Comments by "Sebastian Rubio" (@sebastianrubio928) on "Legion Of Men"
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100% agree, people should travel as much as they can, be exposed to as many cultures as you can, be open minded. That doesn't mean you gota accept everything either, remain rational while being open.
Now, this one is a lot harder to pull off, but if you can, do it: speak more than 1 language.
People don't behave the same way when they switch language, they have a different worldview, also almost a different personality. This subject has been studied, this has been confirmed.
At work I had a clear example, this one boss we had, everyone thought he was an A hole, when when I spoke to him in his language, he was the greatest guy ever, looking back, I can safely say he wasn't the problem, the people worked with were all A holes, thankfully I don't work there anymore.
Now myself, Most of my close friends also speak different languages and those who also speak spanish did tell me: yeah, you're very different when you go into latino mode.
Something else, purely personal experience: I've only date french speaking girls, I'm in Belgium, half of the country speaks french, other half dutch. I don't know why, I just couldn't see myself dating a dutch speaking girl, I speak the language fluently, I just don't like it and when it comes to love, the language feels kinda gross, kinda sterile, Germanic cultures are more "cold hearted".
I speak spanish, french, dutch, english, basic German, basic Japanese. Now with Japanese there you see how much the culture affects the language, it's a whole other game to play, even if somehow you spoke fluently, but you didn't understand the culture, it would create a lot of confusion, out of all the languages I speak, that one has the most unique culture. I mean some words are unique to the culture, you need like 5 mins to explain it in detail, but it's words they commonly use.
Anyway, why I am even going there? Because people are different depending on what language they speak, if you only speak english, I guess you can talk to some, but it's just not the same, it's a bit harder for them to open up, though not completely impossible, in same cases though, people lock up into their shell, until you speak their mother tongue, it's like a cheat code. I mean in quite a few countries, people do not speak english, how do you communicate then? I'm in Belgium, go to Netherlands or scandinavia, everyone speak english, sure, Germany most people speak english though not all. Then you go to France or Spain, trust me, been there plenty, you're lucky if you find somebody who speaks broken english, finding a fluent english speaking is the holy grail.
Actually culture matters more than you think, if you really wanna get deep into the rabbit hole, you speak & understand dialects of a region, that unlocks a whole bunch of new encounters & conversations.
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Family is nice, I got a bit family, my living family three is 100+ people. I mean some of my cousins are grand parents, most of my uncles & aunts are still alive, but man, the older I got, the more skeletons that came out and there were some really dark family secrets.
Some of my family members are fine, but some are not good, some I don't/won't even talk to anymore. I do recognise I was tight with all my grand parents when they were alive, I was also younger and I didn't know much. I don't know wtf happened, my mom when you got older she started remember fucked up shit that had happened to her and she started telling me some of it. Other times, people are way harsher, some of the makes were way too violent, while some were fine.
I'm really close with some family and other family member, I greet, but that's about it.
I do think that a good friend circle around out kind of acts as a family, but they need to be really good friends.
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Reasonable position to be in, but I do think this guy needs to work on himself, mostly mentally. His attitude could be better.
I also don't think he lives in the right place and very likely doesn't surround himself with the right people.
I'm in introvert, I really need my alone time, but I still make new friends. I got less friends than I used to, I even had to let some go, cause I noitced they weren't realy friends, but still, I'm human, i socialise and some people end up liking me enough to get to know me better, etc...
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Every single couple I know, most of the BTW aren't married, a minority is married, but still have prenup papers, they have everything set up, separated, it's logical, nobody wants to be screwed. Again though most aren't married, won't ever get married, but they still have the paperwork set up for whate they own, just in case, nobody got pissed, everybody agreed.
27? he looks way older. So his dad was rich, got it.
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I baffles me, how most women don't seem to get, past 35 going towards 40, it's not that having kids is harder, for many women it's impossible, to close to impossible to have kids.
My cousin got his 39 year old gf pregnant, by accident, they both didn't want kids (which I don't buy, at least not from her), now many of her female friends who are 37-38 can't get pregnant, they're tired and failed, some were even told in their faces that at 37, they could not have kids anymore. The kid was born without a problem, my cousin is happy for now, still that is the exception, that is not the norm, the reason why I'm ok with this, these 2 have known each other since they were 4, so yeah.
I've had this discussion many times with women and they don't seem to get how their bodies work. I studied biology at university, for me these were simple facts, but I knew this way before university, my mom, my aunts all started having trouble past 35 and I heard this speech so many times from docters: getting pregnant past 35 is not recommended.
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