Comments by "marialiyubman" (@marialiyubman) on "This Couple Have Been Hoarding JUNK For Over 40 Years (Hoarding Documentary) |Absolute Documentaries" video.

  1. It’s not on purpose. It’s like keeping a cat outside because at least that way you’re feeding him and if not - the cat would die, and you can’t adopt the cat. You can’t judge people with mental illness the same way we judge normal people, and hoarding is a severe mental illness.
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  2. You’re a very strong person.. it’s not easy..
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  3. I know a hoarder who hoards because her mother was taken to auschwitz and had all her possessions taken away, they even took her humanity from her and shaved all her hair, so when she survived auschwitz she started hoarding because she couldn’t have anyone touch her stuff ever again.. it was a huge eye-opener for me in terms of the emotional side of hoarding.
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  4. Not minimalists, but I got rid of my entire closet and bags and bags of trash and stuff one day. I’m not exactly a hoarder, I just have a chronic illness that doesn’t allow me to clean up after myself, so on good days I used to just compulsively throw away everything I could without caring…
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  5. But that’s another phobia of hoarders. That if someone came into their homes they’d take something to throw away. Imagine you let me in for a cup of tea and I took a look at your house and said: he won’t miss this cup, let me just take it and break it outside. And this cup is a memento from your late grandmother… This is how hoarders feel.
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  6. That’s what they do sometimes, but it doesn’t stop the hoarder from doing it again and this time they hoard more and trust less. The idea is to teach them to get better, not do it by force. The city does clear out homes of hoarders when it becomes a public health issue, but if they do that - the hoarder will keep doing it again. This show is about helping the hoarders take control over their lives. It’s not about clutter, it’s about severe PTDS-like trauma that’s linked to physical stuff.
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  7. So are the hoarders.
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  8. It’s a mental illness.. in my particular case (I’m not a hoarder, but I have a chronic illness that doesn’t always allow me to clean, and that makes me feel ashamed). In my case, I have severe fatigue and pain after eating, so I can’t wash up after myself immediately and then the mess accumulates. Then it starts to stink, and the stench makes me feel physically worse so I can’t always come near that, and it gets much worse… Then the shame makes me feel fear of asking for help and I end up with heaps of rotting food in my kitchen sink. It’s not as simple as you might think.
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  9. That’s not why. Hoarders are severely attached to all their stuff. Imagine a jenga tower built out of rubbish, but your sanity sits on top of that tower and if someone disturbs a single piece of trash - the whole tower may come down and you’ll lose it and relive the original trauma of why you started hoarding, releasing every single one of your demons. That’s the mental illness that causes hoarding. It’s not just not taking out the trash. It’s not that simple.
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  10. Hoarding is such an isolating, severe entail illness that I had no idea hoarders can even find love or be in a relationship… it touched my heart seeing that couple…
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  11. And PTSD
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  12. It could have ended very differently. You have to know what you’re doing.
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  13. Because you’re not a mental health professional. 🤷‍♀️
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  14. I’ve met a few hoarders and I have a similar problem. Basically, they hoard because at some point in their lives they had no control over their personal space, and keeping stuff is their way of feeling they’re in control. They think they categorize their stuff, but in reality, they’ve lost control over a decade ago, but they’re too ashamed to let anyone else see their stuff, and they’re terrified of someone throwing something important away. It’s like your sanity is sitting on top of a jenga tower build with trash… move the wrong thing and you disturb actual demons. It’s horrifying.
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  15. I’m not saying it’s ok, but that’s the reason they become that way in the first place. Now, from that point, most people get over it, some more easily than others, while others succumb to their mental illness. But it’s not as simple as you make it sound. It’s only simple for those of us who don’t have that problem.
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  16. It’s a mental illness, he’s just confronted like a million demons.. he needs some time to process.
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  17. It’s called mental illness.
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  18. They hate it as well, but it’s a mental illness.
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  19. I’m so sorry for your loss…
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  20. I agree, but it’s a severe mental illness. They can’t help it.
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  21. I’m so sorry you had to live like that. I wish this severe mental illness had an easier treatment or even a cure. 💔
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  22. It’s a severe mental illness.
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  23. That’s not it, but yes, fear is a deterrent in some cases.
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  24. Unfortunately you’re not the only monster who doesn’t understand mental illness to this point. I’m am sure you’d also cure anorexia by force-feeding them until they choke.
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  25. Because if they do that - the hoarder will never trust them or anyone else ever again. This is a severe mental illness. What you just described is akin to stealing.
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  26. Because it’s not a lazy person, it’s a person with a severe mental illness. Take someone with anorexia and start force-feeding them until they gain weight - if you don’t do that right - they will kill themselves.
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  27. Hoarders can’t go to asylums. Many hoarders have been through the public system and that’s their original trauma that led them to hoard in the first place. Hoarding is triggered by not allowing you to have control of your most basic stuff. I know a hoarder who is the way she is because her mom went to auschwitz. Once they took everything from her and even shaved her hair - even a piece of lint in her possession became as valuable as gold, because it was hers. But I agree they shouldn’t have shut down the asylums, we need to put violent people somewhere.
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