Comments by "Goose" (@goose7574) on "2 women talk about alleged abuse after Jeffrey Epstein charged with sex trafficking L Nightline" video.
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@donald johnson
Yup!
Unfortunately I did stuff like that for many years because of what happened to me. Also, because of NOT going to therapy and NOT sharing with my loved ones what happened to me, until I was 31, and 38 weeks pregnant with my one child (a daughter, which I firmly believe was a major trigger), I ended up dating a LOT of terrible and Abusive men (the last one finally being my daughter's father), until I opened up, and went to therapy.
It's true that victims of sexual assault and rape, can carry baggage from their past (and many will), but there's also the other side of the spectrum, where the girls turn into women, and because of there past and not opening up, they haven't learned healthy boundaries with men, and what they are allowed to actually say no too.
I say all this, because there seems to always be somebody who will say a comment like yours. I FIRMLY believe that anytime somebody is a victim of something TRAUMATIC (assault, abuse, rape, Domestic Abuse/violence, etc.), That we need to talk about it in a kind/caring way. Instead of making the victim/survivor feel awful about herself/himself, I think it's better to word it maybe that in order for the survivor to offer the very best life possible, and truly be able to enjoy the future and everybody in it, that seeking therapy is a great idea.
I'm sure that somebody will come after me because of this comment, and... Well, so be it!
If I have to be a voice for victims/survivors, and that in turn means getting shit back for just trying to maybe have people think about things a little bit more gently, than so whatever.
Bring on the hateful comments.
Until ANYONE walks even a quarter mile in the shoes that I had to wear for part of my life, I will NEVER back down, when it comes to sexual abuse/molestation and/or Domestic Violence/Abuse.
Not enough people have the courage to come forward, because it's ALWAYS a life changing event.
It's scary, it's TRAUMATIC, and it's something you want to run away from, but sometimes, you have to run into the fire to save other people. You end up scarred and battered because of it, but very few people will stand up and speakout, so until more people start talking about these horrific things, I'll continue to do what I can, to try to help the rest of the people who've had to walk this very same journey.
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@lgene7232
It was not easy to talk about it. Things happened when I was 4/5-9 years old, by a family member, then raped in HS, and again in college, and I didn't share until I was 31. I blamed myself for MANY MANY years, and was scared the molestation would ruin my family (which it did, because the person pulled away everyone else in their family- which hurt the most). I still have my bad days, because I miss the my "OTHER" family members that I don't get to see now (they are this person's kids).
It's only been 7 years that this has been out, so things are still "emotional."
The biggest blessing, is having the Man that I have in my life now. I finally stopped the cycle of terrible men, with my daughter's father.
This man I'm with now is a true GENTLE-man, but NOT a pussy. I'm just about 6ft tall myself, so...no offense to the smaller stature men, but I prefer a taller, "bulkier" man. I want to feel protected emotionally, and also physically.
I know that this man was brought into my life at the perfect time and will be here for the rest of my life. He's what I've always needed, I just never thought Men like him existed (besides my father, who passed suddenly from a massive heart attack when I was only 20, and my Grandfather and Ucles).
I'm so very thankful that we've found each other, because contrary to what I've been through, I'm not just some pansy-ass woman. I will protect my Man no matter what (unless he cheats or abuses me, then you'd better run... HAHA!). This Man wouldn't ever do that though. I know him, and I know his morals and values and those are nothing he's capable of doing.
Any type of victim, needs to be treated with kindness and compassion through this. If somebody DOESN'T HAVE THE BALLS, OR STRENGTH TO DATE SOMEBODY WITH A PAST, WELL... MAYBE THEY SHOULD JUST BE SINGLE..... FOREVER
EVERYONE HAS A PAST
And some type of skeletons in the closet. This other guy sounds like a really puss himself, for not being able to help a woman through some horrible turmoil. Sounds to me like he's SELFISH*, Just wants the good parts of a relationship, and doesn't want to *EVER have to work on a relationship.
I think we can all agree that relationships take work, and they aren't just full of rainbows, unicorns, football, racecar driving, and BEER!
"I like Beer!" 🍺
I JUST don't like guys like this who are completely unrealist when it comes to relationships. Have a heart... Well... At least try too!
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@lgene7232
You're so right... Friends definitely make the best lovers as well. This was the case when it came to the Man in my life now. Our relationship started out VERY different then most, and without having to go into too much detail, we basically started talking for different reasons, built a friendship/connection, and went from there. We've chosen to take things slow, and I'm so grateful we did. It has made everything that much MORE special this time around, because I wasn't just treated like a piece of meat.
Being almost 40, my life has taught me so much about guys and men. There's a HUGE difference, that's for sure. Just because you're 18+ and a man, doesn't make you a Gentleman.
And trust me, that's what a really woman wants. She doesn't need to be taken care of (financially, physically, etc), she just wants a gentleman to respect her and be kind to her. With those simple things, she.... too, can change that man's life as well, and show HIM what he's been missing.
Trust me on that!
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@donnadavis6190
I'm so very sorry that you had to go through that. I know all too well how that can carry on through life. I can tell you though, that when you meet the right man (or woman), depending on your preference, that your feelings about your past will change TREMENDOUSLY. I met the absolute LOVE OF MY LIFE, about 3 and a half years ago, and what he's added to my life (and my daughter's), is incredible. A love that has no boundaries, and sense of trust, that I never thought existed. He CHOSE to get to know me first. He treated me with dignity and respect, and was A COMPLETE GENTLEMAN about my past. He didn't force anything on me, nor did he degrade me about anything I'd been through.
So many people are quick to judge SOMEBODY who's been through abuse. They don't know "our stories," and so they don't know how true and genuine our hearts are. They don't know, that ALL We want, is to be loved unconditionally, treated kindly, respected and without hurtful words. They also don't know that because of our pasts, that we are some of the strongest women out there. We are woman who will stand by our men no matter what life might throw our/their way (obviously there are some things we will NOT stand for, and any normal person can figure those things out).
Women who've been abused, DESERVE a chance. Some may be scared or worried to go down that road, because they "think" that "that" relationship will be nothing but chaos, hurt, drama, etc., but I can tell you, that when the right *GENTLEMAN*, comes along, that she will bless your life, just as much as you've blessed her's.
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@MsSandhu9
It's so funny how when I use a NON-CARTOON picture, I get all sorts of rude attacks on being female, blonde, *a bimbo*, etc.
But what's really funny, is how YOU'RE the one who's so quick to believe the media... Especially with a Russia being involved with the election(s).
Do YOURSELF A HUGE favor, and look into Google/Facebook and how they are/were the ones who were actually messing with the elections, both in 2016, and in 2018. Also, don't take it from me, or ANY NEWS NETWORK for that matter, because I GUARANTEE YOU, you won't see much with the left-wing news outlets, go straight to YouTube and watch the full 3-6 hour hearings, to find out EXACTLY what I'm talking about. I do my own research and DON'T rely on just the NEWS to report. Anybody who thinks that either side of the isle ISN'T going to be semi-bias, is fooling themselves. So, I go straight to the source and figure it out.
Lastly, I've never said anything to YOU, having to do with your sex, ethnicity, etc.
Funny how the left is so quick to call Republicans/Conservatives all the hateful names they want, but then when you actually stop and look at what they're doing...
Well, I don't think I need to finish that sentence now do I?
Have a great night/day, wherever you are...*Ms Sandhu*
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