Comments by "Chip \x26 Steve" (@chipsteve) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. All 100% true. The problem remains that once a man commits, he's "all in". So he relinquishes his options. And that's exactly when modern women do a 180 & become awful.
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  2. The problem for me is NOT feeling jealousy. The problem is that any jealousy stems from the woman's DISRESPECT.
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  3. All comes back to this - can she comfort me when I am down & out, or will she punish me for being human sometimes? If the latter, why would I lead her? Why be in a relationship?
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  4. ​ @ssing7113  that sounds exhausting, fraudulent, fraught with subtle animosity, utterly devoid of love. HARD PASS on that
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  5. The answer is to never commit & never invest, staying in the present & being true to yourself. You don't only wanna bang one woman anyway. Keep your power.
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  6. ​ @Bookooky  childbirth is for YOU WOMEN - so that you don't go absolutely bonkers in your 40s
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  7. The dating apps are full of women saying they only want a serious relationship and want to "take it slow". They are so oblivious to what men want. It's not even if they don't care. They are too solipsistic & "me me me!" to even realize that in order for them to get what they want in a relationship, they should consider the other person's perspective. A woman saying that she's only looking for a serious relationship after taking it slow is exactly equivalent to a man saying I just want bedroom fun immediately and I don't really care about you as a person.
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  8. My last LTR ended when i verbally erupted in judgement & anger. She had lied & misrepresented herself for 6 months. I tried HARD to stay positive, constructive, & make it work til that point.
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  9.  @sIMODINHO  I don't disagree that'll help prevent divorce / cheating. But that means marriage vows are faithless lies.
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  10. In my decades of experience, she becomes disrespectful when she knows that I'm all-in, & I am committed, & I will be faithful.
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  11. Women absolutely need men, and men absolutely do not need women. That's just a fact in 2023. Build your own roads, fix your own cars, install your own toilet, Sweetheart.
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  12. This is why I deeply regret being faithful in my multi-year committed relationships. I wished I would have cheated every chance I got. Passed up opportunities to get with young primo chix and make sweet memories, & I'll never get those back.
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  13. Why do you guys even want to be with such a person? How little do you value your time & your peace?
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  14. Exactly correct 💯. And literally nobody shames women for using men for everything. But whenever a fling doesn't last - "no fair, he USED me!" 🤡
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  15. When my boundaries are crossed, i leave & block them on all fronts. No 2nd chance. They're dead to me. But 99% of men i know don't enforce boundaries. It's pathetic.
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  16. Just think about women's relationship with the word "judgemental"... "Don't judge me, that's judgmental" and also "I judge everyone else at all times".
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  17. Disrespect is ubiquitous and overwhelmingly present in modern women.
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  18. But the paradox is that it's not worth the effort of keeping her grounded and secured. You are spending your time and energy to handle her tests, and she'll never really support you when the chips are down. So I agree with Orion that it is good to disappoint women, but never for the woman's sake.
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  19. ​​​ @roses6564  you bring 2 questions into focus: 1) if as you imply, it's a good thing that we are not all bound by monogamy - then why is it overwhelmingly women pushing for monogamy with the men they desire? 2) if as you explicitly state, it is a good thing that women can exercise their options today - then why do "experienced" women (in the VAST MAJORITY of cases) always deceive the men they desire about how they have exercised their options?
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  20. Yes that was literally the 1980s. Women are an entirely different species now.
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  21. 8:17 MASSIVE difference tho - you worked hard for years to be at that higher status. What work do women do to believe they're higher status?
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  22. You shouldn't be tolerating this more than maybe twice. If she's continuing with the ad hominems, you should discard her permanently.
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  23. I'm in my 40s & found that perhaps you can both understand and love them SO LONG AS you steadfastly refuse to commit. Total non starter.
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  24. Ok folks ☕ look at all these comments: "a guy I grew up with got laid a lot", "an ethnic buddy got laid back in my college days", "I'm 6'2" & jacked but the women I'm able to bone are problematic".... You might as well be a group of old codgers sitting around talking about "back in the day". Because... you're talking about positive scenarios from many years ago, or untenable scenarios today. My point is: Things are F U B A R now in 2024, in ways they weren't yet - only 5-10ish years ago. So there's no use in pointing to "successful examples" of this as being currently instructive for how to act today. A lot of what worked in 2014 does not work anymore in 2024.
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  25.  @tdaye6978  -a woman feeling "desired" is much less important today. She has to desire YOU -far fewer guys are "punching above their weight" via "lighthearted jokes and banter". The jokes & banter are plusses, but not as impactful. More likely to be seen as entertaining rather than sexy, even if smooth. In part, because dating pool exponentially larger. -nobody cares if a guy plays guitar or is in a band anymore. That has way less value to women than even 15 years ago. -ethnic guys are more socially accepted, but have an ever harder time getting laid by legit attractive women today vs years ago. -10 years ago, you coulda been hooking up with pretty women who weren't train wrecks.
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  26. Women pressure men into marriage, & getting married is optional. Men can't pressure women into simply keeping marriage vows which should be compulsory.
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  27.  @basantidevi2305  I honestly have no curiosity about this when I clearly see the objective is to take as much as she can get while giving the least possible on her end.
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  28. You know what would be hilarious - to phrase it in a way that might plausibly be true from the outset. Specifically - "would you sleep with me for $115,000?" She might actually believe you mean it, and say yes. Then say "ok, how about $10" - it would really fry her brain.
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  29. 7:00 - 7:36 BRIFFAULT'S LAW - even if you choose a woman exclusively from many options, she'll be elated for a minute, then your commitment will mean nothing. And she'll do a 180 & become awful.
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  30. ​ @SQron188  again I ask - why does she "want that" when it's going to make a man like myself simply cut ties & dump her?
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  31. ​ @sammyb1651  Exactly - commitment is something she extracts from men. There's no "grow stronger together" intent. It's just "gimme gimme gimme while I treat you worse & worse for giving me what I want".
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  32. There is no point to giving women anything you don't really want to give them on your own terms & for your own reasons. And it's about time to "fault them for" poor life, adult choices.
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  33. Agreed. How do scorts make money? Yup.
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  34.  @slaytanic921  Sure, but that's not the point. It's that our culture has become so ridiculous that such a dichotomy exists, even on the most superficial of mediums.
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  35. ​​ @thecurrentmoment  I'm more cynical than you on this. I believe it's that women will emotionally appeal for a man's commitment, professing their own desire to commit to him - buuuut... really only saying whatever it takes to obtain that commitment from him, knowing full well that this tactic will give her the leverage & security she seeks. And - Knowing she has no intention of closing off HER options - it's just to pursue power via deceit. So she gets it, then she loses attraction & respect for him. She pushed for it, so logically it's her fault. But again, no accountability...
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  36. ​ @SmoothCode that's a delightful ad hominem. Now apply it to childfree women and especially sterile women.
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  37.  @roses6564  "waahhh, I know you are but what am I?" Just go away. 🤡
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  38. Women have contempt for men who commit to them. They want & actively push for commitment from a man who doesn't want to commit. Then when that man eventually does commit out of love/attachment & wanting to make her happy, women then have contempt for him as well. Women destroy everything they touch unless they are in a position of submission to a man.
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  39. Exactly right. Degree of having omnipresent sexual access does not solely comprise one's "value" relative to others.
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  40.  @JD..........  We do understand how divorce works, how feminist culture works, how n-counts correlate to "the sanctity of marriage", how single parent households adversely impact a child for life, how social media adversely impacts girls' brains for life, how college life defiles 18-19 young women for life....i could go on and on. The OP is comparing his good fortune in the mid to late '80s to the actual conditions of today. These 2 worlds are unrecognizable to each other. Orion is dealing with the here and now, and he speaks uncomfortable truths that tradcon boomers can't handle. And thus we see lots of "ok boomer" type responses here from people who are more clutching pearls than honestly disagreeing.
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  41. ​ @hurrikane1449  absolutely. Almost all these women who seek relationships have high n-counts. They are ultimately trying to con a man via obfuscation.
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  42. A family member of mine who is usually difficult... did a very kind deed for me in 2017. I've always been grateful for this since, and when she's being difficult now, rather than get annoyed - I stop myself and think of that kind deed from 2017. Which got me thinking.. This is the opposite of how women regard men who do kind deeds for them. Even after a ton of kind deeds, women only care if they're going to get something else out of you going forward.
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  43. All of this sounds like a bad deal to me. You felt it necessary to strategically hide a difficult life circumstance from her, acknowledged to yourself that the news might compel her to leave you (& it might have in fact done so, had you shared the truth with her promptly) - & yet you turn around in the next comment & talk about this vapid cliche of "she gives me peace / find a woman who is your peace" - (this is just the male version of tik Tok cringe. Which is even sadder, in a way.) There's a contradiction in there & you are backwards rationalizing that you made a wise choice, when in my view the only wise choice there was a macchiavellian calculation you made - the same calculation that Mystery or Owen Cook would've advised men to do 15-20 years ago. There might be some genuine impetus inside of me that is willing to "be the rock" for a humble woman from some poor area in the 3rd world, who grew up with genuine hardship. But I am resolutely against being that for any spoiled American woman, raised with every advantage / privilege, to the point where now Schrodinger's feminism is the standard. I just viscerally recoil from a 1-way "being the rock" for such a creature - while she gets to relax into a sense of security on my watch - yet concurrently reserves her "right" to stick around only so long as she gets to take more value & give less value - to net-gain from the relational transaction OR ELSE. No. Absolutely not. Will not serve.
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  44. The amount of women I know - who I KNOW are setting for whoever will LTR them, then bragging they've found their "soulmate" on FB... Holy crap...
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  45. Well articulated point. A tangent to this is the serial monogamy culture of recent decades. Men in unmarried committed relationships experience firsthand that women are Just. Not. Loyal. So a lot of men have said "the hell with that", & keep it "casual" after those experiences.
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  46. Medieval farmer mode isn't an option though. Women aren't even "true partner potential" today, Orion makes that point here. The thing is, there are millions of pretty decent, hard working men in their 20s who literally can't find a "founder" to build equity with. These millions of men, if they can be rational & strip the emotions out of WHY they couldn't find a "founder" to "build with" in their 20s - will observe that women do not love men or even really care about men in any way that exceeds virtue signaling. That's the crimson pill, unfortunately.
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  47. You're missing the point, Dr Taraban - the key problem is that the "normal" way that "committed" women act with other men in 2024 IS COMPLETELY DISRESPECTFUL.
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  48. Yup. Selling the dream is still the most effective way. Which is sad. And condescending. And when it works, the groundwork is laid for contempt. Yuck.
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  49. s3x & feminine companionship. That's it.
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  50.  ImAKangwithnokingdom  Ok, I hear that - and relate to it somewhat - and here's my response: women testing men is a game too, and at this age I'm immediately turned off once a woman tests me. Because she's introducing negativity to assuage her insecurities at my expense. So I immediately understand that I'll never be as into her after that- it's like I lose respect for her in that moment. And I haven't met any (straight) women who don't test men, so it's just untenable at this point, my boundaries are too tight now after decades of f***ery. So the one thing I agree is that games are a turn off, but that tests are games too and virtually all women do this.
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  51. A high notch count person who persuades another to give them monogamy without full disclosure = a used car salesman who rolls back the odometer. My point: IT'S UNETHICAL.
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  52. The soft bigotry of legitimizing both tone policing & the infantilization of the Other.
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  53. When (older) men realize that women cannot be trusted fundamentally, the possibility of a "stable relationship" goes out the window.
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  54. Yeah & it means never having a monogamous agreement. Women like the whole Sting aesthetic, but seem to miss that part.
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  55. If a woman is creating no win conversations and forcing them on you, her emotions don't deserve validation.
