Comments by "j0elsuf" (@SirJoelsuf1) on "The Rise Of Incels: A Generation Of Sexless Men" video.

Yeah. That's why I don't take Cole too serious. Love the production of his content, but none of it has much substance. This kid never had to deal with any REAL adversity and it shows. A lot.
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This whole thing just tells me that we're seeing the beginning of all the horrible secondary effects of social media and other ways of mass communication. It's bringing out the perpetual angsty high schooler in nearly all of us. Those who will proper will be able to control social media and not let social media control them.
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I'm a pretty meh looking dude and because of that, I only really expect to get with meh looking chicks. Makes me glad I'm as old as I am. If I was just a decade younger I don't know how things would be. And I'm not a fan of Betterhelp and honestly, not a big fan of modern therapy as it is. It uses way too much jargon and next to none of it is truly useful. I've seen right around 30 different therapists in my life. That's a lot of time and money wasted from therapist after therapist who were like "oh you have ____, take these pills for it." REAL therapy is done when you understand that you have a deck stacked against you and ENJOYING it. Everything changes when you do that.
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lol I agree. It isn't complicated at all. It's like learning how to bowl, play golf, or play poker. There are certain fundamentals that you need to possess and that's about it. The stuff you listed are some of them, I want to put down three more: 4. Learn people skills. How to talk to a total stranger as if you knew them for 5+ years. Best way to do this is to work a sales job for three months. And I mean a REAL sales job: Selling cars, appliances, etc. There are so many boys who don't know how to do this because they're just dicking around online all day trying to see how many lulz they can seek. 5. Organize your expectations, desires, and assumptions of yourself and with chicks. Especially assumptions holy sh1t. Make sure they are HEALTHY and not based on stupid nonsense. NO, that single mom doesn't automatically want you to take care of her kids. NO, that sorority chick isn't going to automatically shoot you down cuz you're not in a frat. NO, not every chick you come across is a raging bra burner who will accuse you of sexual assault after you wave at her. 6. Get TF out there. 16 to 20 per week. ANY chick you are attracted to. THAT is how many chicks a dude who is REALLY interested in improving their love/sex life should shoot for. Love how these dudes go "ZOMG I can't find any chicks!1!1!!1!1" then I ask them "well how many have you invited somewhere last week?" Their answer? Like 5 PER YEAR. Unbelievable.
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That doesn't really replace sex tho
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I'm only 4 years younger than you and if I discovered online dating 15 years ago instead of 10 years ago, I would have STDs they wouldn't have names for lol. And if I was pushing 30 instead of pushing 40 knowing all I know how? Same thing. I'd be in some trouble lol. Some dudes are just good at chicks. Most aren't. The ones like me who are good literally don't care about the details. A chick is either down or she ain't. To me it is WAY EASIER to get with chicks now than when I was growing up. I mean fcuk me, when I was in high school and the first few years of college I had to physically go out of my way to approach chicks. It's NOTHING like that now. Now, if I wanted to, I could just make my profile look way better, spend a half hour or two swiping on chicks, then all of a sudden I got a date. No, the date won't be with a super attractive chick but I don't care because I myself aren't super attractive. Boys overcomplicate this shit too much.
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