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  1. One of my sisters is married to a wealthy man. The other sister doesn't understand why she's so agreeable with him and doesn't push back all the time on child rearing and some chores. I told her he gives her the life she wants and she gives him peace, that is the deal.
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  2. Focus on vetting her instead of focusing on getting her.
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  3. I care about a womans body count for the same reasons I care about my financial planners "former" gambling addiction.
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  4. “Honesty does not get you laid” It should be on a t-shirt.
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  5. "Women, if you make men wait, you will end up with the men with time on their hands."
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  6. Just because she's mad doesn't mean I have to be mad. No one gets that much power over my emotions
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  7. If she's not around, don't think about her. Best piece of wisdom I have received in probably 5 years. I'm a mature man and still fall into this trap. It can really F up your day, or week if you start doing it.
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  8. It needs to be understood that women fall in love with a man when they are doing things for you, not the other way around.
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  9. The problem is women want to get with men better than themselves and expect those same men to treat them like they’re the prize. You can’t just negotiate things on your own terms when you’re the one with less bargaining power. The men who would be more than willing to compromise for them are the ones they don’t want.
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  10. “If your shoes are comfortable, you don’t feel them.”
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  11. I have a lot of female friends in their late 30 I would love to send this to but 95% of them would rather die alone than be humbled. Pride comes before the fall
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  12. Damn that last line hit; she’ll either do what you want or show her true colors
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  13. 1. Be a pleasure. 2. Don't make my life harder than it was without you. Don't bring additional problems in my life. That's all.
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  14. Anyone who has worked in sales has a huge advantage in life. You learn very fast that getting results/effectiveness always trumps self-respect. When you're in a "succeed or starve" situation, you quickly learn what really matters in life. Having a small ego is actually a huge advantage because it keeps you stoic, provides mental clarity, gives your better situational awareness, and increases your adaptability to change. You also learn to rarely take things personally because everyone is the hero of their own story.
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  15. In my experiences, it’s honestly the greatest time in history to be a top percent man. Women’s unwillingness to compromise with men they consider of lower value makes the game so more easier. I don’t really have a solution to give the fellas who aren’t in this demographic, but for those that are, enjoy this leverage as much as you want. Women feel like they don’t have the need to compromise, so we shouldn’t feel like we have to either. Fair is fair💯💯
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  16. Some women feel offended by Dr. Taraban, but I'm grateful to have the opportunity to hear some men's point of view. These are thoughts and reflections that not everyone will have the courage or even interest in telling us. This channel is a gem.
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  17. I am a woman, and I love your channel. The way you articulate common sense principles is brilliant.
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  18. When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear. Thomas Sowell
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  19. The timing of this video is uncanny. Today is the last day at my apartment I shared with my girlfriend of almost 5 years. We lived together for 4. Last month she came to me and said she was leaving and found a new place. She moved out Saturday and I’ve been here alone cleaning and finishing what needs to be done before turning in the keys which I did about 30 mins ago. As I got in my car to leave what was my old life, I looked for something to listen to on my way to get coffee and this video came up at the perfect time. Thank you Orion for your words of wisdom. I wish I had discovered you sooner. Anyone going through loss right now, you aren’t alone. Stay strong 🖤 I will too.
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  20. "You were attractive enough to be hired, but too offensive to be kept." This perfectly summarizes the problem with many modern-day Western women.
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  21. This is why friends, colleagues, associates , mentors, and family are important. Villages are important. Life outside your partner is important.
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  22. Imagine watching a guy get the milk for free, then when it’s your turn you’re expected to pay 400% of market value for the same glass of milk that the other guy took a few sips of and decided not to stick around
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  23. Anyone can fake good behavior but it is difficult to fake bad behavior so mostly good behavior is faked and bad behavior is real. If you can observe; then it would be easier for you to find a right person.
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  24. The masculine frame will always be the best base for a relationship to function. What I’ve come to realize is that it doesn’t matter that women say they want to share equal frame, they are far more loyal to their emotions, than the actual relationship itself, which inherently puts the relationship on constant shaky grounds. It’s up to the man to set order and structure with the masculine around the feminine. That way, the feminine is less prone to being chaotic, with the trust that there’s a healthy masculine surrounding it.💯
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  25. As Tywin Lannister said to Joffery: "Any man who must say, 'I am the king' is no true king"
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  26. Her: "You just want to sleep with me." Him: "Would we exist as a species if I didn't?" We punish ourselves by needlessly complicating things.
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  27. It’s true. As a man I can get disrespected anywhere, I don’t need to buy dinner to get crapped on.
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  28. I test women like this all the time and it always works, the ones who are really attracted to you will find a way to show it.. fellas never waste your time and effort on a woman who isn’t interested in you, she will make you regret it
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  29. Don’t burn yourself out. Quality over quantity will always make stronger product
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  30. It seems that most good relationships come down to one single variable: if each party in the relationship believes the other is their best option or close to their best option then they are going to invest with high effort and that high effort will keep the relationship good. Things go sideways whenever each party thinks they can attract someone significantly better than their current partner.
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  31. One of the most profound mental shifts I have had was when I began asking myself “do I want to do this or am I doing this to avoid a person in my life being upset”
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  32. Thomas Sowell said: "The conservative vision is that, basically, humans are flawed from day one, and there are no solutions, there are only trade-offs; and whatever you do to deal with one of man's flaws creates another problem, but that you try to get the best trade-off you can get, and that's all you can hope for."
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  33. Let me simplify this: The mistake I tell my female friends that they make is: stoping their fun, free, sexual adventurous side when the decide to “settle down”. It’s a one way ticket to being unfulfilled. It’s when they find that man who they want to be with the rest of their lives that should and must get their best, freakiest, and wildest side. They will like it. He will like it. And life will be better being nasty with the one you trust.
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  34. Genius episode. Husbands are taller because women select taller men. Husbands earn more because women select richer men. Husbands live longer because women select healthier men. Women do not make husbands taller, do not maker husbands richer, and do not slow down the aging process in husbands.
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  35. "Support the habits initially, and one day those habits will support you" - - Solid advice.
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  36. "You've got to know when to hold 'em Know when to fold 'em Know when to walk away And know when to run" -Kenny Rogers
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  37. “Medical science is making such remarkable progress that soon none of us will be well.” - Aldous Huxley
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  38. As a woman this video was an eye opener, and serves as reminder to me that all conflicts begin as an unmet need/desire. And while understanding can lead to compassion and forgiveness, meeting those needs are still required, beneficial long lasting solutions still need to be discussed. Seeking Understanding will not be used to avoid personal change.
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  39. It's a form of arrogance. It's being so entitled that you think you're above selling yourself. Even the most successful companies have massive sales teams for this reason. No entity is above pitching itself.
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  40. this man needs a medal for services to the community
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  41. Oh Man, This resonates hard, I've considered Women Luxury goods for YEARS!
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  42. The Goat DR. GLOVER Edit: The best way to get out of a covert contract is to be in an overt contract by expressing, stating, or asking what your wants and needs are to her. The goal is not to get the girl, the goal is to see if the women is a good fit in your life.
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  43. I stay calm in dangerous situations (gun shots, accidents, fist fights). Staying calm in chaotic situations is how you "hiss" that you are a dangerous person & not to be messed with. I happened to be a war veteran. This is what makes me calm in these situations.
