Comments by "Lisa Culton" (@LisaCulton) on "Who has more POWER in a RELATIONSHIP: three easy ways to make the determination" video.

Easy. The one who can walk away. That means the one with options (has money and other partners to choose from, among other things)
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That's correct. And most of the time the one who got left behind didn't realize the power structure until they look around and they're alone. A lot of people keep the toxicity and drama going without any intent to change because they believe that they are their partner's best or only option.
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@Lilith-9223 If you were feeling pain and suffering when walking away, then the other person had power over your emotions / happiness.
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Since you asked if I attempted to "talk it over" - There's only so many years that I will tolerate stonewalling as a response to wanting to address issues in a relationship. I then ask myself "Can you live 10, 20, or 30 more years like this?" and if the answer is no, then I go. That usually results in the stonewaller or gas lighter begging to go to counseling - and I most definitely refuse. Why would they listen to some other person when they don't even listen to their own wife (or girlfriend). Like you said - oh well. They must have felt like they had the power.
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@Lilith-9223 There's a point where all caring is lost and that's when I know that I need to go.
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I do it differently. I announce that I want a divorce or that I'm leaving and then I go and file or leave.
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@Lilith-9223 oh, there's no suffering on my part - when I decide to walk away it's a relief and a pleasure.
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@bernibeckmann9753 When I decide to move on, I move quickly. However, it may take years to make the decision. Once a decision is made, I don't go back and forth, dragging things out especially when it's clear that things over.
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@bernibeckmann9753 Maybe you didn't understand. I'm gone. I walked out and filed for divorce and the judge has already signed off on the thing. I have moved on. Life is too short to be hanging around people who are stuck leading negative lives.
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@axl1002 That's the truth.
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@Junoj101 I always have better options, that's why I'm not in pain, struggling nor lonely when I decide to move on. *Your results may vary.
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@bernibeckmann9753 I got mixed up with a narcissist, for example.
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@Junoj101 Oh, I'm doing just fine. No regrets, no struggle - just enjoyment, abundance and positivity in my life. Everybody else can keep on rummaging through the past but I'm out! 😂
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@danieldoca7158 Most men don't want to put in the emotional work required to fix a relationship, so after a while and multiple episodes of begging and pleading for change, the woman checks out emotionally and plans her exit. It's called the walkaway wife syndrome.
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@danieldoca7158 For certain, she tried. Men believe that that silence, and discontinuation of arguing and nagging means that everything is A-OK, but what it means is that the woman has given up and doesn't see the point in attempting to" work it out".
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@danieldoca7158 There's only so many years that a woman will make bids for communication and attention. The limit is different for every woman, but we all have a limit.
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@brianmeen2158 I have been, a few times.
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@bernibeckmann9753 I've never claimed to be pure and I'm not perfect, but I've learned my lessons over the years and I know when to get up and go.
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@josealexi5141 Maybe you're uninformed... Narcissists don't answer questions, they just stonewall.
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@Junoj101 It is what it is. The strangers may doubt for whatever reasons, but the people who know me personally know that I have moved on - multiple times. Do whatever you like with that information. God bless.
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