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  1. So basically, as a gifted kid, I skipped the tutorial because it felt too easy. Then the actual game threw curveballs at me
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  2. This can be a blessing and a curse, there's a thin line between being highly reflective and constantly worrying
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  3. The world needs more healthy conversations about sex, this was a great video
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  4. To the paralysis - I’m not sure if this is a common thing - for me, say it’s 10 o’clock and I have an appointment at noon, I get stuck in this frustrated head space where I don’t know what to do with the time because it feels like not enough time to start a task but too much time to not do anything.
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  5. Brain rot has made it to healthy gamer
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  6. Thanks again Dr. K
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  7. This feels like one of those things that you've always known internally but had never heard it layed out and explained so well.
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  8. This is the first argument against weed I can actually respect as a stoner.
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  9. As a person who is on the spectrum and transgender, this is what I think about why they’re linked. Gender is very social, and if you struggle socially you can struggle with the social aspects of gender. If I never had to socialize with others, my gender would be irrelevant. In many ways my gender identity feels more like an inconvenience, at least to me. Why does my gender have to determine favorite colors, job preferences, and hobbies? For me this is how I feel.
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  10. The best analogy I ever heard about ADHD was, "Imagine that you're trying to count money, but several people are standing behind you saying numbers."
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  11. Talking to you was great Dr. K, although Id like to apologize for that brutal mana drain haha
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  12. I have never felt so attacked by a YouTube title, period.
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  13. I can't believe I just watched a psychological analysis on gooning
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  14. Shoutout to all of us with ADHD that paid attention to the entire 35 minute discussion
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  15. Mad respect for this guy for coming and talking with Dr K. Im sure this conservation helped many people.
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  16. Thank you Dr. K for the opportunity 🙏
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  17. The tech addiction has been a real struggle. These dark and cold winters definitely don’t help things.
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  18. Not to brag, but I clicked on this video instead of adding it to watch later like all the others, so I’m basically already a doer 😏
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  19. watching Dr K talk about dopamine detox is my dopamine
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  20. Thank you for being one of the few people online that tell us to learn and master our emotions instead of saying to put them away
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  21. :)
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  22. I have a theory that journaling is "Rubber Ducky Debugging" but for yourself. There's a code debugging method, called "Rubber Ducky Debugging" - when a programmer is stuck on a problem with their code, they will take a rubber ducky and start explaining what the code does to it, line by line, assuming (rightfully so) that the rubber ducky knows nothing about programming. When they see that what they say doesn't match with the code, or when they struggle to explain something, they now know that's the part they have to dig deeper into. I think this happens with journaling, too. The journal is your rubber ducky, and you're telling it your side of the story, but then you feel like maybe it doesn't know something you assume to be obvious so you clarify things to it, and you add disclaimers, and you struggle to word things that you might feel deep down are not right (like it's always being *them/people*, for example). So you start changing that. And then the code works :)
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  23. I love the interviews with “ordinary” people. Even when the experiences are wildly different, there is always something relatable. Thank you for sharing.
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  24. I feel like OP's insecurity is less about not having sex and more about social validation: i.e. the idea that no one wants to have sex with him because he's not good enough, or otherwise undesirable as a person. That feeling is FAR worse than the lack of physical pleasure.
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  25. Least expected and most appreciated crossover ever
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  26. One small thing that really changed my life is the concept of non-zero days. Meaning you do at least one thing per day towards your future goals. i.e. working out, doing school work etc. You do AT LEAST one thing a day, with NO exceptions. Over time you will develop momentum and discipline and before you know it you're unstoppable. It's all in the baby steps you take to get there.
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  27. My grandpa called it 'Tender hearted syndrome'. He told me before he passed that life is going to be hard for me because I had tender hearted syndrome. Later on I was diagnosed with BPD. You are the first person I have listened to that described it well. I had a lot of trauma growing up. Therapy really helped. I'm coming off of my meds now because I am stagnating in therapy. I need to feel them to move forward. Healing is possible. Hard. Oh it is so hard. But I believe it will be worth it.
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  28. Respect to these guys, that takes balls.
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  29. Key Takeaways: 1.) "How to get people interested in you?": You don't. You need to present yourself as who you are, and if they're interested in you then they'll let you know. Authentic you = Best version of you. To quote someone I saw in chat: "Authentic = Big Chad Energy". 2.) "How to turn small talk into free-flowing conversation": General Rule of open-ended question followed by investigative response, while making your intentions known and fully clear. Allow yourself to adjust to the flow of the conversation. If they respond well to a flirt, keep going. If they don't, then don't be afraid to back off. 3.) Actually try to get to know the person. You want to actually date them, right? Dating someone involves knowing things about them. Engage in topics you both relate to, and ask open-ended non-confrontational questions to allow the other person to show their true self (going back to Takeaway 1). 4.) Don't be afraid to be honest; Be authentic! If you want to strike a conversation with someone, but can't find a way to begin the conversation, just start talking. Don't force an introduction when you had to think about how to say it for the past 30 minutes. . 5.) Respect boundaries, but also have confidence. Going back to takeaway 1 and 4, be authentic and clear with your intentions. If they say yes, or allow you to have a second chance, take it. But if they say no and continue to say no, then respect that. 6.) Understand that even if they say no, you gave the other person the gift of feeling wanted by another human being. That's a pretty awesome gift to give. "As long as you're not cringe about it" - Dr. K
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  30. I’m 26 and feel this so hard. Never had a girlfriend, never had a “real” adult job, and I’m going to grad school now because my bachelors degree got me absolutely nothing valuable. Most of my male cousins and friends around my age are already married and/or have kids, and often I feel like an overgrown teen boy. Yet somehow, I’m optimistic for the first time in my life. I’ve finally accepted that I spent my youth being a perpetual screwup because I was too scared to face reality. Self sabotaging is an addiction that I am still training myself to overcome.
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  31. Hey guys this is Mini! I just wanted to say thank you so much for the overwhelmingly nice comments and feedback. It's really nice to hear that my story helped people out there. Also, if Dr.K is seeing this by any miraculous chance, I wanted to thank Dr.K for having me on the interview as well. You're so cool Dr.K :D This is going to be a long comment, but I just wanted to clarify a few things that I said on stream. 1. I do have a door, and the long curtain thing is just covering a long window I have next to the door. Maybe I'll change the curtains to pink ones in the future :3 2. I don't stream, but I'm thinking about it. Maybe in the future? who knows :P 3. I was extremely nervous this interview, so if I say um or kinda a lot that's just my defense mechanisms kicking in. 5. As for what I said about my brother, all I can say is that we have a complicated relationship. I care about him and love him, but he's done some pretty terrible things to me in the past that I'm still trying to heal from. After years of villainizing him, I started to realize only this year that he's just human and didn't mean to intentionally hurt me. I'm going to try to make amends with him as much as I can, and try to move on from the hurtful past and focus on building a better relationship with him. I don't really want him gone. I just wanted the pain to be gone, and I'm glad Dr.K has helped me realize that. As for how he's doing, I can't speak in place for my brother. But I convinced my parents to get him therapy help four years ago (which he still has today) and he now has a community around him that he feels as though accepts him more. And that's all I can ask for of him. 6. I love my parents. It may not seem like it from the way I talk about them in the video, but they genuinely care about my brother and me. They genuinely care for our dreams, and does everything they can to support our passions. They helped us get mental help when I requested for it, and slowly came to realize that we really needed it. My parents have said hurtful things to both me and my brother that we are still trying to heal from. I can't deny that. But what I can do is acknowledge it, try to understand, heal from it and forgive on my own terms. I hope that you guys can see that they are not the villains. They have their own hurt and their own stories, too, and was just trying their best. That's all. Whoever's reading this, I hope that you have a wonderful and healing day :) Signed, Raid Boss Mini
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  32. Everytime Scarra smiles, a flower blooms somewhere.
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  33. Relatable for a god gamer like me.
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  34. This fucking guys uploads are always impeccably timed with my real life experiences
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  35. By transforming my awkwardness into having fun while talking, and by simply loving the people I'm interacting with, I found that being awkward tends to stop
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  36. I'm 1000% sure that the next video title will be my address.
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  37. I was crying the whole way through. It felt like the first time that (despite having a clinical diagnosis) a medical professional actually understands the struggles I deal with and actually validate those struggles. Thank you for doing what you do.
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  38. We got Dr.K Gooning before GTA 6
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  39. "Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote for shame." -Uncle Iroh
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  40. This is easily going in the top 5 HealthyGamer interviews
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  41. "People hate virgins, they used to sacrifice them to the gods" LMAO
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  42. You actually just described so much of why I am depressed. I never draw anymore because I just am too tired or unmotivated. I'm passionate about it but can never get myself to do it anymore. I do the bare minimum to get by and struggle with basic daily tasks and chores.
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  43. i am speechless, years of therapy not finding an explanation, at least 6 therapist... and in 45 mins you just explained ME to me. OMG thank you.
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  44. Dr K. Thank you. I was so close to giving up and ending my life and one day one of your videos popped up and I watched it. A little over 1.5 years later and I’m the happiest I’ve been since I was a child. My life has turned completely around and I don’t know where I’d be right now if I didn’t press on that video. Thank you
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  45. I'm analyzing the video's title and thumbnail to decide if I'll watch it now, later, or not at all. Will keep you guys updated
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  46. CodeMiko: *Gets emotional and leaves* Dr. K: *Literally T-poses* 50:05
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  47. The problem with most modern games is that they rob you of challenges that require problem-solving . When you are no longer confronted with such things, you automatically become bad at it
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  48. Like Dr. K said, I think it depends on the person. Some people need to develop self-love first because their internal shame and low value is keeping them from moving forward in life. And for others, changing their external circumstances can lead to them finding a sense of value. It’s like a chicken and egg problem.
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  49. Based on his wiki Dr. K battled video game addiction during his undergrad from 2000-2003, then overcame it in India. He later finished his undergrad in 2007. At 28, he started his medical degree in 2010, which he completed by 32-33 in 2014, marking a remarkable comeback and success story. Even mentors can be “behind in life.”
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  50. It's like your video's are coming at a time where i've been more addicted to my phone than ever.
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  51. I gave up video games for a period before going back and here’s what I’ve learned: 1. I was using it to avoid my problems. 2. I have adhd so I couldn’t regulate my time and couldn’t break away from video games 3. Quoting video games won’t fix your life, but it will give you more time to work on problems in your life 4. You need to fill the time void you dedicated to video games with something productive. Otherwise you won’t improve, just waste time scrolling through Facebook or tiktok 5. Play the game to enjoy it. If you feel bad about playing, don’t play it Hope this helps!
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  52. "When you have the time to yourself, chances are you'll waste it." Real.
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  53. "Do not kill the part of you that is cringe, kill the part of you that cringes" - Albert Einstein
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  54. The thumbnails are starting to get through to me. I'm beginning to think the guy in the video is a psychiatrist...
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  55. "The science of Gooning" i never thought i would hear this.
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  56. It’s so weird that you can even procrastinate over things that you enjoy
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  57. "Failing Repeatedly at Life? Avoid this Cognitive Trap." Recommended for you
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  58. "Who wrote this" "you did"
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  59. I cannot stress enough how much better Regular viewer interviews are than Streamer ones. It's night and day. The problems are more relatable, there's more space for introspection, acknowledging genuine personal flaws and shortcomings, less of a need to maintain an image, you name it.
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  60. The terms he uses are “Yoga Nidra” and “Sunkalp”, for all those who want to learn more. Goodluck!
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  61. I’m in the middle of a book titled “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson. It’s been eye-opening.
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  62. Gotta wake up to feed my cat and play battlefield 1, someone has to do it 💪
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  63. Mizkif was extremely well put together and sharp throughout this. Amazing stuff.
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  64. instructions unclear, pre-ordered the guide but did not get traumatized
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  65. If I ever had doubts that this man is a doctor, they were all dispelled after seeing his handwriting.
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  66. My breathing changed when I read that title. Made me realize how much I care.
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  67. I bet the real reason LS hates building Morello is because it reduces AoE Healing
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  68. The "language as a substitute for action" part I can very much relate. The more I discuss doing something, the less likely I am to follow through, more than 90% of the time.
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  69. as an autistic nonbinary person THANK YOU. im so tired of people telling me im faking my gender or my autism because "oh you have too many things." without understanding like 90% of my things are comorbid. my special interest is psychology so i read a lot of studies and no matter how many studies on gender and autism i show people they never believe me. thank you for spreading the word !! this was such a validating video to watch
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  70. I'm 6 weeks in with my Healthy Gamer Coach and its changed my life. I don't have health insurance and I've paid hundreds of dollars on other therapy that did nothing but make me angry. Thank you Dr. K for making an affordable, yet high quality option for improving my mental health ❤
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  71. "what dr. k struggles with" goes on a rant about game of thrones season 8
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  72. Don't let the seriousness that Dr. K is displaying distract you from the fact that he winked at you at 2:26 when he said "non-verbal communications"
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  73. 13:29 I want him to voice a ten-hour long romance thriller and become each character 😳✊
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  74. I’m forty and after four years of devoted talk therapy and psychiatric / recreational drug exploration, I’m still discovering how my anxiety was wired at age three.
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  75. This was my Reddit post. I’m beyond grateful and a bit shook at the response from Dr K. I’m still currently trying to process my realizations from this response but I never believed that I had an ego problem. I feel as if though my own beliefs on myself have been completely delusional. I genuinely thought of myself as a humble person but I now see that everything I do and have done has been in the name of my ego and need to feel better…. I just want to say thank you, I need more time to process more of this and digest it but now I have a road paved that I can follow.
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  76. I was going through a very, very strong depression due to so many problems at school and at home when I was 16. I was suspected (now confirmed) of being on the spectrum. Videogames were the only thing I could do to distract me from everything and one of the few interests I had. Despite my parents being the root cause of many of my problems, they still found a way to make truce temporarily just to agree to take away my videogame consoles and not allow me to use the computer for anything other than school work. They then wondered why I started having meltdowns and shutdowns every day of my life until they finally gave up and realized they had made a terrible choice.
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  77. Finally a video about brain fog. Thank you, feels like nothing's real and like I can't think or feel
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  78. This video impacted me more than any of your others. Thank you.
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  79. Seán is one of the nicest people on YouTube, always a pleasure to hear him talk! As soon as I saw the title I got excited.
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  80. This man is just giving us liquid gold on a daily basis
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  81. Absolutely the most insightful talk I’ve ever listened to. Helped me realize so much about myself!
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  82. The emotional dumping is something I am guilty of. There have been conversations I've had where afterward I tell myself, "You really could have just journaled all of that and it would have been easier for everyone."
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  83. "The cost of procrastination is the life you could've lived."
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  84. covid absolutely obliterated my already very iffy social skills 💀
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  85. The fact that he gives all of this information for free is unbelievable.
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  86. I'm happy to see people responding positively to this man being vulnerable. We MUST support people when they make the right decisions even if they heavily contemplate poor or unethical ones. You can play a part in people's resilience and recovery <3
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  87. This was a huge leap for me. I had no idea what to expect and i was terrified of talking about this. But i’m so glad I did, Dr. K and his team are doing incredible work this really opened my eyes to how powerful therapy can really be.
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  88. This is the first vid of him where it feels like he's ranting rather than actually trying to help anyone xD. Love it
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  89. My wife has ADHD. We've been together for 8 years. I just learned so much about her and the mistakes I'm making. Huge hugs for this video. Thank you soooo much. I have to go give her hugs and apologies.....
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  90. I feel personally targeted. But I'm too insecure to complain about it.
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  91. I can definitely relate to this idea of engaging in tasks from a balanced state of mind. I remember there were times where I tried to go to the gym consistently and all of my attempts would either come from a place of willpower - "I'm so out of shape so I will force myself to work out today" or motivation - "I just watched 20 lifting videos in a row and researched the perfect routine, let me start going 6 days a week and eating the perfect diet tomorrow". As you can probably guess, neither were particularly effective over the long term. What I've found to help the habit stick is to calmly say "I need to go to the gym at this time tomorrow" when planning out my day. Much like getting groceries or doing my laundry, I treat it like an errand without a ton of emotional attachment. And that has made all the difference.
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  92. Massive kudos to JC for taking part in this interview. The only way to prevent kids from developing violent ideation is to understand how and why it does to begin with. It takes profound ego strength to be able to be this honest about such a dark past. I don't know JC, but I'm proud of him for getting himself out of that period and now contributing to our understanding of what leads to school shootings.
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  93. I’m a 50 year old woman. Not a gamer by any stretch of the imagination. Health Gamer is the best channel I’ve found yet. Loved this video. So helpful!!!
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  94. I've been wanting to unlock this achievement for such a long time...
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  95. I really appreciate Dr. K giving me the toolset to articulate to my peers what I'm trying to work through <3
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  96. I saw this and was immediately going to watch, then I said, “no I need to sign off on some docs for work... let me do that first then I will watch this...” I did it out of sheer guilt that I would be watching the video thinking of the work I’m supposed to be doing... so I bit the bullet and now I am watching this anxiety free. Yes, I’m very proud of myself right now.
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  97. 72 views, meanwhile worthless content like drama channels get millions....... No wonder people are struggling to find meaning from life
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  98. Hey, Luke here. I wanted to say how immensley humbled I am by Ed's comments about me and our friendship. It means a huge amount to me and I could barely believe what I was hearing. It's a slightly surreal experience to have your name become a descriptor synonymous with positivity, but it really means a lot to me. Ed for his part is a wonderful friend for me as well and has helped me in countless ways, especially this year with ontroducing me to Dr K and his videos. I hope all of you out there, reading this have a great day and you can find your 'Luke' or even group of close friends who care about you in the way that I and Ed care for each other <3
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  99. As someone who often feels emotionless, this is very helpful and explains a lot.
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  100. It actually feels really nice waking up super early as a night owl. It feels like it makes my peak night hours occur much earlier in the day.
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  101. The timing is uncanny as always
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  102. Losers. Real men simp for Vegeta. Or Broly.
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  103. Whenever I ask my dad if he's happy, he says "No son. I'm not happy, I'm dad."
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  104. Based solely off of the thumbnail, I'm assuming this video is about concentrating my power through meditation until I turn into a lich, and frankly, I'm here for that.
