Comments by "marialiyubman" (@marialiyubman) on "Peter Santenello"
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I have a childhood memory of being invited to do Shabbas with a chassidic family in Israel. It was what taught me about chassidic kindness and also taught me that it’s not for me.
They were so hospitable, but there was a case where the mother of the family forgot to turn off the stove and they had to send every family member to find a “shabbas goy” so that he could touch the fire and turn off the stove.
Shabbas boy is necessarily a non-Jew, because it’s against the law to make even a secular Jew break shabbat, so it has to be a non-Jew who can help in case a stove is on or if there’s an emergency that calls for breaking shabbat.
Basically, if you can’t find a non-Jew to help you and the stove becomes a life-and-death situation - then you’re allowed to turn it off yourself, because life and death is the only case in which you can break Shabbat.
Up to here, it would sort of make sense, but seeing how hard they searched for an Arab (or “goy”) for this menial task made me see them in such a weird light.
Also, they’re not allowed to do work, but the women had to serve the food, make the food off a plate that’s always on for 24 hours and wash the dishes. So the male rabbis actually came up with washing sponges that didn’t “scrub”.
There’s an entire culture in the chassidic community where leaders and rabbis came up with these idiotic “cheats”, and it wasn’t a huge part of why I left the chassidic community into atheism, but it’s a small part of it. Just seeing how helpless the “regulars” are and how some of the rabbis act like smart-asses.
The main reason I left chassidic Judaism is because, if only they put the same amount of energy and ingenuity into being good and kind, but they don’t.
I went through several religious schools.
They assumed we didn’t keep kosher at home, so instead of looking us in the eye and saying: “do you keep kosher?
Here’s a piece of paper with rules just in case you don’t do something the chassidic community does to keep more kosher”, they told me: if you don’t bring the food in an aluminum no one will touch it, and even after we did (my best friend and I), even then - they looked at us “the non religious” (despite the fact we did keep kosher back then), like we’re sinners just because we’re not like them.
And it happened many times, otherwise, I’d assume it’s just the one time..
The women were vicious! Talking badly about each other is highly forbidden in the chassidic community (and Judaism in general), but they just did it anyway, including be violent, and then just said a prayer to repent.
I’ve never felt more alone than when I was in the 4 religious schools for girls.
That’s what made me atheist until I finally said:”they will not take my faith from me” and returned to being just the secular Jew I was before. Where you do the best you can and what you believe matters more.
So I am on my phone on Shabbat, but I try not to talk badly about people unless extremely necessary (like now, when I tell my story), and I talk to God.
Many extremist chassidic Jews really do give all Jews a bad name.
They hate Israel, they call non-religious Jews “goyim”, and the term goy just means “a people”, so a non Jew is goy=(other)people, and Jews are “goy gadol” - a great people.
But the radical chassidim don’t get the fact that God tests us more, which is why we were “chosen”, and they do practice the supremacy that some white-supremacists claim exists in the community.
And their rabbis, they’re just as bad as they are, so since the community is very closed-off, these problems never get addressed or fixed and the bad rabbis don’t get confronted or corrected - like in politics.
And I will never join a community where a fallible man, such as a rabbi, cannot be confronted or corrected and his word almost replaces the word of God.
That’s why I left.
Same with problems like pedophelia and child-abuse. The chassidic community is so afraid of not going through their rabbis that many times it just never gets resolved, and many of the rabbis are the problem because they were abused themselves. And it gets even worse when Israel has the law of return for every Jew, so if a chassidic Jew is finally caught in crimes, they can just run to Israel and they’re accepted - no questions asked, and the chassidic community rarely does a background check and they don’t really use internet, so they don’t really have a predator database.. it gets really bad and they keep sweeping it under the rug.
That’s one more reason why I don’t consider this an original form of Judaism.
What I did find out eventually is that the Israeli chassidic communities are much more radical than in America and the rest of the world. I don’t know why that is, but at home you learn the person’s true personality.
