Comments by "Violet Joy" (@VioletJoy) on "The New York Times" channel.

  1. Most of us who grew up in the 70s remember that movie with John Travolta. How incredibly sad for his sister to have lovingly shared her bone marrow only for him to have died from it. I wonder how she handled that. No doubt there would be deep feelings of guilt, even though it was no fault of her own. Just tragic. Of course if the parents had known what was to happen, they would have had him experience a day of fun - maybe out to eat, to a playground and maybe home to hang out with his family... even if only for a day. What a tragic ending. šŸ’”
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  2. It sure is. His pain and regret is obvious. šŸ’”
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  3. Ā @nikiannecolemanĀ  They were aware. That was mentioned. Her first son had just died from it the year before, but she said she believed doctors could figure out a way for him to live. That seems like a very selfish and cruel decision. That might sound harsh, but to know there is a strong chance that your baby could end up with a genetic disorder and still choosing to have one is thinking more of yourself than the child. I didn't know I had genetic defects until I was I'm my late 40s. I never would have had children if I had known that before having them. I would have adopted.
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  4. So much heartbreak, but it seems very odd to choose to have more children after having lost a baby due to that genetic defect. We parents have some responsibility in continuing these illnesses.
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  5. I can only imagine the pain of being left behind. šŸ’”
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  6. Ā @nikiannecolemanĀ  It's not for me to say, but I think you're right. Not only did you not pass those struggles onto any children, but you also avoided a lot of stress on yourself. I love my children more than life itself, but raising children can be incredibly stressful and exhausting, especially for those of us who have health problems. I'm just sick that I passed Type 1 Diabetes onto both of my sons and even worse, my daughter has the same Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia and arthritis that I do. I didn't realize I had any of those things before they were born. Wishing you well with your mental health. That is not easy to deal with. ā¤
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  7. Oooohhh my! Nailed it.
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  8. What a beautiful group of people. ā¤ I'm so glad to know of these experiences. Why? Because I have never heard them before and was unaware. These are the types of stories I would share if I were a history teacher. It can be helpful to help foster empathy too.
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  9. Ā @miameow4833Ā  Great story. šŸ˜‚ So often I have heard very happy adoptions stories. No doubt some are too young to remember anything, but sadly, some remember all too clearly.
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  10. There is A LOT of missing information here. No one is forced to cross the border. Also, with the huge influx of immigrants from the sothern border, there are just too many to handle. Are we to spend millions or maybe even billions building bigger facilities to house those asking to cross when we're already in severe debt? I'm not sure there is an easy answer here, but it's not fair to only put forth one part of a complex situation. It's obvious the children were used to stir up an emotional response. Personally, I think everyone would be better off if we helped these people help themselves and make changes in their own countries. More would be positively affected that way.
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