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  105. I watched this live and honest to god, Teccy's life story tore me apart man... He has gone through so much and his behaviour from the recent drama makes a lot more sense with this interview in mind. As both a Teccy viewer and someone who was positively impacted by some of your previous chats, thank you for what you do :) Edit: Typos
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  106. I don’t plan on quitting but this dude really seems like a reliable source ngl. This makes a lot of sense and will help me not overindulge.
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  107. But I want the skill tree….
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  108. This channel is like discovering a Demon's Souls guide after dying 150 times in the first area, you wish you had known it all from the start but just thinking how many people will find and be helped by this makes you smile. Thank you for everything Dr K!
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  109. I wanted to chip in with things I’ve learned from therapy and other sources. I Think the key to emotional processing is to treat your emotions as information, sit for a moment with no distractions and name the emotion you feel. Keep trying to label it. Some might need multiple labels. After you figure out each emotion ask yourself why you feel this way. Any answer works, if you truly cannot find why, just acknowledge you feel that way. The last step is to lay the feelings to rest, acknowledge their existence, thank your mind for letting you know then contextualize how you emotions fit with reality. Be sure to look for physical tells of emotions such as quivering lips, sweaty palms, chest pressure etc. Example: what am I feeling? Is it anger? No,I feel a pressure in my chest, I usually feel that when I am sad. Okay why am I sad? Im sad because my friend invalidated my feelings earlier. Okay does my friend usually care about my feelings? Yes they do, but it still hurt. I will have a conversation about with them when I get time. In my experience the emotions will generally fade as long as you fully acknowledge them for what they want to tell you. Once you know what it wants you to know or explore it will fade much more quickly.
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  110. I dont know why people are flaming this, there were obviously viewers that found this helpful. It was easy to see from the questions and watching the chat when it was live. Just because shes not a typical twitch viewer-type doesn't mean there is no value. I thought it was interesting just from the standpoint of seeing this sort of issue exists and how Dr. K tries to help with it. Just get a wider variety of problems in my opinion. Not every video can be one that helps you get some tidbit of knowledge to help you personally.
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  111. Never thought about discipline being an emotion, but that makes sense. I’m best able to do stuff when I’m almost angry but not actually mad about anything, if that makes sense. 🤷‍♂️
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  112. I'm a simp for Dr K
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  113. This is fitting. I put in my 2 weeks today, and when my boss asked to speak it was just her screaming at me. Telling me I needed to "work on myself", how she was such a good manager, then had the nerve to ask if I was coming in tomorrow. Guess what my answer was? It sucks to be set back to zero, but it's ALWAYS okay to leave an abusive or toxic work environment.
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  114. "I'm singing 'cause I like the song, not because I like them." That line and the whole siren analogy was some genuinely profound stuff.
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  115. When your card declines at therapy
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  116. Imma be honest here: because mental conditions can be so overwhelming, sometimes is really hard to figure it out what I am feeling and even harder to explain to myself and others why am I feeling like that, it seems that whenever I try to figure it out what's going inside my head, all I get is alphabet soup. Trying to read my thoughts makes me feel illiterate. But then you have this channel, with Dr. K willing to untangled those thoughts and feelings and try to easy it for us, and sometimes is the most secure I feel the whole day. Also, the way everything in the video is raw: visual, a clear and honest talk, no over-produced thumbnails that we see in other videos... just helps to know he is someone who is very serious about mental health.
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  117. Wow, someone in chat said something like "shame isn't an emotion, it's an emotion generator" then 3 mins later Dr. K said almost the exact same thing. Chat is learning!
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  118. Damn dont you just hate it when you turn into a doormat
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  119. Dr.K never misses with the timing
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  120. I feel like basic mental health information, like this, should be taught at a high school level
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  121. Endgame been real since quiet since this dropped
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  122. This is what I hoped the internet would become. genuine experts helping people. I know this is only streamers, but your methodology can be applied to lots of people.
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  123. The whole "lacking object permanence" thing is a huge pet peeve of mine. Forgetting to contact someone or failing to think about them is not at all the same thing as thinking they've disappeared because you can't see them. I understand wanting to put a label on the "out of sight, out of mind" tendency of people with ADHD, but we need a better term for it. One that doesn't imply that our brains have not developed past infancy.
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  124. This describes my experience after college; after living most of my life with the structure of school, I felt like I was on my own after graduating and couldn’t figure out how to create my own structure without external sources
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  125. As someone who quit, quitting isn't the solution to all your mental health issues honestly. It's a relief but you still have to realise things arent easy just because it's something you love, you'll face troubles and hardships, especially if you already have shame, guilt, low self worth. Those don't disappear, you have to work with yourself and get help. Also let me just quote Min Yoongi: Giving up decisively also counts as courage.
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  126. " you keep them at arm's length and are uncomfortable when people get too close. But you also don't want to leave/them to leave. Holy shit I felt that one. 😅
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  127. The jokes are funny but this is genuinely one of the most mind-opening things I've watched in a long time
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  128. it's actually pretty insane how much these abstract psychological conversations can be mapped onto other people's lives. like our lifepaths are completely different, but i understand almost everything he's talking about, and i can see how the solutions would apply to my own life. this is why i love psychology
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  129. I'm the guy in the video. I can't express how helpful this talk was for me to understand more about myself, and I'm struggling with the questions Dr k left me with. Sigh, but I'm trying to get a better understanding of myself. P.S. It is so awkward that my call-in is, well first of all so damn long, and secondly has turned into a video on YouTube. This feels surreal.
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  130. Thanks members, this was a great gift.
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  131. I feel like I’m the only one in this sea of people who had parents like this, and I can say fervently that the other option - talking to the kid - works wonders. I was diagnosed with ADHD two weeks before my freshman year of high school, and my parents tried to help me. They talked to me. The pandemic hit halfway through the school year, and my parents correctly figured out that video games were the only way for me to interact with my friends. How? By asking me. They let me talk to friends. The pandemic still hit me hard as hell, being recently diagnosed with ADHD with nothing figured out. I didn’t know what ADHD was, so when I talked to them, they told me and helped me figure things out. Now, two years later, I can successfully do stuff that everyone else can like read a textbook. I’ve mostly got through that dark time of my life where I almost failed every class due to missing homework. That’s another thing: they let me fail. They actually let me fail hard. I got Cs and Bs, I had mountains of homework, etc. eventually, I got tired of having bad grades. My motivation was back, but this time it was from within. They stopped reminding me when I told them not to. Because they didn’t need to. It wasn’t easy. It’s still ongoing. But, as a Junior in high school, I’m back on the right track. Thanks Mom and Dad for actually being there for me.
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  132. So a 20 minute meditation can help center and reduce dissociation, but a 40 minute meditation might induce dissociation. That's fascinating!
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  133. Honestly probably going to be one of the most important videos of 2025 on this platform
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  134. I completely relate to everything in the video. Also, when i was little and even to this day (almost an 18 years old) i get really frustrated when trying to do something and failing, especially things that I feel like I should be able to do (like solving math or chemistry problems). All my life I have been told "hes a smart kid, but hes a little lazy", and even in subjects such as math, where I would constantly get straight As and all my teachers/friends/family members would say "hes amazing at math", now I get Cs, not because I dont understand the subject, but because I refrain from even trying to understand it. Im constantly unable to pay attention in class as I get bored a lot and extremely easily and I rarely do my homework. Sorry for the vent, I really identified with what you said in this video. Also, I found you beacuse of Devin Nash, thanks for the amazing content!
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  135. I'm a clinician who specializes in autism, and I just want to say thank you so much for developing your platform and putting this out there. Unfortunately, I think many clinicians don't understand autism enough, and they don't consider it when they're working with individuals with gender dysphoria. And, of course, the average person doesn't have this information to help them navigate it either. Also, you did a fantastic job scratching the surface of this topic without leaving people with just enough information to be dangerous or misunderstand - although, I'm sure that will still happen. Awesome video that I'll definitely be sharing.
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  136. We appreciate your effort and hard work on this channel. Bless you.
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  137. posted 20 seconds ago clicked immediately. no willpower whatsoever
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  138. Can't believe this is from a stream. This is better than somebody scripting a lecture for weeks. Thank you, this helps a lot!
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  139. The talk about Lily 2 reminded me of Naruto and his struggle with the Waterfall of Truth. Loving the other side of you that is always in pain and accepting this pain, allows you to love yourself completely and become whole.
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  140. After the years of being on twitch. This guy is the only positive thing I've found lol
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  141. So, Kurzgesagt and Healthy gamer both doing a video on weed the same week. Coincidence?!! Probably yes.
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  142. Videos like this are so helpful for people struggling with similar issues of not feeling “like-able”. It’s always great to relate, even if it’s to a stranger. Cheers
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  143. I obviously haven't watched the whole video yet, but I just wanted to say that Dr. K is rocking the fresh cut
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  144. I don’t know how to convey everything this video has done for me. I’ve spent the last 12 years in therapy with medication to handle my social anxiety and no one has ever, EVER just spoken to me like this about it. I wrote a psych paper in community college, 2018 about my social anxiety because i was so enthralled with the instincts that came to people through animal nature. I didn’t understand WHY it made so much sense and even though my psych teacher loved my essay; she couldn’t even answer why it related so well. I started sobbing half way through because i somehow managed to solve my entire problem with social anxiety from 2018. I know how to move forward now. I’m still in therapy and I cannot WAIT to scream about this to my therapist. I really hope somehow through this delirious mess you understand how grateful for what you and this channel do for people like me, who lived the EXACT same life as Adam did.
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  145. He's been doing more videos geared toward women lately. Previously, Dr. K had generally referred to his audience under the assumption of them being straight men. So honestly, as I woman who has been watched his videos for a few years now, this is really nice. We need help, too. And hopefully this channel can help men better understand women, women better understand men, and everyone understand enbies.
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  146. WOAH! Dr. K AND ContraPoints in one video? Sign me up!
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  147. I'm a 2020 college grad, I didn’t get a graduation. This is the commencement speech I would've wanted 💕
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  148. My partner has BPD and a lot of the things you said just apply perfectly. She had a job with a really toxic work environment and she had a really tough time there. Our relationship got rocky partially because of that, partially because of me. She got another job with a healthy and socially stimulating work environment, we worked our personal stuff out and she was finally able to quit antidepressants. Antidepressants kinda felt like they were just numbing her down. Ever since, she is more lively, active and affectionate. I'm also a rather affectionate person so we just kinda bounce off of each other. But damn, the part about people with BPD, that they recognise frustration immediately and think it's their fault... that's completely new info for me, but it makes so much sense. Like if I just have a tiring, bad day, she just notices it in a moment, while other people wouldn't. Thank you for this video, it was a really good one. And for people with BPD - you are not unloveable at all. You just kinda need to find that person who resonates with you and is willing to study this condition a bit. Not gonna lie, there were difficult parts, but it's worth it. She makes it worth it.
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  149. "That was so much better" Kruti is such a natural at being warm and wholesome 🥰🥰
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  150. When you lock eyes with someone don't hastily look away, smile and say hello. Best advice I've ever took
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  151. I think it's also worth knowing for many guys that a lot of women struggle quite a lot with similar problems. Much more than I think most men are aware of, and they would be surprised by how many women feel nearly exactly the same as they do. Dating, loneliness, anxiety, social validation and feeling behind on life are all things that really tear on most women's mental health and self-worth. We just don't often talk about it in "mainstream" spaces, so it makes it seems as if it doesn't exist but it does - so very much!
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  152. My mom used to try to hide the power cable to my xbox (this was early 2000s) and would get livid when I played too much. I was a private school kid who made B's, was in AP science classes, played on 2 soccer teams, did track and cross country. My videogaming came from a mixture of being bored at school, seasonal depression, having ADHD (undiagnosed then), and wanting a competitive outlet that scaled with my speed of learning(competitive Halo player, MLG etc).
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  153. the way you decode everyday problems with scientific accuracy and giving us solutions is impressive!!
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  154. Can confirm. "This reminds me of that one time..." is a great way to yes-and a topic while telling a personal story, and people do love personal stories!
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  155. Dr. Ks one grey hair from not becoming a monk and then killing it at Harvard Medical School and then helping all these gamers fix themselves 🎉🎉🎉
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  156. I think despite a lot of the cringe and misinformation on Tik Tok around mental health, I think it's nice people are beginning to have a wider discussion about it. know so many people who are looking to get diagnosed and personally, I'm looking forward to starting ADHD module this week 👏
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  157. Im 27 years old right now, spent about 6-7 years of my twenties high on herion and methamphetamine, but here i am clean 1 year in. I missed so much time and "catching up" is something im trying to fast track right now. Its frustrating and disappointing how much time i waisted. No savings no home to call my own no friends pretty much no life.. I hope everyone the very best in getting along in life. Because i know how it feels to be left behind
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  158. “We are inheriting a world that is fundamentally broken.” For a line that is filled with despair, it actually gives me hope. It lifts some responsibility in the sense that it is not my fault, but I can still do something if I want. It says that because everything is broken, i have the ability to approach it from any direction I want. That it’s genuinely just a sandbox. I’m graduating this Thursday and actually just got off a call with my therapist where she had to console my anxiety towards the future. So this video has been a nice further lift In my hope and what I can do.
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  159. I'm not even really a gamer and I don't watch twitch, but I love this content so much more than most other psychology/therapy/personal-improvement oriented content because you do a phenomenal job of contextualizing things with a story, explaining the neurological mechanisms at play, and structuring it like a conversation. I feel engaged by your content and I always learn something about myself and, most importantly, I learn WHAT I need to address to fix these problems as well as your tips on how to address it, rather than just being told "just work harder, put your phone down, stay motivated..." by someone who just wants to tell people what to do for the sake of gaining a following.
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  160. Brave of him to be this open and honest. This one hit close. These talks are truely some aoe healing
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  161. The skill tree is the whole reason I bought the thing!
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  162. "you are constantly spawning into a random person's life" mindblown
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  163. Plot twist: Dr. K has actually been an AI therapist the whole time
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  164. The fact that doubt is the opposite of discipline really strike me, especially when I think about my daily life. When I feel resolve, I get more focused and my body is kind of warming up.
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  165. I want a relationship with Dr. K
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  166. I just realized Dr. K is almost immune to being taken out of context, because he says things that can be taken out of context constantly.
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  167. Nutbusting yogis were the original chads
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  168. Only doctor k says:”stop giving me money, i am teaching you guys shit”
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  169. A tactic that works for me when I remember it is the phrase "Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly". It's a silly thing, because it sounds wrong, but the reality is, anything that's worth doing, on balance, it's better to do it slowly, inefficiently, weakly, etc. than it is to not do it at all. So I push myself to sometime to just do the worst thing that pushes me towards the goal. By worst I don't mean actually bad or harmful, but I mean kind of the most pathetic. This gets around the "not enough" feeling. It's not meant to be enough. If anything, I might feel resistance because it's not pathetic enough. Then when I'm actually started, I am allowed to do more, but I certainly don't push myself to do more. It's the pushing that creates the resistance anyways. At the start there was a fear of external judgment, but really I had the opposite. I was more effective overall, so people were happy.
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  170. I realized I use it to disassociate, slip into a fantasy, when I'm unhappy or grieving. But limerence ends up in grief too.
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  171. I absolutely love how Dr. K is so innocent but tries to understand everything.
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  172. Note to self: Meditation to focus on one thing, be bored more, stop ruminating thoughts by noticing, resolving.
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  173. As someone with ADHD, that "eye-opening" technique also works well with falling asleep! I used to be sleep deprived because when I lay and try to sleep, I would try to keep my eyes shut. But what would happen is that my mind would begin to think about a lot of random things that prevent me from getting sleep. I noticed if I kept my eyes open my mind would be clear, and that has helped me rest at night.
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  174. I think a Dr. K video exploring Limerence more deeply would be great! It's something not very well known (outside the internet) and that a lot of people experience thinking it's true love.
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  175. I’ve realized soulmates are not a predestined person out there meant to be with you. A soulmate is someone who jives well with you that you meet at the right place and time. That means you can have more than one soulmate, as well as more than one type of soulmate. That means you can have platonic soulmates. Sometimes your soul mate is your really cool cat that you just get, that just understands you across the limits of form and language. It can be a friend you make at a convention. It can be your significant other, that is your team mate for life, and yall are there for each other through thick and thin.
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  176. Damn.. Dr K nailed it on this one. I especially agree near the end. I like how you explained the beginnings of religion and how people today are simply regurgitating information rather than living the experience themself. This is very true.
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  177. JC is so well spoken and intelligent. I'm so glad he found his way eventually. As a teacher, it absolutely enrages me to hear how he was treated. Teachers often seem to forget that our students are just kids, therefore, they need more compassion than we as adults are sometimes uncomfortable giving.
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  178. To the Editor: A limiter or compressor on the audio would prbly help, not sure.
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  179. The production quality in your videos has skyrocketed Dr. K!
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  180. Having this channel as a resource for help is such a blessing, I almost don’t realize how lucky I am sometimes. Maybe this channel didn’t exist 10 years ago (when I needed it), but it does now, and I’m thankful as hell for it.
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  181. Thank you for existing!
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  182. It feels right for a channel like yours to be bringing personality disorders into discussion. The way you help devillainize people is amazing, never stop being you
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  183. Thanks so much Dr. K. It was a great talk and super eye opening, you are the man 🙏🏼
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  184. I watch a lot of your videos and streams but I don't comment. I figured I would let you know that I really enjoy your content. Best of luck.
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  185. Anyone else frustrated that we all seem to be rolling balls of trauma?
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  186. This is EXTREMELY helpful. I'm not a "gamer" nor someone who's in touch with the whole streaming community, but I really do enjoy watching the Healthy Gamer streams every time. Through that itself, I know what I should/shouldn't do...but it's easy to forget to apply the advice Dr. K gives to the guests. This felt direct, to the point, and targeted towards the listener. Very easy to digest, and bookmarkable (I can save it and view it any time I need to just hear those words). I really do appreciate this type of content!
