Comments by "j0elsuf" (@SirJoelsuf1) on "Nobody Gives A F*ck About Your Mental Health" video.

I kinda disagree with that. Discovering Stoicism actually improved my mental health quite a bit. But yeah it doesn't mean you should NEVER feel ANY emotions. Just make sure you are AWARE of em haha
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That's pretty cool but I've grown to be VERY distrustful of therapists/counselors. Not sure if you are the type of therapist who pushes your patients to do group therapy or get antidepressants, but the ones I have seen did...constantly. And ngl as someone who practically needed to BE his own therapist, I'm committed to stopping it. I've seen nearly 30 different therapists in my life, both dudes and chicks. All but TWO pushed group therapy/antidepressants onto me, as if they were selling me something. Because of this, I have grown to not only distrust modern therapists, but do all I can to bring them down because the work they are doing is backfiring. Consider this a challenge: Be better than who I've seen...if the nameless and faceless organizations you deal with will let you.
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Or you can focus on your responsibilities, double down on those, and tell yourself that as long as you are focusing on your responsibilities, you are enough. That's what's worked for me for about a decade: It's what broke me out of my cycle of pr0n addiction, 4chan, social media, drinking, and suicidal thoughts that I struggled with for nearly 15 years in a row. Just asked myself "is this responsible? Am I doing the responsible thing here?" But yes I agree with your observation. Just venting at people in your life will get them to leave you. Quickly. While it is necessary to do that if you feel like shit (so you can get back to your responsibilities), you gotta offer some value in there.
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Probably gonna get some heat for this, but take some time to pay attention here before getting at me. As someone who dealt with depression and shitty mental health (anxiety, mood swings, suicidal thoughts, homicidal thoughts) for nearly 15 years (from 18 to 30 or so), nearly any given form of shitty mental health is a choice. It's all about being responsible or not. Believe it or not it's THAT binary, despite what the hacks, swindlers, and drug lords known as the mental health industry would have you believe. Never forget the words of Thomas Szasz: There is no such thing as mental illness; just a lack of responsibility. Took me a LONG time to figure that kind of thing out. The more responsible I am, the less time I have to BE depressed. The less time I have to think about offing myself (or others). The less time I have to think about worrying about whether I'm good enough or not. Again, this is coming from someone who not only struggled with suicidal thoughts from my late teens all the way until 30 or so and even though I have never been diagnosed, I have traits of Asperger's, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and even Intermittent Explosive Disorder. So I know what I'm talking about, and I'd wager that I know what I'm talking about more than any "expert" out there. Yes we need to more away from the narrative of "man up, stop being a bitch" when it comes to mental health for dudes. Cuz there is NO substance in that statement. However, the only thing that really needs to change is the language. The message is fine. Swap "man up, stop being a bitch" to "Make the responsible choice, you are worth being responsible" and we're good.
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Cole oughtta pin this comment cuz good god DAMN is it accurate. I had this observation after seeing my 30th counselor about a decade ago. It was then and there that I decided that I needed to be my own damn therapist/counselor. Was sick of getting the poison known as antidepressants pushed on me.
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Your observation is half correct. Sex DOES come first before ANY "partner" behavior, vulnerability being one of them. It's a very good rule to follow as a dude. Why is it a good rule to follow? Cuz more and more chicks are being trained to act like dudes when it comes to sex. HOWEVER! It actually IS in a chick's nature to be supportive, even emotionally supportive. It's in their genetic code. But, but, but! It is only in their nature to be that way towards dudes who they KNOW can protect them (which in these modern days is signified with sex). So that needs to be handled first. Then you can be vulnerable. And that usually provides the icing on the cake. A lot of dudes mess this up, and that's what leads to observations like yours. Which again are half true. When I acquire a new partner, I aim to have sex first then be vulnerable. And of course establish a good connection before sex. Works very well. Chicks get aroused A LOT by vulnerable dudes who they have already had sex with.
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As someone who dealt with depression and shitty mental health throughout most of his 20s, this is accurate. And I'd go as far as to say that even CLINICAL depression is a choice. It's all about being responsible or not. Believe it or not it's completely binary, despite what the hacks, swindlers, and drug lords known as the mental health industry would have you believe. Never forget the words of Thomas Szasz: There is no such thing as mental illness; just a lack of responsibility. Took me a LONG time to figure that kind of thing out. The more responsible I am, the less time I have to BE depressed. The less time I have to think about offing myself (or others). The less time I have to think about worrying about whether I'm good enough or not. Again, this is coming from someone who not only struggled with suicidal thoughts from my late teens all the way until I turned 30 and even though I have never been diagnosed, I have traits of Asperger's, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and even Intermittent Explosive Disorder. So I know what I'm talking about, and I'd wager that I know what I'm talking about more than any "expert" out there.
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That used to happen to me. But then I started saying to myself "What's so wrong with no one coming to save me? Why don't I save my damn self? I wouldn't need to be at the mercy of anyone!"
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