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  56. Yes 💯 percent. Also "I'm not happy anymore, and I deserve happiness". IMO these are disgusting rationales for leaving a marriage with children.
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  57.  @im1who84u  Preach, senior brother. Your experiences in granting exclusive relationships (yes, at women's request) exactly resonate with mine.
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  58. Unpopular opinion: dogs are not loyal and don't give unconditional love. They "love" and are loyal to whoever consistently feeds them.
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  59. ​ @bendowney5822  that's absolutely accurate, but it also implies that any man is a helpless simp who fails to constantly give her more, more, more. Men do not have to play this losing game.
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  60. ​ @stefanisilva2493  I agree with you & also women with hi notch counts generally like being able to say "I'm proud to be a mom, best decision ever" yet actually hate the day to day of BEING a mom.
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  61. Man that sucks. In retrospect, do you wish you had been more vicious in the divorce proceedings? If she "went low", do you wish you had went lower? Would you do it differently?
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  62.  @p19shelt  yeah but I don't even believe in "commitment" anymore, so it was a waste.
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  63. I think the percentage of single & divorced women in the USA, who are age 32-55, who are cluster B - is around 75%. I'm completely serious. Look at their social media. They are telling on themselves & demonstrating clear-as-day that they have at least 5 of 9 criteria that make for BPD or NPD diagnosis - as defined by the DSM-5.
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  64. ​ @deerlow1851  your feelings are reflecting the death of your dream of a "true partnership" (another Dr T video), now that you've seen her nature.
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  65. It is. 2023 is clown world. Women are empowered when they get their way, victims when they don't. When men act horribly in LTRs, they're monsters. When women act horribly in LTRs, they're just insecure & misunderstood bc they need more more more from men, who aren't manning up & satiating all her f'd up "needs".
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  66. Compelling & interesting video here Dr Taraban. But I don't think it accounts for human duplicity & deceit. That's a huge component of "the death of a dream".
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  67. ​ ImAKangwithnokingdom  wow, you just helped me stumble upon another reason not to date single mothers - Even if they are actually busy and spending their time doing anything other than contacting you, it's probably her being busy raising another man's kid. That's not only utterly uninteresting, it's actually worse than her being boring and contacting you too much.
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  68. That last thing you wrote. What about your vow? What if he changes & you stop loving him? In 90% of divorces involving college educated women, it's the women proactively divorcing. So why should men trust women, in the big picture?
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  69. You modern women are a burden to men. Orion cements this point when he mentions never finding a woman who wanted to build a true partnership with him.
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  70. 7:05 how about when you're so turned off by her manipulation that you break up with her, what happens to her anxiety level then?
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  71. The soft bigotry of walking on eggshells for their own good.
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  72. ​ @Paul-yk7ds  but that's as sustainably "Happy" as they ever will be. Just chasing you forever. You both get each other's best that way.
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  73. Father time is undefeated. It may be "insecurity insurance" but the paid premium on that insurance is astronomically high, he loses all freedom & oh yeah, btw she was the one who grovelled for it.
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  74. I really do not understand this "competent women vs mediocre men" trope. Ok, so you have a college degree in communications (& college debt) and you're a marketing middle manager in a sterile office park, off some hellish suburban "Stroad", where you manipulate people all day for corporate profits. Like, so what? Men don't want that.
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  75. Holy cow is that completely wrong. In your world view, "women feel strongly responsible"...but that's weird bc they never ever accept/acknowledge responsibility.
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  76. ​ @patrickrada2923  that's just inaccurate. Women incessantly say how much they highly value their "BFFs" or "close" girlfriends (I say they're allies, not really friends). But NONE of them would define "loyalty" from their girlfriends as you stated above. No - quite the opposite - they know that loyalty, & the sustainability of the friendship itself, requires reciprocation & constant acts/words of support. Even when they don't "feel" like giving that. So you're 100% incorrect.
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  77. Orion - you're getting ballsier with your subject matter lately. I like it.
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  78. 10:36 I have been multiple LTRs with women who said marriage wasn't important to them for 2-3 years, then pulled a bait & switch with a marriage ultimatum. The first time I whimpered and tried to cave, which turned her off. The second time I said pack your crap and leave. The third time there was just palpable sadness & eerie quiet, & a melancholy goodbye. Women don't play fair, Orion. I suppose your advice still applies - but you should cover this scenario because it happens ALL the time.
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  79. Underrated comment 💯
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  80. non shallontly Lolol I think it's safe to say that less than 0.001% of people who file for divorce are acting from love. Maybe that 1 in a million exception would be if your spouse felt in love with someone else, and you filed for divorce so that your spouse could seek happiness with another - and genuinely wish them greater happiness in doing so. Almost never happens of course.
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  81. You mean the only real leader with any power whatsoever in 2021? When 1984 was literally happening, medically? Thank You Ron DeSantis!
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  82. ​ @Annemarie_case143 your take is just completely wrong. When an unattractive woman pursues a man, it's considered rude if he rejects her and even the gentlest way. Everyone, and particularly women, will act like that man should accept her advances, just because she made them, in spite of the SMV Gap - like he owes that unattractive woman not only courtesy, but reciprocation. And on the other hand, when a woman rejects a man's advances - she can be as cruel and heartless as she wants, and nobody will fault her whatsoever. She's definitely not expected to accept his advances, but even beyond that - Basic courtesy in her rejecting him is not even expected, and not seen as something that she owes him (just treating him like a human being). It's just diametrically opposite of what you claim.
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  83. Yeah, you're just giving her more ammo to betray you and justify it to everyone - "he said I should pretend to be having an affair with him to maintain his interest, it was emotionally abusive so I had a real affair with Kevin in sales, but only because my husband traumatized me, I'm the victim here..."
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  84. Holy crap, that's literally how women en masse have treated men for God knows how long. The proof is overwhelming in the family courts, alimony recipient statistics, & simply eavesdropping on girl talk. Geesh- you are profoundly intellectually dishonest!
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  85. MEN, READ THIS COMMENT all the way through. Women develop contempt & disdain for men who commit to them. This is the rule, be forewarned that the exception only proves the rule.
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  86. ​ @conceptualclarity  i think that's right, but ive always wondered how s3x workers regard attractive male customers that they can tell - have the charisma, social awareness & looks to fairly easily get women, but actually prefer paying for it, without a trace of guilt or shame. That fascinates me actually.
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  87. You sound impressionable & confused & kinda hostile. Take one of your wife's SSRIs & settle down 👍
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  88. The "good girl who has only slept with you quickly" act doesn't work on me, or any guy with a brain. Its manipulation, we know this is just a routine & a long con you run on every guy you've ever liked.
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  89. Orion - with this video, you have split WIDE open the infinite chasm between your RP viewers & your TradCon viewers - who are now incredibly pissed at you. Well done.
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  90. But women don't actually love men, that's the kicker. That's Red Pill 101. Let's not change dictionary definitions of words once again, to cater to the feminine imperative for the millionth time.
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  91. What the other person wants in your case is sex. I met someone recently who was being all sweetly affectionate with me on the 2nd date, but wouldn't have sex after the 3rd date. I was actually cool with that, til she started badgering me about reassuring her that I was okay with taking it slow. It was at that moment I realized her "sweetly affectionate" stuff was a strategic tactic, which is repulsive. It's like "ok lady you've been watching Matthew Hussey videos on how to act feminine but explicitly not give me what I want". It's actually gross, in the same exact way that a man blatantly lying to a woman to get sex is gross. Kinda dehumanizing too
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  92. Yes. Once you have a kid with an American woman, you're completely screwed.
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  93. The entire point of Orion's video is that women are Faithless - that Women continue to demand that they take more than they give, or they'll bail. The jig is up.
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  94. Ironically, that describes "Chateau Heartiste" who was also intellectually brilliant...but all that knowledge made him miserable & he went off the rails with WN content.
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  95. When approaching you are giving an invitation and an opportunity. If you want to approach but don't out of fear - that's far worse, & people can tell.
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  96. Elephant in the room: your videos paint women as evil at worst, parasitic at best. Leading sincere, "well intentioned", mutually beneficial play / seduction only yields short-term fun. Women now (last ~5 years) bitterly complain they're "being used" whenever long-term commitment isn't the outcome. If you're basically a drifter, or always just passing through - sure this works. If you're geographically stationary, prepare for a lotta bad feelings & blocking numbers & "i thought he was a good guy" & her pouting like a victim. I believe Orion definitely encounters this dynamic with women in the Bay Area, which is full of Schrodinger's feminists that cannot be satisfied. I don't think THEY would retroactively define their flings or "relationships" with Orion as "satisfying". In fact, they're probably out there dating some new guy or in a boring monogamous relationship & trying to hide / deny (to the new guy) that any such fling / relationship with Orion ever occurred. And these women would memory-hole at best, or play victim at worst, to any guy who successfully embodied this style of play / seduction - who she slept with, but didn't get commitment from. You all know I'm right. Especially in blue state USA in post-peak-swipe-hookup-era 2024.
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  97. Bullshit. You use words as weapons & will say ANYTHING to get your way and manipulate people, even total lies.
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  98. If you were in the top 0.1%, you wouldn't have the time to watch this content and write a long comment as you did.
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  99. Yes and the woman having leverage EQUALS the woman losing attraction. This is an immutable law in 2023.
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  100. I see no evidence of any women like this in existence anymore. The best men can hope for is she'll operate in the best interest of your children.
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  101. Where to even begin with this psychologically twisted attempt to declare true reciprocity in such a partnership as you described... Very few women are housewives anymore, and house husbands are overwhelmingly chastised as being undeserving of their working wife. At the very least, any working wife who is providing more than her husband will be surrounded by a community of women telling her that she "deserves better". 2nd, how many of these housewives are coming into their marriages as pure virgins, or at least very low n count women? And they virtually all have social media accounts with DM's open where they can, at the very least, collect resumes for the moment they feel bored or unhappy. How nice it must be for them to receive a 2:00 p.m. message from Chad on a Wednesday while her husband is slaving away at some soul-sucking corporate job. And then, should that housewife decide to proactively divorce at some point down the line, she has every source of state power putting the wind in her back to extract whatever she wants from him, provided he has anything at all left... After already having provided for her for x number of years. What a twisted & guilt-ridden mind you must have. Oh & P.S. absolutely no men in the year 2024 get, much less "deserve", long-term security for their labor. Under current societal conditions, all working people are discarded in the blink of an eye by employers who could not give a damn about them. And you seem to have missed Orion's entire overarching point that women do NOT help men achieve their goals anyway.
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  102. ​ @Leoo117  No. Women don't want to build w/ a man. Man's struggle is just an "ew" to them. They only wanna parasitically attach to the finished product.
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  103. ​ @andersnielsen6044 yes, lying & intentionally deceiving & fundamentally misrepresenting herself/her life - also are ploys for our attention & love.
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  104.  @TheWhodey8607  I read the book 20 years ago. I also met Deida & attended his 3 day intensive workshop. He has wisdom & does bring value HOWEVER ultimately he teaches "serving" women. That doesn't work anymore. Because women are poisoned by feminism, head meds, birth control, Duluth model, social media, ~5 other things - and they DON'T APPRECIATE men's sacrifice anymore. So unfortunately, his advice is functionally defunct.
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  105.  @BB-te8tc  ah ok. Which made me feel like discarding her forever.
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  106. Is traditional marriage still around? How many American women of child bearing age do you know who DON'T have social media? Do you realize that almost ALL of the women are seeking validation from social media (not their husbands/families) & validation from other men, as they - somewhere in the back of their minds - compile a list of "back burner" men? This is NOT traditional marriage. Your "little league field" example is a powerful one, but I haven't met a woman I'd trust even 50% enough to risk that with, when the entire Justice system is against men (and DEFINITELY the family probate court system).
