Comments by "Terry Stevens" (@terrystevens3998) on "Instagram Boomers" video.

@oliverqueen18 you clearly have not processed the trauma of the person who was supposed to keep you safe losing their temper and hurting you, Perhaps you have convinced yourself that others got it worse so you are lucky, no kid that gets hit is lucky, it is hard to look back at our parents as flawed people who should have known better but violence is a cycle of hurt people hurting people and it is normalized so the cycle continues, you should try to be the generation that puts an end to parents hitting their kids in your family. It only takes you to create a new normal for your family
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@Goodbrew84 trauma just means a deeply upsetting or disturbing experience, for a kid who doesn’t have a fully developed brain getting hit by a person who you are completely reliant and dependent on that is supposed to keep you safe hurting and scaring you is a traumatic thing..we all have childhood trauma, we all grow up and our brains minimize it. It’s 2022 and the I was hit as a kid and I’m fine crowd who then goes on to repeat the trauma with their own kids instead of taking time to think about how awful it is to hit a kid who doesn’t even have the full ability to control their impulses or understand shit that they do fully because their brains have not fully developed and won’t until they are 25 is just silly, it’s a coping mechanism our brain does telling us is nbd.. so obviously you guys all say it was nbd I survived, but surviving something doesn’t make it not a trauma.. and most people who say I was hit, I’m fine are fine in spite of the trauma they had as a kid, not because of it.. sure you grew up and are ok, but imagine how much better you would be if you were not hit. Your dad hit you and loves you deeply, imagine if he just loved you deeply.. you don’t have to minimize the idea of hitting a helpless kid to still love your parent deeply they didn’t know better, but now we do.. and we can do better
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@elisa9992 we know that mice that that grow up in stress will then be rougher with their babies and those babies will grow up to be more stressed, neurotic, and have issues.. the idea that humans.. who understand lack of impulse control and inability to think something through to unintended consequences for kids with undeveloped brains for some reason normalized using pain infliction on our young to somehow prevent them from doing things that they did because they didn’t understand what they were doing is bad to stop them from repeating the behavior... when you think about it, that’s messed up. But sadly we still love our parents so we rationalize and minimize and say well I wasn’t “abused” so it was ok.. humans have become a weird species that are using pain on our young and it’s clearly a cycle. Some people are neurotic little mice who are stepping on their young, we can stop that and be gentle with our offspring like panda parents are instead, we know those offspring grow up less neurotic. For the smartest animal that can study this shit we sure hang onto old ideas and do stuff that has societal consequences for our species even though we can see a better way
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@Goodbrew84 people who were hit as children and then advocate for hitting children are gross, deal with the trauma and don’t hit kids ever! This isn’t rocket science it’s 2022 nobody should be hitting kids ever.. if you were hit as a child it wasn’t ok, it was never ok!! This guy thinks he is well disciplined because he was hit as a kid.. that is insane!! Nobody grows up well adjusted because the people who are supposed to love them hits them when they are small and powerless and unable to advocate for themselves due to being a helpless child, they just repress it and internalize it and have unaddressed issues as adults.. end up online singing the praises of their abuser parents, it’s weird I also didn’t assume anything about you, you are just a rando that found a discussion from a month ago and invited yourself into it.
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