Comments by "Chip \x26 Steve" (@chipsteve) on "A PhD in men: how to get what you want from a man" video.

  1. The soft bigotry of legitimizing both tone policing & the infantilization of the Other.
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  2. The soft bigotry of walking on eggshells for their own good.
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  3. I understand that you mean well, but women can NOT fix their mental health in a manner which renders them suitable for marriage, whereas they were previously unsuitable for such. Women do not "emotionally heal" from bad relationships, especially flings with more attractive men who left them "stuck at her highest setting". These are not just red pill cliches, they are absolute truth. And evidence of these truths can be observed in women's private conversations with their fellow female friends.
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  4. "How come her heart's so stubborn / And what's so wrong with giving / Ask the big sky, talking about understanding women" -Elton John (imagine that)
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  5. There is no more prominent theme in Orion's entire oeuvre than this: committed relationships are transactions where people try to extract the most while giving the least possible. The whole Sting ethos of "if you love someone, set them free" - yeah, that's love. That's about giving - and giving without resentm...oops, I mean expectations. People who seek committed relationships are not seeking to love, they are seeking to GET. Period.
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  6. The women who "don't need men at home" somehow do need social media to bitterly complain or over share about their sad lives & endlessly seek validation (but I repeat myself), from an endless sea of humanity - including from...men actually. Meanwhile men do not do 10% of the pathetic validation farming you women feverishly engage in - & guess what - men can cook & clean & walk down to the street corner with money in their hand to obtain the only thing they "need" from women.
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  7. Exactly. Which is why the former is "illegal". It's just about power & leverage. Most men don't understand this: Their biology can't tell if $ was involved.
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  8. Do you hear yourself? All these things which you deem "evil" if men do them via pick-up artistry - are demonstrably standard practice for how women treat men? Head games - check. Manipulating men's emotions - check. Using men to meet all manner of her needs & discarding him the moment a lack of value is perceived - even in the presence of vows - check. I keep saying this: Women use men to meet every need they can possibly extract from them, & not a soul pushes back. But after a mutually enjoyable fling, where both parties enjoyed bedroom fun, runs its course or just doesn't work out - it's "waahh! No fair. He USED me". And then everyone validates her feeling that way, & calls the guy essentially a bad person for simply not proactively giving out his commitment. It's just this insidious form of gaslighting that has become the most normal thing in the world today...
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  9. The number of wholesome ladies in my age range, who are single & available, is statistically zero in America. And yes, they only care how they feel around you.
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  10. I've spent a lot of time pondering the disconnect between the intellectual thought leaders of traditional conservatives (e.g. the Daily Wire guys) & Red Pill thought leaders, & I'll even include Pearl in that group.... I think it comes down to this - the TradCons, at the end of the day, will say that women's bad choices are not their own fault - that they are victims of their surroundings & of men generally. The Red Pill leaders, & Pearl specifically - call BS on that. They posit that women know exactly what they are doing, mean to do it, often operating with malice & cognitive deceit. This is a bridge that probably cannot be built between these two conflicting Schoolls of "Right Wing" thought. However. If a bridge can be built - the traditional conservatives must at least acknowledge the fundamentally parasitic nature of women towards men in relationships - & from that acknowledgement - then arguing that DESPITE this, men should still make commitments to women for myriad traditional reasons, etc.
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  11. I've yet to hear a substantive argument for why this isn't soft bigotry / infantilization.
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  12. All of society holds that men SHOULD give women what they want, or else they're bad people... while concurrently, women owe men nothing. IOW, Society hates you.
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  13. Their rantings on Facebook are a tell that they do very much care. They would just rather be prideful, bitter victims than be happy or just at peace.
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  14. See - that's all fine with me. But how do we tell you apart from the vast majority of women who, if we do the exact same things you're describing - will say "wah! No fair. He USED me". And virtually everyone around us will call her the victim & me the complete a-hole. Square that circle for me, please.
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  15.  @tinap8227  Ok. I do wonder what happens when one/both of you does determine that the other is "worth their time". Feelings usually get involved then, in my experience. And this is just my experience with women who pursued me who were attractive enough to bang but objectively a little below my league: I handled things "right", & they wanted more (at least they said they did) - & at that point they 1) intentionally tried to invoke jealousy in an "in your face" manner & 2) with their casual comments, let alone behavior, they attempted triangulation to mess with me (the opposite of acting like, at least for the time we're together, not talking about other people. Which I think is just a respectful courtesy).
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  16.  @WildMidwest1  Huh? I think Orion actually AGREES with what I wrote above.
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  17. ​ @roses6564  in this response, you posit that relationships would be better without commitment. You also correctly state that many married people become inattentive once married, because they were more desirous of simply being married, & less concerned with the person they married. 1) it is overwhelmingly women who, after a fling doesn't work out / runs its course, will say "no fair! He USED me". Even when they also enjoyed bedroom fun. 2) it is overwhelmingly women who are pushing for marriage & for the title of wife, & the "security" that is conferred from the "guarantees" of the institution.
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  18.  @alexisc7565  self respecting men know to look for the weak, desperate social media activity of damage cases vomiting their private problems.
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  19. I mostly agree. That's why women are so enraged that PUA can work. "Hey, only we get to utilize psychological warfare".
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  20. ​​ @Leoo117 I dunno. On one hand, yes - being genuinely curious about people is constructive, & will yield positive results. Some of us have read all the Dale Carnegie & for that matter Wayne Dyer (& his ilk) books. But on the other hand, you get to a certain age where the available women have just almost all made terrible life choices. And they all have excuses & justifications for what their life turned out so badly. And they all fake like underneath it all they're "living their best life" & happy etc. And running into this over and over again....is truly boredom-inducing. I had a date just this year - she talked negative about all aspects of her career, then another person joined the convo, & she literally said unironically "I'm living my best life right now". I was like holy hell, what a walking cliche. And I agree with the original comment on this - after moments of waxing positive about making connections with women, I keep coming back to this observation: The vast majority of women today have no talent other than putting on makeup, garnering (cheap & worthless) attention, & doing whatever it is at her makework (e.g. office / clerical) and/or miserable job (e.g. health care / nursing), to collect a paycheck. I'm just calling it like I see it. The exceptions that prove the rule absolutely exist - these few talented women who aren't the most physically beautiful wind up being pursued by more handsome dudes & actually offered commitment. To those "average looking" but legit talented women - I genuinely say, good for you. You're becoming unicorns.
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  21. ​ @achann825  no point "living by example" in the manner you described, when today's women are actually bad people. Genuineness is wasted on them.
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  22. Ok. So are you willing to tackle this question: what about men who genuinely do NOT want consistent sex from the same woman (men who only want variety). How do such men authentically operate in this post 3rd wave age? (which is essentially "all of us 30s/40s women have high n-counts, but now we're dialing it back & trying this neo purity thing, since sleeping around & tinder bangings didnt make us haaaapy".)
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