Comments by "marialiyubman" (@marialiyubman) on "Real Stories"
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Btw, I used to think I was a hoarder, a friend set me straight and told me I wasnāt,
But Iāve had trouble cleaning up and tidying up after myself for many years because I had severe fatigue and depression, so the fatigue made me ālazyā and I couldnāt take care of myself, I had to prioritize cleaning myself of the house and the house always lostā¦
But then, people ask how people can live like that and not notice..
emotional trauma and depression will do that to you and after a few years you just learn to ignore itā¦
But Iāve never been able to have people over, and when I had a boyfriend I cleaned and he claimed my house was still dirty because I worked two jobs with fatigue and a chronic illness and he was ātakingā my nights from me, which was nice, but I was even more exhausted. So ever since we broke up I havenāt been able to show anyone my home or my room..
I share a lot of shame with hoardersā¦
And I wonāt let anyone clean for me because Iām ashamed of what they say when they find out how I live.
Now Iām dealing with stage 4 cancer and before I dealt with severe endometriosis, which was an unacknowleged condition for many decades⦠so I now live in filth because Iām in too much pain to clean it up, but I canāt let anyone see how I live so they can come clean for me, so Iām alone.
Itās really sad and tragic..
I feel for hoarders so much⦠š
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Hoarding is done because of emotional trauma, Iām not saying this is his case, but I knew a lady in Israel, her name is Agnes, a Hungarian Jewish lady, eccentric and very lonely.. sheād come to the theater where I worked at the Boxoffice and we would talk about music.
She was very eccentric.
One day, my coworker sent me an internet article about a crazy hoarder, about how theyād just made the city clear her house without her permission.
Then it clicked: a week before she came over and told us she was robbed and that her house was empty. I gave her my phone number to call if she felt lonely, I was afraid to give my number to a stranger, you never know.. she never used it..
She turned out to be a hoarder because her mom was a Holocaust survivor.
They took all her stuff from her once at Auschwitz, so she never threw anything away ever againā¦
When I found out, it was because they showed her facial profile on the internet and made an entire article out of the crazy hoarder lady and the smells and sounds and what they found... And everyone at my job was laughing at her, and I was just sitting there and crying because she told me her story in several parts and when I added it all up I realized why she would become a hoarderā¦
Broke my heart..
She even has a hugs dreadlock hanging from her hair, because she canāt even fathom cutting her hair for the same reason if the holocaust traumaā¦
Second generation holocaust trauma is way too realā¦
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