Comments by "CaptainVanisher" (@captainvanisher988) on "Birth Rates Are Falling. Here's Why." video.

At least you're honest enough to say that you are a narcissist, immature and egocentric. Most women who don't want to have children are not that honest.
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@nonhic Never forced any beliefs of any religion kid. That's why I said nature/God. Whether you see it as a natural thing or a religious thing it's the same. The same responsibility. The same duty. I listed off a lot of other things that are besides your personal beliefs (duty to your country, to your community and to your ancestors). I clearly explained why it's all of these things and then some more.
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@Justice Keith-LeClaire Because they choose to not carry one of the most integral responsibilities humans innately have. They choose themselves, before nature, before God, before their country, before their community and before the struggle of their ancestors. They've finally reached a point where it is close to 100% safe to procreate and decided their own materialistic and inane needs are more important than carrying out their responsibilities and duties. P.S. I am Greek, and narcissism is a Greek word so I probably know a lot more about it than you do.
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@nonhic I didn't insult her. I made some pretty accurate observations on her choice. The choice of going childless is all the things I listed there. Whether these traits she displayed in this decision leak on other parts of her life is outside my knowledge. It's not my "belief" that humans are biologically responsible to have children. Literally nature made us prone and obligated to procreate. We mask this proclivity through things like masturbation (usually to p*rn) or safe s3x (condoms or birth control). Science can mask or put down these urges that nature throws our way. But they are still there.
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@james__anna_burns4885 "I'm selfish with my time and energy, and genuinely believe I would have resented having a child" This one screams narcissism and egocentrism. Valuing your time and carrying out your natural/God given responsibilities can co-exist you know. "No child should grow up resented (feeding ground for neglect and abuse) and no woman (or man) should feel trapped." This one screams immaturity and lack of responsibility. As for the accountability part, now that I read her comment again I can see that she tried to make excuses to take away some of the accountability she initially carried with the last sentence : "I wish more people really thought about the consequences of having children unplanned, unprepared, or emotionally incapable." She seems to make excuses that she actually thought and researched about the subject of having children when she clearly did not. All these things are devoid of the fact that you can grow them along with having children. She seems to be extremely focused on the "negatives" instead of the positives that largely outweigh the negatives. (if that wasn't the case, the vast majority of parents wouldn't claim that children are the best thing they've done in their life).
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@thatguy9088 It's odd that you'd think I wouldn't know who my great grandfather was or my great great grandfather. In fact I know their entire life stories. My great grandfather was close to a genius of his time but that's besides the point. Legacy is the least of my worries when it comes to children. If you are religious (which you probably are not) you do have God given responsibilities. But even if you are not, humans are by nature responsible to procreate so we keep our species from extinction. It's not only a proclivity of ours, but even if you look at the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, procreation is at the bottom level along with shelter, food, water, etc. It's great that we've outsourced this through technology, but that imperative is still there deep ingrained in your DNA. I'll say this. I do believe that men can occupy themselves with other things (such as physical labor or hobbies that create things) to alleviate some of the emptiness that having no family brings better than women can. And since it's bound that some men will be unable to procreate (it's a very common thing throughout history) ,the burden of procreation doesn't weighs on us as much. I'd still say as a man, that building a family is not only the most important responsibility but also the greatest source of true happiness. Eudemonia. Relationships and bonds are the stronger sources of true happiness and that's a theme perpetrated not only by the greatest philosophers but also some very credited psychological studies. And the greatest and strongest bond one can build, is that with his children. Being respected, being acknowledged and awarded are great. But in the end, they can't replace a family. That's my bit. I can only respect someone who goes in the childless way as long as they themselves acknowledge that this is an innately selfish and egocentric decision.
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@thatguy9088 If you are religious then you are completely wrong on the procreation part. The people in the bible that went unmarried and childless, were married to God. Monks, pastors, saints etc dedicated their entire lives into faith and God ,so they married God. Those who don't though, definitely have the responsibility to procreate. But that's religious talk, which isn't the point here. I am not going to force anyone. I am criticising and I am 100% free to do so. In fact without people criticising and caring about social issues that are so important, society would crumble in an instant. This idea that we should not give a damn about anything other than our own life is a very egocentric and individualistic way to view life. And that's fine as long as you understand that. From what I have experienced, the most happy old people did have children. I have never met a truly happy senior that had no children but ofc that's just my experience, so I can't bring facts into it. Are there loners that will be happy living without a family well into their senior years? Sure. But most people are not meant for it. As for "jumping off buildings and despair". That's actually partially true. The main reason men commit suicide at such high rates is because of loneliness. As for women, childless women over 40 have the highest rates of depression and anxiety medication consumption (1 in 3). That's a pretty scary thing to think about. So yes, I ain't gonna change your mind but that's not my goal here anyways. My goal is to deter as many people as possible from this (usually) destructive path of narcissism and individualism which the vast majority of people will regret. You may be the exception and enjoy the life you've built up to the end without family. Who knows? I certainly don't. As for your last statement, I don't have children (yet) but my woman was never and is still not a slut and dear technology blessed us with a thing called paternity tests. Something we've both agreed on when the time comes. Good day back to ya.
