Comments by "Daisy Chain" (@daisychain3007) on "Dr. Todd Grande" channel.

  1.  @Jwallworth  Can you imagine what would happen if she wanted to leave him? He would murder her.
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  2. Self-loathing is never good, Mr Freedman, it is always at the root of deep insecurity and emotional instability. No person can ever run away from himself and the first step to a successful life is accepting yourself for who you are and how you are. Although he was a good-looking bloke, he always compared himself to others. He was unhappy that he was only 5ft 7in in height, for instance. That upset him. He would be far better off accepting how he was and not focusing on himself so much.
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  3.  @ARedMotorcycle  I am afraid that I do blame society. Look, I was a loner as a girl and was bullied for it. Before I joined that particular school where I was bullied, I was still a loner and was not bothered by it. It was not until I joined that school and was tormented for being a loner that I was bothered by it. Who showed me that it was bad to be a loner? My school and society in general, not me, because, until I had joined that school, I was content with who I was, loner or otherwise. But before I was out of my teens, I decided to change my entire way if thinking. It stopped being important to me whether I had friends or not. It takes a lot of courage to reject what society teaches, especially on something as forceful as fitting in with other people.
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  4.  @zammmerjammer  Maybe they never went to the school parties because they knew that they would stand out there. It is a bit like a friendless young man would never go to a nighclub alone. He would stand out like a sore thumb. It is a bit like a vicious circle really. A man keeps to himself because he is shy. People assume that he is snobbish and either ignore him or bully him, so he withdraws further into his own shell as a defence mechanism. He is now even more shy and aware of that, so he becomes even more reclusive and so it goes on and on until something gives. Either he explodes or avoids people even more.
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  5.  @bloodypommelstudios7144  Being solitary and of geeky disposition by themselves should not in itself be a reason for getting bullied. Some of the best jobs are done by those of a solitary disposition. If being a computer nerd and a loner means that you deserve to get bullied, society needs to take a good look at itself.
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  6. @Chris Kyle Many people are half-Asian or mixed with other races but do not commit murder.
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  7.  @luechmillionz  Yes, there are those who think that money solves everything. Buy the kid a nice car and he will be happy. Listen to your kids, be there for them when they need you. Don't dismiss their worries as irrelevant just because you think that they are not because you are an adult or because you were far poorer when you were hid age but did not complain. Everyone needs to be listened to sometimes. He was a young man. He wanted a romantic relationship.
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  8.  @daniellee1722  To be fair, people were often cruel to him. His stepmother weakened his relationship with his father to the point where she kicked Elliott out of his father's house and his father was too weak to stand up to her. In fact, Elliott's father put his second wife, i.e. Elliott's stepmother, before him. Also, Elliott was bullied in school, which did not help.
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  9. When he was about eight years old, his parents divorced and his father married a woman who was not exactly nice to Elliot Rodger. She even encouraged his father to kick Elliot out on his eighteenth birthday. Eighteen may be the age of majority, but he was still his father's son and what sort of father puts his second wife before his biological son?
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  10. If you hurt others for no good reason, you need professional help.
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  11.  @imzjustplayin  There is no such thing as an alpha male. That is some nonsense idea that came out in the nineteen nineties or early 2000's. The idea of labelling this or that as "cool" is very damaging. People should dance to their own tunes and make the best of their own qualities, not be an image of what is trendy, like an alpha male. Not everyone can live up to this sort of expectation.
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  12. And sometimes a person's mind is ruined by other people and by the expectations of society.
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  13.  @LuxMeow  A hooker would not give him a satisfying long-term relationship and that was what he was looking for.
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  14.  @comfym3850  The important thing here is to be yourself. Pretending to be otherwise will not help you, as eventually most people will see through your disguise. Real friends will accept you for how you are, otherwise they are not your real friends.
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  15.  @astoldbynickgerr  It is difficult to be a teenager, either male or female. Full stop. It is also difficult to be anyone, even an adult, because there is so much competition in society. As I mentioned earlier on, people are first introduced to it in the school playground. Children see a child standing alone in the playground, they begin tormenting him or her just because he or she is standing alone. As adults, we are expected to be married or, at least, in relationships by the time we are in our early twenties. Not everyone's lives run that way and no wonder some people are left marginalised and frustrated. Society plays a great part in a person's well-being.
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  16.  @youngeast5309  There is nothing wrong with trying to impress women, as long as you don't become obsessed with impressing them. If they are attracted to you, fine. Start a relationship with them,and, if all goes well, marry them. But they reject you, accept it with grace. They are under no obligation to go out with you and we all have to put up with being rejected. We eventually get over it. Every person has to kiss a thousand frogs before finding his/her princess/prince. T
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  17.  @geneticfailure59  No, but you don't go around murdering people just because you cannot get a girlfriend.
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  18. ​ @theprotector1234567  No-one is connecting with him. They are just trying to understand why he did what he did. He was, physically, a good-looking fellow. Unfortunately, he did not realise this and tried to compete with other people. That is the worst thing, because you will always find a reason to fail. What would have helped him is if someone would have told him to dance to his own beat and look at his own good points instead of comparing himself to other people, he might have been alive today.
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  19.  @martinpiekarski1512  He was obsessed with relationships. He would have been better off focussing less on the fact that he was shy and not worrying about it than driving himself crazy about it and consequently harming others. If he had thought: "It does not matter if I do not get a girlfriend today. There's always tomorrow," he would have made himself more approachable and pleasant to be with. Instead he got it into his head that everyone was in a relationship, except him and he wanted to harm others. That is not a good attitude to have.