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  107. Both got married pre-Instagram era. Everything is 1000% worse now.
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  108. None of that sounds like a good deal to me. Especially since women don't offer in-kind most of the things you acknowledge they need.
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  109. Truth. Sometimes these days, it's just her getting commitment from a man - then she flips & the mask slips & her ugly inner self is revealed
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  110. Especially older women. Complete snakes in the grass. Right down to their demeanor and energy. Is it drramgirl or is it Memorex? We can't tell.
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  111. Here's where it gets really dark for a man with a huge N-count in 2024 culture: you not only see 1 single benefit to "dating" a woman (s3x), but you also get totally bored of that 1 single benefit very quickly. And you realize that any ongoing relationship is just a woman taking taking taking (p*rasitic). So then the only gratifying interactions with women involve a continuous lifestyle of new s3x partners all the time. Which - the easiest way to do that is via prostitution. And thats affordable now - but once thats legalized, the price will be even lower. And what ive just described is what women are really terrified of, because they only want the men that can, at least, have huge N-counts. So that's the ultimate race to the bottom scenario, & thats where culture is headed. What a wonderful world!
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  112. Yes. I do not know of a single long-term relationship comprised of people under the age of 60 - where the man is not tolerating disrespect. It's sickening. Men have lost their spine.
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  113. I like your comment, however the low class unemployed bums that are handsome & "devil may care" enough to bang women - what are they paying?
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  114. I think it began in 2021-2022. See you in the 2040s. Hopefully sooner, of course.
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  115.  @josephpepper3087  women with "Godly faith" do not stray, divorce, or fornicate. You're contradicting yourself.
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  116. ​ @DJ_Mooseknucks  exactly, you get it. Have a great time until she does the "what are we, where is this going" cliche - then bail, rinse & repeat.
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  117. Absolutely, it's so hilarious to see these people out on first dates and you just know that the man is being nice to the woman cuz he hasn't nailed her yet, and you know that once he does, they're not going to be on any more dates!
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  118. His advice is 20 years outdated at this point. And he was an old guy back in the early 00s.
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  119. ​ @JustinColletti But again, you take a shot at Orion's motives ("object of sexual gratification", "Show some class") but not her motives. When SHE is the one acting bonkers & pathetic. That isn't mimicking Orion - that's your gynocentrism bias, and that's on YOU. Why, oh why do people continue to take these mentally ill women seriously...and "both sides" their insane machinations with consideration, even deference... When the appropriate response would be "you're bonkers, lady. What are you, 13 years old? You're not a serious person. You don't deserve a decent guy based on your unhinged behavior. Grow up."
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  120. If you're going with the right wing tradcon "men are supposed to be providers", then women are supposed to be chaste. And about zero % of you are.
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  121. They won't. They'll be empowered feminists when they get their way & oppressed victims when they don't. They are Post-Human organisms at this point.
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  122. Okay. I read that. You are a (Neo) traditionalist therapist. So then, and your sessions with men, do you advise them to not pair up with single mothers? Or with women over age 43? Or with women with high N counts? I hope you are at least consistent in how you apply your views to the real human lives that you touch.
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  123. In any dating scenario, it's on the person asking for monogamy to have "stopped short". If they didn't "stop short", they have no right to request monogamy from another.
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  124. I think @psychacks could definitely do a talk on the judgemental trajectory after fundamentally misrepresenting oneself in the early dating stage.
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  125. For starters, Orion is giving women great advice. Men realize that there's no point in relaying this great advice to women they've known for many years. Let that sink in
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  126. 8:51 - 9:03 There is no excuse for this kind of behavior, even if the man is avoidant. Women can always communicate more forcefully with their words, or with dignified actions (leaving). You make a valid point overall, but I'm just OVER any excuse for evil female behavior. This is a cultural infection, and it has to STOP.
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  127. Yes 💯 we all need to start saying this. Full decriminalization now, & let the free market dictate the price. Probably 200 an hour for "upscale" with a looker, 60 bucks for a cheap 15 min quickie with a junkie chick.
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  128. I understand that you mean well, but women can NOT fix their mental health in a manner which renders them suitable for marriage, whereas they were previously unsuitable for such. Women do not "emotionally heal" from bad relationships, especially flings with more attractive men who left them "stuck at her highest setting". These are not just red pill cliches, they are absolute truth. And evidence of these truths can be observed in women's private conversations with their fellow female friends.
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  129. I don't love people that treat me like that. I will not give love to a narcissist beyond a quick 1-time "What would Jesus do" nice gesture. But I sure ain't Jesus.
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  130. That may be the hardest part of leaving her, just viscerally - knowing & imagining that she can & probably will bang another dude very very soon after.
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  131. In the modern world of social media, where almost every young woman can bang way outta her league, almost 100% of women are "settling" in marriage now. Stuck @ Highest setting.
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  132. "if he can't handle me at my worst, he doesn't deserve me at my best" - is littered across millions of women's social media pages. Not men's.
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  133. That's because your SMV was astronomically higher than theirs, so AF was satisfied. I'm sure they didn't last for myriad reasons, which you acknowledge.
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  134. Hi, Ralph Reed just called from 1994, he wants his talking points back.
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  135. Your #4 - women SAY that. Ok. What about their actions tho. Are they loyal to you guys right now? Also, the #1 most responsible person for the Russian-Ukrainian war right now IMO is Victoria Nuland, whose "biological research facilities" comment under oath, in response to a question from then Senator Rubio, shocked everyone & compelled Putin to retaliate. Nuland is a woman. Hillary Clinton is a woman. Margaret Thatcher & Indira Ghandi were women. TONS of Israel first Neoconservatives are women.
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  136. Where are hot college girls 150? Specifically, like what state(s)?
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  137.  @marriagecausesdivorce7540  Yes - & with science & technology, we know that religion is flat-out untrue. There may be a higher power ("God") but it's irrefutable at this point that no one religion is the Truth.
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  138. 4:52 HA! There you have it. Just be indifferent towards social norms/attitudes. And when you are, women offer nothing you can't cheaply buy. Got it, thanks dude!
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  139. Yes. So many women loathe Trump. Who is utterly amoral. Women can't stand the mirror he represents. If you want to accurately guess what Trump will do next, just ask yourself the question what would a woman going through a divorce do right now? That's exactly how he operates.
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  140. Underrated comment. Very accurate.
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  141. If they are actually more valuable for their womb, but are currently being treated as more valuable for non-maternal social media exploits... that's a perversion.
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  142. ​ @psychacks  I am a musician. If every venue and every individual decided they were not going to pay for a musician any longer, I would still go out and play music at open mics etc as often as possible.
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  143. Synergy lol. My problems are my problems and her problems are our problems. Her money is her money in my money is our money. Come on, seriously.
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  144. Yeah dude. When men try to justify that 1st one you cite, I can see them hollowing out their own souls while uttering their cope nonsense.
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  145.  @roses6564  "waahh, I know you are but what am I?" Just shut up & go away. 🤡
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  146. But - what is not a fad, and is clearly statistically supported - is the fact that a skyrocketing number of white women in their 30s/40s are on SSRIs & Benzos.
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  147. Maybe this helps, I will only make an attempt to be valuable where I want to add value. There are absolutely zero societal expectations that I give a damn about enough to add value in those conventional ways. Screw that.
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  148. Yet SO many men in their 50s & 60s are getting proactively divorced by wives of 10/20/30 years... which is way, WAY sadder than if they stayed single.
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  149. "How come her heart's so stubborn / And what's so wrong with giving / Ask the big sky, talking about understanding women" -Elton John (imagine that)
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  150. Right. And good luck holding frame for 50 years, gentlemen. Better not have a bad day, ever.
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  151. Hallelujah. It's like nobody in the man o sphere ever considered that Maybe it's most advantageous to go that route, call yourself "they/them", & play victim. Full sociopath.
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  152. I honestly disagree, full stop. Some of the happiest times in my life have been traveling around, just meeting strangers, hooking up with the local women. Then moving on unattached.
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  153. In an "observant Christian Community" the woman would not be having premarital fornication in the 1st place. But this never happens anymore. So, BS.
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  154.  @paulpalmer2336  that's quite an overstatement. Imagine saying "kind women don't care if anyone values their behavior". Everyone cares, obviously.
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  155. My lifelong experience: women label a behavior "emotional abuse" when done to them..When they do the exact same behavior "I was testing him".
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  156.  @roses6564  I've literally had an ex tell me "I was testing you" & women say things ALL the time of an equivalent nature (when justifying said behavior): I was feeling insecure, I felt unsure of where it was going, I was trying to see how much he cared, I didn't feel seen, & on & on....
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  157. Except there are literally millions of women who'll say it doesn't matter while dating, then pull a bait & switch a couple years later. I've met MANY such women.
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  158. Dr Taraban - this just shows even more hypocrisy in women. SPECIFICALLY - if a man ghosts her after s3x, she says he's used / mistreated her, & he's a bad person. But men? Just get over it bro.
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  159. High value men aren't divorced. A divorced man has unnecessary baggage and drama with some baby mama. Regardless of his $.
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  160. You don't know what word salad means. You make a pointed criticism of his message. Which was coherent. So it wasn't a word salad, then.
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  161. There is no such thing as "healing". It's a lie. The trauma accumulates & lasts forever. And just gets worse and worse.
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  162. You build a love / But that love falls apart
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  163. You're going to lose either way. So choose how you lose. Choose to have dignity. Choose the path of hope eventually returning to you.
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  164. There is no more prominent theme in Orion's entire oeuvre than this: committed relationships are transactions where people try to extract the most while giving the least possible. The whole Sting ethos of "if you love someone, set them free" - yeah, that's love. That's about giving - and giving without resentm...oops, I mean expectations. People who seek committed relationships are not seeking to love, they are seeking to GET. Period.
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  165. The women who "don't need men at home" somehow do need social media to bitterly complain or over share about their sad lives & endlessly seek validation (but I repeat myself), from an endless sea of humanity - including from...men actually. Meanwhile men do not do 10% of the pathetic validation farming you women feverishly engage in - & guess what - men can cook & clean & walk down to the street corner with money in their hand to obtain the only thing they "need" from women.
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  166. If he's a Chad, sure. Women might chase his validation. But this is definitely happening less than even 10 years ago. Their egos have eroded to a very fragile state where they might turtle & go home & cry instead.
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  167. So where does this leave guys that get bored quickly after sleeping with the same woman?
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  168. I love your content, and it's all demonstrably true, and also- every new video you release makes me more nihilistic than I was before.
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  169. ​ @sophiavoigt5798  that's objectively false, & the evidence is the statistics on skyrocketing SSRI & Benzo use in 40+ American women.
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  170. So ask questions & only selectively validate her answers. That means openly disagreeing at times. Amused screening.
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  171. Ok - so accept/learn/work...& then what, to you, is "having things play out in your favor"? Getting married or LTR w modern woman? What a prize 🏆
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  172. ​ @IndyZAR317  as long as you continue to feed the dog.
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  173. The vast majority of men listening to Dr Taraban are men who actually listened to women. And believed women. And the women lied.
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  174. Not true at all. She may hate you, but if anything she'll be more sexually attracted to you and chase your validation.
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  175. It's not gaslighting at all. You have no clue what that word means. Making a woman briefly wonder if your 1st sexual encounter was a ons - is actually healthy for the potential development of a relationship.
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  176. Only men are held accountable for their vows in the modern Christian church. Women know this, which explains why women become "Christian". The modern church will ultimately buy any justification a woman concocts for breaking her vows. Thus, she has extra layers of security via the "Christian marriage" facade. Also, the modern Christian Church is full of single moms who proactively divorced - and the church leadership always supports them remarrying (anti Biblical of course) & even pressures the single men in their congregation to wife them up. Dalrock wrote thousands of pages about this on his blog from 2010-2020, it's still up for viewing.
