Love the movie and loved your video 💜
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  2968. Congratulations Dr. Ana
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  2969. Hi Ana thank you very much for this video. I have a question for you, what do you think about trigger warnings, I really care about your idea.
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  2970. had a shit day, thanks for this
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  2971. This video is a gift! Thank you Ana
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  2972. Hi Ana, This video is very helpful for me to understand better on what I am going thru lately and I needed this as honestly, it has been a rough 2021 this year for me. Btw, thank you Ana!
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  2973. Omg can't wait!
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  2974. You are so cute in the thumbnail😍 just had to say it!
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  2975. Congratulations, Ana!!! Your content is amazing, you can see with the subscriber count how many people are interested in what you make, you totally deserve all the growth your channel has gotten! I wish you nothing but the very best ♡😊!!!
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  2976. I really needed this video ❤
    1
  2977. Your Halloweek-Outifts are on point 👌
    1
  2978. Thanks Ana! I struggle with this and appreciate your insights
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  2979. Ana Psychology thanks for making such awesome Vids! 🙂
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  2980. Great topic, content and explanation. Valuable. Thank you, kindly me. ♥️ Very special channel, a gem♥️ Thank you Miss Romania♥️
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  2981. 'Extraordinary rendition' & 🇺🇸 is a topic you may find intriguing. I did a paper about it back in 2014'ish. Got an A- on it. Teach' said it was "too meta" 😤🧐. Pshhh. Try not to go too far into the rabbit hole 🐇🕳️. Don't hesistate to snag the rabbit's foot if the opportunity presents itself, though 🥀👣🔮. My condolences for what happened in your Motherland (aka Home Country). 🎭🪬 Long days & pleasant nights, stranger 🙏🧬🔮.
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  2982. Thank you.
    1
  2983. Congratulations and more power to your channel Ana....
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  2984. Good to finally see some blunt Romanians out there. Greetings!
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  2985. Mi-as dori atat de mult sa am o prietena ca tine🙁
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  2986. Haha, we serbians are still mostly pagans, just with a veil of orthodox christianity
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  2987. lmaoo
    1
  2988. Keep it up Ana! Your psychological perspective is valued. This video definitely hit home. I think way to much about managing money(trying to navigate paying for college) but I definitely want to get back to donating my money as well as my time.
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  2989. Thank you for this!
    1
  2990. Whoever needs to hear it, just because you don’t see how things can get better or when, it doesn’t mean they won’t. Don’t give up before you find the way out. “How high does the sycamore grow?
If you cut it down, then you'll never know.”
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  2991. Beauty I guess ✨
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  2992. Appreciate you & your content! Very helpful 🥺
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  2993. Love it Ana! <3
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  2994. happy Friday t.y.all 🌷🌷
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  2995. Thanks
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  2996. Makeup looks peng, such a good vid, love youuuuuu
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  2997. Amazing video. Just Amazing.
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  2998. Just purchased the Kindle version! Can’t wait to read it!
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  2999. I watch all your videos and love them!
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  3000. 🇹🇩🇹🇩💙❤💛
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  3001. LDR Dates has helped me and my s/o a ton. It's actually a lot of fun.
    1
  3002. Merry Christmas!
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  3003. I love the idea!!!!
    1
  3004. Congratulations! Your growth is so well deserved, thank you for listening to us and providing content that we request and suggest. You are a gem!❤️
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  3005. Collab w dr grande 🤗
    1
  3006. Perfect timing!!!
    1
  3007. Wow this message was needed for me right now! I’ve been struggling with this. I’m supposed to do laundry instead of watching this, but this is very helpful 😆 thank you!
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  3008. Until the 26th? 🥺
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  3009. Congratulations ✨🥳
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  3010. drop dead gorgeous.
    1
  3011. I also have a beautiful black ECD kitten 😂 and we both watch your videos 🖤🖤🖤 your channel rocks!
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  3012. Your reflections on parental alienation need to be heard. Please keep sharing.
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  3013. Ooo I love the fun wig lol love the content as always too! Have a good day internet Queen!
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  3014. I guess you read my mind because I have been feeling bad about myself and body image and I was looking for a video to feel better lol
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  3015. Ah, yeah, that's very understandable; sorry you had to deal with that harassment
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  3016. Great advice. I love her❤️
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  3017. Ahhh! Congrats 🎊🎉🍾🎈
    1
  3018. The most helpful video on relationship advice I have ever seen on here. So sensible and cohesive. Love it and love you, subscribed!
    1
  3019. Gucci Mane Both Eyes Closed (feat. 2 Chainz & Young Dolph) [DropTopWop] "But It's A Beautiful Day Outside Today..."
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  3020. Another fun series!
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  3021. Ooooo 😮❤
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  3022. Excellent🎉❤
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  3023. Thanks!
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  3024. Do ross!!!
    1
  3025. Not only is it great content, but also a great cause. Thank you! And this is more related to self-esteem but I think it bodes well with being thankful: "To have a self-esteem, you must do esteemable things"
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  3026. Very excited to watch this after work!! Love learning about content like this ☺️
    1
  3027. congratulations!
