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  1. I found out about limerence just yesterday and finally have a word for what I've been experiencing for 15+ years. To make matters worse, I have a strong tendency to develop feelings for attractive women in settings like therapy, rehab or even coachings, basically places where I try to fix other issues that make my life miserable. I've never managed to talk about it with these individuals, causing a chain of misery and despair and unfulfilled needs until I eventually get over it by indulging in addictive behaviours again, like weed, video games, porn. It feels like a never ending cycle. I am aware of my projections on these people, I am aware of setting myself up for pain and disappointment and yet I can't help but keep dreaming because it feels better than facing the reality of a failed life of 30 years and what feels like to me a more dire and hopeless prospect for the future looking at the all the events happening on a global scale. I just hope that I can address these issues soon and get out of this constant cycle that I put myself into and actually start living life instead of spending 95% of my time in my mind.
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  2. This might have been me four or five years ago. Once you get into the habit of acting, things do indeed start turning around.
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  3. Catching the moment is the biggest take away I took from this because it is so relatable. That moment of achievement is never celebrated because it feels foolish to celebrate one step on a long road. All our crap, all our guilt and misunderstood values really can work to destroy our pleasure. I learnt something massive from this video. Thanks DR K
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  4. MY BOOK SHOWED UP TODAY!!😁🤙🏼
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  5. Thank you for all you do Doc K
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  6. Great episode thanks for the uploads mate
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  7. I say all the time to myself "stop thinking and just ACT" but i was never able to listen to myself and "force" it because I figured it would always be a struggle for zero benefit! Exactly!!.... Now that you have laid this out SO CLEARLY to see the growth it will in fact bring, I feel inspired like I have not before... Thank you Dr.
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  8. It's subtle, but Dr. T's tip on breaking things down feels so much more helpful than the usual ADHD advice of breaking down the whole task and then doing the first step. Start with the duration of time you're willing/able to spend first, and then pick something you could meaningfully get done/started in that time. I kind of do that already, but not really consciously. I think some projects I've done would've been a lot easier if I had that in mind whenever I was feeling overwhelmed.
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  9. I'm a psychiatrist. I discovered your content last week and since then, have been watching whenever I can. I really like your approach. I use focusing type meditative practices with some of my patients because it helped me enormously, in my own personal growth. I really like your open ended questioning style, good listening and your authenticity. I work similarly, I worked as an addiction specialist for many years. Since the pandemic, my focus shifted to seeing adults on the autism spectrum, because my life took me there. Many of my patients received a diagnosis, after their child or children were diagnosed. I have a 10 year old daughter who has Autism Level one, with high demand avoidance. I don't know if PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) is recognized as a profile of Autism in the USA? as it is in the UK and here. (South Africa. We tend to call it Extreme Demand Avoidance EDA rather than PDA). It's very tough on families. Your parent coaching course sounds awesome for all families, and essential for PDA.
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  10. I resonate with "addicts work the best on the smartest people". I don't mean to say I'm amazingly smart and my ego is inflated, but I tend to overthink. When I overthink, my brain comes up with new ways to weasel out of the things that I'm supposed to be doing. I wish I knew how to make an "impervious rule" like Dr. K suggests.
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  11. First of all thank you Dr K for offering such a platform to help gamers with problems. I think i am addicted to video games because im not performing on my targeted academic level and i am generally important things like sports, and tidyness of my room behind. So whats the best way to fix this kind of behavior?
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  12. Was just realizing how much I like going out and ‘working on myself’ with going out to places like coffee shops and journaling. Not enough and minimum of actually doing the thing living life
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  13. I used to hate my job because I was desperate for a "better job in programming". I eventually decided to be content with the job I have and focus on the programming stuff as a hobby. Turns out I don't even want to write code for other people, I just really like my personal projects.
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  14. You two together doing videos together is seriously awesome!!!
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  15. I genuinely think this created some new connections in my brain. Towards the end of the video I thought, "There's no way I can sit still for an hour and do nothing" and immediately I recognized and challenged that thought. I almost came up with another excuse as to why I couldn't do it again as I was writing this but blocked it. I think this is going to be a very useful tool for my arsenal. Thanks Dr K!
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  16. As a person with Asian parents this is very much similar to how my parents use to be. Luckily I've been able to tell my parents to have patients an trust it will happen without them needing to push, well my Mom still pushes every now and then, and expect results.
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  17. 2026 is gonna be my year 🤞
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  18. This was sooo eye opening. When I look back upon my past, i didn't even realize how many of my narratives are just mental habits. And I have been doing this for so long. "I'm not going to make it, this is too difficult" (even though I almost always made it), "I can't go to this party, i'm too socially anxious". These are all just narratives that i tell myself and react to immediately. Thank you for this lecture Dr K.
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  19. Listening to this makes me realise how good of a movie Inside Out is. Every other emotion is screaming, but sadness has the controller
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  20. What do you think your Dharma is?
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  21. Thanks BOBBY
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  22. LOOOVEE the haircut Dr. K, looking dapper
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  23. 1:02:08 this was the most wholesome thing to see. Therapists being there for another therapist. How sweet. 💜
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  24. This actually came at a great time. I probably had the worse year at my job so far due to frustrations to the point of seeking out psychiatric assistance. Over the holiday I reflected on my mindset and realized a lot of what made me most upset was out of my control and instead of being upset with management because they won’t do this or they do that, I focused on what I can do. Obviously we’re still early in the year but the change of mindset (and mood stabilizers) is setting a new trajectory to make it better year. “Working harder” to me doesn’t mean trying to stack boxes twice as fast, or finish a report in 3 days instead of 5. It can be as simple as updating your planner to better accommodate last minute task, familiarizing yourself with you product or inventory. Knowing your job better than most people. Thank you Dr.K for all your videos over the year you’ve helped a lot of people.
