Comments by "J.D.S." (@j.d.s.1837) on "ContraPoints" channel.

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  30.  @Abyzz_Knight  The problem is: Who gives them this idea, that women are drawn to nice aka good people? Society. In all movies/shows/books/comics females are always shown to be drawn to the underdog, the secret hero, the average guy. However this is not even close to reality. Females are extremely lookist due to their natural role as the decider of who gets to pass on and like all human beings base their opinion of someone primarily on their looks. The issue is not that in/cels give kindness and expect a relationship in return. It is that they are told, that women love good people, so they try and be good, just to see that in fact it doesn't matter wether you smuggle 10 kg of cocaine for a living as long as you have good looks and seem charming. There is no patriarchy. The only pressure on men that evoces toxic behaviour is evolutionary pressure enacted by women. In/cels are lied to (it's only about personality), then they perceive the lie (personality is a consequence of genetics and circumstances) just to be told that they are hypersensitive and that their life experience is somehow "wrong". It's simply a fact that good looks are associated with good traits while unattractive features are associated with bad traits. You cannot deny this. Of course you can turn it to the extreme. There is no idea that does not have someone who has turned it into his personality and life goal. Saying, that in/cels are wrong becuase there are extremists is the same as saying Muslims or Nationalists or Leftists are wrong because there are extremists. It's not a valid argument.
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  35.  @lunarlegion5518  I know it sounds mean and harsh what I said about your asexuality but I really feel like you can't really talk about attraction from a neutral perspective. The way our current economy, our world is pretty much structured is a 2 way system. You are either left or right wing, you are either Trump or Biden, you are for communism or a full blown capitalist. It all comes down to being on one side and creating as much space to others. It is consumerism on it's most basic level, you either buy or don't. And the same is happening with attraction. There are only really 2 options now, swiping right or left. Liking someone or not. These grey areas of appreciating the attractive features while leaving out the unattractive ones is only when you know the person for a couple of years, which brings us back to isolation. This is the big question you put in the room. Is the in/cel community the right thing right now? No. The community is toxic in many parts and the sense of belonging is only an illusion. Are there any real alternatives? No. For men there are no real groups that are not extremist of some sorts. Religions, politics, even PUA groups, all are on the verge of extremism, always looking for the next great enemy. So what is the solution? To be honest community. Making small groups of a few 100 to 500 people who live together, work together, eat together. This way, putting millions of people in one place with work that disenfranchises them? It's not gonna work, at least not without high rates of stress and depression. But I personally think, and this might be because generally I look at things negatively, that nothing will change and we will at some point reach the limit. Of consumerism, of expansion, of everything. And then the 20th century rewinds. Communities will be parties. Politicians and Leaders will be gods. The only moral codex is an empty stomache.
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