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  3028. Congrats on your 1st sponsor!!! We need a kitty sponsor...Come on TIDY CAT!!! Or whatever brand of litter you prefer. =) I use to get 'Blah/Funk' from Thanksgiving to Valentines Day. My last LTR really helped me and when she moved I got a 2nd job helping people and that worked GREAT! Helping others took my mind off myself and my focus was on helping them and their needs. Next thing I knew the weather was warming up and I felt great and went back to enjoying Spring/Summer fun. =) Holidays are said to be 'happy' but I call BS as it's happy times as a kid. Presents, time off school, snow days. LOL As an ADULT it's 'family obligations' forcing people together even if they aren't getting along. Add some 'loosening' drinks and WHOO HOO Family DRAMA!!! LOL. Shopping with nightmarish parking and worse traffic. Happy people while shopping...LOL NOT!!! So yeah, I call BS! LOL All good, I'll adapt but people are more delusional than they realize. =P No meds for me. I need to learn how to handle life, but I do think it can help others but I also think it should be a 'crutch' when injured (tough times) and when feeling stronger but learning how to handle it is better long term IMO. I also would never use the word 'depression' on myself because of other things I study. Words can be powerful subconsciously. Hate is one that is not used except to describe, but I don't 'Hate' anything because I'd have to eliminate it. That's the power I see behind that word but few understand that and throw it around not realizing how energy works. It usually comes back to you as you're magnetizing yourself to it...That's a different 'study' and many don't 'believe' that but you can see the evidence all around. You get what you FOCUS on so focus on what you want, not what you don't want...AHhh I need to shut up. LOL
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  3029. Ana Psychology That’s a good point, being with immature people can have really serious consequences. I’m sorry to hear that your friend ended up acting immaturely, it’s not easy to trust many people, especially since you don’t know how they may react or respond to even simple things like that. I’ve had moments with friends where they’ve shouted or done something incredibly immature, and it’s so frustrating
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  3030. second comment!
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  3031. Oh wow, totally on my book list!
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  3032. Have you fallen sick recently? Edit : Get well soon, Ana D:
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  3033. Yay, so excited to watch
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  3034. you deserve even more! i'm so happy for you!!! you're amazing and an inspiration
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  3035. Thanks!
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  3036. Congratulations, love!!!
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  3037. 😍😍😍
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  3038. Thank you so much for your videos Ana they’ve genuinely changed my life for the better 🫶🏽
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  3039. Sweet! Love your tips
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  3040. Thank you dearie 🖤 I’ll definitely put it to practice
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  3041. Happy New Year po Ma'am beautiful!
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  3042. Ce frumos sună vocea ta în romănă!!!!
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  3043. I love your videos 💗
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  3044. This is great! Thanks!
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  3045. Foarte interesant, te urmaream de mult dar habar nu aveam ca esti romanca. Sa mai faci videoclipuri tot asa❤️
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  3046. Thank you for the video! I :)
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  3047. Oh I couldn't stand her. She relied on her daughter to much .
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  3048. Your reflections on parental alienation need to be heard. Please keep sharing.
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  3049. wow
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  3050. Comments for the algo
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  3051. As an adult I say I'm 'spiritual not religious.' I obsessed about DEATH since I was a small child. I didn't have 'faith' and I can see how that may have helped me growing up if I was also allowed to challenge those beliefs. So I'm a fan of belief/religion within the construct of having the ability to challenge those beliefs for yourself as you age. I think that 'faith' foundation really helps feeling grounded and something greater than yourself in difficult times... I definitely DID NOT have that. However because of those experiences, I have a more positive view/belief on death. Those who remain are the ones suffering because of that 'energy' not being there in physical form. The self talk, words we say to ourselves or use when talking about it to others affects/effects the way we feel. My Grandma's pain and suffering in her last weeks/months were horrible. I was pleased when she passed because I could see how unhappy she was and she was cursing at 'God' because she was still living. This freaked out my Dad but I'd smile at Grandma and let her know I understand. She smiled back and knew somebody was listening to her and not 'stuck' in their own emotion of it. I've lost close friends growing up to accidents, family members who were mentors, family try to self delete, people who were murdered. Death/the Unknown can be a very scary thing and 'grief' can help release the energy when it gets stuck and we shut down. EVERYONE is different and I am sorry for someone's loss. Your grief and how you handle that is your journey on this plane of existence. Not trying to tell someone how to handle that but just wanted to share 'another' way of seeing things from another perspective because it's hard to see things when you're right in the middle of it. I try to also APPRECIATE what I've got and let those know that I appreciate them being in my life. I appreciate Ana for creating this channel for it makes me think (I loved Psych classes =) ) and I appreciate that this looks like it will help someone specifically and many more in the days/years to come. If it helps even one person then it's worth it, but I got a feeling it will help many, many more over time.
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  3052. I love this
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  3053. XD that's all
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  3054. The video I needed. Thank you. Just lost my dad 2 days ago. My relationship with him was complicated so I’m gonna brace myself
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  3055. Your timming is always chefs kiss
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  3056. Hey Ana I am new to your channel, but I am loving the videos. I was hoping I could pitch you a topic that has me interested at times: Public Display of Affection By others why there is such a big difference in, what people feel is okay displaying, what would (generally) be considered too little, too much and things like that. Also how one would handle a mismatch of this, if it happens in a relationship
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  3057. Thank you so much for this video Ana! I learnt a lot and I had never heard about systems before - it is really interesting and hits home (my family is definitely Enmeshed). Also, thank you for mentioning separation anxiety, makes so much sense explained that way, during so many years I never understood it. By the way, I think in different countries sometimes family is very important and very tight, but I think maybe that doesn't necessarily mean they are mostly Enmeshed? Because perhaps those things that we perceive as boundaries are not boundaries for them? Idk, what does everyone think?
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  3058. Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 😇💕
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  3059. Yesss more relationship videos !
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  3060. Thanks!
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  3061. Sorry about your loss. 💙
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  3062. let's!
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  3063. amazing video btw. 🖤
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  3064. i LOVE your look in this video ana!!!
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  3065. you look amaziiingg
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  3066. This video is going to be in my favorites list :)
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  3067. WOW
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  3068. I love your channel! You give us so much insight. It's really great having someone so relatable yet so educated and well-spoken talk to you about day to day challenges. ty ana<3
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  3069. Ahh you’re super super pretty!! 🌟💖 All of your videos are so helpful to me I really love your channel!
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  3070. I’ve been looking for this! 🙏🏼🙏🏼☺️☺️
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  3071. shes said before she does not want to mix her professional and youtube life, i think its not possible
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  3072. sorry to comment off topic, but is there about to be an update about your new journaling work book youve mentioned before?
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  3073. You've changed your intro Ana! :)
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  3074. The intro was so well done!!! Also u look fabulous 🤌🤌
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  3075. I forgot how many subscribers you had when I found your narcism video but your consistency has been craaazy. Congrats!!
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  3076. Привет!)