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  177. The Therapy Industrial Complex contributing to "people growing out of their conscience". What almost no one is talking about - is how many families have been destroyed because some therapist tells their female client that they are justified in filing for divorce. By any means necessary, no matter how unethical. Without truthful accurate information, and/or without the other person's side of the story. And it's the children who suffer.
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  178. Right, the problem is women don't see "that" guy as being better than them (which he is). And women have no basis for thinking that. But they do anyway.
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  179. ​ @mnml  I've been thinking a lot recently about how I would almost gladly be with a woman who has a 90s feminist mindset, as opposed to this Taylor Swift Schrodinger's feminism that we have now.
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  180. No disrespect or shade, I genuinely see 0 value in putting in work to keep the same woman attracted, just to smash that same woman over & over again. Definition of scarcity.
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  181. Very "A Course in Miracles" message here. Is love the opposite of indifference, or are love & indifference the 2 complimentary most powerful forces in the universe?
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  182. "personal goal with timelines" yeah ok, a goal for her to gain leverage & power over a man with the full weight of the USA legal system behind her, ready to crush him at her beckoning. Orion is exactly correct that "they love what they want more than they love you".
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  183. Bingo. Men's worst nature (physical violence) is punished by jail time or worse. Women's worst nature (psychological violence) is not only allowed, it's incentivized by law (family courts, Duluth model).
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  184. Holy crap, no. Some woman who's so bonkers that she gives out unsolicited post-date report cards could become an above average wife. Do you hear yourself.
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  185. Absolutely 💯...80%+ have BPD or NPD. That's just going by the DSM-5 definition, not just a knee jerk emotional response. Nobody is saying this, it's verboten.
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  186. How old are they, and what are their n counts? They Are probably inferior to escorts (as a value proposition to men).
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  187.  @SystemChannel  The disrespect causes distrust & disgust which makes me jealous for my happy carefree life prior to committing to a disrespectful woman
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  188. They don't, tho
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  189. @Khan-rz8qi You can Not have self respect & also sign up for that. Pick 1.
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  190. It's wild how USA women will call USA men "unsafe" etc, yet freely walk the streets here...& Yet, would NEVER travel to a 3rd world country alone like I do.
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  191. You create the negativity. Not men
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  192. Your rant is incoherent. He's not advocating for "fatherless children". He's not advocating for procreation at all. Btw, which women should men be procreating with today?
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  193. Almost every woman: "I want someone to travel with!" Yeah no shit, you want a tour guide & human shield. I don't want to travel with you. I wanna travel alone & sleep with new women!
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  194. ​ @LisaCulton 7 years ago (2018) a study found that 45% of USA white women 40-50 yrs old were on SSRIs or Benzos. Women are fake happy. They're very sad actually.
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  195. That is just utterly completely false. Women's emotions are engaged to the highest degree when they are uncertain about a man's feelings towards them.
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  196.  @TigerBelleWatkinsProductions  fair enough, the context is still "women should support less, men should support more". How else can one interpret that? Orion's ongoing point is that women's love is consumptive, women date for gain, women would rather sit at the finish line & pick a winner rather than build with someone. That's a bad deal for us, obviously.
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  197.  @-glitch-8195  For starters, you don't understand Cluster B personality disorders. A man's behavior can be virtually perfect & it will not correlate to a positive outcome. More to the point - women don't have "happiness" long-term. They are attached to everything but committed (truly) to nothing - which is exactly why they're almost all petty, malicious & only respond to 2 fundamental drives: competition and/or provisioning (Esther Vilar).
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  198. Compelling perspective, thanks. I've never been to Japan/Korea/Singapore so that's interesting to hear. It's definitely about consumerism & corporate greed on some level. One of my first thoughts after Jimmy Buffett passed away was - did he regret all the corporate - building activities he spent so much time & effort on in the 1990s & 2000s? I'm sure it was meaningful to write music, perform it at concerts, live his beachbum lifestyle with family & friends....but all the time he spent purely focused on making like a billion dollars with chain restaurants in casinos etc - really? Was that worth it, the time he had here on earth?
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  199. A woman I'd been seeing for 2 months blew me off at a party to do hard drugs with 2 scumbag dudes. Not sure how this helps that situation. I verbally dismantled her & blocked her forever.
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  200. Now do the reverse - when women F over provider males in family court, & those males "revert" in your eyes from "real men" back to Peter Pans. THIS is more common today.
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  201. Why do they believe this?
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  202. It's annoying and somewhat of a turn off when women do that to me. It's like "I get it, you want more from me, you're feeling insecure, but you're just being annoying & wanting to take my time and attention from my day, while offering no value in this text".
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  203. A traditional Christian Church in 1995 called, it wants it's sermon back.
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  204. I keep saying that: if men could only listen to the private conversations of a couple of 40-something divorced women... The sheer absolute malice...
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  205. I was just in a poor South American country for 3 weeks. If men are disrespected, they'll just unalive that person. Women treat men much better there. Coincidence?
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  206. ​ @tobe-you-tube6612  and yet, monkey branching is THE NORM for women ending relationships, & women usually are the ones ending relationships.
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  207. ​ @BabyRuthyBear My goodness. If women don't want casual sex, then they shouldn't have casual sex. Where's the accountability? Btw almost 0 women today have sex with only 1 man.
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  208. With the modern, phone addicted, social media woman? There can be no long term interest. Because her brain is broken.
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  209. Exactly. Which is why the former is "illegal". It's just about power & leverage. Most men don't understand this: Their biology can't tell if $ was involved.
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  210. Do you hear yourself? All these things which you deem "evil" if men do them via pick-up artistry - are demonstrably standard practice for how women treat men? Head games - check. Manipulating men's emotions - check. Using men to meet all manner of her needs & discarding him the moment a lack of value is perceived - even in the presence of vows - check. I keep saying this: Women use men to meet every need they can possibly extract from them, & not a soul pushes back. But after a mutually enjoyable fling, where both parties enjoyed bedroom fun, runs its course or just doesn't work out - it's "waahh! No fair. He USED me". And then everyone validates her feeling that way, & calls the guy essentially a bad person for simply not proactively giving out his commitment. It's just this insidious form of gaslighting that has become the most normal thing in the world today...
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  211. If people don't like the way I "move" today - well, I learned a lot from women. I was morally good when younger, that was worthless to women.
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  212. Only women "hate" beautiful women. Many men are scared / intimidated / etc, but it's not actually hate. And by your logic, women wanna "SA" hot men also.
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  213. Nah. It was spite. She could sense that he did not even want to f her.
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  214. The 1994 GOP convention called, they want their talking points back
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  215. Why would you "like" & moreso value a woman with a ton of notches, who's being deceitful and/or pulling a bait & switch? The "culture" has erased valuable worthwhile women.
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  216. How is the touch of a 38 year old divorced woman any better than the touch of a hooker?
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  217. But see, you must "be bothered with men anymore". Men are your plumbers, mechanics, electricians, HVAC installers, roofers, pavers, repair techs, linemen, farmers, & law enforcement officers that serve as your human shields.
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  218. 1. Decriminalize the p word 2. Remove welfare for single mothers Everything would change (in the USA).
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  219.  @TheDiamondNet  the single mothers can be s3x workers to provide for their children. The true market value in the USA should be somewhere around $50-75 an hour for her services - that's plenty to put food on the table.
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  220. ​ @patrioticwhitemail9119 your 1st comment is 100% & yes it is dark & all honest analyses of "why?" lead to parasitism at best & malice at worst.
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  221. Why would men with an established internal structure want to get married to a modern woman in 2025?
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  222. You literally use male police officers as human Shields. 80+% of divorces wouldn't be initiated by women if men could use physical violence as women actually do use psychological violence.
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  223. Yes. Women's brains are broken. If they can't lock down a top 5% man, they say "I'd be happier single". But they are NOT happy single. It's pride, & it's also delulu-level entitlement.
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  224. That definitely happens. Especially if they're not a close friend, but just kind of an acquaintance that I'll tolerate, or even enjoy a conversation once outta 5-10x they start yapping....but then I see out on e.g. a tinder date & I can't help but think "she's not gonna bang this loser, but I'd like to bang her & possibly could"....a couple days ago, I had some sadsack old acquaintance who cries at bars confront me about "ruining" a chance he had with some woman about 2 plus years ago, because I flirted with her for 30 seconds. Suffice to say, men are more desperate than ever these days, and I don't necessarily think it's my duty to "respect" them or their sad attempts to bed women who aren't attracted to them. I guess that's the old school pua coming out in me LOLOL.
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  225. Holy crap is that wrong. We do not need to work constantly to survive. We have grocery stores for chrissakes. We have it 1000x easier than our ancestors.
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  226. Yes, that is more true than everything else stated here. And beliefs + demeanor + logistics + an invitation.
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  227. I don't disagree with you. But when men treat women that way, it's now called "abuse". Relationships are untenable until the rotten gynocentric culture shifts significantly.
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  228. ​ @wisdomandy9361 Agreed. I think there has become this reductionist view in the Online World of 2024 that attractive men are only out there either pumping and dumping...or are husbands in long term marriages. There are definitely guys like me who have been in many relationships, and also had a lot of "casual" s3x, and concluded that just dating & s3x without expectations or a commitment is literally As Good As It Gets. A man who can get laid & doesn't want children derives Absolutely. Zero. Value from not only marriage, but any kind of commitment, especially serial monogamy - which is a total waste of time and guarantees missed opportunities elsewhere.
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  229. You do not need money or status at all. Just to stoke jealousy via other women wanting you.
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  230. ​ @LisaCulton  There are statistics on Lesbian DV rates vs gay male DV rates vs hetero DV rates. I wonder if you have the courage to look them up.
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  231. Romantic relationships are vastly different from economic ones. In economic relationships, 2 parties can be of objectively equal value (different complimentary things to offer) & therefore it's win-win. In romantic relationships, hypergamy ain't satisfied with objectively equal value. At least not for long.
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  232. ​ @jonthomson9262  For a matter of months, yes. But even after I've done that "perfectly", I still eventually get the cliched "what are we" "where is this going" "I don't wanna waste my time"...which I see as a plea for transactional committed relationships - because they can't deal with the chasing/pursuing any longer. And in doing this, another way of looking at it is they're sabotaging that dynamic of chasing & pursuing you, because they're putting it on the line & forcing a response from you that might end things.
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  233. The other "red pill spilling of the beans" is this: virtually 100% of American men can afford them if they just travel to the third world. But they won't tell you this.
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  234.  @davyr847  ok, so don't give an inch. And then they won't take a mile. E.G., mandatory pregnancy leave is anti-Profit. It's against your bottom line. So don't allow it. And how would that be possible - when it would seem to be illegal to terminate her employment over pregnancy - with these ridiculous feminized laws? Very simple. You say whatever it takes to terminate her employment, without citing the truth of why you're terminating her employment. I mean, that's exactly what a woman would do.
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  235.  @patrickrada2923  I certainly believe you - that it's "what these women meant". That's textbook Taylor Swift Schrodinger's feminism. It's the whole untenable generation. And I reject that 💯.
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  236. Imagine a world where the oldest profession in human history is made illegal. And ask yourself why that is, who got power from it, & how it caused your "problem" above.
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  237. Right. James Sexton covers this a lot, just the "eye rolls" of passive aggression that kids "hear" loud & clear. And as a never married guy with no kids, I hope @PsycHacks hears me loud and clear on this one: it is PROFOUNDLY UNFAIR for a divorced parent to move on & form a relationship with a non-parent - and subject their new partner to all kinds of horrors associated with this. Extremely narcissistic and inconsiderate of the divorced parent to do this - and I've experienced it, and I see it all the damn time.