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  44. Your content, you have no idea how many lives it's changing. A few days ago, I went through a really bad breakup, and it was a tough phase for me. I watched all your content, every single bit of it. It's not that I've completely moved on, but I've reached a point of acceptance and started focusing on what truly matters in my life. And life is rewarding me for it too. I watch all your content, multiple times, and it has made a real difference. Thank you, man. Truly, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
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  45. Spot on. The first time I got laid off while married to my wife, I waited for over a week before I told her. She found that puzzling. I'd done that so that by the time I told her, I'd already fully processed the bad news on my own, and had become ready to fully handle it on my own without expecting any specific reaction from her side (Yes, that includes sticking with me). I was actually transparent with her when I addressed her puzzlement. I told her that it is my belief that men and women are wired differently, and that as a man, life teaches you the hard way that you can't afford to offload your burdens onto anyone else and expect that to go well (a women's privilege that most of them take for granted). My wife belongs to that rare tier that Orion added as a caveat. She's so mature and I never felt her faltering, but I know that I too do my homework, and I doubt it would have gone the same if I had been too complacent. Orion is on point about this. As man, there is that subtext that requires you to be "the rock" in the relationship, whether it is written with visible or invisible ink, you know it is there in the deal between you and your woman.
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  46. Legend says Dr. Taraban is still saying "loooooong" till this very day.
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  47. One of the best pieces of advice my grandfather gave me before he passed was this... "what you're not changing you're choosing"
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  48. I'm so glad I found your channel, as a fellow mental health practitioner and a woman who's deeply invested in the topic of the Redpill. This knowledge has helped me immensely in my own life, and I'm so grateful it helped me find a great partner at my age rather than struggling to find one later.
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  49. Psychacks changed my life, I'm really excited to hear you are writing another book!
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  50. IMHO. When guys are young, most of us are much more emotional than we are willing to admit, or even realize. When we get those first tastes of rejection, it’s a bitter pill to swallow. It can really bring out the worst in us. Jealousy, anger, violence, hopelessness, self pity. It’s terrible, and it seems to last forever. Think of it as one of the many fires you’ll have to walk through on your journey from boyhood, to adulthood. From a fresh faced newbie on the front line, to the weathered, stoic old soldier. Learn from your mistakes. Try not to repeat them.
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  51. The thing is, the "asshole" guys end up having so much choices, they rarely stay loyal. And after getting traumatised by toxic guys is when girls start appreciating the "nice guys."
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  52. I've never known anyone to "get it" more than Orion. This series is gold!
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  53. One of the greatest lessons of my life is this concept. Loneliness and emptiness is not filled up by BEING loved… but by loving others. The more one loves, the more full one feels….
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  54. “We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and—in spite of True Romance magazines—we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely—at least, not all the time—but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.” - Hunter S. Thompson
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  55. "Is this more of a problem for you than it is for them?" That's a key point.
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  56. It's funny, I realize this content is mostly focused on "dating", but I actually find quite a bit of what the good doctor says is very applicable to raising teenage daughters. Dr. Taraban giving single dads practical advice one video at a time.
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  57. This is your best video. No blame. No nonsense. No ego. Really wonderful video. I am so glad that you shared this lesson. It’s beautifully profound.
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  58. Probably one of his most pragmatic videos to date. Resiliency in life is so crucial. Most people cannot begin to understand that most of life is pain and suffering, let alone how to cope with it.
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  59. I'm a single dad only parent, business owner, homeschooling two boys and we live off grid. Structure and organization is the life blood of keeping my sanity and getting things done on my farm/homestead. Good video!
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  60. YO, nice shirt man 👍
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  61. The level of truth bombs on this channel is off the charts. Another PURE GOLD video!
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  62. The problem with society is a lot of people teach their kids to be virtuous and nothing else. They sometimes also say that if you are good, good things will happen to you. Which obviously is false. This is why people get disillusioned with virtue. Kids are told that being virtuous will make other things like success happen in their lives. It's just another lie that society tells kids.
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  63. "If you really, truly believe in yourself, then it doesn't matter if anyone else does. And if you don't believe in yourself, then it wouldn't matter if everyone else did." THAT HIT HARD.
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  64. “You can get what you want at a price…. Or you can take what wants you at a discount.” Very true words.
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  65. Time is on your side. Focus on yourself gentlemen and let women focus on you. The less you care the more they desire.
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  66. Thanks, doc. I know this video was meant for women but men understanding about themselves is just as important, if not even more important.
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  67. Dating is like partnered dancing. You can only have one lead. You can't have both lead, and you also can't have both follow. Now, there are certainly times where a woman can take the lead, but it should always be temporary and out of love while a man re-centers himself and works to recreate a stronger frame.
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  68. You have quickly become my favourite channel. As a woman who was raised to be a career woman and not a loving and respectful wife, I really appreciate your channel. It helps me avoid any future pitfalls which I’ve seen many women in my family fall into. 🙏🙏🙏
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  69. I call these emotional triggers. Something that test your frame. If you can catch the trigger and identify it before you open your mouth then you've successfully control your emotional state. When having intense conversations with my son's mom actually started catching the triggers. And then brush them aside to move on to the actual point of the conversation. To realize you're in control of yourself and others have no power over you is amazing
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  70. The biggest reason why marriages are very sexless because women don’t normally marry their first options, simply cause they can’t. Women usually settle for the reliable Provider male who deep down they don’t necessarily desire but know they can depend on. Under these circumstances husbands are always going to be unfulfilled, the guys women truly desire aren’t going for marriages, they have too much leverage. Women end up resenting their husbands over time due to said reasons and generate a lot of low dysfunction in the relationship as a result. Do what you want with this information fellas, and be wise.💯
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  71. “Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it” Seneca
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  72. Great! We know that for eaven a 10min video takes ton of prepatory work and editing. We are grateful for the videos you have put online so far! Tank you Orion!
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  73. This is one of your best videos! I work in sales so it's very relatable to me. After hearing this being said, the explains why I don't bother with most women. Every woman I ended up getting into a relationship with offer me something first. Not just sex but they took the time to figure out what I like rather than making demands on what they want. I never entertain women who come across like that.
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  74. I'm in an ultimatum currently. I'm told I have until the end of the week to make a decision. We made a deal to work on some things, before we take that jump, and I don't feel that she's holding up her end of the bargain. This video came out at just the right time. Thank you Sir.
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  75. I would say a man has a right to end a relationship for no sex. I agree it is a form of cheating. You don't have to leave but you can. This is always the case in reality.
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  76. Regarding the yelling and screaming and lack of accountability, Bill Burr has a great take on this in his “There’s no reason to hit a woman” set. To paraphrase, even hockey has penalties for instigating. Women fight by yelling, crying, and insulting men and then are surprised by a man being angry as a result. To the woman I might love, I will fight the world for you, but I won’t fight you for you.
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  77. It seems like once we doubled the workforce there was no way to go back. Society makes it easier to live with dysfunctional relationships than not.
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  78. This advice about attractiveness is similar to what I heard when training to be a flight attendant. They told us, the passenger doesn't care if you are a wonderful person who volunteers at the children's hospital, sings in your church choir, and helps out at a soup kitchen...they only know what they SEE and experience from you in real time. Meaning you better look good, smile and give good service. I think showing up for a date is similar, especially if it's an internet date--the other person only knows what they see and how you act...your back story about being a good person is just that, and won't ever be gotten to if you aren't attractive in the first place.
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  79. Given that women tend to date hypergamously, e.g. they prefer older, wiser, more knowledgeable, more exciting, more interesting, more dominant, and more wealthier guys, it makes sense for the woman to step into his frame. Consequently, it is the job of the man to cultivate a frame so superior it is worth her while to leave her frame.
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  80. To take it one step further...I think the key distinction between a Chase and a Challenge is the element of Playfulness. If both parties experience the interaction as Playful, it's a Chase. If one or both parties feels cornered or confronted or attacked, it's a Challenge. And when Challenged, men go into fight or flight mode....basically the exact opposite of what's needed for a positive romantic dynamic. Great video.
