Comments by "marialiyubman" (@marialiyubman) on "Hasidic Rabbi (Manis Friedman) Teaches Me About Relationships (BIG Episode) 🇺🇸" video.

  1.  @supreme5580  most people compare sex to chocolate and orgasms. 🤷‍♀️
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  2. I only wonder.. when I, as a secular Jew, entered several religious schools to learn about the chassidic communities, they showed their true face. They spoke badly, treated me like I’m a dirty “Goya” just because I didn’t come from a religious family and abused me for being different. So if only the chassidic community worked on itself internally the way they want to be portrayed externally - we’d be in a better place altogether. It’s just sad that when I watched them from afar - I saw people who give charity, who are good and kind men and women of God, but inside - they’re sometimes worse than the seculars.
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  3. A lot of Judaism makes sense, and a lot of radical chassidic communities have lost all common sense because the Rabbis are in competition with each other and some are more radical than others. So unfortunately this community that was portrayed in the film is the good side of religious Judaism, but unfortunately, that’s how how things are day to day, or in most communities. That’s why I left religious Judaism - I’m now a secular Jew. What makes sense in Judaism - I follow, What doesn’t - I try to learn the logic behind it, and I don’t follow it until I know what it’s for. Because if you read the Talmud, you realize some Jewish leaders are just the regular dumb f’s that our modern politicians are.
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  4. Yup. That’s beautiful.
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  5. That’s really cool!! ❤️
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  6. More things that make me mad about the chassidic community: arranged marriages. At some point the whole thing becomes about “sell-ability” of the children. The matchmakers pay attention to things like “scandals”, for instance: if someone left the religion in the family, is someone was born sick in the family… since the man and woman meet very few times before agreeing to marriage, it would be their obligation to find out everything they can about the family, but it becomes like a meat-market. Is she fat, is she sane, did she ever talk against anyone she shouldn’t, and then it goes to: are you affiliated with some rabbi’s congregation, how long your family was a part of it, which rabbis you’re related to. So instead of love, or personal compatibility, it becomes like princes and princesses. The dowry becomes even worse in this case. And I don’t understand how you’re supposed to feel attraction to a complete foreigner, it’s almost the parallel of tinder, but with marriage. If a man I don’t know touches me sexually, I instantly feel physically sick. I can’t imagine meeting someone 2-4 times in my life and being bound to this man forever. This causes severe problems in the chassidic community. And if a woman agrees to Mary a man after having met him 3 times, but then he turns out to be a wife-beater or an abuser of sorts - she can’t leave him, HE has to AGREE to give her a divorce. And in Israel there are horror stories of women who spend years begging the man for divorce. No matter what they do, even if they prove the man is a murderer - unless the rabbinate intervenes (which it rarely does), the women are stranded. And of course - this is against Judaism, but the chassidim who do it, care more about not lighting fire on Shabbat than this. Because no matter how many rules you make to keep people “good”, human nature still comes through. I understand the general idea, don’t date too long, and be kind to each other and don’t base marriage on attraction alone, but what the chassidic community did to it is horrifying. In some horror stories the man and woman only have sex to have children and sexual arousal is almost forbidden, because the radical rabbi (who probably watches porn) told the congregation to do it like this. So they sometimes have sex through a hole in the sheet, so there’s no physical contact between the man and the woman. And the woman just “fulfills her obligation”. This is where I say: if you can’t use your own head and heart to be intimate with each other - then your religion is false. Not all Judaism - but your congregation is a fake.
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  7. ❤️🇮🇱
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  8. May you find what you are looking for, friend. ❤️
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  9. Ha! The China dude! ❤️🇮🇱
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