Comments by "Alan Friesen" (@alanfriesen9837) on "The New York Times" channel.

@ceceliaellis9916 The women aren't rebelling so much. It's just that now many of them are well educated. They have lives that don't necessarily revolve around the kitchen and they don't want to give those up for some schmuck who can't see the value in a woman in her thirties or forties. There's a huge disconnect between Chinese conservative values and modern Chinese life. Men want to marry women in their twenties. Women want to marry men who are more successful than they are. There are a lot of relationships that fit these criteria but Chinese women are more driven and more successful than they ever have been and because of that there are many people whose lives have taken them out of these marriageable categories. At some point people are going to have to compromise or give up on the traditional family model. Of course, their families are going to be pushing hard for the former over the latter.
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Shelley Fitch China did create the shortage, as you said, with the one-child policy which rammed full force against the Confucian tradition of male child preference. They also exacerbated the problem by affording economic opportunities for women that allowed them to be independent adults. From the perspective of the country, these are unfortunate growing pains that come with graduating into a modern enlightened society, and from the country's perspective it's very much worth it. That's not to say that there isn't a lot of individual suffering during this transition.
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@cookncrook6902 I think there are going to be a lot of men and women who are going to be unable to attract the mates they want. Whether or not they mate at all will depend on whether they are willing to settle for what's available. Women are no longer dependent on husbands to have a non-marginalized role in society, and, parents aside, no longer have that social pressure to wed. Without that matrimonial dependency men have less to offer and their role within a marriage is harder to sustain, and frankly, in many cases it's not worth the heartburn for men to try, and I stress the word try, to live up to the ridiculous standards necessary to keep a modern wife impressed.
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@jianyuhua That's not what he's saying at all. He's explaining that "freedom of speech" pertains only to government actions, which is the case in the United States where the NYT operates. He explains that the New York Times is not an arm of the government and therefore does not have to protect free speech on its platforms. This is the case according to U.S. law. China, for better or worse, does not protect free speech. Some alleged Chinese actions, notably the fairly recent disappearances of Hong Kong booksellers that most observers believe to be abductions by the state for the sale of banned books, point to PRC government suppression of free speech within Hong Kong. I suspect that this incident is probably fueling the opposition to the extradition bill that started this whole thing. All that being said, the New York Times as well as many other western media outlets have a strong anti-Chinese bias in their reporting, and if Crystal Ball is correct then the NYT is extending that bias to their comment platforms in a way reminiscent to what the Chinese government does on the platforms that it controls.
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@vitocorleone8323 What freedoms would a visa-carrying Chinese have in country-X that a Hong Kong resident in Hong Kong does not?
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@11111110 There haven't been protests in the United States this violent since the Rodney King riots and those didn't come close to four months in longevity.
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