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  187. reads title Me, a gamer: Ah yes. I want to achieve anxiety
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  188. Thanks for having me, really enjoyed this conversation. Great opportunity to share part of my life story in more detail, and hearing Dr. K's thoughts was very interesting. I hope this video can help some people out there whether it's about gaining confidence, understanding the problem of the current mentality/attitude within many gaming communities or even understanding the pro gamer perspective of dealing with hate.
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  189. The sheer volume of exceptional info on this channel is a godsend. I am 50 and wish I had this info as a teen or in my 20s but I am still benefitting from it today. Thank you for sharing this and helping all of us get healthier!
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  190. I am turning 30 soon. No major career, no degree or major certifications, no house or apartment, no girlfriend, wife or kids, BUT after 10 LONG years of struggling I finally learned to accept reality and break out of depression. Now is just to focus on making money so I can get those things.
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  191. 9:15 REALLY caught my attention. I've noticed time and time again that I put in work and grind and spread myself thin but ultimately succeed when it's someone else's deadline. Work, college, army, if you need me to show up at a certain time and place to do a thing, no problem. But the second it becomes internal and personal, when I set the deadline and it doesn't affect anyone else, I'll put it off forever. I always just thought i was prone to self sacrificing
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  192. Thank you so much. I’ve written this in diaries and such countless times - I describe it as ‘second hand emotion’, where I know what I’m meant to feel, I just… don’t. Thank you so so so much man.
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  193. I enjoyed life until i saw season 8 of Game of Thrones. Now i'm miserable.
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  194. With this kind of a title I'm expecting a billion views.
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  195. "we are screwed unless someone starts being nice to someone who doesn't deserve it" 25:38 been living by this for the last couple years it has saved me from much hurt. So glad someone finally said it. amazing video
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  196. When I realized that video scrolling and compulsive gaming were preventing me from processing my emotions I was finally able to shift away from them and into slower activities. The one that's really been a benefit is doing a puzzle. It hits the dopamine button just enough to be a step down drug while also not occupying my mind. I can't say that I actively "think about" what's bothering me but it's able to happen naturally in the background and I've already made some important realizations. "Idleness" in the form of playing cards with actual cards, puzzles, gardening, or baking definitely helps me calm down the feels by letting them process and I get something done which lets me feel accomplished even if it's not a priority accomplishment
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  197. I live for when people make videos about ADHD in women ❤ makes me feel more seen
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  198. Never thought I'll see shadow work on this channel tbh
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  199. This really hit different when he explained that constantly relying on willpower is like fighting a war you'll eventually lose. The pen exercise at the end blew my mind - the idea that doing something completely "worthless" can actually help break the chains of always needing a reason or reward to act. Been struggling with motivation and this made me realize I've been looking at it backwards - instead of trying to force myself to "want" the right things, I need to learn to act regardless of what I want. 🤯
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  200. I'll be honest and say I've tried being compassionate and understanding... yeah, mom's issues are way out of my pay grade. I stepped away from that relationship and am way happier for it. Sometimes there are problems we can't fix cos its not ours to fix.
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  201. I don’t think we really realize how valuable this channel is. I’ve been trying to talk about this shame issue with my therapist for a while now and, for some reason, there has always been a disconnect. I don’t think my therapist sees my shame issue as a big deal or as debilitating as it can be for me. This video, along with one other (I don’t remember which one it was; So sorry!), has helped me understand this long-held conundrum and has actually showed me a way to solve the issue.
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  202. Having been diagnosed at age 32 (35 now), and even only being 15 minutes into this, it's safe to assume this is going to help a lot of late/undiagnosed folk. My relation to being diagnosed: If life is building a birdhouse, then the autistic is given the same instructions as everyone else, but is given different supplies. Getting a diagnosis isn't being given a new set of instructions, simply an understanding that your supplies are your's to build whatever birdhouse you want.
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  203. I'm loving these mini lectures
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  204. This was bloody fascinating. For starters, the connection between lack of discipline / resolve and being emotionally dissociated was WOW. Then I thought about what resolve means to me and I realized something mind blowing: Resolve is EASY. By that I mean that a state of resolve is like a switch going off in my brain that completely side-steps the need for willpower. Think of those stories you hear about a smoker that just looks at their pack of cigarettes one day and realizes “I don’t need / want these anymore”. They quit cold turkey and of course there are side effects to work through, but there’s no internal struggle. There’s no need to fire up the will power to fight the cravings. No need to convince themselves or psych themselves up to stick to their guns today. The switch has simply flipped and it won’t turn on again. Then I thought about what that resolve “switch” sounds like in my brain and I realized that it sounds like release. Those times when I’ve experienced the kind of resolve that led to profound life changes have always been framed in my mind as the laying down of a burden, or permission to more fully embody some part of my life. “I no longer need this toxic influence in my life”, or “I no longer need to be held back by this lack of knowledge”, “or I don’t need to be shackled to this weird relationship with food anymore” - that kind of thing. It always feels like a release. Thank you so much for this epiphany. It came at the exact right time too.
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  205. The ADHD simulator is so accurate… tho to be clear, you do not usually hear voices, those are just thoughts. Hard to explain, but it’s accurate.
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  206. “Sometimes when people meditates, it starts working” might be the funniest line I’ve heard all week 🤣
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  207. This is a helpful perspective. Thanks so much 🙏
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  208. No one knows you better than you do, only you know the answers to your problems. Be your own guru!
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  209. This video hits hard. It’s a wake-up call about how inaction can be just as exhausting as action. Finding our self-worth means pushing through discomfort and taking those small steps forward. Growth doesn’t always have to be grand; sometimes, it’s about making the choice to move, even a little. Let’s stop letting our fears define us!
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  210. 00:37 - Recognizing a problem 01:20 - Misconceptions that hold us back 02:17 - A breakthrough 03:38 - Behavioral reinforcement 04:48 - Self-control feels like punishment 08:26 - Rethinking the cycle 1. 08:43 - Catching your creative impulse 2. A. 10:18 - Reflect, rekindle 2. B. 12:16 - Celebrate the wins 3. A. 13:42 - Why we are cynical of practice 3. B. 15:28 Why gratitude matters 17:32 - Recap 18:45 - Takeaway
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  211. I know Dr. K gets well deserved appreciation but I wanted to say thanks to the person/people working in this youtube channel. Thanks for your time and effort :D
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  212. It almost seems like, if you don't want to be in situationships, the solution is the courage to just be open about your feelings and attraction. Situationships exist because of the uncertainty. By being straightforward about your feelings, you remove that uncertainty. And it lets the other person decide if they truly want to be with you or not.
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  213. No emotion is bad, whether it’s depression or happiness. If you are depressed your mind is trying to tell you something. The problem is instead of exploring them people either try to sweep it under the rug and fester or let said “negative emotion” control them. I got out of my severe anxiety and depression because I decided to explore it. Learn why. We have these emotions for a reason.
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  214. For the editors: I like the graphics but also like the notes! I think a mix between them would be the hot spot
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  215. Honestly, this really helps with my anxiety, knowing what to expect. I’d still be extremely nervous signing up for coaching, but I appreciate this
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  216. Normal people: Wow, 5 segments to choose from! Dr K, a degenerate gamer for life who probably played PoE or will play PoE2 eventually: SKILL TREE GO BRRRRRRRRRRR Not going to lie, this was awesome but you did miss one tiny chance of having Kruti coming in and saying "I told you to read your e-mails". Best of luck guys, you've grown so much! (deserved and truly super hard work done). HGGG always in my heart <3
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  217. As someone with ADHD who basically screwed up their life and opportunities as a habitual smoker in their 20s… I’m glad you’ve presented this research. I hope folks younger than me take this seriously and do actually therapeutic treatment to work through their life problems rather than numbing themselves.
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  218. started therapy like 2 months ago and i'm personally very surprised how much good it's doing me. since several years ago i've always felt that i had no problem crying - i recently cried in front of friends after a break up. i wasn't ashamed at all. i said to them "i won't find another [her name]..." and sort of sniffled and shed a tear. my friend's wife then said "yes and she won't find another [my name] either." and i broke down into proper ugly crying. men NEVER get told this kind of stuff. nobody wants to make us feel special or valued. we have to 'take' or demand value and for many of us that's just not our personality. but in the case of these 2 friends... wow during all this they have made me feel loved and cared for. i have been pretty open and honest with other friends in the last few years too. my therapist isn't saying anything i don't think my friends could say. but it's not about that. it's about context. even though me and my friends are more open than most people, i STILL hold back a lot on what i want to say because i KNOW it affects my status and how people perceive me. with the therapist it's a different context. he is obligated to listen, to understand, to give help - and all in a completely detached way. there is no fear during therapy cos there are no negative repercussions for experiencing and expressing my emotions. experssing emotions? what is this foreign idea? he recently helped me to identify locked-up feelings by getting in touch with my body. i had zero awareness i was even doing it, i just knew that i didn't feel "right". to me it was like an anxious/tense feeling in my chest. he walked me through it and got me to speak to my own body with compassion (i was like wtf is this?) and within about 2 minutes i was almost literally vomiting up emotion and crying like fuck. i could feel it coming up my throat. COMPASSION... for MYSELF? what? it was like an alien concept. since i started therapy i've been ugly crying for about 30 seconds at a time once or twice a day. that same tense feeling just builds up out of nowhere and now i know to communicate with my body. the tears come, then they go, and i feel free again. I think i have a lot of old stuff to allow to come to the surface
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  219. Damn him explaining congruent depression really spoke to me
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  220. i like the intro, a whole different feeling to the vid
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  221. These interviews are some of my favorite things you do
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  222. I saw a video where they brought together situationship “couples” and had them ask each other basic questions about the relationship, and they could either answer or take a shot. It very quickly became clear that one or both people were absolutely allergic to acknowledging their situation. They just couldn’t talk about it. It was super uncomfortable and kinda sad. Sometimes one person really wanted an answer and the other just awkwardly avoided the subject.
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  223. Let's level up our perk tree, dear gamers!
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  224. Defense Against the Dark Arts, HGGG edition
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  225. Hey Dr K! I know you're probably not going to ever see this but I want to let you know that I'm not doing the greatest right now but your videos help a lot and I'd probably be worse off without them so thank you and hope you're doing well 👍
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  226. In my early 20s I felt like a complete loser. I felt way behind everyone else in life. I went through a journey that exactly matches what Dr. K describes in this video. I started weightlifting, going to networking events, and learning a well-paying skill, despite my initial fear of those activities. If you stick with something constructive past the most difficult starting phase, your self-image and your very reality will change for the better. There is no greater feeling in life.
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  227. What really helped me sustain good habits was changing my perspective in the way Dr. K outlines in this video. I had to change my relationships to food, sleep, exercise, etc... I had to start thinking about my "future self." After a while of that, good habits have become easier to maintain.
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  228. When I start to do something that benefits me, my mom tells me to stop and claims that I don't know anything. But then later she complain that I don't do anything. Now, I have to hide everything away from her.
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  229. I can relate so much to this. As a paramedic of over a decade, I used to get exceedingly frustrated when we would get a call while I was "doing" something to manage my boredom. It quickly devolved into me becoming jaded and disinterested with my profession. Tolerating my own boredom for a period of time led me to discovering creative writing and re-inspired my interest in the theoretical aspects of my profession. Strong work, and great video!
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  230. Really like that summary intro, helps to almost "prime" our attention/brain to the video 👌🏿
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  231. 8:27 dr. k is more burst healing and his coaches are more healing over time.
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  232. As of this week, I've finally found a morning routine that works for me, and I've stuck with it and haven't been late to work at all. I'm very proud, as this hasn't been the case (on a reliable basis) for years, and upon hearing you talk about those negative thoughts that debilitate you in the morning, I can see that was what was going on with me
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  233. 18:59 - 20:20 is so very profound. It's almost a disservice to have it so deep in the video. This needs to get clipped and shipped across the internet. So very powerful. This is succinct enough I think to try and convince people who do not feel the privilege that is prescribed to them to understand their actions.
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  234. “It takes two people to make a dynamic” — ooof, that was a curveball I didn’t expect, I gotta let that one sink in… certainly difficult to absorb when you feel like the victim of your parent. But maybe acknowledging that is the way to create some kind of agency and control over the dynamic
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  235. “Overcoming an addiction is not about being strong. It’s about putting in lots of hours in stupid shit that you don’t want to do.” Eg meetings, therapy, daily meditation, etc I love this quote. Another banger from Dr. K 👌💣
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  236. From the thumbnail I thought this was a Kurzkesagt video. That is to say, thumbnail person/crew is crushing it
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  237. You probably won't read this but I'm super thankful for your videos, this truly helped me understand my social anxiety, something psychologists never could. Please keep up the great work!
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  238. Limerence is simply the worst thing I ever experienced, but once the anxiety went down a little, I was convinced to look for therapy. I never stopped since and limerence hasn't returned. This video has opened my scar but it's so important to talk about this topic.
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  239. Tried to watch the whole video without switching between dopamine stimulators (like watching shorts and coming back to the video every min) and I did it, I'm so proud of myself
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  240. “I missed the boat!” - that hit me hard. You’re explanation of “trying to live a normal life” and becoming increasingly hopeless is incredible. I need to become “stupid”.
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  241. We’re getting to insane levels with these perfectly timed and relatable titles lol
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  242. The skill tree is so much better to visually track your progress and game-ify it. W Skill Tree!
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  243. Thank you for doing what you do
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  244. I am a doctor myself, struggling to get into post graduation. Just today I was out of discipline, trying to numb myself, overwhelmed by emotions. I felt I was there again, doing nothing. Just today I thought what if I used my emotions to steer my day with discipline, but didn't find a way and dropped it. But somehow stumbled upon this video. It helped. Thank u sir. This meant a lot to me. ❤
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  245. Can’t get stuck in a relationship if you can’t even get into one to begin with 😔
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  246. 3:02 THE WHITEBOARD OVERLAY ON THE SCREEN IS SUCH A NICE TOUCH! WELL DONE HG TEAM!!!
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  247. I was stuck on the red pill for the longest time following huge red pill creators words like a bible, and then due to feeling so hopeless I briefly fell in to the black pill. Until I stumbled upon you Dr K I was going down a very dark path and you help me to see the light and the proper way of dealing with things. I thank you very much, God bless. :_DrKMeditate:
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  248. I'm 32. I was a gifted kid turned failure exactly as you described, and I turned it around exactly as you described when I learned work ethic at age 25. We are expecting our first child in February I found this whole talk very confirming and full of inspiration for how to do a better job for my child.
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  249. This was actually an eye opener for me. Now i really understand small goals. Find pleasure in checking off small boxes.
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  250. I cured my social anxiety with Dr K advice - I started increasingly speaking out regardless of the inner voice analysing it and telling me to shut up. Over time, voicing out my thoughts came easier and easier, I started getting out of analysis paralysis, where you sit silently and play out everything you'd LIKE TO say in your head.
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  251. I sincerely would like to thank you for what you are doing. I suspect that there are those who appreciate it more than you may ever know.
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  252. I really appreciate these summaries after the end of the videos. I've been meaning to rewatch past streams and take notes during it, so this is a great help. Thanks for your work!
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  253. Nooiice! Let's DO this!! Let's escape our egos, for the win! Full send, no cap! ( sorry, I'm a millenial and just saw the notification "posted 2 minutes ago" , haven't even watched a single minute yet 😬 )
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  254. This is one of my biggest issues. I know I'm not alone
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  255. This is reallt valueable content man. Thank you very much.
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  256. I wish I could talk to Dr. K, I always get something out of every video. I haven't really had any role models in my life but Doc is someone I genuinely look up to. One day I hope!
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  257. yeah, my meditation journey for the past 8 years has been mind boggling.yo-yoing between states of inner peace and boundless love, and then spiralling into an intense yearning to destroy myself and self destruct. i wouldnt exactly say its "dangerous" but its more accurate to say that the growth it evokes in you is very painful. but worth it, i think.
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  258. Tbh my favorite part is when we get the Guru voice 😂
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  259. I was in the middle of giving up lmao thanks dr.k for saving me
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  260. Dr K’s ability to make high quality research and insight accessable to the public is beautiful ❤️
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  261. I will never have the size of balls that JC here has, holy shit. I strive to be as brave as him to come on here.
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  262. Absolutely brilliant conversation, so many insights + amazing vibes. Thanks so much for sharing you guys!
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  263. “Why do you like to play solo so much? It’s because when you play solo nobody can see your failures” My god this hits me so hard. Thanks Dr K
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  264. What a great video! At the start of the pandemic, I was a guy full of hate, rage, envy, sadness, and loneliness through others and myself. Today I can say I learned to love and to have patience with myself. Healthygamer had a significant influence on me to make that happen. Let's don't give up hope. I think we all can get better :) I'm genuinely thankful for this community, the healthyGamer's staff and coaches, Kruti and, obviously, for Dr.k.
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  265. "Walk through a door" is so fire. I already do this unintentionally and it was mind-blowing to hear a justification on why it seems to make my mind clearer.
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  266. 3:28 that sudden "do you know what edging is?" "yes" without context is so funny
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  267. I look forward to watching this one. I have an addiction that is basically destroying my life, but since it only affects my mind, no one else around me can understand or relate (thankfully they don't have to). I come across as normal, while being eaten up inside. And it's amazing how therapists don't seem to get it either.
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  268. The doorway effect is so fascinating to me. It totally works, both in the negative and the positive.
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  269. Dude, synchronicity at its finest. My journal entry today began with “Please save me from myself.”
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  270. As always the timing is so fitting that Carl Jung would call it a case of synchronicity 😅
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  271. I've never really appreciated how well structured your videos are, they're easy to understand and I love that there is always a tip to try
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  272. Dude this is literally exactly what I've been looking for. Realized that so much of my other thinking and fears of being unloveable are wrapped up in ego but couldn't find anything for dealing with it.
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  273. We need a complete guide to meditation, beginner to master, types of meditation, breakdowns on what each meditation is, the history of each one, combinations, etc. I'm talking encyclopedia levels of it. Every time I watch one of your videos on the issue, I have to google a billion things out of curiosity and now I have to also be weary of the side effects on top. Halp.