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  81. This video came at the perfect time. I’m in the middle of fighting a crippling porn addiction and general laziness and came to the realisation that consuming motivational videos isn’t cutting it. I was in search of a deep meaning to my existence and this video really helped clarify a lot of things. Thanks Dr. Taraban
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  82. As an Army Recon, and now Infantry NCO, the only add I have is to never order someone to do something you yourself would not or could not do. The concept of servant leadership is also hugely valuable, and I recommend any man look into how it works. Everything else is spot on. Another great video.
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  83. Emmanuel Kant's argument; 1- it is impossible to know whether a person deserves to be happy or suffer because you never truly know what their aims and intentions were when they acted. 2- Even if you should make others happy, there's no way to precisely know how to make them happy. 3- What constitutes suffering or happiness in most non- extreme situations in not clear. 4- The only way to improve the world is by improving ourselves, because the only thing we can experience is ourselves.
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  84. This is exactly my experience and you summed it up perfectly. I went from feeling sorry for myself and trying to “fix” my brain to eventually realizing that this is something that will be there to some degree for the rest of my life, and it is up to me to manage it. Now I would consider myself a mostly happy person with a thriving business, a lovely wife, everything I need and most things I want… still, the depression comes back sometimes in waves, but now I have a much better mindset about it and I see it as mostly annoying rather than debilitating.
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  85. I would love to tip you what your worth Doc, but I can't afford it! 😂 Great philosophy lecture today! Thank you! 👨‍⚕️🏥
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  86. I just reviewed the value of others on amazon and gave it 5 stars - what a dynamite of a book
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  87. Disappointment only exists in the space between expectation and reality.
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  88. At 56, the lack of a perceptible need for anything in a relationship is a BIG issue in why I do not feel any urge to be in one. It is a different feeling, not bad, I actually like it but that 'lack of need' makes the negatives of a relationship loom larger in ones mind.
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  89. I have changed my attitudes toward pain, failure, rejection and other "negative" emotions. I now view them as INFORMATION and FEEDBACK instead of confirmation of my inadequacies. I still have to respond to them in a productive and healthy way.
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  90. I am 28, male, grew up with a single mother and two sisters. I think I needed to hear this.
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  91. The very best long term relationships I have ever seen is when couples stay unmarried and live in separate homes. That arrangement creates the necessary oxygen to let the flames of desire burn hot. I have personally experienced living apart while in a relationship and it is awesome. Many successful men in my inner circle also live apart from their girlfriends.
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  92. “Got injured, progress stopped, difficulties started and led to divorce after 20+ years. Recovered and rehabbed for 4 years. Went on a self improvement journey (physical, mental and spiritual). Discovered the red pill. I never had to use game in my days. I saw someone I like and invited her out. No gimmicks. Relearned how to date. And it’s still the same game. It’s not all that deep. Confidence is outmost. Back in the saddle at 50+ years old with a beautiful younger girlfriend. There is always hope for a restart and a brighter future.”
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  93. It's easy to not fight with women; when she misbehaves break contact. She will either fix herself and come back, or double down on her toxicity. If the former that's a win for you, if the latter then maintaining no contact is still a win for you. Don't ever see it as a loss; that's the Universe's (or deity of your choice) way of telling you that you deserve better so don't fight it.
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  94. This video confirms I don’t need marriage to prove my love and commitment
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  95. Orion is the truth. The quintessential psychology, dating, and relationship advisor for the 21st century. Keep up the excellent work!
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  96. I can tell you that abiding the suffering until it abates is exactly how you get through chemotherapy, which I finished (12 sessions) just last week. Now I just have to wait out the side effect of severe neuropathy. Absolutely no fun, but here I am, seven months passed and only a couple more to go as I still need to endure some testing to ensure the cancer is gone and then go back into the hospital for surgery to reverse the damn colostomy bag I’ve been wearing for seven months. Horse in rain, waiting on a sunny day.
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  97. When you succeed it's amazing how many people who "Are so happy for you" slowly ghost you. They really just wanted someone to wallow in their misery with them to make them feel better about being mediocre. So pathetic.
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  98. Notice how he wore his crazy palm frond shirt when talking about play but then switiched to his hardworking but successful salesman white shirt and tie when he wanted to sell his book? Ah, yes, but he was also playing at being a salesman. Or was he playing at not playing?
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  99. Normalize saying, "I don't know enough about that to render an informed opinion at this time."
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  100. “Most medicine is bitter, that’s why you have to take it with a spoonful of sugar, however if all you take is sugar, don’t be surprised if you end up sick” 🎤 drop
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  101. “Love has nothing to do with getting what you want” as always, great video Orion
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  102. “Sometimes it’s more effective to lose well than to win poorly”
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  103. limbo is the first cicle of hell, where nothing bad happens to you, but nothing good wont be happening, boredom is one type of hell.
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  104. What makes it hard personally for me is that I genuinely love many of these women bro, I've just never been a relationship-oriented dude. Women show lots of love, I show it back, but then they want EVERYTHING, and I can't give them that cause im a solitary person. From the outside it looks like we're "playing" these women, when in reality I show women lots and lots of love and experiences. Sometimes things just don't work out, and other times they understand me and still love me anyway, never abandoning me. Those are the women In my life I love the most, and always will. I feel the happiest and most free when im with them.❤️
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  105. Wow, this hit hard. Society keeps telling men to be strong, independent, and self-sufficient—but at what cost? The fact that so many men have no close friends is honestly heartbreaking. Friendships aren’t just ‘nice to have,’ they’re essential for mental health and happiness. And yet, men are subtly punished for prioritizing them. The part about men outsourcing their social lives to their wives really got me—what happens when that safety net disappears? This video is a wake-up call. Time to start valuing friendships before it’s too late. Who else feels this?"
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  106. 8:25-8:46 really resonated with me. When my ex-fiancée dumped me I had no problem letting her go because it was what she wanted and all I wanted was for her to be happy; I then mourned what I had lost over the following months but had no long-lasting ill effects. I dumped my last girlfriend in anger because of everything she did to me; it took me years to let go and find peace. I loved this episode Dr. Taraban. This is a great message to spread along.
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  107. Imagine paying loads of money on therapy only to realise that you needed set boundaries and exercises extreme levels of self-care by removing yourself from someone's life.. This content is extremely eye opening.. I bet you someone out there is trying to figure out how they can love someone better, but only to find it that they should love someone else 🔥
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  108. Don't waste valuable energy on something you have no control over. Worry about yourself, your immediate family, and your friends. One usually comes by with time. It's better to be ready than to get ready if your future wife/girlfriend comes across you 👍🏾
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  109. Perfect shirt for the topic too
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  110. As a young 20s male your videos have had a massive impact on my life and relationships. You’re awesome
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  111. Saying what needs saying. Bravo.
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  112. The more videos I watch from Orion, the more I enjoy a peaceful existence. I still can't believe how much you changed my life in just 6 months. Thank you!
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  113. Hello Orion: You have described my childhood perfectly. However, in my case my sister is four years older than me. My sister would have tantrums in order to pressure my mother to push me into the background. Ultimately, my sister lost because her approach to adult life is to always have tantrums. That behaviour has failed dramatically. Have a lovely day.
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  114. Or like Teddy Roosevelt said, “It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena…”
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  115. This message is incredible. I was a top sales rep at my last company. I started at a new company and what worked at my last employer is not working here. Same field, same occupation but I’m not getting the same successful results here as I did there. I thought my same way of doing business there would apply here. It didn’t. I’ve had to pivot, humble myself and work a lot harder at this new company to get a fraction of the results I got at the previous company. It’s been challenging but my hard work these past few months is now starting to show in my numbers these past few weeks. Thank you for articulating this so well. It’s helped me to put my situation in more perspective.