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  3077. I've been watching your content for a few years now Anna, and I am greatful for it. I want you to know how much value your videos provide. I lost my Dad at 12 after a long battle with cancer, around the same time I lost 6 other family members all for different reasons. My relationship with my Mum also hasn't been excellent growing up. These factors have meant for the most part i've had to parent myself, and it's been hard, especially having ADHD. A massive part of why i believe i am where i am today is because of channels like yours. When i didn't have anywhere to turn for advice growing up, videos like yours would provide it. They'd also teach me lessons i know my family would have. For example, when i suffered a period of depression last winter, your video on seasonal habits really helped me reframe and refesh myself. I know i'm just a random person on the other side of the world, but you've helped make this random person's life a lot better! By teaching me life skills via psychology. So thank you, keep doing what you're doing.
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  3078. R u pregnant!!?? CONGRATS
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  3079. You look beautiful! 😊 And I love the idea behind this series!
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  3080. Un subiect foarte interesant!! (just like all of your videos!)
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  3081. Congratulations! I'm so inspired by the range of your talents, as well as the way you connect your baggage of psychology knowledge with fiction writing. This brings out such a beatifully unique mix. Excited to start the book!
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  3082. thank you
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  3083. Beautiful color! It really suits you
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  3084. You are blessing for this content and this channel!! I appreciate and thank you so much 🙏🏽
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  3085. congrats Ana!🎉 Is this going to be available in Audiobooks?
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  3086.  @AnaPsychology  this video helped, thank you.!
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  3087. Just ordered it! I cannot WAIT to read it 😍 Big congrats Ana!!! This is a wonderful accomplishment!!! ♥
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  3088. Wow! Been watching your channel from the beginning and you deserve all the success! Congratulations on 50k subscribers! I love the fundraising initiative, Ana.
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  3089. this vid is more important than you know,, ❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥
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  3090. I JUST started shadow work and you posted this video wowww
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  3091. My cat repeatedly wakes me up at 3:00am and presses her paw in my mouth until I give her food. She also bullies the dogs in the house, and seems to have a split personality where she's sweet until you feed her, then she turns angry and mean again. What would you diagnose her with?
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  3092. Love this!!!!
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  3093. I needed this video VERY good timing
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  3094. You are a gift
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  3095. Great video yet again! I feel like I'm always diagnosing myself with different types of disorders just because some things may or may not resonate with me ugh -. - But very interesting and informative so I will sure keep watching ❤️
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  3096. those are some amazing non conventional and creative ways. good video
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  3097. Still in lockdown in New Zealand our Halloween is ruined. But at least I have your videos to entertain the idea of Halloween. 😂
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  3098. I can hardly wait to watch this one!
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  3099. Be kind to yourself! needed this!
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  3100. Before watching- I think the people who believe in conspiracy theories will usually have some personal, emotional, political, social reason for believing it. So that could be anyone. Second- Their motivations are to prove something to be true about the world, themselves, their favorite political candidate etc. I think that there are people with schizophrenia, schizotypal, or anxious personality disorders or psychopatholgies that are more likely to latch onto them. I think that for those where the mental health doesn't contribute to their belief, there is a lack of education. They simply aren't knowledgable about facts. The reality of politics could be a big one here. [Democratic weather machine....] then i also think some people believe in conspiracy theories for fun [aliens].
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  3101. 👍😌
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  3102. I bought your journaling book Ana and started using it strictly in early October. I’m enjoying it a lot. Thanks for everything.
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  3103. Thanks!
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  3104. I don't believe in ghosts. Would like to because that'd mean there's potentially several millennia worth of dead people to learn from, but I've never seen one and am the type of person that looks for logical reasons to explain supernatural stuff. Some of my family members do though and have claimed to see the same ghost multiple times in my grandma's old home but never when i stayed there. So it's either not real or it doesn't like me :(
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  3105. This was amazing! I thank you 😊
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  3106. OMG intro made my day 😂😍😈😈
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  3107. DBT modules please 🙏☺️
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  3108. You’re amazing, Ana! Thank you for your videos. ❤️
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  3109. Thank you for sharing your grandma with us. I miss having more elders in my life. Everything she said was timely, and made me look at some things within myself that I plan to change. She gave great actionable advice and has such a great sense of humor. I’m with grandma when I had to go in to an office I always took a book with me to avoid the catty, bash, chatty sessions between women I worked with. I would go into this tiny room no one liked because it was where old furniture was stored. Myself and like two others would go in that room and have a silent relaxed lunch.
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  3110. Thank you so much for your videos and the talent that you offer to the world Ana. I have started day one of your book and I am already happy with the results and goals I have set for the day and for the next three months. To be completely honest, I have started journaling recently but I realized that when I journaled, I really was only focusing on my negative parts of my life, stuff in my life that needed to improve, everything that I felt was wrong with me. And while I do think that regular journaling, for me, does help me understand where my issues stem from and looking at them deeper than surface level, it still doesn’t give me “answers” to my problems. I have limerence over an emotionally unavailable person for practically going on a year now. I suffer for the sake of our weird relationship. His needs are always getting met, but as long my feelings are still there, mines are never not. I know where it all stems from, family upbringing and all, and I am very well aware that his feelings don’t reciprocate but just wants the benefits. But because my feelings for him are way too deep now, and since it’s practically has been a year, I find it harder to leave. One of my goals for this journal is to start choosing people who choose me. Start honoring my own needs. Meaning starting today, I want to finally stop this pattern, focus on other positive things in my life, and end my suffering over a relationship that’s not going anywhere. I plan on coming back and editing this comment once I’m done with my ninety days. But seriously Ana, thank you. It’s stuff like this where I am immensely grateful for the content you put out. You have given me a light to see at the end of a tunnel. Thank you.
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  3111. Congratulations Ana!
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  3112. Aaaah perfect timing!!
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  3113. i don't know my full ethnic breakdown, but my dad took an ancestry DNA test and he's mostly from the middle east and west africa, and 1% eastern european hahah
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  3114. Ana thank you for these videos, these have been very helpful. Keep up the great work.