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  274. I'm a therapist and I teach this to my clients as much as I can. You don't have to go from being a pessimist or a 'realist' (as many tend to identify themselves) to an optimist. Just being open to happiness, and putting even a slightly more positive view on things helps. I loved the part where Dr K said to imagine you're talking to someone you care about. If you wouldn't say what you're saying to them, don't say it to yourself!! Whenever I hear my friends being negative about themselves out loud I say "Hey, don't talk to/about my friend that way, I don't like it" and it's helped both myself and my friends be less critical and negative towards ourselves. Yay for CBT!
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  275. I analyzed myself during my old job. I OVERANALYZED myself, every single day, and when i couldn't take it anymore and I've quit, i realized that we dont have control over everything. Sometimes the environment is just bad and yes, it can happen consecutively. Sometimes we're too hard on ourselves.
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  276. A video so nice I watched it twice, so here are my DIY chapters: 0:00 intro 0:58 HG coaching promo 1:43 historical and recent professional understandings of anxiety 4:08 what anxiety is and why it is 5:50 how our ability to judge threats gets messed up 9:25 transition to adulthood – why does anxiety remain? 11:40 physiological factors impacting anxiety and emotion 22:16 the mind, experience, and the control-the-world approach 26:34 tolerance-based solutions 28:23 self-observation and detachment-based solutions 32:20 summary
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  277. Thank you so much for talking about this! I failed 2 subjects in university last semester because of this and I never came to a conclusion on why I was experiencing this! I have always performed well in school prior to these symptoms. I thought I was going mad, and it threw me into a spiral of depression and anxiety. Things are better now in terms of anxiety and depression, but the brainfog just doesn't seem to let go. Again, thank you so much for bringing this up, means the world to me!
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  278. yes dr k is my little guru in my head i love him
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  279. grab some food and get comfy guys
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  280. dr. K is just such a genuine and caring person, it's kinda insane in today's time
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  281. This vid deserves so much and I just saw only the first 5 secs.
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  282. I've been journaling for a few months now but only in the last few weeks did I download the emotion wheel and now at the top of my journal I write down the emotions I'm feeling. Even during work, I will take a moment to feel my emotions and write them down. Being in tune with your emotions, good and bad, will let you build emotional maturity. If you feel sad and you cry, you will feel better after. If you feel sad and you bury it and don't feel it, you build up that sadness within you and slowly get more and more depressed. Emotions also tell you what you need. If you feel lonely, you need connection. If you feel sad, you need to cry. If you feel shame, you need self compassion. If you're angry, you need to check your personal boundaries. I hope this helps someone out there! It's helping me heal, even if it can feel uncomfortable at times (I used to use drugs and alcohol a lot which would numb my emotions).
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  283. I wasn't really sure which moments to highlight at times but I hope this is helpful! So proud of Yvonne for doing this <3 0:00 Introduction 9:03 Evading Appreciation 22:29 Relationships 30:10 The Breakup 48:53 Regret 52:27 Sexual Assault 1:09:50 Suppressing What Happened / Staying Silent 1:32:27 Catatonia 1:34:40 Why Not Name Names? 1:44:26 Respecting Children's Boundaries 1:46:16 Final Thoughts
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  284. I did even realize just relaxing witnessing your thought with out judgment was form of meditation let alone open meditation. I've gotten pretty good at no judgment over the past 7 years.
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  285. I’ve watched so many videos, talked to so many counselors, listened to podcasts, read books about anxiety because I’ve experienced it since I was about 10. I’m 10 minutes into this video and I’ve learned more than anything else combined. I’ve never known where my anxiety came from. It’s like it suddenly appeared when I was a kid out of nowhere. But every example used here was my childhood. My dad owned two bars, he came home drunk nightly, usually angry. If I saw his car pulling up the driveway at night, I’d run to my room and pretend I was asleep. All throughout my teens was like that as well. My parents left every weekend to their cabin and would come home Sunday and berate me all day if the house wasn’t clean. I’d spend literally hours cleaning every Sunday morning praying they wouldn’t find the smallest thing wrong. They always did. They were not physically abusive people but that’s about the only good thing. I was mentally torn down and berated on a daily basis and I guess I never understood that’s most likely why I have such anxiety as an adult, why like he mentioned I’m afraid to talk to my boss, I’m afraid to question anyone in an authority position, it’s just all adding up. Thank you for this video
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  286. Just wanted to share I'm happy you chose to help kids with gaming imbalance 🤗
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  287. I really appreciate your work Dr. Kanojia.
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  288. As a professional introvert who has watched a million videos on how to become charismatic, THIS IS THE ONE. I love that you articulated HOW to do it and not just what to do. That’s one of my biggest pet peeves with psychology videos. Having social anxiety sucks but exposure is the answer. I recently acquired the skill of eye contact at the age of 26, and I can say it DEFINITELY changed the way people treat me. Thank you for your amazing insights Dr K!
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  289. ohhh, so THIS is wtf I’ve been on my whole life honestly very thankful for this video, im realizing this is something that I’ve been dealing with for as long as I remember, and I had no idea it even existed
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  290. I've been watching the channel for years so I can't really say that I found this out on my own, but yeah, that's exactly what I had to do in order to get my life in order. I just set an overall direction of where I want my life to go and then leave the rest to improvisation. Every morning I write a single "quest" for the day and center everything I do around that. Then later I take some time to reflect on how things are going and make corrections along the way. Every month I review how I spent my time and change things around if I need to. I don't set goals, only North Stars. No rules on how to live, just a strong set of standards. It's been the perfect balance between just riding the waves of life and still having all the control I need to do what's important to me. I like to think that I've already graduated from HealthyGamer (living life is pretty awesome now), but I love checking in every once in a while. It's still wild to get this kind of information from someone as qualified as Alok.
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  291. I would actually be so curious to sit down and have a conversation like this just analyzing my dating life of the last few years. I analyze myself a lot, but having an expert opinion looking into it from a third party can be very enlightening.
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  292. Something that soothes my mind on this topic is that: My age now being 31 and just finishing my first year of college is actually and advantage in the field I am going in. The maturity I developed prior allows me to focus on actually learning and growing rather than the wows and wonders of entering the adult world. It also helps that I established the ability to study hard and stay focused. The industry I am walking into will inherently prefer an individual who is older over younger, though it values skill more than all else. Skill can be developed at any age, so this isn't a problem. Finally comparing yourself to your peers is fine so long as you don't use that as a measuring stick for your own success. Everyone develops at their own pace, and the biggest battle is recognizing that your life is your own. Beating yourself up because someone else is seemingly better off is honestly dumb. I know people who make 6 figures who are miserable, so your ideal image may not be the best for you personally.
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  293. I finally tidied up my room, took out the trash, did the dishes, and did the laundry while listening to this. I’d been meaning to do it for a week. I'm going to my MRI tomorrow. Thanks Dr. K.
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  294. I'm so happy that this type of conversation is being had. I was bullied a fair bit when I was a kid and I can heavily relate to both JC and the "stalker" dude in the video. For years I've been wanting people to actually talk about these types of issues. I wish I could've jumped in on this convo.
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  295. Just ran into an old high school friend from ten years ago. I'm 28, one year older than him, but he has a great career and a new family. Meanwhile, I just graduated college after 6.5 years on active duty, no real career, no wife, no kids, and honestly still no direction despite having a newly acquired degree... It's depressing as hell sometimes to think of how "behind" I am, but it's great to have Dr. K's perspective. The timing of this vid was incredible.
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  296. A few years back, when I was just getting into video editing, I was totally afraid of trying Adobe After Effects. I had no clue about all those tools and how to fit them into my workflow. But after messing around with it for a while—watching YouTube tutorials and goofing off just for fun (passion projects)—it got way easier. Now, I don't even stress about it as much anymore. People even give me props for using After Effects, probably 'cause they think it's scary too. It's funny how I used to see it just like that before I gradually got the hang of it. This logic can also be applied to video games, try asking a high rank player why they achieved that rank, and pay attention to their response. xD
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  297. I was literally just asking myself last night that I don't understand discipline.. Dr K never fails to deliver at the right time. Thank you for everything you do 🙌
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  298. This guy from seattle is such a compassionate psychologist compared to many on youtube who actually show a deep hatred for those with personality disorders. I find the latter quite baffling since they were meant to be ethical and fair when going into such professional careers ❤
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  299. Your RAM analogy crushed me. I was diagnosed at 26. I often wonder if my diagnosis was accidental because my life isn't impaired the way it was before I started medication. Then I heard your RAM analogy. That was me as a child and teenager. I had a school psychologist recommend medical intervention at 15 and had a well-meaning teacher tell my parents that I was just bored because I was gifted. I underperformed for another decade before I broke down and pursued a diagnosis as an adult. Thank you for validating me and others like me.
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  300. he speaks the truth. People ask me how it is that I can consistently accomplish tedious chores in the short term (I.E. cleaning my apartment, cooking, exercising..), and I've never had a good enough way to explain it besides that it feels like the most logical thing to do. Im going to steal the steward and relay race analogy, and use that now because it make so much sense.
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  301. I'm relating to the stuff in this channel less and less every year and I think that's a good thing. Here's to everyone getting better. Thank you Doc and the entire Healthy Gamer team. Love yall everyone.
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  302. Clicked in this knowing this was a condition that on principle I did feel drawn to. Then I just started crying. I've been having such a hard time and I think it really helped to hear reasons previously beyond my understanding
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  303. The whole volume of thoughts with ADHD was so interesting and as someone with ADHD, really resonated. I often have something playing on my phone while I go to sleep. It helps my brain relax so to speak; to make my brain ready to sleep.
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  304. I've realized that watching 6 hours of online content a day and being restless and purposeless without it means it's a bonafide addiction, and i've been slowly working on it the past few months. This video helps a lot, if only with perspective. (but honestly probably a lot more)
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  305. I think time blindness is something that not only affects actual ADHD folks, but also a growing number of the general population. Free videos like this are incredibly valuable for a lot of people and may be one of the few true upsides of youtube and the internet. 💪
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  306. The fact that taking walks and cleaning are two of my favorite things to do. Makes sense now lmao
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  307. It's wild to watch somebody so wildly different than me (I'm a withdrawn, leftist, 30-something computer programmer) with problems I can so deeply relate to. I love this channel.
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  308. At last, now THIS is the approach I was hoping to see every time a video has had attachment styles in the title
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  309. "normies WeirdChamp" - Dr. K
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  310. These videos are super helpful as a content creator, thank you for making them!
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  311. i struggle so much with limerance. growing up i daydreamed a lot and read a lot of fanfiction. i find a lot of similarities between the ways i see my crushes or partners vs how i used to see my fandom of obsession or my OTP (the pairing that i would read fanfiction about). for both there is an intense fantasy element where i daydream constantly about them, ANYTHING i see in the world reminds me of them, everything is about them, and thats where my mind goes where im hurting or scared, its like my comfort object in my mind. i also noticed that for each, 1-7 years is the amount of time i would be obsessed with it before having to move on forcfully (like a break up) or just naturally losing interest (like my fandoms). something else he mentioned that i thought was really poignant was the expectations. i did have expectations of my partners that they didnt meet that were unfair of me. but my most recent partner did this to me i think. if i wasnt 100% perfect he would fall out of love with me. i think he saw me as a fantasy when we first got together, i remember him telling me "you make me happier than ive ever been" within a couple of months of dating. i saw a clip by jordan peterson recently where he mentioned something similar. he saw me a princess. perfect. his fantasy. everything he wanted. but then when i was an actual person, with flaws and baggage, and issues that i needed to work on. the princess was destroyed. it was like i killed his princess. and he wasnt able to see me as another human. i miss him, and im sad about him. and i wish i knew all of this a year ago. sending love to everyone here <3
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  312. incredible work you do, i wish i would have gotten into streaming to be able to talk to someone like you.
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  313. You have to give this man props. He consistently discusses topics in a way that is educational but easy to follow. Even when the topics are mostly speculative, he does it in a way that is as unbiased as possible, and makes it relevant to us. He gave a succinct history of modern psychology and applied it to the advent of AI, and he did it all in under 10 minutes!
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  314. The moment Doc said to be stupid, with that smile on my face, I kicked away my gaming chair and hugged my monitor. What a video <3
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  315. Was wondering when Dr. K will tackle this subject and I pressed play immediately when I saw the notification <3
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  316. I love when you weave your research and thought process into your lectures. Super helpful for an aspiring academic.
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  317. Dr. K is a psychiatrist, not just a Psychologist. the difference is pretty substantial.
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  318. I can't believe you're putting into words what I've struggled with for years. I really appreciate the fact that you’re doing this for free. This literally changes minds and lives tysm
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  319. i also think it is important to emphasize that “i deserve a break” and “i NEED a break” are two completely different statements. sure, if you’re skipping gym today because you just want to play video games, it will not benefit future you. at the same time, if you’re not feeling well or even feeling sick it is completely ok to put the gym on pause for a few days, future you will be grateful for you taking a break and not pushing your body to the limit
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  320. "Self-loathing man of inaction" would be an amazing song title tbh
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  321. Does meditation count as an active challenge?
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  322. I'm not a gamer, but I definitely identify with this avoidance theory. I felt safe through the end of high school with this mindset because there was enough easier problems for me to solve to feel satisfied with myself. I went for the lowest hanging fruit as often as I could and felt satisfied with doing a lot although never really challenged myself. Then I attended college and was confronted with challenges that I was too afraid to tackle. I never wanted to look in-experienced so I would opt out of experiences that would challenge me academically and socially. So I've felt this stagnation throughout college; I've been afraid to grow and gain new experiences and that's difficult to come to terms with.
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  323. Yup, I can absolutely relate to this. Everybody I ever knew told me I would become a "great artist" later in life, because I was smart, intelligent, and had a sense of aesthetics and psychology early on. I never had to learn, never made my homework, was always 10 minutes late to school, joked around and sang during class because I was bored. The teachers let it happen, because they liked me. In 8th/9th class I tanked miserably and ultimately lost ~10 years of my life to crippling depression, social anxiety, and self-destruction. The only way out of it is, unfortunately, to blow up all the false foundations you brought with you from your early life and build it all again yourself. You can almost never trust anyone's judgement about who you are or what you should do ever again, even if it means leaving them confused and offended, because you're so far off the beaten path that almost no one can relate.
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  324. thank you dr k, i know we’re all going through it :’)
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  325. Dr. K I can not overstate the importance of what you're doing. There is no question that most gamers would never have the opportunity to meet with a Psychiatrist one-on-one at your level of expertise. Thank you for leading the charge to reach out to a very large and very neglected segment of society that needs you - and more mental health professionals like you.
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  326. Can we have more of the collar flipped Dr K? He seems cool
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  327. This is literally the physiological equivalent of To those who have everything all shall be given, to those who have nothing all shall be taken.
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  328. My job cycle is driven by a lack of pay raises, bonuses, and sheer f-ing appreciation, so yes, i hat my f-ing job. I worked for 5 years for a great manager and when he left, his defense left and soon after i and others left. And immediately got 20% pay raise. No reason to become "attached" to any job
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  329. "If you argue with a person with anxiety, they're gonna win" What a great quote, thanks for the video
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  330. “If you’re 23, struggling to find a job, feel alone...” My actual life, damn it
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  331. Ok doc, ill play Persona 4
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  332. Dang, Dr. K's hairstyle is fire
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  333. Bro, this is literally what me and my friend have been tackling lately, parents.
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  334. You've changed my mind about this, me personally I've never been interested in consuming deepfake porn or really porn in general as of lately. But my attitude toward this was more like the relationship between a drug dealer and the consumer. I can't blame/be shocked that the consumer is taking in this stuff, so unless these sites are gone I had a lack of empathy where I thought people should know that this would happen. But after watching this video I've learned that I should be more emotionally understanding to other people put in that position.
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  335. "he promoted the book once" cuts to someone else promoting the book LMAO
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  336. 33:12 THE REAL GIFT RIGHT HERE! Thank you Dr.K and thank you members!!
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  337. Many relationships don't work, because there aren't enough conversations about what is going on and that goes for all forms of relationships.
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  338. Absolutely love the new thumbnails
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  339. The timing of this is unreal. My girlfriend for 7 years found out she had BPD before covid and she just hit the self destruct phase but we are going to get her back on track with self help. This provides a lot of insight for me on a dialectical basis. Thanks always Dr. K.
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  340. It’s so weird how perfectly timed this video was for me. Just this morning I was in that negative thought loop and kept beating myself up for not doing better. I really needed this! I’m gonna start working on having a morning routine again. Thank you Dr. K!!!!
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  341. Dr. K just living rent free in your brain writing a script on how to solve your current problems
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  342. This is actually one of your best videos so far
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  343. I finished watching your 2-hour I'm gonna call "podcast" and came on over. Due to the importance of your work it's insane to me that this has no comments... Anyways, I have a degree in CS with a minor in math and I care deeply about your cause. If there's any way I could help I'd love to.
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  344. It took so long to come from Twitch to YouTube 😢 But glad it's here finally 😍🤩 Thanks for all your work Dr. K and team. I wish you guys success and prosperity in all your endeavours! ❤️
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  345. I'm just gonna copy paste a comment I responded to someone with. I think a lot of people here are getting confused what the essence of HealthyGamer is, but I'm just gonna give my take on it "I think you're coming in with the wrong presumpton with a lot of these videos. These streams aren't meant to be dedicated to "helping all video gamers' and their problems", its about trying to understand other people's problems and how problems from the past can form adaptive/maladaptive behaviours that affect others years down the line. I feel like its more of an education to understand all types of people, and better appreciate what the human mind can do, both good and bad. I sense (only viewing from your comment alone), a whole lot of frustration about your problems, and I almost feel as though the streams that you've been watching, and the "help" that you're seeking by watching these videos will somehow create a 'light bulb / eureka' moment, and that's usually not gonna entirely solve your case. As stated from his streams, Knowledge surrounding your problems is step 1, self-realization is step 2, step 3 is from you, that's implementing action. Dr. K can only go so far to help viewers identify and self-actualize, but it comes down to you to do something about it. I believe he hopes that the self-actualization will give enough motivation or an understanding about themselves that they can actually grapple with so that they can go and seek relevant, necessary help (whether that may be seeking an actual therapist/psychologist, or implementing interventions via meditation+introspection; then again thats what I believe what the AoE healing ultimately aims for)"
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  346. This is my post from three weeks ago - the doctors advice definitely helped me to process and move forward. The part where he talks about “people that get fired vs people that don’t” with respect to identity was super eye opening. A lot of my mentors (and also my parents) had never had the experience of being fired, and I could feel some judgement and fear when I spoke about it with them. The event turned out to be a huge blessing and even though I made mistakes I have zero regrets. Im moving forward in life having experienced something i have always feared, and realized it says nothing about my value as a worker/human.
