Comments by "BoogieMonster Mom" (@boogiemonstermom677) on "Atozy"
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He seems really mature for his age, so I could see how she could possibly have actual conversations about her divorce with him, but she was definitely overstepping boundaries with this. Just because a child is intellectually capable of holding an adult conversation, doesn't mean they're necessarily emotionally capable. I can definitely understand how this affected him negatively. It's very similar to when parents talk about these issues with their children, and try to pit them against the other parent. It's so damaging, because the child just wants to please, but it's too much weight on their shoulders. They end up with so many mixed emotions, feeling like they must be so loved and special because they're being trusted with this information, but in turn it breeds hate and resentment towards someone they do not want to feel that towards, and shouldn't. I went through this when my parents divorced, and could see how this situation might make him feel a similar way.
Now he did later come out and say that he had seen the lingerie when he was younger and it was sent. He said that he later found them, and that's why there's pics out there of him wearing them over his clothes when he was young, like that guy did in the live with Colleen. I think it's possible that his parents took them away after, or not at all. I don't know if this changes anything for anyone, but I personally don't think it changes much.
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When people make it doing things like Jake or his brother, it's mostly based on luck, sometimes talent, but mostly luck. You can't buy or teach that. Does he not realize that many have dreams of grandeur and fame, especially young people? A lot of them are actually really talented but never make it because there's just so many competing. It's like winning the lottery. Those 9-5s are a lot easier to come by than all that, a lot more secure as well. I don't mind if young people dream, or people encouraging that, but they also need to be aware of reality and probability. It's ok to have a dream, but it's wise to have something to fall back on when that dream turns out to be just that, unattainable, intangible. He's definitely taking advantage of the young people who want a well known name, excessive life, but don't necessarily have the greatest time with school. Feel like that's who he's targeting with this.
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@SparkyGecko this is what everyone isn't understanding with this comment, the home usually creates the bully, no matter what type of bully they are, be it a child/teen that is acting out because violence, both verbal and physical, is all they see, or be it a situation like you're describing where the child/teen is being raised as an entitled brat. The environment of a child greatly shapes them, and the way they view and operate in the world. If you're not showing your child how to interact properly with others they won't. If you're not teaching your child to recognize and appreciate the feelings of others, and accept the differences amongst people, they're not going to be fully capable of doing so. Money and stability within a marriage alone doesn't always make for a conducive environment for the raising of a decent human being with the capability to show empathy/sympathy for all. Empathy/sympathy are things most human beings are capable of showing and experiencing, but these things are learned, and depending on how well they are taught, will determine how well they are expressed. Most people are not born bullies, they are created, and they are created in various different ways, in various different environments. All parents really need to be teaching their children from a very young age how their actions impact others, how bullying affects lives, and they need to be promoting better social skills and acceptance, while providing an environment that reflects what they're trying to instill in the child. I also feel there's this massive misconception that bullies have to and or will always exist, but this really doesn't have to be if people can start preventing this before it even happens, but that's also why it's so difficult to tackle, because it's going to require all of us as a society to raise our children a bit differently and with a lot more awareness. That itself is going to require some adults/parents to change the way they act and view things, and it's a lot harder to change a way an adult behaves and thinks, than it is a child.
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@renaleigh1215 there's another scenario as well, she could potentially die if she doesn't get help, or gets it too late. Either way we, the online community, are powerless to stop either of these scenarios, no matter how much we point out what we think is going on and what we think should be done. There's a common denominator people tend to forget and overlook with addictions, and it's the fact that help has to be truly wanted for it to be genuinely effective, that comes from within, and no outside force can take the place of that necessary drive that's needed to change. Yes there are ways to force treatment, and sometimes that's necessary to keep a person living, but that's all it does if there's no innate desire to change. It prolongs their life for a bit, nothing more, nothing less. We can do nothing, and all her family and true friends can do is make her aware that she does have a support system to fall back on if she's ever ready, but like you, I don't think any of these conversations between strangers about a stranger are truly that effective. It's a sad situation but we can't change that.
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@MC-ml3cn there's no way you could possibly know his upbringing. You're equating money and possibly a two parent family with perfection and it's simply not. None of that guarantees a child is being given the proper tools to become a caring and understanding individual. Everyone hates bullies for their lack of understanding and compassion for others and yet respond to them in the very same way, but the only way this problem within society will ever be fixed is if we do understand them, and how they are made. Very few people are born incapable of learning to register and appreciate the emotions of others, so the lack of being able to do this is most definitely taught in most cases. If you're providing an environment for your child that never makes them stop and consider others and their feelings, than they won't learn to do this properly. Doesn't matter what that environment looks like from the outside, if it's not giving the tools within, it will produce a damaged individual that treats others as bullies do. What society deems as "good homes" can and do producce "bad kids", especially when they're relying on money and material items to raise that child. That's why you always have these scenarios of the rich kid picking on others, because that child has not been taught the value of another's life and emotions. This all happens within the home, so saying someone came from a well off family doesn't disprove that in anyway, nor does a bully coming from a broken home. Wealth will never protect a child from bad parenting, and different looking environments can have the same outcome on how a child behaves if the parenting within them and what they're being exposed to is shit. We have to teach our children to behave properly or this will continue. People are not born bad or good, they are usually shaped into being one or the other by their surroundings, and all parents need to be making sure that those surroundings are promoting proper social skills, awareness, and acceptance of things and people that are different.
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