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  116. “Anger leads to clouding of judgment, which results in bewilderment of memory. When memory is bewildered, the intellect gets destroyed; and when the intellect is destroyed, one is ruined.” – The Mahabharata.
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  117. Another point: we're accustomed to losing. We're used to it. It's familiar. Winning is unexplored territory and therefore scary. We don't know what might happen. Referencing some of Orion's early themes, men want peace in relationships; we don't like drama. The prospect of winning has the possibility (probability) to upset a lot of apple carts.
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  118. Not sure why his branded living room set up is soooo soothing and comforting. Its like, the common man sharing wisdom, psychology and mother wit, one of our own. Someone just like us. No Hollywood, no big set up, no false pretenses. I think you have the most successful brand around friend.
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  119. I’ve had a similar experience a couple years ago. It was like the ground disappeared from beneath my feet, my eyes teared up and for once in my life I saw the beauty of existence. I’ve never felt a deeper sense of gratitude for being alive.
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  120. Most people who married probably never found love. Marriage was an economic arrangement that made subsistence agriculture more practical and people didn't want to starve, so they got married. How did they choose a partner? You married the girl you got pregnant as a teenager. I don't think people know just how rare the thing they are looking for probably is.
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  121. I did once get a girl to apologize. It wasn't through logic but through feelings - I had flipped the situation for her to give her a perspective of how she'd feel if someone had done something similar to what she did to her boyfriend. In the end she admitted wrong doing and apologized to him (I always fight for the homies)
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  122. A successful man is one that can make more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. - Lana Turner
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  123. Spot on. I work about 13 days a month. When I got a 90%raise two years ago, I was finally able to be of great service to charity, friends, extended family. I didn't by a bunch of "things" to clutter my life. I have improved my mood (keeps the depression away) by active altruism. Helping others with money to progress in their goals has an altruistic multiplier effect. All this isn't possible without my 90% raise. The trick is to not want extravagant material things!
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  124. When I started your book, I thought you were a woman hating ass. When I finished it , I realized I’ve been the ass. It really opened my eyes while I was ending a crappy marriage in which i wasted years of my life being completely disrespected. Sometimes societal guilt, family and even religious beliefs will keep you where you don’t want to be for a long time . I think you’re truly saving some people from a lot of pain, I appreciate that you share so much and you speak so logically. It really hits the mark. I am still a big believer in love and while I don’t want to lost that part of me, now I feel better equipped to make better choices . I won’t let anyone disrespect me ever again either. Anyway, I didn’t want to like you😅, I was hoping you were wrong about everything, but you’re damn insightful. Thanks for sharing so much, Doc . I wish you much success 🎉
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  125. I have owned a construction business for almost twenty years now. I don't really like going on proper dates with women. I invite them to come and work for me. Kind of as a joke. Lots of them are interested in what I do and will actually offer to come and help. Psychologically it gets them into my program and in the mindset of helping me. It also puts me in my element and in a position of authority which is intoxicating for women. This is a win-win for both sides and in any long-term relationship, I want my girl to be supportive of my mission. Like we are a team and she is my side kick.
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  126. This is the best and most practical teaching about love, you've preached the whole gospel without even trying to
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  127. None of the negative feelings you have towards women will help you. In fact, they will make things worse. Women are what they are, you can't control that or change that. Accept it and try to find a "high quality" woman - that doesn't mean someone with a high paying job or a boss babe, just someone with traditional values who will appreciate you.
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  128. Loved you on the soft white underbelly. Either people are ready to hear the message or they are not. They either get it or they don't. Love your work keep it up, Dr. Taraban.
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  129. You touched the Absolute. I have transcended twice; once when I drowned when I was 11, and once when I flat-lined on the battlefield. Profound and enlightening, but also causes revulsion at the shallow, material, bitter state of humanity. Thank you for sharing your experience.
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  130. This underlines the importance of choosing someone who is mentally and emotionally calm and stable, and who can handle the truth. It also underlines the importance of not getting married, because marriage introduces complacency and boredom into the relationship, and makes it difficult to tell the truth without getting financially punished.
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  131. Well some context would probably be useful. I do practice a form of mindfulness meditation and it does help me quite a bit in all areas, but when my wife starts a fight over some petty thing or attacks me over some issue she feels upset about that seems like a massive overreaction or just an unfair accusation I have a hard time keeping my cool. I feel like hell no, I’m not going to allow someone to treat me like this. This was one of those times. She was hurt about something she was reading into and I was getting pissed that she was unfairly criticizing me and it was just escalating like crazy. I kept saying she can’t mistreat me like this, it’s unfair, it’s exhausting, etc. After watching this I changed my tone to basically exactly how he was talking. Sort of detached/cheerful and overall just laughing about my exasperation. I explained everything I said before but in a tone that was warm and kind of like “this is kind of silly” without being patronizing or condescending. It’s sort of hard to explain but almost like self effacing while still standing my ground and pointing out how she was mistreating me and how I’m doing best to hear her feelings, but come on, try to see where I’m coming from. And instantly, and I mean INSTANTLY, her tone changed. And in five minutes she apologized. So fiddle with it, but it works.
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  132. Thanks for this. At 65 I have what you are talking about so it's a blessing to have it put into words so succinctly. We live in our own houses, have our own money, friends, families, etc.. We are basically just lovers, and very comfortable with that, who hook up twice a week and like to go out of town every so often for "honeymoons". Thanks again!
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  133. Love Love Love this episode, Dr. Orion!! 👏🏽 👏🏽 I am a woman & I’m proud to say I do these things for the man I desire.. and I’m dating him…and we’re committed to each other! I’m happy to please him, satisfy his sexual desires, make his life easier, be his support system… more than I would (or have done) with any other man. Ladies, listen up, because it works! Love & Light to all of you & the person that you desire most! Cheers!! 💕
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  134. Psychacks has been very helpful while going through my divorce. God Bless. Much success to you going forward Dr. Taraban.
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  135. It is not a contradiction, there are just different forms of payment. You can pay with money, with looks, with experiences, status, etc.
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  136. I found the good Dr. about a year ago. This channel has influenced my life more than I could have anticipated. It’s my favorite channel and I recommend it to all of my friends. A massive thank you Dr.
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  137. It is one of the precepts in Buddhism. 'Do not unleash anger but seek its source.'
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  138. Look at military planning, options are not initially considered against each other rather against independent measures. Comparison happens only after. And often parts of different options get combined.
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  139. I appreciate the fact that you are using a script- it keeps your communication concise, on point and understandable.
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  140. This might be your best lecture. A lot of truth here. After a 30 year marriage ending in divorce, I'm the general who wants zero causalities. At this point, I'm not sure any losses are OK... so I'm happily single. I would love to hear your opinion on that, and what losses you personally are willing to accept.
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  141. One of the best channels on YouTube. I didn’t miss a single video since I subscribed and of course read the book.
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  142. This is my all-out favorite of your videos. Every young man needs to hear this as early as possible in life.
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  143. In 2019 I took an opportunity to take a year off and do some self improvement in the year. I was taking classes, but I was living a very unstructured life. I was doing everything I wanted whenever I wanted and I was having a good time initially, but about six months in, I started to feel aimless even though I wasn’t losing aim, I just started to feel aimless with my day to day, I’ve always thought I hated structure but it turned out I didn’t like it but I still really needed it and it took me getting rid of it to understand, that just cause I didn’t like doesn’t mean it wasn’t helping me. Structure is like veggies, I may not be thrill to eat, but my health will decline without it.
