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  3. ​ @ZionSairin  You must take what you did further to get more than "nothing." Art EDU gives the wrong impression that being an artist with their work sold by a gallery is the only way to succeed as an artist. As a gallery artist, this piece would represent a collection of perhaps twenty pieces similar to it. If you have that many, then you can photograph them and go to a gallery and the gallery will sell them all to you and ask for more - especially recently large non-representational abstract artwork is in demand. The inspired creation of the art itself is only perhaps 25% of the art "business." (As is being an awesome composer is only 20% of the success of being a musician - who have an even harder time succeeding than artists!) One of the cool things about being ADHD multi-talented is you can shape your raw talents to amplify your preferred activities within your own business design. Some of these "business designs" of how to make a living off of what you make are codified - like a franchise. But perhaps the one you prefer isn't, so you need to design it yourself. You must strategically get a benefit from your art, which will be just as creative as the art itself. For instance, someone I know loves the subject of animals - She house-sits and her house-sitters pay her not only for house-sitting but also they buy a portrait of all their pets that she paints for them - she gets a paid place to live AND paid for her art! A drawing can be the first part of many forms. Now that you have this drawing, you can sell it to someone else as a plan for a larger work. Consider it the awesome plan for a much larger work - expand it and make it into a 3D sculpture, a mural on a building, etc. This way the drawing becomes a sales presentation for you to get a huge bunch of $$ upfront, half on completion. It could become a personalized greeting card, a "big business card" that makes you memorable to others. Anyway - now that you've made something you know is valuable - run with it!
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  59. OK, why do lawyers say: Don't talk to authorities without a lawyer present? Now imagine all the stuff you say when you imagine nobody is listening, but in fact, you are being recorded. Think of all the sarcastic, double meaning "funny" stuff you have said. If you ever imagined meeting a really rich person and falling in love, they wouldn't have anything to do with you if you hadn't protected your privacy. The way you click on Terms of Service without reading - you wouldn't ever realize it if you're doing things that are against the agreement! Do you want your health insurers to have your health history and info about all of your possibly unhealthy habits such as how often you exercise, what you eat, the fat or sickly people you hang out with, etc.? How about your car insurance prices? Your landlord? The people who are about to loan you lots of money? What if you, unknowingly, happen to know someone who knows a terrorist, a gang member, a mafia member? You don't know any of that, but you've been profiled and you won't be able to do anything about your status at the airport about it. Would you like to be only shown things that cater to people who you've been type-cast with, when you're deliberately searching outside of your own 'caste?' What if your next employer doesn't like something you said online expressing an opinion that is political and so doesn't hire you? What if you're a writer or an activist and want to research things that you're never going to do but must know to do to create a story? Do you want it to be a matter of record that you were interested in "objectionable content?" But it's stuff that you need for your journalism or story writing... Anyway, I'll stop this list, but perhaps you get the idea now why privacy is worth fighting for What do you think now?
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  149. After reading "Language, Thought & Reality" by Whorf... It was the first book where I could understand the words, but it took me much study to wrap my head around its content. Hopi verbs have TWO forms of their tense, named: "Objective" and "Subjective." The 1st "Objective" verb category means: What people together can witness moment by moment. (So if you can see something behind your friend, you had to use the Subjective tense.) What you personally perceive doesn't exist for everyone just because you perceive it - as "Reality" does in English. 2nd: The "subjective" verb form: Whoever listens will have to believe your report - despite what you say not existing for them. With this "scientific objectivity," Hopi might seem like a serious language of physicists and mindfulness...But in everyday life, I heard that Hopi people often laughably tease each other by saying entertaining, wild stuff they supposedly verify is true for them. If you wonder...how do "tenses" happen in Hopi? Huge categories of verb modifiers - modifiers that Whorf said gave a unique sense of relative time - not "factual time." Example: (as I understood the book) if you wanted to say: "Usually, I intend to run every morning for my strength, please join me," A Hopi literal word-for-word example translation with Hopi sentence structure would be: (subjective form:) I'm intending, I'm running, (then verb modified words:) daily, rhythmically, strongly, dawning and (still subjective form) we are running (verb modifier:) together. For awhile I tried to use English words and re-order them the way I understood Hopi does - it really stretched my brain!