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  238. All the women crying on social media are having s3x at will but can't get commitment from their top choices. And they call themselves "broken". So they're clearly not winning lol
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  239.  @thesupreme950  except - if anything, we have an overpopulation problem, not the contrary.
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  240. We live in an age where physical violence is punished severely by law, & psychological violence is rewarded by law. That's why you derisively mock "WOMAN BAD", truthful comments.
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  241.  @-glitch-8195  is anyone arguing that? With a man and woman who are dating or in a relationship, although not married, that man very much has duties. If that couple are together in a precarious situation, the man is absolutely expected to protect her and defend her from harm. Moreover, when a man commits to marry a woman in this current generation - by far, most of what I see is the woman suggesting or begging for the marriage.... And then 5, 7, 10 years later - proactively filing for divorce. I'm not a proponent of being seduced or manipulated into marrying somebody that will then be the one to actively pursue the divorce years later. That's a fool's errand.
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  242. Bingo. Full decriminalization now. It's the #1 most important thing that will change all this.
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  243. Become immune to rejection. Then approach constantly. You're welcome.
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  244. Hoe math just went "simp" with his new v3 chart. He believes women see 70% of men as not even human, yet now says men should be Prince Charming. Hard pass.
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  245. I can tell you from about 15 years of personal experience, that every time I've gone from dating a woman without exclusivity - to committing to that woman, I have invested more in her & been treated worse by her. Every single time.
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  246. Great, good for you, so long as you / your sons don't have delusions of out-Alphaing the government & family court system.
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  247. I grew up Christian & there are almost zero American women under age 50 who are actually real, devout Christians. They just use religion to get what they want, when it benefits them.
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  248. So then - what are women living for?
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  249. Russians were the reason "we" won WWII.
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  250. Lol time to invest in assisted living facilities. Old people don't care about each other.
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  251. Esther Vilar said that women have two basic drives - to get a sugar daddy (beta) & to compete with other girls (alpha)
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  252. No self respecting man tolerates this. 99% of you males with wives/girlfriends have no boundaries & tolerate disrespect from women.
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  253. EXACTLY 💯. In a post feminist society, men & women seek antithetical goals with the 1 & only exception of raising children.
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  254.  @hk5454  women self-destruct without a man in their life. Men are fine being alone. Especially now that we realize women don't love men. And with a couple bucks, we can pay for it. In Colombia it's literally 17 bucks for a hot 20 year old!
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  255. Yep. Best response: "you're bonkers. Who does that? Good luck tho".
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  256. Shout it from the mountaintop. This would change everything. And nobody in a prominent position has the balls to say it, including Orion here.
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  257.  @successartistry3023  it's not good advice anymore, at least not for committed relationships. The world has changed, women are exponentially worse.
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  258.  @Schopenhauer69  women are incentivized to Break their vows. Even when there's equal incomes, society will still give a woman a pass for breaking her vow just cause she's bored or unhaaaaapy
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  259. It is collapsing though. This 40-year-old male psychologist's views are not reflective of the establishment. Rather, YOUR views ARE reflective of the old establishment - an establishment that has failed us. You are LARPing as some neo-traditionalist counter-cultural rebel. Like, C'mon. You TradCons gave women the power and the freedom to destroy our culture, which they have now effectively done.
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  260. I mostly agree with your whole take. At the end of the date, Orion probably didn't even want to bang her. She was humiliated by that dynamic, so she lashed out with the bonkers report card thing. Where I'd question you is where I'd also question Scott Galloway. Why is it bad behavior when men act on their natural motivations, but you conveniently don't question women's motivations?
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  261. ​ @JustinColletti And a separate point: I'm about 5 years older than Orion...it's been my lifelong experience that in the United States, it's overwhelmingly ungifted people who lack class, lack humility, & treat others poorly. Gifted people have no responsibility whatsoever to "make (ungifted people) feel good" about themselves. Arrogant & bitter idiots deserve nothing. And admit it Justin: you'd never tell a gifted woman that she has an obligation to make an ungifted man - who's lashing out at her - to feel good about himself. We all know this is true. You know it too.
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  262. That is largely good advice, however it is absolutely WOMEN who carries for the narrative that happiness is tied to a romantic relationship. I have never heard of a man ask the question "but are you really "happy" happy? (Or the equivalent). It is women, in their own conversations with one another, that perpetuate the notion that their happiness is tied to a man.
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  263. ​ @-glitch-8195  well, you might be right about that. I wouldn't "admit that to a female", cuz that's not how I feel, but that's just one person. Not surprised to hear your take on it, as most guys I know are pathetic. Actually, one lifelong bachelor in his fifties admitted that to me about 2 weeks ago. So...... Yeah. As for "this corner of the internet" - it's very interesting to dissect the evolution, to what it is now in 2025. Who was at the center of this corner of the internet 12 years ago, right when swipe apps came out? Julien Blanc. And "they" did everything in their power to cancel him and make his worldview virtually illegal. Everything he taught and did was antithetical to stable monogamous relationships. In fact, he made a sport out of documenting how he was sleeping with girls that were cheating on their boyfriends. This is probably a long and nuanced conversation, but my how things have changed.
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  264. Lisa Stansfield - & not as powerful with your gender reversal here IMO.
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  265. ​ @csmith9699  ok, sure. So then why aren't women pursuing men en masse? Why did Bumble have to revise it's business model? These conversations become untenable and exhausting, and will continue to be that way until women are actually held accountable for anything in dating / relationships.
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  266.  @kenyanicholas6809  Exactly. One side's prerogative is seen by society as morally right, & is openly - even arrogantly demanded (right on the top line of dating app profiles). The other side's prerogative is seen as dirty, wrong, "what a pig/player/fboy" etc - & is not arrogantly demanded, or almost ever openly stated. And the entitlement by the former is precisely the issue writ large, as evidenced by millions of dating app profiles. When as you state, there should be no obligation from any "new" person in one's life (relative stranger). But society accepts it from one side & not the other.
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  267. That certainly is another way of saying that women are biologically programmed to get all their needs met through men.
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  268. Women hate "peace" that's why they create drama out of thin air. Men love peace. Women sabotage peace. You're delulu.
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  269. Who wants that life in the USA in 2024? 2-3 years of not sleeping, then 2-3 years of navigating behavioral challenges socializing the child, then the abject HELL of school systems & diabolical kids of neglectful parents & the misery of pickups/dropoffs etc...then the hell of preteen & teenage years...then you have the privilege of throwing away much of your life savings so they can go to college & be indoctrinated by the worst people in the world (& if you have daughters, where they'll become FUBAR getting ran thru & racking up n counts etc)... Who would sign up for that?
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  270. You are committed to your children, any man who comes along will NEVER be your #1 priority & the difference now... is that we all know it.
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  271. What motivates men has been well known forever. It's the widespread Red Pill knowledge of what motivates women that's very recent, only becoming widely known in the past 10 to 20 years. It's interesting how lesbians have exponentially higher rates (per capita) of domestic violence and divorce than gay men.
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  272. Orion isn't really talking to senior citizens like you. The world you grew up in doesn't exist anymore. Good on you for finding another elderly partner who's relatable.
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  273. Men get shamed for having ugly GFs & wives. Women get shamed for being physically promiscuous. Makes perfect sense.
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  274. The next time you fly - if only female pilots & technicians showed up to work across the country, the short staffing would be so extreme - you wouldn't get on that plane. Your roads would crumble, your bridges would collapse, your energy grid would go down, your roofs would leak & destroy your cushy suburban condos, & on & on....
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  275. The number of wholesome ladies in my age range, who are single & available, is statistically zero in America. And yes, they only care how they feel around you.
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  276. What self respecting man would ever "desire partnership" with any high n count woman or divorced woman? F U B A R for anything more than sex.
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  277. Women get "swept off their feet" by any decent (& up) looking guy who is assertive, carefree, & stokes jealousy via interest of 2+ other women. Simple, really
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  278.  @BreaktheKarmicWheel  I answered your question honestly & straightforwardly, without bias. You designed the question to play victim no matter what.
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  279. The only reason men en masse are still getting into committed relationships is that most still believe that a woman can & will love him. This will change, is changing, & then it's...."lights out".
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  280. Yes - that & lack of accountability/responsibility to make the offer.
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  281.  @johnny_belmont  Not lifestyle as much as jealousy / dread. A woman's "love" is almost synonymous with deep feelings of jealousy / dread.
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  282. I have seen that in modern hetero relationships with any couple under the age of 50 - the one and only time there is equal contribution of value is when the man wants kids and the woman is on the fence about kids but has them anyway. Then as you say that is a massive life contribution on her part. Then that couple can stay in a workable, if boring and passionless, relationship by both being on "team our kids" which galvanizes their interests sufficiently enough to make it work.
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  283. ​ @marcusmcgraw3519  women do have better social support networks, but for cowardly reasons. Bottom line - they are bottomless pit of need & seek allies.
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  284. ​ @marcusmcgraw3519  Women are different in that they don't have to "accomplish" to be happy - HOWEVER - most women are miserable and just portray fake happiness on social media (& in public). By all means become more socially involved if you want to.
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  285. Of course it's their fault. You really think that if you choose to treat people like shit, it's s not your fault?
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  286. Yes, exactly. Sarah Dawn Moore had a recent video citing stats that in 1970, only 2% of women had a lifetime notch count of 10+. In 2015, 80% of women had a notch count of 10+ & that number continues to rise ("I'm sure it's even higher today in 2023" she said). So it's a nihilistic reality that women in general are FUBAR today.
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  287. That's a catastrophic perspective for (innocent) children brought into the world accordingly.
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  288. When you eviscerate eons of human history with forced 3rd/4th wave feminist indoctrination, into every facet of western culture / education / upbringing, the results are a completely un-respectable cesspool of B.S.
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  289. I recently went on several dates with an intelligent, attractive 35 year old woman - we had great conversations, banter, & some fun nights out. But she was an absolute control freak, trapped in her head, overthinking everything. She demanded & pushed for my assurances that I'd acquiesce to her various needs & timeframes etc, in a way that was manipulative. I called her out once on this, pointed out her own contradictory words to me, & she stopped communicating. I'm not even a little mad, I'm just disappointed in her immaturity & failure to address her mental/emotional problems - or even take accountability for them.
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  290. I've spent a lot of time pondering the disconnect between the intellectual thought leaders of traditional conservatives (e.g. the Daily Wire guys) & Red Pill thought leaders, & I'll even include Pearl in that group.... I think it comes down to this - the TradCons, at the end of the day, will say that women's bad choices are not their own fault - that they are victims of their surroundings & of men generally. The Red Pill leaders, & Pearl specifically - call BS on that. They posit that women know exactly what they are doing, mean to do it, often operating with malice & cognitive deceit. This is a bridge that probably cannot be built between these two conflicting Schoolls of "Right Wing" thought. However. If a bridge can be built - the traditional conservatives must at least acknowledge the fundamentally parasitic nature of women towards men in relationships - & from that acknowledgement - then arguing that DESPITE this, men should still make commitments to women for myriad traditional reasons, etc.
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  291. When I was 22, I was a certified incel, though the term didn't yet exist. The advice I would give myself now, 2 decades later: Believe it or not, sleeping with the same woman over & over again is NEVER a win. No matter how hot she is. Commitment is just a source of pain & suffering. It's never worth it. Never.
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  292. I've yet to hear a substantive argument for why this isn't soft bigotry / infantilization.
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  293. It's so weird that's this is your response. Almost like you're terrified of men making wise decisions for themselves. Women self destruct without a man. But the thing is - women choose to embrace "hell" while spitting on men who would treat her well. That's why you're all "broken" now. You can't even be honest about how you've chosen to live your lives. Because the truth of that is so horrific, it would make any decent guy run away. Which is, in reverse, kind of the point of this video.
