Comments by "Chip \x26 Steve" (@chipsteve) on "How MEN MESS UP new relationships: learning to tolerate insecurity" video.

  1. Women have contempt for men who commit to them. They want & actively push for commitment from a man who doesn't want to commit. Then when that man eventually does commit out of love/attachment & wanting to make her happy, women then have contempt for him as well. Women destroy everything they touch unless they are in a position of submission to a man.
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  2.  ImAKangwithnokingdom  Ok, I hear that - and relate to it somewhat - and here's my response: women testing men is a game too, and at this age I'm immediately turned off once a woman tests me. Because she's introducing negativity to assuage her insecurities at my expense. So I immediately understand that I'll never be as into her after that- it's like I lose respect for her in that moment. And I haven't met any (straight) women who don't test men, so it's just untenable at this point, my boundaries are too tight now after decades of f***ery. So the one thing I agree is that games are a turn off, but that tests are games too and virtually all women do this.
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  3. ​ ImAKangwithnokingdom  wow, you just helped me stumble upon another reason not to date single mothers - Even if they are actually busy and spending their time doing anything other than contacting you, it's probably her being busy raising another man's kid. That's not only utterly uninteresting, it's actually worse than her being boring and contacting you too much.
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  4. It's not gaslighting at all. You have no clue what that word means. Making a woman briefly wonder if your 1st sexual encounter was a ons - is actually healthy for the potential development of a relationship.
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  5. It's annoying and somewhat of a turn off when women do that to me. It's like "I get it, you want more from me, you're feeling insecure, but you're just being annoying & wanting to take my time and attention from my day, while offering no value in this text".
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  6. Orion, what do i think? Please consider - IME, when you do everything right as you describe, & a woman is compelled to try to lock you down bc you have Options & give her space, she will fundamentally misrepresent herself, her past, and tell you whatever it takes to make you see her as girlfriend material. This also destroys any relationship that may develop - its already rotten from the inside out.
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  7. But that's untenable, so you're describing conditions that lead to absolutely 0% healthy relationships. That's fatalistic from the get-go.
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