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  164. I'm with someone who sounds like you describe yourself. The friends I've in adulthood made usually started in context of an event or a "service" they performed for me or I did for them. Or I met them in a volunteer situation, or a class or workshop where we saw each other multiple times without being focused on each other. Later the way I really became friends happened because I was careful to continue to contact them in various intervals over and over. Everyone seems to have an interval of time to contact them repeatedly that they're comfortable with... which is a different interval for each person. For instance, someone mentioned their friends and family called them on Sunday...so I started to call on Sunday once a month. It worked! Now they call me from time to time on Sunday. The other thing is - the guy I'm with who is expressive like you describe yourself is really lousy at returning brief contacts with people who indicate to him that they might want to do something with him. It's like he's got only a category for "best family level friend" and not a category for "acquaintance" or "in process of becoming more of a friend." He tends to sort of "use" people as a way to try out his own internal thinking of what he's building or problem solving...instead of asking about the other person's concerns. Maybe since you're part of a couple, try doing things as a foursome such as a dinner, barbeque or a campout overnight? Later for me, bonding happened where the four of us found someone else to help that we could do together to benefit them. It was a gradual, interesting progression as we found other things to do together besides stand around with alcohol in our paws.
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  210. The best book on this gender differences in speaking style that I've read was: "Talking 9-5" By Deborah Tannen, Ph.d Linguistics. So - there are exceptions to every categorical generalization, of course. As a female, I physically I did not "fit into" any group because of being much taller. The "female" style of speech wasn't my only choice. What shaped that in my upbringing is that most girls are programmed to be trained to pay attention to future children who need their attention by being routinely interrupted by their parents. I was allowed to focus and not interrupted as a child - like a boy. Plus, I had lots of time with a retired father. As I matured, I got that men had another speaking style culturally. So if I wanted to get along with a man in an intimate relationship and be able to communicate with him, I had better learn this male speech culture. It's tricky to know and get practice articulating what you think, when your female role is to listen to a man. A guy who constantly controls the auditory space with their own determination of topic, pace and a "ranting" sort of speaking style - challenging. How do you ever get a chance to speak when your conversationalist's speaking style forces you to make an awkward interruption to say anything? You'd tend not to talk at all. What helped me most was joining a David Bohm style dialog group (30 people or so) - During the dialog I took notes to help me remember what I wanted to contribute on the fly. This helped me learn continuity of memory - so I could be a better listener and I wasn't just repeating to myself what I wanted to say so I didn't forget it.
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  327. Here's an outline with time stamps...for your educational pleasure! 1:00-1:25 “Is putting your activities online the new way to “Win Friends and Influence People?” 1:45 Bigger picture – what data privacy can effect 2:00 Weaponization Who is using your data against you and why are they spending billions to do so? 3:10 Some examples of harm & advantage – 1st one: Insider trading at Tesla Auto builders 4:10 As in the movie: Minority Report – Pre-Crime system in a gang database tracking system 5:29 A woman who had applied for a high level job at an investment firm, why she was denied. 6:40 People arguing in public view on their own Facebook accounts 7:45 Military simulated a doxing, hacking and disinformation as a significant distraction to war. 8:47 Rob’s predicted: Cambridge Analytica influenced elections via Micro-targeted marketing.” 10:30 License Plate scans & facial recognition on freeways and traffic intersections in Los Angeles. Then, as a wrap up, a list of what’s collected and indexed on even “boring” people 11:37 “This is good” says Church Minister. 11:50 YOU may be “Angelic,” but a family member or someone else connected to you could act objectionably. 12:15 Unconstitutional actions are “off-loaded” to private companies. Tech in existence now merely has to be turned away from advertising use toward tyrannical purposes. Tyrant dangers. 13:10 Social Media Score – in China, this is already active. (pointed out in comments: Just like TV series: Black Mirror, Season 3 Episode: titled: Nose Dive.) 14:00 Future segments by Rob will dig into how to stop each unique type of data collection. (What would YOU like Rob to investigate next?) Stay tuned to this channel and learn how to get your privacy back!
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  368. ​ @MrYoungzay  ...then your invention will be bought - and shelved by the competitor of your invention who has much to lose if the invention is successfully manufactured and distributed as it was designed. Your patent is only as secure as the money you can invest to defend it, unfortunately. But I don't think these sorts of injustices are limited to the USA. The French had long-term ongoing activist demonstrations every weekend in 2018-19 protesting large corporations being paid by public taxation for transitioning to "cleaner" manufacturing. This is why the "Carbon Tax" is going to happen in the USA - a similar solution. It's also why the reasons for these ongoing French demonstrations were kept out of the US news. Carbon Taxation is a corporate scam splendidly justified by pseudo-environmentalists who say it's a "Climate Change" solution - people aren't going to realize what Carbon Tax really represents because of this "doublespeak." Essentially, the Carbon Tax will be paid by the public in the form of "subsidies" to the Corporations who stand to lose out as alternative energy is developed and implemented. The Corporations who benefit, will then pass on their (subsidized) increased costs to their buyers as a business expense - so the Corporations will get double benefits. Those corporations believe they need to get paid to make the transition to "green" energy solutions. Otherwise, these big companies aren't going to allow the progress of environmentally cleaner power and manufacturing to happen. Just as they have been buying and shelving any invention threatening their business...for decades.
