Comments by "Lautaro Quiroga" (@LautaroQ2812) on "Empathy, Misogyny u0026 The Friendzone - Interview With Sweet Anita" video.

  1. The friendzone take from Anita is clearly from a compilation of terrible experiences with potentially manipulative guys/rapists lol I'm someone who got "friendzoned" (I say it this way for simplicity's sake) constantly all the time and the only one to blame was myself for misunderstanding. Also it literally ties directly into the previous topic of "men don't get emotional support (and intimacy)". I had a lot of female friends because on certain traits, I vibed much more with them than with guys. And then that whole mix led up to me, a young dummy, falling for my friends. "Recognizing" after a while that I liked them (which is a stupid thing on itself). MAYBE there was an unconscious "plan" of "i'm going to be a great guy, so she will like me" on certain occasions with "new people" like that new girl that got into your class in school, but other times I fell for people I had already known for a while. But it was never a matter of "I wanna fuck this girl and if she says no..." And I'm someone who has a hard time empathizing with others on many aspects, I am working on that trying to get better so maybe it will take time to me internally to understand this better. But as of now, I care for the sex worker as much as I care for Stephen Colbert, James Corden, Jimmy Fallon... I don't. They are entertainers. They are doing things for "quick pleasure" and their content IS disposable. I am sorry if that is harsh to hear, but whether it's sexual content or not, it is not something that (generally speaking) can be perpetuated as "the greatest thing ever". I feel bad knowing that firefighter volunteers (with no salary) can't pay the rent of their building so the station has to close (you read that right). People that ALSO have a demanding job, that put their body under a lot of training and stress and risk their lives to save yours; can't feel the same for someone who is twerking on a penis. This way of thinking of "how things should be, therefore this is completely wrong" almost never yields results and it ends up written off as "people don't care, people won't listen". Technically to an extent, it is true. But that is not how it works. The reality is different. Reality is actually what "is" and gives us ideas of what "it could/should be" or what it "couldn't/shouldn't be". Stupidest example to make my point: LoL, Dota, etc. were games that were thought to be "cooperative multiplayer games, pairing 5 different players for a common goal - destroying the enemy's base". And yet more often than not, that doesn't happen or happens not in the best way. I don't think devs ever thought "yeah, let's make it this way so everyone is really toxic". It's just what happens. And there are processes to these things. It doesn't happen from 1 day to the next, but over a period of time. So could this be better? Should it be? YES. Of course. Is it wrong to be toxic in the game OR steal someone's work? YES. But bad people have existed since forever. That is reality. If this is such a problem: Why don't they all unite to shutdown free pornsites, especially the "official whitelisted ones" like Phub. Why don't they get together to create a paid service so porn isn't free anymore and they lower the risk of stolen work? And the last point is no one forced them to do that type of work. Porn is not new. It's something that has been done for ages now, so getting "into the field"... you kinda know what to expect. So you knowingly got into it. That shouldn't be a thing to blame society for. Of course they are consumed and they are a product. Because that is the type of work they do. They're as much of a product, to an extent, as Meryl Streep or James Hetfield. Not to me, I have the opposite take where I don't care who you are or what you do, you're human to me like everyone else, including myself. Which in turn gets me into some trouble with people. But I'm talking in general about the rest of society. They will dehumanize sex workers as much as they do night show hosts, youtubers, musicians, etc. It's a line of work that sadly makes people get this stupid idealization of the other person, whether the idealization is positive or negative, and when that isn't true, there's shock. There is a second layer on which Anita is right, and is that if Jimmy Fallon died tomorrow, people would "care". It would be for the drama or whatever, but they would know about it. But I feel that is also because watching a late night show in your living room, isn't "problematic" vs having a list of your favorite pornstars to which you jack off every night at 35 years old, which makes it something "hidden" and "taboo" topic. PS: Some things she said were articulated perfectly, I actually learned a lot and gained perspective. Other things she was skating into space on how judgmental and one sided it was. I don't blame her, we're all the same to an extent depending on the context. But some things were like compiled into this big hypothesis that didn't make any sense.
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