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  3115. THE WIGS 🤣
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  3116. Thumbnail 😂😂🙏🏻epic
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  3117. I'm subscribing 👏
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  3118. Great video!
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  3119. Great video!!!
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  3120. Wow i love your videos, keep it up!
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  3121. Super interested in the DBT series you mentioned!
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  3122. Congratulations 🎉
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  3123. You are phenomenal ❤️
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  3124. Needed this
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  3125. Thank you for your videos. They are very helpful. I am having lot of bad circumstances since May, I guess since almost when you started posting your initial videos. I wanted to handle them with more maturity and hence I started reading on psychology and landed on your channel. Many times your videos and points you have put have brought me back to normalcy and helped be handle difficult situations, anxiety and stress in more mature way. Thank you again 🤍!
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  3126. From a religious sense, snakes have always been evil! Haha great video again Ana! :)
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  3127. Yasss about to watch this while I work, love ur vids Ana ♥
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  3128. I love all your videos Ana !!!Thank you for sharing :)
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  3129. I figured out that taking life as slow as possible, enjoying relaxation, good food and travelling is what appears to be essential to my well being. Working has no value in my mindset.
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  3130. So much great information, thanks!
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  3131. Thank you, Ana! Not just for this, but the promotion and discount on the 6421 journal. It's been 4 days since using it and it's already having wonderful effects!
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  3132. .... this lady is describing donald trump lol....
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  3133. Great content 🌞
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  3134. Omg never saw this coming
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  3135. I play Takenoko :)
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  3136. oh my god this video is exactly what i needed. thank you
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  3137. I don't usually comment below but today I make an exception. Just being on your channel over the years not only has of course enriched my understanding in my field of study as an aspiring Therapist but has also sparked my interest in witchy things, Jungian psychology, and even a newfound curiosity about Romanian culture alike. Ever since you announced that you were writing this spooky book, I've literally been searching bookstores seeking to find some Witch Fiction to hold me over and nothing really satisfied me. So many books I found leaned towards Horror, RomCom, or teetered between Historical Fiction or a New Age sensibility that neglected to explain the ancestrally rooted connection to magic that resonated with me. I am really thrilled about this book, Ana. It is exactly what I was looking for. It is poetic and parabolic, but also feels very real and relatable. I am in awe of your writing style, especially its beautifully detailed yet easily appreciated quality, rather than pretentious or inaccessibly flowery descriptions. I do not even find myself reading fiction very often, but this is a kind of book I can read voraciously. This is all to say congratulations on this amazing accomplishment. I hope you get to enjoy the fruits of this truly thoughtful labor of love often and fully. Thank you for your dedicated creative energy and work throughout the years! It's bringing me so much joy especially in welcoming in the colder and darker seasons which often filled me with dread. I can't wait to finish it and hope to talk more.
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  3138. This is such good advice
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  3139. 💀👻👽👹🕷🕸🎃
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  3140. Happy New Year!
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  3141. Thank you for this video.
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  3142.  @AnaPsychology  Oooo, I just looked up and found that CBD helps reduce inflammation and redness 🤩 I need to try it out hehe. Thank you so much! 🥰
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  3143. Can't wait
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  3144. Me peeping Anas books in the background of all of her videos
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  3145. Thanks!
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  3146. ❤️ I’m especially looking forward to this video!! I feel like I never allow myself to grieve much or for a long time because I don’t want to come off as being too soft
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  3147. I always love your videos so much Ana. Neither my partner nor me have any jealousy problems, but I just love to hear you talk haha so here I am. Wish you all the best :)
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  3148. So good advice I'm obsessed with your channel
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  3149. Thank you for another insightful video 🙏
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  3150. Thanks
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  3151. cool!
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  3152. Another great video Ana! !! I love the fact that you put so much effort in to your videos and it's clearly shown in your content.❤❤❤ You're amazing and can't wait for what else you're about to do....😊😊😊😊😊 ps- The other day you wanted refresh your memory about the relationship Monica Geller and her parents have. So I wrote a brief history about their relationship.And I really hope you liked it and helped you in a way. ...
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  3153. This is so good. 👀💛🧡❤️‍🔥
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  3154. Loving the Victorian look ana!
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  3155.  @AnaPsychology  omg yaaay, you commented, love you girl.......... Keep the content coming❤️
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  3156. you're beautiful. I like your smile :)
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  3157. 🇷🇴 🇷🇴 🇷🇴 🇷🇴 UNU DOI TREI PATRU CINCI 🇷🇴 🇷🇴 🇷🇴
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  3158. Ce frumos <3!
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  3159. Thanks for the discount code!
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  3160. Omg I literally found your channel when you uploaded the 1st video and now look at you! Congratulations pumpkin! You deserve it 😊
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  3161. Was that your boyfriend? So wholesome ♥️
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  3162. wow
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  3163. just in time. thank you ana
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  3164. Damn babygirl so damn beautiful shit crazy dawg lmao
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  3165. Thanks!
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  3166. Thank you for the great explanation! I finally understood what the pyramid is all about.
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  3167. Congratulations Ana ❤!!! So excited
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  3168. Wow. I. Loved. It.
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  3169. Hi! I brought and read your book the curse in our veins and it was amazing. I loved it so so much can’t wait to see what else u write ❤
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  3170. Fascinating video. I find it very interesting that, in many conceptualizations, vampires first have to be invited in. I think of this as a metaphor for evil. I suppose that ties in with vampires being thought of as essentially demons and evil spirits.
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  3171. The best merch is a merch with cats!!!!!
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  3172. I’m definitely supporting this!
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  3173. Thanks! Do you have any videos on dealing with feelings of being wronged? For example, in a situation where a person experiences harassment?
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  3174. Just wanted to say that your merch is super cute ❤️ also, love your videos, keep up the good work 💜💜💜
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  3175. It's a great video it help me a lot🤗
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  3176.  @AnaPsychology  can't wait!🤩
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  3177. Thank you, I will try this
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  3178. congrats , hope it get good response
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  3179. I love your content. It brings a nice balance to YouTube
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  3180. Good timing, Ana... I was just worrying about this sort of thing in my behaviors.
