Comments by "Andrew Bowen" (@andrewbowen2837) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. That last sentence hits close to home. I've been talking to a friend about how I suffer from loneliness and they have been trying to give me tips on how to be more approachable and relatable, but I just feel out of place doing it. So I asked them if one should really sacrifice their individuality just to be more relatable? Perhaps not. But it's a hard battle to fight
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  2. I've heard this idea several times before. Yet, I'm not sure of its validity, at least for me. I've done "No Nut November" many years now, but I never come away feeling productive; I just end up feeling agitated and depressed more than anything. My normal life doesn't reward me with dopamine or anything, and it seemed like masturbation was the only source I had for it. At the same time, it is harder to relax at times without doing it. Some nights I become restless and cannot sleep until I do the deed, as it tends to relax everything more, expend some extra energy. What I gather from this video is not necessarily to stop masturbation per se, but to redirect the libido away from it towards something else. Yet, I'm not sure how to do that. During NNN, I just become busy and focus on other stuff so that my mind doesn't even have time to consider sex, but that too is unrewarding. So, how would someone turn their libido towards something else? It sounds strange, but is it possible to become attracted to bigger goals in a sexual manner?
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  3. Ah, this isn't one I can really relate to as much. I've only had one sexual partner. I understand women today are likely to have had more, but my concerns with it are that I don't know how I stack up compared to others, and it makes me concerned about her morals. The one I'm interested in now mentioned that she has met up with a guy in the past for the first time just for sex, justifying it as "pretty girl shit." She also has a "number 69" who is a basketball player... It rubs me the wrong way for sure, because I'm someone who wants to share intimacy as something special whereas she just hands it out like it's nothing, a business transaction of sorts.
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  4. I thought this would be a new channel and I could watch like 5 videos and get everything done, but my goodness, you have been mighty productive over the past year
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  5. So the easy way to do this is to settle, to go for someone a couple of rungs below us, so to speak?
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  6. The commenters take their angst out against women, blaming a single mother for everything. Yet, I was raised by a "single" father (I used quotes because he is very promiscuous and had several suitors) and yet here I am watching this video, the same as all you. If it wasn't him, it was grandparents and great grandparents, people who do not fall into this value system that you target. So what's the culprit then?
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  7.  @Jedimack7  when you're wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags
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  8. It's interesting that the women I have most recently talked to about this have said that they value men who are emotionally available and open, and that they expect men to say "I love you" first in the relationship. That doesn't seem likely if the man is to be the adored. Or maybe they just aren't sure what they want? Would you say there's a difference in age group and education between expectations like this?
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  9.  @joseph6243  I don't see why these two things can't be one in the same. It was a fear I had a while ago, and one of my good friends who works in the field confirmed it to me recently, that he's concerned he'll never meet anyone either; he told me this without me bringing it up. So, I've resorted to dating apps, but with no success. It's either scam attempts, or people who aren't mature enough to suite my interests either way. I appreciate your time hearing me out though, it's a great kindness from a stranger on the internet
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  10.  @turtlesauce482  I try to tell myself that. Those are issues, but I wonder if the good parts outweigh the bad. I doubt I'll ever find someone with absolutely no red flags
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  11.  @netsherrera7193  could you elaborate on the impacts you think this would have?
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  12.  @turtlesauce482  it's easy to tell myself that for sure. In reality, I'm not certain. I'm about to get into a male dominated field, and I'm not the type to go to bars or parties to meet people. I considered this my last hope
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  13.  @StevenSanchez_95  say I do travel to one of these places. Then what?
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  14.  @joseph6243  as an update on everything, things have actually taken a very unexpected turn for the better. She and I have begun hitting it off; we actually slept together Saturday night. So, maybe my perseverance has paid off
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  15.  @MrMatthewhg  no, it was a result of the right more than anyone. People who were trying to reinstate Catholic values in the world, starting with celibacy. But it's funny to see you try and bring your nonsense into it
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  16.  @kalmmonke5037  something about the liberal agenda
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