Comments by "Fangroth" (@Fangroth) on "Why A Growing Number Of American Men Have No Friends At All" video.
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I don't miss having friends.
My mother likes to be left alone. My father couldn't stay quiet at home he always needed to go out and talk to friends.
I'm more like my mother. My younger sister is more like my father. She constantly needs to speak to people and make new friends and connections.
It depends on the person.
My sister graduated. I didn't.
However, she gave up on her field of work, which was computer engineering, to work on the field more dedicated to helping people with depression in our country, Portugal.
I work on a minimum wage job in the UK.
From the 2 of us, it's me who's helping financially my mother. My younger sister doesn't earn enough. It barely covers her expenses.
Having studies, friends, and connections doesn't automatically translate into financial success.
I used to have 2 best friends.
One believed in communism and was always depressed. Me and the other friend were the ones who always had to cheer him up.
I had enough of him after he started developing feelings for my younger sister and started bashing her with emails for not paying enough attention to him.
The other friend ceased to talk with me over time.
The online games provided the company he needed.
I tried hanging out with my younger sister group of friends. They were 10 years younger than me.
We went out to cinemas, hung out, and went to birthday parties.
I don't miss it.
I feel like I always have to put a mask when I'm with others. Be the socially acceptable version of myself. Say the right things, pretend I'm having fun, pretend I'm laughing at something when in reality I don't find it funny at all.
Unfortunately, the reality is that some people are just normally charismatic while others are naturally introverted and tend not to be as interesting as others. Women sense that.
More than a decade ago me and my younger sister and I were with a group of acquaintances, and on that table, it was clear who was the guy who was drawing more female interest during that conversation.
It is what it is.
These days, my co-workers provide me with all the social interaction I need. Honestly, by the end of the day, I just want to go home and be alone.
Unfortunately the internet provides too much from the comfort of your home.
In my case, if I need people to play a game, I just need to login a online game like World of Warcraft, and there's thousands of players available 24/7. If I need life advice there's the men channels like this one. You learn, and you can comment with other people.
I don't need a television like I used to when I was a kid. Youtube provides everything I want without being subjected to having to watch programs I don't want until the one I want comes.
In other people case they have social media and online friends. If they want to date there's the dating apps.
What's happening at the moment is a direct result of societal changes caused by technology.
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