Comments by "Jason Dashney" (@jasondashney) on "Charisma on Command" channel.

"police yourself socially and always pay attention to your actions and reactions". If you are not policing yourself to some extent then you are not learning from experience and growing as a human. Also, I'm horrified at the thought of someone giving literally zero fucks at all times about the effect they have on others. I agree with Leilani in that comedians the world over are absolute proof that it takes conscious effort to become more witty/charming/whatever. You have to work at it.
16
Did you watch the whole debate? I watched it when it came out, and I literally had to scroll through hundreds of comments to find someone who is even remotely on Malcolm's side. The majority the comments were former fans of his who are now disgusted by him. I am one of them. He's dead to me. I've never had someone have such a spectacular fall from grace in my eyes in a single event.
16
Laughing at someone who really is trying to insult you is even more effective. You are telling them that their insult means absolutely nothing to you. You are completely belittling them without saying a single word.
10
@Progeusz- the biggest red flag, as far as somebody not coming at you in good faith is when they insult you personally instead of your idea, especially when the person actually had something to say and kind of painted you into a corner. It's the cowards way out and it is never done in good faith.
9
I don't thing Malcolm is used to speaking with anyone who's not a laptop class liberal academic elite. He's so entrenched in his bubble it doesn't occur to him that he might lose an debate if he doesn't bring substance. He's been fawned over for decades. He's not used to serious pushback.
3
@Metonymy1979 "That's because their jobs don't care, so why should they?" I always start with 110% for a company. I give it my all. When it becomes clear they don't GAF, then why should I? Always enter in good faith, then adjust to reciprocate what you were given if it doesn't match the effort you put in. If we were paid for our time, fast food workers would be paid the same as engineers.
3
@ nailed it. At that point, you aren’t even arguing the same thing with that person. They are trying to be “right“ and you are trying to be correct. Those are often two different things.
2
My back always hurts and crossing my arms hurts less, haha. Nothing to do with how I feel.
2
To be fair we have no idea if it was actually trustworthy because there were so few outlets so there was no counter argument. Still, back, then journalists were taught to appear completely impartial. That's much better than what we have now.
2
If that girl on the street insulted me with that bathroom line I would've smiled, maintained eye contact and said "And yet you still came over to me".
1
@ to be honest, I like Douglas Murray, but I don’t really like Douglas Murray. What rubs me the wrong way is his utter lack of humility. He’s very condescending. I know that’s part of his charm for people and they love it, it’s just not for me.
1
@ it’s not that it invalidate his work, but there’s always that shadow now. for an extreme comparison, it would be like studying what Hitler did for animal welfare. Apparently he actually really did care and did some good stuff, but as you’re reading about it, it would still be in the back of your mind that you’re reading about Hitler. can of spoils it a bit.
1
@calebroberts08 When he's talking to people he likes about people he doesn't like he's still incredibly smug and condescending. Of course, he's gracious and nice when he's talking directly to people he likes. He's not a scumbag. I just don't really like his tone is all. Just personal preference. I prefer people a little more measured like John Cleese.
1
@probablynot1368 true. Many are paid piece work. I’m in the trades and lots of contracts are piece work.
1
Worst case scenario is you have an awkward encounter for about 10 seconds. Big deal. You learn from the experience and move on. Of course it'll FEEL like a big deal, but in the grand scheme of things unless it's in the job interview for your dream job, it's not the end of the world if you fall flat on your face. Everyone has done it, and I mean every single person.
1
Yeah he seems very humble. For an interviewer it's a great look.
1
You'd be surprised how many people are less confident than they present themselves as. Most people are at least partially faking it. You'll get better with practice, and remember that every single person you've ever met or laid eyes on has been brutally and awkwardly rejected at some point.
1