Comments by "Eric Astier" (@ericastier1646) on "How Japan's Marriage Has Changed | Birthrate Issue (ep.3)" video.

The problem is the floating currency reserve bank system and the non sustaining economy. Around 1996 we were told in the higest education institutions in the world that in 20-25 years time automation and the digital technology meant people would have to work much less and would have probably 3/4 of their awake time for leisure and hobbies. This was a serious prediction at the time but it failed to account for the natural corruption and greed of the minority rich especially those parasite rich who skim the society and do little work. It''s because of them that nothing has changed even though it would be possible to live in a society as described. It's not happening because those who produce valuable items such as farmers, artisans, and skilled people are getting ripped off by parasites middle men and banks that whole part of society that speculates on money, that produces nothing but owns most of the wealth.
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I would have loved a non-forced matchmaker bringing a wife to me when i was young maybe going through the process a few time to find the right one. I was never a popular young man and knew that from an early age and it never improved. I had to actively search and court women really persistently to get a first decent girlfriend (i never settled for ugly women) . I have seen many unpopular men settling for the least attractive woman, i never accepted that, i have my self respect and pride and have always thought many women under valued me. Everybody has seen couples were both the man and woman are very unattractive and they marry for what ? For sex ? I find those couple suspicious and repulsive, i don't think they should make children. Because of that i highly support a matchmaker system, that would really help people who are not attractive but aren't unattractive. I think that would help women decide more easily. These days women have completely lost their mind with high standards because of movies and medias and they refuse men that are even too good for them.
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@yqweqwun7390 I'm single and didn't feel jealous of them, it warmed my heart, i enjoyed seeing that. You must have a horrible heart and bad relation with the other sex to think that singles are jealous.
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Thanks for sharing your testimony, i can see how that can happen. I think this it's more common that thought when both do not have the same cultural background and the same values and tradition. As when they do even with those unexpected character changes you described a common ground to make it work can still remain. Many older couples have lived that way successfully and quite satisfactorily for decades as functional partners, forget the bedroom side which isn't as important with age anyway. But if the marriage was based on that utopia true love with a good dose of romance in the bedroom then when all that steam eventually looses pressure with the years and you find out who you married and realize you fitted him/her in a mold you invented for yourself in self deception that wasn't who they really were in the first place. I am guessing that is the general story of many failed marriages. Still i see people leaving together and having kids without getting married. What is the downside of this ? Is it that women refuse that because they want that pressure to control the couple life ? Last thing i heard almost all divorce judge are women and they will be strongly biased in favor of the woman, divorce is always a woman rips off the man.
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You're taking too many episodes and words to get to the heart of the problem. Meshida covered the same subject and got straight to the heart of the problem : Women. Women these days are too picky, and want to fall in love with money, not with men, and japan salaries have not increased for 3 decades. Japanese women don't find wealthy men easily so they don't marry which is wrong. Women should be housewives not career driven. Japan is degenerating due to usa fem influence, just like South Korea.
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@kpt002 you know, passenger pigeons were estimated in the Billions (not millions) in the 19th century, they are extinct now. Also birthrate is an exponential curve when it crashes it has drastic effects, no just half the people in some decades 80% old people and 20 young people who still don't reproduce. But i don't loose hope in Japanese ingenuity. I would not be surprised if at some point in the non too distant future women will be forced to have children. Well not forced physically but through propositions they will not be able to refuse , like no tax on salary for women who have a child or other incentives. And if that is not enough, i would not be surprised if the Japanese governenment found a way to force Japanese to have natural sex through an official system where they are only allowed to refuse four out of five men who demand her.
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No that is a red herring, dating apps have nothing to do with low marriages. It's the change in women's behavior that has lowered rate of mariages. Actually easier access to relations through dating apps can only increase the chance of a good match that leads to mariage. But women have become brainwashed with sex freedom and fem ideas and that sex is just for fun and abortion has only removed responsibilities of engaging in sex. Furthermore fewer women are aspiring to a housewife life which means they don't want mariage. These are the true reason that women no longer seek to get married. They just want to get penetrated for fun and enjoy the ride while earning a salary without responsiblity. Actually women are too picky now because of the media and all the instagram culture showing perfect people. That's the problem, not dating apps. In fact even erotic website as long as it is not porn isn't that bad because for single men who have not been able to get in a relation with a woman over a long time sexual drive can fall to such low level that they no longer chase women but sex website awakens their sexual drive and put them back on the search for a real woman.
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@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 A woman's body is made for all these things you hate. so maybe you hate your own body or you are just frustrated by being treated for the non feminine woman you are. Women evolved to raise children and to cook, not to cover long distance by foot to kill prey, their wide hips are not meant to cover distances but to stay at home and support their husband and provide that banging. Indians would say this is karma, this is what you were made to be.
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