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  3181. stunning colour on you <3
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  3182. Ana scumpa mea si eu am o bunica pe care o iubesc ca pe ochii din cap si fara înțelepciunea si iubirea ei viata nu era pe departe la fel de frumoasa.
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  3183. Thank you for providing a video that opened up my eyes to the mentality of abuserers
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  3184. Yay congratulations!!
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  3185. Great video! I feel like a big thing is alsow when ppl are not honest about their relationship style
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  3186. Thank you for sharing your experience you explain thing really clearly with a lot of empathy 💕 I lost my mum 4 years ago now and some of these things still come up for me its definitely not linear. Thank you love your videos 😊
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  3187. Ana thank you so much for this videos. Love you so soo much ❤❤
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  3188. thank you for sharing your experience🙏
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  3189.  @AnaPsychology  I think it's a book
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  3190.  @AnaPsychology  it's a book by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
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  3191. love everything this channel is about <3 you deserve it all!
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  3192. Dr. ANA!!
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  3193. Thankyou sooooooo much Ana (beautiful Girl) for this awesome video. 🤗🤗🤗🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
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  3194. I would like to know about Journalling. Love the way you explain things.
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  3195. Amazing channel! Been following you for half a year now. Lots of good info!
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  3196. Thanks!
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  3197. Ana Psychology yeah. It is all about context though. But I do agree that when you are not sure always be more respectable of the other gender.
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  3198. so hyped to buy this book after I finish my TBR! 🖤
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  3199. I love these series, and you 're gorgeous 🧡
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  3200.  @AnaPsychology  Now I'm embarassed 😅 Thanks for the response!
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  3201. This is my favorite video of yours. Your grandmother has a beautiful outlook at life, and more people should think the way she does. God bless her
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  3202. Thank you so much for making this video! 🙏 It's really awesome 😍!
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  3203. Great tips and info! Thank you, Ana. 🙂
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  3204. Important message thanks ana 💯🙈
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  3205. OMG! Your video made me cry!
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  3206. A nice approach
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  3207. Excited for this
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  3208. Your voice is so calming and I love your videos❤️. Amazing way of viewing things:)
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  3209. You mentioned due to your culture you have a different perspective on what fights are and what they look like. If you don't mind answering what is your cultural background? Also thank you for being genuine and real bringing in your personal experiences!
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  3210. very cool intro and great video Ana!
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  3211. MY MOST AWAITEDDD!!!
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  3212. Congrats! Buying it now!
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  3213. Great video, Ana! I love this kind of mental exercises and figuring out my values. Starting with the questions: if I had infinite money, I would probably delve into lots of stuff and become a polymath of sorts, especially music, writing, maybe some game development and even psychology (I would definitely be a psychologist if I were not an economist). If I had only one month of life next, I really don't know what I would do, probably tie any loose ends and do a bunch of silly stuff I always wanted to do, like confessing an inappropriate crush (e.g. to a boss figure), diving naked on a frozen lake or shooting pr0n, as much as I would be able to anyways. I think my values are all over the place. My top values would be mindfulness, beauty, resilience/stoicism (I also give it a somewhat Nietzschean spin of "what doesn't kill me makes me stronger"), creativity and achievement, and the love part is growing on me these last years. As much as I hate to admit, I kinda value approval, being somewhat insecure on my social and professional skills (which maybe comes with having studied for so long and entering the job market kinda late).
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  3214. i’m loving your book❤ it’s perfect for the Fall time !
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  3215. Thanks for reminding me to start journaling 🙂 I'm also going to make a lesson about it for my psychology students, I hope they find it useful
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  3216. Thank you! Your videos are very valuable to me
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  3217. 2:08 I needed this video so much. You have already helped at least one person by sharing your struggles, and you will undoubtedly help so many more. Thank you so much, Dr. Ana!!! Hoping to return to this comment in the future with a positive update on how my healing is going thanks to your teachings 🖤
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  3218. I got a late notification, but seeing this really cheered me up!! It’s been a tough couple days haha. I hope you have a great Halloween weekend Ana 👻🧡
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  3219. totally! i think Anna knows that, but is offering coping strategies for those who don’t have access to therapy or psychiatry.
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  3220. We appreciate you a ton 😁👏🏽
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  3221. Loved the analysis. <3.
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  3222. Yass i love halloween
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  3223. =)))))) "o să vezi tu când nu o să mai fiu" why is this my mom?
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  3224. How exciting!!! It is finally here 🎉 congratulations!
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  3225. Thanks for posting this it really helps!
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  3226. Congratulations, Ana! Thank you for creating this channel 💕
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  3227. Ana has merch =) Good for you for making sure to have your time after dinner. It's good to know what works best for you... Rewards, accountability, mindfulness (be in the moment) all very good things for motivation. As I've gotten older, getting more than 6 hours of sleep is difficult. Undiagnosed ADHD doesn't help sleep but makes energy not a problem and why it's in my handle. . LOL As a gym rat I'm suppose to get 8 but I trade stocks so 6am Pacific time I'm excited to see if anything happened over night that I might need to act on ASAP. disciplined
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  3228. I needed this. Thank you 🙏🏽
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  3229. Can’t wait to watch!
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  3230. this sounds like a book I'd like to read, for several reasons, and to buy for others. thank you for doing this. one thing, though, from the excerpt, be careful with irish names and words generally as the spelling system is very precise and consistent (other than regional differences due to dialect) and written vowels in particular play more roles than just making vowel sounds. where you find two or three vowels together, one or more of those vowels is likely not forming a dipthong, but instead the final vowel is changing the adjacent consonant(s), giving them a slender or broad (or if you like, a light or dark tone) tone. so, in 'cailleach' the 'i' (a slender vowel) is making the 'll' have a more 'slender' tone, and the 'a' in '-each' is giving the 'ch' a broader or heavier tone... with the result that the word ends up pronounced without those two vowels, more like 'kall-ech' in most dialects. I am delighted you have chosen to bring her and her power into this tale, whether that is in this one excerpt alone or across the story. I 'encountered her' just the one time in my life. There are no words possible to even start to frame a description of her ancientness or potency. That happened almost exactly 30 years ago to the day. I am not at all religious, spiritual or superstitious in any way so it was a deeply, deeply unsettling experience. It changed me utterly. To use your own words: "she has silent, invisible weapons" and "she knows time like the back of her hand, and one day, when the time is right..." Though I would say a weapon is a tool, a tool a weapon... a lot depends on your perspective. I thought I was wounded. Instead, it was the pain of healing. I think I will like your book.