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  144. This is also how I’ve always viewed love since a child Doc. I’m able to love a woman with all my heart but I’m a very unattached man. I’ve had many relationships throughout my life but they never work out because I don’t like being attached to a woman for too long. Its gotten to a point now where all the women in my life seem to unconsciously know how I am by nature. I’m a loyal dude who stand on my word, they know even if I’m doing my own thing I will never abandon them, so they stay loyal to me. I show my women love, I don’t impose anything on them, they are free to live their lives as they please. As life go by, they always stay attached to me in some way because I stimulate their minds and bodies. Relationships aren’t my thing, but women who understand me always experience the time of their lives.💯💯
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  145. "It must be safe to fall, if children are to learn to walk. However it must not be safe to fail, if children are to learn to succeed" 👌🏾👌🏾
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  146. This is one of the best episodes he's ever made and 100% true. I've seen it with my own eyes numerous time with myself and with my buddies.
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  147. This is most sound advice I've heard on this channel. I would only add that it becomes much easier (and more convincing) to perform these priming moments of quick intimacy when you teach yourself to enjoy them as well. While teasing is more often what women do for fun, it feels powerful to flip things and be the one who causes frustration.
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  148. I like your seed vs. fruit analogy, Orion. In our "modern" world, many men have no real experience in nurturing/cultivating anything besides their bank acounts. We've forgotten our agrarian roots and replaced everything with instant gratification. I also like the Chinese proverb about female sexuality - "You can't bake bread in a cold oven." Maybe most modern men don't know how to start/stoke a fire anymore either 😩 Please also do a video on when it's the man refusing sex in a sexless marriage!!!
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  149. This advice is what most men know to be true deep down, and yet out social and cultural conditioning leads us to imagine there should be more pieces to a good relationship. Turns out it's actually very simple. Thank you Dr Orion for clarity and honesty.
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  150. I've been watching you for a while now on my journey with the girl in the mirror. This message is SO profound!! I've never donated on YT before, and this one is worth way more than what I can give. Thank you for existing on this platform and helping me help myself. 💜
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  151. I had a spiritual awakening 3 years ago that was transformative. It changed my life.
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  152. It's common sense, but not thought about much: People who can't help themselves certainly can't help other people. People who don't have abundance themselves don't have much to give to others.
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  153. Imagine this: You are someone afraid of conflict, pain, discomfort, rejection, failure... But you also had the courage to face them all! Eventually, years down the line, you are now someone who misses the same feelings of discomfort, fear, pain, rejection, failure because they are overshadowed by your success.
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  154. 😂😂😂 You are so good 🎯 Thank you for bringing a great sense of humor to the embarrassment of relationship trial and errors.
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  155. Just because you can explain it doesn't mean it's not still a miracle - Sir Terry Pratchett
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  156. This is so good. I've basically witnessed the same thing in myself where at the point where I told my significant other that I'd love her, it was to some level replaceable. Like... don't get me wrong it's not that ANY other woman could have sat there next to me, but I just felt this sense of deep love, respect and contentment for myself which I was able to express to the outside world and I feel like after this moment everything changed for me, I would not get upset about rejection of the love I was giving anymore.
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  157. Love your channel brother, your clarity is second to none. I hope your content reaches new listeners, it has the potential to bring real positive change to society. Keep up the great work!
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  158. I wanted to laugh but my wife still bitches about me not being nice enough while not feeling the need to be nice to get nice in return. She is still sitting in a paid off house and driving my cars. Just last month she got a job after being a housewife for 6 years, and was talking about all the things she was going to do with "her" money. Meanwhile, I asked her, "So what bills you going to pay?" She did not like that one bit.
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  159. I needed to hear this 3 months ago. It's better late than never, though. Solid wisdom.
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  160. The most important and simple advice ever. If you honestly love your princess you can't constantly treat her like one.
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  161. ‘The vast majority of the people who are jealous of WHAT you got are never jealous of HOW you got it’. This clever little gem is a loose translation from a quote Chris Williamson ascribes to Jimmy Carr, whom I believe is as brilliant as he is funny. Anywho, I love it, and also believe it to be true. Too, as several of your fellow loyal followers have already pointed out, many of you, Orion, it’s refreshing to hear you extol your wisdom & insights beyond the confines of dating & relationships and/or or men vs. women, and shine YOUR beam on some different, yet equally juicy, if not meaningful subject matter/content. You’re very bright and relatable, so it’s no coincidence that your channel continues to grow & evolve. Your content is truly top shelf, Orion, and you are helping me to become a better, more authentic person, which is positively impacting all the people around me, which in turn makes this crazy world we live in world a happier, healthier place. iOW - you did NOT miss your calling, and I’m delighted that you have discovered a way to proffer your wisdom & insights at scale, and receive some measure of remuneration. It turns out that it’s not the pursuit of happiness. It’s the happiness of the pursuit. Too, it’s neither the journey nor the destination, rather, it’s who we become in the process, and to your point, it’s not what we do for a living that’s important, it’s what we do with our ‘living’ that matters most. What do you think? I’m teasing. Truly, thank you for getting after it, Orion, and for consistently putting out such meaningful, worthwhile content. You are making an impact, and a very positive, noble one at that. Happy Thanksgiving to you, and yours! XOXO
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  162. Cognitive Shelf Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom- Viktor Frankl
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  163. I get where you are going, but it’s a little off. As an Army Officer, I ordered people to do things I could not do all the time. They had skills I did not have. I didn’t pretend I had the skills, but they knew I would know if the results were correct in the end. The worse thing as a leader I could have done would have been to try to learn all their jobs, and I might never could have. Cadets were often given a leadership demonstration in my day. One cadet is picked to solve the problem of raising a flag pole within a given time using three pieces of lumber, two pieces of rope, two enlisted soldiers and a sergeant. Inevitably, the cadet tries to micromanage and solve the problem and fails. The instructor then makes a show of asking the other cadets for criticism and lets a few offer advice. He then says he will show how it’s done. OIC: “Sergeant, Erect a flagpole” Sergeant:”Yes, Sir! Privates, erect a flagpole!” Privates:”Yes, Sergeant!” And they very quickly erect the flagpole (because they had been practicing for this very demonstration, and they always got a kick out of it, as I suspect you have too). This is a very important lesson on good leadership and respecting your troops. Hell on Wheels, Sergeant!
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  164. The finger guns at the intro let me know this was going to be a banger
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  165. "The Value of Others" is the most valuable, insightful, and penetrating book I've ever read in nearly 80 years of reading because it tells the truth about the subject!!
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  166. Orion you are really in your bag lately.. these videos are incredibly valuable
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  167. This guy STAYS killing it. I copped your book, Doc—being delivered tomorrow. Thanks for all that you do.
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  168. This is your best video yet. Thank you.
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  169. Yes. Life is a game of chess. He calls it the Meta Game, I call it the long game. I hold my tongue and behavior all the time when really I just want to tell someone what I truly think. I do it for my kids, so I don’t ruin their lives. I’m polite and gracious with my boyfriend because I respect him. I rarely give him a hard time. Cuz I’m a mature person.
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  170. Appreciate ya Orion
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  171. I was among the 10% of male psychology majors in a California university in the early 90's. I have been traumatized for life as a result. It was your easter egg scenario weaponized to an astonishing degree.
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  172. I’ve been struggling with a lot of negative self talk. I really appreciate your videos. Lately I’ve been reminding myself that I’m an active participant in my own misery and that I have a choice in how I react to my feelings.
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  173. This is wonderful. The Bible, Sadhguru and other ancient wisdom teaches this. Dr. Orion makes it simple for those that choose to hear it without using Christian terms. Well done
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  174. This is one I could watch again and again. It's hard and necessary to hear it, much needed in my life!
