Comments by "marialiyubman" (@marialiyubman) on "Britain's Biggest Hoarders E3 | Mental Health Documentary | Absolute Documentaries" video.

It takes so much courage to open up about your hoarding problem and so much more courage to let anyone at all, let alone the whole world see the extent of your hoarding problem. I’m a messy person because I’m in too much pain and fatigue to be able to clean up after myself, and it makes me feel so much shame, I can’t have anyone over at my house. I just wanted anyone who has this problem to know you’re so brave and I admire you for openly asking for help. I hope you get it. ❤️
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She can’t judge them. It’s like judging someone with an eating disorder or PTSD (in fact, hoarding is a part of PTSD). It doesn’t help. It’s not like someone collecting cars, this is someone who feels like if you take away their garbage - you kill a part of their soul and mental stability, but it’s to the point where they run out of physical space to even sleep. The walls of your sanity are closing in on you. Literally.
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She’s not nasty to jasmine, hoarding is a severe mental illness and she’s exhibiting a defense mechanism.
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Hoarding is a severe mental illness. Many people who experience trauma end up being locked at that age when that trauma happened. That might be the immaturity you’re seeing. But it’s not that she’s a baby who hates pekoe touching her bottle, the hoarders feel like every single item they lose - they lose a part of their soul with it.
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To the people feeling sorry for Jasmine when the hoarders lash out, you need to understand, hoarding is a SEVERE MENTAL illness, and every object, no matter how old, dirty or even contaminated, holds a piece of the hoarder’s soul. Telling a hoarder to throw out an old, rotting blanket, smelly and full of fungus, is like telling a person with anorexia to suck it up and just start eating. Hoarders don’t see their stuff as “a mess”, unless they allow anyone into their homes, before that, they see all their objects as having a direct connection to their soul and mental stability. I knew a hoarder who had the city come and clear her home, she came to my workplace and told me:”I was robbed!! It’s all gone!! I’m cold…”. Then an article came out and I realized she wasn’t robbed… So anyone working with hoarders needs to be mentally prepared for the hoarders lashing out at them. Imagine someone opening your soul and telling you your sanity and all your memories need burning. That’s how it feels (as best as I can describe it). I thought I was a hoarder for a while because my illness prevented me from cleaning and I started to research. If you can bring yourself to throw stuff out - you’re not a hoarder.
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It’s a severe mental illness, not arrogance.
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Not anyone, Usually to people who experience severe trauma related to loss of personal space or physical stability. The worst hoarder I know is a daughter of an auschwitz survivor. They took all her stuff from her, including her hair and personality, so she vowed no one will ever take any of her stuff ever again, and every object she tosses - it’s like the Nazis came back again. It’s severe PTSD, but most PTSD is mental, this is connected to physical trauma as well and loss of control. Like, if you were kept in a room with 30 people and weren’t allowed to have any of your own stuff, not even in storage. When you come out, the first thing you do is get one object to be your own, that’s hoarding, times 1000.
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You have to be with hoarders. It’s like saying: the presenter of the show about anorexia is a saint for not telling them to “suck it up and just eat”. Hoarding is a severe mental illness. Anorexia is connected to the physical body, and hoarding is connected to physical objects inside your personal space. But it’s a severe mental illness. It’s not about being kind of understanding, it’s like expecting a physiologist not to judge someone with mental illness. Judging doesn’t help.
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I have a question, Why did they leave so much rubbish in Wendy’s house? I would have left only basic furniture like a bed, the TV, and kitchen appliances or empty cupboards. When I look at what they left in Wendy’s home I feel overwhelmed as well because it’s still dirty and smelly. I know Wendy’s is really difficult, so I assume it’s because she didn’t allow them to take anything more than they already have, but was there another reason?
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