Comments by "POO CRAYON" (@poocrayon4588) on "Couples Therapy But The Therapist Is 7 Years Old | Kid Theory" video.

It's not a big deal to anyone not a teenage girl obsessed with social media
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I think at this point with the divorce rate over 50% and near 90% of divorces initiated by the woman for no fault reasons - coupled with the fact child custody and assets are not affected by who wants to leave the marriage or is at "fault" for it ending, we all just need to admit that marriage as women want it today is a undesirable life and future for men to enter into. The reality is if women want to initiate divorce at such high rates and not have the law reflect fault in custody and assets splits - marriage law and the concept of marriage as we know it is made unsustainable by womens natural (?) desire to leave marriages at such greater rates than men - and their expectation to be provided for after this event (of their choosing).
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I think at this point with the divorce rate over 50% and near 90% of divorces initiated by the woman for no fault reasons - coupled with the fact child custody and assets are not affected by who wants to leave the marriage or is at "fault" for it ending, we all just need to admit that marriage as women want it today is a undesirable life and future for men to enter into. The reality is if women want to initiate divorce at such high rates and not have the law reflect fault in custody and assets splits, then marriage law and the concept of marriage as we know it is made unsustainable by womens natural (?) desire to leave marriages at such greater rates than men - and their expectation to be provided for after this event (of their choosing).
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Modern marriage is brutally unfair to men.
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@amyli092 Modern marriage is modern marriage law coupled with the reality of the divorce rate and the divorce initiation rate by gender. The initial reason for the marriage matters far less than the reality of what happens after it has occurred. I think at this point with the divorce rate over 50% and near 90% of divorces initiated by the woman for no fault reasons - coupled with the fact child custody and assets are not affected by who wants to leave the marriage or is at "fault" for it ending, we all just need to admit that marriage as women want it today is a undesirable life and future for men to enter into. The reality is if women want to initiate divorce at such high rates and not have the law reflect fault in custody and assets splits, then marriage law and the concept of marriage as we know it (modern marriage) is made unsustainable by womens natural (?) desire to leave marriages at such greater rates than men - and their expectation to be provided for after this event (of their choosing).
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@rene3759 Of course marriage is a cultural construct whats your point? The very idea of gender equality which influences your modern thought on marriage is a cultural construct too. Do you think saying that makes you sound clever? What is natural is wanting to protect both the life you build and your life with your children - and so "cultural constructs" like marriage are born. And always will be. After all if both you and the other parent of your children want to live with and raise their own children all the time the only real way to do that is by living together. Marriage is a construct of law which covers both children and assets and always has been. There does need to be a total revamp of marriage laws - it was women who campaigned for no fault divorce laws surrounding both custody and assets and it is women who initiate divorce the majority of the time - that isn't respect or partnership it's using one partner for children and finance for a time then dumping them and expecting to be rewarded for it. And it's useless and unfavourable to men. And it's wrong for women to expect men to enforce those laws. It doesn't bother me if women don't want to get married, if that's how they feel they shouldn't. What they shouldn't do however is get married then divorce because they loose the feels and expect men to provide for them after the fact or expect primary custody. That doesn't work for men sister.
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@astolat2262 Your mistaken, the fault system of alimony was created to support housewives whose husbands dumped them. The non fault system of alimony was created by feminist and womens groups who saw it as a womans right to take the kids and still be provided for by her husband even if she choose to dump him for totally selfish or vapid reasons. The feminist system may have piggybacked off the earlier male made laws which sought to protect the housewives but the addition of no fault plus women's inclination to want divorce at such a greater rate makes the two systems (no fault and fault) quite different. We will never achieve gender equality because gender equality has no meaning, because the sexes are different. Even if you have a law applied equally across gender such as a standard custody law - if one sex chooses to use that law more than the other it will still favour the inclinations of one sex over the other and so be unequal. This applies to many things in society not just marriage and custody laws. Even if we could achieve gender equality (and we can't because it's a meaningless idea) unless you totally oppose the idea of one parent staying at home more than the other and want to force both to work equal time and spend equal time parenting, you would still need a way to protect the stay at home spouse if they were left suddenly and had no immediate income - whether that was under a fault or no fault system they will still always need some form of protection under law.
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@socialdistancingon8333 I didn't say it was out the blue for no reason, I said they were deciding it at far greater rates than men and because of this marriage laws which don't take into account who wants the split are brutally unfair on men. It's like entering a business deal with a methhead you know will break it after sinking your entire lifes effort and emotion and capital into said deal, why would you? Let's be real if men were initiating divorce at far greater rates than women you and other women would all be talking about how sexist it was and wanting different laws and the last thing you'd be doing is blaming women for causing men to divorce them, but because it's women doing the divorcing of course to you it somehow must be the fault of men. That's feminist thinking for you, anything that is bad, even when it's women doing it, must have men as the root cause. Take some responsibility.
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@socialdistancingon8333 "take responsibility" is directed at women as a whole to take responsibility for the high divorce rate and the laws which are agreeable to them (because they're initiated and wanted by them) but not for men. And to realise that isn't a fair or equal situation. Laws must change because women want divorce so much more so entering into marriage with these no fault custody and asset laws doesn't work for men. I don't think it's too much to ask for a little legal protection if your dumped by your spouse (or live in partner) so that the one who is being left recieves the greater settlement. Especially when they supposedly love you. After all why do women need to reserve the legal right to dump their partner for any reason and be rewarded for it? They believe they are owed it but in reality aren't. The fact they want this right and use it so often is what makes this whole situation worthless for men. After all women have asked for and demanded all kinds of legal protections in marriage and relationships in the past from the law.
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@wwxx23 What do you expect? Therapists have no actually skills they're just glorified school counselers
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