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  175. Two of the GREATEST voices for Men coming together for this episode, truly impactful. Love & support to my fellow men becoming the best/happiest version of ourselves 💯!
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  176. Most of Southern Europe has always understood this. Sex isn't just in the bedroom. It's expressed 24/7. You should always be somewhat flirty and sexual and women should always be in a slight subconscious or conscious state of arousal throughout the day. It's better for sex and is just more fun for men and women.
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  177. Orion, I began reading your book a few days ago after watching your youtube videos for a couple of months - I am very thankful for the information you are putting forth. I have used it to help coach my 3 teen daughters in the modern-day dating pool. I have also used the information you share to check my own behavior and nourish my 2nd marriage which has been going on for 7 years - to take it from ok to much, much better. I seriously think you have a special gift and although some of your videos have rubbed me a little wrong in the way you word them - they are all chock full of tough love type of truth gems. I consider myself quite capable of taking what applies to me, my marriage, my lifestyle choices and what I think is good to pass on to my daughters to give them an edge in the dating world and to leave the rest. I sincerely thank you and I'm deeply grateful that I came across your videos - not just life changing - life enhancing. God Bless
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  178. You are 100% spot on Dr. Orion Taraban. I resonate with this. It’s a strong message for me to stop waiting and “write my own invitations."
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  179. Keep doing these great videos. I've been watching for close to a year now, and I've learned so much. We appreciate you, glad these videos are a part of your routine.
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  180. Thank you for your insightful videos on modern intersexual interactions. I appreciate your non-biased, drama-free takes on the subject. We need more of this as opposed to hubris and drama-filled content the likes of Rollo, Whatever, Donovan, etc.
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  181. This is so true. Most people can't find empathy for people who are doing better than they are. You succeed, but you're on your own.
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  182. Thanks! Keep up the excellence!
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  183. Possibly my favorite channel on YouTube currently.
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  184. Been watching your videos for a while now. Your content has made a big difference in my life and how I think about things. Thank you very much for putting your knowledge out there. It's very much appreciated!
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  185. Been following Natural Lifestyles for quite a while. This is truly an unexpected collab! Looking forward to listening to it 💪
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  186. Through chapter 1 of your book. Love the premise and like how it’s constructed so far. Great work!
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  187. The truth sounds like hate, to those that hate the truth.
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  188.  @beebee_0136  The license in itself doesn't really guarantee protection against STI. Only proof of trust such as frequent testing, proof of fidelity and protections can guarantee protection. For the children, cats can also have kittens too . And this lead to one simple question: do you care about the children or not ? If yes, then you will nurture them independently to your relationship with the cat. If no, you won't. In both cases, you should not mix your attention to the cat with your attention to the kittens. They are both separate. Furthermore, remember that neither the cat nor the kitten belongs to you. If you were not involve in the birth of the children, they are not your responsibility and you are not the one who must care for them. If you are involve, then you have to assume the consequences of your decision and live with them, even if you have to do it alone. (which is why having a child is not a decision to take lightly and the implications, future investments and sacrifices must be understood before taking the decision...)
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  189. I'm reading "The Value of Others" right now and it is profound, informative, and filled with new ideas about how to think of other human beings!!!
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  190. Just got your book on audible. You have helped me discard many women and use my resources to enforce better behavior. Nice that you self narrated too.
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  191. Thanks for the content. Been watching and benefiting from your content for a while. Appreciate your work and insight.
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  192. My favourite analogy is that the dating market is like an extreme sport for both genders. For men, it's rock climbing, and the man has to pick the best line to get to the top. It is all effort and it needs brains to navigate, but the moment you're at the top it's all good. For women it's skydiving. There's a pilot to get you to the top, so you are cosy all the way. Then the time comes to jump with a twist: Pick your parachute. You may pick one that's good, you may pick one that's faulty, or you may go back with the pilot to die alone. Pick a good parachute and you're set. Pick a bad one and splat. And if you wait too long the good parachutes will be gone.
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  193. Thank you for your messages Orion. The quality of your delivery of your messages in the earlier videos were great to start with. But I felt you have taken that to a even higher level recently. I started following your channel mainly interested in your take on the dynamics between opposite sex. Then I stumbled upon clips and recent podcast interviews where you elaborated your philosophical and spiritual believes, and became even more engaged in those conversations. You are doing great and thank you again for sharing your experience and perspectives.
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  194. I took lsd and had this feeling on the come down at an ice cream shop. My consciousness was empty. No thoughts, just quiet. It was almost frightening, as I never felt that before
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  195. This video brought tears to my eyes. Not tears of sadness but rather tears of joy. When you mentioned the part at the end about being a source of light to awaken others I realized that's what I have and will continue to be. My gratitude to those who came before me that helped me discover the truth, and to myself for persevering through the pain and discomfort to find the peace and contentment in life. May all beings find their own joy in enlightenment 🙏🏼
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  196. many decades as a human...farts are always funny.
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  197. Dr. Glover's book was a huge step in my RED PILL journey - this was in the ~2004 timeframe.. outstanding work, gentlemen !
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  198. Wow, this is the sort of video that leaves you thinking about it for some time afterwards. And that can only be a good thing...Thanks
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  199. To put it simply. "You gotta give him that hawk tuah!!" Glad I made you day.
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  200. The simplicity is masterful thank you
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  201. For me, the 3rd point is the most important: if you don't trust sb with your money don't trust them with your heart. People can lead you on easily because we don't learn to respect our heart or our ability to love as much as we learn to respect our bank accounts/jobs/careers. It's a strength that should not be allowed to be turned into a weakness by a con artist.
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  202. Amazing content on a consistent basis! We’re all learning and growing.
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  203. Doctor I will use an expression used by people that resides on the Island of Trinidad & Tobago of which I am a citizen, " You just hammered a nail in my coffin" meaning that I just could not figure this understand the why, but It happened repeatedly to me, until recently where after viewing your contents meticulously and repeatedly this change started happening and I could not comprehend not even reason with this change, until that you now explain in detail that it made sense totally, thanking you very much for caring and showing no fear for doing so, I am Catholic by religion and when awareness like this is in your favour from a person like you we say to you that you are a god send, god blessing unconditionally to you Doctor, your work is greatly appreciated and treasured, Andrew.
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  204. Kudos for the GRE self study program you developed. It's admirable that you share your wisdom, not only for relationships and psychology, but help others succeed passing the GRE!
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  205. One of your best videos!
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  206. Love this. Blaming others or outside circumstances gives our power away. Look inside; it's the only power we have for change.
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  207. "Fullness is all that exists. If you remove Fullness from Fullness, only Fullness remains" - Ishavasya Upanishad The ancient Rishis proclaimed "He who knows cannot describe how he got there. He who describes how to get there does not know" .
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  208. Really appreciated thiis. As a guy who's been divorced a long time, friendships are crucial. It does take effort to make and maintain them, though. One of the things I have noticed is I have met some guys I would like to get to know better and they sort of make friendship noises, so to speak, but then when you actually try to get together they're always unavailable. Sometimes making dude friends can feel like online dating, with the flaking and ghosting. But it's important to persevere.
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  209. Kudos for your courage. "Let the controversy rage" I almost never totally agree with your POV, yet always find stimulation and food for thought. Keep up your good work, sir; you are not wasting your time, nor mine; I appreciate your hard work.
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  210. I really think your videos of dating are where you are coming into yourself. Keep going as tlyour slant on things is so refreshing. Where do you get this material ??
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  211. Nice, logical information. I appreciate it.😊
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  212. Very true. I'm in my 50's and I have found the most amazing woman. She has high morals and values and has humility and kindness. Most guys wouldn't think she's beautiful but if you look into her eyes and see her heart and soul you'd see she's one of the most beautiful women on earth.
