Comments by "Curious Crow" (@CuriousCrow-mp4cx) on "why we should listen to people even if we do not like them" video.

  1. How you you know what animal you are? If you can't hold two ideas in your mind without believing both, you will have a hard time discerning truth. That why listening is important so that lies, distortions, and absurdities can be revealed and argued against. By not listening to someone you don't like you are missing important data.
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  2. Not really. In fact, if your mental self care was upto scratch and your communications skills were proficient, listening would not be a problem. Listening does not mean normalising, agreeing with, or tolerating wrongdoing or the wrong doers. In fact, by not engaging with them, you are ceding control to them. Why? By not actually listening to them, you are passing up the opportunity to understand their motivations. If you fully understood their motivations you could mount an effective defence against them and their ideas. It's not easy to do. It takes discipline and self-control, not to be emotional and dismissive. Until we start really listening to each other, things will only get more divisive and more fractious.
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  3. You are talking about rights, and in that you are very close to those you are criticising. They go on about rights too. Listening is not agreeing with what is being said. It is the means of understanding more completely what is being said and why. Only then can you then decide what to do about it. Emotions are good servants but bad masters. To be a good listener, you don't have to agree, believe, or like what is being said. By listening you are developing more than a superficial understanding of someone else's POV. You are understanding them, their thinking, and their motivations more deeply. You are are seeing them in a deeper and more meaningful way, and if they are misguided or pathological, that understanding can provide clues as how to challenge their behaviour. If we did that more, there would be more deeper and impactful change bought about instead of just scapegoating and dismissing people.
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