When I got lost in NYC, the only one who stopped to give me directions was a chassidic male Jew. I was shocked because in Israel they don’t talk to women and they don’t even look us in the eye. And they’re extremely frightful and rude to secular Jews in Israel. Whereas in the rest of the world - that doesn’t exist. They talk normally to everyone because that’s the accepted norm.
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Edit: she’s a Mexican woman who converted because she thought Islam is cool.. try doing the same with a middle-eastern or Somali woman.
I don’t know this woman, maybe she’s the exception, but I love and work around Muslims.
The most honest thing a muslim ever told us was:”I wouldn’t kill a Jew, not because I don’t hate them, but because a Jew’s life isn’t worth losing mine or spending my life in prison”.
also, we’re not afraid of Muslims because they’re covered or how they dress in general, we’re scared because I personally loved through two intifadas and saw a suicide bombing near my house. Then we went to work an the Arabs didn’t care, they didn’t openly celebrate because back then they’d be fired, but they weren’t too devastated over it.
The problem doesn’t start when all women are covered, the problem starts with Mohammad and how he says to treat women, and what happens is a woman doesn’t want to be covered.
Girls have been honor-killed by their own fathers and brothers for going out unaccompanied or breaking curfew, and the only ones who care are the western world, and they are called islamophobes for it.
Also, if you haven’t read the Quran, the Sira and the Hadeeth, you’re probably being scammed by tequia - muslims telling the kufar whatever they wanna hear.
She says she grew up in a Hispanic family - maybe that’s why she holds more modern and more human opinions, but I’ve lived in the middle-east most of my life.
I once went into the old city of Jerusalem and a vendor kept “courting” me to buy something in English… I told him I spoke Hebrew and he asked me:”are you Israeli??”
I said, yes.
As soon as I said that, he moved his gaze and said he doesn’t look Jews in the eye because we’re all murderers and have no soul. (Imagine living through two intifadas and not judging all Muslims as murderers, but still be judged and generalized by Muslims).
I don’t hate Muslims, I am afraid of them and I distrust them from past experiences, and I highly recommend everyone reads the Quran, Sira and Hadeeth, either by Dr. Bill Warner, who simplified it and divided it by time and book parallels, or listen to David Wood who always gives and quotes scripture.
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More things that make me mad about the chassidic community: arranged marriages.
At some point the whole thing becomes about “sell-ability” of the children.
The matchmakers pay attention to things like “scandals”, for instance: if someone left the religion in the family, is someone was born sick in the family… since the man and woman meet very few times before agreeing to marriage, it would be their obligation to find out everything they can about the family, but it becomes like a meat-market.
Is she fat, is she sane, did she ever talk against anyone she shouldn’t, and then it goes to: are you affiliated with some rabbi’s congregation, how long your family was a part of it, which rabbis you’re related to.
So instead of love, or personal compatibility, it becomes like princes and princesses.
The dowry becomes even worse in this case.
And I don’t understand how you’re supposed to feel attraction to a complete foreigner, it’s almost the parallel of tinder, but with marriage.
If a man I don’t know touches me sexually, I instantly feel physically sick. I can’t imagine meeting someone 2-4 times in my life and being bound to this man forever. This causes severe problems in the chassidic community.
And if a woman agrees to Mary a man after having met him 3 times, but then he turns out to be a wife-beater or an abuser of sorts - she can’t leave him, HE has to AGREE to give her a divorce. And in Israel there are horror stories of women who spend years begging the man for divorce. No matter what they do, even if they prove the man is a murderer - unless the rabbinate intervenes (which it rarely does), the women are stranded. And of course - this is against Judaism, but the chassidim who do it, care more about not lighting fire on Shabbat than this. Because no matter how many rules you make to keep people “good”, human nature still comes through.
I understand the general idea, don’t date too long, and be kind to each other and don’t base marriage on attraction alone, but what the chassidic community did to it is horrifying.
In some horror stories the man and woman only have sex to have children and sexual arousal is almost forbidden, because the radical rabbi (who probably watches porn) told the congregation to do it like this. So they sometimes have sex through a hole in the sheet, so there’s no physical contact between the man and the woman.
