Comments by "Terry Cavender" (@terrycavender) on "Einzelgänger"
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@NightmareTrash88 I had an abusive stepfather, a bit of a narcissist I think, but so was my mother. I visited my half brother recently when I returned to the US for business. He exhibited some of the same traits as my stepfather, lots of rage, and always worried about what his friends thought, a trait of my mom's. Since I didn't have good role models of parents, I decided it would be best not to repeat the cycle. Most people should not have children, but they do, and their offspring suffer. But, life is suffering, and joy, you cannot separate the two. There is a natural twin aspect to life. The fool is a twin of the wise. Night, day, opposite equals.
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No, do not remove. If someone decided to commit suicide based on seeing this, then they were too far gone anyway. In keeping with Stoic philosophy you can either endure life, or not, your choice. For the moment I choose to endure, work to improve myself, and improve my life. At 67, I want to enjoy what I have left to live by actually living, not waiting to die. When I'm done I will hopefully leave with some dignity, as demonstrated by some past teachers. This episode is a teaching episode, like all the others, it provokes thought, that's a good thing, please do not listen to fearful voices.
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@mavisfaunafae884 you must be an Aries.... 🤣 Just kidding! Actually, most of my Aries girlfriends did have a temper... 🤔 At least you were aware, and took responsibility, that's a good thing. I love kids, honestly, and I might make a good parent now, but at 67? I'd never get to see them grow up. I still remember an incident where I was dating a lady with a little boy, he was about three, maybe four. He was in the bathtub, upset, crying, I don't know if I had made him cry, but one thing I do remember is that I didn't understand why he was crying. The family I was raised in didn't show love, just anger, rage, dominance, and fear, you walked on eggshells 24/7. When you are raised that way, you don't learn empathy. I eventually left the lady, and her son, they were better off for it.
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@NotWhoYouThinkThisBe in my stepfather's case, it was expected if you were a "straight" man, you married, and had children to prove it. In my half brother's case, the first was an accident, not sure about the second child. 🤔 No matter really, he did try to compensate by being his kids "friend," an example, he called his son, "little buddy." Too bad he still had all the rage, and anger he was taught by the example of my stepfather. There was an accidental pregnancy one time with a girlfriend I had, neither of us felt it was right to get married, or have a child together, so we ended it early on. We made what we thought was the correct choice at the time. I do wish people would be honest about their capacity to be parents, and if they really want, or need them.
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Perhaps it is our attachment to the pursuit of happiness that is the problem? After all, the Buddha taught us that attachment is the cause of all suffering. I left the US over two years ago, chasing the carrot dangled by YouTube travel channels, it did not go as advertised. 🙄 That said, I have had some experiences that I am grateful for, the "lessons," I experienced were not horrible, and I learned much. Perhaps your experience in Japan was similar, a mix of the anticipated pleasure, unexpected pain, and perhaps preparing you for a return trip. Life is a constant mix of both anticipated, and unexpected, whichever it is, our choice determines how the path goes. Today I am happy, not ecstatic, just content I'm breathing.
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@beverly4653 good choice. My half brother has a boy and girl, both spoiled, entitled. When his son was young, he called him "little buddy." He doted on both kids, but never did anything to fix himself, so he modeled behaviors his children later adopted. We were raised in a sick, narcissistic household, that came from another, previous that was the same. I knew I was broken, and wouldn't be a good parent because it wasn't modeled for me, so I didn't try. If you don't think you can, then don't, unless you fix what's broken in you.
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@brooklynn52dee38 seen the same thing in my brother, overcompensation. Ok, so you made some mistakes, most parents do, and you are certainly not the first to make your's. Here's where you should let yourself off the hook. He's an adult now, the actions he takes, moral, immoral, are HIS. It's up to him to overcome, and improve his character, then, if he fails to do this, it is all him. Sounds like he may be a narcissist, I would suggest you look on YT for a Dr. Ramani, she offers on the subject, and how to deal with it. Good luck.
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Marx never worked a day in his life, he had no understanding of what it was like to be a worker. He was nothing but a theorist intellectual . He died broke, owing people money. And those "Nordic nations," you mention, which I'm guessing is one of your own, the people slave away to pay the high taxes required to live there. I am unsubscribed from you at this point. Why? Because you criticized my government, especially when you use Trump's images and sound bites. I find it funny that you point out Bezos as this horrible capitalist, when he's one of the biggest supporters of the left. Boy, you'd better take a break from your channel, go out, and live in the real world for awhile instead of just talking about it.
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