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  213. This is a great topic. It explains so much of what we see today in society, politics and even healthcare. Today’s society vilifies winners and glorifies losers. I’ve noticed in my lifetime a shift from rewarding winners to punishing them. Losers are automatically seen as virtuous victims now. In healthcare, there is an enormous amount of secondary gain by being “unwell”. Some people have a very hard time letting go of that secondary gain to be ostensibly healthy.
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  214. DAMN RIGHT! That's how it works . Even fashion influencers use the technique described here to attend to events and get deals with brands
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  215. Thanks! Love your content, you are a game changer.
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  216. Thanks!
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  217. I LOVE this episode the most. I thought I understood what love is, but I didn't. Love to see your channel THRIVES!!!❤❤❤
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  218. Dr Taraban! Thank you, just received your book and started to read! Very interesting insights.
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  219. There's an old Russian saying: "If you want to be a general's wife, you have to marry a leutenant"
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  220. James Marshall 21 convention speech really impacted my life in a great way when I found myself single for the first time at 34
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  221. why is it that so many other channels dont make sense and this dude is slowly but sure help me realize im not thinking/serving what i want. i was a slave to others involuntarily. dude thank you, you are helping me get back my fucking life.
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  222. Technically, they are correct. There is no such thing as truth. Truth is an epistemological term that describes ideas and should not be confused with the ontological concept of existence or reality. In that sense, the concept of truth is like the concept of numbers, in that it's a useful tool to work with ideas, but not something that objectively exists. Also, due to its nature, it can only ever be contextual, as it's only useable as a description within a framework of language and logic. You are correct in saying that there are a lot of bad teachers these days, though. It's unfortunate that liberal arts have devolved from being about logic, philosophy, and critical thinking to what it has become today.
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  223. Thanks!
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  224. Thanks!
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  225. Honestly, the most helpful, most motivating, and most grounding channel on YouTube.
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  226. Needed!! Block and replace!
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  227. Probably one of the most profound videos I have ever watched, unbelievable
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  228. The majority of “problems” are really just a labeling problem. In other words, it’s only a problem because you label it to be a problem. A perfect example of this is male pattern baldness. It’s not a problem. There’s no reason to solve it. However, if labeled a problem by a person who is experiencing it, it literally has the potential to rob that person’s life of joy. The whole thing starts with properly categorizing things into actual problems (existential threats) vs perceived problems (ie, first world “problems”). Focus energy on solving actual problems and don’t give attention and energy to perceived problems. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
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  229. Danke!
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  230. This channel is a gold mine!
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  231. hyper based 🎉🎉
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  232. Thanks!
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  233. concise insight
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  234. Truth bombs. I’m living this reality right now. 5yrs in to a non-cohabiting LTR. it’s all about where’s this going. If I didn’t have Rich Cooper and Dr O in my life I’d be “doing the right thing” instead of doing what’s right for me. Keep dropping those truth bombs brother. Men need to hear this
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  235. Great video and presentation Orion, been saying this for years, women rarely, if ever, listen to this message. It's only when they are well past their prime, and the looks have expired that they are forced to accept this reality. There are a lot of women competing for a mans money. But there aren't a lot of women competing to help a man, and be a complement to his life. Ladies, if you want access to his resources, be genuinely useful to him. This is the secret sauce to getting, and retaining a high value male.
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  236. Winners are willing to do whatever it takes to win.
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  237. Just finished Value of Others audiobook and starting another playthrough. It's realllly good!
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  238. Thank you Orion for all the thought-provoking videos I've watched of yours in the last year or so. I very much appreciate your perspective and wisdom
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  239. They want the guy they are attracted to for whatever reason strikes their fancy to be nice to them. That's what they mean.
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  240. True
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  241. I’ve never let a woman get away with not apologizing. She either apologize or we don’t move forward.
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  242. Pay no attention to the whining feminist who had a "vibe" and couldn't back it up... because she's basically a bot and is just looking to complain about men and try to get you to apologize for no reason.
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  243. This is so freakin good. I’m sold.
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  244. Thank you.
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  245. Thanks!
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  246. Dr. Orion Taraban is a true gift! Thank you and Happy Holidays.
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  247. Thank you very much, this is the best advice I've ever recieved. I cant thank you enough.
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  248. Bedankt
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  249. Thanks!
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  250. Your last few videos have been very profound and have helped me open my mind to be stronger and more resilient- thank you so much
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  251. Yes! That makes sense. This last guy I was seeing said he respected me and it was like...ok wait what? And we had a lot of things in common loved each others company but he never slept with me, which is what I was hoping for. The respect thing was weird.
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  252. Even as a 10 yr old, Orion was a G 😂
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  253. Thanks!
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  254. Join some type of training or certification or apprentice with other men. Speed run this with an intensive time-limited program with some sort of achievement at hand.
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  255. Brilliant! Thank you for sharing:)
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  256. This channel is a golden nugget for Men. Glad i found it.
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  257. Great shirt, great advice, and a great Doctor! Thanks dude! Keep it up!
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  258. Thanks!
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  259. This was some of the single best life and career advice I've ever heard. Incredible take and though perhaps common in psych, new to me. Many thx.
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  260. Thanks!
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  261. Love your videos bro, keep up the good work.
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  262. Thanks
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  263. Well, this is just about the best video you've done out of many great ones.
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  264. Thanks!
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  265. AMAZING VIDEO thanks for sharing. So true the red pill in one video
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  266. You are talking what I needed. Love in the language of economics. Just awesome, bro!
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  267. Thanks!
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  268. My girlfriend has my love and respect because she does apologize from time to time
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  269. Thanks!
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  270. Thank you so much. Carry on. Cheers!
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  273. We’ll this turned on a big lightbulb. I also think in the feminine world, an apology, or admitting you were in the wrong will be used against you for time in memorial. So the price for admitting errors is perceived as high. I’ve dated some smart, rational women, but still getting a genuine apology is rare. It’s freaky. But I’ve been around a while, and I’m not as horny as a twenty year old, so I just set what are really, parental boundaries. It loses me the idiots, and keeps decent, grown-ups in play. Thanks for the post. Certainly made sense to me.
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  274. Thanks!
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  275.  @psychacks  Thanks. I'm an avid reader and always welcome book suggestions. I will check it out. I find you channel informative.
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  276. Best thing I've ever listened to. 🎉
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  277. Absolutely brilliant.
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  278. Thanks for great content!
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  280. What do I think? I think you just hit one out of the park, buddy! I was reminded of a time decades ago when I was reading The Far Pavillions, and reach the point where the "lovers" (brother and sister in this case) had to say goodbye, forever. I put the book down and wept for what seemed like days. There it was. What my heart so desired. And still does. Thank you, thank you and thank you for all this! I will replay and share with the dearest in my life.
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  281. Thanks!
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  282. Eddie Murphy summed it up "what have you done for me lately ?"..