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  294. You interpret such a shop as representing self-esteem and improvement, I interpret it as being a literal whorehouse.
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  295. You've identified a problem - not caring about a person & what matters to them. I honestly don't know how to care about what matters to a spoiled, entitled, ultra privileged, phone addicted person who views 80% of one gender as "Not People".
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  296. Absolutely 💯. And why is the "lineup" situation not legal in many countries? To answer your question, because then men would never trust or commit.
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  297. But women do exactly that, which makes them pathological liars who can never be trusted.
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  298. In the dating realm, when a smart man encounters manipulation, his "I better make this one count" = I'll play along, say the right things, bang her...then ghost her. Great job ladies!
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  299. ​ @TheKaarnageShow  I see you what you're saying, but I just fundamentally disagree. Once you see how the world works, it doesn't necessarily benefit you at all. In the realm of dating and hooking up, there's all kinds of perils sleeping with loose women / OR frustrations for not doing so, there's still frustrations of so many people lying to your face, etc. the only thing that makes sense is sleeping with pros, when the world is so screwed up, & when there are statistically zero good women left in our society. Like they exist in fractions of a percent, but odds are you aren't going to meet them. Yes I agree the world changes you, but not for the better. It's just a mud sandwich.
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  300. @psychacks this is an articulate & Fair criticism of your pov, I hope you will read it & address it.
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  301. I think we need to be open to the possibility that the opposite of love is NOT Indifference. That well worn axiom may be false. It's probably true wrt romantic "love". But if indifference is the most powerful force in the world, and loving "like the sun" is also the most powerful force in the world - then maybe true love is best expressed via carefreeness.
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  302. Orion, what do i think? Please consider - IME, when you do everything right as you describe, & a woman is compelled to try to lock you down bc you have Options & give her space, she will fundamentally misrepresent herself, her past, and tell you whatever it takes to make you see her as girlfriend material. This also destroys any relationship that may develop - its already rotten from the inside out.
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  303. All of society holds that men SHOULD give women what they want, or else they're bad people... while concurrently, women owe men nothing. IOW, Society hates you.
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  304. Women want a "partner" in the same way that some whackjob who fashions himself a half baked entrepreneur wants Menlo Park venture capital bros to "partner" with him.
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  305. Not really. I met a woman a few months ago. First date she proactively says that we should get drunk on "microbrews" and have s3x all night. After 3rd date, she turns down s3x when everything is aligned. Then days later, she needed to know that I would wait indefinitely. I called her out on her s3xual 1st date statement & she got very upset at my holding her accountable. I dropped pursuing her then and there.
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  306. Are you Kamala Harris? That is one hella loquacious word salad, lady. What's your counterpoint? You specifically criticize him on the "immoral" thing with no substantive rebuttal.
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  307. Agreed. Women have a no-holds-barred malevolence & viciousness that even most redpill spaces are fearful to discuss. Another argument for "keeping things casual" at all costs.
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  308. Why would dating suck for women...unless they didn't enjoy sex, to which they have omnipresent access? Hmmm 🤔. It's almost as if even when they're having fun, they can't be happy.
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  309. Victoria Nuland started this one.
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  310. You just described how women don't have real friends. They just have allies.
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  311. The divorce rate is 56%. In 90% of divorces involving college-educated women, the woman files. "Permanent male female bonding" is ceasing. You look like you're around 60 years old - look at these demographic statistics in 2025 & try to put yourself in the shoes of those of us who are 40ish or younger. And then - ask yourself why you are so mad at Orion.
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  312. More men must straight-up tell damagecases like Ms Report Card here: "whoa. you're fuckin bonkers, bro".
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  313. ​ @MansaMusa-v5q i would be totally indifferent, relieved, not want to see that child again, & I would actually think "damn, their parents are f'ing stupid for procreating, I pity them"
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  314. "Scared to death of femininity" is an extremely loaded phrase...in an age / society that demands "believe all women", while the truth is - most women lie.
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  315. Yup. Men are too proud & invested in being plow horses for women, & they become enraged if you, even just verbally, subvert their chosen reality.
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  316. So learn from it, say anything, & if you get caught just say "well it's my truth" & say you're non binary gender. Play the victim if you're in this situation. Just win at all costs.
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  317. This is some 2005 era pua dogma B.S. If she's "free and wild", she's competing for you. See also Esther Vilars oeuvre from 50 years ago. If she's affected by feeling "judged" by a random person, it's because she's mentally weak & has a victim identity. Caveat emptor with such "victimized " damage cases. Today the vast majority are marketing themselves on steroids with IG / FB / swipe apps etc. What hasn't changed is women's narcissistic unwillingness to take accountability for their own mental instability & crappy life Choices.
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  318. And yet we all live in a world with feminism, where male biological impulses are criminalized & female biological impulses are rewarded. So can it with your "biology trumps all".
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  319. Underrated comment. Women plot to take whatever they can get from men, enjoy sex & have multiple Os, but reserve the right to cry victim "hE uSeD mE!"
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  320. Everyone, & i mean EVERYONE, seems to be forgetting that women genuinely enjoy s3x. Why not focus on that for a moment & enjoy that together?
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  321. ​ @alfredopampanga9356  color me "optimistic", but I think the tables have turned to the point where if you're really really vicious, a man can come out on top. But you have to be shrewd & publicly play victim. You just take everything the Left does & wear it like a chameleon. You're not even necessarily "A man" right? You reserve the right to change genders at any point. Point is - if it's going to be a gender war, a man can win - but he's got to think like a woman.
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  322. But that's untenable, so you're describing conditions that lead to absolutely 0% healthy relationships. That's fatalistic from the get-go.
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  323. Only way to save USA: Make hex work legal. Let the free Market accelerate the race to rock bottom price. Then see how many men make any effort w y'all.
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  324. Your 1st paragraph is blatantly dishonest. "If he finds a woman is not a good fit" - MANIPULATIVE - he specifically said if a woman is untrustworthy, hostile, argumentive, a liar. Your 2nd paragraph - yup. You wanted feminism, you got it. Then y'all got social media & told on yourselves. Can't put toothpaste back in the tube. Your "high value" is FUBAR, gone forever. That's 99% of you over age 30 in the feminist Western world.
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  325. ​ @alexisc7565  so weird that the only way you can win this argument is by essentially saying "I am a p*rasite". Men build everything you use.
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  326. That happens less than you think in 2024 small town USA - and when it does, it's often offering s3x as payment for meth, fentanyl, crack etc
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  327. TOP comment. It increasingly DOESN'T make sense. Mostly on account of the rotten post-feminist culture. Ideologically consistent feminism is OVER, folks. It's all Schrodinger's feminism now. Taylor Swift embodies this in her character - who she really is. That's WHY she's so uber famous. Because that's how women want to exist today. Its all rotted out & regressive, actually. Owen Cook was citing Sam Vaknin in a "Live" he deleted - said that the way women are today, they are almost all functionally Cluster B when infatuated / hooked on a particular new man.
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  328. Holy passive aggressive emoji. I'll bet every man & male friend who's been close to you has left you. Just a hunch. 😘 oh & also 🩷
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  329.  @kucingninja7934  nah I'm actually good, but you literally wrote on another video "all my male best friends & my ex left me after years of being together" so - in fact YOU are bitter & wounded, as proven by your own words....and yet, here you are on this video projecting your damage onto "wounded guys" - which would be a sad observation if accurate, & yet you end your comment with a laugh emoji which is so passive aggressive that it's just a comical example of another butthurt woman proving Orion's points & telling on herself. 😘 & Of course 🩷
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  330. This is all because women can't handle rejection.
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  331. Controversial Opinion I disagree with Dr Taraban to the point I'd make this assertion: A LOT of men in the USA would live happier lives trading in their small town or suburban existence in the USA (with their male friends &/or their American wives/GFs & their churches & dysfunctional USA communities)... Trading that for a nice hotel room in an international city with a variety of bars, restaurants, nightlife, & the wherewithal to bed women there. I honestly believe that'd make American men much happier in general than what they put up with here in the USA - & just COPE with via male friendships in a sea of untrustworthy wives/women, untrustworthy communities full of divorce & broken families etc
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  332. The source of true abundance FOR WHOM? That's the entire point here.
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  333. The problem is that the overwhelming majority of women today don't love a man "for who he is" - at least not over the long term.
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  334. Same for a woman who asks me: "what are we / where is this going / why don't we do cutesy daytime stuff"...i know what you're doing, ugh, no thanks.
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  335. Women are almost all inherently dishonest in all important matters with men, therefore it's flat-out stupid for men to be honest with them.
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  336. All of those Christian denominations, when push comes to shove, will pardon the woman for proactively divorcing her husband. We all know it.
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  337. I don't disagree. But in a backwards way, you just described why no self-respecting man is in a monogamous relationship.
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  338. You make some decent points but your comment assumes that men having many partners is immoral, apparently you didn't read the Old Testament
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  339.  @TheGreatDadoo  not for men, it wasn't. That's the point!
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  340.  @roses6564  LOL your answers are complete BS. Of course women deceive the men they desire. Obviously- No "desirable" man would commit to a high n-count ♀️
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  341. You appear to be unaware of how many women in their 30s angrily INSIST on getting pregnant, if they are having any difficulty with pregnancy/partnership.
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  342. Okay, but a lot of this is just that "holders" are people with really bad pasts. Obviously they want to hide that. It's that simple.
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  343. "oh no, usually people buy my innocence posturing, but you figured out that I'm a terrible human being. That's bad for my survival, so bye".
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  344. Nothing about hedonism in this video, which means that you can't handle the truth of his message here.
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  345. Guys, guys, guys. Passing a shit test is not a win. You don't even get a medal for it. Her shit test is selfish behavior at best, disrespect at worst (and more likely it's this). Her even throwing up that test is telling you to detach, practice indifference, bang other women, & possibly even break it off.
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  346. Your comment is nothing but a long-winded, manipulative, passive aggressive ad hominem. Btw- women's primal instincts haven't changed in the last 50 years. But in the 1970s, only 2% of women had a 10+ notch count. Today over 80% of women have a 10+ notch count. If you take issue with those stats, take it up with Sarah Dawn Moore who is actually a vocal critic of Dr Taraban.
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  347.  @user-nz6tq3vc5u  let me make this straight as an arrow for you: in an age of 1) Schrodinger's feminism (I'm a strong and brave woman when I get my way, but I'm a victim if I don't get my way) & 2) a hookup culture that makes it incredibly easy for a woman to sleep with a man out of her League - women will settle for a stable boring relationship with a less attractive guy, after sleeping with much more attractive guys who would not commit to her. Then with the modern cultural feminism - they assume a position of power control over the less attractive, less powerful man. If that man gets more powerful, then the one and only thing they "settled for" (a partner they can control, the feminist philosophy to backstop it) gets thrown out the window. In any normal society with normal gender relations, this would not be possible. What's a testament to how screwed up everything is that, yes - both of those seemingly opposite scenarios do in fact coexist / occur.
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  348. I think what you're missing is that the overwhelming majority of women only want relationships with the top 10% of men, and those men can have multiple partners, so that leaves a miniscule percentage of men who both qualify for a relationship with women and also want monogamy for whatever reason.
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  349. Their rantings on Facebook are a tell that they do very much care. They would just rather be prideful, bitter victims than be happy or just at peace.
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  350. Ditto for me in finding that high n count women are bad mothers. Why do you think this is so? Beyond just standard narcissistic behavior?
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  351. ​ @tinap8227 The difference with women is that this happens; 1) She makes unethical choices 2) She justifies her unethical choices/behavior via any means possible, & plenty support her in this 3) She plays victim with whoever doesn't support her in this That doesn't happen with men.