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@sharonpopolow6874 I am not prideful the least. Critique and spreading the will of God through that isn't a sin. In fact I'd say the opposite. Am I perfect or sinless? Of course not. I've had premarital s3x, I've masturbated to p*rn, I've sworn or brought up the name of God in vain. Of course I've sinned. Does that mean that I shouldn't call out other obvious sins for what they are? Should I stand by as my neighbor is being murdered because I have sinned? The logic doesn't stand and it is not in line with the Bible's teachings.
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@rose-yeah That makes 0 sense. P3dophiles are the vast minority of the population and their existence doesn't excuse the narcissism that takes to not have children. People who have children are the opposite of selfish. Because they know that they have to sacrifice a big part of their life to raise them well and one day they'll have to let them venture into this world that is full of suffering and beauty. It's probably one of the hardest and greatest things a human can do in their lifetime.
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@JohnSmith-fo5cx It's narcissism they are trying to hide. People nowadays are extremely egocentric, immature and irresponsible. We have every single amenity that could help us raise a child and we find every small hazard to make an excuse out of. People who claim that cost of living is why they don't have children are clowns or wilfully ignorant. Because families raise children that are far happier in what could be considered today poverty line. And on top of that money give away policies in Japan and other countries with serious birth rate problems have not done anything to resolve the issue.
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@Justice Keith-LeClaire Your bs excuses keep coming. I don't know which one is funnier, throwing years of your life into a useless degree or making excuses to defend a clearly selfish decision, which is prioritizing yourself and your inane needs over your responsibilities and duties. Again you seem to be repeating that I bring up religion when I never explicitly did. As for bringing up country. Do you think people who give 0 sh*ts about the country they live in are not narcissists? The country you live in is the extended community you live in. If your country collapses, you are gonna be greatly affected. So acting partly on your duties to your country should be on every normal person's checklist. "Choose a better life for THEMSELVES". Here, you just proved my entire hypothesis. People seem to chase momentarily or even prolonged happiness instead of searching for eudemonia. How do you think your life will be better? If you have a bigger house? Maybe a better car? Or how about working 10 hours a day on your career that can fire you on a whim? Dying alone seems great right? These inane and superficial goals and dreams only manifest in this superficial and materialistic society. Instead of striving to create strong bonds and relationships with people, you strive for pointless dreams and aspirations. And guess what? There is no stronger bond and relationship than that of a parent and a child. That's the problem. "Provide the best life possible". What's this bs? Do you think you need to cuddle your kid and give him a fully comfortable life for him to have a happy childhood? From my experience, children in the middle-lower middle class are having the best childhoods. They grow up and learn how to be grateful and humble (most do). The excuses of "the costs are too high" or "I can't provide the best life for my child" are utter bs. Garbage excuses. Children can be raised extremely well in the poverty line. Money is the least of the things you should be worrying about when raising children. As long as you can provide them with food, a place to live and clothes you don't need anything else. Everything after that is extra. The life lessons and the character of your child are the integral part. Another fallacy is saying that poor children or unwanted children "don't stand a chance". That's an extremely privileged way to view things. I've met some great people who were orphans or lived in sh*tpoor conditions. In my country, I grew up in lower-middle class which would be considered close to poverty line in the Us. Had a great childhood and now working towards my best self. Bringing children to this world and abandoning them are two very different things. Unless you are the type of person to abandon your children, why would you use that as an excuse? And if you are the type of person to abandon your children, then you got far bigger problems than narcissism. See, all your inane excuses are easily debunked. Most excuses to not have children are that way. Why? Because putting yourself and what you think you need above everything else is by definition a narcissistic mindset. Maybe one day you people will grow up and mature and understand that sacrifice is part of life.
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@doctordarcy4 Well, being mature and useful are also responsibilities of a good citizen and yes they certainly hold more weight than the responsibility of having children. Having said that , people who have somewhat matured and have become useful definitely "must" have children and raise them. It's a responsibility for sure.
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