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  29. Key Takeaways: 1.) "How to get people interested in you?": You don't. You need to present yourself as who you are, and if they're interested in you then they'll let you know. Authentic you = Best version of you. To quote someone I saw in chat: "Authentic = Big Chad Energy". 2.) "How to turn small talk into free-flowing conversation": General Rule of open-ended question followed by investigative response, while making your intentions known and fully clear. Allow yourself to adjust to the flow of the conversation. If they respond well to a flirt, keep going. If they don't, then don't be afraid to back off. 3.) Actually try to get to know the person. You want to actually date them, right? Dating someone involves knowing things about them. Engage in topics you both relate to, and ask open-ended non-confrontational questions to allow the other person to show their true self (going back to Takeaway 1). 4.) Don't be afraid to be honest; Be authentic! If you want to strike a conversation with someone, but can't find a way to begin the conversation, just start talking. Don't force an introduction when you had to think about how to say it for the past 30 minutes. . 5.) Respect boundaries, but also have confidence. Going back to takeaway 1 and 4, be authentic and clear with your intentions. If they say yes, or allow you to have a second chance, take it. But if they say no and continue to say no, then respect that. 6.) Understand that even if they say no, you gave the other person the gift of feeling wanted by another human being. That's a pretty awesome gift to give. "As long as you're not cringe about it" - Dr. K
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  31. Hey guys this is Mini! I just wanted to say thank you so much for the overwhelmingly nice comments and feedback. It's really nice to hear that my story helped people out there. Also, if Dr.K is seeing this by any miraculous chance, I wanted to thank Dr.K for having me on the interview as well. You're so cool Dr.K :D This is going to be a long comment, but I just wanted to clarify a few things that I said on stream. 1. I do have a door, and the long curtain thing is just covering a long window I have next to the door. Maybe I'll change the curtains to pink ones in the future :3 2. I don't stream, but I'm thinking about it. Maybe in the future? who knows :P 3. I was extremely nervous this interview, so if I say um or kinda a lot that's just my defense mechanisms kicking in. 5. As for what I said about my brother, all I can say is that we have a complicated relationship. I care about him and love him, but he's done some pretty terrible things to me in the past that I'm still trying to heal from. After years of villainizing him, I started to realize only this year that he's just human and didn't mean to intentionally hurt me. I'm going to try to make amends with him as much as I can, and try to move on from the hurtful past and focus on building a better relationship with him. I don't really want him gone. I just wanted the pain to be gone, and I'm glad Dr.K has helped me realize that. As for how he's doing, I can't speak in place for my brother. But I convinced my parents to get him therapy help four years ago (which he still has today) and he now has a community around him that he feels as though accepts him more. And that's all I can ask for of him. 6. I love my parents. It may not seem like it from the way I talk about them in the video, but they genuinely care about my brother and me. They genuinely care for our dreams, and does everything they can to support our passions. They helped us get mental help when I requested for it, and slowly came to realize that we really needed it. My parents have said hurtful things to both me and my brother that we are still trying to heal from. I can't deny that. But what I can do is acknowledge it, try to understand, heal from it and forgive on my own terms. I hope that you guys can see that they are not the villains. They have their own hurt and their own stories, too, and was just trying their best. That's all. Whoever's reading this, I hope that you have a wonderful and healing day :) Signed, Raid Boss Mini
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  204. This was bloody fascinating. For starters, the connection between lack of discipline / resolve and being emotionally dissociated was WOW. Then I thought about what resolve means to me and I realized something mind blowing: Resolve is EASY. By that I mean that a state of resolve is like a switch going off in my brain that completely side-steps the need for willpower. Think of those stories you hear about a smoker that just looks at their pack of cigarettes one day and realizes “I don’t need / want these anymore”. They quit cold turkey and of course there are side effects to work through, but there’s no internal struggle. There’s no need to fire up the will power to fight the cravings. No need to convince themselves or psych themselves up to stick to their guns today. The switch has simply flipped and it won’t turn on again. Then I thought about what that resolve “switch” sounds like in my brain and I realized that it sounds like release. Those times when I’ve experienced the kind of resolve that led to profound life changes have always been framed in my mind as the laying down of a burden, or permission to more fully embody some part of my life. “I no longer need this toxic influence in my life”, or “I no longer need to be held back by this lack of knowledge”, “or I don’t need to be shackled to this weird relationship with food anymore” - that kind of thing. It always feels like a release. Thank you so much for this epiphany. It came at the exact right time too.
