Comments by "" (@kellygreenii) on "Why MEN are AFRAID to APPROACH WOMEN: sexuality and the threat of extinction" video.

…and you’re asking someone to engage in what has become a high risk behavior for a reward that is increasingly not worth the risk. I once told a female co-worker who was loudly having a conversation in my presence about hair color. I’m made the mistake of saying off-handedly, “I think the best color (for a woman) is the one Mother Nature gave her….” Just a general comment. Nothing remotely personal. The result. I got (literally) cursed out. I got loudly cursed out for basically giving an indirect compliment…and people were looking at her as if she’d lost her mind… Who in their right mind would risk asking her out and having to deal with the apocalyptic consequences of her not being interested? Anyone?
61
They don’t get to eat their cake and have it too. They don’t get the satisfaction of being chased while also protected from ever being approached by someone they aren’t attracted to. Life doesn’t work that way. Because the guy one woman wants is a guy a number of women would never consider. So all men face rejection…and if you make the cost of it to be the destruction of your life? Men are going to stop doing it. Okay we’ll leave you alone. All of you
22
I’ve similarly have had to deal with “handsy” women at work….but interestingly I’m largely invisible away from work and among those who don’t know my status as a professional. So I see both sides. The attention that men who are perceived to be high status can get….while also understanding how invisible average men can feel at times. The sad part is that these women are victims of their own device. Playing a game of musical chairs where most of them are going to be left without a chair when the music stops.
16
@josealexi5141 No. That’s not how I roll. I’m old school. I won’t report you for yelling at me. Put your hands on me in a manner that is disrespectful? Different ball-game. She left a few weeks after that anyway. She’s someone else’s problem now.
13
@manher4335 Yep. Right on target. I had realized that about her before. A real powder keg of anger, and low-key disrespectful behavior. Just never imagined that she’d completely lose it in reaction to a really innocuous compliment. I want even after anything, I was literally just making small talk and wanted to be nice. Only to have her go off like a malfunctioning nuke. I think she eventually realized that she’d made a complete @ss of herself. Because the next time I saw she was MUCH nicer than she typically was. I didn’t care either way because I knew I was dealing with someone damaged.
12
@logan_wolf It’s why you be nice to everyone…but be selective about who you approach. Piss off the wrong woman and she’ll actively try to sabotage your efforts to get with anyone else. Had that happen to me in grad school. This woman that every just kind of understood had a few screws loose, took an undesired interest in me. In that kind of situation, I just play dumb. Women expect you “not to get it”…so you just play to their expectations. They eventually get frustrated and stop. But they don’t get mad because you haven’t rejected them directly. You’ve given them a face-saving explanation for your lack of interest. But not this woman. When she found that I was trying to get with a classmate? She LIED about me to try to sabotage the “competition”. I had no clue what was going on behind my back until the classmate eventually became my girlfriend. So told me what had happened and why she had suddenly backed off. Though I was confused, I had let her go and didn’t chase after her. Thinking, okay, maybe I misread things. She eventually realized that what I was doing wasn’t matching up at all with what this other woman was telling her…so she circled back.
5
@michaelangst6078 Not really. Operates just like the real world. They get protected from rejection in public…but not later on in private. When the “situationship” runs its course, and the guy gets bored and moves on. Bumble protects them from being approached by unattractive men…but at the price of having to risk that upfront rejection.
4
@CFChristopherB That’s what some Black Pillers seem to think.
3
@timgibney5590 Which is why you move slowly and you vet for character.
2
@dojocho1894 It takes two yes’s to keep a relationship going and only one “No” to end it. All you can do is hold up your end of the bargain. If you honored you vows, that’s all you can do. Gone are the days when most people took them as a lifetime commitment. Most people see them only as pretty word for a nice party…and they are only agreeing to stay with you until they get tired of you or bored with you. You can’t force someone else to honor their commitments or take them seriously.
2
@dojocho1894 That’s because status and resources are important to women..and well as confidence and “swagger”. What makes Brad Pitt “Brad Pitt” isn’t just his looks. It’s also his wealth. His fame (status), and the supreme confidence with which he moves through the world. Someone with his face… but without those other qualities would be a lesser man in the eyes of women. But with all those other things you have a package that very few women would say no to.
2
@EE12CSVT Thats only part of it. It’s his appearance (handsome). His status as a physician…and that physicians have to be effective leaders by the nature of what we do. Put all that together you get a package that starts pinging female radars. Take parts of it away…and female interests drops. Step out of the hospital..and your status is less clear (despite dressing well, nice car, etc…) female interest drops. It’s quite the window into seeing how women really are.
2
@josealexi5141 Yep. Which is why you need to learn who to read people quickly and stay as far away as possible from broken and/ or crazy ones.
2
@MrMan-fx3ow All women have no control over that. Men are gatekeepers of relationships. But women have control over who they will and will not have sex with. The problem is that women think that men want a relationship with them simply because they want to have sex. Men will “sleep down” not only with women they won’t commit to, but women they don’t want to be seen in public with (yeah we can @ssholes). So they waste time and energy chasing after a class of me that will sleep with them, but will never settle for them. While they ignore the men who will love them and treat them well..because they think they can do better. They just need to find that one hot guy who will. …
1