And the woman just “fulfills her obligation”. This is where I say: if you can’t use your own head and heart to be intimate with each other - then your religion is false. Not all Judaism - but your congregation is a fake.
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I’ll start by saying that I LOVE America and if it didn’t exist, we wouldn’t know what wealth and freedom feels like for the normal person.
The only people who appreciate America are Republican Christians and legal immigrants. And you see them make it every time.
What’s amazing about America is its big enough for anyone to live any way they want, and want for nothing.
If I had a choice of where to live - I’d live in America.
But here’s my dislikes about America:
Some people are so much in their own bubble that they’re so dumb that I wouldn’t even know where to start with them.
America is the only country where people need a recipe for making ice, and if you didn’t specifically write “turn off stove” at the end of a recipe - you could be sued.
Only in America can morbidly obese people cry about starving to death and being poor, and then blame others for the food they put in their mouth. And if you dare tell them anything - they join in with the giant bubble of “offended people” and cry like spoiled brats that only exist in America..
Some Americans are the kind of people who assume the world revolves around them… like… I was watching a guy open a Korean treat box on YouTube a few days ago(I’m a language nerd), open everything, try everything in it, have no idea what he’s tasting, compare it to trashy American snacks, laugh at it and its funny names. And then discover the people who packed his box actually packed an entire booklet with all the descriptions and translations in English specifically so he didn’t have to do that. And he just didn’t bother his arse reading any of it.
Americans are the kind of people who would travel abroad without knowing a single word in the country’s language and complain that their waiter doesn’t speak fluent English to serve them.
Americans are the kind of people who wouldn’t know a real charity if it hit them upside the head:
They would walk by their own slums and donate to “poor kids in Africa” for “liveAid” - which ended up going to arm the Ethiopian dictator, while they all partied at the concert…
I told an American “friend” about my childhood in israel living through suicide bombings and he said: poor Palestinians, they are so oppressed. I would say he believed the media, but it was actually worse - he wanted to be popular in his college (Yale). Most “woke” Americans don’t think for themselves because they know that only gets them rejected by those they want to impress, so they never do. That’s why so many people injected poison this year.
I can go on…
Last one: I actually had a spoiled fat bastard American tell me that Russians were so well-off in soviet Russia, and asked me why I am so defeatist and negative. (70 years of gulags…?).
Then he continued to complain about how racist America is and how no one listens…
Lastly: the super rich in America have lost their minds: the Rockefellers, the Carnegies and others who were involved with eugenics.if it wasn’t for them, we wouldn’t have funding for communism or Nazism.
And last one, this time really last one:
I have a friend who posted on fb that they have brown water coming out of their faucets.
I asked her why she didn’t check what they’re bathing in.
She claimed it’s because they have no money to do this.
I didn’t have it either, they have a house and two cars, I don’t. But I found a cheap water-testing kit online and sent it to them, I wanted them to be healthy and screw the money..
they haven’t opened it yet… it’s been 3 years…
The sheer laziness of Americans is mind-boggling!
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I’ll bet most Hasidic women took that jab, and they’re wearing the masks because their rabbi told them to, no other reason. That means that they’re not truly trusting God.
The Hasidic community follows their rabbis, not God’s word. That’s why I left the faith and became an atheist for several years.
Then I decided I can’t punish God for the conduct of sinners, so I’m now a secular believer.
Right now in Israel, you have Ashkenazi and Sephardic rabbis fighting each other because the Sephardic rabbis didn’t get as much money from the government to promote the jab to their community, none of them asked any other questions until people started dying and getting severely injured, and they’re still not talking. and Israel has no religious exemption for vaccines in general, despite the fact that Jews must keep kosher, and abortion is not allowed. This was a huge wake up call for me in 2020 when I learned the facts.
So there are amazing exceptions, like Dr. Zelenko himself, who’s an Orthodox Jew, the real deal, but the majority of the modern Jewish people are sinners, and since 2020 I’ve been ashamed to be part of the Jewish people.