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  487. This quote from Godwin: "How did someone do what they did?" "What are you already training to do?" hmmmm - Perhaps it would also help us all if we could focus on how perception, practice and training works - and what makes "directed practice" work faster and easier? Daniel Coyle's "Talent Code" work comes to mind, here's a synopsis of Coyle's book on practicing: https://thepowermoves.com/the-talent-code/ (Coyle also has a blog, but it's examples are mostly sports oriented. I did enjoy how Coyle made a differentiation between practice that has a "right way" with existing examples to emulate, as opposed to practice that develops original creative ability to improvise and respond to new situations, like comedy, skateboarding and invention.) We need to be able to learn, unlearn, to calm our expectations with their alarms about unfamiliarity and learn again - during the course of our whole lives! When Godwin mentioned different types of criticism, from the right people: Maybe we need to regard critical thinking as only the "black hat" of a whole thinking skill process ability that is learnable? (Maybe Edward de Bono's work is worth resurrecting? CORTthinking.com) Also, I enjoyed how Godin is discussing about most of us don't get how important staying with the process is - we're myopic as a culture. Only some of us get benefits from cumulative practice. Even then, we compartmentalize things literally, ignore process and don't "get" the abstracted benefits of how we can apply what we learn in one field to another. Without the ability to discover what makes any process valuable and apply new processes, as a culture and individually, we're never going to "wise up." Things are now changing too fast to get by on what we already "know," now matter how extensive our "knowledge" was. It's crafting abstracted processes that have value because those processes can be repeated.
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  599. Do you have a "favored" way of getting into a flow state?? These days as a trigger to get into flow I use Alexander Technique - it's a discipline about how you can respond to go into action with less effort. The mindfulness "practice" of A.T. gets us into a state of flow as a by-product - you can use your sharpened senses in any skill that you'd like to better. The longest period I've inhabited a state of flow was once for four straight days. I was an adolescent and went to classes, I did everything in this altered state of consciousness. I had learned that what made it come to an end was heavy-handed analysis or pondering something from my past or trying to second-guess what someone thought about what I was doing. As long as I imagined myself as a witness and continued to make the observations of the present now, the state continued. I was really interested in these "triggers" that were outlined, thanks! My triggers had nothing to do with physical challenges. Although when in a state of flow once I was able to run indefinitely without getting tired in scorching heat - for the pure joy of it. Fortunately, some people had their sprinklers on, LOL. My triggers for entering into a state of flow was to first interrupt and suspend my internal dialog as a discipline. My goal was to stop narrating and talking to myself for as long a time as possible. However long I could stop it - then I'd become aware and completely absorbed in my environment. For me, what happened next was an appreciation of beauty. Natural beauty, the beauty of people and how they move, how they're shaped, their voices, guessing intention without imagining anyone was doing something nefarious. I could look at cars or buildings with curiosity about what someone's intention was when they made it the way they designed it. I guess this means my biggest means of access to flow - for me it's the category of awe.
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  716. Observed, accepted and re-described my weird style of doing things. The issue for me was I wasn't going to EVER become a specialist. Redefined myself as a "multi-talent." Once I did that, I fell into a book: "Refuse to Choose" by Barbara Sher - which gave me templates to accommodate the strange ways I seemed to want to get work done. Ways that weren't used by other people...who weren't "like me." I accepted that being able to "hyper-focus" was not like how other people worked - and so I NEEDED to accommodate myself and not demand I become like others or demand others needed to accommodate me. My best hack was to figure out a way to have 5 projects in process at the same time - so I didn't have to choose between making it a huge non-stop priority or stop doing it so I could cleanup in order to accommodate other things like eating, other people's requirements etc. Here's what I figured out: I made huge shelves - table-sized - then set up (multiple) projects on a huge table-sized board that I put on any table work area, (even my bed.) When the rest of the family needed the table, (or I needed my bed) - I slid the board with everything set up on it into my huge shelves. Then after the "table" area had been used for family (or roommate) purposes - I could slide my project, still already set up, ready to go!! Then at the end of the night, I would slide the project into my shelves. This allowed me to continue when I had the next block of time to work on my "passions." The advantage was this strategy worked even when this meant I had only two hours...which would have been usually absorbed in the setup and put away process if I hadn't accepted and accommodated my odd ways of working on multiple things at once. All it took to do with was multiple tools and a HUGE set of shelves!