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  283. Woah!! 😕🔥🔥🔥
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  284. 🤯
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  285. I am a woman myself and when i listen to my girl friends explain the type of a man they want, they actually describe a man that doesn't exist, a perfect human being that doesn't lack anything. So unrealistic. I realized that what women say they want and what they actually want are two different things.😂
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  286. Absolutely Incredibly Brilliant, Astounding Presentation (All Of Our Thanks) Just Perfect...💯
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  287. Attachment is the root of suffering. All suffering is self created. When we learn the only lesson that exists - what is, is - we learn total non-attachment, or non-resistance. It does not mean passivity or being walked on. It means needing nothing, requiring nothing to be fulfilled. From this place of total self-fulfillment you can make truly conscious decisions about who and what you wish to share energy with. You realize there are no mistakes, no problems; there is only what is. In your acceptance of the isness of All, you create no resistance, and so no suffering. You experience no suffering and are totally liberated from the bondage of illusory ‘control’. The ego, or mind-made-self, does not like this as it realizes it is the end of itself, and inherently resists it; it loves to create an identity from pain, separation, drama, problems. Because these things are illusions, the ego is forever in a state of threat, always having to defend and shore up the ever-failing foundation of its unstable sense of self. It will respond with anger and rejection - resistance - to inflate its own hollow identity. The recognition of ego’s madness - it is quite insane and dysfunctional - is a first step toward regaining true sovereignty and releasing all resistance. The ego, or voice in the mind, is not the self. Notice there is the voice speaking, telling an unhappy story, and then there is you who is listening to the story. So there are two “yous” - which one is real? Only one of them is persistent - the voice is not always there, but your awareness is. There is a you that is constant, that IS, even when there is no content or definition to that being. That is YOU. You are Being - pure, undefined, absolute. See that you are not the content of mind, but the observer of it. You are not the mind, you are that which Is beyond mind. Recognize this and begin dissociation from the mind-self called ego. Ego will say “you’re crazy” to dissociate from it because it can only continue living by convincing you to feed it, to align with it, to believe it is you and so allow it to possess or “live through” you. So it will resist quite vehemently the dissociation from it. Simply notice this and allow it. Recognize it is not you. It is a mental story, a reflection, of you, which has become so large as to cast its own shadow. But it is not real, there is no substance there. Ego craves pain, unhappiness; it can create a strong identity through this. When you tire of the pain, you will make the conscious choice to dissociate from it and leave ego behind. It will begin to dissolve then on its own; all it takes is your consistent practice of awareness of it, and embracing it as something which is, in the moment you are witnessing it. This transmutes unconsciousness into consciousness, which is you. Every spiritual text on Earth documents and explains this exact process. It is the key to liberation from the illusion of separation, freedom from all resistance and so all suffering, and the path to perpetual peace and joy. Self-realization is the ultimate desire and is fulfilled Now, and every Now moment. In the Now you want for nothing; in the Now All Is Seen to Be as it Should Be. Love how spirituality and psychology reach the same conclusions. All anyone wants is to feel good - and there is only one way to truly experience truly lasting, truly good, feeling. Realization that what is, simply is. Resistance of what is is insanity. Resistance is where suffering lives (attachment is just a form of resistance). Cease resisting what is and cease suffering. Disidentify from the small, limited, unstable and illusory mind-made self and recognize your Eternal, Unlimited Self; your True Nature. You are Self Sovereign, your perspective creates your experience. Life is not something you have but what you Are. When you also relinquish ownership of Life, like Love, you become free to flow in it without inhibition. You do not have Life, you Are Life; you do not have Love, you Are Love! So you see then, these are not things one can “lose.” They are part of your Being and cannot be cleaved from it. Forms are just forms; they come and go. Life, Love, Is - Is Now - Now Is Eternal (there is never anything that is not-Now). You realize then, Life and Love Are Eternal. And are ever your experience - regardless of the content, or form, the Now takes - regardless of what is happening in your life experience - Life & Love, and your direct Knowing (experience) of them, are secure, intact, stable. Everything that is then becomes fuel for this continuous realization & the expansion of your awareness. There is not only no suffering, but only more joy, more peace, more bliss - more Self. Your Self expands. The more it expands the more there Is. The more there Is, the more there is to become aware of; the more you are aware of what Is, feeling the isness of it, the more in touch with your whole Self you feel; the more power and pleasure you experience each moment - until it is a continuous rapturous experience of everything from peace to rapturous ecstasy. Consciousness is Awakening. Thank you for choosing Love 🙌❤️‍🔥🌎🕊️🎉
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  288. This is street gangsta psychology
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  289. Thanks!
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  290. I love this so much!! 🎉
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  291. Thanks!
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  294. You have no idea how much I needed those words
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  295. I love your channel btw as you're telling the truth. I watch all your videos ❤
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  296. Thanks
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  297. This is very short and fucking sweet Dr. Taraban!! You’re damn amazing. Godbless sir
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  298. There are some variations to this theme that are worth exploring. They don't outright contradict your premise, but they expand upon it. "Value" is not always quantified by the most obvious things. A woman from a broken home might look at a "stable" man as a valuable "gain" regardless of status and income. A woman might in some circumstances look at a man who is self-sufficient, rugged and capable of defending her as a "gain" regardless of money or his height. Etc. etc. Certainly the modern comfort we all enjoy has overshadowed some of the more base elements of the male-female relationship so that some women are hyper focused on income and height. However, we shouldn't overlook the fundamental "gain" that women get from a man that has existed since the stone-age. Someone to protect her and her young. These days, it's popular to act like all of that is money. But that seems like a "fall back position" for weak men to rely on to attract women they otherwise cannot naturally attract. In my experience, being independent, strong, dangerous, reliable, relatable and sociable (ie. a man ready to take on whatever life throws at him) seems to naturally attract woman (and keep them).
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  299. Thanks! Had a huge revelation listening to this and thank you for speaking about the sun with such warmth. 🥰
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  300. Thanks!
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  301. over 10 years ago i found the book Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker.......This opened my eyes about what happens in medical industry
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  303. This is the first time I paused to like a YouTube video at the first seconds, because I resonate this much with its title/message. Keep up!
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  306. In Goethe's Faust, Mehistopheles sets up a 2 layered bet. The "meta game" is the initial bet, with god, that he will successfully corrupt Faust. The nested game is the bet he makes with Faust, that he can make him feel true fulfillment. The thing is that Mephisto actually wins the nested bet, but not the larger one, the meta game, thus he doesn't succeed in securing Faust's soul. Nice video!
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  307. Love your channel love your content and I love the way you use real world communication in the delivery of your message actually our message for those who listen and you help
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  308. Content and delivery are simply amazing. Thank you!
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  309. Lots of comments here are missing the good Doctor's points in that we all know about the West's anti male marriage laws but that's not relevant here. He is talking about relationships, getting into them and how you should relate to women. Getting into a relationship on the right basis is a pre requisite to finding a suitable woman for a sound marriage, it's not a guarantee but it's the best we can do.
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  310. Hey thanks!! this was helpful I've been struggling this week
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  313. dude. you re awesome
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  314. People "live" or or are lived. It's that simple.
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  316. Love without attachment is goals 👍🏾🙌🏾
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  317. I swore I was done subscribing to new channels then your video goes and gets promoted and I love the value you offer. Thank you!
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  320. I just finished ‘The Value of Others’ and let me just say this was a masterpiece! Thank you for giving me perspective and very insightful concepts. I love this book and will be recommending it to everyone.
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  322. Thanks for your very helpful videos!
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  323. Just wanted to say I love this statement of truth. You have said it in passing in a number of your vlogs and delighted you have made a title of it. You are an inspiration that brings clarity to a lot of what we know intuitively. Keep producing, and thank you for it sir.
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  324. Keeping it "Real" for the women Doc!👍
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  325. Thanks
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  326. I coach on emotional intelligence mastery and your accuracy of education, word choice and light challenge to solutions are refreshing!
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  327. Yeah, people enter relationships for experiences. The desired experience can vary wildly, but if you want to cultivate attraction and love and all those great things, then it pays to think about what kind of experience you are providing for your partner. I think that men are looking for an experience from women just as much as vice versa, but the flavor of the desired experience tends to be a bit different for men vs women. As a man, one of the most challenging lessons I've learned is that when you focus on impressing a woman, you will usually bore her to death and kill attraction, but when you focus on creating an experience for her, she will eat out of the palm of your hand.
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