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  347. How dare my notifications hide this from me for 14 seconds.
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  348. I tested all this. I always had trouble getting up from bed. But the next best thing that I realize was to walk out of multiple doors in the house. Then, I was in a very different headspace, able to focus on the next next best thing, which ultimately led to productivity
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  349. Omg i didn't know dr. K could do domain exansion
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  350. Maybe it's that the jobs can't stick to me.
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  351. WOW!! The concept of sacrificing for a completely different person (who just happens to be you, but completely different from current-you, in the future) just blew my mind!
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  352. This is such a helpful and eye opening conversation! Thanks for sharing.
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  353. My depression comes from loneliness. I’ve had friends, family, etc, but never felt truly connected. I tried to drown this out with distractions but they never really worked. You can sweep the half eaten sandwich under the rug but ignoring it will only cause it to mold and fester and stink up the entire room. But acknowledging the fact I’m slowly working my way out. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and this gives me hope that depression will never take away.
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  354. “Gifted” kid (man) here. This video hit HOME. I would absolutely love to see a video where you do a breakdown on how to perform shadow work.
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  355. I heard about alexithymia recently in a video about autism but I wasn't really sure whether it applied to me. This video really helped me understand it and myself better. Thank you.
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  356. I relate to this, here's some stuff I've learned. 1) Defaulting your dream to the biggest thing in the field is kinda dumb. You might not actually want to be a chef, director, author, or run a business. You might be ignoring food researcher, producer, editor, or freelance. The whole reason you're interested in the field is probably because you followed your curiosity there in some regard. What most people do next is turn off their curiosity GPS and just head for the biggest landmark and try to follow "the path to become x" Chances are you'll miss your turn for the reason you actually came there. 2) It doesn't have to be one thing, frankly it probably shouldn't. 3) Projects. Start small and increase scale over time. If you look at the careers of very successful creatives, it's basically all a cascade of projects that over time lay the ground work for bigger stuff to be done. Diligence and hard work and practice are cool and recommended, but finishing shit counts, it gives you a place to contextualize all that diligence, hard work and practice into a tangible. 4) Burn out happens, there are ways to mitigate it, but it's scary as shit initially. You'll wonder why you don't love the thing you love, that maybe you had large parts of your identity based on. Relax, and let it have it's time. If someone asks, it's on the back burner at the moment. Curiosity will spring back up again and take you in a direction you didn't have the context for earlier. But still, it's scary as shit, and none moreso than the first few times when you don't have the experience to have reason to believe it's coming back. 5) Stuff you figure out yourself > advice.
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  357. Applied "Positive Deviance" during my weight loss last year, losing 33 pounds in a span of 6 months was excruciating but worth it. I'd rather experience pain from discipline than pain from regret.
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  358. Dr. K is out here teaching people what the Charisma build truly is.
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  359. The thing that made me most hopeful with this is the notion that “you’re not a man of inaction — you’re a man of a ton of the wrong actions.” because it shifts the narrative from “I can’t even do 1 thing in my day” to “wow look at all the space I could free up for positive things if I stopped taking backwards actions”
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  360. Thank you Dr. K for your continuous fight to raise awareness for video game addiction & mental health. You've done so much already and still keep pushing out great interviews and incredibly helpful content. Cheers to an amazing 2024! Although I'm far from where I want to be in life, I can embrace the journey in this community and will continue to do so in 2025.
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  361. Holy crap, here. I’m driving home from work just ruminating, and this this popped into my notifications, the universe does speak indeed
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  362. This is very interesting, and it helped me a lot to understand myself better. Thank you for all the help you give to so many people.
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  363. You immensely changed my life.
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  364. Omg illustrating the circadian rhythm disorder blew my mind this is exactly what I've been really struggling with in my life for the last couple years, thank you so much for talking about this Dr.K, so many talk about the importance of rest and sleep but no one really talks about it this way, let alone have systems to support people in the workplace and school suffering with these issues
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  365. The community here is amazing. I always check the comments after watching the video and I always learn new concepts
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  366. The end made me cry a little. Realized how i always chose myself in the momen, lullabying into illusion of relief, while next day feels even worse. Devastated at the thought of everyday sacrifice to someone I'll never be. But what's the point in being stuck in illusion of safety. Thanks for a video. Didn't expect it to turn out this way! Big chunk to swallow.
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  367. The "If you have something important please send it to me in an email" immediately followed by "Dude you know I don't read my emails" without skipping a beat was GOLD
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  368. finally a new upload.. how does that make you feel?
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  369. ive watched a lot of the streams and of the other videos but this one finally resonated with me. and for the first time in years i can feel and actual emotion and its hope.
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  370. Best Christmas Gift❤
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  371. Congrats on 2m subs thanks for the content
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  372. This is very validating. When I started meditating I would cry from just a 5 minute guided meditation video, so I thought to myself clearly I have a lot of unprocessed trauma, let me do this slowly. I still don't really meditate that regularly but when I do it's a lot more grounding. I mostly journal nowadays. (And watch Dr. K videos 😉)
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  373. I have been experiencing this altered state of mind lately for longer than ever before. It feels surreal, I was close to saying to my psychologist that it seemed to be a super power just yesterday ! Only two years of (good) psychoterapy, getting out of home, trying, failing, seeking courage, keeping at it. Stay strongs brothers, Keep trying.
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  374. I'm 55 minutes in and this is so on point. It's refreshing to hear the styles described without any BS or self-censoring. Saying it like it is: Our insecure attachment makes us do a lot of crap to other people, often brings out the worst in both partners and causes the very issues we fear most. The sooner we accept it, the faster we can do something about it. Proud of the comment section, it's nothing like the mess happening in most attachment-related channels. Well done, Dr. K
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  375. Hope comes after change, not the other way around.
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  376. THE TALK IN THE BEGINNING! I dont regret going to university, but I've had no drive for anything since covid started, I was always pushed to go into further education, so now I am doing it and I see from an outside perspective how it is beneficial and agree, but dont feel like I want to actually do anything (in a professional or life-goals manner). Eye opening as always! Edit: The fixing their failures is exactly my situation, mom couldnt go to college even though she wanted to, so she pushed me and only me, not my brother in any way, towards constant study and now Im in uni. I am doing alright, but was never into it like I think someone should be if they want to go to uni/college.
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  377. I legit got emotional when I realized you guys were introducing your trauma module. Thank you SO MUCH for making this one. Thank you.
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  378. I have ADHD (adult diagnosis) but was expected to succeed because "smart kids don't have ADHD", so after dragging my way through college and being miserable every step, I joined the military. I could finally stop trying to control my own shit outside the classroom (the only place I thrived) and let someone else tell me what to do to learn the concept of organization and routine. I learned new skill sets that helped me optimize the perks of ADHD and cope with the annoying bits. Eventually I left and did grad school and started a civilian career. It's been a wild ride from gifted poor kid with undiagnosed ADHD chucked into a private college all the way to successful atmospheric physicist, and I guarantee you I couldn't have done it without the support of my friends and wife. They helped me overcome a ton of that shadow-self mess inflicted on me by my parents which allowed me to find my true potential.
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  379. whoever reads this have a good day
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  380. I want to back what xqc said about Dr K using short but impactful sentences. I am scientist and watch a lot of scientific, medical and mental health content on social media and I find that Dr K speaking has a very unique way to be altogether easily relatable, scientifically accurate, informative AND actionable. I don't know any other content creator who provide content that is so heavily packed in actually useful insights and a different perspective on things that makes you reflect, without ever being condescending. Just wanted to show appreciation for that :-)
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  381. When I see Dr K post a video, I DESIRE to click. But in all seriousness, what a great way of explaining such a universal principle. This concept has popped up all throughout human history in various philosophies, religions, and esoteric teachings and Dr. K is spitting that modern wisdom once again. The way I've heard the principal applied recently is to consciously avoid saying "I need/want (blank1)" And instead replace it with "I have (blank2)". Blank1 and blank2 are equivalent but not identical meaning blank2 is something you already have which satisfies the desire for blank1. In other words, It's a way of not only acknowledging and expressing gratitude for what you already have, but also acknowledging all the resources and possibilities at your fingertips you just have to reach out and grab. In short, by literally replacing "I need" with "I have" in your vocabulary, You kind of force yourself into your present circumstances which not only make you more grateful but also make you more aware of all the possibilities that go unseen when desires are your driving force.
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  382. These videos are 1000% helpful and i will continue to share these while there is air i. My lungs.
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  383. Dr.k droppin straight fire right when I need once again 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯💯
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  384. Well, one thing is for sure, my childhood gave me a serious case of samskara constipation.
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  385. Unreal how relatable this is. I used to struggle chronically with being late to everything but daily meditation has been helping me gradually improve at it. But yeah im just shocked as i learn how much ADHD affects me beyond attention span, but also my personality. I think it should be taken more seriously in the world. It affects almost every aspect of a person depending on the severity.
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  386. Dr.K , I love the lighting set up in this video ! The ambiance is so calm
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  387. The guide is very structured. I watch 3 videos per week, make notes and try to implement what I learnt. It's a blessing.
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  388. This work is huge, for years I’ve been suppressing desire to create music/art and felt humilated first picking up a guitar after over a decade of supression, (25 now) I can’t thank you enough Dr. K for having a platform of knowledge thats so accessible and free!! Im finally stepping into my strength, my emotional intelligence is at an all time high, my confidence is coming back into the fold, I am navigating my relationships (romantic, platonic, family, etc.) extremely well now and finally feel “strong” mentally and physically. I wouldn’t be at the place I am today without your laid back and organic approach to psychology. Thank you, I’ll continue to indulge in the future content to come!
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  389. Alok Kanojia and his team have inspired me to want to work in the mental health field. Thanks y'all! ❤
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  390. Honestly this channel saved my life so many times. I’m very thankful for your consistent generous work
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  391. Please do more conversations with Dr. Honda. You bring out the best in each other in providing information.
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  392. “Angry at the world and judging people harshly”, and “having no hope because you learned it’s the only way to be safe from crushing disappointment” describe me uneasily closely. Is the HealthyGamerGG squad spying on us?
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  393. precise and clear!
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  394. I have never played a video game in my life, but I’m a medical student and I find your videos immensely helpful. I send them to literally everyone I know from my little brother in high school to my middle aged cousin and they find your videos amazing. Thank you Dr. K🍣
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  395. Fascinating. I’m a psychotherapist in private practice. This will be useful for me.
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  396. Genuinely feel so called out by the thumbnail, read me like a damn book
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  397. idk why I'm so hyped for a Mental Health Guide, but I just am. Thank you for making this Dr. K!!
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  398. Wtf man, I've only been stewing on these two exact questions for, idk, years now. Though I guess I've got the added question now of "if Im not sure Im really feeling sexual attraction as opposed to aesthetic/intellectual attraction, how do I know I'm not just asexual?" added in. But goddamn these were pretty on target for me w h e w
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  399. I held my parents accountable two years ago and we really worked on our relationship and it took some time for them to be receptive but it was the best thing I’ve ever done. I never thought I would have the relationship I would have with my parents if I didn’t do this. It was 100% worth working through the pain.
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  400. I LOVE this. 😂😂 Beautiful. Wifey takes over like, "i got this honey." Doc just ambles about in the background. 😂
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  401. I found out about limerence just yesterday and finally have a word for what I've been experiencing for 15+ years. To make matters worse, I have a strong tendency to develop feelings for attractive women in settings like therapy, rehab or even coachings, basically places where I try to fix other issues that make my life miserable. I've never managed to talk about it with these individuals, causing a chain of misery and despair and unfulfilled needs until I eventually get over it by indulging in addictive behaviours again, like weed, video games, porn. It feels like a never ending cycle. I am aware of my projections on these people, I am aware of setting myself up for pain and disappointment and yet I can't help but keep dreaming because it feels better than facing the reality of a failed life of 30 years and what feels like to me a more dire and hopeless prospect for the future looking at the all the events happening on a global scale. I just hope that I can address these issues soon and get out of this constant cycle that I put myself into and actually start living life instead of spending 95% of my time in my mind.
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  402. This might have been me four or five years ago. Once you get into the habit of acting, things do indeed start turning around.
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  403. Catching the moment is the biggest take away I took from this because it is so relatable. That moment of achievement is never celebrated because it feels foolish to celebrate one step on a long road. All our crap, all our guilt and misunderstood values really can work to destroy our pleasure. I learnt something massive from this video. Thanks DR K
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  404. MY BOOK SHOWED UP TODAY!!😁🤙🏼
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  405. Thank you for all you do Doc K
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  406. Great episode thanks for the uploads mate
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  407. I say all the time to myself "stop thinking and just ACT" but i was never able to listen to myself and "force" it because I figured it would always be a struggle for zero benefit! Exactly!!.... Now that you have laid this out SO CLEARLY to see the growth it will in fact bring, I feel inspired like I have not before... Thank you Dr.
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  408. It's subtle, but Dr. T's tip on breaking things down feels so much more helpful than the usual ADHD advice of breaking down the whole task and then doing the first step. Start with the duration of time you're willing/able to spend first, and then pick something you could meaningfully get done/started in that time. I kind of do that already, but not really consciously. I think some projects I've done would've been a lot easier if I had that in mind whenever I was feeling overwhelmed.
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  409. I'm a psychiatrist. I discovered your content last week and since then, have been watching whenever I can. I really like your approach. I use focusing type meditative practices with some of my patients because it helped me enormously, in my own personal growth. I really like your open ended questioning style, good listening and your authenticity. I work similarly, I worked as an addiction specialist for many years. Since the pandemic, my focus shifted to seeing adults on the autism spectrum, because my life took me there. Many of my patients received a diagnosis, after their child or children were diagnosed. I have a 10 year old daughter who has Autism Level one, with high demand avoidance. I don't know if PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) is recognized as a profile of Autism in the USA? as it is in the UK and here. (South Africa. We tend to call it Extreme Demand Avoidance EDA rather than PDA). It's very tough on families. Your parent coaching course sounds awesome for all families, and essential for PDA.
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  410. I resonate with "addicts work the best on the smartest people". I don't mean to say I'm amazingly smart and my ego is inflated, but I tend to overthink. When I overthink, my brain comes up with new ways to weasel out of the things that I'm supposed to be doing. I wish I knew how to make an "impervious rule" like Dr. K suggests.
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  411. First of all thank you Dr K for offering such a platform to help gamers with problems. I think i am addicted to video games because im not performing on my targeted academic level and i am generally important things like sports, and tidyness of my room behind. So whats the best way to fix this kind of behavior?
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  412. Was just realizing how much I like going out and ‘working on myself’ with going out to places like coffee shops and journaling. Not enough and minimum of actually doing the thing living life
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  413. I used to hate my job because I was desperate for a "better job in programming". I eventually decided to be content with the job I have and focus on the programming stuff as a hobby. Turns out I don't even want to write code for other people, I just really like my personal projects.
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  414. You two together doing videos together is seriously awesome!!!
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  415. I genuinely think this created some new connections in my brain. Towards the end of the video I thought, "There's no way I can sit still for an hour and do nothing" and immediately I recognized and challenged that thought. I almost came up with another excuse as to why I couldn't do it again as I was writing this but blocked it. I think this is going to be a very useful tool for my arsenal. Thanks Dr K!
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  416. As a person with Asian parents this is very much similar to how my parents use to be. Luckily I've been able to tell my parents to have patients an trust it will happen without them needing to push, well my Mom still pushes every now and then, and expect results.
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  417. 2026 is gonna be my year 🤞
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  418. This was sooo eye opening. When I look back upon my past, i didn't even realize how many of my narratives are just mental habits. And I have been doing this for so long. "I'm not going to make it, this is too difficult" (even though I almost always made it), "I can't go to this party, i'm too socially anxious". These are all just narratives that i tell myself and react to immediately. Thank you for this lecture Dr K.
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  419. Listening to this makes me realise how good of a movie Inside Out is. Every other emotion is screaming, but sadness has the controller
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  420. What do you think your Dharma is?
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  421. Thanks BOBBY
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  422. LOOOVEE the haircut Dr. K, looking dapper
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  423. 1:02:08 this was the most wholesome thing to see. Therapists being there for another therapist. How sweet. 💜
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  424. This actually came at a great time. I probably had the worse year at my job so far due to frustrations to the point of seeking out psychiatric assistance. Over the holiday I reflected on my mindset and realized a lot of what made me most upset was out of my control and instead of being upset with management because they won’t do this or they do that, I focused on what I can do. Obviously we’re still early in the year but the change of mindset (and mood stabilizers) is setting a new trajectory to make it better year. “Working harder” to me doesn’t mean trying to stack boxes twice as fast, or finish a report in 3 days instead of 5. It can be as simple as updating your planner to better accommodate last minute task, familiarizing yourself with you product or inventory. Knowing your job better than most people. Thank you Dr.K for all your videos over the year you’ve helped a lot of people.
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  425. I found this video super helpful! I am in the dating pool. And have also struggled with emotional unavailability myself as a woman. I think having a reversed video along side this one would be amazing! Like how do women communicate in a way that stiffles men? how do we learn to meet in the middle etc.
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  426. Start by prioritizing your security. Learn how to savor. Prioritize experiences over possessions. Try to spend some money helping/on other people. One thing that struck me: "if after playing a video game when you go out for a walk and think about how much fun you had, you realize you didn't have fun, and you feel like you just woke up from being passed out after drinking" that's when you're an unhealthy gamer, if you can't savor it, don't play.