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  352.  @deerlow1851  "men's romantic fantasy"
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  353. Yeah but that's cringe & everyone knows it, so it's not very "Alpha" behavior beyond just being demanding.
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  354. Childless unmarried men are a nice, woke, CNN-approved target. But there are more men/dads whose (ex)wives divorced them. They're part to blame, or nah?
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  355. ​ @seronys6601 the only way "men let it get this bad" was by not saying "No" to women's "demands". Childfree unmarried men ARE saying "No". They're part of the solution.
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  356. Yes, the importance of frame can't be overstated. Yours can always trump hers, it's ultimately up to you.
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  357. ​ @ChrisCleek  You sound like a woman, believing that you are entitled to break a legal binding contract with no negative consequence, just because you feel like you "should have the freedom" to do so. And that's before talk about the legality of a contract of adhesion. If your response to the all out warfare of family / probate Court, where your family, your children, and your entire life's assets are on the line, is to say "man up & take it".... Well, it's just atrocious advice. It would actually be far better advice to say: if she goes low, you go lower. Treat it as all out war. And show no mercy to your enemies.
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  358. You agreed to another committed relationship? Have you learned nothing?
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  359. You are actually making the argument that feminism (which itself is anti feminine) and being combative/argumentative = yielding horrible, irreversible negative results for women. And you're also saying the only way to effectively alter the message medium here is to treat them like children by only painting a positive, rosy context of why they oughta act in their own best interests. The other thing is - yes, you can't put toothpaste back in the tube. Women who have made life decisions guided by feminist ideology are, in several aspects, damaged beyond repair. That's not to say they can't find peace & joy in life (in other ways), but it does mean their capacity for monogamous pair bonding, honoring commitment, happiness with one partner etc - is tantamount to a glass shattered on the cement floor.
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  360.  @DNA350ppm  "the feminist movement is there to correct the disregard of women and the feminine" and "Young women still don't want to enter that social role. Men will have to frame (this) to make the fertility rational (sp) more palatable"
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  361.  @Savage-x5w  Tom Brady is the 0.01% exception that proves the rule, you sad divorced loser.
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  362. I believe a HUGE part of that is legal prostitution. USA men are exponentially overpaying for poon. European women are actually much sweeter people.
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  363. And I'll bet - just off of reading your story - that she "came from a good family", & that her "good family" did not hold her accountable whatsoever for treating you like garbage.
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  364. In the social media age, & the swipe apps age, after 3 waves of feminism, with exponentially higher notch counts than even 50 years ago & throughout history, with head meds, with abortion on demand - we're now at a point where MOST modern women are functionally Cluster B - NPD, BPD etc
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  365. See - that's all fine with me. But how do we tell you apart from the vast majority of women who, if we do the exact same things you're describing - will say "wah! No fair. He USED me". And virtually everyone around us will call her the victim & me the complete a-hole. Square that circle for me, please.
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  366.  @tinap8227  Ok. I do wonder what happens when one/both of you does determine that the other is "worth their time". Feelings usually get involved then, in my experience. And this is just my experience with women who pursued me who were attractive enough to bang but objectively a little below my league: I handled things "right", & they wanted more (at least they said they did) - & at that point they 1) intentionally tried to invoke jealousy in an "in your face" manner & 2) with their casual comments, let alone behavior, they attempted triangulation to mess with me (the opposite of acting like, at least for the time we're together, not talking about other people. Which I think is just a respectful courtesy).
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  367. So 95%+ of women have "no life at all"?
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  368. Best pickup line EVER
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  369. Women are expensive because most men still believe that a woman will truly, authentically love him.
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  370. It must be so weird to be the father of any daughter these days. I'd ask: What do you want for her? Why would she deserve that? Are YOU delusional, dude?
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  371. Exactly. "Girls mature faster than boys", But 18 Year old males can die in war, But a 21 year old female dating an older male is disgusting but, BUT...
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  372. I'm mid 40s. I've been around the block. My last relationship lasted just 7 months, 5 months dating & 2 months committed. As soon as I gave her commitment, it all went downhill...she completely changed. Until this point, I didn't know much about BPD. Then I read about it in the DSM-5, and she checked all the boxes. One thing I'll add that Dr Taraban doesn't say here - while dating a borderline is fun, exciting, and the sex is great - once you are truly "together" in a relationship, there's an extreme lack of trust. Like, you wouldn't trust this person for an hour's time in your absence. Borderlines can completely destroy your ability to trust anyone. I got out quickly (2 months committed LTR), but it left some scars. Basically my decision came down to: I'm going to lose either way. I'm going to lose by staying, or I'm going to lose by leaving. I chose the option that at least demonstrated self-respect.
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  373.  @WildMidwest1  Huh? I think Orion actually AGREES with what I wrote above.
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  374. ​ @roses6564  in this response, you posit that relationships would be better without commitment. You also correctly state that many married people become inattentive once married, because they were more desirous of simply being married, & less concerned with the person they married. 1) it is overwhelmingly women who, after a fling doesn't work out / runs its course, will say "no fair! He USED me". Even when they also enjoyed bedroom fun. 2) it is overwhelmingly women who are pushing for marriage & for the title of wife, & the "security" that is conferred from the "guarantees" of the institution.
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  375. Have you looked at women's social media pages? Good Lord, guy.
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  376. ​ @gabrielfrostbrand2754  because doing so would directly refute your point.
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  377.  @alexisc7565  self respecting men know to look for the weak, desperate social media activity of damage cases vomiting their private problems.
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  378. Not in many countries - It's actually affordable in many countries, could be pursued daily if one wanted, and wouldn't break the bank.
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  379. ​ @MVProfits yes. This is the core of hypergamy. If you commit to a woman - everything that communicates to her is a turn off.
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  380. Women do not care about God unless "He" is "helping" them to get the tangible life results that they want. IOW, women ain't loyal to God, either.
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  381. ​​ @JS-mh1fh  that is illogical, & proof that your claim is illogical: countless millions of single mothers & 40+ women pull this same "wasting my time" shaming gambit. For them, it has ZERO impact on any "biological pressures" you cite. They either already breeded or factually cannot breed any longer, yet still pull the "wasting my time" guilt trip😂.
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  382.  @JS-mh1fh  i don't want another female perspective actually. I've wasted too much time listening to female perspectives & watched those perspectives contradicted by female actions. Notice you mention the "wasting my time" guilt trip tactic ALSO applies to securing a "lifetime romantic partnership". Ok, so there we have it. It's about saying whatever it takes to get whatever you want, however manipulate and/or false, while all of society gives you a pass for breaking your word because you're female. Meanwhile, a man who breaks his word to you is considered a jerk or a monster or worse, & you know this - you weaponize this, & you play that dynamic to the hilt at the man's expense if he doesn't give you what you want.
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  383. What we call "situationships" is the only way to sustain genuine desire today, & yet the term is universally pejorative to women. VERY INTERESTING
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  384. Pretty much. Rollo tomassi says that a woman doesn't want her man to cheat, but she does want to know that he could cheat. This is only partially true. The truth is that if a woman knows that her man will not cheat, she will likewise lose interest. IOW, if a woman feels certainty that a man is principled enough to not actually go through with cheating, she will lose interest just the same as she would in any other relationship that she deems as "boring".
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  385. ​​ @smetzgerful  As the other guy said that's precisely where you're wrong..."Reciprocal" doesn't exist anymore. Feminist liberal Western women, who won't "build something" with you (until you've built it all yourself), who have high n counts & divorces & narcissistic personalities - these women are actually less valuable than hookers in every conceivable way, for every conceivable purpose that is useful to us. Really let that sink in.
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  386. Yes. When men commit the worst "male violence" they are banned from places. When women commit the worst "female violence", they are still granted entry.
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  387. I mean, cry me a river for anyone who gets to put food on the table by simply staring at a computer all day. Implicit in your comment is the accurate reality that most beautiful women aren't good at anything, and don't particularly care about cultivating real skills or talents. And that, at least, is definitely their fault.
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  388. Even sicker - some parents will turn to focus on their young children's competitive activities (that the parents select) & care WAY too much about their kids "winning" to vicariously experience "winning" themselves, as the "opponent's" young children cry in "defeat". That'll keep 2 suburban scumbag spouses together for several more years, at least.
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  389. You're leaving our prostitution, which gives him that now for the price of dinner & wine in a nice restaurant.
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  390. What a bizarre, nonsensical ad hominem. On Danica Patrick's podcast, Dr Taraban directly stated that he's never seen a marriage, among anyone he knows, that he would like to be in. Not a single one.
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  391. It's not artificial. Your biology doesn't know the difference.
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  392. Yes, & in her mind it will never be her fault. It will always be the fault of the guy who alpha widowed her.
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  393. Bingo. Nobody is talking about this. We have an epidemic of Schrodinger's Dads. Millions of men who demand their daughters get what they don't deserve.
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  394. In my experience, usually a woman treats you worse after you give her the commitment she begged for. Walk away IMMEDIATELY when you experience this.
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  395. ​ @mesalouis8976  yes in Colombia they're like 15 bucks.
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  396. Multiple escorts per month are cheaper than your price tag. And a lot more fun.
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  397. Absolutely false. Everything about a govt enforced marriage contract is nightmarishly awful for men.
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  398. My condolences on your horrible, trapped existence.
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  399. ​ @Leoo117  Read the last sentence of your 2nd paragraph. You want a man like that, yet today's women only think of themselves & what they want. We all know it.
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  400. I mostly agree. That's why women are so enraged that PUA can work. "Hey, only we get to utilize psychological warfare".
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  401. Your entire second paragraph comes crashing down in the face of the family/probate court system ...in the entire Justice system, actually.
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  402. @PsycHacks this comment is a gold mine for content. SO many men experienced this, even those who do well with attracting women later in life.
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  403. ​ @stephanie7572  Ok, so then how can you trust other women aka "the sisterhood"?
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  404. Ever dated women? 99% misrepresent themselves/their life choices to swindle dudes into seeing them as LTR material. There's no honesty..& that's not respectable.
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  405. ​​ @Leoo117 I dunno. On one hand, yes - being genuinely curious about people is constructive, & will yield positive results. Some of us have read all the Dale Carnegie & for that matter Wayne Dyer (& his ilk) books. But on the other hand, you get to a certain age where the available women have just almost all made terrible life choices. And they all have excuses & justifications for what their life turned out so badly. And they all fake like underneath it all they're "living their best life" & happy etc. And running into this over and over again....is truly boredom-inducing. I had a date just this year - she talked negative about all aspects of her career, then another person joined the convo, & she literally said unironically "I'm living my best life right now". I was like holy hell, what a walking cliche. And I agree with the original comment on this - after moments of waxing positive about making connections with women, I keep coming back to this observation: The vast majority of women today have no talent other than putting on makeup, garnering (cheap & worthless) attention, & doing whatever it is at her makework (e.g. office / clerical) and/or miserable job (e.g. health care / nursing), to collect a paycheck. I'm just calling it like I see it. The exceptions that prove the rule absolutely exist - these few talented women who aren't the most physically beautiful wind up being pursued by more handsome dudes & actually offered commitment. To those "average looking" but legit talented women - I genuinely say, good for you. You're becoming unicorns.
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  406. The wedding & the married status is for the woman. The vow is for the man. If the vow can be broken, there's nothing for the man.
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  407. She is so evil and has created so much misery and suffering in the world, and almost no one talks about it. She is the epitome of Schrodinger's feminist.
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  408. What is wrong with you, that you keep hate-watching these videos? You must be an utterly miserable soul
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  409. ​ @lhistoireenvideo5877  BINGO. Those attractive men experience the best of her without the downside. The morally upstanding guys get ZERO.
