Comments by "Michelle Lam" (@michellelam5268) on "HealthyGamerGG" channel.

i haven’t finished the video yet but i wanted to share some initial thoughts. i feel like a lot of shame about being a virgin stems from this pressure to participate in hook up culture. im 20 years old, turning 21 soon and i was having a conversation with a close friend of mine where we both were expressing our frustrations about how dating and establishing a real connection is impossible bc all anyone ever wants is sex. i remember when i was 18 in my first year of university and i felt this massive insecurity telling this guy that i was interested in that i was a virgin. i felt in part it was bc i was surrounded by a lot of my friends who were very involved in hookup culture and while they never pressured me to be involved, i always felt a slight bit of judgement from their ends (they aren’t my friends anymore lol not bc of that reason but just life). now being in my fourth year of university, i rly dont care about what anyone thinks about me being a virgin. random side note that i found kinda funny but relatable for any Gen z-ers, it was this post that went like the dating scene for Gen z: First base: sex second base: holding hands Third base: meeting each others parents idk i feel like it’s so much easier to find sex than a real connection w ppl nowadays so when ppl tell me they are or aren’t a virgin, i could care less. i don’t rly bother to ask about ppls sex lives unless they have STI’s or STD’s (basically the only factor that concerns me is if it’ll affect my health)
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the topics of dr k’s recent videos have been resonating rly well w me lately. i appreciate seeing other ppl who struggle w the same issues. logically, i know i am not alone and that the issues im experiencing are more common than not, but to hear it he verbalized is very validating. thank you dr k for making daily videos!!!
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this is a random question, but does anyone know how to come on as a guest for Dr.K's videos? i find his advice super helpful and practical and i wanna come on and ask him questions lol
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i love the way dr k breaks this down!!! it makes so much sense. i have a question though; are anxiety and lack of confidence the same thing? for example, i find myself always being anxious at school. i am intelligent and do well in school. i have good time management skills and i am very passionate about the program/subject matters at my university. but whenever i have a project, i get super anxious even tho ik my track record has showed me that i’ve done well.
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1000%. im in my early 20s and seeing my generation and the effects of tiktok as well, many young ppl resort to these apps for parasocial relationships. like u said, it gives them a sense of security
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i had a conflict with a friend last night and after the initial conversation, i realized i left the conversation valuing the harmony of the situation over my boundaries. i agree with dr k that it’s always important to revisit the conversation if the issue is not fully resolved
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@biblemansings thank you!!!
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honestly reading the comments section makes me feel so validated and less alone. i’m 22 turning 23 and im just finishing up my final year of teachers college. i feel more lost in my personal life than career, but i also can’t imagine myself working full time for the rest of my life. i am in my last year so im gonna finish but then after that im gonna take a break and really find myself
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i have given my parents more than enough empathy. i went to 8 months of therapy to improve myself and attempt to heal myself all the while having compassion for the sacrifices they have made for me and the struggles they have gone through to immigrant to this country. i have had dinner conversations with my mom. we went out to restaurants together to talk things through. at one point, i even moved out to a government subsidized housing in attempt to mend our relationship but was forced to move back home due to having my place broken into 3 times. i forgave my mom for a lot of things, and maybe she does love me, but i have realized that her love can only goes as far before she puts my brother before me. my brother has emotionally abused me and has made it clear that he wants nothing but the worse for me. when i was at one of my lowest points mentally, he turned my entire family against me and told me that id be miserable forever and hopes my depression consumes me. he even tried to physically hit me a couple of times (luckily i didn’t allow that to happen). my mom has always said that she would protect me from anyone who tried to hurt me or has hurt me, but funny enough, she will excuse my brother from his wrongdoings and act as if im not on the verge of going to a mental institution. im sorry for the long winded rant, i have been doing my utmost best to stay positive and to move out as well. im 21 and have enough saved up for a car and i am in the process of job searching so i have income to pay rent.
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i love dr k’s take and how much nuances he offers in perspective that a lot of ppl don’t consider. whether we like to admit it or not, a lot of us see things as black and white. for me, i have been struggling with depression and anxiety since dec 2021. however, my lowest WAS dec 2021 where i was bed ridden for the month and didn’t eat or sleep. i was suicidal at one point in April and June but i also am self aware so i have been in active therapy since Jan 2022. i reached out to my doctor in dec 2021 tho and he referred me to a psychiatrist so the wait time was quite a while but it helped me though. i also binge watched a lot of self help videos bc i can’t afford a therapy that specializes in trauma at the moment (im in university and trying to buy a house and car soon…hopefully i can secure myself a safe space by next year) so i go to free therapy but bc it’s government funded, it’s not the best but it definitely has helped!!! i will always say to ppl that u need to surround urself w friends, family, and ppl who are not ur “yes man”. u need ppl who will treat u with the right amount of compassion but to not constantly validate u and reassure u but encourage u to help urself. ofc it’s good to have a strong support system at ur lowest points but to become co dependent is a whole diff situation
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im late to this interview but i wanted to applaud JT for sharing his story and being so open (i haven’t finished watching the video yet but wanted to share some initial thoughts). im 20 years old and in my last year of university, and life has hit so incredibly hard this year. i got diagnosed with depression, suffer from PTSD, was and still continue to grieve the loss of someone who committed suicide in June, and was forced to quit 2 of my jobs due to workplace racism/discrimination (i quit by choice but i use “forced” moreso bc it was a toxic workplace environment and i already wasn’t in a good mental state). the most powerful thing my therapist told me is that nobody ever had their life all figured out. just when we think we do, life throws us another curveball. i went into fourth year thinking i had everything all planned out. i fast tracked all of my courses by taking summer school in my previous years (i did this in part bc my university has this issue with getting students into their required courses despite that they are mandatory to graduate lmao which usually results in ppl graduating late) but i still decided to drop a course and push it to summer school bc of my mental health. although my course load is pretty light this year, i knew one more course was gonna tip me over the edge so i dropped it. i know it may lead to me taking summer school or prolonging the completion of my undergrad, but it is necessary for me to recover. whoever is reading this and may feel behind in life, know that life is not a race. take it at your own pace bc life happens and we all can’t predict what will happen next. sending lots of love🫶🏻
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lmfaoooo i love the scenarios and how chat responded😂😂😂it’s so funny and wholesome
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