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  427. I needed this. I've been sober for almost 2 years. I did all the things that you talked about, and even I went back to school. I'm actually a neuroscience major and doing really well, but I kind of slipped up over winter break because I told myself I deserved it. Fortunately nothing horrible happened, and everything's fine now, but yes, it can insidiously sneak back up on you like that and I see how important it is to remain vigilant, and for me, stay busy. I don't think about it when I'm studying. School is my top priority and science means so much more to me than using, but having over a month of free time with nothing to do kind of took me off guard. I have to remember what a tricky little fucker my nucleus accumbens is. Thanks
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  428. i am really suprised, but yt algorithm suggested me this video and after i watched it, it felt to me like i suddenly understood huge part of my life. the interesting thing is i went through the list of videos on exhaustion and that is the only one i found that didn't recommend physical exercise as only or main solution. i'm glad i have seen this video and channel ♥
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  429. 11:50 Oof! The reality of chasing approval: "I went to Harvard Medical School. And I'm like one of the most famous psychiatrists on the planet. But, I guess... you still need something else"
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  430. I really appreciate the intersection of psychology and spirituality discussions on this channel. I would also love to see videos that address how people with religious trauma specifically can safely navigate these issues. I'm a former member of a cult and a therapist I work with advised against doing any activities that would be reminders of the religious practices from that group, this includes, to some extent, formalized meditation techniques. Although I find a more secularized mindfulness practice be very helpful. More on this topic would be amazing to hear!
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  431. please sub to Dr.K! he's doing a lot of good in the world and helped me a lot :)
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  432. This is legitimately one of the most important, best lectures you could watch on the internet. Dr. K basically went super saiyan during the early membership lectures, felt like he really tapped into a sort of flow I haven't seen since the beginning streams. (edit, grammar)
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  433. Hmm?
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  434. I love you you made me understand how my brain really works and for first time in my life I’m starting to see progress❤️💕
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  435. A small contribution to the psychotherapy revolution. Spread the word, comrade!
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  436. Honestly I needed this video as someone who has quit most of my jobs after initial excitement for the job and as time goes on its like i find things or just there are things that may be negative about it that it keeps getting bigger in my mind until I end up quitting. Looking back, I could have stayed longer at a probably all of them. I could have done something different like change my mindset and look more at the positive and could have done things to make it better for myself and just not sitting in that negative cycle because its not benefiting me at all. I also should apply to things that I like more so and know I'd stay longer at actually like or just have interest in rather than applying to whatever out of desperation and just almost panic at not having a job. Right now, I'm working as a substitute teacher. It's not the most consistent during certain months, but I do like it.
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  437. Thanks for the vid my dude
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  438. I've started looking at almost all of my relationships through this lens. Like my relationship with my career, my dogs, etc. Its been incredibly useful.
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  439. I'd like to compliment the animation during Dr.K's explanation. It's neat and creatively put together.
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  440. This was incredible, please have this man on again.
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  441. Good to see Dr. Honda again. I learned a lot about myself from his deep dives on Schizoid. I'm more comfortable being me now.
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  442. 45:30 "We're gonna tank that boredom damage" absolutely beautiful
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  443. Nice! Glad this won the poll. This stream was by far the most eye-opening one for me ❤
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  444. After I tracked how long it takes to mop the floors, not including vacuuming or picking things up, it is SO MUCH EASIER to start. I know it only takes 10 minutes. And that's totally manageable.
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  445. thanks for all the guidance for the past years. its amazing how your words not only influenced me, but also helped my friends around me. not everyone wants to be a doctorate of their own mental health, but im sure this guide will help to simplify our mental blocks to continue with our life.
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  446. Thanks! I'm 18 today and my life has changed a lot in the past year, and it's in part to you and all the great work y'all do at this channel. Sending lots of love. Hope next year is even better ❤
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  447. So true about the gardening guys being good dudes. Those garden channels are my happy place (shoutout to Huw Richards).
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  448. Somebody streamed the anxiety and I got so much out of it. I can tell what my therapist was trying to do but doing it badly. I started journaling my samskaras and have greatly improved. However I hit a roadblock when I bought the depression course and realized that my depression is probably clinical/neurobiological. Thank you so much Dr k. So many of us in this community are self learners, and I got more out of this course than I did in therapy itself. I'm also more motivated to get back into depression treatment (probably ketamine). Thanks a lot
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  449. This kid's story is basically mine in a nutshell. Really great listen.
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  450. I don’t know if he’ll ever read this, but I recently found your channel and I am absolutely in love with the content. I myself am an aspiring psychiatrist (specifically want to do forensic psychiatry) and these videos help me so much in so many ways. i’ve been diagnosed with bpd and just hearing it explained in a deeply understanding way in a number of Dr. K’s videos is refreshing. i actually find myself putting his videos on while getting ready instead of turning on music lol. very inspiring ❤.
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  451. Is no one gonna comment on who they could beat in a fight in BG3? I’m going with Mayrina’s brothers cause no matter what I did they ended up as swamp fertilizer.
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  452. stay strong my shia brother
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  453. Dr. K was an absolute therapy wizard, always predicting the counter-arguments my brain would make. Right on the money every time, including the indignant clamping down to save myself from the pain of hoping and being burned. I've got a lot to think about. I don't want to, but I think that means I should, so I'm going to try. Thank you.
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  454. watched the whole thing. Thanks for posting those
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  455. This is the exact video that I need. Edit: just finished. Thank you for putting everything into the right words.
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  456. I've found that I like to just finish the thing rather than have it loom over my head, but doing something all at once sucks and gets me even more against myself. But when I realize that I actually chipped away at that thing I was trying to do its so much better than not doing it at all. That mentality of "I might as well do 5 pages instead of just 1 (even if I am uncapable of that)" is only able if I've said my goal is to do the 1 page and then after I do that little amount I am capable of I'll say, "okay one more paragraph. Maybe another paragraph. I might as well finish the page." And continue until I've tapped out. Similar with working out. "ugh I don't wanna do legs. But I can just get dressed. I can walk outside. I can walk to the school next to the gym. Oh I'm hear I might as well stretch. Oh I might as well do like just the squat exercise. Oh I did my routine cool. " The door routine seems like that exactly, walk through however many doors you can before entering that room just to get closer to the destination rather than just staying put.
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  457. Always had peaceful experiences when meditating. Have felt great self-compassion (I’m usually extremely self-critical and self-demanding). I’ve released some grief one time when I gently but suddenly came into a hug with my mother who had passed years prior. The daily life effects have been of better focus, better emotional awareness, and less reactive to my children.
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  458. Oh my God. You just changed my life. I’m not joking. This solved a mystery I needed solved. This makes perfect sense. Thank you so much.
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  459. Watched this live, the dark souls analogies were amazing.
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  460. Closest thing to Dr.K covering the game Persona 4. I'll take it
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  461. Perfect timing. 5 days without a drink. (after countless attempts for sobriety)...Several times I have used the excuse, "if I'm gonna drink in a year, that's going to make me more disappointed in myself than if I do it now.". Such an insane (in hindsight) form of SELF SABOTAGE. In the moment it seems logical and giving yourself the control of the outcome.
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  462. I don't religiously watch Dr. K's videos or even his streams, but I stumbled across the "what happens when you quit caffeine" video and that (combined with several other things) led to me quitting cigarettes, THC, fast food, soda, and caffeine over the last six months. Caffeine was the last one, and I stopped about 4 days ago. I am so tired lol but I know I'll be better when I come out the other side. Thanks for everything you do!! I wish more psych professionals catered to specific types of cultures like this. I think I've broken my gaming addiction as well, but I still consider myself a part of that group.
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  463. This really makes me want to cry. I have already known for quite a while that the way I perceive time is somehow different from other people. I am 36 now and I have developed a sort of system for myself, which very much relies on outward sources, like physical calendars, notifications, and timers, to make sure I am completing tasks in a timely fashion. I'm really proud that I am now at a point where I can almost perfectly determine my timelines in a day, but I don't think anyone understands how much work I have to put in to make sure this is the case. It is something I have to constantly monitor and examine, in order to continue improving. And what is even more upsetting is seeing comments online (and sometimes hearing them in person), disparaging people who struggle with time. It is often boiled down to a respect or moral issue, when in reality, my brain literally doesn't work right. Anyway, thank you for this. I can't tell you how validating it is to listen to this video and know that I'm not imagining this phenomenon.
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  464. the only man who bridges the gap between dopaminergic/fun and informative/productive
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  465. I have to say these same thoughts and feelings apply to other groups of people...I am a woman in my 50's and as Dr. K explains the "Self Loathing Man of Inaction" every single sentiment applies to me in my life as well. And has for the last 7 years. Thank you Dr. K. Glad I caught this, even though I am not in your target audience.
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  466. I found the title totally relevant and appropriate to the content
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  467. Love the new demonstrations of concepts in animated form
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  468. FeelsGoodMan Clap mic is cutting out when its too loud, you need to adjust the levels
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  469. I agree that a co-ed conversation like this would be really illuminating.
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  470. It's nice to see how far Dr. K- how far HealthyGamerGG has come since the start of the pandemic, to holding their own programs! This has to be one of the best things that came out of an unfortunate situation
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  471. This is so helpful-thank you! In terms of steps in the middle, it reminds me of the one other strategy I use for my "addiction" to sweets. Basically, it is to increase the difficulty of obtaining the sweets by adding more "steps" in the middle to obtain it. For example, I never keep sweets at home because they're easily obtainable and I have zero willpower. So, I add "steps" in the middle to make it more difficult to obtain my fav. candy bar, for example. In essence, if I want a candy bar I tell myself I need to get my keys and wallet (locked in a safe on the 4th floor), put multi-layers of winter clothing on to brave the sub zero temps so I can walk to the store at night (no driving). Then, I tell myself I have to count out all the change (no plastic) etc. etc. I make it as difficult as possible and add as many "not so fun" steps in the middle to get my fix that, in the end, it's not worth it. I mean who wants to put on seven layers of clothing, trudge through a foot of snow at night, to get to the nearest 7-11 and then fumble around like an idiot counting change for a Mars bar?
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  472. Coming off abusing adderall (& combinations) for years; I'm now almost 3 years sober, & this video is great stuff <33
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  473. Gamifying mental health, Big Pog!
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  474. I'm just going to say, as a person with avoidant behaviour and a past videogame addiction who happened to reinstall a game yesterday evening after a really bad week, the passage about not bending the rules and the analogy to the poisonous gas hit like a truck. Though this message will drown in a sea of others, know that I'm thankful for your videos and what you've done, Dr. K Wish you luck, guys.
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  475. I don't feel like this title is too much of a click bait. Dr. K basically said that a certain popular story of finding a soulmate - you find them and things immediately click and are easy forever after - is not a real thing, because finding the person is actually the beginning of the story, rather than the end. So it's somewhat clickbait, but not entirely.
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  476. Having ADHD, this is my greatest weakness 😭
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  477.  @hollowedboi5937  I know, I’m just saying I prefer it
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  478. As someone who enjoys learning at my own pace and having recently been diagnosed with ADHD at age 26, this guide has been incredibly helpful for me. Even the way it's laid out is so well executed. I've been recommending it to friends and family IRL. Thank you Dr K and the HG team for this invaluable resource.
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  479. I feel called out, almost avoided this video, the ad started playing and i hoped that it would play as long as possible. Edited: finished the video, I'm glad i watched it. I learned to dismantle my expectations that come from my imaginations. I learned to replace those imaginations with data. I learned to never quit.
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  480. I have ADHD and at one point I decided to write down how long it took me to do things in a day. I learnt that I had a surprisingly consistent work for one hour, half hour break, work for one hour habit that I didn't even realise I had.
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  481. Im so grateful for this year i did so much, i started studying psychology, i worked at a bank, signed up for basic military training, i moved out to new country for new work, i found new great friends i tried so many things i cant wait, what new year will bring! I wish you all happy new year
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  482. If you want more of this juicy stuff, join the memberships! Never regretted it. Not a payed actor!
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  483. It has been great for me, personally. I was super anxious before my first session and within the first ten minutes it all melted away and it's something I highly look forward to weekly.
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  484. I am so lucky and beyond grateful. My parents are still together and have allowed me and my son to still live with them after my divorce. I have epilepsy so I need a certain amount of help and they've helped all that and more. I have 50/50 custody of my son so he's here every other week and I can tell what a blessing it's been for him to have someone else in the house besides just him and me. I do have to set boundaries and and put in effort to the relationships but of course we do.
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  485. “There is no benefit.” A lightbulb literally came on in my brain 💡 🧠 = 🙆🏻‍♀️ This makes so much sense!!
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  486. Can we get some relationship stuff from Dr. Honda as well? He’s got some really great stuff on his channel but I feel like a more concentrated video for the HG community on relationships and attachment would be awesome and extremely helpful! ❤ Thanks for all that you do, both HG & Psychology in Seattle!!
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  487. Awesome content, really insightful, thank you for sharing and I wish her the best!
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  488. it would be really great if we would occasionally get such advanced lectures, thank you for this video it was extremely helpful, regular healthygamergg viewers who dont have access to members only content would love more of such lectures, if it is feasible for you to upload. the free content available is also extremely helpful tho. no complains.
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  489. You've been a big help to me Dr. K, love your videos!
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  490. As someone struggling with OCD, I’m really grateful to you for explaining what’s been happening to me all this time!
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  491. I needed this. For family-related reasons that are too complicated to accurately explain here, I'm currently stuck in the countryside with a pretty bad internet connection and no PC. It feels like being here is nothing but a waste of my time, but now I see that that in and of itself is benefitial.
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  492. Thank you Dr. K for inspiring me to start my own channel documenting myself giving up all of my bad habits. Cheers!
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  493. Ohhh i love him! So great you also value his opinion. I really think he is one of the best! Thanks for having him! Yeah you!
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  494. I've taught myself over the years to set timers and alarms to first get an idea of how long something takes me to do and then alert me to the time that has passed after I started a task so I know I need to wrap it up and get to work or whatever. The part I still have trouble with is the anxiety of repercussions from being late triggers IBS. So, even with good planning and time management, I end up late because I have to poop. 😅😞
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  495. Genuinely man, this is one of the most intense clarity inducing videos on HG. I've watched almost all your guys' vids n guides for years now, I'm not sure if it was the specific wording and pacing from Dr. K, but it's like you've hit a T20 on Darts with this vid ❤ but this one hit different bro, especially the practical aspect of the inputs to the mind & body
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  496. Ive lost track of how many hundreds of hours ive watch... I keep learning more. Thank you for your videos. They have been very helpful.
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  497. I think of meditation as being very similar to other forms of self disciplines, especially exercise or martial arts. It's trying to find the buttons and levers of your internality, and work them in specific ways. Belief systems are, even if nothing "spiritual" about them is true, a framework to mold oneself on and impart communicable ideas on ritual practices (ritual seems to be incredibly important to function in humans, and seems to pop up enough in other intelligent species that I'm inclined to think it's as much an undervalued cognitive need as play is). Like anything that actually has an effect, dosage matters!
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  498. Broooo, how are you doing this? I'm facing the same issues with my controlling mom. I'm too old for this
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  499. AAAAAAA! I am so excited for this! Thank you for posting this for free!
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  500. Reaaaaaaally excited for the whole course. Gonna unleash my beast mode hopefully :^)
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  501. Wow, this is exactly what I’ve been waiting for. Thanks Dr. K!
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  502. Really, really thankful that Dr. K has the guts to put himself out there and discuss real ways to deal with this topic that so many of us are struggling with. I hope everyone struggling here finds success. I've been waiting for content like this for years. His discussion is multi-modal which really improves upon the quality of the conversations I've seen online over the last decade. There are entire hoards of people who have approached this issue with big hearts over the years but with unfortunately only simple and limited approaches.
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  503. Just 6 minutes in and already know this is the most relatable video
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  504. The edits keep getting better lol love it
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  505. Dear Dr. K, You continue to provide so much help to people you don’t even know. Last year my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me, I got fired from my job, and I became addicted to delta 8 and my depression spiraled into me being unemployed for over 6 months. 2022 was the worst year of my entire life. I’ve learned so much from you and your videos, I stumbled across you when I was looking to better understand my ADHD and how my brain works. Since then I better understand myself and how my brain works, I’ve improved my relationship with my mother, I’ve become a counselor for my friends and family, and this video in particular helped my friend, a relationship I let go for years, better understand his own brain and get him to admit the conspiracy theory’s he was entertaining was nothing but his anxiety making him believe non threats to be real. Thank you so much for all you do.
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  506. ​@HealthyGamerGG facts. we are way more interconnected than people would have us believe. the way we live our lifes does not only affect us, in fact I'd be bold as to say it will never only affect us, but others as well
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  507. dr K be like HeLL YEaH bRoTheRRRrRRRrRRRr
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  508. We gonna escape our egos with this one!
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  509. @SivTheScribe  started from the ego, now we're here
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  510. This applies to my life so much it’s spooky, thank you so much for these videos they really help me a lot.
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  511. Not enough glue, probably.
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  512. Great video! Just getting into the habit of doing something or getting yourself comfortable with it, even if your brain wants you to do other things + learning to accept failure for things you produced are good lessons. You can also set success into perspective or redefine it for your needs - Maybe your book is a financial failure or maybe nobody reads it, but you managed to write a whole book and perhaps publish it, this in itself can be a success.
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  513. Thank you all members from the bottom of my ego!
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  514. So what should those people that have trouble getting out of bed and shit do?
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  515. So glad to see Dr. Kirk again!!
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  516. Commenting to say that the visuals (specifically the whiteboard overlaid on top of camera) is by far the best it's ever been! It's very aesthetic, seems purposeful, and has been the most engaging a HGG video has been for me (:
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  517. I am thinking to get a job aaaaaand here is it
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  518. Thanks for all you share with us Dr. K!
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  519. Thank you for everything this year Dr.K and Team :)))
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  520. Would love this to become a series
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  521. I really enjoyed the slower, quieter pace of the video. I didn’t enjoy the fast paced videos, felt too ADHD lol. This felt like the older dr k videos which I loved!
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  522. From someone who has depression: Hello everyone! You are all awesome! Love you ❤️
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  523. I’m a 67 y/o woman who can relate to so many of your videos. Best psychiatrist on the YouTubes.
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  524. I love how Dr K talk about (breaking suddenly) habits while suddenly talking in a thicc Indian accent, hahahaha. Great job at 08:16 🤭
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  525. Not this video showing up right as I'm about to journal how I've been procrastinating lmao
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  526. So when do I get the superpowers?