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  410. Bad take. Most men are happy to listen & try to understand any decent person operating in good faith. But there's no point "understanding" the POV of a spoiled rotten person who will not take accountability. In fact, really trying to empathize with a spoiled rotten person makes the problem worse as it just instills deeper bitterness.
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  411. Because they grew up in that feminist education indoctrination.
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  412. In 2023, Women get commitment by lying about their past.
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  413. If men with options are going to commit with integrity themselves, you damn well can expect them to have some expectation of "control" over their partner from posting cleavage shots on IG, girls nights out in boozy nightclubs, retaining much less responding to dms from other handsome dudes (tantamount to resumes kept on file) etc. No self respecting man would overlook all these things that virtually all my married/in-committed-ltr female peers are doing in 2023. Which is another way of saying that I don't know any men my age who are in long term committed partnerships who aren't tolerating ongoing disrespect. It's f'ing pitiful actually.
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  414. Written by Ne-Yo, & his label wouldn't release the track bc they deemed it mYsOgYnY. So he shopped it to female artists, and BINGO.
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  415. If you doubt the RP truth that women don't love men, consider: she will fundamentally misrepresent her entire life to get what she wants. Including - to, & from, you.
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  416. Yeah that's all well stated. The 1990s comment is something I think about often. I'd gladly take a 1990s feminist who listens to Sarah McLachlan, wears frumpy thrift store clothes, no plastic surgery or heavy makeup or fake eyebrows etc...& most of all doesn't have social media. Oh, & generally regards men in a neutral to positive manner. Seems like yesterday to me. And yet it's LONG gone, & never coming back.
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  417.  @Bambim8  Absolutely not.
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  418. If we broaden out your point how about how a woman approaching a man is "demeaning" - this is some kind of backwards cultural regression I've noticed in the last 15 years. Obviously it must have something to do with social media and swipe apps, but I'm not really sure how to unpack the psychology of that. Women en masse were approaching and were pursuing, and now they've just stopped. Just look at the timeline of Bumble for evidence of that. On women needing emotional and mental intimacy, okay. You, and the other women who make long comments here, are the vast exception... In that you are thoughtful and cerebral about deeper topics. I can't tell you how many men I see these days "faking" this attempt at emotional intimacy by flat-out faking enthusiasm for these dumbass conversations: Astrology, social media memes, psychic nonsense, reality TV, stupid unfunny "humor" etc etc (Edit: to say that with older women, it's about their uninteresting career or their pets or some cliche vacation they took etc)...& dudes are like "oh really? tell me more!" it's incredibly cringe, yet i see it all the time. People's brains have rotted, and especially women's brains. So you have a situation where any "emotional intimacy" is performative and false from the get-go. Then that gets complicated with physical intimacy, add all the dopamine oxytocin et al involved with that. It's a foundation of sand for sure.
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  419. Holy crap dude. She was an awful wife & an awful human but still walks away with 1.5 million for doing nothing other than betraying you? What a nuclear grade red pill that is.
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  420. Women don't have friends, they have allies
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  421. ​ @ladybug3380  in this reply - you just agreed with, & advocated for, Orion's depiction of the male romantic fantasy.
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  422. Some men don't want children. Pretty much all men do want sex. Why not do what women do when they need to have their car fixed, their roads paved, their AC repaired, their toilet fixed, their ceiling fan rewired, their house built, their roof replaced, their furniture moved, etc etc etc & pay the opposite gender to meet their needs.
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  423. ​ @marcusmcgraw3519  well, of course that's true. There was still a plurality of attractive 25-50 y/o women around 2010ish who felt that way. After 10+ years of ubiquitous Swipe apps, how many women do you know that still feel that way in 2025?
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  424. There are hundreds of thousands of angry, hyper masculine American men who are all blue collar & motorcycles & tattoos & badass posturing - who have all been divorced and financially/emotionally eviscerated by women who were "more naturally submissive" for as long as was strategically necessary to get what they wanted...til they didn't want it no mo. So I call B.S. on yet another "it's not a 'her' problem." Yes, in a bastardized post-feminist age where Schrodinger's feminism reigns supreme as essentially the laws-of-the-courts, almost all such problems are "her" problems when assessing where accountability truly exists.
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  425. There's the issue of "love", and there's the issue of respect. Men need respect in their relationships to make them meaningful & worthwhile. Women en masse have been raised & socialized to disrespect men. Sure - many men don't deserve respect - but many do, especially family men who are providers. But they're often "boring", and so many women (wives, often) will disrespect & betray those good men - & the culture helps these women justify their atrocious behavior.
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  426. Not really that simple. For example, I generally like who women were as people in say, the '90s. But not who they are in 2024.
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  427. If tomorrow all male airlines pilots & technicians went on strike, & only female pilots & technicians showed up, would you get on a plane? How chaotic would it be just to navigate the airport? You don't need men tho, ok. There's literally nothing I do or use in everyday life in 2024 that women are needed. But roads & bridges & infrastructure & literally every physical structure....yeah.
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  428.  @jeanr8359  females aren't needed to fly a plane because statically almost zero of them can do safety maintenance & maybe 1-3% are competent pilots.
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  429. Well, look at it rationally. Take the emotion out of it, & realize that many men don't want children anymore. Ok - for men who don't want children, women have absolutely zero value outside of pleasure. Everything a man needs & uses in life was created by men. Every essential utility is maintained by men & every structural edifice was constructed by men. Here's a question to ponder: What would happen if all male airline techs & pilots stopped working, & only women could do (well, attempt) those jobs. Who would board those planes? Would women (who always are like "I lOvE tO tRaVeL!") board those planes?
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  430. That's a curious way of saying that for a woman, sex without a resultant lifetime partnership equals irreversible trauma & permanent damage to her as a human being, which is why she is fundamentally malicious. Hmmm 🤔
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  431. I don't disagree with your take at all. Modern whatever-wave Western feminism is pure stinginess, hatred, & miserliness in all things.
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  432. It's actually the opposite. The more one sees and experiences what women truly want / respond to, the harder it is to respect them.
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  433. Absolutely. Women bully/shame men into marriage... but in 2023, men are powerless to bully/shame women into keeping those marriage vows when women want divorce.
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  434. Hey Dr Taraban I agree with you, but can you follow up with a video/ short talk about how to get back out in the street after a relationship with a BPD/NPD. I know you've talked about how awful and destructive those people are to our mental health, so I know you get it. How about a talk that helps guide us to actually move past it and get back out directing traffic?
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  435. He's only been around 1 year. "It has all backfired" omg sit down, drama queen.
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  436. Not even close. A culture of Schrodinger's feminism has created unaccountable brilliant liars who expertly deceive reasonably stable men.
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  437. One thing that's an enormous problem writ large today - & I hope @psychacks will address it in a forthcoming video: So many of today's women will speak any falsehood, move any goal post, and even morph her entire personality to get what she wants. And in today's age of Taylor Swift Schrodinger's feminism, she can even "succeed". So this whole "I will do literally anything to have the power in my court" dynamic is something that we still need to figure out. And until & unless we do, the only "solution" is to walk away from all of them.
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  438. Absolutely 💯. It's not just men romantically simping on women. It's a generation of soft fathers simping with their daughters. Entitlement x 1000
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  439. Be nice *over the long haul*, be supportive of him consistently without it being a quid pro quo. Genuinely be "on his side".
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  440.  @justathinker8669  We're discussing Motive for why women pick fights. Orion doesn't account for this in his explanation
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  441. What we get out of traditional marriage... But, we don't have traditional marriage anymore. If you are talking about leaving the state completely out of it, okay. 99% of married men do have the state involved, and they have absolutely no power over whether the contract is maintained.
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  442. ​​ @dits2007  you missed TWICE where Orion said emphatically "They. Are. Rare." There are NOT "many" good women out there. Stop gaslighting.
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  443.  @dits2007  there was no reference to "many" or "few", or any quantity, in the quote above. This isn't a "both sides" situation. Divorce & alimony stats alone are proof of that.
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  444.  @shaymalchione809  There are way, WAY more decent men than women in the USA in 2024. Like by a factor of 10 to 1 or greater. Magnitudes of women today come right out in the open with their social media pages & essentially tell the world "I'm a complete trainwreck / dumpster fire".
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  445. ​ @achann825  no point "living by example" in the manner you described, when today's women are actually bad people. Genuineness is wasted on them.
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  446. I can tell you are a woman. You think a monogamous man is "doing better with ..sex"? Um, no. Every red blooded straight man desires variety. It is overwhelmingly women who push for monogamy. Your "put on blinders" comment is interesting - you women count on putting the blinders on men regarding your past. You push for monogamy, even after sleeping around, without giving him full disclosure - information that would inform him of what a poor choice he'd be making. You all are like used car sales(women) rolling back the odometer before making the sale. Of course this is completely unethical - but you don't care as long as you get what you want.
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  447. ​ @dekev7503  We've already completely arrived there, for virtually everyone in the USA (save weird ethnic/religious pockets) under age ~45.
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  448. Ok. So are you willing to tackle this question: what about men who genuinely do NOT want consistent sex from the same woman (men who only want variety). How do such men authentically operate in this post 3rd wave age? (which is essentially "all of us 30s/40s women have high n-counts, but now we're dialing it back & trying this neo purity thing, since sleeping around & tinder bangings didnt make us haaaapy".)
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  449. I knew things were getting apocalyptically worse when, in 2012, my girlfriend of 2+ years broke up with me because I wouldn't marry her - & she spent hours going back 2+ years in her FB feed & erasing hundreds of posts she had made about her "happy relationship". There's now a term for that, which didn't exist in 2012 - "memory holing". The worst part was that even back then, nobody thought it was a big deal that she would do that. Like it was the most natural thing in the world to spend hours deleting the truth about the last 2+ years of your life. That's when I knew that the Brave New World had already arrived.
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  450. You must not be aware of Bill Belichick. And rest assured he does not give a flying f what any of you think.
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  451. Sorry bro but that sounds petty, stupid, & like a dumb children's game
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  452. If you "are not supposed to support", & have that attitude - why would we commit to you?
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  453. Love cannot coexist with a post feminist ideology, which has permeated the entire culture & academic-industrial complex.
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  454.  @RooneyTheOrator  Exactly. It doesn't work anymore. Only fools & chumps commit to these Post-Human females.
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  455. Huh, I remember in the late 90s & 00s, WOMEN pop stars were putting out music that was purchased by 95% young WOMEN, which advocated being "disposable playthings".
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  456. There is no depth to modern American women. A simple perusal of Facebook or Instagram will confirm this. Even hard-working women here are cringe-level attention seeking / shallow.
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  457. That's a musical collaboration of different skillsets coming together in a complimentary way where no one voice is objectively "better" than the others. Women operate on hypergamy therefore she's only gonna be "happy" (for a time) with a man who's objectively "better" than her. If that man over time treats her as an "equal collaborator" rather than a subordinate (for lack of a better term), she'll become less "happy" and then it's hello zero-sum darkness my old friend. That's why hetero romantic couplings are almost impossible to establish true win/win synergy.
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  458.  @lari5891  you have no idea what hypergamy is, and you don't get to redefine words. Women get turned off believing that their man is merely their equal, and at that point of realization they will go looking for someone else if they can. Newsflash: today in 2023, they can. And a lot of men genuinely don't want children. Good grief.
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  459. What a load of crap - in many species, the mating isn't even consensual. But keep on believing that women want to actually give and be a complimentary partner in perpetuity in 2023. Good luck with that.
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  460. No non-black people wanna go to those weird African American barbecues. Like, we can afford groceries and beer. Such a weird flex & I have no idea why white people want the approval from this silliness.
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  461. ​ @MrRatMommy  Peterson did a horrible job raising his daughter. Mikayla is a divorced, single mommy, plastic surgery nightmare, utter train wreck.
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