Comments by "Tomas Vrabec" (@tomasvrabec1845) on "Why Modern Dating is Broken" video.

  1. Well. My experience of 3 years at university was that year 1 was fun as I explored both the academics, the social settings but also went out and about a little. Second and third were extremely isolating as I was studying a subject which required more continuous work than other subjects (no test, all detailed coursework - doesn't matter what you remember) I ended up in my room working from the mornings till nights day after day... On one hand told that I am working harder than any full time worker (true as I found out now) but also that "this is the best time of my life" which it definitely wasn't... But hey so wasn't College either.
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  2. Being a foreigner from a traditional yet liberal upbringing (gay)I was always told by my peers that I seem like the person who would get onto one relationship and that's it. I did get into one and I am still in it. Meanwhile my pool of sexual partners was always low. In many ways I am a very conservative person (in terms of values, tradition... Not your idea of economical and liberal or Capitalist conservatives ---- to me the conservatives would be Commies) but as a gay guy I am liberal and so is my family. They value the old family values and structures without their underlying gender norms per say. Eg. Bringing a boyfriend for a Christmas dinner is a big deal for us... Not to my Western friends. Meeting their whole Family is a big deal for us... Not to western friends. There is still an expectation to be a parent even as a gay person (which would actually be near impossible where I from) but not to my Western friends. I know my upbringing was different as it's liberal side was obviously not the countries norm.... But as someone who comes from an ethnic nation state... My traditional upbringing was that much more around due to my families keen interest in traditions, out ethnic history and development ext ext. In a patriotic way (not nationalistic- you don't spread it, you celebrate it). So quite often I get stuck in the questions like : why kids? Why aim for marriage/partnership ext ext. With always having "some ridiculous answers" such as " so that when I am older there will be people around me whom I know, they know me, I love them, they love me, so that we can spend time together, so that I can pass on history and take joy out of their joy, to have someone to keep me on my feet and someone to keep my brain spinning whilst we explore nature and environment around us". That's apparently ridiculous, selfish and unrealistic reasons to have kids I get told by every peer.... Yet it's litteraly the only thing that you do when you have a good relationship with your parents and grandparents... As what better reason do I have to have kids than to have them and to let them be the way they are whilst spending time together?
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