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  527. LETS GOOO. W MEMBERS
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  528. You helped me understand how my mind works and gave me hope that I can actually live a happy life someday. Your community is amazing and I am so glad that I have found your channel. Thanks for all your work Dr. K!!
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  529. One of the best videos i've seen from you imo Dr.k :D Learned so much and got so much clarity on what i'm personally struggling with and have been for some time now! Thank you <3
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  530. K, thank you for making these videos, I quit gaming 2 and a half weeks ago and quit all gaming related media 1 week ago, currently going through apathy and tiredness, but I know this will pass in time. Thank you, I wish more would realize how damaging gaming can be to other aspects of their lives.
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  531. How does Dr K know my parents
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  532. Thank you for this piece of advice. As a 23 year old man I find time consistently slipping away from me without feeling like I'm getting anything accomplished, I will absolutely try this.
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  533. Thank you, Dr. K. A very informative video, once again. Hekped me, even though this is something I didn't want to hear.
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  534. I'm deeply grateful to have chance upon this channel/video and to be helped by it. I was able to relate his struggle with my own, stuck in my negative thought loop of being not good enough thus failing, and also because of being influenced by people around me thought that I have to defeat the OCD self to be able to get out. That's until now after all these years through this video that I get my OCD self is not to be fixed but to reconcile and accept, to be ok with. Now I truly feel that I've found the path out of this loop and in time will be able to leave and be a better me. Thank you :')
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  535. DR. K PERSONA ARC CONFIRMED
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  536. Omg - I’m 46 years old and this video goes the hardest. WOW.
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  537. The first 10s describes everything that has happened and is happening
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  538. But, I heard a quote similar quote, which goes like this "Those who sacrifice everything, will gain everything, and those miser who does not, everything will be taken from them."
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  539. Dr K, you'll never know how much your videos have helped me. I've tackled things like my teeth after watching your chat with asmon. Thanks for everything you and everyone at healthy gamer do!
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  540. Funny enough, I did a "free-balled" road trip with just a destination last year, and it changed my life completely. I'm saving up to do another one soon, I based the idea on Dr K's other video on "reaching the end of thought." After my last road trip, I made a major life change that I've been hesitating about for years. My old medication was leaving me numb and unable to act(avolition), but it has am 89 day half life, so just now I've reached less than 5% of it in my bloodstream and I feel better with no positive symptoms, the new medication works so much better.
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  541. still appreciate it. I have learned more about myself than ever before and I think the same applies to many others..
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  542. i’m digging the new editing with the writing overlay on the video 😏
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  543. As a fan of both of you individually these collaborations are amazing
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  544. You’re the reason I started posting on my channel documenting myself giving up all of my bad habits. Thank you!!
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  545. This is why I love that you exist. You come across as so genuine and so truly invested in being there for the community. Fuck yeah, both to having a team and putting together a fantastic project. And thank you for being there when I needed you.
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  546. I love Dr. Honda!!
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  547. Thank you for this. It has given me a better grasp on what my husband may be dealing with. We are currently working on Inner-bonding sessions together on our own since couples counseling didn’t go well for us. As you mentioned it made my husband feel like we were ganging up on him. Thanks for your advice and resources I want to understand, communicate and love my husband more each day. I just really want him to understand me and how I feel but I know that’s not something I can force upon him. We are learning and growing. Thank you for your work and channel! 🎉❤
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  548. alright, I'll try it, I'll do the next best thing that I can manage
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  549. Love the new editing style. You guys are a blessing <3
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  550. Dr K has been a bit more rant-y and gesticulatory lately. I'm loving it.
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  551. I was just going through something very similar with my HG Coach today. Thanks for the awesome timing as always haha
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  552. like the editing on this one, it's not too edit-y and has good progression still. even funny when it cuts 5:54
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  553. I have ADHD and my mom used to make me time everything… which helps me out with so much
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  554. You know, I've been struggling with this and teaching myself strategies to partially compensate for this for YEARS (especially dependence on alarms for EVERYTHING) without realizing it. When I was giving my second attempt at university, at the age of 31, I was even really involved with the school psychs and a group that was supposed to be helping students with disabilities. This was never addressed or discussed, and when I asked them for help learning how to generally organize and plan for things (because I could recognize the deficit in that department) they looked at me funny and I never actually got that help from them. Keep doing what you're doing, hopefully the increasing awareness of things like this will get more people the help they need before it can do damage.
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  555. I’m so happy I discovered your channel. Life changing 🙏
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  556. This honestly really helps with combating my brain telling me to "just get started." Cause it CAN sometimes work with me getting started on doing something but at the same time if whatever it is that I'm doing is huge, then it just feels too daunting. If I could focus on instead counting the sentences that I've typed out instead of how many I haven't it might help
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  557. Dr. K won this debate
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  558. Looks really good, I've always liked the way he went about things, and this is basically about the best version of accessible mental health care I can imagine. Some really great and important work being done here.
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  559. First Dr. K hurt his back and then he bacame sick, that´s why he hasn´t been streaming the past 1 and a half weeks. Twitter or discord are good places for information :)
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  560. Thank you members y'all are goated! Hope you have a great valentine 💪
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  561. i both was inspired to leave my abuser and met the person who flew me away from my abuser thanks to this community. im still healing, and giving myself realistic expectations. idk what im trying to say here. this has probably been the hardest year of my life since leaving my abusers january of this year. but it has definitely been worth it to me. i just had to decide that it was worth it.
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  562. I’ve been watching a lot of your content over the past 2 years and it’s gotten me to think about myself completely differently. I’ve learnt so much and right now I’m the happiest I have been (I’m hoping it’s not mania) despite having experienced traumatic events in the past. A lot of your ideas in this video resonated and I also learnt some more. Thank you Dr K.
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  563. I really agree with the idea of experience/inexperience, but I believe there is a functioning solution that is directly contrary to this method and it worked for me so far. Did every homework assignment in the year so far and not even missing out on sleep, so I suppose it works. Am currently in high-school. My idea is reframing success. You talk about judgement from others, or feeling judged, so this method plays on that. The main fact of the matter is that people just don't give a sh*t about any of your mistakes where in actually matters. Jobs care about credentials, colleges about GPA, SAT and a mostly generic essay. People that regularly see you don't care about your bad side enough to remember unless they are your enemies. Those you just cut away. People that see you once of twice will forget within the week. No one cares
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  564. I love this guy! Great collab!!!!
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  565. Dr K, just wanna say thanks to you, I've learn to know myself better than ever be, Like truly understand myself and feeling better everyday is all because of listening to your video like this, I've listen motivator like Jordan Peterson, Andrew Huberman but it always didn't work for me, and then I know you from youtube recommendation, and I felt it become one of my lucky day for knowing you. I really meant it, Thanks a lot.
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  566. Thank you! This was a helpful dose of reality for me. I’m on day 4 of quitting nicotine cold turkey.
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  567. I mean some of your videos are so eye-opening it's actually incredible
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  568. stick tuah job and commit to that thang
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  569. This is very helpful. Thank you. I never really realized my own shortcomings as an employee. I'm only now starting to better understand the ("meta") avenues of employment that I never learned, was never taught growing up, and never worked on (which are the various things you talked about in this video). This also helped me better understand the ACTUAL shortcomings of my employer back then. They weren't perfect, but I misunderstood the ways in which I fell short, and the ways in which they fell short from their end of the working relationship. Thank you! More on this topic would be enlightening 🙏
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  570. I call it (self-loyalty) when I stick to what I thought I would do and what I have maintained for a long time. ... When I fail or cheat a little on my diet in a simple way, I feel that this is an exception to the rule. ... But, I ask myself, is there a meaning to the plan? In the crowd of all these meanings? Someone inside me says: Of course, because it is my responsibility towards myself in particular. And here I begin to enumerate the objective and subjective reasons that push me to stick to the habit ... So far, I sometimes feel that I am training my mind, but that's okay.
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  571. Thank you Dr.K and team because I genuinely needed to hear this.
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  572. Thank you, this is excellent advice, and I appreciate you for making it available for free to anyone.
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  573. 1.7k views, posted 17 minutes ago. So satisfying
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  574. I can't even begin to say how impactful and useful Dr. K's guide to mental health has been for me. It is an absolute game changer!!! I casually found this channel on YouTube, and I'm not even a gamer. The way Dr. K explains the topics of motivation and concentration are just on another level. I recommend everyone to sign up for the course, the value that he provides is worth so much more than what he charges for it. I wish I could have found this when I was in college
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  575. First time being so early but, might as well use it to say I appreciate your work Dr. K and the whole Healthy Gamer team y'all an amazing source of support! Keep it up, much love! 🙏
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  576. I LOVE THIS CHANNELLL
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  577. damn im like everyone else with their npc comments... literally hes in my head. dr k confirmed fed. i literally was just about to get into a situationship.
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  578. My five cents: I think people who are willing to pay in order to have decisional power over what specific topics you'll do a deep dive into wouldn't mind that content being freely available for others, maybe on a separate channel. It would work a bit like a Patreon account. For it not to interfere with the algorithm it could be hosted on your website or a separate account. Of course there could be specific benefits for paying members, but potentially that could be more specific or symbolic things or stuff like name in the credits etc. From where I stand, having more funds + giving people choice in what to deep dive next + keeping content freely available AND not getting boned by the algorithm could be doable.
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  579. HG has been a great driving force in my life, thank you all for everything that you do!!
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  580. One must imagine Anon happy
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  581. I preordered it at my local bookstore in Germany, really looking forward to digging into it! As someone working in primary education, seeing parents and educators (myself included) all completely overwhelmed, I really hope the book gets translated into many languages so it can benefit as many people as possible.
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  582. Such an unbelievably valuable lecture, glad to see it was the one that was chosen! I’m sure it’ll help tons like it helped me :)
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  583. Loved the video. I was taught something similar like this in a management class where one would judge aspects of someone harshly which is an aspect they themselves possessed.
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  584. First
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  585. Nice bump in subs! Congrats, great content and it's awesome seeing you in the field working on guys. Thank you for sharing
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  586. Thank you for helping me improve so much this year Dr. K. You have truly made me a better person. Thank you for giving us this gift, happy holidays!!!!
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  587. Procrastinating is certainly my worst struggle. I have pretty bad ADHD and its been an issue all my life but I went untreated for my entire childhood. Now as a 25 year old with a lot of responsibilities it's gotten me in a lot of trouble to not take care of important things in time. Recently my psychiatrist prescribed me new meds that help a ton without me having to put in much willpower but I'm still not as productive as I'd like to be so I really hope these tipps with help me 😥 Thank you Dr. K for uploading all these helpful resources. I like understanding how things work and you are extremely good at explaining all these complex processes in the human mind.
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  588. I like the title being clear so I know what I'm getting into
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  589. Hey thanks to your members and YOU for sharing! Merry Christmas! 🙏🎄
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  590. As a neuropsychologist from europe who recently enrolled in a cbt program, i just want to say that i love your content ! I’ve been listening (on spotify)/ watching for more than a month now and I learned a lot while commuting, and i just wanted to thank you :)
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  591. This year, i started being active on linkedin, twitter and a lot of job opportunity websites. This year, i went to 10-12 tech meetups and volunteered in some too. Left instagram for good. I cannot let instagram screw my nervous system. This year i did the most amount of journaling. I took active steps to understand me and here come this channel that helped me too. I am hoping 2025 will be a bang. More consistency, less addictions, more life. Cheers and thanks dr. K😊
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  592. Literally exactly 1 minute in and you hit me with the old "in Soviet Russia..." Bit 😂😂😂👏👏👏
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  593. I made a little bit of both, I made the drastic changes but with time I improve the velocity, start doing it on automatic, etc, but it really started with the drastic change
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  594. I understand so much about my addictions watching this channel. The struggle is putting this into practice consistently.
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  595. Thank you for this
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  596. This channel is a must for gamers
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  597. Jung in my HGG? Best collab
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  598. This is an amazing and insightful video. I love the way Dr. K explains these things with examples, repetition, and vivid descriptions. One of the best videos for anyone feeling stuck.
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  599. This video is phenomenal. I finally understand why I feel hate and anger towards people who simply don't care about others or just live their life to the fullest without caring what others think. Thank you dr. K!
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  600. 7 minutes ago is invigorating. Been blessing us this month 🙏
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  601. man i just watched this vod like 30 mins ago and then you upload it :D
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  602. Thing Dr. K explained to me: "If you want a healthy behavior for making progress in life, reward the effort, not the outcome." New thing Dr. K told me: "Effort alone won't necessarily yield the outcomes you want." My Brain: "See? I told you! Effort won't get you were you want, so why even reward it (AKA: try)?" Me to My Brain: HUG Let's just take another step forward.
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  603. This video was so much more than talking about porn addiction I wouldn't say I'm addicted to porn or anything but I experience these with internet addiction. I just clicked it because I was bored and had a new perspective about my problems thanks dr k
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  604. I guess as an introverted tour guide, I have the perfect training ground at my disposal.
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  605. This is actually a life changing video. You've put into words what's wrong and that solves 50% of the problem for me. The other 50% is solved by the fixes you've provided. Thank you so much.
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  606. 1rst yay
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  607. Discipline is freedom
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  608. Thanks, members and Dr. K :)
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  609. What you describe is how I have been feeling for the last 10 years, in regards to both my job and family life. The video has given me some insights to think about, so thank you for that!
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  610. I know it's reductive, but often times we enjoy the chase rather than the actual end. The chase and anticipation is where the dopamine comes from. When I learned that, I worked hard to redirect that dopamine spike to other things. It helps kick an addiction, and it also helps get things done. How's that for killing two birds with one stone?
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  611. I got the guide. The ADD module has been life changing. It taught me more about myself than I knew I could. It doesn’t replace professional help but it is great information.
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  612. Got my diagnosis 1 1/2 months ago - this makes so much sense
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  613. Drastic changes create habits for me. I go all in, and then my mind and body just... Adapt to it. Then after some time I have to go all in again.
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  614. This applies to women too...🙏
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  615. Thank you for speaking on this 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
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  616. Thanks for what you do.
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  617. I bought Dr. K's guide and it's definitely worth it -- "jumbled" deep feelings have finally been laid out in this guide and it feels like a breath of fresh air / hope in making change, when everything else feels like it's just passing you by. This isn't just another "self help" guide. Even if it hasn't crossed your mind to get it, I'd consider looking into it.
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  618. 05:53 reminds me of song numb
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  619. Everything you said in the video applies to me except I think an intelligent person is someone who understands things better than others which he's inexperienced at. One time I got declined after a job interview because I said that I was a "slow learner" because I thought other people picked up everything instantly. Over time I realised I learn new things at a faster rate than others but I still find myself avoiding stuff I'm not experienced at. As you said in the video, those moments are exclusive to when I feel like I'm being judged so I feel paralyzed in collage while I'm extremely productive in the office where people don't expect me to perform perfectly after they explain something new.
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  620. "Wow! You should use your power for good!" Made me crack up
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  621. Dr K is entering the movie-long YouTube video arc.
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  622. If you choose to watch just one video in 2025 it should be this one. I literally restarted it after finishing it. So much clarity. Goals for this year to achieve one pointedness of the mind. I definitely started this journey, but this just put to words what I felt needs to be done.
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  623. Absolute cinema
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  624. Social media person, stand up and give this magnificent man a hug from me
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  625. Amazing video. Your content has changed my life for the better and once I can afford it I look forward to buying your courses too. 😊 Have a peaceful day all.
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  626. Finally!!! Thank you Dr.!!
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  627. That was one of the most interesting and helpful explanations of personality disorder I ve never heard .
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  628. Love the new style keep it up!!! ❤️
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  629. I pre-ordered mine book. Got 3 boys ages 4, 2, and 0 I need this for. I've played enough video games to know they can be a problem when played too much.
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  630. This is essentially what going to HG Coaching was able to give me. A sense of detachment that allowed me to break down my personal resistances and develop ways to maintain things as well. It’s a freeing feeling that I wish I could help more of my loved ones to experience.
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  631. Nice video
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  632. 13:29 "If ALL you ever watch on the internet is Dr K., I will be the first to tell you that you have a trash diet. Go do something else." I really, really respect him for having the humility to say this! The key word here is *"all"*, that's why I put it in all-caps. You won't find many content creators who discourage this kind of "pizza for breakfast, lunch, and dinner" attitude these days.
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  633. I absolutely love this video session. I am saving it to watch when I feel stuck. I have watched it twice so far and I know I am only remembering the tip of the iceberg. So much content to process. I am so grateful for the access to so much free therapy and wisdom available on YouTube.
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  634. Dr.k on Persona 4!?!?!
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  635. You are AWESOME!! I remember listening to you once before and feeling very positive about your video and thinking I want to hear you again so I ran back into you today and you are really enlightening I am a huge procrastinator I will start listening to your videos from now on it's like you're inside my head!😏 thank you so much for giving me" the next thing to do"!
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  636. 16:43 My new life's mantra. Thanks Dr. K You should put that on a t-shirt ❤
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  637. having ADHD is fr just starting your run with +100 doorway effect
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  638. Literally just descovered this channel and watched 2 1 hour videos and as soon as it's over this is uploaded... Perfect timing
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  639. Bro needs a team to keep him on track. I love it...can totally relate.
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  640. I hope you make a how to get a boyfriend video.
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  641. Goodness dr knows his audience. This was the best and most relatable episode yet
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  642. Oh my god. This video. I feel… so seen. I feel like Dr. K literally explained my whole life experience… He hit every single nail on the head with this one. Wow. Thank you Dr. K for this video. I needed this.
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  643. The visuals in this video are awesome so far. Hope to see more of this kind of thing because it's def helping me understand it better. Hope there's a dark mode some day (*´∀`)♪
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  644. I love this video. I’ve been stalling in my hobbies and I think I know why now. At the very least I have some ideas to try. Thanks Dr. K as always, what a champ.