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  3231. Thank you for doing this. Loved from India! ❤🙏🏼✨
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  3232. lol awww! If you ever decide to have kids you had a little taste of what it is like to not get to go to the bathroom in peace! 😂😂😂
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  3233.  @AnaPsychology  I just started using the journal after ordering using your code. I’m really enjoying it so far, and even bought one for my boyfriend as a Valentine’s Day gift! Thank you for putting it in the video :)
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  3234. thank you so much for sharing this, i really needed this
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  3235. I can tell this channel is going to grow fast
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  3236. PLEASE have it on audiobooks with your voice!
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  3237. I appreciate your channel so much! Thank you!
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  3238. HAPPY HALLOWEEN 🎃!!
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  3239. 420th like and very insightful video. Thank you for defining psychosis, it made me think its quite possible that taking a psychedelic like lsd effectively causes one to experience a psychosis like state
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  3240. You said “dragostae” and immediately I’ve got that song by o-zone playing in my head 🕺🕺🕺
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  3241. Generalised anxiety gang over here, this is super helpful advice that I really needed to hear especially during this pandemic! Thank you! 💗
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  3242. Ana Psychology the more I look in to it the more it seems like the only people who don’t like it being in the DSM are a smaller minority. I just remember awhile ago when I was researching BPD and other personality disorder I came across this information and just took it to be true but clearly needed to do a bit more reading. Really enjoying your videos! So glad I found your page
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  3243. i love this video! i would love it if you look into the research of this topic for lgbtq couple
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  3244. My grandpa died 10 years ago and still it gets me sometimes even now. The enormity of emptiness that I felt in my chest. It really scares me to think that I'll probably have to experience this feeling many more times in my life and it sucks.
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  3245. Yay congrats!!! 🎉🎉🎉
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  3246. Thanks for the video. 👍
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  3247. I will have to read it! I know this might make you cringe, but I wish it was available as an audiobook.
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  3248. Very good distinction between conflict and fighting, and also your optimism is much appreciated and needed not just in the realm of romance and dating, but as a general outlook! I always look forward to your videos professionally/academically and personally. I find myself nodding more than a few times in agreement at your points and commentary! Thank you for your channel and the work that you do Ana! :D
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  3249. Thanks for this. This was quite funny 😄
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  3250. BOO!!! Happy Halloween... I'd fall under the 'steamy topic' for why I like vampires. If I gotta go...Go with a SMILE!!! =) Had to look up double entendre and I've used that in life but never knew it's actual name 'double entendre.' Always learning... Vlad was always interesting when added into vampire movie lore.
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  3251. really liked this
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  3252. Felicitări, Ana! Mă bucur tare că ai reușit să ajungi la 50 000 de abonați! Mi se pare extraordinar. :) Sunt mândră de tine, chiar daca nu te cunosc propriu-zis. Îți țin pumnii și aștept să văd ce alte clipuri interesante ne pregătești.
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  3253. Brilliant! Can’t imagine the amount of work that went into this 🌟 congrats Dr. Ana
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  3254. You have a nice voice, it's first time i hear you speaking in Romanian.
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  3255. Thanks!
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  3256. Great points!
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  3257. This was very helpful. TY
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  3258. Love this channel
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  3259. thanks for talking about this topic!
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  3260. I keep telling this to people<3
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  3261. Ana Psychology oh I’m sorry they’re so rude! Glad you made it private.
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  3262.  @AnaPsychology  Please, please. Haha I've just started 'datin' on Tinder so I need your 'scholarly' guidance. (wink) haha!
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  3263. Yeah I'm glad Ana brought up the whole "I hold a degree" or "MBA in ****" to justify negativity. I don't think its a good excuse to use a doctorate to engage in very very bad takes or negativity for dark reasons.
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  3264. Thanks to you! You’re helping so many people with your videos! It’s so amazing to find good and helpful content in YT
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  3265. YESS would love to see this!
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  3266. The film at the beginning was fun.
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  3267. Ohhhh you are looking great with the piercing! ( P.s. I'm a fan now! )
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  3268. Thank you for this video, I empathize with your loss.. I lost my grandpa just over a year ago now. My heart still hurts so much, i miss him like crazy. Nowadays I'm careful to let out my grief a little at a time because I'm afraid it will consume me and send me into a depression or trigger other health issues. I'm not where the rest of my family are at with grieving his loss which is really hard also because it makes it a lonely process. I already have a psych that I talk to about it. Are there any other resources (videos/websites ect) that you could recommend to help?
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  3269. Lovely video xx
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  3270. SO excited for this book! Thanks for reading an excerpt of it for us. Happy Spooky Season!:hand-green-crystal-ball:
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  3271. I'm looking forward to reading your book!
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  3272. Also, congratulations!
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  3273. Love the look ! You look so cool 🫶🏽
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  3274. This was such good advice! Looking forward to more of this series
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  3275. Awesome 👍
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  3276. Just be yourself in the intro. Just get into it! Experiment!
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  3277. Thank you so much for posting this! I have been seeking more resources for DBT online and this is a perfect beginning
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  3278. Omg, where did you get that T-shirt from? I love it!
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  3279. fucking xfinity lol.
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  3280. big congrats Ana !! i always look forward to your videos and i hope your channel blows up even more <3
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  3281. Oh my lord I am absolutely buying the cat hoodie
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  3282. Very educational, kudos
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  3283. just got a “This is my relaxation time please respect my boundaries “ long sleeve and super exited about it! 😁
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  3284. Thanks!
