Comments by "Violet Joy" (@VioletJoy) on "OWN" channel.

  1. He learned it works. I would say she's easily manipulated, but she created him to be dependent on her and food.
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  2. I do feel for the child inside these offenders, as they were likely offended as children. However, when I hear perps refer to sexual abuse as a "mistake", I can't help but think they aren't taking it seriously.
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  3. She was actually mostly respectful in this one. Sadly, that wasn't usually the case. I was surprised to see her cry because I hadn't ever seen her show empathy, but then she explained that she had been thinking about herself and her own experiences...and then it made sense.
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  4.  @0blivvy8  I think what she's pointing out is that punishment alone isn't helpful. It would benefit society to understand how people get to the point of being capable of harming children in such horrific ways. The more we understand, the more we can do to help prevent abuse and provide better therapies for both the victim and perpetrator.
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  5.  @lindsayjohnson9053  It's not about knowing better. Their brains develop differently than those who don't $exually abuse children. They literally can't help their urges. It's not an excuse, but more of an explanation. We can't relate, but we can learn from them. Sadly, the cycle will continue, but we can try to be more aware to those around us and intervene if necessary.
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  6. I'm thinking the Tic-tacs are the least of his worries. His mother holds the keys since she does the grocery shopping and sets the rules.
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  7. Very interesting thought. That sure seems like a proper summation.
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  8. What a great personality! She sounded incredibly determined when she was first on the show. She's obviously a hard worker. What a wonderful ending - she sober, working on furthering her education to help others and her children appear well adjusted... and there's lots of love. So happy for you all. Your hard work paid off. And kudos to the kids for being so understanding and forgiving. ❤
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  9. The thing is, almost all offenders were those kids once. It's an unfortunate cycle.
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  10.  @heath1442  Sad, but true. 💔
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  11.  @gij123  There's no evidence for any gods or for damnation. Society is better off dealing with the reality of situations and psychological issues like this. That the only way we can better deal with them.
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  12.  @gij123  So you were referring to me and people like me? Scary?? That's a very odd thing to say.
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  13. What a heartbreaking story. It sounds like her heart is broken and she lacks the drive to enjoy life. I'm so sorry to hear that. The best thing for you to do is to take good care of yourself. ❤
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  14.  @gij123  I'm not sure who you are referring to? Those who harm children?
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  15. It's a really sad, unfortunate situation with more than one victim. His mind was clearly affected by war. My heart goes out to him and his family. 💔
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  16.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  Clearly you aren't aware of real history and it sure seems like you aren't open minded to learn the truth. Every country has had racism. White men fought for equal rights and there isn't a better country in the world for black people to live in. You probably haven't looked at the actual data about crime, but my guess is you have your mind made up and won't be swayed by facts. If you ever care to learn, check out Thomas Sowell, Heather McDonald, or Coleman Hughes.
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  17.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  Little do you realize that you are spouting nonsense. The data does not support your claims. You are clearly just mimicking the misinformation that is spread. You must not be aware of the countries in this day and age that are extremely racist. If you dare to learn true history, I named several reputable sources, who all go by data. For you to say that racists love Thomas Sowell shows that you have no idea how others think and no idea about the data he's collected over the last 50+ years. It's amazing how confident you are in making false claims.
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  18.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  I never said racism doesn't exist. I said America was not based on it and the systemic racism you claim exists is absolutely NOT supported by data. I've looked at it myself. Thomas Sowell has been researching it for over 50 years. Are you suggesting you know something that he doesn't know? Heather McDonald has quite possibly the most in-depth research on the subject of blacks and cops that there is. And guess what? The data does not support that. You gave an anecdotal experience, which is not a fair assessment of the overall picture. If that were the case, then my anecdotal experience cancels yours out. I'm a white woman married to a black man. He has 4 kids and I have 3, but they've been best friends their whole lives ( they're all adults now). Never one time has my husband or any of my step kids experienced racism. Not one time. They were all popular in school, have good jobs, haven't gotten pulled over, etc. My husband has gotten every job he's gone for, has never been pulled over except when he was speeding, and has been treated well by most people in his life. My kids, on the other hand, have been mistreated for being white. My two sons were bullied for being white and my daughter was mistreated even by a college professor. I've been called racial slurs more times than I can count. I'm not bothered by it though because it is a reflection of the person saying it, not on the one receiving it. Also, I don't know what happened with your son. I'm not saying that discrimination never happens, but it is NOT the norm. 9 times out of 10 when someone says they were mistreated, there is much more to the story. I heard a guy recently say that the cop he was arrested by only arrested him because he was black. Everyone who heard it was horrified and angry. Well, when the facts came out, he had been involved in a gang fight and not only didn't follow the officer's orders, but fought against them. There might have been a reason your son's car was searched. I don't know.
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  19.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  Forgive me for being sarcastic, but you might want to let Roland Fryer know about the stats you refer to. He did a study at Harvard in an attempt to try to prove systemic racism in the police force and surprised himself with what he found. If you discount his in depth study, then that's a clear sign that you don't really want to know the truth. Sometimes it's more exciting to be in an uproar.
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  20.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  Like I said before, anecdotal experiences are not a fair judgment of an overall situation. If they were, then I could claim that my husband's experiences are systemic. It's quite possible that there might have been a cop or cops in your area who were racist. While that would be unfortunate if it were true, that is still not a fair label to put on the entire foundation of a country. If you believe systemic racism is a true fact, them you'd have to provide evidence of such, which has never been done. Good luck with that.
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  21. It's all cultural.
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  22. Most likely they want to pay it forward, which I find admirable. If anyone knows how the rehab patients feel, it would be former rehab patients.
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  23. There are just as many Christians who are alcoholics as anyone else. It sounds like an assumption that she doesn't "have Jesus", whatever that means. There's no magic pill, not even religion.
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  24.  @EllaElllaElla  The comment didn't say that most go on to become predators. However, nearly all (or maybe even all) predators were once victims themselves.
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  25. The parents need therapy and parenting classes more than anything. They either don't know how or aren't' willing to make changes. There's no way they can't connect the dots with some of these habits that started with the parents - allowing a child to have 24 sodas per day, buying few or no vegetables, using food as comfort, allowing the children to choose whatever food they want... It's really sad because the kids would have been very different if they had been raised differently. Good for the parents who have made healthier changes.
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  26.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  It's inappropriate to make such silly claims considering the severity of this situation.
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  27.  @havingfunwithashlie1980  That sounds fun! I have one challenge when you have time - try to find any data backing up your claim. I am not aware of any. If you find out you're wrong, would you reconsider your claims?
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  28. Lisa Ling and Nate Eaton are my favorite reporters. I'd like to see more like them.
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  29. I'm confused. Her son and daughter were at the beginning of the show as well as at the end.
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  30. There's no better reason.
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  31. Seriously? That's awful.
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  32. She's one of the best.
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  33.  @nonameguy7857  She's doing what she finds valuable. I see the value in bringing these topics to light. I don't see that giving free housing to the homeless is in any way a solution to a major problem.
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  34.  @jenny2tone242  That's simply not true. It is not normal by any means to have a desire to do anything to children. It is absolutely cyclic.
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