Right now, in 2020, the whole state of Israel is an apartheid state against those who didn’t take the jab, and I lost everything because of it. In a state where I moved to, giving you everything we owned in Russia, just to be free.
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@justagirl... by “we”, you’re either assuming I’m not Jewish or that I’m unfamiliar with the orthodox faith. I’ve been both religious and secular and I’ve also been turned into an atheist briefly, after spending several years in several orthodox schools, where I got to know the leaders/Teachers and Rabbis better as humans, as well as the majority of the “regular folk”. I used to admire the Orthodox Jews for the tsedakah they perform, and until that time I just assumed they always say all Jews are welcome in Israel and make our lives as easy as possible when we do our best to integrate amongst our fellow Jews.
but what happens in the orthodox schools is that they’re so full of hatred and fear that they don’t even trust you to offer to make them coffee or get them a glass of water when they have a headache… and it’s “nothing personal” it’s just because if you came from Russia, there’s a 0.000001 possibility you once passed by some non-kosher food, os someone in your lineage wasn’t fully Jewish… so you literally have to prove your entire linkage of you want to give your friend a glass of water… and if you bring a cake for your own birthday party - the teacher will threaten the other students in your class with actual punishment(!!!) if they touch your cake, because your kitchen may not be kosher…
Never in my entire life have I seen such true and actual racism and small-mindedness as I have in the orthodox communities. And I’ve lived in soviet Russia and been called Jeed.
I left the orthodox community and found God on my own, and I’ve never looked back since.
I’ve also seen how the orthodox community covers up child molestation, rape and spousal rape, many other kinds of abuse and I’ve also seen how the rabbis make parents shun their kids, their own flesh and blood, if they’re gay, or if they question the cult. (There is the Jewish religion and there are the difference chassidic cults).
I don’t hate the orthodox, but I feel sorry for them. They think they’re following God, and being “extra good”, like that kid who writes to Santa every year, when in fact - they’re following some idiot Rabbi’s decree so he could proclaim himself more superior in comparison to his opponent rabbis. And that’s how we ended up all dressing in black and covering up like we’re Taliban wives on the one hand, while wearing transparent, skin-colored tights on our “covered” legs and a wig that looks exactly like our natural hair, that costs a fortune, just because we can’t show our natural hair to anyone but our husband.
I’m not a huge fan of Bill Maher, but he has a documentary about religions, where he visits a place not far from my home: the scientific Halacha center at Bait Vagan.
There he learns about how the job of the people who work there is to find a solution for someone who if disabled, and needs to use a mechanized wheelchair on Shabbat.
The “scientist” shows him how the quadriplegic man featured in the film doesn’t physically touch his wheelchair to make it move, therefore he doesn’t violate Shabbat.
So he asks: but Pikuach Nefesh delays the Shabbat” doesn’t it? If this is about this man’s life, he is allowed to use his wheelchair as is… that’s Judaism. Isn’t it?
And so, they politely show him the door.
Because we all know he’s right.
When it comes to common sense: Walking on the street alone, driving in your car and swimming in the ocean with a mask on isn’t the equivalent of safety. Not wearing a mask isn’t the equivalent of jumping off a bridge and it’s nowhere near common sense.
What this woman is doing, at best, is listen to her MALE rabbi’s decrees. They were bribed and told to tell members of their congregation to take the jab and wear a mask even when they’re sleeping alone at night - and that’s what the congregation followed.
God has nothing to do with it, and I know for a fact most rabbis were bribed, because the Sephardic rabbis only raised the alarm when they realized the Ashkenazi rabbis were being paid more (gotta love Jewish supremacy). (At least that’s how it happened here, in Israel in 2020-22).
the saying “God helps those who help themselves” is not about turning yourself into “bubble boy” so no virus can touch you. it’s about learning everything you can about your God-given immune system and nature. Like the fact that sunlight both kills any virus and provides your body with vitamin D. And it’s about learning the truth and the facts fearlessly - because God is truth.