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  645. This is timely. Arcane 2 touches a lot on ego and identity
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  646. OMG!!! I got the ADHD module a few months ago and I’m almost halfway through. I’ve found it so incredibly helpful and seeing this is so encouraging and exciting! Well done. I’m so happy
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  647. The Editing🔥🔥
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  648. Love your videos ,but I wis you stop talking to the just the kids because I'm 37 and your videos really help me
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  649. Before the video starts, I know that I have a massive issue with this problem and it slows me down from progressing in the things I want to do so I'm grateful for this video. Even being aware of it though, it comes to me as such an emotional response that it's much more of a struggle to actually overcome the emotion rather than just be aware of it. Hope this video helps
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  650. How does dr k always drops something about what i'm doing in the moment? Bro is a wizard or smt?
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  651. Wow, this is awesome! Thank you so much Brandon, Dr K and the entire HG team! 💚💚💚💚
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  652. I loved this one!
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  653. Excuse me, my parents are extremely happy
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  654. this video makes me want to be a psych major
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  655. I was addicted to nicotine from Freshman year of high school (2018) to 2023. I’m over 2 months clean now and I can say there’s a very very small chance I ever use it again. I had to develop a genuine hatred towards nicotine to quit. Quitting an addiction isn’t just waking up and deciding to go cold turkey, even though you have to do that at some point, but it’s a process. It’s dissecting your addiction until it clicks and you realize your brain is fucking stupid and it’s doing nothing but draining your bank account. That first week a lot of gum was chewed and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but it was so worth it. Fight the good fight. Keep going y’all can do it!
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  656. This was a terrific, illuminating presentation. You've given me a lot of food for thought, and I think several of your points will resonate with me for a long time. Many thanks 🙏🏻
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  657. This for the gang on the journey of self love 🫵🏽🫵🏽💯
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  658. the way you explain these ideas is so easily digestible, S tier teacher
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  659. Woa! What an amazic topic🙏👏 am still halfway but woa nobody talks about that stuff! Dr K very brave of you!
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  660. As a Philosophy proffessional and applied Ethics M. A., I feel this topic is so damn important... Thanks, Doc.
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  661. This might be the best YouTube video I’ve ever seen. Thank you. Im 29 and ive been addicted to porn for over 10 years
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  662. this is one of your best videos.
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  663. I cried at the end. I have been watching Dr. K Videos for 4 years. This was the last video i`ve watched. Thanks for the journey HealthyGamer <3
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  664. Thanks!
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  665. Thank you for the insight. I hope you get to keep helping people for a long time to come.
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  666. As a 31 year old married man, this is very helpful. Thank you
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  667. Awesome.
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  668. Free DLC droppin' 😁 The Ego streams were pretty damn good, seconded only by the Detachment streams for me.
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  669. I am considering putting a ''What do we say do the god of pornography? Not today.'' poster on the wall. For the memes at least.
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  670. On the placebo effect. "It's fuckin' weird!" - Dr. K
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  671. To get the most out of this video, here's a good practice: 1) Find a place to sit or lay down; 2) Put your headphones on; 3) Try to FOCUS the next 23:49 minutes ONLY on this video and what Dr. K is saying. 4) Close your eyes and start the video 00:00. Tip: If you get any "lingering thoughts" then gently get rid of them by: a) becoming aware of the thought (don't worry about how to become aware, you will do it naturally) and b) refocus your mind on the video.
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  672. Y'all at HealthyGamerGG are doing an amazing job! I appreciate it!
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  673. All your content is very top, thanks a lot for this life tools.
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  674. Wake up gang... we finna steal happiness 🤣
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  675. quasi* :)
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  676. i’ve been waiting for this one!! thank you Dr. K!!! 🙏🏾
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  677. Remember when Piccolo said, "Gohan, it was back with majin buu. You unlocked your full power, but it you enjoyed it too much. Because of Your arrogance Buu Upper handed you. Don't let that happen again. Be a warrior, and give everything got either your opponent is weak or strong."
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  678. I feel myself continuing to grow and i feel everytime I come to a new road block, suddenly DR K releases a video that helps me get through the block. ❤️❤️Thank you for all your help and advice!!
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  679. Hey Doctor, these videos always help a bunch. I have just finished watching this one and I can say that I grasped the message you tried to convey really well. Thank you! ❤️
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  680. I have just clicked at the bell because this was new, interesting, profound, and it seemed genuine produced knowledge because interconnected different cultural studies about the same thing. You helped me a lot, thank you. I am from brazil, and that is my first contact with these types of ideas
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  681. I think I’ve really just come to figure this out last year (at age 32). I was dealing with so much self-loathing and self-pity for not being able to get anything done in my life due to a lack of motivation. Funnily enough, the thing that ultimately slapped me out of my fugue was actually a TON more responsibility at work. I was put in charge of a new department in my company that I have 0 experience in. Naturally, this was a huge source of anxiety for me, as I had to produce work as I figure out HOW to produce it, while also hiding the fact that I have no real idea what I’m doing from clients. At some point, I just made the determination that I would no longer worry about what to do and just do it. I made mistakes, but I also ended up getting a lot of positive feedback from colleagues and clients and learning a bunch of new skills, and my confidence in myself and my own value is probably the highest it has ever been in years. The comfort of doing nothing is an illusion, brothers. The comfort of knowing I have done SOMETHING is the real deal. Even if you don’t get the results you set out to achieve, it’s still a learning opportunity, and oftentimes that’s good enough 🤘🏻
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  682. you changed my life, thank you dr.k <3
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  683. Brilliant explanation! Thank you for your work.
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  684. Dr. K this is the kind of brain deep dive I needed
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  685. LETS GOOOO NEW UPLOAD AND NEW STREAM VOD
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  686. Thanks! Very useful information in your videos. This helps me to understand an ex girlfriend better.
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  687. I am happy that there is meditation module! I wanted to get some more structured unfo, and it was hard to remember or even to correctly write down names of techniques that DrK was mentioning in the streams. I am checking it out, hoping it will get me to start with meditation and get it to regular thing as i really think it is smth that i will benefit greatly
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  688. hi HG, discovered you 3 months ago… I’m not a gamer, so discovering you was a complete accident or perfect serendipity, regardless I’m 💯 grateful! love how you promote agency, choice, action… thank you 🙏
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  689. Thank you Dr. K! Very helpful and great content. For me personally this kind of scientific knowledge and understanding has been really helpful, especially when I put together what I have learned with my faith and particulary opening up to God. Just wanted to share that ❤
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  690. For me I finally started seeing progress after a year of floundering when my coach helped me zero in on due to my childhood experiences my values were not conducive to my goals.
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  691. Once again, I am ahead of Dr K videos. No doubt it's from cultivating understanding from watching this channel over the years and implementing what I learned one step at a time. Your work has such a great impact, HG team! Keep it up :)
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  692. Power stuff
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  693. Based Brandon. Man works so hard in the background.
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  694. I love this so much really starting to love my self day by day
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  695. Cue Shia LeBeouf meme
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  696. Brought here by the homie Mark who drives for Uber. If you see this, thanks for the rec brotha! Subbed.
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  697. I love that you guys are improving your content. I liked the skill try but will also use the other features as well. :)
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  698. Dr. K, you probably won’t see my message, but I just wanted to thank you for your videos. I am also a mental health professional, and I cannot begin to tell you how much your content has helped me personally and professionally. Keep spreading that AOE healing ❤
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  699. Thank you Dr K. This was the best timing ever for me.
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  700. Goodness gracious was this supremely impactful and succinctly stated. Thanks, Dr K!
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  701. Thanks, for real.
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  702. Ah, gonna be a tough watch but i’m ready 🫡
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  703. im in this video and i don't like it
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  704. I swear, I was wrecking my brain with this exact topic. Thank you dr.
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  705. “Just. Do. It.” – Shia LaBeouf
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  706. as someone who was an artist on bg3, I have never given a hand to Gale so he always gets stuck in the portal. Idk if that counts as beating him but :)
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  707. This lecture is SO good
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  708. Thanks!
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  709. One of the best dr k videos i swear!!!!!
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  710. Thank you for your work ❤
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  711. you reminded me of myself a few years ago. i was doing terribly in high school bc of my undiagnosed adhd, and i had 4 exams in 5 days to fix everything... i couldn't learn for a single exam if the time wasn't running away. 😂😂
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  712. This video was very needed today. Thank you. The irony is that I am listening to this while I was unpacking the dish washer 😅. I watch this video, accompanied by a video made by Ali Abdaal, titled "How to reset your dopamine". Together, both this video and that video gives a clear picture on why most people are unhappy. Both these videos deal with how bordom must not be feared and that it is okay to be bored. The other video talks about how bordom actually recharges your dopamine reserves in your dopamine receptors and why addictions + distractions makes you unhappy by crashing those dopamine reserves. Might explain why people who do this, are more happy than most.
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  713. This is so great!
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  714. Future me is loving this video!
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  715. NOOO I LOVE THE SKILL TREE (Edit) I commented before the video was over. My skill tree is safe ♥
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  716. I have a date tonight wish me luck 🫡
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  717. Popped Collar GigaChad Dr K has my vote.
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  718. What an absolutely fantastic video
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  719. Fine...I booked my flight to Argentina for a month. See yall in Buenos Aires with zero video games, my PC isn't following me there.
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  720. 29:30 Damn, I wanna be nice to my future self now
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  721. Once you realize how much you can change your own mind, it's almost overwhelming because then suddenly you become actively Responsible for your perception of reality instead of just being along for the ride. It's worth it for the freedom though 👌
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  722. Comment for self Takeaways: do what you can do, try met in the middle. Don't start small, don't push too hard. Do the next best thing. If the struggle to resist is too hard, walm through a doorway or walk around a little, it resets your working memory.
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  723. Thank you so much for this. The medititation session at the end made me cry. Not a sad cry; but a grateful cry. It was the first time I felt like I have the strength needed to confront the hurt that I've been scared of for so long. My fear is like a curtain wrapped around me and your lessons help open my mind and loosen it. Thank you for this enlightment and for helping me and so many others.
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  724. Amazing! I love this! Thank you so much!! ❤
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  725. For once, I don't feel completely miserable while watching one of your videos. My personal life is a complete wreck (think Bermuda triangle stuff where we've lost contact with the whole crew and can't even find any remains of anything) but at least I can hold and maintain a job just fine. I broke out of that cycle a while ago when I decided to raise my standards when it comes to wages and working conditions. It's not a career but at least I can pay the bills and even save up.
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  726. dr k is actually so hilarious
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  727. Bdabdabda - Dr. K (2025)
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  728. Jesus, Dr. K. You continue to drop videos that are so spot-on to the things I’ve been going through that you’re starting to seem like more of a psychic than a psychiatrist. Did the Yogis teach you that, too??? All jokes aside, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You continue to be a beacon of light for me.
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  729. I seriously can't explain how much this channel has been a boon for me and understanding various issues in my life. Genuinely thank you guys (Dr K and team ) so much! 🙏
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  730. Thank you, Dr.K, this is really helpful!
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  731. Okay so I tried this. Couple things. 1.) I'm a metal vocalist so I've been training my false cords, and I think this just unlocked how to Mongolian throat sing (that's a technique I've been wanting to learn) 2.) My tortie cat that doesn't like affection came up and started ROLLING all over me
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  732. Thank you Dr. Kanojia. Your videos have been supplementing my weekly therapy sessions and have added to the tools I need in life.
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  733. I liked the russian accent)
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  734. We practiced dialogue writing. Dialogue conversation is fantastic Dr.K. and still drive the point home.🎉
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  735. Valeu!
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  736. Im active duty military, have been for over 7 years and that mental shift that occurs in bootcamp is profound. I still remember that as a positive experience
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  737. im in this video i like this actually thanks
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  738. Thanks!
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  739. Was just realizing how much I like going out and ‘working on myself’ with going out to places like coffee shops and journaling. Not enough and minimum of actually doing the thing living life
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  740. This video gave me great knowledge to finally shake my final and most difficult vice I’ve been trying to shake for years. I got rid of the weed smoking device. I got rid of the drinking vice, but porn was still lingering around in my brain. I think I might finally be able to master the urge. Thanks!
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  741. The addiction workshop was really helpful. This video is a good reminder/review of what we learned over 10 hrs in the span of 2 days. I still remember the std confession story /example 😞 and with either outcomes of acceptance/rejection we can grow stronger 💪💯
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  742. Thanks!
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  743. Anyone else's Alexa keep popping off during this?
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  744. You’re only as wealthy as you are grateful.
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  745. I'm clinical psychologist and this video helps me improve my skills to helping other, thanks!! 💪👍🙏
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  746. I know you get an insane amount of messages like this one but I still want to share this Thanks Dr. K and the whole team that's supporting you, this content is priceless and always comes at the right time I still haven't found a professional that goes as in depth like you do in explaining the science and mechanisms behind behavior. It's unfortunate For anyone reading this I wish you a wonderful one ♥️
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  747. Very cool, thanks for sharing!
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  748. In the past few months Alok Bhaiya has taught me about my mental health more than anyone ever has. ❤
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  749. It's a year that is - for me - crashing through it's end. Even out there it's scary crash after crash, all at once as ig scurrying to go awry before the year ends. I'm just hoping to get a break with the new year, really. What happened to winter being quiet retreat time? 🥹 So, I'm glad you made a fun recap. That was a sort of tiny break. One of the many I'm also getting myself, like gasps for breath while the water is to the chin but also no kind of end to that state is in sigh. A breath and hold at a time. A breath out and hold at a time.
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  750. It works in gay relationships too 😊
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  751. Thanks!
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  752. @HealthyGamerGG  your guide led me to your discussion on bipolar. I talked to a good psychiatrist and they agreed I have it. It changed my life, so thank you
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  753. Guide for burnt-out team members when? :D
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  754. Thanks!
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  755. You are my self help scammer <3
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  756. If i have to pick only one chanel here for the rest of my life, id choose HG 😊 Thanks to everyone who make this chanel happen ❤. Have a wonderful year 🎉
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  757. We want collar flipped up Dr. K😆🤣
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  758. Kinda reminds me of the thought of going through hell week. You have to keep in mind that it's one minute at a time. It can feel overwhelming if you think and worry about the future obstacles and mission. At least when your going through something like that.
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  759. I loved that but Dr K, please do a whole one with sexy, popped collar Doc (0:32). Loved that one the most! ❤ 😂
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  760. Applying this toward pornography
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  761. 0w0)_b Happy New Year
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  762. Great Cartman impression btw
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  763. This is genius level breakthrough way of thinking. Game changer for me in 2025 Thank you so much for this knowledge Keep going
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  764. I bet you I have a stubborn pride in me somewhere, but I can’t put it to words yet. Good video.
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  765. Wow I always used to listen to him! Such a Fan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  766. As a PM this makes me proud
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  767. I successfully quit methamphetamine and coke after my last OD on febuary 19th 2019. He speaks the truth - seriously, spot on. Just stay away from that stuff man, it's like a monkey on your back.
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  768. When Dr. K was introducing the topic from the members, I was like “hell yeah, that’s a really good one!” Ya’ll got good taste :)
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  769. Another banger from the goat
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  770. Thank you so much Dr. K and all involved in this channel. This is very helpful for my personal battle with anxiety❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥
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  771. I'm reading raise a healthy gamer. It's good.
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  772. 33:11
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  773. This is a gem
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  774. I opened this video with an analytical approach in the hopes I could understand more to make some positive changes and found myself having a reflective and cathartic experience. Thank you for putting all of this wonderful content out. Ive never felt so understood.
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  775. Seriously great advice, just what I needed to make sense out of. Thank you, I wish i had realized this sooner
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  776. I get it, dr k is tech support for my brain. Just turn off and on again
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  777. When he said “watch a little bit of P***!” I instantly liked the video because that comment is beautifully unhinged 😂
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  778. New viewer here. Just diagnosed "moderate to severe" combined type ADHD at 32. I'm a woman who had a teacher as a mother. She keeps telling me that she feels bad that she didn't get me tested earlier. Your explanation of why no one noticed anything until I was 15 makes so much sense.
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  779. Thank you Dr K.
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  780. Leaving this comment is the last thing I do before getting some second most important stuff done. Thx m8, great vid!
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  781.  @HealthyGamerGG  It went great! The to-do list got way shorter since I didn't limit myself saying I would do just one thing. So now I have very few things I have to do, which makes it so I'll be able to do the important stuff today much easier. Since I have some breathing room now, it doesn't feel as bad to force oneself to do one difficult thing ☺
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  782. Thank you for this video. I dont game anymore for a really long time, but I still have these things. I gamed from my 7th to my 15th and I'm now 19. I'm going to write the things down that I want to do tomorrow and split them. That are writing my story and walk to the forest. I'm also gonna try to just think for 5 minutes, but my thoughts are scary, so yesh.
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  783. You nailed it !👍💙⭐️🙋‍♂️🌈
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  784. That last sentence said it all hahaha. Great video.
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  785. This is so good! Thanks Dr. K 😄
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  786. Goddammit Dr K is directing my Biopic here
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  787. Isn't it insane that we get this information for free :)
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  788. That's the strategy that got me through college funnily enough
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  789. music is on point
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  790. Next thing is Dr.K's going to tell exactly what I eat in the next meal without me even realizing it.....
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  791. I had to literally use a lot of will power for this video instead of playing my game but it was worth it❤
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  792. every new video on the HealthyGamerGG channel nowdays is like a work of art , the work that drK puts in, the nice editing and the nice thumbnails, and probably countless other things that i havent noticed, its not that the videos are just nice the information in the videos is A+ and the way drK explains(doesnt go into details if its not important) is perfect. I want to thank everyone who is involved in the HealthyGamerGG channel who made this and many other videos possible I'm very grateful to have this opportunity to learn about these topics and stuff in such a elegant way. KEEP IT UP BOIZ AND GALS!!!!! <3
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  793. Wow! Dead on! 😮
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  794. I need you to stop COMING FOR ME WITH ODDLY RELEVANT VIDEOS Dr. K
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  795. I quit the job, now I'm medicated for ADHD, looking for a job, and the cycle continues, but I'm more optimistic about holding the next job.
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  796. That‘s an awesome Christmas gift ☺️ I will probably become a member some day because you help me a lot and I also just want to use the opportunity to say thank you for what you do ❤️ for now I‘m happy and grateful to get to see this for free because as someone with discouraged BPD I feel like dissolving the ego does A LOT of healing to my mental health. Happy Christmas everyone 🫶
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  797. Thanks! This was so beautiful and I got emotional. This hits so hard
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