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  218. started therapy like 2 months ago and i'm personally very surprised how much good it's doing me. since several years ago i've always felt that i had no problem crying - i recently cried in front of friends after a break up. i wasn't ashamed at all. i said to them "i won't find another [her name]..." and sort of sniffled and shed a tear. my friend's wife then said "yes and she won't find another [my name] either." and i broke down into proper ugly crying. men NEVER get told this kind of stuff. nobody wants to make us feel special or valued. we have to 'take' or demand value and for many of us that's just not our personality. but in the case of these 2 friends... wow during all this they have made me feel loved and cared for. i have been pretty open and honest with other friends in the last few years too. my therapist isn't saying anything i don't think my friends could say. but it's not about that. it's about context. even though me and my friends are more open than most people, i STILL hold back a lot on what i want to say because i KNOW it affects my status and how people perceive me. with the therapist it's a different context. he is obligated to listen, to understand, to give help - and all in a completely detached way. there is no fear during therapy cos there are no negative repercussions for experiencing and expressing my emotions. experssing emotions? what is this foreign idea? he recently helped me to identify locked-up feelings by getting in touch with my body. i had zero awareness i was even doing it, i just knew that i didn't feel "right". to me it was like an anxious/tense feeling in my chest. he walked me through it and got me to speak to my own body with compassion (i was like wtf is this?) and within about 2 minutes i was almost literally vomiting up emotion and crying like fuck. i could feel it coming up my throat. COMPASSION... for MYSELF? what? it was like an alien concept. since i started therapy i've been ugly crying for about 30 seconds at a time once or twice a day. that same tense feeling just builds up out of nowhere and now i know to communicate with my body. the tears come, then they go, and i feel free again. I think i have a lot of old stuff to allow to come to the surface
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  311. i struggle so much with limerance. growing up i daydreamed a lot and read a lot of fanfiction. i find a lot of similarities between the ways i see my crushes or partners vs how i used to see my fandom of obsession or my OTP (the pairing that i would read fanfiction about). for both there is an intense fantasy element where i daydream constantly about them, ANYTHING i see in the world reminds me of them, everything is about them, and thats where my mind goes where im hurting or scared, its like my comfort object in my mind. i also noticed that for each, 1-7 years is the amount of time i would be obsessed with it before having to move on forcfully (like a break up) or just naturally losing interest (like my fandoms). something else he mentioned that i thought was really poignant was the expectations. i did have expectations of my partners that they didnt meet that were unfair of me. but my most recent partner did this to me i think. if i wasnt 100% perfect he would fall out of love with me. i think he saw me as a fantasy when we first got together, i remember him telling me "you make me happier than ive ever been" within a couple of months of dating. i saw a clip by jordan peterson recently where he mentioned something similar. he saw me a princess. perfect. his fantasy. everything he wanted. but then when i was an actual person, with flaws and baggage, and issues that i needed to work on. the princess was destroyed. it was like i killed his princess. and he wasnt able to see me as another human. i miss him, and im sad about him. and i wish i knew all of this a year ago. sending love to everyone here <3
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  345. I'm just gonna copy paste a comment I responded to someone with. I think a lot of people here are getting confused what the essence of HealthyGamer is, but I'm just gonna give my take on it "I think you're coming in with the wrong presumpton with a lot of these videos. These streams aren't meant to be dedicated to "helping all video gamers' and their problems", its about trying to understand other people's problems and how problems from the past can form adaptive/maladaptive behaviours that affect others years down the line. I feel like its more of an education to understand all types of people, and better appreciate what the human mind can do, both good and bad. I sense (only viewing from your comment alone), a whole lot of frustration about your problems, and I almost feel as though the streams that you've been watching, and the "help" that you're seeking by watching these videos will somehow create a 'light bulb / eureka' moment, and that's usually not gonna entirely solve your case. As stated from his streams, Knowledge surrounding your problems is step 1, self-realization is step 2, step 3 is from you, that's implementing action. Dr. K can only go so far to help viewers identify and self-actualize, but it comes down to you to do something about it. I believe he hopes that the self-actualization will give enough motivation or an understanding about themselves that they can actually grapple with so that they can go and seek relevant, necessary help (whether that may be seeking an actual therapist/psychologist, or implementing interventions via meditation+introspection; then again thats what I believe what the AoE healing ultimately aims for)"
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  356. I relate to this, here's some stuff I've learned. 1) Defaulting your dream to the biggest thing in the field is kinda dumb. You might not actually want to be a chef, director, author, or run a business. You might be ignoring food researcher, producer, editor, or freelance. The whole reason you're interested in the field is probably because you followed your curiosity there in some regard. What most people do next is turn off their curiosity GPS and just head for the biggest landmark and try to follow "the path to become x" Chances are you'll miss your turn for the reason you actually came there. 2) It doesn't have to be one thing, frankly it probably shouldn't. 3) Projects. Start small and increase scale over time. If you look at the careers of very successful creatives, it's basically all a cascade of projects that over time lay the ground work for bigger stuff to be done. Diligence and hard work and practice are cool and recommended, but finishing shit counts, it gives you a place to contextualize all that diligence, hard work and practice into a tangible. 4) Burn out happens, there are ways to mitigate it, but it's scary as shit initially. You'll wonder why you don't love the thing you love, that maybe you had large parts of your identity based on. Relax, and let it have it's time. If someone asks, it's on the back burner at the moment. Curiosity will spring back up again and take you in a direction you didn't have the context for earlier. But still, it's scary as shit, and none moreso than the first few times when you don't have the experience to have reason to believe it's coming back. 5) Stuff you figure out yourself > advice.
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