Instead, the only Orthodox Jew who openly and bravely spoke out after having saved thousands of lives is being shunned - Dr Vladimir Zeev Zelenko.
The Jewish community should have gone Sun-bathing during Covid, instead, they still dress like 19th century European Christians, which literally prevents the light from penetrating their bodies. You can’t make up a metaphor any better than that… 🤷♀️
you really need to learn where all the orthodox customs really originate from. You’ll find that many of them came from corrupt rabbis who divided our community by playing power games and politics, who compromised their beliefs in order to fit in and led their congregations, sometimes astray, sometimes right into a gas chamber (like the Rabbis of the Satmar congregation, who then fled like a chicken when his most devoted followers were dying).
That’s why I stay with the Torah and with God alone, and question EVERYTHING else I’ve been given to learn. And I mean everything.
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I was prescribed oxy for severe chronic pain,
It saved my life.
Allowed me to get out of bed, work, sleep, perform on stage without doubling-over..
I adminned a group for women with endometriosis (a severely painful and exhausting chronic illness) and when they were denied opiate painkillers, they couldn’t function. They couldn’t be mothers to their kids.
I’m a Trump supporter (until Warp-speed), and my one problem with him before warp-speed was that he began the war on opiates by denying people prescription pills.
Most of the people who are addicted to drugs, I assume, from listening to Mark Laita’s channel, take them for the feeling - to forget they were raped and molested as kids and when they have to do sexwork - to numb themselves.
But I’ve been in opiates for several years, the first month it came with a high.. I had a little more fun singing in rehearsal and did a few auditions with fewer nerves (which was fun), but once that wore off, after like a month, I used it for pain and I thank God I got a break from living in pain.
All drugs have a medicinal purpose - that’s why people use them, to self-Medicate.
Schizophreniacs chain-smoke, it turns out tobacco helps quiet down their brain.. I didn’t know that and when my dad asked me to buy him cigarettes I told him no. Now that I know this - I regret not helping him.
I assume there must be a better, cleaner way, to use hard drugs when people need them, like chewing on coca leaves and not snort cocaine.. I wish we’d get over the stigma and the whole “sexwork for a fix” level of addiction…
In the times when they wrote Sherlock Holmes, they injected opiates like vitamins.. so.. I don’t know where exactly I stand on that..
Let’s start with cleaning the streets of violent criminals, and the drugs might just go away by themselves.
BTW, to everyone with a chronic illness - Chinese medicine healed me and I didn’t need the opiates for 4 months (then modern medicine gave me cancer and yay…).
Am I making any sense…?
P.S.
once I got prescribed a fentanyl slow-release sticker, and it’s scary shit. I came running back to return it.
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The American chassidic culture is much better than the Israeli one.
It feels like these Jews actually do better without having their own country.
In America, I once got lost, and only a male chassidic Jew stopped to talk to me and give me directions.
Whereas in israel,
They don’t talk to women, their rabbis forbade them from looking women in the eye.
On their own streets, where they proudly construct pathetic ghettos to separate from the secular Jews, they make women and men walk on different sides of the sidewalk and the men can get extremely violent - which I’ve personally witnessed when we performed in an interfaith concert in Jerusalem.
Some orthodox idiot spread the word that it was a missionary event (it wasn’t, it was choirs from each faith singing in Jerusalem), and they rallied hundreds of chassidic Jews to scream “we killed Jesus” at both Christian’s and the secular Jews.
I have never been more ashamed in my entire life.
The chassidic Jewish tradition is in big trouble, and they won’t admit it.
Their rabbis are their main authority, and their rabbis are amongst the most corrupt and hateful human beings I’ve ever seen.
They pushed the Covid jab on their congregation because they received bribes and they only exposed these bribes after they found out they weren’t being paid the same amount as the other guy..
The chassidic community in israel made me atheist for a few years and now I just stay respectfully away.
I’m glad you found some people who didn’t reflect my experiences, and I’m glad there are better chassidic Jews than those I met as a kid in Jerusalem.
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