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  746. Since I was touch-deprived, I realized I had to "train" other people how it was OK to touch me and that I enjoyed non-sexual touch and needed to be touched. How I did this: (Before Covid) people could touch anyone socially on their forearm without it being considered "sexual." For people who you did not know, it probably is best to do that when you're saying goodbye. Then they know that no response from them is necessary other than to tolerate you touching them. Show them how you treat friends you do know. Demonstrate to them by letting them see you touching and hugging those people you already know who are you "recognized good friends." Then they will understand that touching is the way you indicate to others they have attained the status of "Your Friend." I've noticed that cashiers will always slightly touch me when they hand me my change. I sometimes comment on it with them and tell them how much I appreciate any "accidental" contact from another human. This is a good strategy if someone happens to touch you in any way - tell them how much you appreciate being touched and why! Another thing to remember is that you don't have to touch others with your hands. Bump them with your shoulder, tap their shoe with your foot as an emphasis when you're talking; snuggle your foot under their leg to warm up your popsicle toes when you're barefoot on a couch. You can also nudge them with your elbow as an extension of "talking with your hands." In fact, elbows are a nice way to non-sexually touch in our Western culture because most people consider "elbowing" someone to be a sort of "get out of the way" thing. When you don't use your elbow like that, it surprises people a bit. ...But don't touch Asian people on the tops of their heads. I've been told it's a cultural insult.
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  796. I'm looking back over my life in retrospect. This description in this video fit me well. I thought of being "genius material" as a disadvantage in school. It was having to writhe in agony while the rest of the class repeated endlessly what I had already learned. By the first three weeks of school, I had learned the entire year of lessons - just by reading all the textbooks. I'd like to relate my solutions, because a description of the problems here are only beginnings. For me, rather than being a specialist, I had to recognize that I was innately a "generalist." Meaning - I was someone with many talents and interests that could not be satisfied by an "umbrella" solution that integrated many of these diverse interests. Some essential talent I had was always left out. Like a gremlin, a left-out talent would swamp me, demanding center stage at an inconvenient time. I learned, rather than being a "diver-specialist," it was better for me to have a "learn & teach" as a purpose. Or, it worked for me to "learn & make up a biz with what I learned for awhile to fund my efforts as I learned more." My "smarts" were then focused on how to pull off doing what I wanted to do. Mostly I did this by going in the 'back door" rather than the "front door" of the livelihood. (Because I had no financial support, other than one four-year college scholarship.) Some solutions that worked the best for me throughout my life: First off, studying thinking as a skill specifically, (via Edward de Bono.) De Bono gave me strategic design skills that were useful my entire life - and still are, (now that I'm older.) Then I studied how to get benefits from practice & mastery - from Aikido. Something I did NOT know how to do because I resisted establishing routines...because I assumed I didn't need to practice because I was so smart...(!) I later learned, "he who practices, improves." I thought I only needed an "epiphany" & that insight was everything. Epiphanies are a glimpse, then you have to learn as everyone else does - because brains can only take in so much unfamiliarity at a time. Then, studying communication skills. One of the problems for "genius" level people is they "get it" so quickly, they have no idea how others can understand what they merely "get." So geniuses have lots of trouble to explain their processes and innovations to others. Communication ability is necessary to convince others to invest in my ideas, models or solutions or to hire what I have to offer. What was most useful to me was to study dialogue skills - Nowadays I'd use "World Cafe`" as a model. Maybe "leadership" or just plain "speaking skills." At the time, I also started studying a physical discipline that nobody had ever wanted to explain in words - and I had to work at it. Try explaining dance moves - it was that tricky. I got to be on the leading edge of that discipline for a bit. My best move was to adopt a series of mentors. (Actually, I'm still working on a book about how to find and cultivate a mentor - and how to attract apprentices if you'd like to pass on your experience.) There were a number of advantages to the mentor/apprentice relationship. Whenever I got interested in some field of study or business or a skill - I'd find someone who I considered to be the "best" in it - and I'd get as close to them as possible and act like a sponge. If not them personally, then the people who were closest to them - who were people who often had more time to pay attention to my endless questions. I tried to make myself useful to my mentors - and it usually worked. Until I trained at my third livelihood and dropped it, I didn't realize how the learning of something itself was valuable to me. I often didn't enjoy having finished learning and now had to "set up shop" to actually do it because it became "just a routine" at that point - and the usual model so often didn't fit my other needs of lifestyle or associates. Adopting mentors helped me get a whole picture of what I was really getting into before I went through the sometimes expensive training to do so. One of my mentors was Barbara Sher - author of a series of books on doing what you love. Sher made me realize that there were some activities I enjoyed much more than others, that weren't connected to academia or other subjects. (She wrote some amazing books with useful exercises for discovery.) These insights of what I loved doing became categories - "touch-stones" for my supposed "divergent" interests. Once I figured what my interests had in common, then their differences didn't seem all that unrelated. I had a new sense of purpose instead of random dilettantism. And, off I went into an ever-more-interesting mix of lifestyles, skills, environments and people that was entirely much more gratifying than anything I was ever exposed to in school. Anyway - hope you got something useful from my story of my life experience.
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