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  20. Not necessarily, Chase, other people's influence plays a great part in a person's development and emotional security.
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  21.  @daniellee1722  You do not just date someone just for the sake of dating someone, Daniel. If you do not fancy her to begin with, why ask her out on a date?
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  22. He was also bullied in school, Night Star. This did not help. Maybe the girls deliberately ignored him.
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  23.  @C_U_R_I_E_L  To be fair, his parents divorced when he was young and his father remarried. His father's second wife turned Elliott's father against Elliott, not a very nice thing to do.
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  24. I have heard of kids or even adults keeping diaries. Those diaries are usually full of private thoughts like Elliott Rodger's. Some thoughts are angry, others not. Typical thoughts. I read Elliott Rodger's manifesto. Most of it I could read without getting disturbed but the last few pages towards the end, I had to abandon: what he wrote was so disturbing that I could not finish it.
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  25.  @NintendoGamer2600  Sometimes, a man can be a nice man even if he only has a second-hand Mini. If Elliott Rodger focussed less on the "prize possession" that he considered himself to be, I.e. not bragged about his $300 dollar sunglasses and concentrated instead on overcoming his obsession with relationships, he would have had a far better chance of finding a girlfriend.
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  26.  @SSJKamui  The "money will make you popular with girls" is another way of saying "girls will want you only for your money."
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  27. Sometimes, other people can also ruin a person's mind.
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  28. High social expectations can also ruin a person. Look at harmless people bullied just for being loners. They might be happy being loners, until others decide that they are "abnormal" and make their lives miserable.
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  29.  @Yeagerbomb77  Well, how would you feel if your son went on a rampage and murdered several people, especially if you were a famous Hollywood film director? His name is forever associated with that of his son's.
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  30.  @vice2versa  If you are a quiet introvert, you should not suddenly become a loud-mouthed extrovert that cracks jokes every minute of the day. What you should do is accept yourself for how you are and be the best person that you can be. By that I mean, be friendly and approachable. Have hobbies where you can meet people and take a general interest in your surroundings. Had Elliott Rodger done that instead of get bitter about his continuous celibate state, he would have been alive today and so would his victims.
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  31.  @youngeast5309  I am not defending him. I am only saying that he drove himself crazy with unrealistic expectations of himself. There is no excuse for his behaviour.
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  32.  @Lildjungelskog  And if they did not fancy him, then what? You cannot attack people just because they do not consider you attractive. That is life and you have to accept it. I have fancied thousands of people throughout my life, but they never fancied me back. Damned if I attacked them for ignoring me.
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  33.  @Andu_music  He WAS born that way. Almost everyone suffers rejection from the opposite gender, but does not go around harming them.
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  34.  @gamewarrior666  He was a grown man,not a small child who had to be watched morning, noon and night. At his age, he could be quite devious but old enough to act responsibly.
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  35.  @Anteater23  Sometimes, a decision to become obsessed with religion can ruin a person. Look at ISIS and their desire to kill in the name of God.
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  36. @NoseKey Yes, but by dyeing their hair,they are hiding their natural selves. It is like putting on a fake accent. The minute you get carried away by emotion, your true roots come out and you speak like the person who you naturally are.
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  37.  @daniellee1722  Maybe he did not know what to say. After all, he did not know her from Adam. How often have we fantasised about the person of our dreams but when that person actually looks our way, we become too tongue-tied to speak to them? He would have been better off not focusing so much on girls but more on himself, trying to be the best that he could be and maybe then he would have been luckier. Often, if you become too obsessed with something, you tend to repel people with your goal rather than attract them because you create an uncomfortable atmosphere.
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  38.  @AntwhaleNearfar  He was not THAT short. 5ft 7" is not a dwarf, not even for a man. It had more to do with his personality. He scared people off with his grandiose and intimidating behaviour.
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  39.  @grawakendream8980  People tend to be attracted to good looks, that is for sure, but there are plenty of average looking people in relationships.
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  40.  @anonymousperson3023  It is not helped by the fact that society puts a lot of pressure on people. There are people who do the exact opposite: they are not looking for a spouse, they are quite content to sit at home reading a book instead of dancing at nightclubs, yet they are ridiculed for that. It is a well-known fact that a lot of people are bullied because they like a solitary lifestyle.
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  41.  @imzjustplayin  That is what happens if you set your standards too high and focus too much on some things. Yes, you have your own opinions and a good reason for liking this or disliking that and would not want to date someone whom you did not fancy or like, but if he focused not only on blondes, but also on brunettes, he might have got a better chance.
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  42.  @gnbilios  If they ever existed in the first place. That was usually a marketing strategy, i.e.. an advertisement for a particular car, just like a particular brand of perfume would attract all the young women. Only the very gullible would fall for it.
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  43.  @Aaron722076  Especially if guns are easily available.
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  44.  @evelynwaugh4053  He was aggressive even when he was sober.
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  45.  @AmberExista  His wife divorced him.
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  46.  @daniellee1722  If the relationship is just for sex and no love, it may quickly fizzle out.
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  47.  @daniellee1722  Peoplewere cruel to him but he should have ignored them and danced to his own tune.
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  48.  @lidahall5928  Yes,but there is usually a feeling of rejection by others that precedes it.
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  49.  @taraswertelecki3786  I always stick up for bully victims, so what are you saying?
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  50.  @sophon238  Because he focussed too much on relationships. If he had tried to build up his confidence first as a person and then as a lover, he may have had a better chance. The girls were probably scared off by his serious obsession.
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