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  3285. this is super helpful, thank you so much!!
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  3286. Love you and your videos so much!!🥰💕 You talk about so many interesting topics!
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  3287. thank you :')
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  3288. Dr Ana, you can't imagine how much I needed this.
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  3289. Always it is a pleasure follow you and watch your videos Ana.
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  3290. Sometimes the universe does weird things 😮😦 I am dealing with grief right now, and in the two days before you posted this video I was considering asking you to talk about it (I guess I'm so confused I need to understand it better before moving on) And then this video came out ❤️ Thank you Ana
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  3291. I am in trade school learning about electrical power generation. I am looking forward to utilizing your professional knowledge about the brain, ma'am.
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  3292. Congratulations, my love Ana! I'm so proud of you. I've been watching you since June 2021. I'm so so proud of you, I love you and your content.
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  3293. I love your videos <3 Vampires are so cool tbh. I used to play vampire: dark ages. Maybe you could do a video with a psychological analysis of every clan if you are into vampires! It could be nice to see :D
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  3294. We love you 💞
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  3295. This was so funny and interesting.
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  3296. Finding your channel was a good way to start this new year. Thank you so very much for sharing your thoughts with us.
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  3297. Thanks!
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  3298. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
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  3299. Congratulations, I really like your content and I'm really happy to see your channel growth.
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  3300. Thank you, Ana!
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  3301. I've been doing A Season of Life and I think it's been super great for me for a month so far. Just want to say thank you for giving us great tools!
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  3302. Some of these, particularly projection, denial, and splitting, are also standard techniques of propaganda and disinformation campaigns.
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  3303. tysm for doing this movie~~
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  3304. Wow! I didn’t even think about how much psychological issues was in this movie! So interesting for you to point it all out.
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  3305. I am so proud I started following you when you were a doctoral candidate and just starting!!! I never buy creators stuff but I am actually purchasing this!!! It sounds so interesting I can’t wait to get my hand on it 🤍🌟🌟
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  3306. Just added it to my Amazon cart. Looking forward to writing, thinking and discovering more of me.
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  3307. Just received the book yesterday. Couldn’t stop reading 😍
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  3308. So excited to hear the announcement after class!! I hope you have an amazing day ❤️
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  3309. My single ass planning to leave my future boyfriend 👁️👄👁️
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  3310. Thanks!
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  3311. This is a very important video.
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  3312. Cant wait to see the next one
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  3313. Dia de los muertos 🇲🇽 Great video as always
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  3314. Hey, Ana. I've never commented on a video before, but yours was so perfect i just had to. I lost my father a couple of weeks ago and everything you talked about described me to a tee. I was already familiar with the stages of grief (it still felt nice hearing your input on it), but the second part? It took me out, it's everything I've been going trough, the guilt (i had lost contact with my father for the last 3yrs), the obsession over his last moments (no one knows what really happened), THE WEIRD DREAMS! Anyways, it was a great video (as usual), it made me a lot calmer with this situation, thank you so much, wish you all the best! Ps: can't wait for your video analysis on harry potter characters!
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  3315. Yay you took my fundraiser suggestion Thanks Ana💜
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  3316. Congrats
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  3317. Thank you for this video!
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  3318. Yay omg I'm so excited! I saw this movie for the first time this year and it's haunted me a bit 😂
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  3319.  @AnaPsychology  Doh! I started viewing the video before the comment showed up. Thanks!
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  3320. Thanks!
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  3321. A W S O M E . . . Great Video . . . Cheers . . .
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  3322. Congratulations.
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  3323. Thank you so much for all this content ❣️ Your videos are so helpful
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  3324. Your grandma sounds like a beautiful soul!🌼. Got a bit teary eyed watching that.....sounds like she loved your grandpa a lot!💚.
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  3325. Congratulations ❤❤
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  3326. Omg i needed this video! THANK YOU!
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  3327. Excited to watch, as I hope you know by now, I thoroughly enjoy your work. Loving the no-longer-so- new intro music. So far, this video is very much akin to the Inside Out films, which I am all for. I personally feel, and I wonder if you'll get to this, being satisfied with the present moment, believing it is good enough, and trying to focus on the present moment (meditation) is an important way to be happy, something you've repeatedly emphasized in the past. This is what Sam Harris taught me. I respectfully and passionately disagree with him here and there but when it comes to meditation especially he's been truly formative in my life. I wholeheartedly recommend his Waking Up meditation app, there are other good ones but his is especially to the point and and full of lengthy teachings on meditation from experts as well as daily ten-minute guided meditations. Also, amazingly, considering how much money he could make on this and how much work he puts into his app, he actually makes it available for free to anyone who can't afford it! On another note, I am still doing the journaling practice you created, I am nearly to the end of one of your journals now and excited to begin my next. The gratefulness portion in particular has increased my happiness and I look forward to doing it in the morning. I also enjoy occasionally reviewing pages already written, having this insight into the happier aspects of so many days in my life and it makes me even more grateful to the lovely people in my life when I remember what they've done for me. As I mentioned in previous comment, I've been increasing my activity, drawing more, exercising more, and meditating more, since I started journaling. Anyhow, Ana, thank you for what you do, you come off as a lovely person, and I am thoroughly enjoying this video!
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  3328. Thank you! Timely 💜💜
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  3329. Awesome video, very throughout! Kinda hoped we’d see a video about aliens, maybe next year! 🥶
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  3330. Soo proud of you ❤️
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  3331. Great video! I really like your content and your videos ☺️💕
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  3332. Apparently, all my favorite mental health youtubers know what I'm going through right now. Ha ha
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  3333. youtube recommended me this video. I went from watching SpaceX to OCD. damn youtube algorithm. lol you're the most beautiful psychologist I've ever seen and very smart too!
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  3334. I like the result and hopeful mine will look somewhat similar :) My hair color is pretty close to yours. Btw Bodyshop is controversial because they have a MLM line "Bodyshop at home", the products are the same as in regular stores :(
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  3335. superb job as always!! :)
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  3336. Ana is so awesome I swear, thanks Ana❤
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  3337. Congrats
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  3338. Great video! I really liked the 4th thing, I've never thought of doing that.