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  25. I found this video super helpful! I am in the dating pool. And have also struggled with emotional unavailability myself as a woman. I think having a reversed video along side this one would be amazing! Like how do women communicate in a way that stiffles men? how do we learn to meet in the middle etc.
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  26. Start by prioritizing your security. Learn how to savor. Prioritize experiences over possessions. Try to spend some money helping/on other people. One thing that struck me: "if after playing a video game when you go out for a walk and think about how much fun you had, you realize you didn't have fun, and you feel like you just woke up from being passed out after drinking" that's when you're an unhealthy gamer, if you can't savor it, don't play.
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  27. I needed this. I've been sober for almost 2 years. I did all the things that you talked about, and even I went back to school. I'm actually a neuroscience major and doing really well, but I kind of slipped up over winter break because I told myself I deserved it. Fortunately nothing horrible happened, and everything's fine now, but yes, it can insidiously sneak back up on you like that and I see how important it is to remain vigilant, and for me, stay busy. I don't think about it when I'm studying. School is my top priority and science means so much more to me than using, but having over a month of free time with nothing to do kind of took me off guard. I have to remember what a tricky little fucker my nucleus accumbens is. Thanks
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  28. i am really suprised, but yt algorithm suggested me this video and after i watched it, it felt to me like i suddenly understood huge part of my life. the interesting thing is i went through the list of videos on exhaustion and that is the only one i found that didn't recommend physical exercise as only or main solution. i'm glad i have seen this video and channel ♥
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  29. 11:50 Oof! The reality of chasing approval: "I went to Harvard Medical School. And I'm like one of the most famous psychiatrists on the planet. But, I guess... you still need something else"
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  30. I really appreciate the intersection of psychology and spirituality discussions on this channel. I would also love to see videos that address how people with religious trauma specifically can safely navigate these issues. I'm a former member of a cult and a therapist I work with advised against doing any activities that would be reminders of the religious practices from that group, this includes, to some extent, formalized meditation techniques. Although I find a more secularized mindfulness practice be very helpful. More on this topic would be amazing to hear!
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  31. please sub to Dr.K! he's doing a lot of good in the world and helped me a lot :)
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  32. This is legitimately one of the most important, best lectures you could watch on the internet. Dr. K basically went super saiyan during the early membership lectures, felt like he really tapped into a sort of flow I haven't seen since the beginning streams. (edit, grammar)
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  33. Hmm?
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  34. I love you you made me understand how my brain really works and for first time in my life I’m starting to see progress❤️💕
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  35. A small contribution to the psychotherapy revolution. Spread the word, comrade!
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  36. Honestly I needed this video as someone who has quit most of my jobs after initial excitement for the job and as time goes on its like i find things or just there are things that may be negative about it that it keeps getting bigger in my mind until I end up quitting. Looking back, I could have stayed longer at a probably all of them. I could have done something different like change my mindset and look more at the positive and could have done things to make it better for myself and just not sitting in that negative cycle because its not benefiting me at all. I also should apply to things that I like more so and know I'd stay longer at actually like or just have interest in rather than applying to whatever out of desperation and just almost panic at not having a job. Right now, I'm working as a substitute teacher. It's not the most consistent during certain months, but I do like it.
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  37. Thanks for the vid my dude
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  38. I've started looking at almost all of my relationships through this lens. Like my relationship with my career, my dogs, etc. Its been incredibly useful.
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  39. I'd like to compliment the animation during Dr.K's explanation. It's neat and creatively put together.
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  40. This was incredible, please have this man on again.
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  41. Good to see Dr. Honda again. I learned a lot about myself from his deep dives on Schizoid. I'm more comfortable being me now.
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  42. 45:30 "We're gonna tank that boredom damage" absolutely beautiful
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  43. Nice! Glad this won the poll. This stream was by far the most eye-opening one for me ❤
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  44. After I tracked how long it takes to mop the floors, not including vacuuming or picking things up, it is SO MUCH EASIER to start. I know it only takes 10 minutes. And that's totally manageable.
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  45. thanks for all the guidance for the past years. its amazing how your words not only influenced me, but also helped my friends around me. not everyone wants to be a doctorate of their own mental health, but im sure this guide will help to simplify our mental blocks to continue with our life.
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  46. Thanks! I'm 18 today and my life has changed a lot in the past year, and it's in part to you and all the great work y'all do at this channel. Sending lots of love. Hope next year is even better ❤
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  47. So true about the gardening guys being good dudes. Those garden channels are my happy place (shoutout to Huw Richards).
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  48. Somebody streamed the anxiety and I got so much out of it. I can tell what my therapist was trying to do but doing it badly. I started journaling my samskaras and have greatly improved. However I hit a roadblock when I bought the depression course and realized that my depression is probably clinical/neurobiological. Thank you so much Dr k. So many of us in this community are self learners, and I got more out of this course than I did in therapy itself. I'm also more motivated to get back into depression treatment (probably ketamine). Thanks a lot
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  49. This kid's story is basically mine in a nutshell. Really great listen.
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  50. I don’t know if he’ll ever read this, but I recently found your channel and I am absolutely in love with the content. I myself am an aspiring psychiatrist (specifically want to do forensic psychiatry) and these videos help me so much in so many ways. i’ve been diagnosed with bpd and just hearing it explained in a deeply understanding way in a number of Dr. K’s videos is refreshing. i actually find myself putting his videos on while getting ready instead of turning on music lol. very inspiring ❤.
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