Comments by "" (@kellygreenii) on "How women DISRESPECT men without realizing it: bursting the bubble" video.

@Zwammertje Why do you women always need to make things about you? Whenever a guy talks about the behavior of a toxic woman it’s always “Well men do it too!!” I swear it’s like dealing with children. There is almost never any space for men to talk about their experiences without you trying to hijack it and make it either about women…or invalidate what the guys have to say Knock it off.
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Sometimes. Or she honestly didn’t know better, and is trying to minimize what she did to soothe your feeling, and save face on her own part. But yes. Correct the behavior, and remind her where the boundary is. A good woman who made a mistake will respect you more for not tolerating her behavior. The toxic ones will double down…push back even harder….and now you know what you’re dealing with and can act accordingly.
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@Vision-dd8fl Sounds familiar….and you did the right thing. Someone like that is emotionally damaged…and the behavior never gets any better unless there is a LOT of therapy involved. In fact—-without help—their bad behavior often escalates. Especially if they start to feel secure in the knowledge that you will tolerate it from them.
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@lashedbutnotleashed1984 No. men who keep finding themselves with toxic women are drawn to them. Just like women who keep finding themselves with toxic men are.
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Disagree on the teasing part. Teasing is a legitimate part of female game. USED PROPERLY, it is flirtatious while also stength(💩) tests a man’s confidence. IOW do you laugh and enjoy the banter or get insecure and butthurt? The problem is that many women have LOUSY game. So the teasing comes off as sarcastic, demeaning, or disrespectful totally…or they don’t have a grasp of wher the line between edgy and offensive is. So they “hit below the belt” and become offensive without intending to. One, we as guys need to recognize when she is disrespectful by accident…and kindly correct that…versus when she’s being malicious. Two. It works to our advantage to create an environment where she knows where the boundaries are…but is free to play with in them. Dealing with a female colleague right now whose idea of flirtatious banter is the verbal equivalent of three rounds of full-speed boxing. One day she said something that was flirtatious but just insulting…and I got mad. OMG, the hurt look on her face. She looked at me like I’d just told her that I didn’t love her anymore. That’s when I realized that what was going on was a really emotionally aggressive flirtation. Now I deal with her by just calmly deflecting or redirecting the verbal shots…and when she says something that’s over the line? I just calmly and kindly correct her and remind her where the boundary is. One, she LOVES it. Two, it’s good practice for me in keeping my ability to calmly disarm a b****y woman sharp. TLDR: Teasing isn’t always a problem. It’s a problem if it isn’t done playfully. It isn’t done WITH respect for what is not offensive…and WHERE it is done. The issue is some women lack the social skills and finesse to navigate these waters…and some are just toxic and are simply weaponizing their sense of humor.
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@cosmictreason2242 It never stops. With healthy woman it slows down and loses its intensity. But the moment she starts to feel insecure…or unsure about you? It starts up again. Expect anything else, and you’re being unreasonable. If you get upset because you can’t teach a cat to sing? It’s not the cat who has the problem… The issue is “how does she respond” to being corrected and shown where the boundaries are. Does she push back…or does she accept the correction and use it to change how she interacts with you. My “boxer” does the latter. She loves to throw her punches, but when I quietly let her know that what she did was not okay? She stops doing THAT thing. In fact sometimes she over-corrects and I have to let her know that I’m okay with playing rough with her…as long as it stays within the lines.
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@beowulf_of_wall_st 1. You’re not my dad, so I don’t need life or career advice from you. 2. I’m a Gen Xer. So I’m from a generation that can balance the personal and professional.
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@beowulf_of_wall_st Go find some other way to entertain yourself, child. I’m not your sitter. Just because you can’t balance the different ways of interacting doesn’t mean earlier generations couldn’t. Because we did…and still do.
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@beowulf_of_wall_st I hear your mom calling you child. I’m done feeding you, troll. Give her the phone back….
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@beowulf_of_wall_st Sure gaslighter. Whatever you say. 🙄
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