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  3339. Foarte frumos! M-a impresionat bunica ta, o femeie foarte înțeleapta! Ești norocoasa ❤️
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  3340. So excited to see this after work, I was just discussing this with friends on Discord the other day!! 😁
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  3341. Very good video 😊 Are you moving to another country? It would be nice if on your other book channel you could talk about your process for decided which books you take with you and which books you leave behind.
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  3342. Thanks for the time stamps in the description!!
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  3343. In my opinion you perfectly described what a fight is :)
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  3344. Your kitty is a superstar ⭐🐱💖
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  3345. I already enjoy learning about psychology and human behavior, but you have a real gift for breaking down complex terms and concepts into more relatable examples. Is there a term for being intellectually stimulated while also finding a person attractive and enjoying the sound of their voice? 😂 #CrushingOnMyYoutubeTherapist lol
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  3346. I’m so happy for you!! Can’t wait to get my hands on it!! 🩵🩵🩵
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  3347. You are gorgeous! I really enjoy your videos🌻
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  3348. Happy Halloween :D
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  3349. I have a presentation about Freud coming up tomorrow, this is perfect timing 😅
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  3350. Congratulations! You are an inspiration, I wish more young girls looks up to you. Probably you should do a video, how do you manage to be so productive.
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  3351. Can’t wait to put into practice!
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  3352. The baby kitty😍😘 Double her pets on behalf of me!
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  3353.  @AnaPsychology  I approve!👍🏼 Btw u r gorgeous!☺️
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  3354. My goal this year is to bring the Trauma Lens to the mainstream.
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  3355. Thank you for sharing ❤️
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  3356.  @AnaPsychology  like for instance symtoms and how the disorderq affect their daily life ❤️
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  3357. congratulations. Your hard work has paid off
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  3358. Congratulations!
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  3359. This is so cool🩷🪻 congratualtions
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  3360. you and your husband are the most adorable people. that skit at the end and the bloopers were hilarious and cute af! just so you know Dr. Anna, I got my BA in Psychology a few years ago and I've been inspired by you for so long. I'm finally going back for my M.S. and maybe eventually even a PsyD like you. Thanks for all you do.
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  3361. These are good tips. I'm not dating/married but I'll still try to apply them lol
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  3362. Ayyy cheers!
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  3363. It wasn't that embarassing after all!
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  3364. hey congratulations, i´m cheerful for you. i hope you celebrate this milestone accordingly :)
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  3365. I just discovered a term Emotional Deprivation Schema. Also dr jonice webb CEN (childhood emotional neglect) book and videos. This I think causes so many personality disorders...bpd, npd, depression, etc. Maybe do a video on the subject. Here are some videos about it. https://www.schematherapyonline.com/emotional-deprivation-2/ And here... a 2 part video. https://youtu.be/yNQX1-4h3bs .... https://youtu.be/HhT--1-SuvQ
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  3366. That’s great news ☺️ you are one of the best things that came from this pandemic ❤️
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  3367. Care erau șansele... 😅
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  3368. You are an angel, you absolutely deserve way more subscribers <3
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  3369. Love this!
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  3370. "Maybe you..." Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes 😭
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  3371. Thank you for this video. It helps so much for personal growth as well as couple growth!
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  3372. I once was a really extroverted person but something happened and my social anxiety heightened. It was rlly a turning pt in my life. I feel so different and I’m trying to accept the way I am now
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  3373. This video was really, really helpful to me in more ways than just the litany of things it touched on. Thank you!
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  3374. can’t wait 😭
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  3375. Yesss! Every new video is better than the last one, I love your channel 💖
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  3376. Very informative and thank you for always making this information accessible to your viewers! I was wondering if you could do a video on why people believe in conspiracies? I have a friend who has been expressing beliefs in extreme conspiracies( e.a George floyd death was planned,Gov. Officials eat babies, covid is a hoax and ,ect) i am assuming she can't cope with the uncertainty and lacks a way to emotional regulate? Idk but its a bit worrisome. The worry is she may ingest something believing it is a magic potion or believe she can fly.
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  3377. Thank you Anna for this video. I found useful information and comfort in it. You are sweet
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  3378. YOU.DESERVE.IT ANAAAA!!! <3
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  3379. I’m so excited for this!!!
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  3380.  @AnaPsychology  oh yeah you kinda give me INFJ vibes too, thank u for answering!
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  3381. Congratulations Ana! Go you!
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  3382. Thank you so much for taking the time to break the characters down for us, it's really insightful! I'm not sure if you're interested in Korean dramas but It's Okay to Not Be Okay on Netflix has been quite popular recently and I would love for you to share your insight on some of the main characters if you ever have the chance. It was really interesting to see their development as the story went on. Keep up the amazing work! :)
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  3383. Awww a countess 🥰
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  3384. Felicitari, Ana!
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  3385.  @AnaPsychology  Gotcha. Thank you for helping me out. 😊
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  3386. Proper magic 👌
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  3387. I honesty want to give you a hug your channel is amazing 🤍
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  3388. thanks for helping me make the decision Ana!
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  3389. ❤
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  3390. LETS GO 50K
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  3391. Hi anna. I just subscribed from Malaysia. Good work. I'm gonna binge watch your video from now on. 😇
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  3392. > Spend my time with loved ones > Cuts to video of a goat
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  3393. first one
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  3394. YAYYYY ANA!!! lol when u said day 1s I felt special🥰💓I am excited to see u thrive. Ur content is very comforting esp when I am stressed or have nothing to do😂😂
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  3395. Btw the best thumbnail ever
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  3396. love your videos Ana, so helpful!!
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  3397. This is lovely
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  3398. Great video, thanks and have a nice and mindful day :)
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  3399. First
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  3400. Your videos keep hitting upon much needed topics. Considering looking into your courses but I'm in Sydney Australia, is your course pre recorded?
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  3401. I’m so glad I watched this. Helped me a lot. Thank you
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